August 11, 2025 • 9 mins
You still care. You’re not fighting. In fact, you might even say you’re happy.
But something’s… off.
The butterflies are gone. The late-night talks have turned into side-by-side scrolling. The passion? Buried under routines, responsibilities, and the quiet ache of “Is this all there is?”
If you’ve ever looked at your partner and thought, “I love them… so why don’t I feel them anymore?” — this episode is for you.
In this honest and deeply human conversation, we dive into the silent crisis so many long-term relationships face: love that lasts, but chemistry that fades.
Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "The Love Is There — But the Spark Isn’t. What Now? with Dr. Soha"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
But something’s… off.
The butterflies are gone. The late-night talks have turned into side-by-side scrolling. The passion? Buried under routines, responsibilities, and the quiet ache of “Is this all there is?”
If you’ve ever looked at your partner and thought, “I love them… so why don’t I feel them anymore?” — this episode is for you.
In this honest and deeply human conversation, we dive into the silent crisis so many long-term relationships face: love that lasts, but chemistry that fades.
Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "The Love Is There — But the Spark Isn’t. What Now? with Dr. Soha"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hello and a very bom welcome to all of you
and re Laxi a podcasts and I'm your friend and
host talking coach. So how are you, beautiful people, and
how everybody is doing today? Hopefully you're fine and doing
pretty well. So if I may ask you that, what
(00:29):
do you feel about the chemistry between two partners? How
you can make this bond further strengthened through night shrink
this chemistry between you and your partner. And this is
going to be today's topic. So if you are seeking
(00:51):
guidance in this demand, this podcast episode is for you. Now,
let's try to understand then, when two people get to
know each other and they simply get closer to each other,
what they want to have in that relationship. They could
be wanting emotion connection only, or they might be wanting
(01:16):
this connection to be a healthy, prosperous lifetime burnt. So
when I give a couple's counseling, I often see such
cases where couple is comfortable with each other, but the
chemistry is missing. And if that chemistry is not there,
(01:40):
then they feel quite empty. So because their sex life
is not that good, their romantic life is suffering as well,
and they're not making time out for each other, and
when kids are there, they're also involved. Then they are
more like parents and less like a romantic career. They're
(02:03):
there for each other but helping each other, like living
in one room or sharing space in one house which
they try to build as a home.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
But the energy is not there, the chemistry is not there.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
So sometimes literally it doesn't make sense that how things
are going ahead and why people are barring themselves to reveal.
Often this kind of missing connection and not being able
to get close to each other in the way it
(02:47):
was generally when it all started when you got married
to their partner or you went into a relationship with
your partner. So how do make your chemistry is stronger
with your partner? Number one, Stop being defensive every time
if your partner is asking you something, It doesn't mean
(03:08):
that you have to be defensive. Put your foot down
and believe you me all will be making sense in
real time. If you are being defensive, then you are
sending an opposite signal and telling your partner and that hey, okay,
(03:31):
you know you don't understand my situation and it's all
about you, and you know I'm alone over here in
this scenario and you are not available to me emotionally
although you are physically here, but emotionally you are nowhere,
so stop doing that. Second thing is, whatever emotions you
(03:52):
are feeling, whatever emotions, you should validate them. It's not
about agreement or disagreement. It's about recognizing your needs, putting
yourself first at times, but not ignoring the other person
and not harming the other person in any way. And
(04:13):
also be supportive to your partner in every way.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
And you know it will make sense to you if
you do so. And if your partner is expressing.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Something, any emotion of laws and pain or grief, even
if that feeling is not making sense to you, give
it validation without judging your partner, and this will really
help you. The id thing is, you know, whenever you
(04:47):
are having a disagreement with your partner, put your foot
down now. It's not possible always, is it. So let
me adopt her realistic approach. Whenever you feel so that
you are in a more to argue with your partner,
try to share away for a while, do your own things,
(05:13):
involve in a hobby, spend some time with your family
and friends. Don't avoid your partner, but give that person
space and give yourself a space too, No, create that
save space for you, and then when that heated moment
