October 16, 2025 • 40 mins
STORYTIME Why I DON'T Date Men With Kids!!!!!...
Today’s dating advice will be from my dating dairies, a story time on why I don’t date men with kids. From awkward encounters to unexpected surprises, I'll spill the beans on the challenges and joys of dating men with kids. Watch to the end to learn why I don’t date men with kids. In this dating advice video, I share a long-awaited story about CLOWN #1 MAX. I NEED TO KNOW in the comment section down below if you guys can relate. More than anything, I hope this made you laugh and learn to avoid getting emotionally conned by these clowns! I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
Today’s dating advice will be from my dating dairies, a story time on why I don’t date men with kids. From awkward encounters to unexpected surprises, I'll spill the beans on the challenges and joys of dating men with kids. Watch to the end to learn why I don’t date men with kids. In this dating advice video, I share a long-awaited story about CLOWN #1 MAX. I NEED TO KNOW in the comment section down below if you guys can relate. More than anything, I hope this made you laugh and learn to avoid getting emotionally conned by these clowns! I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
But he goes, I'm surprised with the vocabulary you have.
You haven't written a book. And then I've said, well
I might after this experience, and he's like, I'm not
that special. I'm sure you have tons of men pursuing you,
but definitely can make a film of some type that
would break the internet. I miss your smile. I was
thinking about it this morning. I really have no idea
how we got here. Hello, angels, I am back actually
(00:24):
re recording this video. Originally I was going to post
it to Instagram, and instead I decided to post it
here because I realized that the story.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That I have to share is a lot longer than
I thought it was going to be.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I have to tell you guys this story. I decided
I wanted to start a little dating series called Like
My Dating Diaries, and we're going to introduce cloud number
one today. Okay, as you guys know, if you keep
up with me in quality pain Control, you would know
how last year went for me, all that stuff. And
I'm doing a lot better now, in great spirits, doing fine,
(00:58):
doing well. And I stepped out of my house for
three seconds, and this whole debacle sort of happens. Yeah,
so I figured I would just share it with you
because I do find it to be quite interesting. I
decide to step out my house for three seconds my friends.
I end up bumping into them in the parking lot.
I'm not even kidding you, and they were like, oh,
(01:19):
what are you doing today? I'm like, nothing, really, just
gonna go home, work, go to the gym. So they're like, oh,
there's a car show later, you should come. I'm thinking, man,
this is right around the corner from my house. If
it's within close proximity, count me in.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I'll go. Plus, I have.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Been feeling a lot more social, which I can really
appreciate because for literally up until now, I was just solitude, solitude, isolated, isolated.
So we decide to go to the car show, and
I wasn't really feeling it, not gonna lie, it wasn't
really my thing. And I said, listen, why don't we
go to this other place that I know is a
(01:53):
lot more poppen on Thursdays.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So that's what we end up doing.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
We go to this other place, and I'm immediately in
better spirits okay, because it's just more of my crowd.
Even the people watching was a lot more interesting. For me,
like that's all I really need to have fun, I
you know, just environment people.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
So I'm just having fun with the girls.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
They told the waiter that it was my birthday, so
they brought out sparklers. And then next thing, you know,
and one of the girls from the table next to
me that I don't even know, they pull my friend
and I up and they start dancing with us, and
you know, I'm friendly, so I'm like, oh, why not,
I'm dancing. And then I bend down after the little
dancing session and I pull out my fan, which I
(02:35):
don't even have on me right now, which is so odd.
But normally, if you know me in person, you know
I go nowhere without my fan because I only sweat
in the gym, do you know what I mean. I
don't just go around swen wherever I go. I don't
do sweaty and outings. I don't do that. That doesn't
that doesn't go out with my spirit. So I'm bent
(02:56):
down from eye level. If you were standing up at
my tape, you wouldn't have been able to see me. Also,
I want to mention that I did eat there with
my friends because the food is really good. It's like
Mediterranean type of style food and and it was such
a good meal.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Next thing, I know, this guy comes up to me.
Let's call him Max. Max decides to bend down.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
He comes up to me and he's like, hey, like,
I didn't know if I was gonna have to come
over here and dump.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A bucket of order.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
On you, but I didn't want to have to mess
up that pretty hair because I saw you with those sparklers.
And I'm like, oh, thank you, and I'm looking up
and kind of twisting because.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I'm trying to see, like who's saying this to me?
And I'm like, I got a lot of you guys,
like it was. It was a moment. It was a
moment like I was.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I had known, I had no idea what he looked like.
So I'm saying thank you and I'm looking up at
him and then I just got wide eyed, like I'm
not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I was like thank you, like you know what I mean. Whoo.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
So we have like a we shared a little moment
for like a second when he came up to me.
By the way, and I was at the bar when
we were having a conversation, he told me, listen, I
really did notice you as soon as you came in.
Mind you, I don't know where this man came from,
claiming that he saw me as soon as I came in.
I did not see him until he approached me. So
I'm like, but where were you because I didn't see
(04:13):
you literally at all. So then he tells me that
he knew like he liked how I looked, and then
he observed my behavior and it kind of gave him
an idea about my character. You know, like I am
clearly friendly. I was being social. I was dancing with
the girls next to me, even though I don't know them,
and he thought that was very nice. So I'm thinking,
(04:34):
not this man telling me that he came up to
me because of my character.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I liked it. I did. I liked it.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
What do you I liked that that was his way in.
It did warm me up. It did make me a
little more proverbially wanton. Next thing I know, he comes back,
I want to say, two minutes later, and he goes, hey,
I'm going to be over at the end of the
bar over there if you would like to join me
for a Obviously I don't drink you guys know that.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
But that's besides the point.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
So my friends and I we wrap everything up, and
then I remember looking for him.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I told one of my friends, I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Like, did you see the guy in like the salmon shirt.
You know, he's like probably about six six' one and
he you know WHAT i, Mean, LIKE i need you
to look for. Him we can't find him. ANYWHERE i
have no idea where this man is this other guy
because there was a lot happening that. Night there was
this other guy that was just like talking in my
ear who apparently is a stand up comedian AND i
(05:33):
mean that quite. Literally So i'm laughing at his jokes
And i'm, like, oh that's so. Funny, yeah And i'm
scanning the bar to see Where max.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
IS i cannot find. Him so, INEVITABLY i end up.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Giving up BECAUSE i just felt, like all, right clearly he,
left so. Whatever next, THING i, know one of my friends.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Is, Like, asha look AND i was like. What then
another one of my.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Friends is, Like, Asha max wants, you AND i was,
like AND i, kids you knock.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Guys this sounds so, dramatic but it was a.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Moment, Okay like it was a moment LIKE i felt
LIKE i heard.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Like i'm not even kidding. You it was just like
the seas had. Parted, hey he was reaching out to.
Me he was, like, WOW i was looking for.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
YOU i was, LIKE i was looking for you all,
night like where were?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You you? Know And i'm not gonna lie to.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
You you guys know when you go out and it's one
of those moments where it's, Like, okay.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Clearly this is. Good this is as good as it's
going to.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Get so, like this is the moment for me right,
now you know WHAT i, Mean Like i'm just having.
Fun so he introduces himself to. Me, hi my name Is.
MAX i, say, hey myn Name's. Asha he tells me
that he's thirty eight years. Old for, me that's not.
Old i'm almost, thirty so you, KNOW i don't mind
that age.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Gap and then he tells me that he's.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Divorced i'm just, paraphrasing, obviously AND i end up learning
as well that he has two. Kids, Now i'm gonna
be very real with. YOU i don't date men with.
Children and you're gonna see after this story exactly Why
god himself stepped down and was, Like i'm not even
gonna let you try to get involved with something like.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
This, Also i'm not going to. LIE i. DON'T i
don't know that many.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
People that are thirty eight and, divorced because, that to
me is still fairly young to already have been divorced
in my personal. Opinion SO i, said, well how long
were you? Married he tells me he was married for ten.
Years i'm thinking, already like you were already married for
ten years of your. Life so him AND i are
having a great conversation, because to be honest to, me
and at the, moment he was the best thing. There
(07:35):
i'm just gonna be roll with. YOU i don't know.
How somehow we end up exchanging numbers he texted my,
phone AND i don't. REMEMBER i was just thinking this
is just in the night And i'm gonna move. On
but something did intrigue me about. Him i'm not going to,
lie BUT i didn't know what it. Was So i'm
on my way home after he paid for the valet
for me to get in my, Car i'm on my
(07:56):
way home AND i have a call from. HIM i
hadn't know oh it was at the, time because OBVIOUSLY
i don't have his numbers saved to my. Phone So
i'm like, hello and he's, LIKE i just wanted to
make sure that this was actually your number BEFORE i
spend the entire rite home thinking about. You i'm, Like
i'll get and let me tell. You this man told
me that he called me because he wanted to make
sure THAT i got home.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Safe. Yeah, right this man probably called me to make
sure that he got home. Safe that's what it.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Is he did mention to me that he has two,
kids LIKE i, said and he was, like you, know
you're lucky you don't. Drink i'm over, here two hands
on the, wheel you. WHATEVER i, Said, well that's really
good that you're you, know, driving you, know speed, limit
all these different. Things it's important to do the, dude
the right. Thing he's, like, YEAH i, know why have?
Children and to be, HONEST i find that to be
heartwarming because in the, past guys THAT i have dated
(08:45):
here and there that have had, children like that random
weirdo who was pretty much trying to act like his
kids didn't even, exist even though they were like a lot. Older,
Anyways So i'm, like all, right that's, cool because AGAIN
i don't know this. PERSON i really don't. Care it's
just a conversation for, me like in the. Night SO
i end up getting. Home he tells me that he's
going to go away For Memorial day and when he
(09:06):
gets back From, vegas then he's going to hit me
up and also he'll set up something so that we
can go on a date On. Friday AND i believe
he told me that he got back on Either sunday
night Or monday. Whatever he messages me On tuesday and
we HAD i wouldn't even consider this text exchange to
(09:28):
be considered a. Conversation calling it a conversation would be
giving it way too much. Credit all, right give or
take this. MAN i don't know. Him he doesn't owe
me anything vice. Versa BUT i want to let you know.
