September 3, 2025 • 18 mins
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I’m BACK again with a NEW episode. In this video I talk about why you should only date providers!
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I’m BACK again with a NEW episode. In this video I talk about why you should only date providers!
I hope that you all enjoy this, let me know what other kinds of episod you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And yes, money has money comes with its own set
of issues too, but that just boils down to you,
you know, each individual, because I would much rather cry
in a Bentley than anything else.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm just saying like I don't know, I don't know
about you.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Hello, my beautiful angels, Welcome back to my channel, and
welcome to my channel for all my new subscribers.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hello, Hi, my name is Asha. Very nice to meet you.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I want to jump right into this video, guys, I
really really do. But you guys know the drill. If
you're new here, you don't, so you'll learn today to
follow me on Instagram, which will be right here.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And also, do not forget to subscribe to this channel.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Pause, stop subscribe if you have not already, because we
have a goal. We are so close to one hundred
k guys, less than nine k away. It's absolutely insane.
I am flabbergasted. Okay, let's infriend.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Into this video.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
So I want to state as a disclaimer, this video
is going to be straight backs.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
It's going to be a.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Little, you know, a little hard to swallow, a tough
pill to swallow. But you guys already know my method
that I am into more of the tough love sort
of thing. And that's only because I like to get
to the root of issues and actually transform people's lives
and as well as my own. And you're not going to,
you know, be able to do that coddling people's feelings
(01:32):
to death.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
So that's on that.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
If you consider yourself to be a very sensitive person
and you're easily offended, then please click off of this video.
Great glad we got that. Established men will test you.
Don't even get offended by it. It's just what they do.
So if they can get away with doing the least
and getting the maximum return, which is of course sleeping
with you, they're going to do that. Men value what
(01:56):
they invest in. Men value what they invest money in.
So if you sleep with them, they did the absolute
least to even get, you know, get with you. They
took you out on one dinner date and impressed you
and things just flowed so well that, like you guys
were vibing, and that's why you You can't help the
chemistry you had. No, you have to be able to
(02:18):
maintain your composure and not put yourself in a situation
where you're in his layer, in his territory, where he
can get what it is that he wants. Because then
right after that Sun, I mean, the dust has settled
for him. There's no reason to proceed. You just you
literally put yourself from you know, letter A all the
way to Z now because that was easy. He barely
(02:40):
had to put in any work while they're playing with
your emotions. They got to invest little to nothing into
you while they get to play with you. And now
you're attached to this person because it is a form
of attachment, right, and now you're upset. Excuse the lighting, guys,
like honestly seriously, because I did get a brand new
(03:01):
camera because I have been filming on my phone and
I actually have always owned a camera, but it was
just so much easier for me to always film on
my phone and YadA, YadA, YadA. So you guys are
going to see a huge quality difference in my videos
once I get this camera set up, because I really
(03:22):
want to make this a lot more professional and not
rely on using my phone anymore. Back to what I
was saying, Okay, I get so many countless, countless, countless messages,
even in a lot of them in my consults where
girls are saying, you know, how do I get him
to start doing more for me because I started out
solo maintenance and now that I'm demanding more and I
(03:45):
want to do more things, he doesn't want to do it.
And I really hate to be the bearer of bad news.
But of course I would love to tell you, oh,
do this, do that, He'll do it. But it really
is not that simple. If you allays require minimal to
low effort, why should he, after getting all the benefits
(04:07):
from you, all of a sudden reroute his direction to
try and impress you. Already he already got what he wanted,
he's already been getting what he wanted, or he's already
getting what he wants. So when you kind of put
that demand on a guy all of a sudden, it
makes him feel like you're switching up on him, which,
(04:29):
in a weird way, you kind of are, because you
suppressed what it is that you actually really wanted and
desired and what you actually really required, and you settled
for less, and now you want to come out your
shell and you want to be you, and you want
to experience different things and have nice experiences. This person
doesn't feel like he needs to rise to the occasion.
