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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Rehdder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
My sister set me up on a blind date without
warning me, so I embarrassed her. After that, my son's
fiance demands I pay one hundred and fifty thousand dollars
for her wedding, but won't let me invite a few guests.
And after that, am I the jerk for reporting my
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classmates for joking that I have pretty privilege. Now, for
every thumbs up, this video gits one, Karen does not
get to set anyone up on a blind date. Oh
come on, you know how much I love making people
feel awkward, So please smash that like button and subscribe
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single day. My sister sets me up on a blind
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date without warning me, so I embarrassed her. I, twenty
five female, have never been interested in romantic relationships. It
just doesn't appeal to me. I'm very busy with grad
school and work, and I like being on my own.
I have friends and a dog, and that's honestly. I'm
happy with my life. My family thinks this is weird
beyond belief and the pressure has ramped up now that
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even my youngest brother has gotten married and I'm the
only one that's left on the shelf. My older sister's
husband has been offering to set me up for years
because I'm too hot to stay single, whatever that means.
I've always tried to refuse politely, but it's wearing thin.
I was home visiting my parents this weekend and my
sister invited me out to dinner at a new restaurant.
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It was an upscale place, so she said to wear
something nice. I thought it was just going to be
the three of us, but there was another guy in
the car when they picked me up. He said he
was brother in law's friend, Joe. Awkward, but not too unusual.
We get to the restaurant and sit down and Joe
keeps trying to make conversation with me, with brother in
law and my sister egging it on, and I finally joke,
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am I on a date or something? What's with all
the questions? And my sister straight up says, yes, we
thought you just needed a little push, so we decided
to set you two up. I asked Joe if he
knew about this, and he admitted that brother in law
told him he wanted to set him up on a
blind date, but that he was glad he came, so
I was the only one that didn't know it was
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a date. I was pretty mad, but didn't want to
cause a scene in the restaurant, so I finished dinner
and gave really short responses to questions. So you're in
a PhD program? Yes, what's that like? Busy? And the
evening just stayed really uncomfortable and awkward. Joe apologized in
the car, and I told him it wasn't his fault,
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but he probably shouldn't let brother in law set him
up again, and I wasn't interested in dating anyone. Apparently
he told brother in law off in the car about
making him look bad, so that he didn't even have
a chance. My sister is mad because I was rude
and embarrassed them when they were just trying to help
me out of my shell. My parents think I should
have appreciated the gesture and given Joe a chance, because
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you never know, and they want me to apologize, not
the jerk. They knew your boundaries, they broke them knowing
them at that. I can assume had you been a
bit more polite and engaging with him. They would use
that as reasoning to set you up more. Your sister
and brother in law are upset because they looked bad
to Joe because they clearly misled him some as well
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and didn't want to own up to that. Not the jerk.
The rude people in this situation are your sister and
brother in law. Surprise, blind date isn't a thing. It's
an ambush, not the jerk. They look bad because they
are bad. They look exactly how they are, their fault,
and they deserve to be yelled at by the both
of you. They need to respect your choice. Being a
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romantic is valid. You may need or want to learn
how to set stronger boundaries, but that's your choice, not
the jerk. I know i'll get down voted for this,
but y'all got to hear me out. Men and women
have been completing each other for as long as we've
been around. A man needs him a good woman, and
a woman needs her a good man. It ain't rocket science.
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I don't know why so many of y'all want to
act like you don't need a partner these days. I
think it's because you spend too much time on your
computers and phones. In life, nothing can fulfill you the
way a husband or a wife can. This used to
be common sense back in my day, but these days
it's like so many of y'all just want to be alone,
and it's really sad. Deny it all you want, but
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in your hearts, you know how much happier you'd be
if you found that special someone to complete your life.
I found mine over sixty years ago, and we spent
the last sixty years being lost in love together. I
can't imagine how my life would have been without that man.
It's been two years since I lost him during lockdown,
and not a day goes by that I don't miss him.
