Demand I Lower Your Rent? How About I Raise It Instead! - Reddit Stories

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story we'll be reading today.
Demand I lower the rent? Not gonna happen? After that?
Am I the jerk for letting my sister walk me
down the aisle? And after that? Should I keep my
wife's promise to take care of her parents? Now, for
every thumbs up, this video gits one, Karen does not

(00:21):
get her rent lowered. Landlords wie, So please smash that
like button and subscribe and turn on notifications for news
stories from Reddit every single day. Demand I lower the rent.
Not gonna happen. I've let someone live in my house
for free while he tried to get his dream job.
Well he got it a week ago and won't stop

(00:41):
reminding me how he's taking a pay cut for this job.
It's a huge room with private bath, private balcony, two
sliding door closets, and an additional walk in storage closet
in the hallway. Their central air and heat, the fastest
internet my address can get, and two outdoor spaces. There's
a laundry room. The hardwood flooring is brand new. We

(01:01):
agreed the rent would start after he got his new job.
He told me repeatedly, once I get this job, I
can pay rent like a normal tenant, no problem. He
got the offer over a week ago for the new job.
I told him this week the least would start on
March fifteenth, and rent would be one three hundred and
fifty dollars with internet and all utilities included. And he

(01:22):
balked at that price. I told him, fine, that we
could do three months at one thousand dollars and then
nine months at thirteen fifty with all utilities included. Nope,
he's still bulking at that price. His reasoning is because
he has to buy a fifteen thousand dollars car and
it has to be a used Prius. I encouraged him
to buy a cheaper car and widen the brands and

(01:44):
models that he's considering, but he refuses because of Prius
with specific options is his perfect car. I have never
spent that much on a car. He acts like, because
I own a home, I must be rich. I'm one
mile west of Sofi Stadium in Inglewood in twenty twelve
paid twelve to fifty a month, so I have only
increased the rent by one hundred dollars and eleven years

(02:06):
and he's still complaining I worked hard to buy this
house eighty to one hundred hours a week for all
of my twenties, and I work hard now to maintain it.
You can't find a private room with private bath anywhere
near me for the price I'm offering him. The only
cheaper place near me is a dormitory style house where
four adults share one bedroom two bunk beds for seven

(02:26):
fifty I do think that's outrageous and believe what I'm
offering is more than fair. I feel like telling him,
if you think you can find a better deal, then
go do it. He's acting like I'm a jerk for
not lowering the rent. Am I the jerk for taking
this position? Am I being a jerk for refusing to
reduce the rent? Edit? Thank you everyone who responded even

(02:47):
that you're the jerk replies, we're helpful. I am a
people pleaser. I've been working on it in therapy and
never had a hard time saying no. I've rented this
room out many times for free or extremely reduced rates
in the past for eating help getting back on their
feet without issue, and did not expect the situation like
this to come up. A few people mentioned that I'm
price gouging, but it's the opposite. I'm offering the lowest

(03:10):
rent you can find in my area. I've received several
messages and dms from redditors asking to take the space
or inquiring for a friend. It may seem high to
people living in other areas, but this really is an
amazing deal. I know how hard it is to survive
in today's world, and this has been my way of
giving back. I do perform other community service, like handing
out blankets and umbrellas on rainy days or stalking the

(03:32):
community refrigerator, but a place to live is the most
important thing underprivileged and underserved people need. I will think
about how I do this moving forward to better protect myself.
Several people provided links about ending his stay, and I
am grateful. California does have larger laws California Civil Code
pertaining to people who rent out a single room in
their house that they also live in. I did not

(03:54):
want to go this route and demand that he leave,
but I feel like I must in order to protect myself.
Everyone sucks here. Stop negotiating based on his financial decisions
like you're his life partner, and calculate the fair market
rent for the room. His money is his to manage.
He can get himself a used PRIs if he wants to,
and he can rent a room from you if he
wants to. If he can't do both, it's his responsibility

(04:17):
to pick one and figure out an alternative for the other.
It's not your responsibility to advise on or plan around
that choice. Yes, you're the jerk for profiting on housing.
No jerks here. As much as I'd like to shoot
down a landlord, you do seem to be a fairer one.
I think your tenant just needs a reminder of what
the rental market is like at the moment. That hardly

