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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of Redded podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
My wife is furious that I rented a goat to
mow my lawn. After that, am I the jerk for
telling my husband he ruined my birthday again? And after that,
who told you to do it this way? Now? For
every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen does not

(00:21):
get to stop anyone from renting a goat. So please
smash that like button and subscribe and turn on notifications
for new stories from Reddit every single day. My wife
is furious that I rented a goat to mow my lawn,
So I thirty mail. Hate cutting grass. I can't stand it.
The sound of the lawnmower makes me wish I could

(00:42):
take my ears off like mister potato head and lock
them in a box. It hurts my shoulder. I got
injured in high school and it never healed right. And
I might be the only person in the world who
doesn't like the smell of cut grass and gasoline. This
week was the very first week of the year that
I would need to cut the grass. We live in
a fairly war state and the hoa is very strict
about it. We even have little flags at the front

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of the yard that the grass isn't allowed to get
taller than. So the point is the lawn needs to
be mowed. I don't want to do it. My wife
can't because the last time she mowed a lawn she
tipped it into a lake. Just so happens. I know
a guy who owns a goat, and I offer him
twenty dollars to bring it over to eat the grass
for me. The goat eats the grass, we keep her
away from the neighbor's yards. Goat goes home. It was great,

(01:28):
way better than mowing. Except now my wife is mad
because some of the neighbors saw the goat and they
think it's hysterical that we had a goat doing yardwork
for us. She's upset that I made us look like
weird people in front of all of her friends. I
don't care if they think we're a little weird. I'm
happy to be laughed at if it means saving myself
from the headache inducing sound of a lawnmower. But now

(01:50):
she's making weird comments around the house about getting a
horse to carry groceries or a chicken to clean the
windows since there's no man in the house who can
do it. I didn't expect her to react so negatively
to a goat, But maybe I'm missing something, So was
I a jerk at it? The goat does not violate
the hoa's BS policies. They have strict rules against raising

(02:11):
farm animals. But if say the hoa's president's daughter wants
a pony at her birthday party for a few hours,
that's aoka. Not the jerk. You pick the more environmentally
friendly and adorable option. Your wife needs to stop caring
what the neighbors think and maybe be less extra to
My wife would be thrilled at the prospect of having

(02:32):
a goat to mow the lawn once a week that
she could go pey. I'd also bet his neighbors would
probably be more interested in it when they find out
how little he's paying to have it done. Am I
the jerk for telling my husband he ruined my birthday again? Background?
Today is my twenty eighth birthday. I'm really into birthdays
and holidays and believe in celebrating them to the max,

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and this is well known to everyone. I'm also the
planner and the giver and not only my family, husband
and kids, but my extended family parents, siblings, friends, et cetera.
So I'm the one that plans birthday get togethers, gifts, travel,
et cetera. I'm also a stay at home mom due
to having a son with the complex medical and behavioral needs.
I've been with him twenty four to seven for the

(03:16):
last week as its school break, and he's extremely clingy
and has behavioral problems due to mental illnesses. I also
had an upper respiratory cold during this time, sore throat, fever, cough,
runny nose, earache, but kept up with the mom duties. Nonetheless,
my husband's birthday was last month, and as usual, I
plan something for him weekend in a town a couple

(03:37):
of hours away for us and our kids for my birthday.
I tell him I just want to help with the kids,
the house cleaned, a nap, and him to cook supper
or take me out, maybe a homemade gift from the
kids and a cake. Yesterday, my husband starts complaining of
a sore throat. I check his throat and it looks fine,
no fever or other symptoms. He stays up all night

(03:57):
playing video games. This morning, he's says he's sick, but
has no visible symptoms. No fever, no cough, no runny nose,
doesn't sound like someone with a cold. He says his
throat hurts, but spent an hour on Xbox Live talking
just fine. He naps all day because he says he's sick.
I think it's because he stayed up until four am
playing video games. Meanwhile, I make my own cake, take

(04:20):
care of the kids as usual, and do my usual chores.
He didn't even tell me Happy birthday. Finally, I decided
to take the cake that I made with the kids
to go to my parents' house to have supper there
so I didn't have to cook. I'm pretty crabby at
this point and don't say a word before we leave.
He calls and asks why we left. I tell him
because he ruined my birthday yet again, and I'm trying