is over, then try to engage with your partner.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Connect with your partner.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Then the emotional climate will change and so will the
dynamics and you will feel easy without arguing about that
or nagging or cribbing. You know it won't be required then,
for its very important point is that you need to
show emotional maturity, not emotional needed. What I mean by that,
(06:01):
if you are emotionally mature, whenever there is an disagreement,
you will.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Find you'll try to find the root cause of it.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
You'll try to address the root cause of it, but
it won't affect your relationship. You will talk about it
with your partner and you will solve that together. And
this is what real relationship is like, because you both
are growing together in every aspect of your life and
(06:30):
giving each other the validation, the emotional validation which is required. Now,
if the mpth is not there and you are not
emotionally mature to provide that empathy and to provide that
sometimes sympathy also, then you can feel hurt and frustrated
(06:50):
along with your partner feeling the same way.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
So don't close doors.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
On you, you know, the doors of empathy, and try
to connect in any way or every way with each other,
and that dude daily giving up on each other, it's
not something which you should do ever. And last, but
not least, the fifth thing is, you know, try to
(07:16):
connect with each other romantically, enjoy more intimate time together
and connect with each other romantically too, and doing so,
don't think about other things. Try to shut down the
distractions and focus on each other.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Focus on the relationship you're having.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And when you are getting intimate with each other, it's
like it's not like a ritual. It's also like a
part of your meditative journey if you explore it that way. Right,
So if you can't do that, let's be a regular thing.
(07:59):
But you should speak to your partner often and without
burdening the other one. And you should feel that you
are having that romantic connectivity as well with your partner,
which is missing in your bond. Then you might feel
that the chemistry is gone. Love is not in there anymore,
(08:20):
and it shouldn't be in any case, otherwise you'll be
feeling isolated and alone, and so will you and so
will be your partner and you don't want that right,
do once. So that's it for today and until next time,
take a lot of care of you and all around you.
And as I always tell you that it's an awesome
(08:44):
journey to be with your people, to connect with you,
to be able to share my thoughts with you, to
be able to counsel your online, and to receive such
a massive and such beautiful feedback. So thank you, and
really really from the bottom of my heart, I pray
(09:05):
for all of you, and I make everything you wish for.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Be there for you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
But for that you have to be on the receiving end.
And how you can do it by being aware, by
being willing to receive, and by being opening yourself completely
to the healing process. So until next time, my dear ones,
(09:37):
my beloveds, take a lot of care of you and
all around you. You have been listening to Relaxi podcasts
and I'm your friend and host talking coach, So I'm
bye for now.
Hello and a very bom welcome to all of you
and re Laxi a podcasts and I'm your friend and
host talking coach. So how are you, beautiful people, and
how everybody is doing today? Hopefully you're fine and doing
pretty well. So if I may ask you that, what
(00:29):
do you feel about the chemistry between two partners? How
you can make this bond further strengthened through night shrink
this chemistry between you and your partner. And this is
going to be today's topic. So if you are seeking
(00:51):
guidance in this demand, this podcast episode is for you. Now,
let's try to understand then, when two people get to
know each other and they simply get closer to each other,
what they want to have in that relationship. They could
be wanting emotion connection only, or they might be wanting
(01:16):
this connection to be a healthy, prosperous lifetime burnt. So
when I give a couple's counseling, I often see such
cases where couple is comfortable with each other, but the
chemistry is missing. And if that chemistry is not there,
(01:40):
then they feel quite empty. So because their sex life
is not that good, their romantic life is suffering as well,
and they're not making time out for each other, and
when kids are there, they're also involved. Then they are
more like parents and less like a romantic career. They're
(02:03):
there for each other but helping each other, like living
in one room or sharing space in one house which
they try to build as a home.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
But the energy is not there, the chemistry is not there.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
So sometimes literally it doesn't make sense that how things
are going ahead and why people are barring themselves to reveal.