(04:38):
makes them or you the jerk. Info who is this
someone a random dude? Seems strange to let someone stay
rent free with no formal agreement in place, including the
discussion of what rent would be after he found this job.
You're the jerk for being a landlord with no sense.
You're the jerk. That's an absurd amount of money for
what he's getting. I had a two bedroom of apartment

(05:00):
to myself in a downtown location for twelve hundred. You're
offering one room amenities and a roommate situation. Well, what
do you think is OP the jerk or is the tenant?
Please let us know. I think the real jerks are
these bozos on Reddit who think all landlords are the devil. Oh,
it's not their fault, Karen, They're just products of our
failed educational system. Am I the jerk for letting my

(05:23):
sister walk me down the aisle? I twenty three female,
was raised by my older half sister, who's thirty two.
I never met my dad, and our mom passed when
I was ten and my sister was nineteen. My sister's
dad was still in her life and was willing to
support her, but not me. My sister chose to be
my guardian, and her father's family went low contact with
her as a result. In order to raise me, she

(05:45):
gave up a lot, her relationship with her father, college,
her twenties, and so much more. A few months ago,
I got engaged and I told my sister that in
addition to being my maid of honor, I also wanted
her to be the one to walk me down the aisle.
All my life, She's had to fulfill so many roles
for me big sister, mother, father, friend, that it only

(06:06):
felt right that those multiple roles be honored on one
of my biggest days of my life. My sister was ecstatic,
and so was I, but when I brought it up
with my fiance, he objected my future in laws are
very traditional, and my fiance had always expected that his
wedding would be a very traditional wedding. He said that
it was great that my sister was my maid of honor,

(06:26):
but that her having two roles wasn't and that it
wasn't appropriate for her to walk me down the aisle
since that's usually done by the father. Apparently, his family
had assumed that my future father in law would be
the one to walk me down the aisle, since I
don't have any male relatives. I told him that I
appreciate his father being willing to do that for me,
but that the one who made me the person I

(06:46):
am today is my sister, so it's right that she
be the one to give me away. It turned into
an argument that spread to my in laws. My mother
in law called me a few days ago to say
that although she understands how important my sister is to me,
that it's also my fiance's wedding and I shouldn't be
putting my sister before him on his day. I definitely
hurt her on that, but this is still important to

(07:08):
me at this point. My sister has even said that
she doesn't mind just being the maid of honor and
that she doesn't want to turn my happy day into
something stressful. So now it's just me holding out and
being stubborn. But I really don't want to concede on
this point. Am I being the jerk here at it?
I did not expect this to blow up like it has,
and haven't been able to read through all of your

(07:28):
verdicts and comments yet, But I want to clarify on
some of the inquiries that I've seen repeated so far.
Are the in laws contributing to the wedding? Yes, in fact,
they're paying for about seventy five percent of it, since
I'm still in school and I don't have the money
to put towards the wedding the scale that fiancee wanted.
Does your fiance have sisters? No, he has two younger brothers.

(07:49):
Did he ask your sister for your hand? He did. Actually,
she also helped him custom design the engagement ring. She
showed me their group text, and at one point they
spent three weeks trying to side between five different diamonds.
Maybe I should just propose with an infinity gauntlet. It
was very sweet and cute. What about when you have kids?
Have you talked about having kids because of a medical condition?

(08:11):
I'm infertile, though neither of us feel a particular strong
urge to be parents anyway, but we also know we're
still young and that may change. But even if it does,
it would be very far in the future. Could you
walk down the aisle by yourself? That was my sister's
suggestion when she said she was fine just being the
maid of honor, but I rejected it because of her.
I never walked alone on the worst days of my life,

(08:33):
so I'm definitely not going to walk alone on the happiest,
not the jerk And this is a hill to die on,
in my opinion. How is it that you're holding out
and being stubborn? Couldn't you say that about your fiance?
He wants to take away something meaningful to you because
he wants things to appear his way. That's entirely self serving.
You're not putting your sister before him, You're putting her

(08:55):
on your side, right where you want her. This is
weird controlling behavior on your fienceante's part, and it gives
me a very bad vibe about him and his family.
What happens down the road when or if you decide
to have kids. If you pick out a kid's name,
does he get to veto that and replace it with
a name of his choosing to what's your role going
to be in the household? And is that okay with you?

