Karen Invites Me Over For Dinner... Demands I PAY BEFORE LEAVING! - Reddit Stories - Reddit Stories Podcast - Mr. Redder

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story we'll be reading today.
Karen invites me over for dinner, then demands I pay
her for it. After that, am I the jerk for
not letting my miracle baby niece be the flower girl?
And after that, greedy owner tries to rip off my
friend ends up paying him double Now for every thumbs

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up this video kits one. Karen does not get to
make anyone pay her for dinner. These groceries don't buy themselves,
you know. So please smash that like button, then subscribe
and turn on notifications for news stories from Reddit. Every
single day, Karen invites me over for dinner, then demands
I pay her for it. Typing this out sounds insane,

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and I really don't think I'm in the wrong, but
I need to know. A friend invited me to a
dinner party at her house a few weeks ago. The
actual dinner party was last night. I asked if I
should bring anything, but she said no, it's not a potluck.
She'll be making dinner for everyone. There were seven of
us in total, and the food was good. During the meal,
we were all laughing and called our friend the dinner

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host a chef, because she made a big dinner for
all of us, and we all said how much we
appreciated it because it's hard to get everyone together at
the same time. At the end of the dinner, we
all help her clean, We did the dishes, and we
had some wine. It started getting late, so people started
to head out, and on our way out, the dinner
host said, don't forget to Venmo cash apple zell me.

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Some of us were confused because we had no idea
that we had to send her money. So I asked
what am I sending you money for? And she said
a cooking dinner. Me. I don't understand why we should
pay her because I spent my money and hosted the
dinner and cooked me. None of us asked you to.
You volunteered to do it, and you never mentioned paying

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until now. I didn't do this for free. Me. You
should have told us before you hosted that you expected this.
I don't think it's fair to just bring this up
and expect people to pay. She called me a jerk
and said again that she didn't spend hours cooking, grocery
shopping for free. I've never heard of this like ever,
we kept arguing, and after a while I just venmoed

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her the forty dollars she asked for. I don't think
i'm the jerk at all, and some of my friends
agree with me. Some have said that it's normal to
pay for dinner during a dinner party at someone else's house,
so now I'm not sure atit. A lot of you
asked what she made, and it was some salad that
I've never heard of. The main course was smoked Guda
mashed potatoes with beef short ribs, a dessert I forgot

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the name of. I think she said she bought this
from a bakery. She also made vegan mashed potatoes and
vegan ribs for one of our friends who's vegan. She
also made or bought chicken skewers as the appetizer, even
though she said not to bring anything. I brought rum
cake from my local bakery, and yes, everyone brought something small.
We also had charcuterie and cheeseboards that two of the

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girls brought, Some girls brought wine, and we even had
one girl bring candles to set the mood. We're in
the US and none of us are European. I spoke
with some of the others, and although they had paid
for a dinner party before, it was at least discussed first.
No one has ever done what this friend did, which
was sprung up on us and an unexpected cost. All
of us are in our early thirties. The group chat

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is going crazy right now because everyone is upset with her,
not the jerk. What your friend did was extremely scummy.
She invites all these people to dinner that she's making
no mention of pain before and after this, and then
when everyone is done eating and finished cleaning, out of
the blue, she expects everyone to give her money. If
I was expected to pay for dinner without knowing until

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after I ate, I would have skipped the dinner entirely
cut contact with this friend. She shouldn't be hosting dinner
parties if she's going to pull stunts like this. Some
have said that it's normal to pay for dinner during
a party at someone else's house. No, this is not normal.
It's normal at restaurants, but at someone's house this ain't normal.
And it's sure isn't normal to wait until after the

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dinner was eaten and everyone helped clean up. Forty dollars
is a bummer, But in the long run, it's a
small price to pay to learn that your friend is tacky, cheap,
has bad manners, and has no social intelligence whatsoever. Consider
it part of the cost of doing business as an adult,
and handle your relationship with her in the future accordingly.
You're the jerk. She has a house, it's up to

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you to pay her mortgage, taxes and utilities. Oh that's
a joke. Am I the jerk for not letting my
miracle baby niece be the flower girl? I'm twenty seven female.
My older brother and sister in law, both in their
mid thirties, just welcome their first kid a year and
a half ago after years of trying. After many failed attempts,

