August 14, 2025 • 11 mins
You show up.
You follow through.
You remember everyone’s birthdays, hold space during their crises, and never let anyone down.
But here’s the painful truth:
The more reliable you are, the easier it becomes for others to stop seeing you.
In this no-nonsense, soul-stirring episode, mindfulness and emotional wellness expert Dr. Soha confronts a silent epidemic: The dependable person who fades not because they’re quiet—but because they’ve become convenient.
You’re not invisible.
You’re being used—as the rock, the fixer, the always-there-one—without reciprocity, appreciation, or emotional return.
Dr. Soha reveals:
This isn’t about becoming cold or detached.
It’s about becoming seen—by setting boundaries, speaking your truth, and refusing to trade your presence for mere utility.
🎧 If you’ve ever felt exhausted from being “the strong one,” this episode is your wake-up call:
You were never meant to be a tool. You were meant to be cherished.
_________________________________________________________________________________Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "IYou’re Not Invisible. You’re Just Being Used"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
You follow through.
You remember everyone’s birthdays, hold space during their crises, and never let anyone down.
But here’s the painful truth:
The more reliable you are, the easier it becomes for others to stop seeing you.
In this no-nonsense, soul-stirring episode, mindfulness and emotional wellness expert Dr. Soha confronts a silent epidemic: The dependable person who fades not because they’re quiet—but because they’ve become convenient.
You’re not invisible.
You’re being used—as the rock, the fixer, the always-there-one—without reciprocity, appreciation, or emotional return.
Dr. Soha reveals:
- How consistency gets mistaken for availability—without boundaries
- Why people stop asking “How are you?” when they know you’ll always say “I’m fine”
- The emotional cost of being taken for granted in relationships, family, and work
- How to reclaim your worth without guilt, anger, or burning bridges
This isn’t about becoming cold or detached.
It’s about becoming seen—by setting boundaries, speaking your truth, and refusing to trade your presence for mere utility.
🎧 If you’ve ever felt exhausted from being “the strong one,” this episode is your wake-up call:
You were never meant to be a tool. You were meant to be cherished.
_________________________________________________________________________________Theraputic Session by [Dr.Soha) "IYou’re Not Invisible. You’re Just Being Used"
Produced by [Team Relaxire]
Special thanks to [All our listeners on all platforms]
For collabs & partnerships: therelaxire@gmail.com© | All rights reserved
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hello everyone, and am very well.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Welcome to all of you and Relaxive podcasts and I'm
your friend and host talking coach Misan. How are you,
beautiful people, and how life is reaching you? Everything fine
at your end? Hopefully yes, and don't worry. You've got this. Okay,
So today we are going to talk about something very
(00:31):
interesting as you Sue, and have you ever noticed that
at work who is most dependable or even in families,
that person's slowly becomes invisible? Making sense what I'm talking about?
All right, let's try to know it in detail?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Do you know what if you're best in your family
or if you are best at work, sometimes it feels
like that one is invisible because everybody is coming to
you as they go to person and depending on you
and your own self is somewhere in all of this
is scheduled by so many things.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Reliability is a very good thing, but it should be
paired with visibility.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
If not so, then what you are doing.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
You are doing everything you can because you have an
empathetic heart. Your soul is like helping anybody and everybody,
and people talk to you very easily.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
They come up with problems.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
So there's to you and you counsel them on your
own level, don't you. But even then a job and
a family, you are unnoticeable, and sometimes you are taken
for granted, just like parents at times when they complain
about such things, because they're there for children for everything,
(02:05):
And sometimes children tend to forget this very point that
they're making their parents invisible because they are coming to
them with their problems.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
But what is happening without any after they are getting.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Solutions, And this is how they are.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Making depends feel invisible.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
They're taking them for granted rather appreciating every effort. In
our family is mom and dad when they cook, what
happens when they do your chores and run errands for you?
Normally this job is a thankless job and it is
taken for granted. Right They put us through schools and
(02:53):
colleges and universities, and then what they can for granted? Again,
what about in partnership and what about in a husband
wife is and in sos is taking most of the
burden is seldom unseen. So it needs to be changed
because at work, when it happens, it is pulling you down.
(03:18):
You have become so good at being dependable that your
greatest contributions have become invisible. And here you are now
taken for granted for everything, and this now becomes your liability,
isn't it. You're the one who's solving problem. You're the
one who is running the office. You're the one who
(03:39):
are who is you know, covering for others, doing things
for them, but instead of getting any good out of it,
you're just taken for granted. Now this continues, then what
happens yourself worth diminishes and your self competence instead of
(04:03):
loosing up, it goes down. And if you are a
go to person for everybody, then what about your own
self love, your own self care, and what about you
your dreams, your goals, your aspirations.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Okay, so you've got to think about it.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Share what you may, but also keep yourself in such
a way that you also accomplish a lot. If you're
helping others to accomplish their goals, you must give this
opportunity to yourself to help yourself first. Simply keeping your
(04:43):
head down and doing everything for everyone at work is
not a good thing, so say no to it. And
there are some science through which you can understand that
what you are doing wrong here and there are risks
also attached to it, mental and physical health rids. So
(05:07):
if you are that go to person, what can go wrong?
