August 6, 2025 • 19 mins
Sometimes there are problems with trying to fix your problems. You can hack your behavior, do more and more actions, procure more desirable circumstances and really perfect a limited version of yourself. One who never grows or progresses or frees herself to create the astounding future you deserve. Or you can start seeing your approach to problems differently.
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The Problem with Trying to Fix Your ProblemsIn episode 214 of the Healthcare Collective Podcast, the host discusses the pitfalls of focusing on fixing problems rather than building a brighter future. Using storytelling and real-life examples, including a struggling NBA player, the episode highlights how emphasizing problem-solving can trap individuals in a cycle of limitation. Instead, a shift in perspective is recommended, focusing on creating desired outcomes by addressing internal mental frameworks rather than external circumstances. Listeners are encouraged to rethink their approach to challenges to unlock their full potential.
00:00 Introduction: The Problem with Fixing Problems
00:33 Welcome and Episode Overview
01:15 The Nature of Problem Solving
02:53 Case Study: NBA Player's Struggle
04:56 Shifting Perspectives on Problems
05:37 Health and Fitness Challenges
09:00 Building a New Foundation
17:13 Exercise: Movement vs. Training
18:53 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Come visit me: www.healthcouragecollective.com
email me: healthcouragecollective@gmail.com
come visit my website: www.healthcouragecollective.com
email me: healthcouragecollective@gmail.com
The Problem with Trying to Fix Your ProblemsIn episode 214 of the Healthcare Collective Podcast, the host discusses the pitfalls of focusing on fixing problems rather than building a brighter future. Using storytelling and real-life examples, including a struggling NBA player, the episode highlights how emphasizing problem-solving can trap individuals in a cycle of limitation. Instead, a shift in perspective is recommended, focusing on creating desired outcomes by addressing internal mental frameworks rather than external circumstances. Listeners are encouraged to rethink their approach to challenges to unlock their full potential.
00:00 Introduction: The Problem with Fixing Problems
00:33 Welcome and Episode Overview
01:15 The Nature of Problem Solving
02:53 Case Study: NBA Player's Struggle
04:56 Shifting Perspectives on Problems
05:37 Health and Fitness Challenges
09:00 Building a New Foundation
17:13 Exercise: Movement vs. Training
18:53 Conclusion and Next Steps
Are you ready to give your cells their best chance to not have to stop living before they die by allowing them access to physiologic levels of hormones, but aren't sure how to even get started? Join the waitlist for my new beta program here and help me figure out how best to help wonderful women like you get the hormone care they deserve!
Come visit me: www.healthcouragecollective.com
email me: healthcouragecollective@gmail.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Sometimes there are problems with trying to fix your problems.
You can hack your behavior, do more and more actions,
procure more desirable circumstances, and really perfect a limited version
of yourself, one who never grows or progresses or frees
herself to create the astounding future you deserve. Or you
(00:23):
can start seeing your approach to problems differently. You're listening
to The Healthcareage Collective Podcast, Episode two hundred and fourteen,
The Problem with trying to fix your problems. Welcome to
the Health Courage Collective Podcast, the show for women who
are too busy to slog through hours of generalized, in applicable,
(00:45):
and often contradictory health information, but too smart to ignore
that a few minutes of focused attention now can prevent
years of separate in the future. I'm your host, Christina Hackett,
a pharmacist who doesn't want you to live on prescriptions,
a certified coach, specific trained to maximize your potential, and
a compulsive learner obsessed with preventative, cutting edge, holistic and
(01:07):
integrated medicine. I'm on a mission to increase your physical
and mental resilience so you can fearlessly look forward to
your next forty plus limitless years. Your time is down.
Let's go. Hi, my friend, and welcome to today's episode.
I hope that you are doing great. Have you thought
much about your future prescription for vaginal estrogen this past week?
(01:30):
Today we're going to talk about fixing problems. Do you
have any problems? Stupid question? Right. I think we're pretty
conditioned to feel like we need to fix our problems.