(04:50):
He doesn't feel like he needs to and in his defense, right,
why should you pay for something that you've always been
getting for free? Why should you pay full price for
something that you've always been getting discounted? Do you understand
what I'm saying? So it's very hard, near impossible. I
want to even go as far as saying, arguably to
(05:14):
all of a sudden reroute and that person rises to
the occasion. The issue is when you start putting these
demands down, you know, and I say demands loosely, like
you're not like being bossy and mean, when you try
to have new experiences and try to you know, up
the you know, the game a little bit. He doesn't
want to rise to the occasion, and it's bothering you. Now,
(05:36):
that's why you don't start out little maintenance. Be yourself,
Be yourself why because who you are is going to
come out anyway. And this is another thing I want
to add. Be careful of being so impressed by someone's
minimal effort.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
And this is the issue.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
The more successful the guy, the easier it is for
him to impress someone. Right, arguably, So if you have
someone that has impressed you in a way that no
one else ever has, their minimal could be very much
okay for you because you're not used to that level
of minimal because it seems like a lot.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
That is where things get dangerous.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Especially actually specifically when it comes to dating affluent men.
That's where the issue lies because they're minimal is to
the average person. Sometimes a lot or can be perceived
as a lot, especially when it's a brand new experience
for you. Each guy's version of minimal effort will be different,
(06:37):
and of course that depends on multiple factors. So you
should date a provider because if you are traditional in
this sense of relationships, it's just this cut and dry.
Men protect profess provide. Women are nurtures. Men are supposed
to be providers. This goes back to the cave man
(07:00):
days right where women were choosing you know, men based
off of how strong they were, which mattered because they
had to hunt animals and bring food to the table,
and then the woman's job was to prepare whatever was
brought to the table. Am I making sense? And then
(07:23):
also women were selecting the men based off of how
physically you know, strong they looked as well, because then
that made them want to produce offspring with them, because
then it would carry on that man's genes. So if
a man back in the cave man days was strong
(07:44):
and very and they felt protected, you know, the woman
felt very protected and you know, they were able to
She felt like he would be a good candidate to
have offspring with and to provide you know, for her
and you know.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Their future family.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
His appearance and ability to bring you know, food to
the table and hunt and gather solidified her decision in
how well she felt like that person could provide for
her in her future offspring. You should date a provider
also because arguably, in society everyday life, women have more
(08:23):
stress than men. Okay, you have to you have children.
Sometimes you have to take care of the kids. You
have to keep up with your appearance. You have to
deal with the you know, your body changing from carrying
a human being for nine months and then after you know,
kind of getting back into shape and feeling good about yourself,
(08:46):
all these things, you know, cooking, taking the kids to school.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Being a mother is a very sacrificing job.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
I'm not even a mother, and I understand that concept
simply as a woman. It's a sacrificing job while trying
to maintain your own life, which arguably you don't even
have your own life. Sometimes some people it's it really
is a choice and just maintaining you know, you know,
(09:14):
just a life that's desirable and still all the while
maintaining being desirable for your husband, so you don't need
the stress. The last thing you actually need is the
stress of paying bills, taking care of the kids. Who's
going to pick them up after you get off of work,
You're running late from work, you're working over time. You
(09:37):
cannot be your best with all of these other pressures,
no matter how genuinely hard you try. No matter how
hard you try, you cannot be your best with juggling
all of these things. And besides the basics of life
and society, you need to be provided for that you
can effortlessly be the best person you can be, Be
(09:58):
the best mom that you can be, Be the best
hands on mom that you can be. Can take priding
your pearents, have your you know, a healthy lifestyle, and
you want to be able to effortlessly do this because
you don't have to worry about the stress of meeting
a guy halfway helping him do his job.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
He's not helping you do your job.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
What's happening here and then also this, because of these
everyday normal stresses that are a part of life, women
age faster than men do.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I didn't make this up.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
So with that being said, the last thing that you
really do need to be worrying about is meeting him
halfway as you juggle a million other things and taking
care of the both of you guys.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Kids.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Love has highs and lows, Right, It's not always going
to be a honeymoon phase.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
That's obvious to any mature situation.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
There will be a time where you guys have to
do different things to spice things up. Let's say you
just want to take a spontaneous vacation somewhere and you know,
go out of the country. Oh but if you're working
and not by choice, I'm saying, if you're working and
it's not by your choice, and you have all these stress,
(11:18):
all the stress on you, and you have to worry
about okay, Like I don't have anyone to watch the kids,
and they're supposed to be in daycare here, and I
don't want to, you know, I want to make sure
that I'm using up as much daycare days as possible
because I do have to, you know, come out of
pocket for it, and I just I can't go on
vacation because I don't like my body, I don't like
(11:38):
how I look. I mean, what am I even gonna wear?