This to exist In Easter christina's, world there are basic,
Fundamentals LIKE i, think at the, baseline a certain level of.
(09:49):
COMMUNICATION i do have a secure attachment. STYLE i don't
need constant. TEXTING i don't need all this external. Validation
i'm not stating my, opinion but, this this is in,
fact well, fact you, KNOW i have a father that
absolutely loves, me very active in my. Life AND i
also have a brother that i'm only a year and
three months apart, from so we're very.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Close so just add a little.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Context, NOW i do, expect being THAT i don't know
you whatever is going on in your, life AND i
want you guys to do this as.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Well you don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Somebody all you have is their word and are the
words aligning with the? Actions before we even go into,
that let's continue on insequential. Order so he texts me On,
Tuesday Hey, asha good.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Morning how is your?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
WEEKEND i, say, Hey, max good. Morning it went. FAST
i spent time with my. Family how Is? Vegas he,
goes was fire? Emoji, Now i'm not gonna. Lie that
did turn me. OFF i get very turned, off very,
easily Because i'm thinking to, Myself, hey what did you
do with all that time that you've spent not typing
(10:57):
out the full?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Word must be hearing cancer or something like.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
That, anyways that was at nine something in the, morning
he responds, back saying around four oh, one WHICH i
didn't think anything of Because i'm thinking this person's working
like it's not that big of a, Deal so Surely
i'm not going to. Lie in my, Head i'm, Assuming,
Oh i'm going to hear more from. Him towards the
end of the. Day he did, try you, know try
(11:20):
and speak with me a little bit in the morning
four pm is like going into. EVENING i Don't i'm
not reading into. Anything after he said was fire, emoji
he wrote but happy to be, home and my response, was,
Yeah vegas is super. Fun how is the weather? There
and happier home. Too the REASON i ask that is because,
obviously you guys KNOW i was In vegas In march
and it was, freezing SO i was, like, HM i
(11:41):
wonder if it's warmer. Now so then he, writes, hey,
sorry got pretty. Busy weather was, great not too, hot
And i'm glad me being In New york makes you.
SMILE i wonder. Why so in response to him SAYING i,
Wonder i'm glad me being In New york makes you.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Smile wonder why?
Speaker 1 (11:59):
EMOJI i put on no worries and THEN i put, oh,
man now you're putting me on the spot just to be.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Cute. Right that was the end of the.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
Conversation, so LIKE i, said this man told me on
the phone conversation him AND i had on at that Last,
thursday which Was may twenty. Fifth AND i only know
this because you guys are going to see WHY i
know that date in my Head may twenty, Fifth he's telling,
me now it's WHAT i don't even, know like a
couple of days, later So i'm, thinking all, right he
did hit me up when he said he was going
(12:26):
to hit me. Up BUT i do recall him on
the phone, Saying, hey IF i think about, You i'm
going to hit you. Up and as you guys, know
what DO i always tell you, guys if a man
is thinking about, you how do you know he's.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Going to hit you. Up it's just that cut and.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Dry so you can imagine how he's dead to me
at this.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Point And friday comes and, GOES i don't.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Hear a word out of this, man WHICH i find
very interesting considering that this man basically acted like it
was divine intervention that he even saw. Me he approached
me based off my. Character he was so intentional about
choosing me after observing everyone in, there but he chose.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Me oh my, goodness.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Wow so you can imagine that energy is very, Incongruous
and to be, HONEST i do find that a little
interesting or, alarming considering you don't know, me nothing has even.
Happened this is a, thrill a chase of something. New
the only thing that could be holding you from pursuing something,
new is something.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Older but he told me that he's been divorced for a.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Year Now i'm thinking already to, myself this is already very.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Complex he just got out of.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Something he's allegedly been divorced for a, year and, oh
you bet your bottom. Dollar WHEN i got, home DID
i go and research?
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Him?
Speaker 1 (13:36):
YES i, Did, YES i absolutely.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Did what did you think that this?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
WAS i have to make sure his name is his,
name his age is his, age you, know just the.
Basics i'm not trying to search up information THAT i
would like to be known in, person BUT i just
wanted to make sure that WHAT i was told was
actually accurate and everything did Aligne he told me that
he had a house that was actually near me and
even gave me the, street AND i did find that
to be. True but he ended up moving back To
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QUEEN'S i believe where he grew up BECAUSE i guess
because of the, divorce so he let the ex wife
have the house and that's where his kids come, from
something to that. Effect SO i basically was, Like, okay
everything checks. Out it doesn't really bother, me like, Whatever
but you can imagine me thinking about this and realizing
this person disappeared and never.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Spoke to me again.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
And acted like the date we were supposed to have On,
friday even THOUGH i didn't get a place or a
time was not even didn't even. Happen SO i, Said,
okay this man's finished to.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Me he's dead to, me like.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Officially next THING i, know he texted me On saturday,
morning the date after we were supposed to go on a.
DATE i wake up at eight o'clock in the. MORNING
i turned my, phone the red receipts. On YES i, Did,
YES i. DID i turned the red receipts, on AND
i threw my.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Phone on the.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
FLOOR i don't have nothing else to. Say, hey good Morning.
Asia that was at eight in the. Morning he double texts, me.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Where was all this energy?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Before?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Max this energy? Before, Hum that's WHAT i would love to.
Know let the people. Know so he, writes hope all
is well with.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
YOU i was texting you BECAUSE i will be in
WHERE i live for a wedding AND i was wondering
if you would want to see me or had any
plans for the. Night i'm, thinking is this man? Serious
at this, Point i'm on the phone At. Hale so
we're just going to. TOWN i, said you know, what,
normally ONCE i don't like, YOU i really don't have
(15:29):
anything else to. SAY i don't want to converse with you.
ANYMORE i already made it my. MIND i don't care
about a single thing. Else you have to, say you're,
done and you can't undo being done for. Me you
can't BECAUSE i don't even know you and you're already messing.
Up All i'm thinking in my head is there is
not a single excuse that you can give me to
make sense of why you literally dropped off the face
(15:52):
of the, earth make conversation on A, tuesday didn't even
bother at least saying good night something WHERE i find
this to be.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Respect THAT'S i think that's.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Respectful friday goes by at the very, least you don't
even act like it.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Exists and now.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
You want to hit me up because you're in the,
area which is precisely WHAT i didn't want him to,
do because it's convenient for you to see if MAYBE
i want to see, you and maybe IF i MAYBE
i have, planned like please.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Stop so Then i've.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Said everything is, well thank, You, Sorry i've, Planned but
had you told me, TUESDAY i would have. Considered he then, Writes,
now all of a, sudden he's super, responsive and.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
All of a sudden he knows how to type out full.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Sentences isn't that? Funny, hmm glad you're. Well dot dot
Dot it's. OKAY i would be a good time. TONIGHT
i wasn't sure IF i was going last minute till.
Today it's also my niece's birthday party at three, pm
AND i had.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
To come into the office.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
City, Also i'm, thinking is blah blah, BLAH i don't.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Care save your stories for your, book all?
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Right then he teuches me, Again i'll be In i'll
be in this Area tuesday. Evening, ALSO i drop off
my children at eight. Pm might be too late for
a cup of, coffee but maybe we can grab a
bite to. Eat and then he made this, Comment he's,
like based off your, figure you probably don't even eat
that late on A. Tuesday so Now i'm just, Irritated,
(17:09):
like cut the. FLATTERY i could care, LESS i, said
you know, what to be, Transparent, max because Now i'm
gonna seize the day BECAUSE i could care. Less not
communicating throughout the week gave the impression that you were not.
Interested i'm sure you have a lot going, on as DO,
i but considering the little THAT i was, Given i'm
not sure this dynamic would work out for. Us so
then he, writes Obviously i'm, interested but we just. Met
(17:30):
i'm sure you're busy as well and have other things going.
On i'm not the type to smother someone right, away
or smother them at, all to be, honest BUT i
find you very attractive and, interesting AND i thought maybe
we could at least share a bite to eat. TOGETHER i,
mean we had a very nice connection the night we.
Met so ALL i wrote was good communication equals.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Smothering noted that was my.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Response he then, Writes i'm the type that likes to
converse in, person a little old. School sorry if you
took it the wrong, way but you've been on my
mind Since may twenty.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fifth, FIRSTLY i was thinking in my head.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Was that the?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
DATE i don't even remember, That but it's.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Interesting this reveals to me that he should take even more, accountability,
because all of a, sudden you remember the day that we.
MET i didn't even know that, you all of a
sudden are super. Responsive you know what you call? This
johnny come, lately AND i ain't buying. It i'm not
picking up what your land. Down AND i purchased him
what you're, selling And i'm. Unsubscribing so THEN i, yes
(18:22):
take it To. Pattytown rare. Occasion but HERE i, go
AND i send, him well the definition of the word,
obviously which for reference and context means in a way
that is easily perceived and understood, Clear AND i send
that to him because obviously he doesn't know what obviously.
Means so then he, WRITES i just wanted to give
(18:44):
myself an opportunity to make proper time to see, you
but apparently that ship has sailed in a. Week and
then he, responds obviously to which, Thread you're very? Witty,
HUH i said this, thread AND i referenced the.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
TEXT i thought you find it.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Interesting so then he, writes so it's not obvious That i'm.
INTERESTED i, said, listen old school is someone that makes things.
Happen you ghosted me mid conversation on A, tuesday SO
i dismissed, myself and it's quite the. Contrary SO i
find this to be very anti. Climactic now the back
and forth banter. Again this is the first Time i've
gone back and forth with someone THAT i don't even,
know BUT i, figured, LISTEN i got time.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Today you want to, play, well then let's.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Play so then he, writes can we forget the self
dismissal and start?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Over?