(09:16):
I'm not saying to end things over this disagreement, but
do take a good look at where you are and
where you're heading before going forward. Op I guess I
started feeling like I was being stubborn when my sister
also suggested that I drop it. I was the only
one fighting my side of the fight, and everyone else
was coming at me with I understand, but and it

(09:36):
made me feel like I was the unreasonable one. That's
why I came here to get some unbiased opinions. Your
sister is trying to cause you as little stress as possible,
and if that means she has to step back from
something she clearly wants to do, then she'll do it.
It will hurt her, but she will do it to
save you from stress and pain. She's already shown she
will sacrifice herself to keep you happy and healthy. I

(09:58):
would gladly die on this hill if the person I'm
marrying said he gets to choose who walks me down
the aisle, not the jerk one. What a wonderful way
to honor your sister and the roles that she's played
in your life. Two, your partner's inability to grasp something
so significant to you is disturbing. Three. The fact that
your mother in law and probably your partner think that

(10:19):
you're putting yourself ahead of his or their feelings would
make me run from them all, not the jerk. Honestly,
him running to his family and them coming after you
on his behalf makes me a little hesitant about your
current communication and conflict resolution within your relationship. You clearly
have an imbalance of family support. I'm worried you're going
to be completely crushed under their collective weight. Are you

(10:42):
always going to have to give in because they get
a vote and outnumber you? Well, who do you think's
in the right, OPI or her fiance? Please let us know.
Anyone can show you their true colors, but it's up
to you to see them for who they really are.
Should I keep my wife's promise to take care of
her parents. My wife passed three years ago in an accident.

(11:02):
I'm now a single father to our three kids, who
are eleven, eight, and five. It's been incredibly difficult providing
for them by myself, but they've never wanted for anything
a day in their life. Thanks to therapy and a
good support system, they're happy, healthy, and thriving. In my
wife's culture, it's customary for kids to take care of
their parents and their old age. Her parents very much

(11:23):
expected this of her. This was something my wife talked
to me extensively about before and during our marriage. Actually,
it was something we thought about a lot, because I
felt that our focus should be on our kids and
doing everything we could to give them a good life.
My wife wanted to house her parents in our home,
but I disagreed for multiple reasons, such as cost and
lack of living space. We eventually agreed to help them

(11:45):
pay for a condo or other living arrangements, but not
house them. Sadly, we never got a chance to figure
out exactly how that would work. Her parents, her mom
specifically took my wife's passing hard and fell into depression.
She pretty much much became a recluse, and neither her
nor my father in law have been very involved in
our lives since her passing. However, my father in law

(12:08):
recently retired and reached out to me about honoring my
wife's promise to help take care of them in their
old age. I flat out told him that I cannot
honor that promise. He got upset and told me that
this was something that his daughter had promised him and
his wife, and as her husband, it is now my
responsibility to keep that promise. I told him that I
have three kids to provide for, and I do not

(12:29):
have the time, energy, or money to provide for two
more people. He told me I was disgracing my wife's
honor and memory, and that he knew it was a
mistake for her to marry outside of her culture. He
called me again a few days later and tried to
apologize for what he said. He told me that he
acted irrationally and that he's sure we can work something
out that will be beneficial for everyone. I asked him

(12:50):
what he meant by that, and he said that he
and his wife could come live with us so that
I have help with the kids and I can still
honor my wife's promise to her parents. I again flat
out told him know. I told him that I've managed
fine the past three years without their help, and I'll
continue to do fine. I told him his proposal is
only beneficial to them, not to me in any way.

(13:11):
He again tried to tell me that I need to
do this to honor his daughter's memory, as this was
something that she promised to him and his wife. I
told him that sadly that promise had ended with his daughter.
He said something to me in his native language that
I'm assuming from his tone was not a compliment, and
hung up on me. They've been minimally involved in our
lives since our passing. Their needs are so far down

(13:32):
my priority list. But I'm torn because I hate feeling
like I'm letting my wife down in any way, even
if she's not here anymore. Widow here my late husband's
mother is a single, older woman with two living daughters. However,
she believed my husband and I would build a tiny
home on our land for her and care for her
and support her in her old age. We have an