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sister in law was told that she wouldn't be able
to conceive due to a medical condition she has. They
finally got pregnant. Since having my niece, the baby has
been the center of attention at every family event we've
had since she was born, Birthdays, weddings, family get togethers now.
Don't get me wrong, I love my niece, but it
can get to be a little too much when my

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sister in law goes on and on about how long
they tried to conceive complications they had, et cetera, like
a little too much info. Many family members have commented
on how it's a bit excessive, but no one has
said anything because they don't want to sound like a jerk. Anyway,
I'm getting married in the spring, and my brother and
sister in law approached me last weekend about having my

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niece be the flower girl. Now. My fiance, thirty five male,
has two kids, a son who's ten and a daughter
who's six, from his previous marriage. His son is one
of his groomsmen, while his daughter had asked to be
our flower girl when we told them the news that
we were getting married a year ago, as it's something
she's always wanted to do, so of course we said yes.

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So I explained this to my sister in law when
she asked me about my niece. She asked if my
stepdaughter can just carry my niece with her. I said,
I don't think she'd be comfortable with that, considering she's six.
She then asked why I can't just give that role
to my niece and allow herself to carry my niece
down as the flower girl. I said no, because I
already promised my stepdaughter. She then started going off about

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how my lack of effort to incorporate my niece is
disgusting to her. I should honor her in some way
since I know how long and hard they tried for
my niece. Now, I may sound like a jerk for this,
but I kind of got fed up and I snapped
and said, incorporate my niece. How by the time the
wedding comes around, she'll be two years old. The entire
family already knows your story about how long and hard

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you guys tried for her. What more do you expect
me to do to honor her. She started crying and
said that clearly I don't love my one and only
niece and I'm letting her down. I said, of course
I love my niece, and obviously she's going to be
involved in pictures and stuff, but I'm not going to
let my stepdaughter down by giving my niece a role
she's too young to remember anyway. Well, now sister in

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law and my brother are upset with me for not
letting my niece be the flower girl and are running
around telling the rest of the family I don't love
my niece. My mom had been trying to stay neutral,
but thinks my stepdaughter would understand if I explained to
her I need to give that role to my niece.
I'm firm in my decision, though, and my fiance is
thankful that I didn't let his daughter down. Am I

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the jerk for not allowing my niece to be the
flower girl? Not the jerk? Let them be upset. If
ever there was a time to take a stand for
your stepdaughter, it's now. Without knowing her story or how
she came to be part of your life, She's six
years old and you've made a commitment to be in
her life. The moment you make it official revolves around
her as much as it does you. You absolutely have every

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right to honor the stepdaughter over the niece, and these
first moments as stepmom are going to cause the ripple
that forms the pond that is your relationship with her
whole life. Trust me, if you back down now and
give her spot away, it's going to ruin more than
just your wedding. Op I one hundred percent agree. I
came from a family with two divorced parents myself, and

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I'll never forget how crappy I felt when at my
dad in stepmom's wedding. I wasn't included in it at all,
yet my younger brother was one of the grooms men.
Having that experience myself, I'd never want my stepdaughter to
feel that way, or that she isn't involved in such
a special day. It just causes so much drama in
the family that it's so unnecessary. Not the jerk, she's there,

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miracle baby, not yours. The fact that they want you
to disappoint your soon to be stepdaughter in order to
make their daughter the focus of your wedding is absurd.
Not the jerk. It is your wedding. I don't know
what gives people this sense of entitlement when it comes
to evince they aren't planning. If you want to compromise
at the age of two, the baby should be walking.

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Maybe they could hold hands and walk. I had both
of my nieces as flower girls who were two and nine.
Greedy owner tries to rip off my friend, ends up
paying him double. My first job out of college was
for a local TV station. The owner was and still
is the worst human being I've ever met. This guy
had money, but he would cheat and lie anything to

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get out of paying his bills. When I started working there.
The owner had just signed a contract with DirecTV to
become part of their broadcast package. Since they were at
the time purely a local TV station, this meant that
we had about two months to upgrade our system so
that we could start broadcasting to Direct TV customers in
the entire Bay area. Every day that we failed to

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do this past the deadline means that the owner would
suffer a penalty per the contract. Not knowing how any
of this works, the owner hired a friend of mine
to come in as a freelance consultant. My friend told
him that for about fifteen thousand US dollars, he can
get a system that will automate the entire process, which,
of course this guy didn't want to pay. He tasked