(04:41):
to salvage it at least a little, and I hung up.
He called back and said I was overreacting. He's sick
and I'm an adult. Birthdays aren't a big deal anymore
after twenty one. So am I the jerk for wanting
one day to be the receiver instead of the giver
to celebrate myself not the jerk. He sounds considerate and
like he doesn't even like you. Absolutely, and I think

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I have something else to add. There may be some
people who say you don't know how sick he felt
on the inside. I agree he could have been miserable
and needed to sleep. Ohp isn't a doctor, But none
of that matters. I'm a guy. It would take an
insane amount of pain for me to not put together
something for my partner, especially if I knew it was
important to her. It's like when you're exhausted and you

(05:25):
stay up Christmas Eve to put together the presents so
Sanna can give your kids a magical day. You find
the strength from within. Your wife gave birth. You can
do this. Op. I feel sorry for you and hope
you find someone who appreciates you. Honestly, he's also an adult.
If you feel like you're getting sick, even if it's
not visible, you take some naiquill, get in bed at

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a reasonable time and get some sleep, and take a
stupid amount of vitamin C. The next morning, he knew
he had one day out of three hundred and sixty
five to not mess things up for the sake of
his partner and he let his own selfish wants take priority.
He can let himself be sick tomorrow, but today should
have been for OP. And even if he was too
sick that day, he should have said, happy birthday. I'm

(06:09):
feeling awful today. I know it's your birthday and you
deserve a break, and I'd love to give you the
gift you asked for. Could I do that on this
other day once I feel better? It's not that hard.
He just doesn't care. Not the jerk. Not the jerk.
You did your job in communicating what you wanted. The
fact that he did not show any concern for you
shows a lot. Caregivers need care too. You did not

(06:32):
ask for advice, but I want to suggest the following.
Don't bother with his birthday. Make plans on your birthday
with others who are willing to celebrate you. You do
not have to share your plans with him. He's irrelevant.
Birthdays are nothing to him, so your plans don't need
to involve him in any way. Finally, a belated happy birthday.
Parenting is a thankless job, but it sounds like you're

(06:54):
rocking it. Who told you to do it this way?
Being a travel nurse, in the operator room has its benefits,
the pay, the ability to take time off between assignments,
and the bits of malicious compliance that make you feel
warm and fuzzy inside. Been at this hospital for two months.
I've worked with this particular surgeon a handful of times,
but it's always been the same procedure, so I know

(07:15):
what he wants for every step of the case. I'm
about to start applying skin prep, another layer of antimicrobial
security to prevent post stop infection to where the surgeon
is going to operate. He always wants the armpit, front, shoulder,
and chest of the specific site prepped. We're operating on
the patient's right side. They're already asleep and their right
arm is padded and secure it on an armboard before

(07:38):
I start prepping. The scrub tech immediately says you need
to undo their arm so that you can prep the
whole board. I tell them no, the surgeon wants it
prepped this way. The arm stays on the board. This
scrub tech hadn't done this case with this doctor in
quite some time either, but they still decided to explain
how the whole arm should be prepped for this procedure.

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I just ignored them. I begin my prep. Less than
a minute later, the charge nurse comes in to log
into a portable X ray device. US travelers don't often
get credentials for those, and the scrub tech decides to
ask the chargeners how the surgical sight should be prepped
for this case, right in front of me. The charge
nurse backs up the scrub tech and tells me I
should be prepping the whole arm in addition to the

(08:20):
sights that I mentioned earlier. I protested, but the doctor
doesn't want that. He always wants the same area as
prepped and draped accordingly. The charge nurse wasn't budging, and
they demand I unfastened the arm and do it their
way instead. I sigh and say, okay, Hugh, malicious compliance.
I prep the whole arm and am holding it in
my sterile glove while waiting for the drapes and stock

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annett to be applied. All of a sudden, the most
glorious thing happens. The surgeon arrives with the chargers still
in the room. Did you prep that whole arm? He
asked me? Yep, why did you do that? You've been
here two months? How do you not remember the prep
by now, I was told to prep it this way
by who? Who told you to do it this way?

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The surgeon was upset due to this delay. As a traveler,
I've learned to take the heat for making small mistakes,
and I was contemplating taking the fall for this so
that we could just move on with the rest of
the day. But before I could speak, my charge nurse
was actually humble and admitted that they had told me
to prep the whole arm. The doc looked at me,
Did you tell them how I prefer it to be done?

