August 27, 2025 • 33 mins
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In this episode I discuss WHY WE FALL FOR PLAYERS!!!! I hope that you all enjoy this classic episode, let me know what other kind of topics you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
In this episode I discuss WHY WE FALL FOR PLAYERS!!!! I hope that you all enjoy this classic episode, let me know what other kind of topics you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Do you think I'm buying into your stories? The jokes
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on you. See, that's what's crazy, the jokes on you angels.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Welcome back to my channel.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hello guys, for those of you that are new, Hi,
my name is Asha. Very nice to meet you. I
want to just jump right on into this topic. But
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Speaker 2 (00:35):
Also, I just want to say bleasely thank.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
You guys so much for all of your encouraging words
and everything. I couldn't believe that I was Creator on
the Rise. It absolutely blew my mind.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I couldn't even imagine of having an opportunity like that.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
So thank you guys so much for all of your
congratulations and all of those things.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And let's just jump right into this video. Okay, So
this is.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
A very crucial video. Why do we fall for players?
This definitely needs to be discussed. Well, firstly, we fall
for players? Because players tend to be what charismatic, They
could be good looking, or maybe you think they have
a lot of money, or you genuinely just like their personality,
whatever the thing is, because you don't even have to
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have all these things per se to even be a player,
really by a man's.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Rules, but we fall for them.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I find that players like to create an illusion that
you were the only one in their life.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I mean, that's really the purpose, right.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
And a lot of the times guys that are not monogamous, right,
they tend to run on the justification of well, I
never said you were my girlfriends, so you can't technically
be mad at this, And unfortunately that technicality is true.
But that's why it's so important to understand what place
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do you have in that man's life, and that place needs.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
To be girl friend.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That is the only way they can be held accountable
for their actions of stepping outside of you guys' relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Otherwise, it doesn't matter how long you've.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Been with the person, it doesn't matter where.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
They've taken you.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You're not their girlfriend, so they can technically do whatever
you want and you get fooled, right, because when you're
with this person, everything feels so good, and you guys
just like being around each other, and it's been X.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Amount of time. It doesn't matter. It doesn't players like
to send mixed signals. That's why you're confused. I please,
please take this for me. Please.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
If you take nothing else from this video, if you
are confused, it's for a reason. No man that wants
you in their life is going to leave you confused.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I don't care. I don't care. I don't care.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
If you are going home and you're taking inventory of
his actions, the answer is no, because if it's not
a yees yes, it can only be a no. There
is no such thing as maybe, because if you take
the place of a maybe, you become a placeholder. Placeholders
do maybes? Desperate girls for relationships do maybes? You deserve
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way more than that. When someone gives you mixed signals,
it almost sends a subconscious message to our brains as women,
where we start to want to draw closer to that
person because we're just like, no, like, let me prove,
let me try and get a definite answer out of
this situation, because I need to get to the bottom
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of this, because why are things just like not making sense?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You know?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
I've struggled with this myself in my life where things
may not have made sense to me, and all it
does is make.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Me want to figure it out more. So what do
you do?
Speaker 1 (03:49):
You stick around longer? You see, you know what you
can do to try and make things change. You try
to gauge like if they really meant what they said,
if they you know, if they're their actions are aligning
with their words.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
And I find that.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
All to be just too much work. If the answer
was simply yes. You know, a lot of the times
players don't want to talk about anything relationship related, right.
They like to keep everything surfacing and very light. They
like to keep the conversation light. If you want to
bring up something of substance, Oh, I was, you know, wondering,
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you know, like kind of like what we are? I mean,
why don't we just see where things go?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Like? Why do we have to rush to do any
of this stuff?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Take this from this video if you don't take anything
from this video aside from me giving my advice on
being confused.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
If the answer is not yes, the answer is no.
That's it. There's no way around it.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
And the reason why players succeed so well is because naturally,
what men are master compartmentalizers. This means they can juggle
the girl that they like a little bit and keep
them in their corner. They can juggle the girl that's
been around for like ten years that they refuse to
let go, and they do all the boyfriend things with
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this girl, but won't claim this girl.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What is that about?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
For us as women, it's very difficult for us to
try and process that because we think, Okay, if he's
with this girl and they're doing this, and you know,
they may be going away together, or he probably met
her family or I don't know, like she has like
things in his home, whatever the case is. Naturally we think, oh,
he's serious about her. But to a man, it could
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just be you know, out of all the girls that
I sample in between you and while I'm with you,
I like you as well. I like you a lot.
You know, we have a history for whatever the case is.
But and I will do things for you because I
do care about you, but it's not enough to really
actually want to be with you.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
You know, I'll show up if you call me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I do actually genuinely care, but not enough to actually
make you my girlfriend. You're good enough for me to
keep on the side. You're good enough for me to
pick up when you call, you're good enough for me
to help you out of certain situations, but not good
enough to be my girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Wow. Now I think that's the worst.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Position of them all, you know, And that's the worst
place to be put in by a player, because this
girl now knows all the things that you do, she's
okay with it.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
And then on top of that, you send mixed signals.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Now what normal stereotypical female, normal stereotypical female would settle
for something like that where it's like, hmm, I'm so
secure in the fact that i have this opportunity with
this person, and i have this much access to this person,
but I'm not even their girlfriend or lease, girl, that's
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what your man is telling everybody else, that you're not
his girlfriend. Whoe is it worth the disrespect of not
even being claimed?
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You tell me? You know?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
In turn, with the guy that sends mixed signals, it
makes you want to yes him to death and just
be the fun girl, be the lighthearted girl. You know,
since the conversation is always so light, nothing is really
too much in depth.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
It just makes you want to just okay.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Be the picture perfect person that we kind of view
them to want, and then maybe that'll draw him in.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
At the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Players like to have their cake and eat it too,
and they omit tons of information because they don't find
it useful to tell you, of course, because they think
or they probably know as well. Okay, if I tell
this girl the truth, she probably will not say and
that's not okay with them, because it's like, man, I
don't want to lose this girl in this girl. I
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don't want us to have to start all over again
with whatever I'm doing, so I might as.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Well just omit information.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Like, for instance, I ask this guy knowing already because
you know us as a.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Woman, we are not going to ask you.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
A question that we don't already have the answer to.