Like all of these things you're going to start taking
into account and you can't even do something as simple
as go on a vacation, go on a weekend get
away with your husband, because that's when it starts to
highlight all the flaws when you can't just at the
you know, drop of a dime, decide to do something
(12:01):
to just give yourself a little break. Okay, you should
be able to, you know, enroll your children in the
best school if that's what you desire, support their you know, activities,
if they want to get into sports and or dance
or both all of these things.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
You don't want to struggle to have to be able
to do that.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
And then you just rip the kid's dream from them
because or their activity or hobby from them because mommy
and daddy can't afford it anymore. You know, like, that's
just hurtful to a kid, and it's and it will
have an impact on the dynamic of you and your relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
You know why I had to change.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
The angle for the lighting the number one of the
number one reasons why couples get divorced is over finances.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh yeah, it's a real thing.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
So this is why I also speak about being intentional
about the life that you want to create for yourself,
especially when it.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Comes to bringing life onto this earth.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
You don't want to have to stress and struggle over,
you know, something that's supposed to be a joyous experience.
And yes, money has money comes with its own set
of issues too, but that just boils down to you,
you know, each individual. Because I would much rather cry
in a Bentley than anything else. I'm just saying, like,
(13:26):
I don't know, I don't know about you. Everyone likes
nice things. Why can't you have it? Why do you
not think that you deserve it? You are worthy of
these things. You deserve to have these things if it
is a desire of yours.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Everyone's desire is different, Okay.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
One girl could be perfectly content with, you know, having
you know, a simple farmhouse and having a lot of land,
and she likes that simple lifestyle. Another girl can be
content with just having a decent sized home. That's an
arbitrary thing as well, and just you know, being comfortable.
She doesn't necessarily want to be, you know, super wealthy
(14:05):
or anything like that. She doesn't mind, you know, not
driving super luxury cars.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
And then you have other people like myself, and I
want what I want, like I love the best of
the best of everything.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
That's what genuinely fuels me and genuinely makes me happy
for myself, not even for other people. I like these
things because I like these things for asia, do you understand?
And I think that there's a stigma around people that
enjoy nice things as well, or that enjoy luxury things.
There seems to be this negative stigma basically that people
(14:46):
that enjoyed that type of lifestyle, you know, tend to
be very insecure and they have to have all these
things to sort of mask or cover up some sort
of deep insecurity within themselves. And that's not always the case,
is it the case? Sometimes?