It's natural and pretty deeply human natury to be problem solvers,
which is fabulous. It's why as a society we don't
(01:52):
have to live in caves and die if we can't
scrounge up enough wild tubers, or have to keep paper
lists of people's phone number tape to our refrigerators. Problem
solving is a top notch skill. We know it, and
it's one of the main things we focus on teaching
our kids, the development of problem solving skills. I had
(02:13):
three little boys, wildly adorable little boys from two thousand
and five to twenty fifteen ish, so I spent a
lot of time singing along with can we fix it? Yes?
(02:33):
We can? Good stuff. So being a fixer, not in
the Tony soprano way, but in a smart and capable,
ethical and ambitious woman that you are kind of way
can be a good thing, but it also can have
a dark side. Peter Crone is a coach that gets
its impressive results with big name clients. He told this
(02:54):
story about how he was working with an NBA center once.
Probably goes without saying that he was a big guy
as a center and very skilled to be in the
NBA at all. Who knows how many thousands of hours
he had spent running drills and mastering his craft. He
had access to the best resources money could buy, including
coaching from Peter Crohn, which was good because he had
(03:17):
a problem, a big problem. The league average for free
throws was seventy five percent. His average was thirty seven percent.
He had a multimillion dollar contract and his job performance
was broadcast on national television. He was personally embarrassed and
he really didn't want to keep letting his teammates and
(03:38):
team owners down. There was a lot of pressure. What
do you think you would do in that situation? Yeah,
he was getting moral support from his family and friends.
He was working with a special personal coach on his
free throw mechanics, working with a sports psychologist. All the things,
all the resources and attention spent on fixing this problem.
(04:01):
He said he was doing literally everything he could. What
Peter told him was that all of those well intended
behavioral adaptations were reinforcements that he had a problem, a
big problem. They were helping him to hold onto the
past and use it as evidence for what the future
will be. If Peter told him he had a crystal
(04:24):
ball and could see that in the future he shoots
the league average of seventy five percent for his free throws,
he said that the NBA player completely lit up, opened up, visibly, relaxed,
and said that that would be so amazing. He'd finally
be free. And Peter told him, that's a future that
I made up, which is just as real as the
future you're making up. Which is not to say that
(04:46):
taking actions like working on your mechanics and rituals and
what not are not important, because they are. But focusing
all your effort and thoughts on fixing a problem reinforces
that we have a problem, and we fixing. When you
come out a problem thinking of it as a problem
that needs to be surgically removed from your existence, you
(05:08):
set in motion a future that includes that problem, maybe
even revolves around that problem. But when you approach your
future wanting to build something amazing, that's the future you
set in motion because that's what you see opportunities for
all around you. Let's say your blood pressure is creeping
(05:28):
up into worrying range and you don't have the endurance
you wish you had. You'd like to be able to
hike with your kids on the weekends, but it's too
miserable to try to keep up, so you don't go.
You get fatigued easily afternoons, leave you searching your body
for hidden zombie bites. How else could your energy be
completely extracted from your body. You may or may not
(05:50):
know that your bone density is lower than it should
be if you don't want to be frail and fragile
twenty five years from now. You may or may not
know that your fatigue has to do with your mitochondria
struggling to produce enough energy because your insulin and blood
sugar are both higher than optimal, or that those metabolic
issues higher than optimal insulin and blood sugar levels drastically
(06:11):
increase your risk of stopping living before you die, and
your risk for out and out death too, Because metabolic
problems increase your risk of all of the chronic diseases
of aging all of them. You'd probably also have lower
than optimal levels of BDNF or brain derived neurotrophic factor,
which is like miracle growth or your brain. When you
(06:33):
don't have enough, your brain can't continue to make connections
as easily. Since you're super smart, you know the highest
leverage action you can take to fix all of these problems. Right,
one thing that will change your results in all of
these areas. Say it with me. Exercise. It's the honest
(06:53):
to goodness magic pill, other than the fact that it's
not a pill. So your problem is that you don't exercise.