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my friend with finding a cheaper way around half and
to pay for all of the hardware upfront and get
reimbursed later. Knowing what a jerk this guy is, I
warned my friend not to front the money because he
wouldn't get paid back. The guy just smiled and said
watch me, so he made did work. We went live
on schedule and the owner was happy. Then my friend

(10:04):
went in and presented the guy with the bill immediately,
the usual excuses start, Oh, I'm a little short this month,
can I pay you later? Et cetera. Then my friend
pulled out the trump card. Not only did my friend
threaten to take all the equipment back and take the
station off the air, he reveals that in order to
get the uplink working for cheap, he needs someone to

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come in every day and code the broadcast manually. It's
not a terribly complicated procedure, takes less than five minutes,
but of course no one else at the station knows
how to do it but him. So either the owner
can pay him what he's owed plus a two thousand
dollars a month consulting fee, or the station goes dark
and he starts paying the penalty to Direct TV. The

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jerk paid fast, so instead of fifteen thousand dollars, he
ended up shelling out more than double that amount, as
my friend lapped up his two thousand dollars a month
fee for close to a year before he felt bad
and finally tasks up one there how to do it.
Moral of the story, only thinking about short term gain
will always cost you more in the long run. Am

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I the jerk for avoiding a game? Day I wasn't
invited to. I'm female forty five. My husband, who's forty four,
has a group of friends he occasionally has over for
a day of board games, like an eight to ten
hour stretch. He goes to their houses to do the same.
In the past, I was invited lots of the time,
along with other wives and girlfriends. As we got older

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and kids came along, or for whatever reason, I'm not
invited to participate. No other partners are either. It's probably
been about five or six years. I've known these people
for more than twenty years, and I like them. I
like games too, But whatever, it's his friend group, not mine.
To be clear, I am explicitly not invited to join
in now when he hosts, I try to be out

(11:51):
of the house doing other things. When I'm home, I
go to a different floor of the house and just
hang out by myself. I say hi briefly when I
see his friends, but I do I don't stick around
or have longer conversations. He asked why I'm like this
with annoyance after the last one, he says. One guy's
wife is in the kitchen with them and cooks for
them most of the day. She likes doing that. It's

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not a weird role thing. Another sits with them in chats,
he says it's awkward that I don't do that, and
very clearly avoid the house entirely if I can, and
then that floor if I can't. From my perspective, informed
by a lonely childhood, I have absolutely no interest in
hanging out around the edges of a social thing I'm
not invited to. That seems so sad, pitiful, and desperate.

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I kind of had enough of doing that sort of
thing more than thirty years ago. I'm not invited. How
could I possibly tell if I'm an annoyance or too much,
or affecting the dynamic from what they intended the dynamic
to be by not having partners there. Further, it does
hurt that I had been included and now I'm not.
I really liked them and playing games. I guess that

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wasn't so much mutual. I'm always kind of sad that
I'm not in a marriage where couple friends are a thing.
We're friendly to each other's friends, but he, while entirely welcome,
also isn't interested in hanging out with my friends. Maybe
that's a rare situation. For people. It's not what he wants,
and he has a right to that, but I can
be sad about it. He seems to think I am

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therefore pouting and taking it out on him. I think
if I'm not included, it's crazy that there would be
a problem with me absolutely not being there. So tell me.
Am I being an awkward and rude jerk? Edit to
clarify a few questions, Yes, this has been communicated. Read
the last two paragraphs like a conversation with these words
and details exchanged because it was. Secondly, why I'm not

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included is irrelevant. It's completely acceptable to want to hang
with your friends by yourself, even in a marriage. The
change happened mainly due to ease of playing with a
smaller crowd. It sucks for me, but no one is
being explicitly mean to me by not including me. Third,
I have stuff I'm happy to do on my own.
I have my own friends, and while I get the
nice and tensions, I have no interest in making a

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friend group with the soul shared commonality of our husband's
are friends or excluded spouse spiite game day That seems
extra and sad to me for some reason. Not the jerk.
I would do the same thing. If I were explicitly
not invited to a gathering, I would obviously not hanging around.
It sounds like your husband wants it both ways here.