(13:52):
elementary aged kid. I was never on board with this plan,
and neither was my husband, but he did ask me
to look out for his mom after he passed. He
got sick so he had time to talk through all
of this. By looking out for her, he meant stay
in her life, check on her, and be there in
the event of an emergency. After he passed, his mother
went absolutely feral on me, making heinous accusations, blaming me

(14:15):
for stealing her son from her and promising me that
she would never forgive me for being the one her
son loved more than her. It's been almost four months
since he passed, and I've cut her from my life.
I feel guilty sometimes, but I'm a widow in my
early thirties with a kid to provide for. I cannot
sacrifice my peace or my time with my kid to
care for a fully grown adult who failed to plan

(14:37):
for her own future and who has been an absolute
monster to me. All this to say, as someone in
a similar situation, your priorities are your kid and yourself.
You matter, your needs matter. You are categorically not the jerk.
They abandoned their daughter's kids for three years. They've only
resurfaced because they want something from you. Truly, you're not

(14:57):
the jerk. Don't feel bad for one more so second,
care for yourself and your family. I wish you all
the best and I'm so sorry for your loss. Not
the jerk odd that he didn't take this up with
you until after he made the choice to retire and
stop supporting himself. Apparently it also didn't occur to him
that you had only one income rather than two, so

(15:18):
you might have had to try to take care of
more than just your immediate family. Am I the jerk
for uninviting my mother in law for my wedding after
she tried to sabotage my wedding dress. My future mother
in law has never been a fan of me. I'm
twenty six female for the entire duration of mine and
my fiancees who's twenty nine male relationship, I'm honestly not

(15:38):
sure why it is that she's always disliked me and
has been called to me. But after multiple attempts over
the years to build some type of relationship with her
we've been together for four years, nothing has worked. She
couldn't give two hoots about me up until the wedding
planning started a few months ago. My fiance and I
are pain for the majority of our wedding ourselves, while
my dad and stepmom are financial contributing as well. Mother

(16:01):
in law and father in law have not contributed at all,
but mother in law is giving her opinions on things
as if she's footing the bill. You should make the
themes this color, make sure you have this dish on
the menu to be served. Don't do an open bar.
You don't want people being too rowdy. Make sure me,
my sister, and my cousins all sitting in the front
row at the wedding ceremony, et cetera, et cetera. My

(16:24):
fiance and are absolutely sick of this. Every time she
tries to give an opinion, we politely shut it down
and tell her we have it under control, but she
just never gets the hint. Before she became such a nightmare,
I regretfully invited her to come dress shopping because I
didn't want her to feel left out. Well, a few
weeks ago we went dress shopping. My mom and close

(16:45):
friends came to and I found my dream wedding dress.
I have a curvy hourglass figure, and I found a
dress that shows off my figure perfectly and makes me
feel gorgeous. The dress is kind of revealing, low cut
and mermaid's style, but it's nothing I'd be ashamed of
my family and friends seeing me in. My mother in law,
on the other hand, hated the dress I chose. She
made sure to express to me multiple times. She even

(17:08):
went as far as to say, this is a wedding,
not a dance club. I don't like it. Well, I'd
bought the dress anyway, since I'm the one who's paying
for it after all. Last night, my fiance and I
are cleaning up after dinner and I received a call
from the shop I ordered my dress from. They were
calling me concerned because apparently a lady my mother in
law called them pretending to be me and wanted to

(17:30):
switch the dress I chose to a more appropriate one.
The sales associate realized that it wasn't my phone number
that called to make the change and called me immediately
to confirm before they changed the order. I was livid.
My fiance heard the entire conversation and was also livid.
He called his mom to confront her, and she fessed
up after denying it a few times. I told her,

(17:52):
if she's so bothered by my dress, to consider herself
uninvited from the wedding, and I hung up on her
safe to say she's not happy. She's been calling both
my husband and I NonStop, trying to defend herself. But
I've had enough. I feel bad for my fiance because
he won't get to have his plan dance with her.
Did I take it too far? Am I the jerk?

