August 13, 2025 • 13 mins
You still say “I love you.”
You show up for each other.
You may even still hold hands or share inside jokes.
But deep down, something feels… distant.
Love is still there—but connection? That deep, soul-level knowing that you’re truly seen, heard, and held? That’s gone missing.
In this tender and transformative episode, mindfulness and relationship expert Dr. Soha explores the quiet crisis so many couples face: emotional and intimate disconnection, even when love remains strong. It’s not about betrayal or anger—it’s about the slow drift, the unspoken loneliness, the way two people can live side by side and still feel worlds apart.
Dr. Soha reveals:
With wisdom, warmth, and deep psychological insight, Dr. Soha guides you toward reconnection—not through grand gestures, but through small, intentional moments of presence, courage, and repair.
🎧 If you’ve ever thought, “We’re fine… but I miss them,” this conversation is for you.
_________________________________________________________________________________Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "When Love Is Present, But Connection Isn’t: Healing Intimacy Gaps with Dr. Soha"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
You show up for each other.
You may even still hold hands or share inside jokes.
But deep down, something feels… distant.
Love is still there—but connection? That deep, soul-level knowing that you’re truly seen, heard, and held? That’s gone missing.
In this tender and transformative episode, mindfulness and relationship expert Dr. Soha explores the quiet crisis so many couples face: emotional and intimate disconnection, even when love remains strong. It’s not about betrayal or anger—it’s about the slow drift, the unspoken loneliness, the way two people can live side by side and still feel worlds apart.
Dr. Soha reveals:
- Why intimacy fades without conflict—and how it often starts long before we notice
- The difference between love and emotional safety (and why both are essential)
- How stress, past wounds, and misaligned communication silently build walls
- Practical, compassionate steps to rebuild closeness—without blame or pressure
With wisdom, warmth, and deep psychological insight, Dr. Soha guides you toward reconnection—not through grand gestures, but through small, intentional moments of presence, courage, and repair.
🎧 If you’ve ever thought, “We’re fine… but I miss them,” this conversation is for you.
_________________________________________________________________________________Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "When Love Is Present, But Connection Isn’t: Healing Intimacy Gaps with Dr. Soha"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hello in a very warm welcome to all of you
in Relaxed Podcasts, and I'm your friend and host talking
coach as well. How are you people and how life
is treating you? How everybody is doing? Hopefully everybody is
doing fine, doing good in life and at work. And
it's okay, You've got this right today. The topic which
(00:32):
I have selected to discuss with you bring your ways
about intimacy? Do you know that your partner may be
struggling with intimacy or emotional availability? If you are feeling so,
what to do about it? How to handle this very
domain of life because it isn't easy. And if that
(00:59):
emotional unavailability becomes a consistent thing, then you might be
thinking that your partner has got no interest in you.
So how to spot this thing, this emotional unavailability? You know,
signs are there always, We just have to connect the
(01:21):
dots otherwise it seems to be quite a careual thing.
Now is going to take it all on your health
and mental health, and you don't want it to you.
It can take it to all on your relationship as well.
You need to understand that you've got to be ready
(01:42):
for your relationship, not only to have it to own it,
otherwise you won't be fulfilling to the promises you have
made once to your partner. And that's how your relationship
is going to r which is why it's important to
know the science. Nowadays, we are so much on our
(02:04):
mobile phones all the time that we do everything through
voice messaging or texting. So romance has been digitalized too
as well, isn't it. And for that, emotional unavailability is
there too, because people are busy in their own cells.
(02:27):
Sometimes they're sitting in one room, but they are not
paying attention to each other or to anything around them.
It's just them and their devices. And this makes you wonderful,
This makes your partner wonderable. And this gets too odd
(02:48):
then that this becomes an installed habit. And when this
habit is installed, then what are you going to do?
You'll feel confused, you will feel rejected, you'll feel emotionally drained,
and same goes for your partner. So how to keep
your romance alive? You can send each other good texts.
(03:15):
Start with that, send each other a good meme and
enjoyable emoji and just a feeling that you are there
for the other person. Tiny gestures, small habits goes a
long way. Okay, So what you've got to do you
(03:38):
have to be there for your partner, and for that
you need to not show yourself completely all the time
and say that, hey, I love you, I love you,
I love you. It doesn't work that way. You've got
to throw some bread crumbs. You got to throw some
sort of science not that visible, but they're there, just
(04:00):
like a very beautiful divine and serigin portrayal of your feelings,
expressing but not experiencing too much, revealing but not revealing
too much. Because mystery is everything, isn't it be connected?