Number one, you can burn out very easily. A semini
is going to go and you will always be in stress,
and this stress would lead you to depression. You're not
looking after you might not taking time out to exercise or.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Take a good walk, or walk your.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Pet, spend time with your family, so you will be
feeling that mental fatigue, physical fatigue, burn out. You know
you're not eating well, not sleeping properly. Then your identity
will be a loss in all this because the self
worth of yours comes first.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
As I've told you, my lovelies.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
And if you are an innovator, you are a person
who's creating so many things, but you are not looking
after you, then what sort of leader you?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
But to keep it in mind, the third thing is
that if you're doing something for the other person, perhaps
you too empathy, perhaps you to love and care for them,
they should recognize it.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
If you are unseen, then what happens.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
It will cook you, It will eat you out from
inside out, and soon you'll feel that all you were
doing was for what.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
If you're not getting any acknowledgment for that. It doesn't
have to be a medal or something.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
But people should understand that you have devoted your life,
your stemina, your energy, your time to that very tasked
to help others. So that should be there. And if
the understanding is not there, then why should you keep
on doing what you are doing. Ask yourself all these
questions and if you still feel that you have to,
(06:59):
then you can do whatever you like if you ask me.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
This is not a healthy way to go ahead.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Now, dependability is okay, but if your growth relies on that,
then you can't become a visionary leader. You have to
see what your role is. You have to become reliable,
but not over reliable. Your colleagues should come to you
with questions if they have to get illusions, but not
(07:32):
every time.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
They are adults too.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
They are paid for their jobs too, so you are
not responsible for them. Your first responsibility lies with you alone,
and the same goes for your role in your family,
with your children, with your loved ones, with your friends.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
So if you're not going to draw lines and the
red flags are.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Not there put by you this time, then you will
suffer your productivity will suffer. Your creativity will suffer, your
progression will suffer, your abundance will suffer, and you'll be
solving problems of others instead of doing what elevating your
own self.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Okay, so you don't have to be the fixer of everything.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Train yourself, mentor your own self, and help others, but
also tell them to handle their own problems. And what
if you tell anybody ONTs that you're not available, perhaps
you can't take time out, or you can't help them,
then they'll turn against you. So don't let that happen.
(08:49):
Be polite, be there for them, but elevate your own
self and also evaluate this situation, right, don't stay quiet,
tell others about your problems, to tell others what you're
going through, To tell others that this much load you
(09:11):
can take and this much you can't. Okay, So whatever
is your strength, keep it with you, and whatever is
disturbing you, just quit that.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
And perform a self audit of you always and teach
others that they.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Should rely on themselves first, because reliability is a strength.
But if others are feeling that through kind of being
paired with you, they're taking you for granted. And this
is not a behavior you should tolerate ever in life,
(09:53):
from any one matter once, and with this very thought,
with these works, I leave you for today. I'll be
seeing you and yet another exciting and interesting, engaging episode
of Relaxed Podcasts. Until then, you think what I've said
today about how you can become very easily invisible for
(10:16):
others if you don't.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Take the right minds.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Okay, so keep on learning and then keep on doing
what you are doing, but learn new things, solve problems
of all but yourself comes first. This is how you'll
(10:41):
be at the top of your career, this is how
you'll be at the top of your mental peace, and
we'll welcome abundance, growth, also calm in life. It's an
honor to be connected with you as always, so thank
(11:02):
you very much for listening to me and giving me
this opportunity to be heard by you. Until next time,
take a lot of care of you and all around you.
You've been listening to Relaxi Podcasts and I'm your friend
and host talk and coach.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So by phenomenal love, Liz
Hello everyone, and am very well.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Welcome to all of you and Relaxive podcasts and I'm
your friend and host talking coach Misan. How are you,
beautiful people, and how life is reaching you? Everything fine
at your end? Hopefully yes, and don't worry. You've got this. Okay,
So today we are going to talk about something very
(00:31):
interesting as you Sue, and have you ever noticed that
at work who is most dependable or even in families,
that person's slowly becomes invisible? Making sense what I'm talking about?
All right, let's try to know it in detail?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Do you know what if you're best in your family
or if you are best at work, sometimes it feels
like that one is invisible because everybody is coming to
you as they go to person and depending on you
and your own self is somewhere in all of this
is scheduled by so many things.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Reliability is a very good thing, but it should be
paired with visibility.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
If not so, then what you are doing.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
You are doing everything you can because you have an
empathetic heart. Your soul is like helping anybody and everybody,
and people talk to you very easily.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
They come up with problems.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
So there's to you and you counsel them on your
own level, don't you. But even then a job and
a family, you are unnoticeable, and sometimes you are taken
for granted, just like parents at times when they complain
about such things, because they're there for children for everything,
(02:05):
And sometimes children tend to forget this very point that
they're making their parents invisible because they are coming to
them with their problems.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
But what is happening without any after they are getting.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Solutions, And this is how they are.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Making depends feel invisible.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
They're taking them for granted rather appreciating every effort. In
our family is mom and dad when they cook, what
happens when they do your chores and run errands for you?