(18:13):
Not the jerk? I would have done the same thing.
But you and your fiance need to be in lockstep
on this, so if he is or starts hedging, don't
go through with the wedding until you are both on
the same page. You need to get these boundaries in
place now because mother in law will be a nightmare
if you have kids, if you don't already, This is
the easiest, not the jerk ever. One, this isn't her wedding. Two,

(18:37):
she isn't paying for anything, let alone the dress. Three
she seems like a confrontational person to begin with. Time
to have fun at your wedding without half a worry
about her ruining it by being there. Lie about your
natural hair color, have fun with an awful dye job.
My wife twenty two female and I twenty two male,
got my little sister who's twelve, some semi permanent red

(18:59):
hair for Christmas. She really wanted it and was really
looking excited to using it on herself and her cousins.
The hair dye is bright red assuming you're light blonde
or bleached, but sister has dark brunette hair, so the
dye becomes a dark burgundy on her. Everything that follows
is what she told me. I wasn't there for any
of it. Sister brought her hair dye to family Christmas

(19:20):
at Grandma's so she could share it with our plethora
of cousins. One of our cousins, Anna, who's sixteen, is
pretty entitled. She's a compulsive liar and a manipulator. I
keep my audio recording app handy on my phone when
I'm around her. Should I have to use it? Because
I don't trust her? Anna asked sister to have her
hair dyed. Anna obviously has had her hair bleached to

(19:42):
a medium light her light blonde. Sister asked, Anna, is
your hair bleached or dyed? If it is, then it's
going to turn out really bright and look crazy. Anna
said no, what ha, this is my natural hair color.
This is where the malicious compliance comes in. Sister and
my other cousins share a knowing look before getting to work.

(20:02):
After they let the paste sit for a reasonable amount
of time, they wash it out. Instead of pretty mauve
accents like in sister's hair, the back of Anna's hair
looks like a bright, clowny, patchy mashup. Anna's response, my
kid you not, was to look surprised and say, oh, yeah,
I did bleach my hair. I totally forgot this wasn't
my natural hair color. At this moment, Anna's mother came

(20:24):
in and was not happy. Anna wanted to take even
more dye from my sister to try and even out
the clown hair she had given herself, but Anna's mom
stood up for my sister and wouldn't let her take
any more. This dye is only semi permanent, but it
will still take ten to fifteen shampoos to be fully
washed out. I only learned all this because I took
my sister out on a breakfast date after New Year's

(20:46):
I was worried that Anna had bullied sister into using
as much hair dye as she did. When I asked
about it, it turns out sister just wanted to let
Anna pay for her obvious lie. Edit to clarify some things. Okay,
so it seems like some things are being missed or misunderstood.
I had nothing to do with any of the actual
malicious compliance. I simply got my little sister the gift

(21:06):
she asked for. I didn't dye anyone's hair, and I
didn't record any of this. I'm retelling my sisters and
other cousins retelling of the events. I'm not recording any
video or audio of every interaction I have with Anna.
In fact, I don't even see her that much. I
mostly avoid her. For those of you accusing me of
being a creep and calling this a self report, that's

(21:26):
a new one for me. Not totally sure how to respond,
other than saying, read this story in to end. Maybe
you're missing something. A lot of people are saying I
made this up. I did not. I saw parts of
this as it happened, and my sister filled me in
on the rest. A couple of you were judging me
for being married at twenty two and even rooting for
a future divorce in the comments. My wife and I

(21:46):
are currently very happy, but I will let you guys
know if divorce ever comes. Neighbors have been using my
driveway to access their property. I bought a house with
a very weird driveway situation. The previous owner owned two
houses next to each other, sold one to me and
kept the other. My property has two driveways, one on
the north for a detached garage and one on the

(22:08):
south for my house. Their property has no driveway of
its own to connect to the street, so when the
previous owner sold the place, he drafted an easement for
them to use the northern driveway only. My southern driveway
also connects to the neighbor's property and they have a
four car paved section that they park their cars on.
They access this by using my house's driveway not covered

(22:28):
by an eeseseman, so no maintenance agreement for their use.
I didn't want to cause problems with the neighbors right
off the bat, so I let them continue to use it.
They use it three times as much as I do.
He seems pretty put off that he could no longer
park cars on my property, but was thankful to use
the driveway since if I didn't allow it, he would
be down four parking spaces. They are tenants. The owner

(22:50):
and previous owner of my house is a jerk who
has four families in a four bedroom house. There's twelve
cars four of which are inoperable, three boats, one of
which is the landlord's, and a motorcycle between them. This
guy has real angry issues though he constantly speeds through
my driveway, going backwards between my parked cars. I asked