Speaker 1 (19:25):
PLEASE i also have. Manners, See i'm, thinking not this
man on his. KNEES i, said, well if you give
me get, incentive maybe i'll. Consider he, Goes i'm sorry
if you felt. GHOSTED i apologized that was not the.
Case it was actually the. Contrary so then he makes
a joke and, says maybe we can play scrabble for
prizes to be, determined BECAUSE i, said if you give me,
incentive and he, Goes i'm just trying to lighten the,
(19:46):
mood but he, Goes i'm surprised with the vocabulary you.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Have you haven't written a.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Book and Then i've, said WELL i might after this,
experience and he's, Like i'm not that.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Special i'm sure you have tons of men pursuing.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
You but definitely can make a film of some type
that would break the. INTERNET i missed your. SMILE i
was thinking about it this. MORNING i really have no
idea how we got. Here in all, honesty in my,
Head i'm thinking so not you'd, think AND i have
men pursuing, me chasing me. Down first of, ALL i
didn't say you were, wrong and nor DID i say
you were.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Right but if you even thought, that, what don't you
want to solidify a?
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Date so you can understand for, me experiencing something like
this for the first, time where someone doesn't even go
on a first date with someone that they're so gung
ho over meeting is very odd because, clearly if you
valued me and you thought that whatever it is that you're,
thinking something's clearly clouding your, judgment you would, think, YO
i better lock this girl down, immediately not like be
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with me relation relationship, wise BUT i better solidify a
date with her. Whatever so then he was basically saying
we never hung out yet exclamation. POINT i don't deserve
this long of a, punishment whatever the case. Is so
THEN i basically just, say, LISTEN i have to get
back to. Work if you want to get together and
plan a proper, Date i'll follow your.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Lead mister old. School he's like loll.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Noted then he starts to strike up a new conversation with,
me asking me If i'm filming today and well at that,
day AND i ignored him and put my phone on
do not. DISTURB i then resurface AND i, Said i'm
not much of a, texture so if you want to
talk to, me you can call. Me so then he
responds and, says, HEY i hope it went. Well i'm
at my niece's second birthday party right. Now CAN i
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call you When i'm on my way to the wedding
around seven? Ish So i'm like, Sure so he ends
up calling. Me so you know, Me i'm not playing
around here because this got ugly before it could even get.
Beautiful you, know now my guard is even more. UP
i have no interest in ninety ninety. Games first question to,
him AS i, said what Happened? Friday he tells, me you,
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KNOW i just want TO i want to be. Honest
i'm very sorry about not communicating with you throughout the.
WEEK i am brand new to, dating AND i felt,
like you, know you never know these days with like,
girls it's like they think you're weird or they think
you're doing too. MUCH i, said But, max you literally
stop speaking to me in a very odd, manner like
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it wasn't even a complete like conversation back and.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Forth there was, no there. WAS i don't EVEN i don't.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Understand it's like you literally basically only messaged me to say,
hi just so that you could.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Check it off your. BOX i hit her up WHEN.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I SAID i was on a hit her up like
that seemed like that was the M. O and the
only Reason i'm even explaining this to you is because
clearly you're going out of your way now to try
and explain how sorry you are for what you. Did
so given this, chance now we can actually discuss.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Things SO i, said all.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Right in regards To, friday he tells me that last,
minute his ex cancels the, plans so he decided to
stay at home by.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Himself, wow aren't you the father of the.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Year look at you so upset that you got canceled
on with your. Kids then you decide that you're gonna
sulk in your room by. YOURSELF i bet it's really
bothering you that. Much huh oh, please oh? Please this
man is a. Liar, Okay so Now i'm, thinking all,
right you're clearly this is the card you're pulling you
want to. Pull the woe is? ME i just want
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to see my kid's. Card i'm not buying a single
thing ounce of. It so as we're on the phone's
he's talking to, me we're going through. Everything i'm feeling
fine BECAUSE i literally said everything THAT i wanted to.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Say i've said EVERYTHING i wanted to. SAY i.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Have i'm not interested in whether or not you like,
me Because i've already decided THAT i don't like.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
You so then he proceeds.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
To tell Me tuesday that he's going to message me
because he wants to take me out and he's coming
back over here so that he can pick up his.
Kids Right and as he's saying, This i'm, Thinking i'm
not understanding the schedule of you picking up and dropping
off your children LIKE i genuinely understand.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
It so he is texting me throughout the night while
he's at the.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Wedding we had a conversation THAT i thought was cathartic for.
Myself don't really know what's going on with, Him and
he sends me a photo of him at the wedding,
whatever next to his friend THAT i met that. Night next,
thing you, know he tries to invite me to an after.
Party i'm, thinking just to humor, MYSELF i, said well
what time to what?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Time? Mind, YOU i go to church On.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Sundays ain't nothing coming before me going to, Church no, one.
Nothing so he tells me one am to four. Am
i'm thinking absolutely, not absolutely not one BECAUSE i have.
Church absolutely, not because this is not going to be
the second time you AND i are hanging. Out you
mean to tell me that the second time you AND
i are hanging out is in another type of party.
Setting what did you think this? Was thirdly to, That
i'm not going to be getting all dressed up to
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meet you at one am for what?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Reason you are over here.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
At a convenience You and funny thing about me saying,
this by the, way is this man when he initially
told me that he wanted to take me out on
a date On, friday when our only phone conversation prior
was The may twenty Fifth, thursday he says to, me you,
KNOW i want to take you on on a. Date
we could do something in the city Because i'm not
really out here that often. Anymore AND i said to,
him So you're going to drive From queen's to WHERE i,
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am back to the, city back to WHERE i, am
and then back To Queens and he, goes, yes of,
course what kind of, gentlemen do you THINK i. Am
so you can imagine considering how things went that clearly
this man is just a fly by the night type
of guy who is literally a. Liar all for what
you went through all this On, Saturday all for? What for?
Speaker 2 (25:19):
What you should have just continued to let me dismiss. Myself.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Cool so THEN i tell, him you know, what forget, it,
Like i'm not gonna.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Go i'm gonna hate.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Myself and THEN i just to be a little, ENTERTAINING i,
go you know, what, ME i might change my. MIND
i wasn't changing my. Mind he already left by the
TIME i said, That so then he calls my.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Phone, Oh i'm so.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
SAD i was gonna hang if you were gonna, COME
i was never. Coming and then he's, like you, know it's.
FINE i was, like, listen it's, fine BECAUSE i KNEW
i wasn't gonna go. Anyway So i'm, like it's, fine it's,
fine don't even worry about. It and then we were
on the phone until he got. Home he told me,
Again i'll be Around. Tuesday SO i asked, HIM i, said, oh,
tuesday so is it a?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Date he, goes it's it's.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Dinner excuse, me you, KNOW i, YEAH i need to
make sure you like me. First AND i, said, so
what is? This there's if this were, numbers it'd be
like zero point five and then it'd be. One LIKE
i don't understand. THAT i was, like, okay so what
it's not a? Date, No, like don't think about it like.
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That i'm, like, No i'm gonna think about it exactly
as you said, it because to, you it's not a.
Date so what exactly is going? On you, Know i'll
be there by like eight thirty because his kid's house
is around the corner from. Mine And i'm, like all,
right we'll. SEE i had zero. EXPECTATIONS i. Knew i'm, like,
okay after all this is that this mandom went through
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of me essentially persecuting. HIM i was very very, harsh.
Stern you guys know HOW i. Am SO i didn't
hold anything. Back so then next thing you, KNOW i
was in church On, sunday, right AND i just sent
him a text because he.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Told me on the phone pray for me like When
i'm at.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Church SO i was, like, hey set a little prayer for,
you AND i, actually did you, know that's just the
type of PERSON i.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
AM i actually really. Did i'm not.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
Gonna i'm not the same like praying for, you oh My,
god like only my heart goes out And i'm not
actually doing it LIKE i will pray for, you know
WHAT i? Mean like, Whatever so that was that's ALL i.
Said and then he was, like thank you so. Much
that's so sweet of. You and THEN i just hearted.
It Literally monday rolls, by this is a couple of days,
ago and he sends me a gift of like essentially
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breakfast in, bed and he's, like good, morning and then
he says that was at seventh something in the. Morning
and then he, goes, so what made you pray for me?
Today i'm, like good. MORNING i don't. Know you just
crossed my mind pretty. Much he, goes that was very
thoughtful of.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
You thank you.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Again so he was, just you, know trying to be
cute and. Suave and then he starts asking.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Me these weird.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Questions so in your, experience do you have to pray
a lot for?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Something does it work right? Away?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Sometimes does it depend on how badly you need something
at the? Moment And i'm, thinking, okay like, Whatever i'm A,
christian SO.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
I don't mind talking about these.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Things but then he, says how about paying for your
past and? Karma do you Think god lets you get
through things if you're truly sorry and make efforts to.
Change i'm, like what did this man? Do like what
have you done that you're asking me questions like? This
and then he was, saying yesterday and today are. Tough
it felt Like god was putting me through minor. Tests
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it was regarding my, son if you're, Wondering SO i was, like,
oh thanks for sharing that with. Me and then he
was talking about something happened with his. Son i'm not
even gonna list that specific, detail but, like something happened
with his.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Son So i'm, like, okay mind.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
YOU i do want to add that this person married
into a family.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
That is kind of, known to say the least kind of.
Known SO i already knew.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
THAT i saw my little that thought, research And i'm
THINKING i don't stand a. Chance so there's so many
odds stacked against the. Situation but at the very, least
this is not even, fun just like for good playing.
Fun LIKE i already, knew, Okay i'm not gonna be
in a relationship with this, person so it's, like, ah
then why are you?
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Bothering and it's, like, well we had honest.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Communication after that conversation On, SATURDAY i was willing to
see where it was gonna go from.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
THERE i know, MYSELF i trust.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Myself i'm not the type of person to be like
saying one thing doing the.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Next i'm not the type of person to you, know
lie to.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Myself it's, like, no IF i, Know i'm gonna do something,
consciously If i'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Be, Stupid i'm gonna say, Listen i'm being.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Stupid i'm not in that mode And i'm not being
stupid for. Me it's, Like, okay let's see what can
happen from. This this is an interesting dynamic WHERE i
really this person knows exactly HOW i am based on our.