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I did. The doc turned back to the charge nurse
and proceeded to lamb baste her for delaying the case.
The scrub tech just stared blankly at the wall, but
I didn't look or listen. I just stood there, enjoying
the moment with the biggest grin under my mask. It's
a nice day when someone else proves you were right.
Needless to say, I didn't renew my contract at that hospital.

(09:45):
Am I the jerk for leaving my husband alone with
the kids for two days? I twenty four female have
two sets of twins. The first are five year old
sons and the second set are three year old daughters.
My husband, who's twenty seven, always complains that the house
up to his standards and that it's a mess, or
that I sometimes put on frozen meals instead of cooking
us a fresh dinner. It's super irritating because I'm expected

(10:08):
to do everything just because I work from home. He
thinks that I have an easier job than his, since
his is physical labor. I can never do anything because
when he has time off, all he wants to do
is sleep and says he needs it because he's exhausted
from work, or he wants to use his break to
hang out with his friends. So basically, all the chores
are usually thrown on me, and I've had enough of it.

(10:30):
And that came to show when my friend called me
to hang out, and when I asked my husband to
watch them so I could go, he went into a
rant about how he's tired and he's been working all
week and the least I could do is watch the
kids so that he could get some rest because I'm
home all day with easy work. So I decided, and
after I put the kids to sleep that night, to
leave a note saying that I'm going to have a

(10:51):
night out with the girls. Which ended up turning into
a weekend out with the girls. When morning time came,
he was calling and texting me NonStop, and when I
am he was yelling at me and going off on me.
And when my friends heard the conversation, they were shocked
and hung up the phone from me and told me
to mute it. I didn't have any plans to stay
any longer than that night, but when my friends overheard

(11:12):
how my husband was talking, they convinced me to stay
and even told me they'd take me out to eat
and planned a whole day for me. When I got back,
the place was a complete and utter mess, like pile
full of dishes, garbage all over the place. Floors were sticky,
the bathrooms were very dirty. My husband, of course, was
angry and had a suitcase already packed. He barely said

(11:33):
two words to me and just left and texted me
saying he'll be staying at his mom's now. I feel
horrible because clearly he couldn't handle taking care of the
kids for this long by himself, and I feel like
a jerk, and I don't want this to ruin my marriage.
Do you all think I'm a jerk for the way
I acted? Not the jerk, but, honey, ruin this marriage.
You work full time and take care of four kids

(11:55):
under six, cook, and keep the house clean full time.
He expects to come home to a home cooked meal,
sleep when he's home, hang out with his friends. This
is not a marriage, it's a joke. He's providing you
zero support and then whining when asked to help at
all or when things aren't perfect. It doesn't matter if
your job is easier or not. It's probably not easier,
just different. He's not entitled to mooch off of you, Honey,

(12:18):
forget this. You can do it on your own. OHP
is basically a single mom already with extra work. It's
amazing the amount of housework a single adult can create
when they're not putting any effort into cleaning up after
themselves and demanding home cooked meals. Working full time plus
all of the housework, plus the at home child care
for four kids, yeesh, that's going to exhaust anyone. She

(12:42):
can lighten the load by decreasing the number of people
making a mess and requiring mental and emotional upkeep. Not
the jerk. I don't know what your husband does, but
you have four kids in that house. Unless he's springing
for a maid and or a nanny. You're working sixteen
hours to his aid, assuming you both get eight hours
of sleep. I'll bet you don't. You may love him,

(13:03):
but he clearly doesn't respect the effort you're putting in.
Not the jerk, and I hope you divorce your sorry
excuse for a husband. I'm divorced, and just about all
of my friends are. I encourage as many women as
possible to divorce their husbands because the truth is, we
can do a much better job of raising our kids
without them. Take, for instance, something my husband used to

(13:23):
do that drove me crazy. He always tried to get
our son to play sports like football and baseball. He
always said how important it is for boys to grow
up competing with others, to build camaraderie and get exercise
and confidence. Keep in mind, at the time we were
talking about a nine year old. Fortunately, I convinced my
son early on that sports are honestly a total waste