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Will duh? Of course? Why?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Because everything is circumstantial, a lot of things are arbitrary. However,
that's not the case for a lot of people, right, So,
whatever your definition may be of being provided for, don't
stop until you get that, Do not settle. Do try
to dim your light down so you can make someone
(15:25):
feel comfortable, because when you try to jump out of
your shell and you try to just be you and
you want the things that you want. You're always going
to feel unsatisfied because this person you won't rise to
the occasion.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
So don't put yourself in a predicament where someone.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Is incapable of doing these things for you, or simply
incapable because they just don't want to because they didn't
have to in the beginning, okay, And then you dig
yourself a hole because this person simply just doesn't want
to do what you want and give you what it
is that you desire, and you've already invested so much.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
So I just.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Wanted to drop this video by you ladies, okay as
a thought provoking video. I want you guys to actually
think about, especially my young ladies out there and you
don't have children yet or anything like that. If you
are in a relationship where you feel stuck because you
(16:33):
want certain things and you're frustrated because the person you
want to give you these things just doesn't want to
do it or finds an excuse to not do it
all the time. It sucks, but you have to understand
that they're not They're just not. If you presented a
window for them to rise to the occasion, and they
have countless times decided not to show up. That's an answer,
(16:56):
and it's not easy. But you guys know, I always
say you got to force yourself because you're never going
to feel like leaving. You're not going to wake up
one day and say, huh, yes, today's the day where
I leave you in the dust. Oh yes, Now it's
not gonna happen. You're never gonna feel like it. And
there is freedom in understanding that you will never feel
(17:20):
like it. Think about what it is that I'm saying.
There is freedom in understanding that you will never feel
like leaving that toxic situation, that you will never feel
like leaving that guy. And you like him so much,
or you love him so much, and you've spent so
many years with him, you spent so many months with him,
you're so attached. There's never going to be a right time. Okay,
(17:41):
it's going to get more toxic. You're going to actually
have more reasons to leave and still find find new
ones to stay.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
And that's what it will turn into.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
So if someone is not meeting that simple basic criteria
of what it is that a man should do, if
you are traditional in a relationship sense, such as myself,
then there will be no relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
That's what it is at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
That's how I think, that's how I'm going to be
for eternity, and that's on that.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
So in conclusion, my loves, I hope that you guys
have enjoyed this video.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Thanks for sticking by me and like this like horrible lighting,
like this is practically shadow lighting above me.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
But it's fine.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Do not forget that I love you and God loves you,
and I will see you, beautiful angels in the next video.
M
And yes, money has money comes with its own set
of issues too, but that just boils down to you,
you know, each individual, because I would much rather cry
in a Bentley than anything else.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm just saying like I don't know, I don't know
about you.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Hello, my beautiful angels, Welcome back to my channel, and
welcome to my channel for all my new subscribers.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Hello, Hi, my name is Asha. Very nice to meet you.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I want to jump right into this video, guys, I
really really do. But you guys know the drill. If
you're new here, you don't, so you'll learn today to
follow me on Instagram, which will be right here.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And also, do not forget to subscribe to this channel.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Pause, stop subscribe if you have not already, because we
have a goal. We are so close to one hundred
k guys, less than nine k away. It's absolutely insane.
I am flabbergasted. Okay, let's infriend.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Into this video.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
So I want to state as a disclaimer, this video
is going to be straight backs.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
It's going to be a.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Little, you know, a little hard to swallow, a tough
pill to swallow. But you guys already know my method
that I am into more of the tough love sort
of thing. And that's only because I like to get
to the root of issues and actually transform people's lives
and as well as my own. And you're not going to,
you know, be able to do that coddling people's feelings
(01:32):
to death.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
So that's on that.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
If you consider yourself to be a very sensitive person
and you're easily offended, then please click off of this video.
Great glad we got that. Established men will test you.
Don't even get offended by it. It's just what they do.
So if they can get away with doing the least
and getting the maximum return, which is of course sleeping
with you, they're going to do that. Men value what
(01:56):
they invest in. Men value what they invest money in.