So I literally asked him, Hey, what did you do
on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I already knew.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
He tells me, oh, I I spent time with you know,
my family, my kids. Now he did not spend time
with his family and his kids. He was with another girl.
And he literally lied to me about it and looked
at me dead in my face when he said it.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Imagine that, all.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Right, because in his eyes he thinks it's justifiable because
he didn't lie about where he was, he lied about
who he was with.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
So to him, he feels.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Like, I mean, I didn't really actually lie. And also
if I told you the truth, how might she perceive that?
If you are such a stand up person and you're
such a good guy, then why don't you just tell
the truth?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
You know?
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I date, you know, and I ended up going on
a date with if you know this girl, whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
The case is, what am I gonna do?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Flip out and be like, oh my god, I can't
believe you out on a date with this other girl?
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Are you crazy? What am I gonna do? Like, I
don't under why are you lying? I don't trust you.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
You're pathetic and honestly, I don't need your situation like
I don't bye, you know, watch out for situations like that,
please please. I'm just trying to help somebody, anybody. Back
to what I was saying about players enjoying having their
cake and eating it too in order to avoid coming
across as a jerk, because there's multiple different types of players.
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There are players that are genuinely nice guys, but they
just want to play the game, and then there's guys
that are just jerks and they're actual players. Right now,
the guy that's not a jerk that probably really does
care for this person.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Will do all the boyfriend things for this girl.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
And basically you would a say from the outside looking
in that that's definitely this girl's boyfriend, but in reality
it's really not. And guys find themselves in that type
of position quite often because naturally, if you spend a
lot of time with someone, you do tend to grow
feelings for them, but it's still not enough to make
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you want to lock it down. And I think that
that's probably the worst position, like I stated before, to
be in where you're just in limbo. You got this
guy lying on you saying he's not with you, you got
this guy sending you, you know, mixed signals, and not
for nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
You know all of these things.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
You may or may not be knowledgeable of all of
these things, and you know, now what, like, what really
are your options? What are you actually gaining from this
besides samples of fun and entertainment. I have a serious
pet peeve for creating memories with people that are wasting
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my time, you know, I mean specifically.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
In terms of relationships with guys.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
If you know that your intentions with me are not
genuinely pure, and you're not you're trying to run some
sort of game over me, you would have thought, right, I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Gonna get upset because you're wasting.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
My time and I don't like to waste my time.
Time is something you cannot get back. So save me
all the antics, the I care about yous, the I
think you're great, I think your special words of affirmation.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Players like to do this too, tell you everything you
want to hear. That's what they're good at, especially the
more experienced the guy is, the older he is, and
the younger you are.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
They like to run the game on you.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
They know exactly what to say, to play into your emotions,
to keep you exactly where they want you to be.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Period players tend to make you feel like you are
overthinking things, right.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
They always want you to think, oh stop, Oh I
would know that's not what I'm thinking. Oh that's not
what it is, Oh this, oh that, Oh, save me
with your lies and deceit.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Because you thought.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
You were going somewhere, but you were going nowhere real.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Fast, right all over again.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
So here's the thing you have to really have a
keen eye and a keen sense.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
And when you step into a relationship with a man.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Or you're dating someone, you need to have a goal
and stay focused on that goal and don't lose sight
of it until you get it. That's the only way
to really win, because a guy's first goal is not
initially to just be with you. A guy's first goal
is how long do I have to wait? What do
I have to invest to get to sleep with this girl?
That's their number one goal. So you need to have
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a goal so that you don't end up making mistakes
and so that you don't fall prey to guys that
are players. Because when all is said and done and
you look at logic and you take inventory of actions
versus words, inconsistency, things that he chooses to blow up
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versus things that he tends to just roll over, that
speaks volumes, you have to read between the lines, And
the simple fact that you even have to read between
the lines is just a simple indication that you are
being played. In fact, you are being played. There's no
two ways about it. I think another thing that tends
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to attract us to players and why we fall for
them is because they feel just out of our reach,
and for some reason, I don't know, in our subconscious
it gravitates us to that person even more. Everybodybody wants
what they can't have, or every girl wants to tie
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the guy down or get the guy, you know, because
men when women with sex, women when men with relationships.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
But that just brings me to my point. If you
don't have.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
The relationship, then how have you necessarily won?
Speaker 2 (14:23):
What are you doing?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
You see, when you're young and you have all this
time to gain experience and to waste, you don't have
that option in your late twenties when you want to
start settling down, or if you want to start selling
down and looking for someone serious. So if you are
having these patterns and entering into these situations, experiencing things
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like this at you know, thirty thirty two, thirty three,
that's that's that you're in some hot water, then you're
definitely in some hot water.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I also just want to note, right, and this applies
to me.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Life is going to teach you the same lesson over
and over again until you've actually learned from it.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
So if you find yourself questioning.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Yourselves, oh oh my god, I just don't understand how
I keep on ending up in situations with these guys
that are just always playing me, and they're always just
disrespecting me and all of these things. It's because you
haven't learned yet. You didn't take inventory of your mistakes
and make sure to not make them again. You didn't
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believe this person's patterns. You just took their words. Let
me tell you something, another major point to take from
this video.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Words are cheap.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I don't care how much you get over complimented, how
pretty you are, or even if, let's say, you know
that you're kind of in a little competition with the
other girl, and you know, listen, that girl is literally
a because first of all, look at her and look
at me. You know, girls tend to do that, you
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know what I mean. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter
to the guy because obviously that girl that he's keeping around,
he has some sort of interest in her to keep
her around. It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to
be with her or not. She's still there, and she loves.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Her complacent place. She loves being a seat warmer, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And that makes it difficult for girls like us who
don't accept those types of relationships and actually want something
that's solid, and you have to deal with people that
have soul ties and situationships with placeholders and benchwarming girls.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
You know, you see how that works.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
So I would eliminate myself completely from situations like that
because to me, that girl's always going to be there,
and she's always gonna be just waiting, you know, till
you leave, till the.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Next chick comes in, Like she just doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
And I don't really understand people like that, and even
if I did, I wouldn't even ever make that mistake.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
You know, different strokes for different folks.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
But yeah, listen, players and men really can separate their
emotions exceptionally well, right when you have the makeup of
a man right master compartmentalizing emotional detachment. That is just
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a fabulous recipe for just running through the town. Don't
you think you don't catch feelings easily? And that's why
it's hard for guys to let women go once they
kind of hold a special place in their heart. It
may not even be like I'm stressing to you, guys,
like this person wants to sail off into the sunset
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and marry this person, but it doesn't take away from
the fact that he still cares for this person, and
you have to make the decision of whether or not
you're willing to accept.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
A circumstance like that.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
And I'm betting you that you're not right. So it's
kind of like why enter it in the beginning anyway.
