From Scraping By to Crushing It: How to Manifest Financial Freedom and Level Up Your Life

Alright, listen up! This isn’t your average conversation about personal growth—it’s a raw, no-excuses dive into what it takes to rise from the trenches and crush every obstacle in your way. In this episode, Amanda and Entrepreur/SingleMom/Busines Coach Reenee Khanna get real about the grit single moms need to survive and thrive.

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Reenee shares her badass story of transforming from a stay-at-home mom to daytrader to a business powerhouse, proving that when life knocks you down, you get the hell back up and fight harder.This isn’t just about making ends meet; it’s about finding your identity, owning your financial freedom, and letting your kids be the fuel that drives you to greatness.

We’re talking about a mindset shift—flipping the switch from scarcity to abundance and stepping into your power. Reenee breaks down the mental toughness it takes to follow your passion, trust your intuition, and evolve like a caterpillar turning into a damn butterfly.This conversation is for the ones ready to go ALL IN, who are sick of playing small, and are ready to crush their excuses, nourish their souls, and claim the life they deserve. Reani shows you how to take control of your body, your mind, and your future. So, if you're a single mom looking to level up and shatter every limit, this is your wake-up call.

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Chapters
00:00 The Power of Stories: Inspiration from the Olympics
01:52 Reani Khanna: From Stay-at-Home Mom to Business Coach
02:12 Finding Identity: The Journey of Self-Discovery
03:11 Financial Independence: The Catalyst for Change
04:24 The Role of Children: Finding Your Why
05:26 Day Trading: A New Adventure in Financial Freedom
08:21 Overcoming Scarcity Mindset: A Personal Journey
09:55 Breaking Barriers: Women and Money Mindset
12:37 The Infinite Nature of Money: A New Perspective
13:37 Dancing into Business: The Birth of a Dance Studio
16:16 Trusting Intuition: Following Your Passion
18:14 Nurturing Potential: The Seed and the Oak Tree
21:38 Transformation: The Caterpillar's Journey to Flight
23:56 From Stay-at-Home Mom to Entrepreneur
25:50 The Power of Manifestation and Intuition
28:09 Healing Through Nourishment and Self-Care
29:54 Connecting with Your Inner Child
32:00 Daring to Dream: Embracing New Possibilities
40:09 Understanding the Body's Role in Manifestation
43:57 Empowerment and Financial Independence for Single Moms

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
There's this big barrier that the money comes from men,
so if I don't have a man, I'm going to
be in a place of scarcity. We have this built
in mindset as women that money is less available to us.
But the first profession on the planet was a woman,
and I was like, huh, that's interesting. This was a idea.

Speaker 3 (00:23):
Welcome to the Single Mom Collective, a new season, a
new brand of a podcast designed to empower single mothers.
All of us here lifting each other up, no judgment,
just support. I'm your host, Amanda Carroll and the founder
of the Single Mom Collective, including the twelve step method

(00:44):
to redefine your life so that you become a high
value woman and attract a high value partner, a better
one the next time around.

Speaker 1 (00:53):
You can find out more in the link and the
show notes. I would love for you to join us
and do me a favor. If you love this podcast,
share with a friend, post about it on your Instagram,
and tag me at the real Amanda Carroll.

Speaker 3 (01:06):
You know why I think we love the Olympics so
much is because you hear all these stories of all
these athletes that have come from crazy circumstances to achieve
their dreams.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
That's kind of my idea of this podcast and this
season of the Single Mom Collective. I want to share
with you stories of single moms that are fricking doing
the thing like they are making it because it's an
example of what is possible for you. So I cannot
wait for you to meet my new friend, Reenie Conna.

(01:36):
We met on Instagram as everything good goes and I'm like, hey,
I like what you're doing. Let's figure out a way
we can team up. She's messaging me, let me just
give you the list of all that Reenie does. Okay,
Reenie started out she is right now, she's a business coach.
She helps women make lots of money doing the business

(01:59):
that they love. And I can't wait for you to
hear her secrets. You're going to hear that on this podcast.
You're also going to hear her story of going from
a stay at old mom all of a sudden, going
through a divorce with three children, learn day trading to
figure out a way to make money, even help Drex
figure out a way to do that. Then opened up

(02:21):
her dance studio like a Bollywood style dance studio, not
just one four and her goal is twelve by January
and now is an online business coach with a community
called Flow and Thrive, which I'm personally a member of
and I'm excited. Plus then oh wait, I'm not done.