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I share my story with you because, just like I
tell my granddaughters, it's good to be strong and tough
and stand up for yourself. But as for myself, I
know I never would have been as happy as I
was if I had never given my husband a chance,
as y'all like to call it. To tell you the truth,
he was the one who gave me a chance. Back then,
the girls were the ones who chase the boys. The
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problem these days is y'all are on your facebooks and
instagrams so much that you expect a fabio to sweep
you off your feet, and you don't want to give
the normal joes a chance. My grandsons and granddaughters both
use those swipe dating apps, and when they're at my house,
the girls get constant pop ups from guys trying to
meet them, but my grandsons never get anyone to meet them.
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It's strange times that we're living in, and to be honest,
I'm looking forward to the day I leave this old
world and go on home to be with the Lord
and my dearest Albert. Well, what do you think is
OPI the jerk? Or is her sister and brother in law?
Please let us know. I know everyone's gonna hate that
final comment, but I'm still gonna drop an f for
Albert In the Chad, my son's fiance demands I pay
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one hundred and fifty thousand dollars for her wedding, but
won't let me invite a few guests. I'm fifty four female,
have three kids. The one pertaining to this post is
twenty six male. We'll call him Caleb. Caleb has been
with his fiance, Ashley, who's twenty six, for four years,
and they recently got engaged. I've offered to pay for
their wedding with two stipulations. One, they use a wedding planner.
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I feel this is essential due to the size of
the event and the amount of money going into it. Two,
I have eight people. I'm inviting, all their relatives that
I'm close with. They both agreed to a wedding planner
and said they will look for one that they feel
comfortable with. The issue is Ashley does not want me
to be able to invite anyone. Caleb knows the relatives well,
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but it's not super close with them, and Ashley has
only met them a few times. The wedding is going
to be very large, in a grand affair. She comes
from a very large family, and we have a very
large family. We're expecting three hundred to four hundred guests,
and I've given them a budget of one hundred and
fifty thousand dollars. Caleb says he doesn't care, but it
makes Ashley uncomfortable since she doesn't know them that well
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and it's her day. Her family is saying that I'm
the jerk, even though they aren't willing to contribute financially.
I don't care about any of the other details of
their wedding. Whatever they choose is fine as long as
I get the two things that I want, So reddit,
am I the jerk? Edit? The eight people are my
aunts and uncles. They helped me a lot with the kids.
We don't come from money. I was in a bad
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accident that left me paralyzed from the waist down. With
the lawsuit money, I made some investments that turned out
to be very lucrative. Without their help between watching the
kids and financially, I would have been up the creek
without a paddle when my kids were younger. Edit too,
I see a lot of people saying that she's a
gold digger, but I do not agree with that. Her
father is a very well respected and sought after criminal
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defense attorney in our area. Her mom runs an at
home business. Ashley is currently a surgical intern, whereas Caleb
is an RN. Her parents paid for all of them
to go to college, which is why they're not willing
to contribute financially towards a wedding. I just got done
having lunch with Caleb to talk to him about the
conundrum we're in. He said that he hasn't spoken to
her about what they've done for us in the past.
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He did not realize that it would be such a
big deal for them to come, and figured because of
their age they would not want to come. Ashley knows
the majority of the family really well because I host
birthday parties for all three kids, as well as a
Fourth of July barbecue every year. My aunts and uncles
rarely attend the events that I throw because it's hard
for them to get around. I'll update after Caleb gets
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back to me about their talk. Nope, not the jerk.
You're asking for eight people and offering one hundred and
fifty thousand dollars. I'm assuming you are not exerting control
over anything else. Op The rest of the wedding is
in between them and their wedding planner unless my opinion
is asked for. Not the jerk. Caleb says he doesn't care,
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but it makes Ashley uncomfortable since she doesn't know them
that well. With four hundred guests, there's no way she
will know every single person well or even at all.
It's a power play. It's not her day, it's their day.
The groom's opinion matters too. What does she expect that
only her family should get invited. You're being more than
generous in the amount you're offering. You have a right
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to invite his family to show off. Not the jerk.