Normally this job is a thankless job and it is
taken for granted. Right They put us through schools and
(02:53):
colleges and universities, and then what they can for granted? Again,
what about in partnership and what about in a husband
wife is and in sos is taking most of the
burden is seldom unseen. So it needs to be changed
because at work, when it happens, it is pulling you down.
(03:18):
You have become so good at being dependable that your
greatest contributions have become invisible. And here you are now
taken for granted for everything, and this now becomes your liability,
isn't it. You're the one who's solving problem. You're the
one who is running the office. You're the one who
(03:39):
are who is you know, covering for others, doing things
for them, but instead of getting any good out of it,
you're just taken for granted. Now this continues, then what
happens yourself worth diminishes and your self competence instead of
(04:03):
loosing up, it goes down. And if you are a
go to person for everybody, then what about your own
self love, your own self care, and what about you
your dreams, your goals, your aspirations.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Okay, so you've got to think about it.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Share what you may, but also keep yourself in such
a way that you also accomplish a lot. If you're
helping others to accomplish their goals, you must give this
opportunity to yourself to help yourself first. Simply keeping your
(04:43):
head down and doing everything for everyone at work is
not a good thing, so say no to it. And
there are some science through which you can understand that
what you are doing wrong here and there are risks
also attached to it, mental and physical health rids. So
(05:07):
if you are that go to person, what can go wrong?
Number one, you can burn out very easily. A semini
is going to go and you will always be in stress,
and this stress would lead you to depression. You're not
looking after you might not taking time out to exercise or.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Take a good walk, or walk your.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Pet, spend time with your family, so you will be
feeling that mental fatigue, physical fatigue, burn out. You know
you're not eating well, not sleeping properly. Then your identity
will be a loss in all this because the self
worth of yours comes first.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
As I've told you, my lovelies.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
And if you are an innovator, you are a person
who's creating so many things, but you are not looking
after you, then what sort of leader you?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
But to keep it in mind, the third thing is
that if you're doing something for the other person, perhaps
you too empathy, perhaps you to love and care for them,
they should recognize it.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
If you are unseen, then what happens.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
It will cook you, It will eat you out from
inside out, and soon you'll feel that all you were
doing was for what.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
If you're not getting any acknowledgment for that. It doesn't
have to be a medal or something.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
But people should understand that you have devoted your life,
your stemina, your energy, your time to that very tasked
to help others. So that should be there. And if
the understanding is not there, then why should you keep
on doing what you are doing. Ask yourself all these
questions and if you still feel that you have to,
(06:59):
then you can do whatever you like if you ask me.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
This is not a healthy way to go ahead.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Now, dependability is okay, but if your growth relies on that,
then you can't become a visionary leader. You have to
see what your role is. You have to become reliable,
but not over reliable. Your colleagues should come to you
with questions if they have to get illusions, but not
(07:32):
every time.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
They are adults too.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
They are paid for their jobs too, so you are
not responsible for them. Your first responsibility lies with you alone,
and the same goes for your role in your family,
with your children, with your loved ones, with your friends.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
So if you're not going to draw lines and the
red flags are.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Not there put by you this time, then you will
suffer your productivity will suffer. Your creativity will suffer, your
progression will suffer, your abundance will suffer, and you'll be
solving problems of others instead of doing what elevating your
own self.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Okay, so you don't have to be the fixer of everything.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Train yourself, mentor your own self, and help others, but
also tell them to handle their own problems. And what
if you tell anybody ONTs that you're not available, perhaps
you can't take time out, or you can't help them,
then they'll turn against you. So don't let that happen.
(08:49):
Be polite, be there for them, but elevate your own
self and also evaluate this situation, right, don't stay quiet,
tell others about your problems, to tell others what you're
going through, To tell others that this much load you
(09:11):
can take and this much you can't. Okay, So whatever
is your strength, keep it with you, and whatever is
disturbing you, just quit that.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
And perform a self audit of you always and teach
others that they.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Should rely on themselves first, because reliability is a strength.
But if others are feeling that through kind of being
paired with you, they're taking you for granted. And this
is not a behavior you should tolerate ever in life,
(09:53):
from any one matter once, and with this very thought,
with these works, I leave you for today. I'll be
seeing you and yet another exciting and interesting, engaging episode
of Relaxed Podcasts. Until then, you think what I've said
today about how you can become very easily invisible for
(10:16):
others if you don't.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Take the right minds.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Okay, so keep on learning and then keep on doing
what you are doing, but learn new things, solve problems
of all but yourself comes first. This is how you'll
(10:41):
be at the top of your career, this is how
you'll be at the top of your mental peace, and
we'll welcome abundance, growth, also calm in life. It's an
honor to be connected with you as always, so thank
(11:02):
you very much for listening to me and giving me
this opportunity to be heard by you. Until next time,
take a lot of care of you and all around you.
You've been listening to Relaxi Podcasts and I'm your friend
and host talk and coach.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So by phenomenal love, Liz
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