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He wants you around to chat, et cetera, but you
are explicitly not invited to take part in the entire
reason for the gathering. So I'd consider him the jerk
for complaining when you leave their gathering to which you're
not invited. If anything, I would consider it rude if
I were to hang around when I'm not invited. There's
no gray area. In my mind, your husband seems like

(14:43):
a weirdo. I'm sorry, but all I can hear is
all the other mommies make us milk and cookies while
we play Dungeons and Dragons. Why can't you not the jerk?
There's nothing that says you need to play hostess to
a party you don't get to join. It's the prerogative
of the other wife's a host, But that doesn't mean
anything for you. You can do as you please. Ask

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him why the invites for you to play stopped info?
What exactly does he want you to do? Provide snacks
and then just sit and watch them play for six hours.
If that is the case, then absolutely not the jerk.
How would that be fun for you or comfortable for
his friends. Assuming this takes place on a day off work,
you should get to spend it doing what you want

(15:24):
to relax, just as he is. You're the jerk. Possibly
everyone sucks here, but either way only somewhat mildly. It
is kind of weird that you go to great lengths
to completely ignore the game day group. I'm part of
a game group that alternates between various locations, and in
each place, the family members will occasionally stop by as
they go about their own things. It seems to me

(15:46):
you're hiding out of spite or hurt. None of us
would ever expect our partners to cater to us, So
if this is an exception that you want to get
away from, a healthier way would be to address this directly. Also,
if you're bummed about not getting to play much anymore,
I had encourage you to find or build your own
gaming group. It doesn't have to be with the other spouses.
It seems to me that while you recognize that he

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has the right to do his own thing, you were
nonetheless hurt by being unceremoniously uninvited and have not resolved
this within yourself or with him. Daughter constantly complains to
me about her upbringing. I forty five female, had my daughter, CJ,
who's now twenty eight, when I was seventeen years old.
Her father did not stick around, and we really struggled

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for a bit. Even when I graduated college, I had
a bunch of student loan debt, as well as juggling rent, food,
and other expenses. CJ never lacked necessities, but I admit
she didn't get a lot of material possessions. I would
try to save up as much as possible to make
Christmas and Birthdays as fun as possible, but she didn't
get much else throughout the year, and we only went

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on two vacations total. In her childhood. We definitely ate
a lot of struggle meals and had to move often.
We honestly teetered on the poverty line. When CJ was seventeen,
I was finally debt free, got a promotion at work,
and I was doing much better. I did start to
give her things throughout the year. I used my bonus
to take her to Disney World, somewhere she had always

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wanted to go, but couldn't. It was nice that, after
years of struggling, I could spoil her a little. She
went off to college and in this time I met
my husband, Matthew. We got married and now we have
two kids together, Jack who's five, and Melissa who's six.
With our combined incomes, we live quite comfortably. I admit
Jack and Melissa have gotten a lot more than CJ

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did at that age. I've certainly never left her out.
She's always invited on our trips, we pay for them.
I get her random gifts throughout the year. Birthdays and
Christmases are bigger. I'm trying to make it up as
even as I can, but I know it realistically will
never be. CJ first pointed out the discrepancy a couple
of years ago when we took the kids to Disney.

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CJ went with us. I set CJ down and apologized
for her childhood. I said, I wish I had been
in a better place when she was their age. I
know I can never truly make up for it, et cetera.
I said, I know it'll take time for her to
heal from that. I thought that was it, but since then,
CJ has constantly complained whenever her siblings get anything, I'm

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always super sensitive to her feelings, validate them, et cetera.
But things came to a head recently. On Jack's birthday.
Instead of a party, he opted to see the off
Broadway production of Frozen. We as always invited CJ to
come along, as well as her fiance. The whole night,
she was pouting and seemed upset. I tried talking to her,
but she brushed it off. We went to dinner after

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the show, Jack and Melissa were excitedly talking about it.
CJ then butted in, you know what I got from
my fifth birthday? Jack? A barbie from the dollar store.
The kids didn't really see the big deal, but the
adults at the table understood. I was civil the rest
of the meal, but later I called CJ and told
her what she did was unacceptable. I cannot continuously apologize