(02:41):
Went back to become an herbalist to understand the mind
body connection. Like you're doing all the things, and I
please help us figure out how we can do all
the things too. Renie, thank you so much for I'm
just going to say, you're a part of the single
mom collective now, is that okay? Yes? I love it?
Thank you for having me. Oh my gosh. Could we

(03:03):
just start from the beginning, like what happened stay in
Alam and then all of a sudden start day trading.
What was the thing that was like, you know what,
like I deserve more and I'm going to go get more.
What was the change for you?

Speaker 2 (03:17):
I think for me it came after I had my
third baby and I remember looking in the mirror and
I'm like, I don't even know who this person is anymore.
I don't know who I am. You know, before I
started having kids, I was an exec at Disney. I
was living in London, England. I'm from Toronto originally, so
that was a big adventure for me. I finished grad school,
I went to London, I worked there, and now I'm

(03:39):
sitting here, like ten years later, going like, who is
this person? I don't know who I am anymore. I
don't I don't recognize myself. And I think it was
like a couple of turning points for me. One was
like when my daughter at the time, I can't I
can't remember how old she was. She must have been
like six or seven. She's like, I never want to
get married because it exploring. I don't want to end

(04:01):
up like you. I remember. I was like just so
unhappy where I was at. I was like marking x's
in the calendar and I was like, this is not good.
Something has to change, but I don't know what it was.
And so I just went on this journey of just
I guess, falling in love with myself again, remembering who
I am, and when I woke up and realized who

(04:22):
I was, I realized I had to leave and I
couldn't because I was financially dependent. I was a stay
at home mom. By then it had been twelve years
of being a stay at home mom, and I guess
I realized that if I wanted to leave. I had
to have financial independence. That was the biggest thing. That's
why I started day trading. You created your own financial independence.

(04:45):
How did you do that? Let me go back, Actually,
what was it inside.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Of you that gave you the courage and also the
confidence to know that you could?

Speaker 2 (04:57):
Oh, that's such a good question, because the only thing
that came to my mind when you asked the question
was it wasn't inside of me, It was outside of me,
and it was my kids. I was like, if not
for me, I have to do this for them. I
have to show them that better as possible. I have
to show them that this is not normal. And a
lot of things I think that I had quietly normalized

(05:20):
over the years were not and so that was my
biggest They were my biggest inspiration in the beginning. But
I think sometimes it is that way, right, and it
comes from there and then you start taking the steps
and you realize how strong you are within.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
Yeah, I think I call that finding your why. I
don't know if you've ever read the book Man Search
for Meaning. It's a great book by Victor Frankel. Okay,
I recommend it to all of my clients, and it's
a tough book though.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
It's about the Holocaust, and it's about though finding your
meaning in times of suffering. And they say there's a
line in it from a famous philosopher of Frederick Niejie
that says, he who has a why.

Speaker 1 (06:04):
To live can bear anyhow, Like you had a why
to live?

Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (06:10):
Yeah, And you're like, I'm going to create something better,
a better example for my children person. Yeah yeah, that
hit so ye okay, so you start day trading, like,
tell me that adventure? How did you figure that out?

Speaker 2 (06:29):
I thought to myself. I was like, okay, I'm going
to have to continue doing my mommy duties and I
can't so going out and going back to corporate. I
know what it's like. It's hectic. There's no way I
can work those hours. I cannot commit, and I wouldn't
be happy with myself. And so I there's one thing
that I grew up with a mentality around money, which

(06:50):
is very strong. That money is abundant. It's floating around
everywhere all the time. It's in circulation. It's not like
a pie that we're going to ever run out of money.
It's circulating. You give it to me, I give it
to someone else like it's all over, so it can't
be that hard to come by. That's what I kept thinking.
I'm like, it can't be that hard to come by.
There's got to be away. And a lot of my cousins,

(07:14):
my boy cousins, were trading stocks, and I'm like, well, they.

Speaker 1 (07:17):
Can do it.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
I can do it, so let me see. And I
spent six months. I made a spreadsheet and I'm like, okay,
what would I buy and sell every single day? And
I want to point out, because I know it's mostly
women who are listening to this, that part of me
was intimidated because I felt like, you know, the stock
market is a very masculine place, and I've been a

(07:38):
stay at home mom, in my feminine energy, looking after
my kid.

Speaker 1 (07:41):
You know what it's like.