So if you sleep with them, they did the absolute
least to even get, you know, get with you. They
took you out on one dinner date and impressed you
and things just flowed so well that, like you guys
were vibing, and that's why you You can't help the
chemistry you had. No, you have to be able to
(02:18):
maintain your composure and not put yourself in a situation
where you're in his layer, in his territory, where he
can get what it is that he wants. Because then
right after that Sun, I mean, the dust has settled
for him. There's no reason to proceed. You just you
literally put yourself from you know, letter A all the
way to Z now because that was easy. He barely
(02:40):
had to put in any work while they're playing with
your emotions. They got to invest little to nothing into
you while they get to play with you. And now
you're attached to this person because it is a form
of attachment, right, and now you're upset. Excuse the lighting, guys,
like honestly seriously, because I did get a brand new
(03:01):
camera because I have been filming on my phone and
I actually have always owned a camera, but it was
just so much easier for me to always film on
my phone and YadA, YadA, YadA. So you guys are
going to see a huge quality difference in my videos
once I get this camera set up, because I really
(03:22):
want to make this a lot more professional and not
rely on using my phone anymore. Back to what I
was saying, Okay, I get so many countless, countless, countless messages,
even in a lot of them in my consults where
girls are saying, you know, how do I get him
to start doing more for me because I started out
solo maintenance and now that I'm demanding more and I
(03:45):
want to do more things, he doesn't want to do it.
And I really hate to be the bearer of bad news.
But of course I would love to tell you, oh,
do this, do that, He'll do it. But it really
is not that simple. If you allays require minimal to
low effort, why should he, after getting all the benefits
(04:07):
from you, all of a sudden reroute his direction to
try and impress you. Already he already got what he wanted,
he's already been getting what he wanted, or he's already
getting what he wants. So when you kind of put
that demand on a guy all of a sudden, it
makes him feel like you're switching up on him, which,
(04:29):
in a weird way, you kind of are, because you
suppressed what it is that you actually really wanted and
desired and what you actually really required, and you settled
for less, and now you want to come out your
shell and you want to be you, and you want
to experience different things and have nice experiences. This person
doesn't feel like he needs to rise to the occasion.
(04:50):
He doesn't feel like he needs to and in his defense, right,
why should you pay for something that you've always been
getting for free? Why should you pay full price for
something that you've always been getting discounted? Do you understand
what I'm saying? So it's very hard, near impossible. I
want to even go as far as saying, arguably to
(05:14):
all of a sudden reroute and that person rises to
the occasion. The issue is when you start putting these
demands down, you know, and I say demands loosely, like
you're not like being bossy and mean, when you try
to have new experiences and try to you know, up
the you know, the game a little bit. He doesn't
want to rise to the occasion, and it's bothering you. Now,
(05:36):
that's why you don't start out little maintenance. Be yourself,
Be yourself why because who you are is going to
come out anyway. And this is another thing I want
to add. Be careful of being so impressed by someone's
minimal effort.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
And this is the issue.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
The more successful the guy, the easier it is for
him to impress someone. Right, arguably, So if you have
someone that has impressed you in a way that no
one else ever has, their minimal could be very much
okay for you because you're not used to that level
of minimal because it seems like a lot.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
That is where things get dangerous.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Especially actually specifically when it comes to dating affluent men.
That's where the issue lies because they're minimal is to
the average person. Sometimes a lot or can be perceived
as a lot, especially when it's a brand new experience
for you. Each guy's version of minimal effort will be different,
(06:37):
and of course that depends on multiple factors. So you
should date a provider because if you are traditional in
this sense of relationships, it's just this cut and dry.
Men protect profess provide. Women are nurtures. Men are supposed
to be providers. This goes back to the cave man
(07:00):
days right where women were choosing you know, men based
off of how strong they were, which mattered because they
had to hunt animals and bring food to the table,
and then the woman's job was to prepare whatever was
brought to the table. Am I making sense? And then
(07:23):
also women were selecting the men based off of how
physically you know, strong they looked as well, because then
that made them want to produce offspring with them, because
then it would carry on that man's genes. So if
a man back in the cave man days was strong
(07:44):
and very and they felt protected, you know, the woman
felt very protected and you know, they were able to
She felt like he would be a good candidate to
have offspring with and to provide you know, for her
and you know.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Their future family.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
His appearance and ability to bring you know, food to
the table and hunt and gather solidified her decision in
how well she felt like that person could provide for
her in her future offspring. You should date a provider
also because arguably, in society everyday life, women have more
(08:23):
stress than men. Okay, you have to you have children.