(13:45):
of time and there's so much more to life than
throwing around a dumb ball. Now my son is thirteen,
and he knows almost more about fashion than I do.
His father can't stand it, but Eventually he gave up
trying to take him camping, hunting, fishing, and all that
useless crap that most of these idiots insist on teaching
their sons. I even got the courts to reduce his

(14:05):
custody because I prove that he basically forced my son
to go hiking with him when all my son wanted
to do was watch YouTube videos and talk to his
friends online. Don't waste years of your life with a
useless manchild living in your house like I did, find
a good lawyer and do it fast. Am I the
jerk for expecting my boyfriend's parents to treat my daughter
the same as his daughters. I, thirty seven female, have

(14:29):
been dating Martin thirty nine, for what will be two
years this June. I have a daughter, Scarlet, who's ten,
and he has two daughters, Miley, who's thirteen, and Joanna,
who's twelve. I'm a single mother to Scarlet. Her father
sends me maintenance each month, but has never been an
active parent and has never met Scarlet. I also grew
up in care, so I have no family or anything.

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Whereas Martin is divorced and shares custody with his ex wife.
Their custody agreement is very flexible, with the girls sometimes
staying with him or their mom longer, or often spending
time with both parents together. It really bothered me a
lot that he was still good friends with his ex wife,
and Martin said if I couldn't handle the fact he
could co parent well and be amicable with his ex,

(15:10):
then he would end things. I like to think I
got over my jealousy and that the girl's mother and
I get on anyway. Since we've been dating a while
and have started discussing potentially living together, I think it's
only really fair that Scarlett is more involved and treated
the same as Martin's daughters by his parents. She met
them for the first time a few months ago and
has since seen them a few times, but she's treated

(15:32):
virtually like a stranger. At Christmas, Miley and Joanna were
spoilt rotten. They got money, gifts, toys, gift vouchers, and makeup.
All they got Scarlet was an embroidered blanket thing Martin's
mother spent weeks knitting, apparently with her name on it,
two gift vouchers, and a doll. They'll take Martin's girls
for overnight sleepovers, but my kid is excluded, they say,

(15:55):
because they don't know her that well and are uncomfortable
looking after her. For now. They'll buy Joanna and Miley's
sweets or little trinkets and give them a couple of
pounds here or there every so often, but as for Scarlet,
they might only give her one thing and that's it.
It's not fair for Scarlet. The last straw was when
his parents asked if we would all like to go
to Disneyland, Paris and Easter with them. They offered to

(16:17):
pay for Martin the girls and said they could pay
for part of mine in Scarlet's travel expenses, but that
I'd have to pay the rest. I lost it, and
I told Martin he needs to tell his parents to
treat Scarlet like his girls are treated. It's not fair
to her that she has to watch her sisters being
spoiled and she isn't, he lashed out. In returned and said,
my parents have been nothing but accommodating to Scarlet by

(16:38):
including her in things and getting her stuff at Christmas
and so on. He said, I'm incredibly selfish to expect
his parents to treat my daughter, who they barely know,
the same as their grandkids. He said that I'm bitter
and jealous, and it's not like we're married or living together.
He used the example of the blanket being a really
sweet gift that shows how much his mother cares. He
also said it's perfectly reasonable for his parents to expect

(17:01):
me to pay for my own kid to go to Disney,
and that my parents don't need to pay anything at
all for us. He also said I'm raising my daughter
to not learn the value of the word no, and
that she can just be expected to get whatever she wants.
He also said that Joanna and Miley are not Scarlet sisters.
It's never been emphasized they were, and they do not
view Scarlet as that. He said that I need to

(17:23):
get my button gear and realize nothing is being done
to discriminate against or exclude Scarlet. Am I the jerk edit.
I view Joanna and Miley as bonus daughters, hence why
Scarlett calls them her sisters. Joanna and Miley do not
view me as a mother figure in any way. Only
is Dad's a girlfriend. It really hurts, but I don't

(17:44):
think I'm being pushy or anything. I just think of
us as a blended family unit. Whereas Joanna and Miley
have said, I'm just the woman their dad is dating,
and Scarlet is nothing to them family wise. I've tried
to get them to involve her whenever they're doing stuff,
and they outright refuse, so they say that they are
only tolerating her. Martin has chewed me out about this before,

(18:04):
claiming I'm trying to insert my daughter in the friendship
groups and activities of his daughters, and it greatly upsets
Scarlet because she just wants to be included. She doesn't
have a lot of friends, and I want Joanna and
Miley to be her friends. I have no family, and
Scarlett's father's family isn't involved. I've always tried my best
to spoil her myself, but it seems only fair since