Often this kind of missing connection and not being able
to get close to each other in the way it
(02:47):
was generally when it all started when you got married
to their partner or you went into a relationship with
your partner. So how do make your chemistry is stronger
with your partner? Number one, Stop being defensive every time
if your partner is asking you something, It doesn't mean
(03:08):
that you have to be defensive. Put your foot down
and believe you me all will be making sense in
real time. If you are being defensive, then you are
sending an opposite signal and telling your partner and that hey, okay,
(03:31):
you know you don't understand my situation and it's all
about you, and you know I'm alone over here in
this scenario and you are not available to me emotionally
although you are physically here, but emotionally you are nowhere,
so stop doing that. Second thing is, whatever emotions you
(03:52):
are feeling, whatever emotions, you should validate them. It's not
about agreement or disagreement. It's about recognizing your needs, putting
yourself first at times, but not ignoring the other person
and not harming the other person in any way. And
(04:13):
also be supportive to your partner in every way.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
And you know it will make sense to you if
you do so. And if your partner is expressing.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Something, any emotion of laws and pain or grief, even
if that feeling is not making sense to you, give
it validation without judging your partner, and this will really
help you. The id thing is, you know, whenever you
(04:47):
are having a disagreement with your partner, put your foot
down now. It's not possible always, is it. So let
me adopt her realistic approach. Whenever you feel so that
you are in a more to argue with your partner,
try to share away for a while, do your own things,
(05:13):
involve in a hobby, spend some time with your family
and friends. Don't avoid your partner, but give that person
space and give yourself a space too, No, create that
save space for you, and then when that heated moment
is over, then try to engage with your partner.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Connect with your partner.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Then the emotional climate will change and so will the
dynamics and you will feel easy without arguing about that
or nagging or cribbing. You know it won't be required then,
for its very important point is that you need to
show emotional maturity, not emotional needed. What I mean by that,
(06:01):
if you are emotionally mature, whenever there is an disagreement,
you will.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Find you'll try to find the root cause of it.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
You'll try to address the root cause of it, but
it won't affect your relationship. You will talk about it
with your partner and you will solve that together. And
this is what real relationship is like, because you both
are growing together in every aspect of your life and
(06:30):
giving each other the validation, the emotional validation which is required. Now,
if the mpth is not there and you are not
emotionally mature to provide that empathy and to provide that
sometimes sympathy also, then you can feel hurt and frustrated
(06:50):
along with your partner feeling the same way.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
So don't close doors.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
On you, you know, the doors of empathy, and try
to connect in any way or every way with each other,
and that dude daily giving up on each other, it's
not something which you should do ever. And last, but
not least, the fifth thing is, you know, try to
(07:16):
connect with each other romantically, enjoy more intimate time together
and connect with each other romantically too, and doing so,
don't think about other things. Try to shut down the
distractions and focus on each other.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Focus on the relationship you're having.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
And when you are getting intimate with each other, it's
like it's not like a ritual. It's also like a
part of your meditative journey if you explore it that way. Right,
So if you can't do that, let's be a regular thing.
(07:59):
But you should speak to your partner often and without
burdening the other one. And you should feel that you
are having that romantic connectivity as well with your partner,
which is missing in your bond. Then you might feel
that the chemistry is gone. Love is not in there anymore,
(08:20):
and it shouldn't be in any case, otherwise you'll be
feeling isolated and alone, and so will you and so
will be your partner and you don't want that right,
do once. So that's it for today and until next time,
take a lot of care of you and all around you.
And as I always tell you that it's an awesome
(08:44):
journey to be with your people, to connect with you,
to be able to share my thoughts with you, to
be able to counsel your online, and to receive such
a massive and such beautiful feedback. So thank you, and
really really from the bottom of my heart, I pray
(09:05):
for all of you, and I make everything you wish for.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Be there for you.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
But for that you have to be on the receiving end.
And how you can do it by being aware, by
being willing to receive, and by being opening yourself completely
to the healing process. So until next time, my dear ones,
(09:37):
my beloveds, take a lot of care of you and
all around you. You have been listening to Relaxi podcasts
and I'm your friend and host talking coach, So I'm
bye for now.
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