Conversation he knows not to try me.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
Again.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Yeah so, anyways he's trying to sell me this story
about being so broken about his son pretty much like
he's so. Upset so Now i'm asking questions Because i'm
trying to figure this. Out he, said, well it broke my.
HEART i could not speak to him or see him
over the. Weekend but it's.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
SOMETHING i have to get used TO i, Guess SO i,
said you can even speak to. Him that's.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Devastating SO i, said are you picking them up and
dropping them off or dropping them off? Tomorrow NOW i
want to know for my own personal like you know,
knowledge Because i'm noticing that we have not at all
spoken About, Hey i'm going to see you, tomorrow pick
you up at this. Time So i'm getting him in
writing to tell me what his schedule is going to,
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be so that if he doesn't do, IT i have
no reason.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
To speak to him.
Speaker 1 (30:18):
Again there's no, excuses there's nothing he can say to.
Me that was the point of me, asking, Right so
he goes. BOTH i picked them up around. SIX i
dropped them off at. Eight supposed to be five, pm
but due to traffic and, WORK i can't get there that. Early,
yeah she doesn't allow me to even FaceTime them strictly
what the court system.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Allows and times they allow.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Me but she made sure to send me pictures of
whatever was wrong with him and tell me that he
might be going to the. Hospital it just really. HURT
i pray all day that he'll be. Okay SO i,
said you know, Me i'm, Thinking, WOW i wonder how
the court was able to rule in her favor for
that type of. VISITATION i, mean isn't that like a
breaching contract if you're supposed to see them on a
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certain day and you, don't then he, says not really
due to the fact that she has. Custody right, now
it's just a. Mess i'm hoping by the end of
Summer i'll have them on weekends at least every Other.
Now i'm not trying to be insensitive right, now but
this is precisely WHY i don't do situations like, this
because if you really think about, it if this man
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was telling the, truth WHICH i could cure less to
even figure, Out i've moved, on is how on earth
is it that this is already affecting? Me this is
already a heavy. Situation you've allegedly been divorced for a,
year WHICH i do not believe. HIM i do not
believe he has been divorced for a. Year DO i
think he's, divorced? Yes DO i think it's been for a? Year,
NO i don't. DO i think it's maybe been six, months,
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yes a year? No.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Okay, anyways So i'm just, thinking, wow like.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
This man really just he always has the right thing.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
To, say. Huh there's always a.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Reason there's always a, Reason and clearly my behavior On
saturday was very intriguing to him that he felt, like,
oh let me tap in telling me things, like you,
Know i'm glad you brought this, up because clearly you're
a lot different than the girls THAT i have been.
Dating and you, know it's very different in the dating
climate these, days because you don't want to seem like
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you're too. Much you don't want to seem like you don't.
Care AND i did appreciate that portion of the conversation
BECAUSE i do find that to be. True i'm not gonna,
LIE i do find that to be. True, ANYWAYS i.
Digress that was the end of our conversation on That,
monday and then he writes me On, Tuesday, now this
is the day that him AND i.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Were supposed to see each.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
OTHER i told my, FRIENDS i, said if this man
says anything other than good, Morning, ASHA i look forward
to seeing you, later you're done AND i need. THAT
i am not going to now go into another. Week
and Then hale told, me she, Goes. Ash if you
think about, it you two have already known each other
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for almost two, weeks and you haven't even gone on
a proper date with this. PERSON i didn't even know
what has been that. LONG i thought it was only one.
Week So i'm thinking we're not dragging this on a second.
LONGER i am removing myself out of this picture because
you're doing too much right. Now it's so heavy for no,
reason and IT'S i don't know who this situation could
even work, for eighteen twenty two. WHATEVER i don't care
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what ages the girls. Are how can this work for? Anyone, clearly,
allegedly whatever you was doing On friday was affecting you
so much that you would have rathered a stay at
home than gone on a date with, me and you
thought you were gonna get by by not even mentioning.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
It, okay have a nice.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Life so THEN i write in response good morning to,
him saying good. Morning this is the last time this
man we'll ever get the chance to speak to. Me
he then writes me at eleven am and, says hope
you have a great. Day excamation, Point i'm so SORRY
i have to cancel. Tonight i'm taking my son back
to the doctor. Today she sent him to school and
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should not. Have i'm on my way to pick him
up for the day and he's going to stay with.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Me the nurse called me from.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
School he said that to me at eleven, am AND
i closed my.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Laptop, NOW.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I don't believe a word that man. Says good luck
to that, man BECAUSE i don't know who that man.
Is he's canceled AND i never even saved his number, anyway,
okay number deleted and it wasn't even. Saved now that
because now you're trying to play in my. FACE i
don't know what you think this, is But i've.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Seen all your bag of, tricks so you've run out
of them very.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
Shortly i'm not sticking, around not my, circus not my monkey's,
okay not my, sink not my. Dishes you mean to
tell me that this made it even more insulting to,
me because it's, like wait a. Second last, week it
was a cancelation and you just sulked in your room
father of the. Year this week It's i'm coming to
where you are hours earlier That i'm supposed, to and
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this is affecting my plans.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
With you for eight point thirty later in the.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
NIGHT i don't know any, father even fathers that are
active in their homes that are so obsessed we're hanging
out with their. Kids no matter what they do that
they are gonna be canceling even hanging out with someone,
new especially in this type of. Situation this does not make.
Sense well why because he's.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Lying he's. Lying i'm not giving him the benefit of the.
Doubts there's zero reason to ever contact me.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
AGAIN i did not even feel inclined to respond to. Him,
INITIALLY i contemplated on SAYING, np no, problem take CARE
aka like never hit me up, again and THEN i,
thought Now i'm just gonna resort back to my normal,
self which Is i'm just not gonna say anything because
there's nothing to. Say i've already seen everything THAT i
needed to. See you're a. Clown there's something. WRONG i
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don't know what's going on between you and. Her he
allegedly doesn't have any feelings for. Her you know the
whole spiel that they try to send. You this is
someone that is. Divorced this is a single. Man this
is for over a year. Allegedly so it's, LIKE i
know it's not he's. Married that's actually never a thought
that crossed my. Mind WHAT i do think is he's
more involved or wants to be more involved with her
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than he's leading. On maybe he clearly can't get over.
It maybe that's the type of, deal BECAUSE i find
it very interesting that you don't have custody of the,
children but the school is gonna call. You you, live
you work an hour away from your kid's, school and
the school's gonna call you when the mother can just
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go get the children right near the house from the.
School that does not make any sense to, me AND
i don't care to speak to you anymore about. It
you're the clothes page. Erased that doesn't even make any
sense to. Me you just told me yesterday that you
basically had no custody over your, children and today you're
telling me that the school is calling, you and all
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of a, sudden your, ex who wouldn't even let you
FaceTime your son your, kids is now okay with you
leaving work going to pick them, up because clearly it's
that bad that your kid needs to go back into the.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
Hospital don't you find that a little? Convenient so since.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
You two still have unfinished, business or you're not done with,
her then go have her get back involved with your,
situation because who is going to be understanding of something like.
This you're not able to keep your. Word you can't
even plan your. Schedule you mean to tell me that
you go from seeing your kids what two hours out
of the, week to all of a, sudden now you
can have your.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Kids all, night all.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Night you're that press over spending time with your with
your with your son that you are canceling your. Plans
let me tell you, This you're not going to have
the opportunity to ever tell me that you're gonna plan
in my face. Twice never let a man tell you
he doesn't want you. Twice at this, point we don't
like each. Other that's what it is. LIKE i dislike
this person because these to, me are the worst types of.
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Guys they go out of their. Way saturday could have been,
Different it could have been. LISTENED i do, understand but,
no he wanted. To he felt very aroused by the
challenge of me literally calling him out with the, truth
took accountability for, it only to try and do it.
Again that's what you call a dangerous. Man because normally
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certain guys that are playing, games they won't even acknowledge
what you're. Saying they'll try and gaslight. You oh what
are you talking about all these different. Things this man's
owning what he's, done only to turn around and play games.
Again not with. Me you're not gonna get that chance.
Again and that is pretty much the end of the.
Story who knows what's even gonna happen, next because, yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Being back on the dating, Scene LIKE.
Speaker 1 (38:42):
I, said all this highlighted to me is exactly WHY
i shouldn't and exactly WHY i. Won't that's what this
highlighted to, me because ain't no Way i'm ever gonna
put myself in this posioning, It AND i really look
at it as divine protection From god that he's, Like,
asha this is Why i'm not even gonna give you the,
change you know WHAT i? Mean at this, POINT i
don't even remember what this man looks. Like so it's
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like we're cyberbuddies at this. Point you, KNOW i have
no idea what you look. LIKE i have no there's
nothing for me to even hang on, to to even
miss reminisce or anything. Like, genuinely it's the easiest situation.
Ever and on top of, that it does help that
this man.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Is essentially a. Goho he has zero social.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Media, yeah so there's also, that AND i like guys
that usually have zero social. Media, obviously everything has pros and,
cons but for our, sake let's be real, here.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
Ladies it makes it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
A lot easier when a man does not have social
media because you can't try and like, snoop you know
WHAT i, mean engage with them all these different.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Things you can't even do it because you don't have the.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
Option AND i don't mind that BECAUSE i don't want
to be keeping up what you're, doing out of, sight
out of, mind drop, it leave it like. That so
that is the end of this. Story let me know
down below in the comments if you guys have ever
encounter situation like, this what has your experience been like
dating guys with, kids dating guys with kids that are,
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older dating guys with kids that are, Younger, like what
would you have done in my? Predicament do you think
that he was lying and using them as an? Excuse
do you think he's still over you think he's over
his ex?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
Wife do you think that he's trying to get back with?
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Her? LIKE i just find it incredibly odd whatever he's
trying to, sell BECAUSE i ain't buying, it all, right no, Debt.