(18:24):
we're part of Martin's family now that she's treated the
same as Joanna and Miley, you're the jerk. It sounds
like they're trying. They're giving her thoughtful gifts and offering
to help pay for you and Scarlet to go to Disney.
That's pretty generous considering you're not married and they only
met Scarlett a few months ago. Frankly, you sound ungrateful
and grabby demanding that they treat her like an instant

(18:45):
grandchild and lavish gifts upon her. It's also rather telling
that you say their grandkids were spoiled rotten by their
grandparents at Christmas. It reeks of jealousy and makes me
wonder why you want someone to spoil your daughter rotten
too exact also to add that if you keep treating
your boyfriend like this, you probably won't be around that
much longer. Anyway, you're the jerk. To be fair, op

(19:09):
has never experienced a real family of her own. OPI,
it genuinely sounds like you don't know what it's like
to be in a family that is more than just
you and your daughter. Now you're dating someone who has
a wonderful family life of his own, and you want
that so badly that you're not taking the proper steps
to get there. You and your boyfriend don't even live together,
and you aren't married. You're trying to insert yourself and

(19:30):
your daughter as though you're all family, but you aren't yet.
I absolutely understand wanting that family life for yourself and
your daughter, but this is not the way to get it.
It's too soon. His parents are being generous towards your
daughter while still respecting the fact that she isn't actually
their granddaughter. She hasn't even a step granddaughter. Yet, Imagine
how your daughter will feel if they jumped in and

(19:50):
treated her as they treat their granddaughters, and then you
and Martin broke up. The loss for your daughter would
be devastating. Your boyfriend has a wonderful family, and you
owe him a apology. You need to explain to him
that you simply haven't ever had that experience, and you
realize now that you've been unfair and over zealous in
your desire to be part of what he has, then
back off. I won't call anybody a jerk, because I

(20:12):
don't think it's your fault that you don't know how
to properly make a family, but you need to change
your approach in a big way before this family becomes
part of your past. You're the jerk. I can't imagine
an adult saying all they got my daughter was a
super thoughtful knit blanket and three other gifts. That's a lot.
They absolutely don't have to pay anything for your trip

(20:33):
to Disneyland. What is your deal? Are you using Martin
and his family for their wealth? I hope your daughter
is more grateful than you are. You don't upload until
I tell you to upload, alrighty, then going to try
to be as vague as I can since I still
work here. So this happened many many years ago, and
the main character is actually someone else, but most of

(20:54):
the staff knew the details of what happened. So first
some background. This company has a production process and there
are cycles of this process throughout the shift. At the
end of each cycle, you do an upload, not the
actual thing. This upload has to be coordinated across multiple
work teams, and the person who does it has plenty
of other duties, but this is one of the most

(21:14):
important ones. Let's call this person's job title upload operator,
and I'll call the person rockstar. If this isn't done correctly,
it can really slow down or even stop production. So
the upload operator is typically pretty tenured and on the
trajectory of being promoted at this company. When we get
new members of management, either external or internal, from a

(21:35):
non production role, it's not unusual for them to go
through a phase I personally like to refer to as
knowing just enough to be dangerous or dangerous phase. For sure,
we had a new manager joined the company let's call
him Beavis, and they were assigned to night Shift, which
had become quite reliant on Rockstar in the interim. So
Bevis went through a humble phase initially, and everyone really

(21:58):
liked them and thought they would do well. Now Beavis
had actually taken a step or two down from their
previous role at another company, wanting to do something less stressful.
I only mention this because it seemed to fuel the
hubris that was ultimately beavis demise. So once Beavis reaches
the dangerous phase, the change from humble Newby to overcompetent

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Jackwagon was jarringly sudden. One evening, Rockstar is doing what
they do and one work team was struggling to be
ready for the upload. Now this happens sometimes, but it's
one of the only teams that doesn't necessarily stop production
if they don't upload on time. Nevertheless, Beavis freaks out
on Rockstar for uploading without them, and as Rockstar is

(22:38):
trying to explain that we had to upload, Beavis tells
them that they don't upload until Beavis tells them to upload, period.
End of discussion. Do you understand me? Cute malicious compliance?
The rest of the shift, Beavis is paying zero attention
to the operation. Not sure why they thought that was
a good idea after such a contentious exchange, But here