The bride is the definition of entitled to accept the
gift of one hundred and fifty thousand dollars for her wedding,
but not allow you to invite eight relatives, which would
be in the essence about two percent of the guest list.
That's ridiculous. Does she allow any plus ones or is
there an interview or approval process for that? Not the jerk.
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Not the jerk. I may be old fashioned, but I
believe that the person paying for the party is the
person hosting the party, even if the party is your
kid's wedding reception. The bride and groom are the guests
of honor, but you are the host, and having a
small contingent of family that you are choosing to invite
doesn't seem unreasonable to me. Not the jerk. Why is
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your son allowing her to act like this? Also? Why
is he not seen this as the red flag that
it is. You're giving her one hundred and fifty thousand
dollars for her wedding and she won't allow you to
invite a few guests. It breaks my heart to see
so many young men these days marrying girls who act
like this just because they find them attractive and they
don't want to be alone. A guy will hitch his
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wagon with a spoiled brat who acts like this, then
acts surprised when she leaves him high and dry, taking
everything from him that she can. After my second divorce,
they were cheating both times, I gave up on trying
to find the right one. I was a millionaire about
twenty years ago thanks to my successful career in real estate.
These days, I'm lucky to get my darn rent paid.
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If I had never gotten married and hadn't been used
the way I was, i'd be living a good life
in my senior years. Instead, I now spend my days
delivering for dominoes and hoping for decent tips to supplement
my social security. I spent everything I had buying big
houses and fancy cars, trying to keep my marriages from
falling apart, but in the end it was just never
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enough for them. Then when they decide to leave you,
you're the one who loses everything. Boohoo, poorly all I
hear from your nonsensical rambling is that both of your
marriages failed because you weren't doing what needed to be done.
You really want to play the victim when both of
your wives cheated on you. We don't cheat for fun.
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We do it because we aren't being fulfilled at home.
I would know, having been in the same predicament myself
due to a husband who wasn't fulfilling his role as
the man of the house. Then you really want to
complain about your exes getting your house, cars, money, etc.
You claim to have already been a millionaire before you
got married. That just shows how easy it is for
dudes to make money compared to how hard it is
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for us. You probably had all that money handed down
to you from mommy and Dada, so I'm glad the
courts did the right thing and gave it to the
woman who deserved it for wasting their time with a
loser like you. Why are people on Reddit so mean?
And in regards to your comment about this story where
you ask why is Opie's son allowing this, you're basically
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admitting that you think he should be a controlling jerk
and tell that her opinion doesn't matter. Newsflash, Bud, that's
how you become a sad old man like you delivering pizza.
You don't control anyone else, no matter how entitled you
feel to do so. I guarantee you your kids went
no contact with you if you treated them that way,
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and you people thought I was mean? Am I the
jerk for reporting my classmates for joking that I have
pretty privilege background? I'm female twenty three, one of only
a few female students in a male dominated course. Furthermore,
I am at a highly prestigious university, and I haven't
really gotten along with the guys in my course. They
are all very competitive and I just don't really enjoy
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their company. Everything turns into a contest, and they definitely
take me less seriously. I stopped interacting with them beyond
the mere minimum and choose to hang out with other
people anyway. I did well in our recent exams. I
topped two out of four exams that we've had so far.
Our professor congratulated me during class. I wouldn't have advertised
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this myself. Ever since then, my interactions with a specific
group of male classmates have gotten weird. They're now outright
rude and challenged me aggressively in class discussions. We recently
had some presentations, and one of them chose to do
theirs on to put it simply, pretty privilege. They specifically
pointed to two papers that suggested that pretty female students
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get overscored in assessments. The other guys in the group snickered,
and one even gave me a wink. Afterwards, I heard
them in the hallway joking that they had experience with
that themselves. I've been seeing a PhD student within our
department for a month. He has literally nothing to do
with our course. Well, we ran into one of my
course mates a together the next day in class. His
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friend B asked me if my boyfriend helped me with
the exams. He said this intentionally, loudly and in front
of the professor, who heard this. I replied that I
don't have a boyfriend, because he's not my boyfriend. But
then B pointed out that he had run into me
with the PhD student, making a point to say his name.