And I don't know about you, guys, but I'm the
type of person where I do tend to think about
how I get into a situation because I believe that's
how you get out of it.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
So if I look at some guys, you know, X,
and I'm like, hmm, I wonder how they broke up
or or whatever the situation is, I do tend to
like judge him by that situation. So to me, I
was dealing with this guy before, and he was dealing
with this girl for so long, and she knew, like
she knew this person wasn't exclusive to him.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Or whatever the case is.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
And he lies about it all the time basically and
or omits information. But he can go do whatever it
is else that he wants to do. I mean, it
doesn't make any sense. And I think that when we
start to blur the lines, or when guys make moves
like that, they want to blame you for your reactions
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on how you react to certain things, and you know,
tell you what you don't have the right to do,
and all of these things. And it's just really interesting
because not all men are bad. I genuinely don't believe
that there are many good men on this earth, Lady's
I'm not preaching to hate men.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
That's not my m here at all.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
But there are certain times where men will put you
in positions where you may react and then try to
pin it on you. Oh, I cannot believe you would
do something like that, whatever the case is.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
And it's kind of like, okay, says.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
The liar, says the manipulator, says the player. And I'm
supposed to trust your character, and you're questioning mine half
of the things that I already I know you've lied
to me about that.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
I've asked you a question about you want me.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
To trust you, and you think I'm buying into your stories.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
The joke's on you, see, that's what's crazy. The joke's on.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
You play with fire if you want to play with fire,
if you want to. You know, I was reading a
quote and it said people will explain to you different
versions of myself. Now, I'm not sure if this exactly
speaks to me, but I think it definitely does speak
for many of us. Right, people may explain to you
a version of, you know, a person being very sweet,
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and the quote said, believe them. And then people may
explain a version of a person that you know, this
person's like the meanest person on earth, and then the
quote said.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Believe that too.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Because basically what the quote's trying to explain is I
act accordingly based on the situation. I think that speaksondes
for a lot of us. So how do you avoid
falling for a player? Here's the first thing. Do not
let your guard down. You are single until you are claimed.
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You do not zero in and focus on any one
man alone until he has given you that same respect.
Figure out his situation because a lot of the times
guys always have some sort of lingering bedbug or lingering
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women in their life that they may you know, be
lying to and creating a whole story. You know too,
because a liar is a liar. If someone's lying to me,
I know they're lying to the person that you know
they're with. Because you just don't really have that much
of a moral structure as you think you do. You're
not really as smart as you think you are. And yeah,
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women are naturally very cunning. We wouldn't have to activate
that if it wasn't being brought out.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Guys like to call girls crazy.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
It's normally guys that are cheaters and players they want
to call girls crazy. But behind every crazy girl is
a man that made her that way. Right, you feel
like you don't owe me telling me the truth, but
you feel like I owe you sleeping with you and
entertaining you at your convenience and being with you at
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your convenience. Wake up, you're living in a delusion. Break
out of your bubble. It does not work that way.
This is why it's important to stay neutral, believe patterns,
study patterns like almost like it's a project. You've got
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to kind of view it this way. When you're serious
about not getting hurt, if you just want to go
at the flow and you're just dating and you don't
really care and do what you want. But if you
are serious about not getting played, because getting played is
not a fun thing, and nine times out of ten
you feel played because you were only with this person.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Right.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Otherwise, if you're dating other people. He's hitting other people,
and you didn't really get played because you guys are
both doing your own thing. But if you are only
with this person, you feel played for a reason. You
have to believe his patterns, study his actions. Don't get
you know, wooed and swooed and cooed by his compliments
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and how he.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Fake looks at you.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Guys will literally do anything to save themselves. I mean
almost anyone probably would do anything to save themselves. If
a guy really wants to paint a certain picture to you,
he's going to do just that. I really just wish you, angels,
understood how cheap words actually were. Words are so cheap,
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so cheap. So don't just listen to whatever he says.
Look at what he's doing, look at his consistency, look at.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
That and make your judgment.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
And quite honestly, if you lean into your intuition, you're
going to kind of feel such an unsettling feeling.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Because when something feels right, it feels right for a reason.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
If something was meant to be, it will flow, it
will be easy. It wouldn't be such an unexplicable tug
of war between you and this person that you desire, right,
I mean, really actually think about that, because I think
a lot of the times us as women, we just
were fighting in our head because that's like the.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Normal thing for girls to do, and we're just like,
did he mean that? Who is this?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
And I found this girl's Instagram? And why did she
post this picture? And is she looking at my Instagram?
And like what's going on here? And why, you know,
why would she posts a caption like that if they
were allegedly broken up? And you know, he told me
this story and he never really said that we were exclusive,
But I feel like he's my boyfriend whenever he's around me.
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Any person, any man, that makes you feel like that,
that makes you question your position, that makes you question
your value, that doesn't just show you that they want
you in their life, all they do is tell you
they want you in their life is a waste of time.
Please please listen to my advice. Please, somebody needs to
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hear this. Please, And I'm this video is coming honestly
solely from a lot of my experience. I'm being very transparent.
Words are just words. People can pretend to show interest
half the time, So you know, not to believe someone's words.