(22:59):
we are. All night long, team leads were calling Rockstar
asking what was going on and why we hadn't uploaded
so we could go on to the next cycle. Rockstar
just kept saying I'm waiting for Beavis to let me
know we can upload, and all night long, Beavis was
blissfully unaware of the crap storm he had initiated. Towards
the end of the night, Beavis finally decides to take

(23:20):
a look at some operational dashboards and realizes something is
really wrong. Now this situation might have resulted in Rockstar
getting in trouble, possibly even losing their job, if not
for the bonehead decision that Beavis makes. Once they've realized
what had happened, they shut down the shift and went
home without notifying anyone of the debacle or telling the
night shift employees that they would need to come in

(23:42):
the next day to finish the week's work that didn't
get done because of him. When the day shift came
in and were told they would have to come in
on a weekend, there was a lot of backlash. Rockstar
was ultimately told don't ever do that again, but was
also immediately promoted to Beavi's position when Beavis was terminated.
Post haaste, security tells me, no, okay, it's no I

(24:05):
work for a subsidiary of a fortune five hundred as
a manager of a dev team. I have seven people
under me. Think l three people very knowledgeable and driven
to solve issues. We're all remote. I'm lucky. My team
is mostly great and we achieve the objectives that we're given.
One day, the new security manager decides that devs are
not allowed to be administrators of their laptops. He writes

(24:27):
a new company policy for it. It's a crap show
for us. It means my team can't work on some
applications that require administrative rights. Also, as devs know, some
bugs need my guys to install, de install, and reinstall
the applications many times to make it work, changing only
a few parameters each time. So I try to push back,

(24:48):
saying it might impact our service level agreements, but the
security manager doesn't want to understand and just sends me
emails with no in bold caps. His boss is outright
now for health reasons but I can't escalate as I
would have. The only way to make my guys work
is that we need someone with the admin rights to
unlock them when they need it. That admin is part

(25:08):
of the support center, so Q malicious compliance. I ask
my team to create a ticket each time they're not
happy about it. Of course, the support center manager isn't
happy either, because we create a lot of tickets and
his team had been understaffed for a while. I also
tell all the other managers in my department to do
the same, and even though they create a lot less
tickets than my team, it helps. Of course, this is

(25:31):
my plan. If my team is unhappy, other people in
the company are going to be two, so pressure piles up.
The support center manager is unhappy. His boss saw the
number increases too, so he's unhappy too. He talks to
my boss, But hey, I have emails from the security manager.
The support center manager asks me to be reasonable and

(25:52):
asks for a number of hours per week. I'm a
team player, of course, so yes, I want to help them.
I ask for twenty hours a week for a guy
from his team to sit around waiting for my team
to need him unlock their install and then wait some more.
I'm guessing the admin is pretty happy about it because
it's way less pressure than his normal job and there's
not much to do but type in an admin password

(26:14):
once in a while. It helps reduce or not increase
the number of tickets, but the support center has less people,
so they resolve tickets less than before. Then comes the climax.
One application has a critical bug outside of the hours
of support center guy, so I tell them as per
my agreement with the support center manager, and obeying the
security manager, my team can't work on it yet. We'll

(26:36):
have to wait until the next day. It's a healthcare product,
so it means a lot of our customers are going
to be upset about it. Can't say too much, don't
want to be found of course, I'm a reasonable guy.
The support center manager is too, so we find someone
with admin rights and put my guys to work. The
resolution of the ticket takes much longer than usual to
solve because of all the back and forth between the

(26:57):
admin and my team. During the post mortem, it's found
that the new security policy was the main delaying cause.
Every member of my team told the post mortem woman
that as I did, I have all the emails I
sent to the security manager highlighting the risks of this
new policy and him saying he didn't care for it.
I sent that to the post mortem as well and
let her find her way into the politics. Three months later,

(27:20):
the security manager doesn't work for us anymore, and most
members of my team, but not all, have admin rights
on their machine. I learned that the support center manager
had made his mission in life to complain about the
security manager to everyone who would listen and to have
him fired. And the support center manager knows a lot
of people in the company. His director agreed with him