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for her upbringing and she can't throw it in my face.
I asked her if she wanted me to give her
siblings less simply because she did. She said no, but
that she can bring it up whenever she wants, and
she'll continue to do so. I said, I was disappointed
and hung off. Later, CJ sent me a very long
text telling me I was a horrible mother. Am I

(19:20):
the jerk? I understand CJ's position. I can't think of
one present I ever received from my parents. Not to
discredit them, because they paid for literally everything in my life,
but I always knew they did their best, and I've
always been grateful. CJ really needs to speak with a
therapist and work on her insecurities. I don't get the
hint from your post that you neglected her while giving

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her siblings more. Not the jerk. I can't understand it
at all. She's twenty eight years old and she's jealous
of a five year old. She wasn't destitute. Her mother
was doing the best she could. She got Christmas and
Birthday presents, Opie, she's being utterly petulant. You've been way
more than kind, acknowledging the difference, including her and being

(20:03):
generous with gifts and holidays. Now, like, how long does
she expect you to grovel? Time for her to grow up?
Not the jerk, for sure. Not the jerk from the
info given she's almost thirty years old and acting like
a petulant child. From what you said, you truly did
your best to raise her in a healthy and happy
home and make sure she felt loved and had fun

(20:24):
things from time to time. It sounds like she resents
your new family with your husband and younger kids, but
life goes on and you include her and all these vacations,
et cetera, and you did the best you could as
a young single mother and build a better financial life
over time and with the help of a stable partner.
It sounds like CJ needs therapy to work through these issues.
She doesn't seem to have any perspective or maturity unless

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there's more to the story. You're the jerk. Guess what.
You can't control how your daughter feels and can't expect
her to just forget her crappy childhood soft You're the jerk.
You can't help that you didn't have the money to
give her a good childhood, But you also can't blame
her for being resentful seeing you showering her younger siblings
with gifts and vacations constantly. There's a chance she's never

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going to completely get over that, and you have to
decide what that means for your relationship. Honestly, I'd ask
your daughter what it would take to make it right,
am I the jerk for refusing to invite my fiance's
sister to our wedding. My fiance, twenty eight male, and I,
twenty seven female, are getting married next year. His family
is Spanish, but all of them speak perfect English. I

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don't speak Spanish at all. When I visit his family,
no one ever switches over to English. They all always
act like I'm not there. They just don't make effort
to include me in their conversations at all. I swallowed
this for years, and I learned to live with it. However,
I can't stand how his little sister, who's twenty seven,
treats me. Here are some examples. One, when we visit

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his family, she always asks my fiance if they can
spend time in two to have some quality sibling time
without me. Since I don't know anybody in Spain, it
just means that they're going out for the whole day
and I just stay alone with their parents who ignore me.
I can't comprehend how people can treat their guests like that.
I would never dream to tell my fiance to stay

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in a room in my hometown because I need some
quality time with my sister. Two. I hate the smell
of cigarettes my nose is sensitive and I just can't
stand it. I never have problems with it in public.
When I smell it, I just move to avoid standing
next to them. His sister smokes, though, and she knows
how much I hate the smell. She was asked many
times to move her smoking elsewhere when I'm present. However,

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she always refused. There were times when we were eating
lunch and she was doing this right next to me,
knowing it disturbs me a lot. When I wanted to
leave the table for five minutes to wait out the smoke,
my fiance was calling me rude. Also, when I was
refusing to sit down next to her, I was apparently
being offensive. Three we were planning a family trip. One day.

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I was talking to my significant other in English when
his sister comes between us and starts talking to my
fiance in Spanish, ignoring my presence completely. He told me
that his sister came and asked him to not bring
me to that family trip, that it will be better
without me, and that I'm not welcome there. I felt
so disrespected that someone can stand in front of me
and say all of these things in other languages, knowing

(23:18):
that I wouldn't understand for there were many moments when
I was having an English discussion with my fiance and
his sister was just coming in and interrupting us without
even hi towards me. She was just starting speaking in
Spanish to my fiance and I was just standing there,
feeling very unwelcome. She advised my fiance to break up
with me. Many times. She was telling his whole family

(23:40):
mean stuff about me, apparently that I'm jealous, toxic, etc.
None of it is true. I was very hurt hearing it,
but I get it. If she felt like it, she
should inform her brother. But not supporting our relationship makes
me not want to invite her to our wedding. More
subtle stuff, but character limit. So now we're preparing a
guest list, I don't want to invite her. I know

(24:01):
I won't have a good time on my own wedding
if she's there. Things she was doing to me were subtle,
but I always felt excluded and bad Am I the
jerk at it? I'm learning Spanish, My current level is
b one. All those situations above happened when I didn't
speak a word in Spanish and I didn't want to
confuse people by saying I know Spanish now. Not the jerk.