Just be careful of the mentality of I want to win. No,
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this is a competition. I don't care who she thinks
she she's not gonna get him. I'm gonna get him.
Is it really worth it? Some girls really do have
it in them to just fight the good fight. All
us fear in love and war, right, But I tend
to be the person where I just give up. I'm like, listen,
you can have him, because honestly, he's not really yours.
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He's for everybody. So I don't need your situation. Like
Jordan Wood said, I don't need your situation. So you
can continue on with him, believe whatever delusion and you
want to believe.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
And I'm gonna move on with my life.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Another thing that's important to note, you don't want to
put yourself in the position of being a benchwarmer, a placeholder.
You're just keeping the spot warm. You guys share and
build these incredible you know moments and have this bond
and in the end, sweetie, honey, you are the only
one that's gonna get hurt because in the end, when
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all is said and done, if you.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Really wanted you, it would be you.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
If he really wanted you, he would choose you and
he's not choosing you.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I don't care what things look like.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
You have to really start to question, Okay, he does this,
this and this for me. But if that's the case,
then like, why is he just not my boyfriend yet?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Maybe he just needs time.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Maybe he's just like really hurt and I know he's
gone through a lot of things in life.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
No.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
No, when men know, they know, when they're sure, they're
sure when they want to choose you, they'll choose you.
When they want to take you off the market, They're
going to take you off the market. They're not going
to play games at your feelings. They're not gonna put
you know, they're not going to blame time for the reason.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
They're not going to do any of those things.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
It really just chips at your self esteem when somebody
that you probably desire and you gave a fair chance
to and you gave your all two doesn't see that
value in you, and naturally you tend.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
To feel like what you don't feel good enough?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
It's like, oh my gosh, what more do I have
to prove to this person so that they want to
be with me?
Speaker 2 (28:08):
It just doesn't work like that.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
That's why that method of proving yourself doesn't work with
these men. Guys know the difference between a girl that
is like a wife type and the girl that they
just want to have a one night stand with.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You think they don't know that.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Players don't want to mess with the girls that only
want the one night stands because that's not attractive, right.
They don't want the girl that everyone had. They want
the good girl. And then they want to play with
the good girl's feelings and keep the good girl in
limbo and tell her how nice she is and how
great of a wife she'll be someday. Nonsense, wasting your time.
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I'm telling you these are things that these men do.
When you look at the facts, Do you really want
to be with someone that is unavailable or emotionally unavailable?
You can't undo that action for a grown man. You
can't make someone emotionally available if they already are not.
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You can't make someone love you. You can't make someone
want to be your boyfriend if they already know they
don't want you.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
And I just want you guys to know that I
completely get it.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
It's hard when you're with someone and you're hanging out
with them and you're having a good time and you
genuinely do like this person, especially if you actually think
this is a nice person, and you just feel so
many different emotions of you know, betrayal and maybe insecurity,
like oh my gosh, I can't believe I found out
this person is doing all of these other things. And
(29:43):
in retrospect, when you look back, it starts to make
sense because it's like, Hm, no wonder why he didn't
do this, or no wonder why he hid his phone here,
or no wonder why he's still on tender or all
of these other things.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
It's just like to me, once someone.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Lies to me a man in a relationship, I will
never trust them again. It's just so hard for me
to trust them again because if you can lie to
me and I'm not even anything with you, we don't
have any title, then how do I know that you
wouldn't lie to me if we did, because you have
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every reason to tell me the truth because we are nothing.
So if we are something, then what And lastly, if
you are dealing with a person like this, you can
try and pull this move. If you're dealing with a
player and you feel like you fell for a player already,
you could try this using your absence to create desire
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and sort of honor in a way, when you just
go someone completely, it kind of puts the ball back
in their court.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
To see, Okay, let.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Me see how long it's going to take for this
person to contact me, and what are they going to
say when they do so you simply just ghost that person.
Just ghost them, don't even speak to them again. You
already have the facts, you already know what they're doing.
You're already going to their game.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Ghost them. That's it.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Then you can gauge, hmm, what does this person actually
think about me? Does this person actually mean what they
say when they say it?
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Really?
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You know, absence does make the heart grow fonder. I
mean that's really a total thing. And because of that,
as a result, when this person returns back in your
life and showers you with temporary affection, it makes you
feel extra excited. And now he's got you right where
he wants you. It's like yup, hooked her again. See
her in a couple months after this? No no, no,
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no no.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
That's the time where.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
You put your foot down and you just end things,
because who even wants to be with someone anyway that
didn't even see your value the first time, because that's
just how I think. I feel like if you were
like this before and I gave you a fair chance,
like I'm not giving you another chance. Really, I might
act like I probably might have even another chance, but
it probably not really mean. It depends on what day
you catch me on if I'm bored enough, because I
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feel like, what reason do I have to genuinely believe
that you've changed, that you had a change of heart.
More than likely you haven't. Yet You're just a liar.
Players lie, They have to. You have to lie and
omit information in order to be a successful player. You
have to because you're juggling a lot of girls and
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a lot and all of them feel like they have
a special place in your life, and you got to
keep that narrative going, right, So, Angels, that concludes the
end of this video.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I really hope that you guys have.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Enjoyed this topic specifically, I feel like so many of
us can definitely relate to this topic of why we
fall for players and their games, and you know the
schemes that they try to run on us, and you
know the game that they try to run on us.
Just don't be a victim of that. Anymore. Decide today
I'm done. I'm cutting off Tony. I'm cutting off whoever
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needs to be cut off in my life because it's
not worth my energy anymore. I don't deserve to feel confused.