Your real problem is that you can't get yourself to exercise,
not for lack of trying, but you're just not obedient
to yourself. That's a problem, So how might you go
about solving it? When we're stuck in problem fixing mode,
(07:17):
we think we just need to do more actions and
different actions and better actions and make our problem go away.
We learn about different things we can do. We're convinced
if we just do different things or acquire more resources,
we'll be liberated from our problem. When all we see
is our problem, we feed the problem until it feels
(07:39):
bigger and bigger, and our worldview starts to get distorted.
We can get so focused on the problem and all
the things the problem is causing to go wrong in
our life that we don't even think about what we
do want. It's like we're trying to go backward to
our life before this problem started, instead of driving our
(07:59):
life forward to where we really want to go. We
think about what things to do more than we think
about who we really are. We think the way to
change who we are is by having things outside of
us change. We forget that that's not how it works.
When all you do is try to redesign your behavior
(08:19):
without considering the contribution of your subconscious mind, it's like
you've completed a lot of tasks to perfect yourself while
inside of a prison, instead of getting out of the prison.
While problem solving can be great, focusing on problems all
the time uses up your attention, skills, creativity, time, and
(08:41):
energy staying stuck instead of spending your resources building a
new future that you're going to love, Like the NBA player.
When you can see that any version of your future
you imagine is just a made up story, you can
decide which of those stories you want to live into.
(09:01):
You can decide whether to get more and more instructions
of what to do that reinforce the quote fact that
you have a problem, or you can decide to try
to start seeing through new eyes, to live into a
future with more opportunities than you believed were even possible,
to move forward to construct something new, instead of moving
(09:24):
backward to tear something down. Let's say you live in
a fifteen hundred square foot house that you hate. The
floor plan is no good, the master bathroom is a bummer,
and summer evenings at home suck. That's all you know.
Trying to fix those problems is really hard. If that's
all you can say about them, it feels confusing. You
(09:48):
can spend hours learning about fixing your plumbing on YouTube
or pinning dozens of gourmets Moor's recipes on Pinterest. Even
if you buy all the tools and ingredients you saw online,
it's still really hard to fix your problems if that's
all you can see. It starts to get way easier
when instead of focusing on what you don't like, you
(10:08):
turn your attention toward what you do want. When you
go on a fifteen hour HGTV binge and can suddenly
clearly see exactly how much open space you want in
your floor plan or what kind of outdoor kitchen you'd
love to be the master of. When you can start
to see your space with new eyes, so many possibilities
(10:29):
that you didn't know existed emerge. It's way more freeing
and fun running towards something instead of away from something,
constructing something new instead of trying to improve something you've
outgrown or worn through, and as you're building something great
instead of fixing something less than great. I love what
(10:51):
Marie Kondo teaches about tidying up, that you keep the
things that spark joy and the things that you don't
you kindly think. I think it's so sweet you tell
your items that you're going to discard. Thank you for
being part of your life and providing value while you
had them, but now it's time to release them and
move forward. I love it. The real life changing magic
(11:15):
not of tidying up, but of learning to look at
your problem with new eyes is to see how problems
can present the opportunity to you to become who you
really want to be, maybe by being a problem solver.
I recently learned how to correct a mishanging door that
doesn't shut properly. We had four of them and have
(11:35):
been fighting with them for like nineteen and a half years.
It took me about ten minutes of Internet research. The
front door only took me about ten minutes to fix.
The other ones took a little bit longer. But now
I feel like I have this secret problem solving superpower.