(23:11):
him to please slow down, and he agreed, but he
can't help himself. Recently, he's also started parking his cars
on my property when the street sweeper is coming through.
I have tenants renting rooms who are concerned about the
noise and the safety of their vehicles. I'm tired of
feeling on edge. Last weekend, he absolutely floored it down
my driveway, peeling out. I got mad and put a

(23:32):
planter in the driveway to block it off. He lost it,
moved the planters and continued on. He came at me
absolutely rapid. His wife came out and started going off
on me. I tried to de escalate and told them
that I'd be putting in a fence in a week
to block it off to give him time to figure
out a parking solution. They can still use the north
driveway covered by the easement. He's upset because he felt

(23:55):
entitled to keep using my private driveway, and now he's
flooring it every time he comes and goes. I'm in
fear for my tenants vehicle safety as well as my
own physical safety, as this guy is clearly unstable. I'm
tired of feeling taken advantage of by their use and
so disrespected by his behavior. I feel I have no
choice but to stand up for myself in this situation.

(24:16):
I've been beyond patient, but I need to act if
his behavior is scaring my tenants. I also have mild
PTSD from living next to a house where I experience
similar aggressive behavior daily. I'm fearful of what might happen
next weekend when I build the fins. Should I call
a friend to come over and help, what would you do?
I would definitely have at least one friend there when

(24:37):
putting up the fins. Also record video of it in
case problems come up during the build, Put up a
no trespassing sign, immediately install cameras facing that driveway and
anywhere else appropriate in case they retaliate against the vehicles
that park there legally, or if he tampers with the fins.
You can also use them to enforce trespassing charges. Document

(24:58):
every interaction with this neighbor in case you need it
for later, for instance, if you need to get a
restraining order. Good luck. Karen tried to control my diet,
so I kicked her out. My friend Jin got laid
off a couple of months ago. She's currently staying with
me to save money until she finds a new job.
Jen believes her being overweight has caused her to have

(25:19):
low confidence, which then caused her to lose her job. Therefore,
she decided to go on a diet to lose weight.
I'm in full support of her decision, as I've figured,
regardless of her reasons, it can't be wrong to lose
weight and be healthy. Jen downloaded an app that tells
her what to eat and what to not eat, and
she is not supposed to eat candy and other sweets.

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I like sweets, but to support her, I've stopped having cakes, milkshakes,
et cetera at home. The only sweets I have at
home are candies. She said to me that candies were
too enticing to her and I should get rid of them.
But I need candies. They helped me concentrate while I'm working.
I work from home, and candies have been part of
my diet for years to accommodate her needs. I told

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her that I would not eat candies in front of her,
and I would keep my candy in my bedroom, which
she should not have access to. She got upset, saying
I was not being a supportive friend. But I said
I was being supportive as I have made enough accommodations
to make sure that no foods forbidden by her diet
were accessible or visible to her. She was still pouting

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this morning. When I came back from my daily run,
I found her in my bedroom searching for stuff. I
asked her what she's doing. She said she needed to
find my junk foods and throw them away. This was
completely unacceptable to me. For one, we agreed when she
moved in that she should not enter my bedroom without
my permission. I don't have a big apartment and my

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bedroom is the only place where I can have some privacy,
and she breached that agreement. And two, I do not
believe she has the right to throw away any of
my belongings. At this point, I told her if she
couldn't respect my space and my routine, which do not
affect her, she needed to leave. She threw a fit,
accusing me of abandoning her. At her most difficult time.

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But I explained that I wasn't kicking her out for
no reason, and that she's welcome to stay, but she
would need to respect my boundaries. Am I the jerk?
Here update? Thank you everyone for your comments. I really
appreciate your insights. After our argument, this morning, Jen went
somewhere to clear her head. She just returned and we
had a conversation. She asked me if I really wanted

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to kick her out. I said not exactly. My intention
was mainly to remind her of my boundaries, but if
those boundaries keep being breached, I would really need her
to leave. She said she understood, but she realized that
her staying here for too long would jeopardize our friendship,
and she would not want that. She will find another
solution to her living situation, not the jerk in any way.