Speaker 2 (07:42):
And I was like, okay, but but I'm very good
at psychology because I got kids. I know how to
manage my emotions right, and I'm very intuitive. And these
three things are I learned very after a little bit
of trading that those are instrumental in being successful. And
so if anyone's ever thinking about this, I want you

(08:02):
to remember that because I thought it was about the
graphs and the charts and the analysis and all these
people sitting in boardrooms talking about their you know what
they what they think is going to happen because they
looked at this research and that, and I'm like, the
markets are not that rational. And so with that in mind,
I started to think about what would I buy every

(08:24):
day given the news that was coming out. When would
I buy it? When would I sell it? And I
recorded it in a spreadsheet every single day diligently. Not
a single trade happened. It was just me saying, this
is what I would do until I had enough confidence
to take a little home equity line of credit of
ten thousand dollars and trade and like within I think

(08:47):
it was less than a year with that ten thousand
that I was able to get. Like, I think it
was about nearly four thousand dollars that I made in
that first year on the ten So that's like nearly
forty percent. Okay, guys, we're doing this. I got this. Yeah, yeah,
And that's how I kind of got into it.

Speaker 1 (09:05):
And it's great.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
I mean, the bell rings at nine point thirty, so
I would drop off my kids. I had half an
hour to read the news. Know what I was doing
and then trade and then picked them up and maybe
another half an hour of trading after they came home.
It was perfect.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
That's amazing, Like just the confidence that you had. And
I have to say, like, I'm jealous and I'm envious.
I think because I didn't grow up with that same
money mindset like I grew up. I'm a third generation
single mom. Wow yea. And my family my grandmother became
a widow in nineteen fifty six her husband died as

(09:46):
a heart attack on the family farm. My mother was
six years old. And then like my mother went through
a divorce and then it was like the last thing
I wanted and then I went through it. So I
think there is this history of women of dependence and
scarcity that I've fought to overcome. How would you say, like,

(10:06):
help me get your mindset about that, because I think
a lot of women are like that and like all
we know is scarcity. And then even like going through
as growing up as a divorced child, it was always
like my parents thought about money, Who's going to pay
for me to go to camp, Who's going to pay
for me to go to college? And all I know
is conflict about it. How do you heal that.

Speaker 2 (10:27):
I think a big part of it because I've had
my own money issues, right, So, yes, there's a lot
of abundance. However where the kind of community I was
raised in in the background and my upbringing was. But
that abundance flows through a man. So he makes the money,
he gives it to you, which gives all the control

(10:48):
in their hands. Right, the one who makes the money
has all the control. Somehow is the society that I
think we live in this mindset and so for me,
the biggest barrier, and I actually think it's the same
barrier for a lot of women, even if it's a
scarcity mindset, there's this big barrier that the money comes
from men. So if I don't have a man, I'm

(11:08):
going to be in a scarcity, in a place of scarcity, right,
because how do women like women? We don't even have
pay equity. I mean we might now, but I know
when I was working at certainly did not pay equity.
We weren't even allowed to go on the golf trips.
And that was like in the two thousands, right, So

(11:29):
you know, we have this built in mindset as women
that money is less available to us.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
Right.

Speaker 2 (11:35):
But the first profession on the planet was a woman,
and I was like, huh, that's interesting. This was always
my idea. Oh, first of all, we were the first
ones making money. We came up with this whole concept.
I'm like, there's no way that I need to believe
that as a woman. There's something there. I think a
lot of life and I'm a I'm a big believer

(11:56):
in manifestation. So if we hold on to beliefs, it's
going to it's going to play out, right. So I
was like, Okay, I got to abandon this belief that
money comes through men, that men somehow have more entitlement
to money because I don't know, they're more logical, they
work harder. I'm not even sure why, right, But where
does that come from? I'm like, I need to abandon

(12:18):
this belief. I need to understand that me as I am,
as a woman, is inherently worthy of having money. Why not?
Like what you know, what is where is it even
coming from? It's not coming from anything that feels aligned
for me. So that was the first part. The second
part is like, if you think about this, if they

(12:38):
were to cut down all the trees, we would run
out of oxygen and it would take forever to grow
more trees and grow more in anything. And I'm watching
and like, I remember it was like two thousand and eight,
and I'm like, so when they run out of money,
they just print more money. It happened like overnight when
they had to bail out the banks. Remember when they
were bailing out the banks, they just gave them money.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
Horror companies and the automotive industry. Yep.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
I was like, Oh, that's interesting. So this is a
resource that's infinite. Actually it's a man made resource that's
completely infinite. It's not like it's not actually as precious
and scarce as the things that we already take for granted,
like the trees and like. So if you start to
flip your mince and actually understand that and that, and

(13:24):
there's no pie. There's no money pie, absolutely no money pie.
It's just it's like we live off again.