The professor knows him. I just replied that we're only friends.
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They didn't let up. I heard that they discussed this
thing in two more classes, in earshot of the professors.
Both times they suggested I got help from my exams.
I wasn't even seeing him then. I didn't confront them,
but this has been causing me so much anxiety even
without the exam accusations. I worked hard to get here,
and I don't want to be known among the faculty
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for my dating life. I raised this issue with my
supervisor without the intention of taking it any further, but
I wanted her advice as a woman in academia. She
convinced me to let her e mail their supervisors to
remind them of proper conduct and describe their treatment of
an unnamed female student. She didn't name me, but they
figured it out. They confronted me after class and asked
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me why I would report their silly joke. Apparently their
supervisors are now very cold towards them and less interested
in helping. It's not a formal complaint. Only their provisors know,
but one of them see set. His supervisor writes the
reports for his financial aid and scholarship, and it was
my fault if he lost out on that. I now
feel a bit embarrassed, and this was compounded by a
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friend telling me that I took it too far because
C shouldn't lose out on his scholarship. So read it.
Am I the jerk, not the jerk. Any retaliation should
also be reported. They're angling for some big problems if
they keep this up. Not the jerk. They know what
they're doing because jokesters like this have been doing it
for years. Undermine your accomplishments, question your abilities, and then
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act shocked when you stand up for yourself. I'm happy
and somewhat surprised that the faculty and administration are treating
this as seriously as it deserves. If they're pretty privileged
joke made you lose out on a scholarship or caused
you to be graded extra hard, they wouldn't give a hoot.
They intentionally and repeatedly made this silly joke out loud
in front of professors, Not the jerk. Maybe they should
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have thought about treating you with respect and professionalism before
it had to come from a place of authority. I
wouldn't mind those bozos losing their scholarships if they think
it's appropriate to treat classmates that way. Am I the
jerk for telling my grandchildren's father I don't owe his
other kids anything. I lost my youngest joy a decade ago.
She left behind her husband and two kids who are
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now fifteen and sixteen years old. My daughter was very
close to her dad and me, and when she was
at her sickest, she begged us to stay in the
kids' lives and make sure they always knew she loved
them and that we were her family just as much.
She mentioned how worried she was that her husband would
encourage them to forget her and would try to replace
her for them with a new woman. She asked that
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we leave anything we might have left to her kids.
We assured her we would never let the relationship end
and that we would always make sure that they had
a good life and would remember her always. Eight months
after she passed, her husband moved in with his now
wife into their home. She had a baby with someone
else and was also expecting a baby with someone at
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that point. He did attempt to make it a package
deal where we could not see our grandkids without treating
his now step kids as our grandkids, and that we
were to treat all future kids of his the same,
Otherwise we would need to be cut out to give
our grandkids the chance to form the new family bonds
without interference from us, that they deserve the chance to
have another mother and only see the new kids as
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true siblings. Their lawyer told them we would have a
case to get grandparents visitation. We also sought advice on
if we were denied access if we could obtain that.
We were told, given our close relationship with the kids,
it would be easy to get access through the courts.
This led to us getting minimal access, but it was
all that was needed because our grandkids were glad to
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see us and their aunts, uncles, and cousins. In the
last few years, my former son in law has found
himself estranged from his own family and his wife's family
are also no longer in the picture, and he has
six kids, not counting my grandkids, in his home with
no family or support outside of him and his wife.
Now that my grandkids are teenagers, they seek to spend
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more time with us, and their lives have benefited from it.
We admittedly spoil them more than some would like because
of the circumstances, but they are wonderful kids. Their father
confronted me recently about his other kids and how they
have no extended family and our suffering seeing their siblings
being spoiled. He also said we had already come between
our grandkids and their siblings because they're not close and
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have never asked for their siblings to be part of
the extended family they have. He told me, I owe
it to his kids to step in and give them
love and some of the same spoiling. I told him
I do not owe his other kids anything, and that
I would never forgive him for what he attempted to
do before he told me I was cold hearted and callous.