It's very liberating anyhow, Sometimes that's the case, it's cut
and dry, but oftentimes knowing that a problem is happening
(11:59):
for you, not to you, is different. You start to
realize that big pharma, big agriculture, government policies, your nosy neighbor,
your lazy coworker, whatever, are not causing your problems. They're
showing you where you are self limited, which can actually
be the greatest blessing ever. It's definitely not easy to
(12:23):
start seeing things that way, but to the extent that
you can start to, you can shift from thinking you
need to fix all of these nebulous exterior problems, essentially
not being able to be happy unless you can seize
total control of the entire world, to seeing the adversity
and pain in our lives as opportunities to grow bigger
(12:45):
instead of just optimizing our limited self. If you focus
all your resources on perfecting your circumstances, you've missed the
whole point, because our circumstances are the byproduct of our
internal mental game. If you focus your resources perfecting your
inner mental game, your circumstances take care of themselves. Weird
(13:10):
but true. Right many times, our efforts to try to
fix our problems are just us, as the limited people
that we all are, trying to create something that will
come as a byproduct of us changing our response to
our problems, becoming able to see that what stirs our
pot is a gift to be able to see where
(13:31):
we're limited, Often not a very fun gift to unwrap,
but one that can change our life much more than
a blend or diamond earrings, or our cousin finally shutting up,
or whatever we thought we wanted going back to our
fifteen hundred square foot house that we hate. If you
become wildly inspired to focus on constructing what you want
(13:53):
instead of just fixing what you don't like, what if
you get clear and you see that what you really
want is a twenty one thousand square foot mansion with
an indoor archery range and pet grooming studio. Awesome. Where
do you start new carpet or different cabinet hardware? That's
not going to be enough, not by a long shot.
(14:14):
Not even a framing A drywall crew can create what
you want and tell what you have to start with
digging and pouring a completely new foundation. You can't build
a twenty thousand square foot house on a fifteen hundred
square foot foundation, just like you can't build a one
hundred floor skyscraper on a foundation that's as deep as
(14:36):
a single story office buildings foundation, or even a fifty
floor office building. This is why you can't just focus
on doing more behaviors or acquiring more favorable circumstances to
fix your problems. If instead you emphasize redesigning your foundation.
You're subconscious first, then you have the option to create
(14:56):
something truly remarkable that will last. If you want to
build something big, you need a deep and well engineered foundation.
If you have a deep and well engineered foundation, you're
free to create whatever your imagination can come up with.
How's that feel? So back to our hypothetical example that
(15:18):
our problem is that we can't get ourselves to exercise.
Maybe this is why the quote fixes that we've tried
in the past haven't worked. We're trying to force ourselves
to complete more good actions to fix our problem of
not exercising, instead of architecting the future we really want
to live and starting with digging a more robust foundation.
(15:43):
We're seeing our problem as something happening to us that
can be fixed by external circumstances, instead of seeing it
as a learning opportunity that it's happening for us to
purposefully design the human being we really want to be.
It's usually an inside job job more often than an
outside job. The realizations will be different for everyone. Once
(16:05):
you scuba dive into your subconscious I'd be happy to
help you do that. Send me message at healthcarege collectiviatgmail
dot com. But the themes I often see have to
do with calling exercise exercise. For one, I think it's
useful for most women to stop exercising and separate things
out in their mind into movement and training. Part of
(16:26):
a longer discussion. We talked all about this in episodes
fifty seven You're Probably Deficient, eighty three Sedentary Exercises and
one eighty six and one eighty seven Stop Exercising Parts
one and two. I'll put links to those in the show. Notes.
Training for a specific purpose is very different than just
exercising because that's what good girls should do. And moving
(16:48):
because you know that every cell in your body is
designed to thrive when we move in space frequently throughout
the day is different than exercise. Similarly, many women learned
to feel like exercise is punishment, either because it's unpleasant
and they don't enjoy the physical feeling of it, or
because they feel like it's a penance that they should
have to do for being quote bad and eating carbs
(17:11):
or something, or they feel like it's a weight loss tool,
which it's not or not a very good one anyway,
and they resent feeling like they have to suffer in
order to look a certain way. There can be a
lot of reasons, but I hope you can see that
trying to quote fix the problem with more actions and
life hacks and equipment can be problematic because it's usually
(17:34):
not something outside of you that needs fixing. It's not
even a problem to be fixed. Really, it's an opportunity
to see you with new eyes, to discover where you're
not free and break out of that self imposed prison
and create something brand new and freaking exciting. You deserve that,
(17:54):
and maybe more importantly, the world needs your unique flavor
of awesome. So don't hold it hostage or keep it silent.