Don't stay in limbo, but don't over expose yourself because
(04:24):
this takes away the mystery from the relationship of yours.
And if you are struggling with intimacy issues, or your
partner is struggling with intimacy issues, and both of you
are not addressing them, then what will happen? They will
be for the fear of abandonment, struggle, lack of connectivity.
(04:50):
Perhaps you will go for a habit of drinking or
smoking or even taking drugs. So avoid all that attachment
should be there. Over attachment, no craving for closeness should
be there, but It shouldn't be an obsession fearing intimacy.
(05:17):
It's a normal thing, but fearing too much and never
taking a step ahead, and always feeling that the other
person should be available for you emotionally, mentally, physically, and
the one should understand on their own that you need
them to be intimate. It's strong and the other person
(05:40):
can be wonderabul too. Other person can be afraid of
intimacy too. So you've got to talk to each other.
You've got to understand each other and then engage in
the broader spectrum. You got to maintain the emotional control.
It's not holding somebody in your grip, not keeping somebody
(06:06):
in your pocket. It's just being close to someone in
a very divine way. Connect to the other person, connect
with your partner as well as in such a way
that there is a very beautiful relationship emerging from all that,
(06:29):
free from emotional distortion, not too much emotional explore, and
you don't have to invest too much time of yours
or too much energy of yours to figure out all this,
because if this is happening, then it takes away all
the fun. So don't always try to be on the
(06:51):
recipient and the other one can be on the recipient
and do.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
So.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Try to acknowledge the emotional patron of the other person too.
Don't behave gold all the time. If you can't talk
to somebody or reply to somebody reciprocally, alice reply to
that length which is understood, which is not emotionally disturbing
(07:22):
for the other person, adopted way in which the other
person is not feeling that he or she is ignored.
Turn your head away from these cold patrons, which are
they're annual if there are any, Quit them and stop
conditioning yourself, stop confusing yourself, be affectionate, keep your calm,
(07:46):
keep your hope alive, and meditate and pray and look
after yourself first in indulgent self love. As I let's say,
go to informations. They can help you if you really
want to convert them into meaningful actions. Trying to decover
(08:12):
everything is not a good therapy. It makes you more shallow. Then,
don't speed up things, but express your joy all the time,
express that feeling of being there. And this I always
tell to them when I'm having a couple session or
(08:35):
a couple therapy, that attachment is kind of a term
which we can associate with everyone differently, but romantic disengagement
will make this attachment fade away in no time because
there are so many options in the world right now.
(08:56):
So if you really love your partner, don't let that
a partner of yours slip away. Okay, try, both of you.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Try, And if you really care for each other, if
you really mean that much to each other, then try
to be close to each other gradually, not at once.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
But don't take too long of breaks because then it
will be a complete break and break up after that
and you don't want it right. Emotionally, filtering everything once
you want to say something to your partner is okay,
but don't filter it to an extent where it seems
(09:45):
like unnatural a very artifician, or squeeze out the juice
of player from that. Never do it and stop overthinking.
Stop validating yourself again and again, validating your emotional intelligence,
validating your love for the other person, reason, hope, honest, romance,
(10:12):
and love. Offer that and see how things change for you.
The scales will weigh on your side, then the dynamics
will change. Okay. Emotionally, unavailability from your or your partner
could start with a kah. You will think meaning a
(10:36):
message I'm busy meaning there was too much an office
to be done. Catch your letter, talk to you later,
don't do it. Few words, won't eat your time. Your
work life is very important, but your life is important
to whatever you're earning, whatever you're building, is for your
(10:58):
family and for your home, for your life. So maintain
a balance. It's not easiert imes, but maintain a balance,
and if required, take help, professional help. But never give
up on you, and never give up on this hope
(11:20):
that things could be just like that as you want
them to be. But for that you have to honestly
address yourself. And you've got to see your partner in
the same light. You got to see that your partner
is comfortable in that relationship, not suffocated. Sometimes too much
(11:42):
closeness also suffocates the other person. So maintain your own space,
take your own time. But have a good, fulfilling life,
romantic life, loving life, and have a great and beautiful beginning.