I don't deserve to be played with. I don't deserve
to wait around until you make up your mind about
how you think I would be an asset to you
or how valuable you think I am. You just don't
deserve that, because if the answer was yes, it would
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be yes, and otherwise the answer is no.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Okay, so do not forget that. I love you, and
God loves you, and
Speaker 1 (33:32):
I'll see beautiful angels in my next video
Do you think I'm buying into your stories? The jokes
(00:05):
on you. See, that's what's crazy, the jokes on you angels.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Welcome back to my channel.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hello guys, for those of you that are new, Hi,
my name is Asha. Very nice to meet you. I
want to just jump right on into this topic. But
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Also, I just want to say bleasely thank.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
You guys so much for all of your encouraging words
and everything. I couldn't believe that I was Creator on
the Rise. It absolutely blew my mind.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
I couldn't even imagine of having an opportunity like that.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
So thank you guys so much for all of your
congratulations and all of those things.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
And let's just jump right into this video. Okay, So
this is.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
A very crucial video. Why do we fall for players?
This definitely needs to be discussed. Well, firstly, we fall
for players? Because players tend to be what charismatic, They
could be good looking, or maybe you think they have
a lot of money, or you genuinely just like their personality,
whatever the thing is, because you don't even have to
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have all these things per se to even be a player,
really by a man's.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Rules, but we fall for them.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I find that players like to create an illusion that
you were the only one in their life.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I mean, that's really the purpose, right.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
And a lot of the times guys that are not monogamous, right,
they tend to run on the justification of well, I
never said you were my girlfriends, so you can't technically
be mad at this, And unfortunately that technicality is true.
But that's why it's so important to understand what place
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do you have in that man's life, and that place needs.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
To be girl friend.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
That is the only way they can be held accountable
for their actions of stepping outside of you guys' relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Otherwise, it doesn't matter how long you've.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Been with the person, it doesn't matter where.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
They've taken you.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You're not their girlfriend, so they can technically do whatever
you want and you get fooled, right, because when you're
with this person, everything feels so good, and you guys
just like being around each other, and it's been X.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Amount of time. It doesn't matter. It doesn't players like
to send mixed signals. That's why you're confused. I please,
please take this for me. Please.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
If you take nothing else from this video, if you
are confused, it's for a reason. No man that wants
you in their life is going to leave you confused.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I don't care. I don't care. I don't care.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
If you are going home and you're taking inventory of
his actions, the answer is no, because if it's not
a yees yes, it can only be a no. There
is no such thing as maybe, because if you take
the place of a maybe, you become a placeholder. Placeholders
do maybes? Desperate girls for relationships do maybes? You deserve
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way more than that. When someone gives you mixed signals,
it almost sends a subconscious message to our brains as women,
where we start to want to draw closer to that
person because we're just like, no, like, let me prove,
let me try and get a definite answer out of
this situation, because I need to get to the bottom
(03:35):
of this, because why are things just like not making sense?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You know?
Speaker 1 (03:39):
I've struggled with this myself in my life where things
may not have made sense to me, and all it
does is make.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Me want to figure it out more. So what do
you do?
Speaker 1 (03:49):
You stick around longer? You see, you know what you
can do to try and make things change. You try
to gauge like if they really meant what they said,
if they you know, if they're their actions are aligning
with their words.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
And I find that.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
All to be just too much work. If the answer
was simply yes. You know, a lot of the times
players don't want to talk about anything relationship related, right.
They like to keep everything surfacing and very light. They
like to keep the conversation light. If you want to
bring up something of substance, Oh, I was, you know, wondering,
(04:26):
you know, like kind of like what we are? I mean,
why don't we just see where things go?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Like? Why do we have to rush to do any
of this stuff?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Take this from this video if you don't take anything
from this video aside from me giving my advice on
being confused.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
If the answer is not yes, the answer is no.
That's it. There's no way around it.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
And the reason why players succeed so well is because naturally,
what men are master compartmentalizers. This means they can juggle
the girl that they like a little bit and keep
them in their corner. They can juggle the girl that's
been around for like ten years that they refuse to
let go, and they do all the boyfriend things with
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this girl, but won't claim this girl.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
What is that about?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
For us as women, it's very difficult for us to
try and process that because we think, Okay, if he's
with this girl and they're doing this, and you know,
they may be going away together, or he probably met
her family or I don't know, like she has like
things in his home, whatever the case is. Naturally we think, oh,
he's serious about her. But to a man, it could
(05:37):
just be you know, out of all the girls that
I sample in between you and while I'm with you,
I like you as well. I like you a lot.
You know, we have a history for whatever the case is.
But and I will do things for you because I
do care about you, but it's not enough to really
actually want to be with you.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
You know, I'll show up if you call me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I do actually genuinely care, but not enough to actually
make you my girlfriend. You're good enough for me to
keep on the side. You're good enough for me to
pick up when you call, you're good enough for me
to help you out of certain situations, but not good
enough to be my girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Wow. Now I think that's the worst.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Position of them all, you know, And that's the worst
place to be put in by a player, because this
girl now knows all the things that you do, she's
okay with it.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
And then on top of that, you send mixed signals.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Now what normal stereotypical female, normal stereotypical female would settle
for something like that where it's like, hmm, I'm so
secure in the fact that i have this opportunity with
this person, and i have this much access to this person,
but I'm not even their girlfriend or lease, girl, that's
(06:54):
what your man is telling everybody else, that you're not
his girlfriend. Whoe is it worth the disrespect of not
even being claimed?
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You tell me? You know?
Speaker 1 (07:08):
In turn, with the guy that sends mixed signals, it
makes you want to yes him to death and just
be the fun girl, be the lighthearted girl. You know,
since the conversation is always so light, nothing is really
too much in depth.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
It just makes you want to just okay.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Be the picture perfect person that we kind of view
them to want, and then maybe that'll draw him in.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
At the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Players like to have their cake and eat it too,
and they omit tons of information because they don't find
it useful to tell you, of course, because they think
or they probably know as well. Okay, if I tell
this girl the truth, she probably will not say and
that's not okay with them, because it's like, man, I
don't want to lose this girl in this girl. I
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don't want us to have to start all over again
with whatever I'm doing, so I might as.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Well just omit information.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Like, for instance, I ask this guy knowing already because
you know us as a.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Woman, we are not going to ask you.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
A question that we don't already have the answer to.
So I literally asked him, Hey, what did you do
on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I already knew.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
He tells me, oh, I I spent time with you know,
my family, my kids. Now he did not spend time
with his family and his kids. He was with another girl.