Speaker 1 (13:32):
I Okay.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
So one thing I do. I did study money in
the sense that when I started to get into trading
stacks and I looked into like, oh, it was a
gold back currency. And I know I'm going to get
very typical here with people, But the bottom line of
everything I learned about you know, having a debt backed
currency because that's what you know, the US dollar is
backed by now means that the more I spend, the

(13:57):
more other people have to spend. So this there's not
a pie that's ever running out. We're all just spending money.
The only way the money can run out is if
we stop spending it.

Speaker 1 (14:07):
That's funny. That makes it feel like we're not such
in scarcity mode and we help each other.

Speaker 2 (14:14):
There's no scarcity of money.

Speaker 1 (14:17):
That can't be right. So knowing this, you start day
trading and then what made you then be like open
up some dance studios as a single mom with three kids.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
Okay, so this is my money mindset today. Back then,
I was playing with these concepts, right, So I'm sitting
there playing with these concepts and starting to trade stocks.
But a part of me is still has a lot
of doubt. You know, there's that human part of you
that's like, okay, but you can't just count on this
to make money. Even though you believe all of these things,

(14:51):
you need a lot more evidence until you really ground
into it. So I was like, okay, I got to
do other things. So I'm going to go back to
school and study herbalism because my son, and there's a big,
long story with him, but basically he was born with
an infection which went away, but then he was on antibiotics,
which results in gut issues as we know, and so

(15:12):
then he was callic. And we went through this whole
process and I learned a lot about like one healing
the gut, but two also understanding the emotional trauma that
happens to a baby that's in the in I see
the nick you, right, neonatal intensive care. So he was
taken to the nick You and that created emotional trauma.
He didn't see me for like sixteen hours, he didn't

(15:34):
get fed by me, no one could touch him. He
was in an incubator. And so I started to learn
a lot about like natural healing, healing the emotional root cause.
And so I was like, I love this stuff. I'm
going to go back to school and become a herbalist
and you know, start treating everybody else's chronic conditions and
at the same time, you know, finding yourself as a process.

(15:57):
And dance has always been my passion. The things I
did was get back into dance and I had to
actually had knee injuries, so doctors had told me I
couldn't ever dance again. So I was healing my knees
and learning how to dance while going to school so
that I could help other people heal because I'm like,
if I can heal my son, I can heal myself.

(16:19):
And so that was a whole journey. But underlying it
actually was also I can't rely on stocks forever to
make money, so I should probably learn some more skills.
The dance part was more a passion thing it had.
It was never meant to be a business ever. I
never thought I was going to run a dance school.

Speaker 1 (16:40):
Okay, but you just did the thing. You just kept going.

Speaker 2 (16:43):
I kept going, I kept listening to my heart, I
kept following my intuition, and I invested a lot of
money training for dance because I thought that was a
part of my healing process. I was like, if I
want to find myself again after divorce, I have to
become the confident person I was before I got married,
and dance was going to do that for me. So

(17:05):
I thought it was the best investment I could make.
And this, okay for anyone who is in a place
right now of wanting and trying to trust your intuition.
Let me tell you what happened. The universe is so incredible.
So I'm learning dance and I'm investing all this time
and money and I do all of it. And one
day I'm walking through the hallways at my kids' school

(17:27):
and the after school.

Speaker 1 (17:29):
The lady who.

Speaker 2 (17:29):
Owns the after school care program sees me and she said, oh,
I heard a rumor that you've been learning dance and
that that's your passion. And you know you used I
used to work in Bollywood. Actually, that's why it's my passion.
And so she said, you know, we have some extra
budget and we need someone to run an after school program.
Would you be open to doing it? And I said, well,

(17:50):
how much exactly is this extra budget and what does
it entail? And it was guys, I'm not even like
the exact amount that I had invested in and relearning
dance and hiring a private teacher was the amount she
was offering me. And I'm like, every penny I just
invested and me came back and come back to me
came back. And then the kids did a performance and

(18:12):
the parents loved it, and they said, can you open
a whole school? And we'll bring our kids to learn.
And that's how dance Bollywood was born. It was never
it was Yeah, it's following my heart.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
Well, it's like I wrote down two words when you
were talking about this story is potential and passion. And
I felt like you have a unique perspective where you
see potential in the unknown almost and instead of scared,
instead of being afraid of it. And then you also

(18:46):
followed your passion because you saw potential in it. What
is it about you that sees it? Like like I
want to put that mindset on every single mom in
the single mom collective, Like, help me harness that and
let's give it to other single moms. Can you like
share that?