(27:40):
and with the post mortem woman or her boss not
sure at that point. They convinced the VP to fire
the security manager, even before the security director came back
from his health issue. My fiance demands I set up
a trust fund for her kids. I'm forty six mail,
my fiance is forty five female, and my ex is
forty two. My ex wife and I are in great

(28:03):
terms and throughout and after our marriage, we've been creating
a trust fund for our boys, who are nineteen and sixteen,
and they can do what they want with it when
they're twenty four. I have my company that has skyrocketed
since I started it over twenty five years ago due
to the need for it in the technological world, and
it is branched throughout the US. So our boys and

(28:23):
my ex wife have been very well off and they'll
all be taken care of if I pass. Since I
don't plan on changing my will yet, everything goes to them.
Our sons are very much interested in taking over the company,
and they are both working part time in the lower
jobs to be able to get a feel for the company.
The oldest is currently getting his degree, while my youngest
is working hard in private school now. My fiance also

(28:47):
has two boys from her last marriage who are twenty
and eighteen, and she has never been on good terms
with her ex. She was only married to him for
about four years and then became a single mother working
various jobs, and her boys usually stayed with her mom.
We got engaged about three years ago and lockdown came
and pushed the wedding back well. Her oldest has been

(29:07):
having some disagreements with the law and dropped out of
community college and is currently working part time at a store,
and her youngest has been really struggling with school since
lockdown and seems to be on something. My oldest son
has recently been staying at our guest house for the
last three days and has been telling great stories of
his UNI and how much he enjoys his classes and

(29:27):
experience and he can't wait to start working side by
side with me. After he went to bed for the night,
my fiance pulled me aside and asked if I could
create a fund for her boys like I have for mine.
I told her no, that I posted bail for her
oldest and he doesn't even seem to have a plan
for his life, and her youngest said he was never
going to college because he hates school and he's going

(29:49):
to be a marine. She got upset with me, saying
that she wasn't able to provide for them like I
have for my boys, and they were given different tools
for success and it wasn't fair that they all be
my step sons and I need to step up to
the plate. I told her they are adults now and
they're more than welcome to get a job at my
company and we can go from there. But she got

(30:09):
even more upset and told me I was a jerk
for not taking care of them and hasn't talked to
me since. So read it am I the jerk at it.
I don't plan on changing my will until I'm married.
Then I'll add my fiance. She has also signed a
prenup too. Yes, pre nup and will are both ironclad
and bulletproof. They've been reviewed countless times by three different attorneys,

(30:32):
multiple pairalegals, and other workers too. Also. I met her
sons for the first time when we were dating for
eight months, and that was a very quick meet and
great lunch. Our kids lived with their grandma throughout the
rest of our relationship and even during our engagement. I've
only met them a few other times that I could
spare because I was very busy then with work and
my own son's lives, and then locked down hit and

(30:53):
things just got worse. So maybe seeing them six times total,
and those were usually just a quick hello or a
dinner here and there. I had no part in raising them,
just helping on bail because their mom couldn't afford it
and the tuition. Her youngest son living with us is
the most time I've ever seen him, and it's barely
been a year at most. Her eldest lived with us
for a month or two before she kicked him out.

(31:15):
Edit too, So my fiance now life partner slash girlfriend
and I have had a discussion and we are going
to couples counseling now, and I've made the choice that
we are not getting married anymore. We will be life partners,
but nothing legally binding. She was very upset as she
really wanted to be married, but she respected my decision. Also,
we have also agreed that her son's welfare are her

(31:37):
own personal responsibility and I will split the cost with
her on half of whatever she wants to help them with. Financially,
she has her own job and doesn't want to leave it,
but if they want to work for the company, then
that's a different discussion with both parties. Thank you all
for your advice. Not the jerk. I ain't saying she
a gold digger, but in all seriousness, if they get

(31:58):
their crap together, help them with school. Are with a
job in the company, but no need for a trust
fund that free money with no accountability for adults you
owe nothing to. This is my thought process too. Helping
with the cost of tuition or assisting in obtaining a
low level position is one thing, a trust fund is another.
Not the jerk, I wouldn't necessarily say gold Digger, but

(32:21):
asking a lot for sure, then getting upset when op
says no made her look even worse. Both of her
kids are adults and seem to be behind a bit
in life, but a job at the company sounds like
a good compromise. OPI is reacting and responding appropriately in
this situation.

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