Till end on this very note, I leave before today
(12:05):
and be seeing you in yet another exciting and engaging
episode of Psycheam mind Spot Podcasts. Until next time, take
a lot of care of you and all around you,
and before I go, let me say it's a player.
It's an honor to be connecting with you every time
I do, and thank you for your time and for
(12:26):
your generous comments and feedback which I receive. Hopefully this podcast,
alongside relax A Podcasts, is helping you, and if so,
this is an honor for me because on end counseling
is never easy and one way counseling in form of
(12:49):
a podcast is even tougher. But your response is what
is driving me to do this for all of you,
and I'm doing it bit by bit. I'm doing trying
to bring you all that particular info which you often
(13:10):
asked me through emails as well. So with this very
thought that I'm praying for you all and you all
are very close to my heart and I love you
all alrighty, and thank you very much for devoting your
time listening to me and providing me with's such a
(13:32):
beautiful and gracious feedback. You have been listening to Relexa
podcasts and I'm your friend, host Dark and coach. So
well bye for now
Hello in a very warm welcome to all of you
in Relaxed Podcasts, and I'm your friend and host talking
coach as well. How are you people and how life
is treating you? How everybody is doing? Hopefully everybody is
doing fine, doing good in life and at work. And
it's okay, You've got this right today. The topic which
(00:32):
I have selected to discuss with you bring your ways
about intimacy? Do you know that your partner may be
struggling with intimacy or emotional availability? If you are feeling so,
what to do about it? How to handle this very
domain of life because it isn't easy. And if that
(00:59):
emotional unavailability becomes a consistent thing, then you might be
thinking that your partner has got no interest in you.
So how to spot this thing, this emotional unavailability? You know,
signs are there always, We just have to connect the
(01:21):
dots otherwise it seems to be quite a careual thing.
Now is going to take it all on your health
and mental health, and you don't want it to you.
It can take it to all on your relationship as well.
You need to understand that you've got to be ready
(01:42):
for your relationship, not only to have it to own it,
otherwise you won't be fulfilling to the promises you have
made once to your partner. And that's how your relationship
is going to r which is why it's important to
know the science. Nowadays, we are so much on our
(02:04):
mobile phones all the time that we do everything through
voice messaging or texting. So romance has been digitalized too
as well, isn't it. And for that, emotional unavailability is
there too, because people are busy in their own cells.
(02:27):
Sometimes they're sitting in one room, but they are not
paying attention to each other or to anything around them.
It's just them and their devices. And this makes you wonderful,
This makes your partner wonderable. And this gets too odd
(02:48):
then that this becomes an installed habit. And when this
habit is installed, then what are you going to do?
You'll feel confused, you will feel rejected, you'll feel emotionally drained,
and same goes for your partner. So how to keep
your romance alive? You can send each other good texts.
(03:15):
Start with that, send each other a good meme and
enjoyable emoji and just a feeling that you are there
for the other person. Tiny gestures, small habits goes a
long way. Okay, So what you've got to do you
(03:38):
have to be there for your partner, and for that
you need to not show yourself completely all the time
and say that, hey, I love you, I love you,
I love you. It doesn't work that way. You've got
to throw some bread crumbs. You got to throw some
sort of science not that visible, but they're there, just
(04:00):
like a very beautiful divine and serigin portrayal of your feelings,
expressing but not experiencing too much, revealing but not revealing
too much. Because mystery is everything, isn't it be connected?
Don't stay in limbo, but don't over expose yourself because
(04:24):
this takes away the mystery from the relationship of yours.
And if you are struggling with intimacy issues, or your
partner is struggling with intimacy issues, and both of you
are not addressing them, then what will happen? They will
be for the fear of abandonment, struggle, lack of connectivity.
(04:50):
Perhaps you will go for a habit of drinking or
smoking or even taking drugs. So avoid all that attachment
should be there. Over attachment, no craving for closeness should
be there, but It shouldn't be an obsession fearing intimacy.
(05:17):
It's a normal thing, but fearing too much and never
taking a step ahead, and always feeling that the other
person should be available for you emotionally, mentally, physically, and
the one should understand on their own that you need
them to be intimate. It's strong and the other person
(05:40):
can be wonderabul too. Other person can be afraid of
intimacy too. So you've got to talk to each other.