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You were nice enough to host your friend while she
tries to get back on her feet. You are also
kind enough to accommodate her requests about junk food in
common and shared spaces. The violation of your privacy by
going into your room in and of itself would be
enough to kick her out. This is on her op.
Thank you, She wasn't happy when I told her that
she couldn't enter my bedroom without asking, because before she

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moved in, she was allowed to do whatever she wanted
when she visited me. But it's different this time. She
basically lives here. Now I need to set some boundaries
to protect my privacy. She could not be more wrong
and has completely violated your privacy. What you eat is
none of her business. You actually shouldn't have even given
up what you did cakes and milkshakes. You were too

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nice and that might have been slightly enabling to her
kind of crazy. Part of her weight loss journey is
going to be learning how to live in a world
full of food she chooses not to eat. Also, I
don't believe she was going through your room trying to
throw that stuff out. She was going to eat it,
not the jerk. My boyfriend and my brother lied to
me for eight years context and a very short version.

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When I was seventeen, I was in a relationship with
my twin brother's best friend, Jake. It lasted eight years
till we were all finished with college, and my ex
had gotten enough money off his extremely religious parents to
get a head start in life. If you don't know
where this is going. My brother and Jake were together
the whole time and used me as a cover because
my feelings didn't matter. My brother had been out since

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his teens, which is why they came up with the
idea to use me so his parents wouldn't get suspicious.
My parents were angry with my brother even cut contact
for a year, but they all made up and have
been pushing for us to speak since I refuse to
speak to my brother due to how they dismissed me
when everything came out. Jake literally said, you wouldn't understand.

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I had no other choice. My brother was worse like
I get where Jake was coming from because his parents
are nuts, but I didn't deserve to be treated like that.
It's been five years since everything came out. I'm currently
pregnant with twins with my soon to be husband. My
brother and Jake moved back to our hometown last year.
They have both been trying via my family and friends,

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even coworkers, to get me to talk. My mother begged
me to sit down like an adult and don't let
the past ruin my son's chance at having a relationship
with her uncle. That my grudge I have against my
sibling is ruining our family and my mental health. A
few hours ago, I stopped by for lunch and to
show my parents scan photos. Guess who was there the

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happy couple. I was literally in shock for a few minutes.
Then when my brother tried to hug me, I pushed
him away. I got so worked up I physically couldn't
stop shaking At this. My brother and Jake tried to apologize,
talked about what happened, and begged for a relationship. I
was in tears and begged them to leave me alone.
In the end, my brother handed me a letter and said,

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I really wish things could be different. You're my sister,
my twin. I do love you, and it hurts me
that we don't have each other anymore. So basically I'd
lost it, ripped up the letter screaming that we weren't
family and I just want him to leave me alone.
I walked out after that and had to get a
taxi home because I was too upset to drive. Since then,

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my parents and family members have told me I'm cruel
and bitter and that I need to stop living in
the past and get over it. Hey, guys, I won't
be replying any more because I'm very emotional and don't
feel well, not due to anyone in this sub You're
all amazing, but someone gave my brother my number, and
with my family's non stop calls, I'm going to have
to turn my phone off for my own sake. And

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before anyone asks, my fiance said in the family group,
if anyone shows up at our home, they'd better hope
the cops get there before he answers the door. I'd
like to answer a few questions A lot of people
keep asking before I go. After eight years, why didn't
you see any signs? Basically, my brother and ex were
always close, and I obviously never thought that they'd do

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something like that to me, Like your brother is meant
to protect you from the bad guys. What kind of
relationship did you and Jake have? We lived together for
two years and we did everything a normal couple does,
so I hope that clears up a lot of curiosity.
Why are you more angry at your brother than Jake.
I will never forgive Jake, but I did and still do,

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pity his situation with his parents. The reason I'm more
angry at my twin brother should be obvious. What do
you plan to do with your parents. As of now,
I will go no contact till my babies are born
and at least three months old, so I can be
in the right head space. Are you in therapy? Yes?
It helped me love myself again and trust people. I'm
in a way better place than I was a few

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years ago. Not that jerk. I feel sorry for Jake
with his parents, but what he and your brother did
to you is horrible. They betrayed your trust, both as
a romantic partner and as a sibling. If they had
told you the truth at age sixteen, you might have
even offered to be a cover, but instead they chose
to lie to you for eight years. No one, not
your brother, not your parents, No one gets to determine

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when you should be over it. You are not obliged
to accept any apology ever, and tell your parents if
they can't respect your feelings and your decision, they will
no longer be part of you or your children's lives.
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