Sometimes you have to take care of the kids. You
have to keep up with your appearance. You have to
deal with the you know, your body changing from carrying
a human being for nine months and then after you know,
kind of getting back into shape and feeling good about yourself,
(08:46):
all these things, you know, cooking, taking the kids to school.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Being a mother is a very sacrificing job.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
I'm not even a mother, and I understand that concept
simply as a woman. It's a sacrificing job while trying
to maintain your own life, which arguably you don't even
have your own life. Sometimes some people it's it really
is a choice and just maintaining you know, you know,
(09:14):
just a life that's desirable and still all the while
maintaining being desirable for your husband, so you don't need
the stress. The last thing you actually need is the
stress of paying bills, taking care of the kids. Who's
going to pick them up after you get off of work,
You're running late from work, you're working over time. You
(09:37):
cannot be your best with all of these other pressures,
no matter how genuinely hard you try. No matter how
hard you try, you cannot be your best with juggling
all of these things. And besides the basics of life
and society, you need to be provided for that you
can effortlessly be the best person you can be, Be
(09:58):
the best mom that you can be, Be the best
hands on mom that you can be. Can take priding
your pearents, have your you know, a healthy lifestyle, and
you want to be able to effortlessly do this because
you don't have to worry about the stress of meeting
a guy halfway helping him do his job.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
He's not helping you do your job.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
What's happening here and then also this, because of these
everyday normal stresses that are a part of life, women
age faster than men do.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I didn't make this up.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
So with that being said, the last thing that you
really do need to be worrying about is meeting him
halfway as you juggle a million other things and taking
care of the both of you guys.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Kids.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Love has highs and lows, Right, It's not always going
to be a honeymoon phase.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
That's obvious to any mature situation.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
There will be a time where you guys have to
do different things to spice things up. Let's say you
just want to take a spontaneous vacation somewhere and you know,
go out of the country. Oh but if you're working
and not by choice, I'm saying, if you're working and
it's not by your choice, and you have all these stress,
(11:18):
all the stress on you, and you have to worry
about okay, Like I don't have anyone to watch the kids,
and they're supposed to be in daycare here, and I
don't want to, you know, I want to make sure
that I'm using up as much daycare days as possible
because I do have to, you know, come out of
pocket for it, and I just I can't go on
vacation because I don't like my body, I don't like
(11:38):
how I look. I mean, what am I even gonna wear?
Like all of these things you're going to start taking
into account and you can't even do something as simple
as go on a vacation, go on a weekend get
away with your husband, because that's when it starts to
highlight all the flaws when you can't just at the
you know, drop of a dime, decide to do something
(12:01):
to just give yourself a little break. Okay, you should
be able to, you know, enroll your children in the
best school if that's what you desire, support their you know, activities,
if they want to get into sports and or dance
or both all of these things.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
You don't want to struggle to have to be able
to do that.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
And then you just rip the kid's dream from them
because or their activity or hobby from them because mommy
and daddy can't afford it anymore. You know, like, that's
just hurtful to a kid, and it's and it will
have an impact on the dynamic of you and your relationship.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
You know why I had to change.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
The angle for the lighting the number one of the
number one reasons why couples get divorced is over finances.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh yeah, it's a real thing.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
So this is why I also speak about being intentional
about the life that you want to create for yourself,
especially when it.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Comes to bringing life onto this earth.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
You don't want to have to stress and struggle over,
you know, something that's supposed to be a joyous experience.