Speaker 2 (40:27):
AND i know you guys love car.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
Videos SO i don't, know maybe this might be my
new thing, now doing a little. Carbondeo are we loving me?
Blonde BECAUSE i. Am i've been blonde literally forever.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Anyways with that being, said.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Angels do not forget THAT i love you And god loves.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
You how to speak to you Paupful angels In linux
video
But he goes, I'm surprised with the vocabulary you have.
You haven't written a book. And then I've said, well
I might after this experience, and he's like, I'm not
that special. I'm sure you have tons of men pursuing you,
but definitely can make a film of some type that
would break the internet. I miss your smile. I was
thinking about it this morning. I really have no idea
how we got here. Hello, angels, I am back actually
(00:24):
re recording this video. Originally I was going to post
it to Instagram, and instead I decided to post it
here because I realized that the story.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
That I have to share is a lot longer than
I thought it was going to be.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I have to tell you guys this story. I decided
I wanted to start a little dating series called Like
My Dating Diaries, and we're going to introduce cloud number
one today. Okay, as you guys know, if you keep
up with me in quality pain Control, you would know
how last year went for me, all that stuff. And
I'm doing a lot better now, in great spirits, doing fine,
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doing well. And I stepped out of my house for
three seconds, and this whole debacle sort of happens. Yeah,
so I figured I would just share it with you
because I do find it to be quite interesting. I
decide to step out my house for three seconds my friends.
I end up bumping into them in the parking lot.
I'm not even kidding you, and they were like, oh,
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what are you doing today? I'm like, nothing, really, just
gonna go home, work, go to the gym. So they're like, oh,
there's a car show later, you should come. I'm thinking, man,
this is right around the corner from my house. If
it's within close proximity, count me in.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
I'll go. Plus, I have.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Been feeling a lot more social, which I can really
appreciate because for literally up until now, I was just solitude, solitude, isolated, isolated.
So we decide to go to the car show, and
I wasn't really feeling it, not gonna lie, it wasn't
really my thing. And I said, listen, why don't we
go to this other place that I know is a
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lot more poppen on Thursdays.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So that's what we end up doing.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
We go to this other place, and I'm immediately in
better spirits okay, because it's just more of my crowd.
Even the people watching was a lot more interesting. For me,
like that's all I really need to have fun, I
you know, just environment people.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
So I'm just having fun with the girls.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
They told the waiter that it was my birthday, so
they brought out sparklers. And then next thing, you know,
and one of the girls from the table next to
me that I don't even know, they pull my friend
and I up and they start dancing with us, and
you know, I'm friendly, so I'm like, oh, why not,
I'm dancing. And then I bend down after the little
dancing session and I pull out my fan, which I
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don't even have on me right now, which is so odd.
But normally, if you know me in person, you know
I go nowhere without my fan because I only sweat
in the gym, do you know what I mean. I
don't just go around swen wherever I go. I don't
do sweaty and outings. I don't do that. That doesn't
that doesn't go out with my spirit. So I'm bent
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down from eye level. If you were standing up at
my tape, you wouldn't have been able to see me. Also,
I want to mention that I did eat there with
my friends because the food is really good. It's like
Mediterranean type of style food and and it was such
a good meal.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Next thing, I know, this guy comes up to me.
Let's call him Max. Max decides to bend down.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
He comes up to me and he's like, hey, like,
I didn't know if I was gonna have to come
over here and dump.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A bucket of order.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
On you, but I didn't want to have to mess
up that pretty hair because I saw you with those sparklers.
And I'm like, oh, thank you, and I'm looking up
and kind of twisting because.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I'm trying to see, like who's saying this to me?
And I'm like, I got a lot of you guys,
like it was. It was a moment. It was a
moment like I was.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I had known, I had no idea what he looked like.
So I'm saying thank you and I'm looking up at
him and then I just got wide eyed, like I'm
not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I was like thank you, like you know what I mean. Whoo.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
So we have like a we shared a little moment
for like a second when he came up to me.
By the way, and I was at the bar when
we were having a conversation, he told me, listen, I
really did notice you as soon as you came in.
Mind you, I don't know where this man came from,
claiming that he saw me as soon as I came in.
I did not see him until he approached me. So
I'm like, but where were you because I didn't see
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you literally at all. So then he tells me that
he knew like he liked how I looked, and then
he observed my behavior and it kind of gave him
an idea about my character. You know, like I am
clearly friendly. I was being social. I was dancing with
the girls next to me, even though I don't know them,
and he thought that was very nice. So I'm thinking,
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not this man telling me that he came up to
me because of my character.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I liked it. I did. I liked it.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
What do you I liked that that was his way in.
It did warm me up. It did make me a
little more proverbially wanton. Next thing I know, he comes back,
I want to say, two minutes later, and he goes, hey,
I'm going to be over at the end of the
bar over there if you would like to join me
for a Obviously I don't drink you guys know that.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
But that's besides the point.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
So my friends and I we wrap everything up, and
then I remember looking for him.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I told one of my friends, I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Like, did you see the guy in like the salmon shirt.
You know, he's like probably about six six' one and
he you know WHAT i, Mean, LIKE i need you
to look for. Him we can't find him. ANYWHERE i
have no idea where this man is this other guy
because there was a lot happening that. Night there was
this other guy that was just like talking in my
ear who apparently is a stand up comedian AND i
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mean that quite. Literally So i'm laughing at his jokes
And i'm, like, oh that's so. Funny, yeah And i'm
scanning the bar to see Where max.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
IS i cannot find. Him so, INEVITABLY i end up.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Giving up BECAUSE i just felt, like all, right clearly he,
left so. Whatever next, THING i, know one of my friends.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Is, Like, asha look AND i was like. What then
another one of my.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Friends is, Like, Asha max wants, you AND i was,
like AND i, kids you knock.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Guys this sounds so, dramatic but it was a.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Moment, Okay like it was a moment LIKE i felt
LIKE i heard.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Like i'm not even kidding. You it was just like
the seas had. Parted, hey he was reaching out to.
Me he was, like, WOW i was looking for.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
YOU i was, LIKE i was looking for you all,
night like where were?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You you? Know And i'm not gonna lie to.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
You you guys know when you go out and it's one
of those moments where it's, Like, okay.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Clearly this is. Good this is as good as it's
going to.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Get so, like this is the moment for me right,
now you know WHAT i, Mean Like i'm just having.
Fun so he introduces himself to. Me, hi my name Is.
MAX i, say, hey myn Name's. Asha he tells me
that he's thirty eight years. Old for, me that's not.
Old i'm almost, thirty so you, KNOW i don't mind
that age.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Gap and then he tells me that he's.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Divorced i'm just, paraphrasing, obviously AND i end up learning
as well that he has two. Kids, Now i'm gonna
be very real with. YOU i don't date men with.
Children and you're gonna see after this story exactly Why
god himself stepped down and was, Like i'm not even
gonna let you try to get involved with something like.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
This, Also i'm not going to. LIE i. DON'T i
don't know that many.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
People that are thirty eight and, divorced because, that to
me is still fairly young to already have been divorced
in my personal. Opinion SO i, said, well how long
were you? Married he tells me he was married for ten.
Years i'm thinking, already like you were already married for
ten years of your. Life so him AND i are
having a great conversation, because to be honest to, me
and at the, moment he was the best thing. There
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i'm just gonna be roll with. YOU i don't know.
How somehow we end up exchanging numbers he texted my,
phone AND i don't. REMEMBER i was just thinking this
is just in the night And i'm gonna move. On
but something did intrigue me about. Him i'm not going to,
lie BUT i didn't know what it. Was So i'm
on my way home after he paid for the valet
for me to get in my, Car i'm on my
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way home AND i have a call from. HIM i
hadn't know oh it was at the, time because OBVIOUSLY
i don't have his numbers saved to my. Phone So
i'm like, hello and he's, LIKE i just wanted to
make sure that this was actually your number BEFORE i
spend the entire rite home thinking about. You i'm, Like
i'll get and let me tell. You this man told
me that he called me because he wanted to make
sure THAT i got home.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Safe. Yeah, right this man probably called me to make
sure that he got home. Safe that's what it.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Is he did mention to me that he has two,
kids LIKE i, said and he was, like you, know
you're lucky you don't. Drink i'm over, here two hands
on the, wheel you. WHATEVER i, Said, well that's really
good that you're you, know, driving you, know speed, limit
all these different. Things it's important to do the, dude
the right. Thing he's, like, YEAH i, know why have?
Children and to be, HONEST i find that to be
heartwarming because in the, past guys THAT i have dated
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here and there that have had, children like that random
weirdo who was pretty much trying to act like his
kids didn't even, exist even though they were like a lot. Older,
Anyways So i'm, like all, right that's, cool because AGAIN
i don't know this. PERSON i really don't. Care it's
just a conversation for, me like in the. Night SO
i end up getting. Home he tells me that he's
going to go away For Memorial day and when he
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gets back From, vegas then he's going to hit me
up and also he'll set up something so that we
can go on a date On. Friday AND i believe
he told me that he got back on Either sunday
night Or monday. Whatever he messages me On tuesday and
we HAD i wouldn't even consider this text exchange to
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be considered a. Conversation calling it a conversation would be
giving it way too much. Credit all, right give or
take this. MAN i don't know. Him he doesn't owe
me anything vice. Versa BUT i want to let you know.
This to exist In Easter christina's, world there are basic,
Fundamentals LIKE i, think at the, baseline a certain level of.