When you dig a new subconscious foundation. Your past struggles
don't have to have anything to do with your future
other than having acted as a catalyst for the growth
you needed to expand your possibilities. I promise there's a
(18:16):
way for you to learn to love doing the things
that will help you sail through parimenopause and menopause and
make it so you don't have to stop living before
you die. But it's more of an inside job than
it is just tips for fixing your problems. How this
helped you think of problem fixing in a more useful way.
If you're interested in focusing on building a new future
and learning to love doing the things that will make
(18:38):
you strong for years to come instead of trying to
just fix your old problems, send me a message at
Health Courage Collective at gmail dot com, or go to
my website Healthcourage Collective dot com and get on the
waitlist for my new beta program to finally get consistent
doing the things that will keep you healthy for decades
to come. It's going to be a good time next time.
(19:00):
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Until then, stop trying to fix your old problems and
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Sometimes there are problems with trying to fix your problems.
You can hack your behavior, do more and more actions,
procure more desirable circumstances, and really perfect a limited version
of yourself, one who never grows or progresses or frees
herself to create the astounding future you deserve. Or you
(00:23):
can start seeing your approach to problems differently. You're listening
to The Healthcareage Collective Podcast, Episode two hundred and fourteen,
The Problem with trying to fix your problems. Welcome to
the Health Courage Collective Podcast, the show for women who
are too busy to slog through hours of generalized, in applicable,
(00:45):
and often contradictory health information, but too smart to ignore
that a few minutes of focused attention now can prevent
years of separate in the future. I'm your host, Christina Hackett,
a pharmacist who doesn't want you to live on prescriptions,
a certified coach, specific trained to maximize your potential, and
a compulsive learner obsessed with preventative, cutting edge, holistic and
(01:07):
integrated medicine. I'm on a mission to increase your physical
and mental resilience so you can fearlessly look forward to
your next forty plus limitless years. Your time is down.
Let's go. Hi, my friend, and welcome to today's episode.
I hope that you are doing great. Have you thought
much about your future prescription for vaginal estrogen this past week?
(01:30):
Today we're going to talk about fixing problems. Do you
have any problems? Stupid question? Right. I think we're pretty
conditioned to feel like we need to fix our problems.
It's natural and pretty deeply human natury to be problem solvers,
which is fabulous. It's why as a society we don't
(01:52):
have to live in caves and die if we can't
scrounge up enough wild tubers, or have to keep paper
lists of people's phone number tape to our refrigerators. Problem
solving is a top notch skill. We know it, and
it's one of the main things we focus on teaching
our kids, the development of problem solving skills. I had
(02:13):
three little boys, wildly adorable little boys from two thousand
and five to twenty fifteen ish, so I spent a
lot of time singing along with can we fix it? Yes?
(02:33):
We can? Good stuff. So being a fixer, not in
the Tony soprano way, but in a smart and capable,
ethical and ambitious woman that you are kind of way
can be a good thing, but it also can have
a dark side. Peter Crone is a coach that gets
its impressive results with big name clients. He told this
(02:54):
story about how he was working with an NBA center once.
Probably goes without saying that he was a big guy
as a center and very skilled to be in the
NBA at all. Who knows how many thousands of hours
he had spent running drills and mastering his craft. He
had access to the best resources money could buy, including
coaching from Peter Crohn, which was good because he had
(03:17):
a problem, a big problem. The league average for free
throws was seventy five percent. His average was thirty seven percent.
He had a multimillion dollar contract and his job performance
was broadcast on national television. He was personally embarrassed and
he really didn't want to keep letting his teammates and
(03:38):
team owners down. There was a lot of pressure. What
do you think you would do in that situation? Yeah,
he was getting moral support from his family and friends.