(24:22):
You don't have a future sister in law problem, nor
a future in law's problem. You have a fiance problem.
He should be asking family to include you in conversations.
He should be asking his sister to keep away from
you with her cigarettes. He should have your back. He
doesn't put this relationship on hold at the very least,
reconsider it carefully. Not the jerk, But you seem to

(24:44):
have a fiance problem. So what if his sister asks
him to spend the day with her, He can presumably
say no. Also, who cares if his sister says he
should break up with you? Is he defending you making
it clear that he won't entertain that kind of talk
from his sister. Exactly is your fiance doing about these issues? Ope,
he's very defensive about his family. He's very close with them,

(25:07):
and I'm trying not to get in the middle of
their relations. To be honest, I think he never defended
me or asked them to treat me nicer. Last month,
his father visited us, and my fiance told him that
I feel uncomfortable when they speak Spanish all the time,
so I won't be joining them for dinners. Seems like
they were feeling glad I didn't join them. More family
quality time for them. I guess you sound like a

(25:29):
very nice person, but with low self esteem. That's the
only reason I can see why you haven't stood up
for yourself by now and dumped your jerk fiance. And
make no mistake, o Pie, your fiance is a jerk.
His family always excludes you. He does nothing. His family
ignores you, he does nothing, They speak badly about you,
he does nothing. Do you notice a trend here? Your

(25:51):
fiance is not a good life partner. He sounds like
a great son and brother, but as your fiance, the
man gets a failing grade. I'm not sure if he's
your first serious relationship, but this is not a healthy dynamic.
Him letting his family ignore, offend, and disrespect and hurt
you speaks volumes about exactly how much he cares about you. Yes,
he's close to his family, but he can be loving

(26:12):
to them but still firm and demanding that they treat
you better. I don't think your fiance will ever entertain
your suggestion not to invite his sister. You must know
that all that's going to do is he's going to
make you the bad guy in their eyes. Besides, his
sister is not the only problem here. The whole family
disrespects you, and your fiance allows it. Think about that, Op,
really think about what that means. I advise you to

(26:35):
not marry this man as things stand. I knew someone
in a similar situation, and she deeply regrets it. Often
says she wishes she could turn back time and do
things differently. I really hope you reconsider what exactly you're
signing up for with this family. Well, who do you
think is the jerk? OPI or her fiance and his sister.
Please let us know. I'm getting some serious lanister vibes

(26:57):
from fiance and his sister. Wee wee we we we
we Sweet Home, Alabama. Karen Neighbors stole my mail. I
got it back from her. I recently ordered a Mini
Curig coffee maker because I'm moving and would like one
for my apartment. I could not afford one when I
first moved, but I have more money now, so it
was something I really wanted to get. I came home

(27:18):
from work yesterday and expected to see my Curerig, but
it looked like it was not there. I looked at
my security camera and found that someone who I don't
recognize took my Kereig from my front porch. I filed
a report with the Postal Service, but I haven't heard
anything back yet. I have a friend in my neighborhood
and she was hanging out with our neighbor and she
noticed that my cureig was at my neighbor's apartment. She

(27:41):
asked my neighbor if she could deliver it to me,
and my neighbor said no because it was delivered to her,
so therefore it was fair game. This was a lie,
and I told my friend that it was not delivered
to her, rather it was stolen. I was upset and
I went over there to try to get it back,
but she tried to make me pay for it. I
threatened to call the PO because that's really the only

(28:01):
line of defense I knew how to do, and she
ended up giving it back. Now, however, she's not speaking
to me, and my family thinks that I overreacted. I
think it was a bit extreme to threaten to call
the police, but male theft is very serious, and the
cureig was something that I was really looking forward to.
I know I shouldn't care if I look bad, but
my family's reactions make me think that I was in