Part of me wonders if he's right, because the kids
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are innocent, and even though I have never considered them family,
they're still young and have nothing to do with my
former son in law's actions. Am I the jerk? Not
the jerk who moves in their girlfriend eight months after
their wife passes. I feel bad for the other kids.
It sounds like their parents are awful, but that's not
your problem. Not the jerk. He never should have tried
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to force his new kids on you. It's not your fault.
All the rest of the family is estranged from them.
It's great you guys are willing to do so much
for your grandkids and being so supportive for them. Not
the jerk. I'm sure your grandkids are happy they have
your support. You don't owe your ex son in law anything,
he was the one that decided to have more kids.
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Everyone sucks here. The reason I'm going with this is
that the way you justify and word this, you seem
to be withholding from these kids primarily as a way
to punish their father. It's not that you don't have
the time, resources, or energy to give a little bit
to these kids. You are choosing not to as a
way to make their father suffer more and claim that's
honoring your daughter. That's crappy. No one would expect you
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to treat them the same as your grandkids, but you
very well could send some small things back with the
grandkids for them sometimes, or even take them out with
the other kids a couple times a year for something
special like grandkid's birthdays. These kids have what appears to
be a real crappy father and mother, and you have
the opportunity to give them a small amount of love
and support, and you're choosing not to with a justification
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of not my grandkids. Who cares? These kids need all
the love they can get and you could, with very
little effort give some to them, and you choose not to. So, yeah,
you're the jerk in that respect. Am I the jerk
for telling my sister she's the reason our parents are divorcing.
About a month ago, my twenty four male parents, who
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are fifty five and fifty seven, announced that they were
getting divorced. This has been quite a shock to most people,
as they seem to be having no issues out of
the ordinary. However, I've been the one privy to the
information of why they are getting divorced. It's because of
my sister, Anne, who's twenty six. Anne is a deadbeat.
She's never worked more than fourteen hours a week since
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getting expelled from college for multiple acts of cheating and
of conduct violations five years ago. All she does is
sit at home most days, watching TV or going over
to her loser boyfriend's house. She feels no need to
support herself and expects my parents to carry her through life.
She's been in therapy since she was fourteen, but can't
keep one for more than a year because she gets
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dropped as a client due to her lying and inability
to show up to appointments. My parents have spent over
a decade trying to get some mental issue pinned down
for Anne, and all they've gotten is that she's just
a lazy narcissist. Last year, my mom decided enough was
enough and planned to kick Anne to the curb and
wash her hands of her. Dad disagreed, and in the
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end the two's marriage got torn apart. I know because
both of them have come to me basically admitting that
if Anne was not a factor, divorce wouldn't even be
a consideration. I don't get along with Anne for a
variety of reasons. She's always been a bully and owes
me a large sum of money at the moment. The
thing that boils my blood, though, is that she's oblivious
to the situation between our parents, or she just doesn't care.
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She had a literal tantrum when the possibility of the
house being sold came up because she didn't want to
have to move to an apartment with my dad. Last night,
I found myself at my parents' house and had the
misfortune of talking to Anne. Anne mentioned that she's getting
really sick of my mom's melodramatic crap and not just
leaving the house to her and my dad. Something struck
me at that moment, and I just asked Anne if
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she really does not care that she's such a selfish
garbage waste of space human that she's driven her parents
to get a divorce. I elaborated and told her the
full truth that she is, in fact the only reason
they're getting a divorce because moms finally realize that there
is no hope Anne will ever grow up. The crab
storm this caused was massive. Anne acted as if I
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sold her out to the Romans, and my parents agreed between.
She deserves to know and we told you that in confidence.
Because Anne cannot keep her mouth shut either. The entire
extended family has begun to hear to I want to
know before opinions start forming outside the inner circle if
I'm the jerk here. Nope, not the jerk. Sorry, Some
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tough love is needed with Anne. Doubt she's gonna get
her crap together, but she needed to hear it. Not
everything is about her. Hopefully she can get her act
together and be a contributing member of society, and your
parents can get back together with some therapy. Everyone sucks here.