And he literally lied to me about it and looked
at me dead in my face when he said it.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Imagine that, all.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Right, because in his eyes he thinks it's justifiable because
he didn't lie about where he was, he lied about
who he was with.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
So to him, he feels.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Like, I mean, I didn't really actually lie. And also
if I told you the truth, how might she perceive that?
If you are such a stand up person and you're
such a good guy, then why don't you just tell
the truth?
Speaker 2 (08:55):
You know?
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I date, you know, and I ended up going on
a date with if you know this girl, whatever.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
The case is, what am I gonna do?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Flip out and be like, oh my god, I can't
believe you out on a date with this other girl?
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Are you crazy? What am I gonna do? Like, I
don't under why are you lying? I don't trust you.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
You're pathetic and honestly, I don't need your situation like
I don't bye, you know, watch out for situations like that,
please please. I'm just trying to help somebody, anybody. Back
to what I was saying about players enjoying having their
cake and eating it too in order to avoid coming
across as a jerk, because there's multiple different types of players.
(09:41):
There are players that are genuinely nice guys, but they
just want to play the game, and then there's guys
that are just jerks and they're actual players. Right now,
the guy that's not a jerk that probably really does
care for this person.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Will do all the boyfriend things for this girl.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
And basically you would a say from the outside looking
in that that's definitely this girl's boyfriend, but in reality
it's really not. And guys find themselves in that type
of position quite often because naturally, if you spend a
lot of time with someone, you do tend to grow
feelings for them, but it's still not enough to make
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you want to lock it down. And I think that
that's probably the worst position, like I stated before, to
be in where you're just in limbo. You got this
guy lying on you saying he's not with you, you got
this guy sending you, you know, mixed signals, and not
for nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
You know all of these things.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
You may or may not be knowledgeable of all of
these things, and you know, now what, like, what really
are your options? What are you actually gaining from this
besides samples of fun and entertainment. I have a serious
pet peeve for creating memories with people that are wasting
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my time, you know, I mean specifically.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
In terms of relationships with guys.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
If you know that your intentions with me are not
genuinely pure, and you're not you're trying to run some
sort of game over me, you would have thought, right, I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Gonna get upset because you're wasting.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
My time and I don't like to waste my time.
Time is something you cannot get back. So save me
all the antics, the I care about yous, the I
think you're great, I think your special words of affirmation.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Players like to do this too, tell you everything you
want to hear. That's what they're good at, especially the
more experienced the guy is, the older he is, and
the younger you are.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
They like to run the game on you.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
They know exactly what to say, to play into your emotions,
to keep you exactly where they want you to be.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Period players tend to make you feel like you are
overthinking things, right.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
They always want you to think, oh stop, Oh I
would know that's not what I'm thinking. Oh that's not
what it is, Oh this, oh that, Oh, save me
with your lies and deceit.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Because you thought.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
You were going somewhere, but you were going nowhere real.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Fast, right all over again.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
So here's the thing you have to really have a
keen eye and a keen sense.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
And when you step into a relationship with a man.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Or you're dating someone, you need to have a goal
and stay focused on that goal and don't lose sight
of it until you get it. That's the only way
to really win, because a guy's first goal is not
initially to just be with you. A guy's first goal
is how long do I have to wait? What do
I have to invest to get to sleep with this girl?
That's their number one goal. So you need to have
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a goal so that you don't end up making mistakes
and so that you don't fall prey to guys that
are players. Because when all is said and done and
you look at logic and you take inventory of actions
versus words, inconsistency, things that he chooses to blow up
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versus things that he tends to just roll over, that
speaks volumes, you have to read between the lines, And
the simple fact that you even have to read between
the lines is just a simple indication that you are
being played. In fact, you are being played. There's no
two ways about it. I think another thing that tends
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to attract us to players and why we fall for
them is because they feel just out of our reach,
and for some reason, I don't know, in our subconscious
it gravitates us to that person even more. Everybodybody wants
what they can't have, or every girl wants to tie
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the guy down or get the guy, you know, because
men when women with sex, women when men with relationships.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
But that just brings me to my point. If you
don't have.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
The relationship, then how have you necessarily won?
Speaker 2 (14:23):
What are you doing?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
You see, when you're young and you have all this
time to gain experience and to waste, you don't have
that option in your late twenties when you want to
start settling down, or if you want to start selling
down and looking for someone serious. So if you are
having these patterns and entering into these situations, experiencing things
(14:47):
like this at you know, thirty thirty two, thirty three,
that's that's that you're in some hot water, then you're
definitely in some hot water.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
I also just want to note, right, and this applies
to me.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Life is going to teach you the same lesson over
and over again until you've actually learned from it.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
So if you find yourself questioning.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Yourselves, oh oh my god, I just don't understand how
I keep on ending up in situations with these guys
that are just always playing me, and they're always just
disrespecting me and all of these things. It's because you
haven't learned yet. You didn't take inventory of your mistakes
and make sure to not make them again. You didn't
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believe this person's patterns. You just took their words. Let
me tell you something, another major point to take from
this video.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
Words are cheap.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I don't care how much you get over complimented, how
pretty you are, or even if, let's say, you know
that you're kind of in a little competition with the
other girl, and you know, listen, that girl is literally
a because first of all, look at her and look
at me. You know, girls tend to do that, you
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know what I mean. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter
to the guy because obviously that girl that he's keeping around,
he has some sort of interest in her to keep
her around. It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to
be with her or not. She's still there, and she loves.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Her complacent place. She loves being a seat warmer, you know.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
And that makes it difficult for girls like us who
don't accept those types of relationships and actually want something
that's solid, and you have to deal with people that
have soul ties and situationships with placeholders and benchwarming girls.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
You know, you see how that works.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
So I would eliminate myself completely from situations like that
because to me, that girl's always going to be there,
and she's always gonna be just waiting, you know, till
you leave, till the.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Next chick comes in, Like she just doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
And I don't really understand people like that, and even
if I did, I wouldn't even ever make that mistake.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
You know, different strokes for different folks.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
But yeah, listen, players and men really can separate their
emotions exceptionally well, right when you have the makeup of
a man right master compartmentalizing emotional detachment. That is just
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a fabulous recipe for just running through the town. Don't
you think you don't catch feelings easily? And that's why
it's hard for guys to let women go once they
kind of hold a special place in their heart. It
may not even be like I'm stressing to you, guys,
like this person wants to sail off into the sunset
(17:58):
and marry this person, but it doesn't take away from
the fact that he still cares for this person, and
you have to make the decision of whether or not
you're willing to accept.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
A circumstance like that.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
And I'm betting you that you're not right. So it's
kind of like why enter it in the beginning anyway.