He was working with a special personal coach on his
free throw mechanics, working with a sports psychologist. All the things,
all the resources and attention spent on fixing this problem.
(04:01):
He said he was doing literally everything he could. What
Peter told him was that all of those well intended
behavioral adaptations were reinforcements that he had a problem, a
big problem. They were helping him to hold onto the
past and use it as evidence for what the future
will be. If Peter told him he had a crystal
(04:24):
ball and could see that in the future he shoots
the league average of seventy five percent for his free throws,
he said that the NBA player completely lit up, opened up, visibly, relaxed,
and said that that would be so amazing. He'd finally
be free. And Peter told him, that's a future that
I made up, which is just as real as the
future you're making up. Which is not to say that
(04:46):
taking actions like working on your mechanics and rituals and
what not are not important, because they are. But focusing
all your effort and thoughts on fixing a problem reinforces
that we have a problem, and we fixing. When you
come out a problem thinking of it as a problem
that needs to be surgically removed from your existence, you
(05:08):
set in motion a future that includes that problem, maybe
even revolves around that problem. But when you approach your
future wanting to build something amazing, that's the future you
set in motion because that's what you see opportunities for
all around you. Let's say your blood pressure is creeping
(05:28):
up into worrying range and you don't have the endurance
you wish you had. You'd like to be able to
hike with your kids on the weekends, but it's too
miserable to try to keep up, so you don't go.
You get fatigued easily afternoons, leave you searching your body
for hidden zombie bites. How else could your energy be
completely extracted from your body. You may or may not
(05:50):
know that your bone density is lower than it should
be if you don't want to be frail and fragile
twenty five years from now. You may or may not
know that your fatigue has to do with your mitochondria
struggling to produce enough energy because your insulin and blood
sugar are both higher than optimal, or that those metabolic
issues higher than optimal insulin and blood sugar levels drastically
(06:11):
increase your risk of stopping living before you die, and
your risk for out and out death too, Because metabolic
problems increase your risk of all of the chronic diseases
of aging all of them. You'd probably also have lower
than optimal levels of BDNF or brain derived neurotrophic factor,
which is like miracle growth or your brain. When you
(06:33):
don't have enough, your brain can't continue to make connections
as easily. Since you're super smart, you know the highest
leverage action you can take to fix all of these problems. Right,
one thing that will change your results in all of
these areas. Say it with me. Exercise. It's the honest
(06:53):
to goodness magic pill, other than the fact that it's
not a pill. So your problem is that you don't exercise.
Your real problem is that you can't get yourself to exercise,
not for lack of trying, but you're just not obedient
to yourself. That's a problem, So how might you go
about solving it? When we're stuck in problem fixing mode,
(07:17):
we think we just need to do more actions and
different actions and better actions and make our problem go away.
We learn about different things we can do. We're convinced
if we just do different things or acquire more resources,
we'll be liberated from our problem. When all we see
is our problem, we feed the problem until it feels
(07:39):
bigger and bigger, and our worldview starts to get distorted.
We can get so focused on the problem and all
the things the problem is causing to go wrong in
our life that we don't even think about what we
do want. It's like we're trying to go backward to
our life before this problem started, instead of driving our
(07:59):
life forward to where we really want to go. We
think about what things to do more than we think
about who we really are. We think the way to
change who we are is by having things outside of
us change. We forget that that's not how it works.
When all you do is try to redesign your behavior
(08:19):
without considering the contribution of your subconscious mind, it's like
you've completed a lot of tasks to perfect yourself while
inside of a prison, instead of getting out of the prison.
While problem solving can be great, focusing on problems all
the time uses up your attention, skills, creativity, time, and
(08:41):
energy staying stuck instead of spending your resources building a
new future that you're going to love, Like the NBA player.
When you can see that any version of your future
you imagine is just a made up story, you can
decide which of those stories you want to live into.