And yes, money has money comes with its own set
of issues too, but that just boils down to you,
you know, each individual. Because I would much rather cry
in a Bentley than anything else. I'm just saying, like,
(13:26):
I don't know, I don't know about you. Everyone likes
nice things. Why can't you have it? Why do you
not think that you deserve it? You are worthy of
these things. You deserve to have these things if it
is a desire of yours.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Everyone's desire is different, Okay.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
One girl could be perfectly content with, you know, having
you know, a simple farmhouse and having a lot of land,
and she likes that simple lifestyle. Another girl can be
content with just having a decent sized home. That's an
arbitrary thing as well, and just you know, being comfortable.
She doesn't necessarily want to be, you know, super wealthy
(14:05):
or anything like that. She doesn't mind, you know, not
driving super luxury cars.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
And then you have other people like myself, and I
want what I want, like I love the best of
the best of everything.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
That's what genuinely fuels me and genuinely makes me happy
for myself, not even for other people. I like these
things because I like these things for asia, do you understand?
And I think that there's a stigma around people that
enjoy nice things as well, or that enjoy luxury things.
There seems to be this negative stigma basically that people
(14:46):
that enjoyed that type of lifestyle, you know, tend to
be very insecure and they have to have all these
things to sort of mask or cover up some sort
of deep insecurity within themselves. And that's not always the case,
is it the case? Sometimes?
Speaker 2 (15:01):
Will duh? Of course? Why?
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Because everything is circumstantial, a lot of things are arbitrary. However,
that's not the case for a lot of people, right, So,
whatever your definition may be of being provided for, don't
stop until you get that, Do not settle. Do try
to dim your light down so you can make someone
(15:25):
feel comfortable, because when you try to jump out of
your shell and you try to just be you and
you want the things that you want. You're always going
to feel unsatisfied because this person you won't rise to
the occasion.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
So don't put yourself in a predicament where someone.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Is incapable of doing these things for you, or simply
incapable because they just don't want to because they didn't
have to in the beginning, okay, And then you dig
yourself a hole because this person simply just doesn't want
to do what you want and give you what it
is that you desire, and you've already invested so much.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
So I just.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Wanted to drop this video by you ladies, okay as
a thought provoking video. I want you guys to actually
think about, especially my young ladies out there and you
don't have children yet or anything like that. If you
are in a relationship where you feel stuck because you
(16:33):
want certain things and you're frustrated because the person you
want to give you these things just doesn't want to
do it or finds an excuse to not do it
all the time. It sucks, but you have to understand
that they're not They're just not. If you presented a
window for them to rise to the occasion, and they
have countless times decided not to show up. That's an answer,
(16:56):
and it's not easy. But you guys know, I always
say you got to force yourself because you're never going
to feel like leaving. You're not going to wake up
one day and say, huh, yes, today's the day where
I leave you in the dust. Oh yes, Now it's
not gonna happen. You're never gonna feel like it. And
there is freedom in understanding that you will never feel
(17:20):
like it. Think about what it is that I'm saying.
There is freedom in understanding that you will never feel
like leaving that toxic situation, that you will never feel
like leaving that guy. And you like him so much,
or you love him so much, and you've spent so
many years with him, you spent so many months with him,
you're so attached. There's never going to be a right time. Okay,
(17:41):
it's going to get more toxic. You're going to actually
have more reasons to leave and still find find new
ones to stay.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
And that's what it will turn into.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
So if someone is not meeting that simple basic criteria
of what it is that a man should do, if
you are traditional in a relationship sense, such as myself,
then there will be no relationship.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
That's what it is at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
That's how I think, that's how I'm going to be
for eternity, and that's on that.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
So in conclusion, my loves, I hope that you guys
have enjoyed this video.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Thanks for sticking by me and like this like horrible lighting,
like this is practically shadow lighting above me.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
But it's fine.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Do not forget that I love you and God loves you,
and I will see you, beautiful angels in the next video.
M
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