You've got to understand each other and then engage in
the broader spectrum. You got to maintain the emotional control.
It's not holding somebody in your grip, not keeping somebody
(06:06):
in your pocket. It's just being close to someone in
a very divine way. Connect to the other person, connect
with your partner as well as in such a way
that there is a very beautiful relationship emerging from all that,
(06:29):
free from emotional distortion, not too much emotional explore, and
you don't have to invest too much time of yours
or too much energy of yours to figure out all this,
because if this is happening, then it takes away all
the fun. So don't always try to be on the
(06:51):
recipient and the other one can be on the recipient
and do.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
So.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Try to acknowledge the emotional patron of the other person too.
Don't behave gold all the time. If you can't talk
to somebody or reply to somebody reciprocally, alice reply to
that length which is understood, which is not emotionally disturbing
(07:22):
for the other person, adopted way in which the other
person is not feeling that he or she is ignored.
Turn your head away from these cold patrons, which are
they're annual if there are any, Quit them and stop
conditioning yourself, stop confusing yourself, be affectionate, keep your calm,
(07:46):
keep your hope alive, and meditate and pray and look
after yourself first in indulgent self love. As I let's say,
go to informations. They can help you if you really
want to convert them into meaningful actions. Trying to decover
(08:12):
everything is not a good therapy. It makes you more shallow. Then,
don't speed up things, but express your joy all the time,
express that feeling of being there. And this I always
tell to them when I'm having a couple session or
(08:35):
a couple therapy, that attachment is kind of a term
which we can associate with everyone differently, but romantic disengagement
will make this attachment fade away in no time because
there are so many options in the world right now.
(08:56):
So if you really love your partner, don't let that
a partner of yours slip away. Okay, try, both of you.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Try, And if you really care for each other, if
you really mean that much to each other, then try
to be close to each other gradually, not at once.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
But don't take too long of breaks because then it
will be a complete break and break up after that
and you don't want it right. Emotionally, filtering everything once
you want to say something to your partner is okay,
but don't filter it to an extent where it seems
(09:45):
like unnatural a very artifician, or squeeze out the juice
of player from that. Never do it and stop overthinking.
Stop validating yourself again and again, validating your emotional intelligence,
validating your love for the other person, reason, hope, honest, romance,
(10:12):
and love. Offer that and see how things change for you.
The scales will weigh on your side, then the dynamics
will change. Okay. Emotionally, unavailability from your or your partner
could start with a kah. You will think meaning a
(10:36):
message I'm busy meaning there was too much an office
to be done. Catch your letter, talk to you later,
don't do it. Few words, won't eat your time. Your
work life is very important, but your life is important
to whatever you're earning, whatever you're building, is for your
(10:58):
family and for your home, for your life. So maintain
a balance. It's not easiert imes, but maintain a balance,
and if required, take help, professional help. But never give
up on you, and never give up on this hope
(11:20):
that things could be just like that as you want
them to be. But for that you have to honestly
address yourself. And you've got to see your partner in
the same light. You got to see that your partner
is comfortable in that relationship, not suffocated. Sometimes too much
(11:42):
closeness also suffocates the other person. So maintain your own space,
take your own time. But have a good, fulfilling life,
romantic life, loving life, and have a great and beautiful beginning.
Till end on this very note, I leave before today
(12:05):
and be seeing you in yet another exciting and engaging
episode of Psycheam mind Spot Podcasts. Until next time, take
a lot of care of you and all around you,
and before I go, let me say it's a player.
It's an honor to be connecting with you every time
I do, and thank you for your time and for
(12:26):
your generous comments and feedback which I receive. Hopefully this podcast,
alongside relax A Podcasts, is helping you, and if so,
this is an honor for me because on end counseling
is never easy and one way counseling in form of
(12:49):
a podcast is even tougher. But your response is what
is driving me to do this for all of you,
and I'm doing it bit by bit. I'm doing trying
to bring you all that particular info which you often
(13:10):
asked me through emails as well. So with this very
thought that I'm praying for you all and you all
are very close to my heart and I love you
all alrighty, and thank you very much for devoting your
time listening to me and providing me with's such a
(13:32):
beautiful and gracious feedback. You have been listening to Relexa
podcasts and I'm your friend, host Dark and coach. So
well bye for now
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