(09:01):
You can decide whether to get more and more instructions
of what to do that reinforce the quote fact that
you have a problem, or you can decide to try
to start seeing through new eyes, to live into a
future with more opportunities than you believed were even possible,
to move forward to construct something new, instead of moving
(09:24):
backward to tear something down. Let's say you live in
a fifteen hundred square foot house that you hate. The
floor plan is no good, the master bathroom is a bummer,
and summer evenings at home suck. That's all you know.
Trying to fix those problems is really hard. If that's
all you can say about them, it feels confusing. You
(09:48):
can spend hours learning about fixing your plumbing on YouTube
or pinning dozens of gourmets Moor's recipes on Pinterest. Even
if you buy all the tools and ingredients you saw online,
it's still really hard to fix your problems if that's
all you can see. It starts to get way easier
when instead of focusing on what you don't like, you
(10:08):
turn your attention toward what you do want. When you
go on a fifteen hour HGTV binge and can suddenly
clearly see exactly how much open space you want in
your floor plan or what kind of outdoor kitchen you'd
love to be the master of. When you can start
to see your space with new eyes, so many possibilities
(10:29):
that you didn't know existed emerge. It's way more freeing
and fun running towards something instead of away from something,
constructing something new instead of trying to improve something you've
outgrown or worn through, and as you're building something great
instead of fixing something less than great. I love what
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Marie Kondo teaches about tidying up, that you keep the
things that spark joy and the things that you don't
you kindly think. I think it's so sweet you tell
your items that you're going to discard. Thank you for
being part of your life and providing value while you
had them, but now it's time to release them and
move forward. I love it. The real life changing magic
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not of tidying up, but of learning to look at
your problem with new eyes is to see how problems
can present the opportunity to you to become who you
really want to be, maybe by being a problem solver.
I recently learned how to correct a mishanging door that
doesn't shut properly. We had four of them and have
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been fighting with them for like nineteen and a half years.
It took me about ten minutes of Internet research. The
front door only took me about ten minutes to fix.
The other ones took a little bit longer. But now
I feel like I have this secret problem solving superpower.
It's very liberating anyhow, Sometimes that's the case, it's cut
and dry, but oftentimes knowing that a problem is happening
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for you, not to you, is different. You start to
realize that big pharma, big agriculture, government policies, your nosy neighbor,
your lazy coworker, whatever, are not causing your problems. They're
showing you where you are self limited, which can actually
be the greatest blessing ever. It's definitely not easy to
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start seeing things that way, but to the extent that
you can start to, you can shift from thinking you
need to fix all of these nebulous exterior problems, essentially
not being able to be happy unless you can seize
total control of the entire world, to seeing the adversity
and pain in our lives as opportunities to grow bigger
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instead of just optimizing our limited self. If you focus
all your resources on perfecting your circumstances, you've missed the
whole point, because our circumstances are the byproduct of our
internal mental game. If you focus your resources perfecting your
inner mental game, your circumstances take care of themselves. Weird
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but true. Right many times, our efforts to try to
fix our problems are just us, as the limited people
that we all are, trying to create something that will
come as a byproduct of us changing our response to
our problems, becoming able to see that what stirs our
pot is a gift to be able to see where
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we're limited, Often not a very fun gift to unwrap,
but one that can change our life much more than
a blend or diamond earrings, or our cousin finally shutting up,
or whatever we thought we wanted going back to our
fifteen hundred square foot house that we hate. If you
become wildly inspired to focus on constructing what you want
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instead of just fixing what you don't like, what if
you get clear and you see that what you really
want is a twenty one thousand square foot mansion with
an indoor archery range and pet grooming studio. Awesome. Where
do you start new carpet or different cabinet hardware? That's
not going to be enough, not by a long shot.