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COMMUNICATION i do have a secure attachment. STYLE i don't
need constant. TEXTING i don't need all this external. Validation
i'm not stating my, opinion but, this this is in,
fact well, fact you, KNOW i have a father that
absolutely loves, me very active in my. Life AND i
also have a brother that i'm only a year and
three months apart, from so we're very.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Close so just add a little.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Context, NOW i do, expect being THAT i don't know
you whatever is going on in your, life AND i
want you guys to do this as.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Well you don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Somebody all you have is their word and are the
words aligning with the? Actions before we even go into,
that let's continue on insequential. Order so he texts me On,
Tuesday Hey, asha good.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Morning how is your?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
WEEKEND i, say, Hey, max good. Morning it went. FAST
i spent time with my. Family how Is? Vegas he,
goes was fire? Emoji, Now i'm not gonna. Lie that
did turn me. OFF i get very turned, off very,
easily Because i'm thinking to, Myself, hey what did you
do with all that time that you've spent not typing
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out the full?
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Word must be hearing cancer or something like.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
That, anyways that was at nine something in the, morning
he responds, back saying around four oh, one WHICH i
didn't think anything of Because i'm thinking this person's working
like it's not that big of a, Deal so Surely
i'm not going to. Lie in my, Head i'm, Assuming,
Oh i'm going to hear more from. Him towards the
end of the. Day he did, try you, know try
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and speak with me a little bit in the morning
four pm is like going into. EVENING i Don't i'm
not reading into. Anything after he said was fire, emoji
he wrote but happy to be, home and my response, was,
Yeah vegas is super. Fun how is the weather? There
and happier home. Too the REASON i ask that is because,
obviously you guys KNOW i was In vegas In march
and it was, freezing SO i was, like, HM i
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wonder if it's warmer. Now so then he, writes, hey,
sorry got pretty. Busy weather was, great not too, hot
And i'm glad me being In New york makes you.
SMILE i wonder. Why so in response to him SAYING i,
Wonder i'm glad me being In New york makes you.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Smile wonder why?
Speaker 1 (11:59):
EMOJI i put on no worries and THEN i put, oh,
man now you're putting me on the spot just to be.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Cute. Right that was the end of the.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
Conversation, so LIKE i, said this man told me on
the phone conversation him AND i had on at that Last,
thursday which Was may twenty. Fifth AND i only know
this because you guys are going to see WHY i
know that date in my Head may twenty, Fifth he's telling,
me now it's WHAT i don't even, know like a
couple of days, later So i'm, thinking all, right he
did hit me up when he said he was going
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to hit me. Up BUT i do recall him on
the phone, Saying, hey IF i think about, You i'm
going to hit you. Up and as you guys, know
what DO i always tell you, guys if a man
is thinking about, you how do you know he's.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Going to hit you. Up it's just that cut and.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
Dry so you can imagine how he's dead to me
at this.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Point And friday comes and, GOES i don't.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Hear a word out of this, man WHICH i find
very interesting considering that this man basically acted like it
was divine intervention that he even saw. Me he approached
me based off my. Character he was so intentional about
choosing me after observing everyone in, there but he chose.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Me oh my, goodness.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Wow so you can imagine that energy is very, Incongruous
and to be, HONEST i do find that a little
interesting or, alarming considering you don't know, me nothing has even.
Happened this is a, thrill a chase of something. New
the only thing that could be holding you from pursuing something,
new is something.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Older but he told me that he's been divorced for a.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Year Now i'm thinking already to, myself this is already very.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Complex he just got out of.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Something he's allegedly been divorced for a, year and, oh
you bet your bottom. Dollar WHEN i got, home DID
i go and research?
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Him?
Speaker 1 (13:36):
YES i, Did, YES i absolutely.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Did what did you think that this?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
WAS i have to make sure his name is his,
name his age is his, age you, know just the.
Basics i'm not trying to search up information THAT i
would like to be known in, person BUT i just
wanted to make sure that WHAT i was told was
actually accurate and everything did Aligne he told me that
he had a house that was actually near me and
even gave me the, street AND i did find that
to be. True but he ended up moving back To
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QUEEN'S i believe where he grew up BECAUSE i guess
because of the, divorce so he let the ex wife
have the house and that's where his kids come, from
something to that. Effect SO i basically was, Like, okay
everything checks. Out it doesn't really bother, me like, Whatever
but you can imagine me thinking about this and realizing
this person disappeared and never.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Spoke to me again.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
And acted like the date we were supposed to have On,
friday even THOUGH i didn't get a place or a
time was not even didn't even. Happen SO i, Said,
okay this man's finished to.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Me he's dead to, me like.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Officially next THING i, know he texted me On saturday,
morning the date after we were supposed to go on a.
DATE i wake up at eight o'clock in the. MORNING
i turned my, phone the red receipts. On YES i, Did,
YES i. DID i turned the red receipts, on AND
i threw my.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Phone on the.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
FLOOR i don't have nothing else to. Say, hey good Morning.
Asia that was at eight in the. Morning he double texts, me.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Where was all this energy?
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Before?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Max this energy? Before, Hum that's WHAT i would love to.
Know let the people. Know so he, writes hope all
is well with.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
YOU i was texting you BECAUSE i will be in
WHERE i live for a wedding AND i was wondering
if you would want to see me or had any
plans for the. Night i'm, thinking is this man? Serious
at this, Point i'm on the phone At. Hale so
we're just going to. TOWN i, said you know, what,
normally ONCE i don't like, YOU i really don't have
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anything else to. SAY i don't want to converse with you.
ANYMORE i already made it my. MIND i don't care
about a single thing. Else you have to, say you're,
done and you can't undo being done for. Me you
can't BECAUSE i don't even know you and you're already messing.
Up All i'm thinking in my head is there is
not a single excuse that you can give me to
make sense of why you literally dropped off the face
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of the, earth make conversation on A, tuesday didn't even
bother at least saying good night something WHERE i find
this to be.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Respect THAT'S i think that's.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Respectful friday goes by at the very, least you don't
even act like it.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Exists and now.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
You want to hit me up because you're in the,
area which is precisely WHAT i didn't want him to,
do because it's convenient for you to see if MAYBE
i want to see, you and maybe IF i MAYBE
i have, planned like please.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Stop so Then i've.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Said everything is, well thank, You, Sorry i've, Planned but
had you told me, TUESDAY i would have. Considered he then, Writes,
now all of a, sudden he's super, responsive and.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
All of a sudden he knows how to type out full.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Sentences isn't that? Funny, hmm glad you're. Well dot dot
Dot it's. OKAY i would be a good time. TONIGHT
i wasn't sure IF i was going last minute till.
Today it's also my niece's birthday party at three, pm
AND i had.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
To come into the office.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
City, Also i'm, thinking is blah blah, BLAH i don't.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Care save your stories for your, book all?
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Right then he teuches me, Again i'll be In i'll
be in this Area tuesday. Evening, ALSO i drop off
my children at eight. Pm might be too late for
a cup of, coffee but maybe we can grab a
bite to. Eat and then he made this, Comment he's,
like based off your, figure you probably don't even eat
that late on A. Tuesday so Now i'm just, Irritated,
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like cut the. FLATTERY i could care, LESS i, said
you know, what to be, Transparent, max because Now i'm
gonna seize the day BECAUSE i could care. Less not
communicating throughout the week gave the impression that you were not.
Interested i'm sure you have a lot going, on as DO,
i but considering the little THAT i was, Given i'm
not sure this dynamic would work out for. Us so
then he, writes Obviously i'm, interested but we just. Met
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i'm sure you're busy as well and have other things going.
On i'm not the type to smother someone right, away
or smother them at, all to be, honest BUT i
find you very attractive and, interesting AND i thought maybe
we could at least share a bite to eat. TOGETHER i,
mean we had a very nice connection the night we.
Met so ALL i wrote was good communication equals.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Smothering noted that was my.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
Response he then, Writes i'm the type that likes to
converse in, person a little old. School sorry if you
took it the wrong, way but you've been on my
mind Since may twenty.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fifth, FIRSTLY i was thinking in my head.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Was that the?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
DATE i don't even remember, That but it's.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Interesting this reveals to me that he should take even more, accountability,
because all of a, sudden you remember the day that we.
MET i didn't even know that, you all of a
sudden are super. Responsive you know what you call? This
johnny come, lately AND i ain't buying. It i'm not
picking up what your land. Down AND i purchased him
what you're, selling And i'm. Unsubscribing so THEN i, yes
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take it To. Pattytown rare. Occasion but HERE i, go
AND i send, him well the definition of the word,
obviously which for reference and context means in a way
that is easily perceived and understood, Clear AND i send
that to him because obviously he doesn't know what obviously.
Means so then he, WRITES i just wanted to give
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myself an opportunity to make proper time to see, you
but apparently that ship has sailed in a. Week and
then he, responds obviously to which, Thread you're very? Witty,
HUH i said this, thread AND i referenced the.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
TEXT i thought you find it.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Interesting so then he, writes so it's not obvious That i'm.
INTERESTED i, said, listen old school is someone that makes things.
Happen you ghosted me mid conversation on A, tuesday SO
i dismissed, myself and it's quite the. Contrary SO i
find this to be very anti. Climactic now the back
and forth banter. Again this is the first Time i've
gone back and forth with someone THAT i don't even,
know BUT i, figured, LISTEN i got time.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Today you want to, play, well then let's.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Play so then he, writes can we forget the self
dismissal and start?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Over?
Speaker 1 (19:25):
PLEASE i also have. Manners, See i'm, thinking not this
man on his. KNEES i, said, well if you give
me get, incentive maybe i'll. Consider he, Goes i'm sorry
if you felt. GHOSTED i apologized that was not the.
Case it was actually the. Contrary so then he makes
a joke and, says maybe we can play scrabble for
prizes to be, determined BECAUSE i, said if you give me,
incentive and he, Goes i'm just trying to lighten the,
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mood but he, Goes i'm surprised with the vocabulary you.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Have you haven't written a.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Book and Then i've, said WELL i might after this,
experience and he's, Like i'm not that.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Special i'm sure you have tons of men pursuing.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
You but definitely can make a film of some type
that would break the. INTERNET i missed your. SMILE i
was thinking about it this. MORNING i really have no
idea how we got. Here in all, honesty in my,
Head i'm thinking so not you'd, think AND i have
men pursuing, me chasing me. Down first of, ALL i
didn't say you were, wrong and nor DID i say
you were.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Right but if you even thought, that, what don't you
want to solidify a?