(28:22):
the wrong. Am I the jerk? Edit? Thank you all
for your nice comments. I honestly wasn't sure if I
was overreacting, but I've realized that I was not. I
will be filing a police report tomorrow and I'm going
to let people know that our neighbor is a thief.
Hopefully it makes a difference, and even if not, I'm
sure that doing this is the right thing. Also, I
decided to open my crerig and I love it. I'm

(28:44):
very glad I got it back. Not the jerk, but
she's a terrible thief to steal and not get rid
of the box with your name on an asap op.
I totally agree that's probably the first thing you get
rid of if you're going to take something. The creig
was still in the box on her kitchen count not
the jerk she stole from you. That's the only point
that matters. Why wouldn't you call the police, especially since

(29:07):
you have evidence that she took it. Don't know what
your family's thinking saying that you overreacted. She stole and
refused to give it back. Therefore, you'd be completely fair
to call the police. OP. I just don't know if
it's worth my time. Because I'm moving, I think it
might still be a good idea, though only because she
could do it again. Am I the jerk for evicting
a family so I can move? In? My life is

(29:29):
kind of an upheaval right now, so I really don't
know if I'm the jerk in this situation or not.
TA because my brother is on Reddit so background. Six
weeks ago, I, twenty seven female, found out that my husband,
who's thirty, has been cheating on me for the past
five years with a few different women. I immediately moved myself
in our kids, who are seven, five and five, to

(29:51):
my parents' house where my brother, who's twenty two, also lives.
Being only a three bedroom, one bathroom house, it's very cramped,
but my parents insisted that I leave my husband. I've
only worked part time for extra cash since the twins
started preschool two years ago, and was a stay at
home mom for five years before that. My husband owned
our house and control our finances. I've realized in all

(30:13):
of this that I own almost nothing, have almost no
work experience, and only have a general studies associate degree.
Had to cut college short because I got pregnant. Suffice
to say that I'm freaking out about how I'm going
to provide for my kids going forward, because I do
plan on divorcing, which brings us to this post. On
top of everything, my grandma passed two weeks ago. She

(30:34):
was very private with our finances, and while we knew
she and my late grandpa made money from renting houses,
she told my mom a few years ago that she
had sold all her rental properties. Come to find out
that she kept two and in her will left one
to me and one to my brother only grandkids. The
one my brother inherited has been vacant for a bit,
but the one I received as a four bedroom, one

(30:55):
and a half bath with a family of six that
lived there, a single mom and five kids. She's a
friend of a friend, so I do know that her
husband passed in twenty twenty. From you know what, as
much as I obviously miss my grandma, the house is
an absolute godsend and I started crying when I found
out about it. I told to my brother and his girlfriend,
who's twenty, how me and the kids can finally get

(31:16):
our life back on track a bit. His girlfriend got
really cold and asked if I was really going to
evict a family when I could just live at my
parents until I get on my feet, especially since my
brother is now going to move into his inherited house
and make more room. And my brother agreed with her,
saying it was selfish. My parents said it's my house
and I can do what I want, but they see
his point and that the family living there could easily

(31:39):
be in the same situation as me. It's been such
an emotional few weeks, so I don't know if I'm
being a selfish jerk or not. Edit. This has only
been up for a little bit, but thank you so
much for the advice and comments so far. It's been
such a whirlwind that I forgot that I just need
to stop and breed sometimes. Thanks anxiety. She's on a
month the month lease for a little under market rent.

(32:00):
I was so focused on the fact that I now
own something other than my fifteen year old vehicle that
I didn't even consider staying at my parents for a
bit after my brother moves out. I recently started a
more full time position, and my kids love their grandparents,
so this makes the most sense. While I tackle all
the legal stuff that's coming my way. I'll talk to
my parents tonight about this route, which would alleviate a

(32:20):
ton of guilt I was already feeling about the possibility
of eviction. Thanks for snapping me out of my own
head for a bit. Not the jerk. Your brother and
sister in law are guilt tripping you. Also, the house
your cheating husband thinks he owns is half yours. Make
him sell or refinance and give you the money, plus
go for alimony and child support. Do all of this

(32:41):
while staying at your parents and collecting the rent from
the home your grandma left you. Now you have cash
an income, and then buy another rental home and start
building a rental empire. Good luck. Support our channel by
joining as a member today and we'll give you a
shout out in our next video. Or come watch this
video next. You will believe what Karen does in that one.

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