And I don't know about you, guys, but I'm the
type of person where I do tend to think about
how I get into a situation because I believe that's
how you get out of it.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
So if I look at some guys, you know, X,
and I'm like, hmm, I wonder how they broke up
or or whatever the situation is, I do tend to
like judge him by that situation. So to me, I
was dealing with this guy before, and he was dealing
with this girl for so long, and she knew, like
she knew this person wasn't exclusive to him.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Or whatever the case is.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
And he lies about it all the time basically and
or omits information. But he can go do whatever it
is else that he wants to do. I mean, it
doesn't make any sense. And I think that when we
start to blur the lines, or when guys make moves
like that, they want to blame you for your reactions
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on how you react to certain things, and you know,
tell you what you don't have the right to do,
and all of these things. And it's just really interesting
because not all men are bad. I genuinely don't believe
that there are many good men on this earth, Lady's
I'm not preaching to hate men.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
That's not my m here at all.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
But there are certain times where men will put you
in positions where you may react and then try to
pin it on you. Oh, I cannot believe you would
do something like that, whatever the case is.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
And it's kind of like, okay, says.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
The liar, says the manipulator, says the player. And I'm
supposed to trust your character, and you're questioning mine half
of the things that I already I know you've lied
to me about that.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
I've asked you a question about you want me.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
To trust you, and you think I'm buying into your stories.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
The joke's on you, see, that's what's crazy. The joke's on.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
You play with fire if you want to play with fire,
if you want to. You know, I was reading a
quote and it said people will explain to you different
versions of myself. Now, I'm not sure if this exactly
speaks to me, but I think it definitely does speak
for many of us. Right, people may explain to you
a version of, you know, a person being very sweet,
(20:41):
and the quote said, believe them. And then people may
explain a version of a person that you know, this
person's like the meanest person on earth, and then the
quote said.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Believe that too.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Because basically what the quote's trying to explain is I
act accordingly based on the situation. I think that speaksondes
for a lot of us. So how do you avoid
falling for a player? Here's the first thing. Do not
let your guard down. You are single until you are claimed.
(21:14):
You do not zero in and focus on any one
man alone until he has given you that same respect.
Figure out his situation because a lot of the times
guys always have some sort of lingering bedbug or lingering
(21:34):
women in their life that they may you know, be
lying to and creating a whole story. You know too,
because a liar is a liar. If someone's lying to me,
I know they're lying to the person that you know
they're with. Because you just don't really have that much
of a moral structure as you think you do. You're
not really as smart as you think you are. And yeah,
(21:56):
women are naturally very cunning. We wouldn't have to activate
that if it wasn't being brought out.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Guys like to call girls crazy.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
It's normally guys that are cheaters and players they want
to call girls crazy. But behind every crazy girl is
a man that made her that way. Right, you feel
like you don't owe me telling me the truth, but
you feel like I owe you sleeping with you and
entertaining you at your convenience and being with you at
(22:28):
your convenience. Wake up, you're living in a delusion. Break
out of your bubble. It does not work that way.
This is why it's important to stay neutral, believe patterns,
study patterns like almost like it's a project. You've got
(22:51):
to kind of view it this way. When you're serious
about not getting hurt, if you just want to go
at the flow and you're just dating and you don't
really care and do what you want. But if you
are serious about not getting played, because getting played is
not a fun thing, and nine times out of ten
you feel played because you were only with this person.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Right.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Otherwise, if you're dating other people. He's hitting other people,
and you didn't really get played because you guys are
both doing your own thing. But if you are only
with this person, you feel played for a reason. You
have to believe his patterns, study his actions. Don't get
you know, wooed and swooed and cooed by his compliments
(23:31):
and how he.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Fake looks at you.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Guys will literally do anything to save themselves. I mean
almost anyone probably would do anything to save themselves. If
a guy really wants to paint a certain picture to you,
he's going to do just that. I really just wish you, angels,
understood how cheap words actually were. Words are so cheap,
(23:58):
so cheap. So don't just listen to whatever he says.
Look at what he's doing, look at his consistency, look at.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
That and make your judgment.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
And quite honestly, if you lean into your intuition, you're
going to kind of feel such an unsettling feeling.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Because when something feels right, it feels right for a reason.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
If something was meant to be, it will flow, it
will be easy. It wouldn't be such an unexplicable tug
of war between you and this person that you desire, right,
I mean, really actually think about that, because I think
a lot of the times us as women, we just
were fighting in our head because that's like the.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Normal thing for girls to do, and we're just like,
did he mean that? Who is this?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
And I found this girl's Instagram? And why did she
post this picture? And is she looking at my Instagram?
And like what's going on here? And why, you know,
why would she posts a caption like that if they
were allegedly broken up? And you know, he told me
this story and he never really said that we were exclusive,
But I feel like he's my boyfriend whenever he's around me.
(25:12):
Any person, any man, that makes you feel like that,
that makes you question your position, that makes you question
your value, that doesn't just show you that they want
you in their life, all they do is tell you
they want you in their life is a waste of time.
Please please listen to my advice. Please, somebody needs to
(25:36):
hear this. Please, And I'm this video is coming honestly
solely from a lot of my experience. I'm being very transparent.
Words are just words. People can pretend to show interest
half the time, So you know, not to believe someone's words.