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Date so you can understand for, me experiencing something like
this for the first, time where someone doesn't even go
on a first date with someone that they're so gung
ho over meeting is very odd because, clearly if you
valued me and you thought that whatever it is that you're,
thinking something's clearly clouding your, judgment you would, think, YO
i better lock this girl down, immediately not like be
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with me relation relationship, wise BUT i better solidify a
date with her. Whatever so then he was basically saying
we never hung out yet exclamation. POINT i don't deserve
this long of a, punishment whatever the case. Is so
THEN i basically just, say, LISTEN i have to get
back to. Work if you want to get together and
plan a proper, Date i'll follow your.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Lead mister old. School he's like loll.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Noted then he starts to strike up a new conversation with,
me asking me If i'm filming today and well at that,
day AND i ignored him and put my phone on
do not. DISTURB i then resurface AND i, Said i'm
not much of a, texture so if you want to
talk to, me you can call. Me so then he
responds and, says, HEY i hope it went. Well i'm
at my niece's second birthday party right. Now CAN i
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call you When i'm on my way to the wedding
around seven? Ish So i'm like, Sure so he ends
up calling. Me so you know, Me i'm not playing
around here because this got ugly before it could even get.
Beautiful you, know now my guard is even more. UP
i have no interest in ninety ninety. Games first question to,
him AS i, said what Happened? Friday he tells, me you,
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KNOW i just want TO i want to be. Honest
i'm very sorry about not communicating with you throughout the.
WEEK i am brand new to, dating AND i felt,
like you, know you never know these days with like,
girls it's like they think you're weird or they think
you're doing too. MUCH i, said But, max you literally
stop speaking to me in a very odd, manner like
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it wasn't even a complete like conversation back and.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Forth there was, no there. WAS i don't EVEN i don't.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Understand it's like you literally basically only messaged me to say,
hi just so that you could.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Check it off your. BOX i hit her up WHEN.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I SAID i was on a hit her up like
that seemed like that was the M. O and the
only Reason i'm even explaining this to you is because
clearly you're going out of your way now to try
and explain how sorry you are for what you. Did
so given this, chance now we can actually discuss.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Things SO i, said all.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
Right in regards To, friday he tells me that last,
minute his ex cancels the, plans so he decided to
stay at home by.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Himself, wow aren't you the father of the.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Year look at you so upset that you got canceled
on with your. Kids then you decide that you're gonna
sulk in your room by. YOURSELF i bet it's really
bothering you that. Much huh oh, please oh? Please this
man is a. Liar, Okay so Now i'm, thinking all,
right you're clearly this is the card you're pulling you
want to. Pull the woe is? ME i just want
(23:07):
to see my kid's. Card i'm not buying a single
thing ounce of. It so as we're on the phone's
he's talking to, me we're going through. Everything i'm feeling
fine BECAUSE i literally said everything THAT i wanted to.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Say i've said EVERYTHING i wanted to. SAY i.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Have i'm not interested in whether or not you like,
me Because i've already decided THAT i don't like.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
You so then he proceeds.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
To tell Me tuesday that he's going to message me
because he wants to take me out and he's coming
back over here so that he can pick up his.
Kids Right and as he's saying, This i'm, Thinking i'm
not understanding the schedule of you picking up and dropping
off your children LIKE i genuinely understand.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
It so he is texting me throughout the night while
he's at the.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Wedding we had a conversation THAT i thought was cathartic for.
Myself don't really know what's going on with, Him and
he sends me a photo of him at the wedding,
whatever next to his friend THAT i met that. Night next,
thing you, know he tries to invite me to an after.
Party i'm, thinking just to humor, MYSELF i, said well
what time to what?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Time? Mind, YOU i go to church On.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Sundays ain't nothing coming before me going to, Church no, one.
Nothing so he tells me one am to four. Am
i'm thinking absolutely, not absolutely not one BECAUSE i have.
Church absolutely, not because this is not going to be
the second time you AND i are hanging. Out you
mean to tell me that the second time you AND
i are hanging out is in another type of party.
Setting what did you think this? Was thirdly to, That
i'm not going to be getting all dressed up to
(24:31):
meet you at one am for what?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Reason you are over here.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
At a convenience You and funny thing about me saying,
this by the, way is this man when he initially
told me that he wanted to take me out on
a date On, friday when our only phone conversation prior
was The may twenty Fifth, thursday he says to, me you,
KNOW i want to take you on on a. Date
we could do something in the city Because i'm not
really out here that often. Anymore AND i said to,
him So you're going to drive From queen's to WHERE i,
(24:59):
am back to the, city back to WHERE i, am
and then back To Queens and he, goes, yes of,
course what kind of, gentlemen do you THINK i. Am
so you can imagine considering how things went that clearly
this man is just a fly by the night type
of guy who is literally a. Liar all for what
you went through all this On, Saturday all for? What for?
Speaker 2 (25:19):
What you should have just continued to let me dismiss. Myself.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Cool so THEN i tell, him you know, what forget, it,
Like i'm not gonna.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Go i'm gonna hate.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Myself and THEN i just to be a little, ENTERTAINING i,
go you know, what, ME i might change my. MIND
i wasn't changing my. Mind he already left by the
TIME i said, That so then he calls my.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Phone, Oh i'm so.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
SAD i was gonna hang if you were gonna, COME
i was never. Coming and then he's, like you, know it's.
FINE i was, like, listen it's, fine BECAUSE i KNEW
i wasn't gonna go. Anyway So i'm, like it's, fine it's,
fine don't even worry about. It and then we were
on the phone until he got. Home he told me,
Again i'll be Around. Tuesday SO i asked, HIM i, said, oh,
tuesday so is it a?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Date he, goes it's it's.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Dinner excuse, me you, KNOW i, YEAH i need to
make sure you like me. First AND i, said, so
what is? This there's if this were, numbers it'd be
like zero point five and then it'd be. One LIKE
i don't understand. THAT i was, like, okay so what
it's not a? Date, No, like don't think about it like.
(26:17):
That i'm, like, No i'm gonna think about it exactly
as you said, it because to, you it's not a.
Date so what exactly is going? On you, Know i'll
be there by like eight thirty because his kid's house
is around the corner from. Mine And i'm, like all,
right we'll. SEE i had zero. EXPECTATIONS i. Knew i'm, like,
okay after all this is that this mandom went through
(26:38):
of me essentially persecuting. HIM i was very very, harsh.
Stern you guys know HOW i. Am SO i didn't
hold anything. Back so then next thing you, KNOW i
was in church On, sunday, right AND i just sent
him a text because he.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Told me on the phone pray for me like When
i'm at.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Church SO i was, like, hey set a little prayer for,
you AND i, actually did you, know that's just the
type of PERSON i.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
AM i actually really. Did i'm not.
Speaker 1 (26:59):
Gonna i'm not the same like praying for, you oh My,
god like only my heart goes out And i'm not
actually doing it LIKE i will pray for, you know
WHAT i? Mean like, Whatever so that was that's ALL i.
Said and then he was, like thank you so. Much
that's so sweet of. You and THEN i just hearted.
It Literally monday rolls, by this is a couple of days,
ago and he sends me a gift of like essentially
(27:20):
breakfast in, bed and he's, like good, morning and then
he says that was at seventh something in the. Morning
and then he, goes, so what made you pray for me?
Today i'm, like good. MORNING i don't. Know you just
crossed my mind pretty. Much he, goes that was very
thoughtful of.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
You thank you.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Again so he was, just you, know trying to be
cute and. Suave and then he starts asking.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Me these weird.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Questions so in your, experience do you have to pray
a lot for?
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Something does it work right? Away?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Sometimes does it depend on how badly you need something
at the? Moment And i'm, thinking, okay like, Whatever i'm A,
christian SO.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
I don't mind talking about these.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Things but then he, says how about paying for your
past and? Karma do you Think god lets you get
through things if you're truly sorry and make efforts to.
Change i'm, like what did this man? Do like what
have you done that you're asking me questions like? This
and then he was, saying yesterday and today are. Tough
it felt Like god was putting me through minor. Tests
(28:13):
it was regarding my, son if you're, Wondering SO i was, like,
oh thanks for sharing that with. Me and then he
was talking about something happened with his. Son i'm not
even gonna list that specific, detail but, like something happened
with his.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Son So i'm, like, okay mind.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
YOU i do want to add that this person married
into a family.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
That is kind of, known to say the least kind of.
Known SO i already knew.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
THAT i saw my little that thought, research And i'm
THINKING i don't stand a. Chance so there's so many
odds stacked against the. Situation but at the very, least
this is not even, fun just like for good playing.
Fun LIKE i already, knew, Okay i'm not gonna be
in a relationship with this, person so it's, like, ah
then why are you?
Speaker 2 (28:56):
Bothering and it's, like, well we had honest.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Communication after that conversation On, SATURDAY i was willing to
see where it was gonna go from.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
THERE i know, MYSELF i trust.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Myself i'm not the type of person to be like
saying one thing doing the.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Next i'm not the type of person to you, know
lie to.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Myself it's, like, no IF i, Know i'm gonna do something,
consciously If i'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Be, Stupid i'm gonna say, Listen i'm being.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Stupid i'm not in that mode And i'm not being
stupid for. Me it's, Like, okay let's see what can
happen from. This this is an interesting dynamic WHERE i
really this person knows exactly HOW i am based on our.
Conversation he knows not to try me.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
Again.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Yeah so, anyways he's trying to sell me this story
about being so broken about his son pretty much like
he's so. Upset so Now i'm asking questions Because i'm
trying to figure this. Out he, said, well it broke my.
HEART i could not speak to him or see him
over the. Weekend but it's.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
SOMETHING i have to get used TO i, Guess SO i,
said you can even speak to. Him that's.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
Devastating SO i, said are you picking them up and
dropping them off or dropping them off? Tomorrow NOW i
want to know for my own personal like you know,
knowledge Because i'm noticing that we have not at all
spoken About, Hey i'm going to see you, tomorrow pick
you up at this. Time So i'm getting him in
writing to tell me what his schedule is going to,
(30:14):
be so that if he doesn't do, IT i have
no reason.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
To speak to him.