Your parents aren't getting a divorce because of Anne. They're
getting a divorce because they couldn't find a way to
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work together on this and find a solution that prioritized
their marriage. Each of them decided they would rather not
be married anymore than compromise on this. Regardless of which
of your parents is right or wrong on that, they
should be owning the decision to divorce rather than shifting
the blame to Anne. You're the jerk. Anne is the
scapegoat for the divorce. If they really wanted to remain married,
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then they would and they would work together on the solution.
Your mother gave your father an ultimatum and he refused,
so your mother responded with a divorce. They made their
own choice. Anne's behavior is problematic, but she's not the
reason for the divorce. If I had to guess, it's
been an ongoing issue where your father neglects your mother's
feelings and or your mom pushes your dad into doing
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things he isn't comfortable with. They clearly don't know how
to work together. You're the jerk, one hundred percent not
saying your sister doesn't deserve tough love. She absolutely does.
But only two people decided to get divorced, and she's
not one of them. They chose not to work out
their differences. They chose not to be unified. Your sister
had nothing to do with it. Couples deal with similar
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situations without divorce all the time. It's never the kid's
fault for the divorce. No, we're not here to eat,
we're producing content right now. I work in a really
cute restaurant that's popular with the blogger crowd. Our decor
is pretty, our food is pretty, and our cocktails are pretty.
The restaurant as a whole is quite instagrammable. Unfortunately, we
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occasionally get influencers who think being present on Instagram, TikTok et,
cetera makes them the main character of the world who
thinks the rotation of the earth hinges on them, continuing
to upload pictures of themselves and cute clothes. An event
last month that I'm still angry about a group of
five girls came into our restaurant and for some reason,
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they decide that it's the perfect place to have a
photo shoot and a catwalk. Literally, we have girls who
start strutting up and down the aisles between tables and
filming each other. We had guest complaints because most people
do not feel comfortable being filmed at their tables by
random women in street clothes. So the manager comes out
to check in with the ladies at this point, they've
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decided to seat themselves at a table after ignoring the host,
of course, and our manager asks if they're being intended
to by a server. Yet one of the girls has
the gall to say, we're not here to eat, we're
here producing content for our channels. So of course, the
manager tells them they'll need to leave as our tables
are reserved for guests only. They decide to stay and
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keep photographing each other. Our host decides to interfere before
manager comes back and tells the girls that they do
need to leave when asked, or our manager might call
security to have them escorted out, which is a pretty
sensible thing to me, right, Well, if you're an entitled influencer.
Apparently it's the worst thing in the world. Almost immediately
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after leaving, the girl actually uploads a whole testimony to Instagram,
crying and saying that she and her girls discovered a
cute restaurant, but the manager decided to kick them out
for taking photos and stealing content, and that our manager
called security on them without warning, which shows that our
manager was dangerous and that our manager needs a culture
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class after putting them in danger, And on top of that,
it's Black History Month. The gall and entitlement gets me.
You can't come into a restaurant, start filming other people
without their permission, sit at a table without buying anything,
and then refuse to leave when asked. You're making other
people uncomfortable inconveniencing guests who had a reservation and taking
money money out of the pocket of the server whose
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table you're sitting at. Shaking my head, dealership said Sue.
So I did this all started December of last year
and just finished last week. So I bought a car
from one of those by here and pay here places.