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Not even a framing A drywall crew can create what
you want and tell what you have to start with
digging and pouring a completely new foundation. You can't build
a twenty thousand square foot house on a fifteen hundred
square foot foundation, just like you can't build a one
hundred floor skyscraper on a foundation that's as deep as
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a single story office buildings foundation, or even a fifty
floor office building. This is why you can't just focus
on doing more behaviors or acquiring more favorable circumstances to
fix your problems. If instead you emphasize redesigning your foundation.
You're subconscious first, then you have the option to create
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something truly remarkable that will last. If you want to
build something big, you need a deep and well engineered foundation.
If you have a deep and well engineered foundation, you're
free to create whatever your imagination can come up with.
How's that feel? So back to our hypothetical example that
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our problem is that we can't get ourselves to exercise.
Maybe this is why the quote fixes that we've tried
in the past haven't worked. We're trying to force ourselves
to complete more good actions to fix our problem of
not exercising, instead of architecting the future we really want
to live and starting with digging a more robust foundation.
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We're seeing our problem as something happening to us that
can be fixed by external circumstances, instead of seeing it
as a learning opportunity that it's happening for us to
purposefully design the human being we really want to be.
It's usually an inside job job more often than an
outside job. The realizations will be different for everyone. Once
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you scuba dive into your subconscious I'd be happy to
help you do that. Send me message at healthcarege collectiviatgmail
dot com. But the themes I often see have to
do with calling exercise exercise. For one, I think it's
useful for most women to stop exercising and separate things
out in their mind into movement and training. Part of
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a longer discussion. We talked all about this in episodes
fifty seven You're Probably Deficient, eighty three Sedentary Exercises and
one eighty six and one eighty seven Stop Exercising Parts
one and two. I'll put links to those in the show. Notes.
Training for a specific purpose is very different than just
exercising because that's what good girls should do. And moving
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because you know that every cell in your body is
designed to thrive when we move in space frequently throughout
the day is different than exercise. Similarly, many women learned
to feel like exercise is punishment, either because it's unpleasant
and they don't enjoy the physical feeling of it, or
because they feel like it's a penance that they should
have to do for being quote bad and eating carbs
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or something, or they feel like it's a weight loss tool,
which it's not or not a very good one anyway,
and they resent feeling like they have to suffer in
order to look a certain way. There can be a
lot of reasons, but I hope you can see that
trying to quote fix the problem with more actions and
life hacks and equipment can be problematic because it's usually
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not something outside of you that needs fixing. It's not
even a problem to be fixed. Really, it's an opportunity
to see you with new eyes, to discover where you're
not free and break out of that self imposed prison
and create something brand new and freaking exciting. You deserve that,
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and maybe more importantly, the world needs your unique flavor
of awesome. So don't hold it hostage or keep it silent.
When you dig a new subconscious foundation. Your past struggles
don't have to have anything to do with your future
other than having acted as a catalyst for the growth
you needed to expand your possibilities. I promise there's a
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way for you to learn to love doing the things
that will help you sail through parimenopause and menopause and
make it so you don't have to stop living before
you die. But it's more of an inside job than
it is just tips for fixing your problems. How this
helped you think of problem fixing in a more useful way.
If you're interested in focusing on building a new future
and learning to love doing the things that will make
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you strong for years to come instead of trying to
just fix your old problems, send me a message at
Health Courage Collective at gmail dot com, or go to
my website Healthcourage Collective dot com and get on the
waitlist for my new beta program to finally get consistent
doing the things that will keep you healthy for decades
to come. It's going to be a good time next time.
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This week we're going to talk about your sixth vital sign.
Until then, stop trying to fix your old problems and
so you're normal. Thank you so much for tuning into
the Health Courage Collective podcast. I am truly honored that
you have paid me the enormous compliment of your time
and attention. I would be so grateful if you would
share this podcast with someone you know and subscribe so
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and information purposes only. Statements and views on this podcast
are not medical advice. This podcast, including Christina Hackett and producers,
disclaim responsibility for any possible adverse events by use of
information contained hearing. If you think you have a medical problem,
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