Just be careful of the mentality of I want to win. No,
(25:57):
this is a competition. I don't care who she thinks
she she's not gonna get him. I'm gonna get him.
Is it really worth it? Some girls really do have
it in them to just fight the good fight. All
us fear in love and war, right, But I tend
to be the person where I just give up. I'm like, listen,
you can have him, because honestly, he's not really yours.
(26:19):
He's for everybody. So I don't need your situation. Like
Jordan Wood said, I don't need your situation. So you
can continue on with him, believe whatever delusion and you
want to believe.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
And I'm gonna move on with my life.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
Another thing that's important to note, you don't want to
put yourself in the position of being a benchwarmer, a placeholder.
You're just keeping the spot warm. You guys share and
build these incredible you know moments and have this bond
and in the end, sweetie, honey, you are the only
one that's gonna get hurt because in the end, when
(26:56):
all is said and done, if you.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Really wanted you, it would be you.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
If he really wanted you, he would choose you and
he's not choosing you.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
I don't care what things look like.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
You have to really start to question, Okay, he does this,
this and this for me. But if that's the case,
then like, why is he just not my boyfriend yet?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Maybe he just needs time.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Maybe he's just like really hurt and I know he's
gone through a lot of things in life.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
No.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
No, when men know, they know, when they're sure, they're
sure when they want to choose you, they'll choose you.
When they want to take you off the market, They're
going to take you off the market. They're not going
to play games at your feelings. They're not gonna put
you know, they're not going to blame time for the reason.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
They're not going to do any of those things.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
It really just chips at your self esteem when somebody
that you probably desire and you gave a fair chance
to and you gave your all two doesn't see that
value in you, and naturally you tend.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
To feel like what you don't feel good enough?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
It's like, oh my gosh, what more do I have
to prove to this person so that they want to
be with me?
Speaker 2 (28:08):
It just doesn't work like that.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
That's why that method of proving yourself doesn't work with
these men. Guys know the difference between a girl that
is like a wife type and the girl that they
just want to have a one night stand with.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You think they don't know that.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Players don't want to mess with the girls that only
want the one night stands because that's not attractive, right.
They don't want the girl that everyone had. They want
the good girl. And then they want to play with
the good girl's feelings and keep the good girl in
limbo and tell her how nice she is and how
great of a wife she'll be someday. Nonsense, wasting your time.
(28:48):
I'm telling you these are things that these men do.
When you look at the facts, Do you really want
to be with someone that is unavailable or emotionally unavailable?
You can't undo that action for a grown man. You
can't make someone emotionally available if they already are not.
(29:08):
You can't make someone love you. You can't make someone
want to be your boyfriend if they already know they
don't want you.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
And I just want you guys to know that I
completely get it.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
It's hard when you're with someone and you're hanging out
with them and you're having a good time and you
genuinely do like this person, especially if you actually think
this is a nice person, and you just feel so
many different emotions of you know, betrayal and maybe insecurity,
like oh my gosh, I can't believe I found out
this person is doing all of these other things. And
(29:43):
in retrospect, when you look back, it starts to make
sense because it's like, Hm, no wonder why he didn't
do this, or no wonder why he hid his phone here,
or no wonder why he's still on tender or all
of these other things.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
It's just like to me, once someone.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Lies to me a man in a relationship, I will
never trust them again. It's just so hard for me
to trust them again because if you can lie to
me and I'm not even anything with you, we don't
have any title, then how do I know that you
wouldn't lie to me if we did, because you have
(30:19):
every reason to tell me the truth because we are nothing.
So if we are something, then what And lastly, if
you are dealing with a person like this, you can
try and pull this move. If you're dealing with a
player and you feel like you fell for a player already,
you could try this using your absence to create desire
(30:44):
and sort of honor in a way, when you just
go someone completely, it kind of puts the ball back
in their court.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
To see, Okay, let.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Me see how long it's going to take for this
person to contact me, and what are they going to
say when they do so you simply just ghost that person.
Just ghost them, don't even speak to them again. You
already have the facts, you already know what they're doing.
You're already going to their game.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Ghost them. That's it.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Then you can gauge, hmm, what does this person actually
think about me? Does this person actually mean what they
say when they say it?
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Really?
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You know, absence does make the heart grow fonder. I
mean that's really a total thing. And because of that,
as a result, when this person returns back in your
life and showers you with temporary affection, it makes you
feel extra excited. And now he's got you right where
he wants you. It's like yup, hooked her again. See
her in a couple months after this? No no, no,
(31:39):
no no.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
That's the time where.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
You put your foot down and you just end things,
because who even wants to be with someone anyway that
didn't even see your value the first time, because that's
just how I think. I feel like if you were
like this before and I gave you a fair chance,
like I'm not giving you another chance. Really, I might
act like I probably might have even another chance, but
it probably not really mean. It depends on what day
you catch me on if I'm bored enough, because I
(32:03):
feel like, what reason do I have to genuinely believe
that you've changed, that you had a change of heart.
More than likely you haven't. Yet You're just a liar.
Players lie, They have to. You have to lie and
omit information in order to be a successful player. You
have to because you're juggling a lot of girls and
(32:24):
a lot and all of them feel like they have
a special place in your life, and you got to
keep that narrative going, right, So, Angels, that concludes the
end of this video.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
I really hope that you guys have.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Enjoyed this topic specifically, I feel like so many of
us can definitely relate to this topic of why we
fall for players and their games, and you know the
schemes that they try to run on us, and you
know the game that they try to run on us.
Just don't be a victim of that. Anymore. Decide today
I'm done. I'm cutting off Tony. I'm cutting off whoever
(33:02):
needs to be cut off in my life because it's
not worth my energy anymore. I don't deserve to feel confused.
I don't deserve to be played with. I don't deserve
to wait around until you make up your mind about
how you think I would be an asset to you
or how valuable you think I am. You just don't
deserve that, because if the answer was yes, it would
(33:24):
be yes, and otherwise the answer is no.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Okay, so do not forget that. I love you, and
God loves you, and
Speaker 1 (33:32):
I'll see beautiful angels in my next video
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