I love the car. It's a Mazda five from twenty fourteen,
basically the smallest mini van I've ever seen. Well, on Christmas,
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we drove to some family for dinner and celebration. When
we went to leave, the car wentn't start. We checked
everything and found out the horn wasn't even connected. Any
fuse that wasn't absolutely needed was simply missing, and the
tires were the original tires. Beyond that, we hooked up
to the computer and it read several errors, but the
one getting in the way was the immobilizer. I had
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never known the van had one. I called Triple A
and set up towing, but because we were in the
middle of nowhere, Triple A couldn't get a tow truck
to us under our membership free, so we had to
call a tow truck and then submit the bill to
Triple A after the fact. So family let us borrow
their car and the van was towed to a shop
a few days later, and the shop calls and tells
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us what's wrong. I live in Texas, a single party
consent state, and I record all of my calls thanks
to an app on my phone. The long list of
car issues isn't important. The point of this van is
a basic work van. The only issue they found stopping
it from running is the immobilizer and active and they
can't touch it without talking to the dealer. I three
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way called the dealership and the shop and we talked
for seventeen point three four minutes during this call, and
the dealership acknowledged we were not behind and everything should
be working unless it malfunctioned. The dealership also gave permission
for the shop to bypass it and we would be
reimbursed the towing in repairs. All the shop needed to
do to get the van running was bypassed the A mobilizer,
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and a couple days later we picked up the van
and paid the bill. Both bills came to just under
three hundred dollars, and we started calling the dealership. The
first few conversations go well, and the phone rep seemed
interested in helping, but mostly I ended up getting tossed
around from department to department and then disconnected. That went
on for some time, and I, of course took to
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Reddit to find out options. As almost always happens, Reddit
users know some crazy facts and how to get stuff done,
so I followed their advice and kept calling, eventually getting
to a supervisor and the first supervisor said he'd get
it taken care of and we ended the call. Two
more days go by and nothing is heard. So I
call back, get tossed around, and then get another manager
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who says we are not responsible for mechanical issues and hangofs.
I call back, now quite annoyed, and eventually get back
to the same manager. I explain I have all the
information and call recordings, including the repair shop three way call.
He cuts me off and says, what are you going
to take us to court? Over two hundred and ninety
six dollars and forty seven cents. I don't think so,
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but go ahead and sue. We will win. And if
that's small amount is worth suing to you, you probably
don't have the resources to actually sue. This, of course
made me quite upset. So off to a justice of
the piece and explain what's happened. They give us a
small claims form and explain the process. We can fill
it out and pay for a constable to serve the dealership,
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or fill out the paper and take it to the
dealership unfiled and explain everything to a manager in person.
We chose the cheaper route because the manager on the
phone was right. We didn't have the money to have
it served only filed, so we transcribed the phone calls
found out how to fill out the paper. The hardest
part was finding the agent. We didn't know what that meant,
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but we again turned to Reddit and learned. We gathered
the bills and all the paperwork and made our way
to the dealership's payment center. I wait in line and
see the name of the manager is the same as
the manager on the phone that told me to sue.
I wait in line, and when it's my turn, I
asked to talk to John, and he comes over and
sits across for me after making introductions, and I confirm
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it's the same guy. I start to explain the situation again.
As I'm explaining, I see when he recalls talking to
me on the phone. He starts to dismiss me, and
I explained that he asked me to sue, and I'm
here with all my evidence and the unfixed suit, giving
him one final chance. He starts to look over the
papers and asked if I still had the recordings. I
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said yes, I could email him a copy. We sit
and talked for about an hour as he reads. Then
I sat with a slight aggravated tone. If something isn't
done today, not only am I going to head right
back to the courthouse and file, as well as tack
on as much for emotional distress and whatever else the
clerk hinted at. The clerk was very open mouthed with ideas,
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as well as sending a copy of everything to every
email on the corporate website. At this our conversation drew
the attention of a woman in a power suit who
rushes over for a recap. I find out she's John's
boss's boss's boss, and she's none too happy about how
far things have gone. She assured me that all would
be made right and gave me her cell number and
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e mail. I gave her the papers and left. The
next Monday, at eight a m. I got a call
asking if credit being applied to the account would be acceptable.
I say yes, and she explains they will credit five
hundred dollars to the account as payments. The payments are
only one hundred fifty five dollars every two weeks. I agree,
and we talk for a few minutes. When I ask
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why it took this much just to get things done,
she laughed and said it shouldn't have and certain people
are no longer employed at this company. Well. To Day
was Wednesday and the day of the payment, but when
I went to make the payment, it was already done.
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