Speaker 1 (30:18):
Again there's no, excuses there's nothing he can say to.
Me that was the point of me, asking, Right so
he goes. BOTH i picked them up around. SIX i
dropped them off at. Eight supposed to be five, pm
but due to traffic and, WORK i can't get there that. Early,
yeah she doesn't allow me to even FaceTime them strictly
what the court system.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Allows and times they allow.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Me but she made sure to send me pictures of
whatever was wrong with him and tell me that he
might be going to the. Hospital it just really. HURT
i pray all day that he'll be. Okay SO i,
said you know, Me i'm, Thinking, WOW i wonder how
the court was able to rule in her favor for
that type of. VISITATION i, mean isn't that like a
breaching contract if you're supposed to see them on a
(31:01):
certain day and you, don't then he, says not really
due to the fact that she has. Custody right, now
it's just a. Mess i'm hoping by the end of
Summer i'll have them on weekends at least every Other.
Now i'm not trying to be insensitive right, now but
this is precisely WHY i don't do situations like, this
because if you really think about, it if this man
(31:22):
was telling the, truth WHICH i could cure less to
even figure, Out i've moved, on is how on earth
is it that this is already affecting? Me this is
already a heavy. Situation you've allegedly been divorced for a,
year WHICH i do not believe. HIM i do not
believe he has been divorced for a. Year DO i
think he's, divorced? Yes DO i think it's been for a? Year,
NO i don't. DO i think it's maybe been six, months,
(31:44):
yes a year? No.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Okay, anyways So i'm just, thinking, wow like.
Speaker 1 (31:53):
This man really just he always has the right thing.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
To, say. Huh there's always a.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Reason there's always a, Reason and clearly my behavior On
saturday was very intriguing to him that he felt, like,
oh let me tap in telling me things, like you,
Know i'm glad you brought this, up because clearly you're
a lot different than the girls THAT i have been.
Dating and you, know it's very different in the dating
climate these, days because you don't want to seem like
(32:18):
you're too. Much you don't want to seem like you don't.
Care AND i did appreciate that portion of the conversation
BECAUSE i do find that to be. True i'm not gonna,
LIE i do find that to be. True, ANYWAYS i.
Digress that was the end of our conversation on That,
monday and then he writes me On, Tuesday, now this
is the day that him AND i.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Were supposed to see each.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
OTHER i told my, FRIENDS i, said if this man
says anything other than good, Morning, ASHA i look forward
to seeing you, later you're done AND i need. THAT
i am not going to now go into another. Week
and Then hale told, me she, Goes. Ash if you
think about, it you two have already known each other
(32:55):
for almost two, weeks and you haven't even gone on
a proper date with this. PERSON i didn't even know
what has been that. LONG i thought it was only one.
Week So i'm thinking we're not dragging this on a second.
LONGER i am removing myself out of this picture because
you're doing too much right. Now it's so heavy for no,
reason and IT'S i don't know who this situation could
even work, for eighteen twenty two. WHATEVER i don't care
(33:17):
what ages the girls. Are how can this work for? Anyone, clearly,
allegedly whatever you was doing On friday was affecting you
so much that you would have rathered a stay at
home than gone on a date with, me and you
thought you were gonna get by by not even mentioning.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
It, okay have a nice.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Life so THEN i write in response good morning to,
him saying good. Morning this is the last time this
man we'll ever get the chance to speak to. Me
he then writes me at eleven am and, says hope
you have a great. Day excamation, Point i'm so SORRY
i have to cancel. Tonight i'm taking my son back
to the doctor. Today she sent him to school and
(33:57):
should not. Have i'm on my way to pick him
up for the day and he's going to stay with.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Me the nurse called me from.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
School he said that to me at eleven, am AND
i closed my.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Laptop, NOW.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I don't believe a word that man. Says good luck
to that, man BECAUSE i don't know who that man.
Is he's canceled AND i never even saved his number, anyway,
okay number deleted and it wasn't even. Saved now that
because now you're trying to play in my. FACE i
don't know what you think this, is But i've.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Seen all your bag of, tricks so you've run out
of them very.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
Shortly i'm not sticking, around not my, circus not my monkey's,
okay not my, sink not my. Dishes you mean to
tell me that this made it even more insulting to,
me because it's, like wait a. Second last, week it
was a cancelation and you just sulked in your room
father of the. Year this week It's i'm coming to
where you are hours earlier That i'm supposed, to and
(34:54):
this is affecting my plans.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
With you for eight point thirty later in the.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
NIGHT i don't know any, father even fathers that are
active in their homes that are so obsessed we're hanging
out with their. Kids no matter what they do that
they are gonna be canceling even hanging out with someone,
new especially in this type of. Situation this does not make.
Sense well why because he's.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Lying he's. Lying i'm not giving him the benefit of the.
Doubts there's zero reason to ever contact me.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
AGAIN i did not even feel inclined to respond to. Him,
INITIALLY i contemplated on SAYING, np no, problem take CARE
aka like never hit me up, again and THEN i,
thought Now i'm just gonna resort back to my normal,
self which Is i'm just not gonna say anything because
there's nothing to. Say i've already seen everything THAT i
needed to. See you're a. Clown there's something. WRONG i
(35:45):
don't know what's going on between you and. Her he
allegedly doesn't have any feelings for. Her you know the
whole spiel that they try to send. You this is
someone that is. Divorced this is a single. Man this
is for over a year. Allegedly so it's, LIKE i
know it's not he's. Married that's actually never a thought
that crossed my. Mind WHAT i do think is he's
more involved or wants to be more involved with her
(36:07):
than he's leading. On maybe he clearly can't get over.
It maybe that's the type of, deal BECAUSE i find
it very interesting that you don't have custody of the,
children but the school is gonna call. You you, live
you work an hour away from your kid's, school and
the school's gonna call you when the mother can just
(36:27):
go get the children right near the house from the.
School that does not make any sense to, me AND
i don't care to speak to you anymore about. It
you're the clothes page. Erased that doesn't even make any
sense to. Me you just told me yesterday that you
basically had no custody over your, children and today you're
telling me that the school is calling, you and all
(36:50):
of a, sudden your, ex who wouldn't even let you
FaceTime your son your, kids is now okay with you
leaving work going to pick them, up because clearly it's
that bad that your kid needs to go back into the.
Speaker 2 (37:06):
Hospital don't you find that a little? Convenient so since.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
You two still have unfinished, business or you're not done with,
her then go have her get back involved with your,
situation because who is going to be understanding of something like.
This you're not able to keep your. Word you can't
even plan your. Schedule you mean to tell me that
you go from seeing your kids what two hours out
of the, week to all of a, sudden now you
can have your.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Kids all, night all.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
Night you're that press over spending time with your with
your with your son that you are canceling your. Plans
let me tell you, This you're not going to have
the opportunity to ever tell me that you're gonna plan
in my face. Twice never let a man tell you
he doesn't want you. Twice at this, point we don't
like each. Other that's what it is. LIKE i dislike
this person because these to, me are the worst types of.
(37:54):
Guys they go out of their. Way saturday could have been,
Different it could have been. LISTENED i do, understand but,
no he wanted. To he felt very aroused by the
challenge of me literally calling him out with the, truth
took accountability for, it only to try and do it.
Again that's what you call a dangerous. Man because normally
(38:18):
certain guys that are playing, games they won't even acknowledge
what you're. Saying they'll try and gaslight. You oh what
are you talking about all these different. Things this man's
owning what he's, done only to turn around and play games.
Again not with. Me you're not gonna get that chance.
Again and that is pretty much the end of the.
Story who knows what's even gonna happen, next because, yeah.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Being back on the dating, Scene LIKE.
Speaker 1 (38:42):
I, said all this highlighted to me is exactly WHY
i shouldn't and exactly WHY i. Won't that's what this
highlighted to, me because ain't no Way i'm ever gonna
put myself in this posioning, It AND i really look
at it as divine protection From god that he's, Like,
asha this is Why i'm not even gonna give you the,
change you know WHAT i? Mean at this, POINT i
don't even remember what this man looks. Like so it's
(39:03):
like we're cyberbuddies at this. Point you, KNOW i have
no idea what you look. LIKE i have no there's
nothing for me to even hang on, to to even
miss reminisce or anything. Like, genuinely it's the easiest situation.
Ever and on top of, that it does help that
this man.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Is essentially a. Goho he has zero social.
Speaker 1 (39:20):
Media, yeah so there's also, that AND i like guys
that usually have zero social. Media, obviously everything has pros and,
cons but for our, sake let's be real, here.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
Ladies it makes it.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
A lot easier when a man does not have social
media because you can't try and like, snoop you know
WHAT i, mean engage with them all these different.
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Things you can't even do it because you don't have the.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
Option AND i don't mind that BECAUSE i don't want
to be keeping up what you're, doing out of, sight
out of, mind drop, it leave it like. That so
that is the end of this. Story let me know
down below in the comments if you guys have ever
encounter situation like, this what has your experience been like
dating guys with, kids dating guys with kids that are,
(40:03):
older dating guys with kids that are, Younger, like what
would you have done in my? Predicament do you think
that he was lying and using them as an? Excuse
do you think he's still over you think he's over
his ex?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
Wife do you think that he's trying to get back with?
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Her? LIKE i just find it incredibly odd whatever he's
trying to, sell BECAUSE i ain't buying, it all, right no, Debt.
Speaker 2 (40:27):
AND i know you guys love car.
Speaker 1 (40:28):
Videos SO i don't, know maybe this might be my
new thing, now doing a little. Carbondeo are we loving me?
Blonde BECAUSE i. Am i've been blonde literally forever.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
Anyways with that being, said.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Angels do not forget THAT i love you And god loves.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
You how to speak to you Paupful angels In linux
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