Speaker 2 (19:06):
I'm going to share it because I have a love
for plants and trees right clearly valuation too.

Speaker 1 (19:13):
That's where I'm I'm convinced I'm going to be a
farmer one day. But okay, right, yeah, you know, like
I'm going to be great at it.

Speaker 2 (19:21):
Yeah, so the way are you, Toby?

Speaker 5 (19:26):
No?

Speaker 1 (19:27):
But I come from a long line of farmers. I
have a peach tree that does really well.

Speaker 2 (19:32):
Okay, that's good, that's huge. Oh my god, Now you
could get me into this trajectory. I have so many questions. Okay,
we're gonna go to share this perspective with your listeners. Okay,
I want you guys to think of a seed of
an oak tree, and this is the way I see life. Okay,
that seed is just a seed. It does not look
like an oak tree whatsoever. If you were to leave

(19:54):
that seed lying on your desk for years, it would
just remain a seed. But we know that if you
put that seed in the ground and you nourish it,
it's going to eventually grow roots. And you know how
hard it is to grow roots, Cause you're to grow roots,
you're in the dark, and you're moving towards gravity. You're
going downwards. Right, this is what your pain.

Speaker 1 (20:16):
Was all about.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
You were a seed that was put in and you
were in the dark, and you're going through all of
this pain and all of this trauma. So if anyone's
there right now, that you are growing a foundation right now,
and eventually there's a part of you that's like, what
is this? Why is it so hard? And you pull
your energy back in and you start to pull your

(20:38):
energy out of the roots, and what happens to that
seed at that point is nothing it's just sitting there
in the dark. And then it's starting to think, I
have to now push in another direction. Right, So you've
been pushing against something down to gravity. Now you're trying
to push in another direction, and nothing's happening. Nothing's happening

(20:58):
until you kind to come out a little bit from
the soil and you suddenly see light. And the minute
you see light, it's all the resistance goes and you
grow towards the light. Right, If that seed is never planted,
nothing happens. If that seed is never watered, nothing happens.
If it doesn't have nutrients in the soil, if it

(21:19):
doesn't have sunlight, nothing happens. So it's up to you
to give the seed a potential. Wean you the nutrients,
the sunlight, the water so that you can become an
oak tree. Otherwise you're just going to be growing roots
and it's gonna sudy to feel awful.

Speaker 1 (21:35):
So maybe some of us in a previous relationship weren't
watered or we weren't even watering ourselves. Yeah, which really,
when we think about it, it's our own duty, it's
nobody else's responsibility. But because of whatever happened, like let's
just move forward. And it's like we weren't being watered

(21:56):
and we weren't getting the nutrients we need. So we
found just like a new hole, and now we know
that it's important to water ourselves and grow to the potential.
I freaking love that and it that's why I love butterflies.
I think I have the same analogy with butterflies.

Speaker 6 (22:14):
I metamorphosis, yes, because what I love is like it's
not easy for the caterpillar to grow wings, like it's painful,
but it still does it anyway, right, Like it goes
and I wish I knew more about the brain of
a cat.

Speaker 7 (22:32):
Like does it know it gets to like fly and
be a butterfly? Like I really wish I would like no,
like does it know? But then it goes in and
it's painful and it must suck.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
You know, it's in this cocoon. And then if anyone
comes along, like at a butterfly museum, and you see
them trying to get out of the cocoon, and if
anyone opens it, it can't fly because it's the struggle
to get out of the cocoon that gives its wings
the muscles and this strength and the ability to fly.
So it's like if we're like between the seed that

(23:05):
needs that has to struggle to get to the surface.
It just needs the right watering and nutrients, and the
caterpillar that's just like has to struggle to get out
of the cocoon. So you can be this beautiful new plant,
this beautiful new creation. So maybe that's how we can reform.
Like if you're stuck in your single mom life right now,

(23:25):
you're like, oh my god, this is the worst thing
that ever happened to be WHOA, Well, maybe we just
need to take care of ourselves in a different way
to then become this new creation one hundred percent right.

Speaker 2 (23:39):
Like, the one thing I used to think about is
like because I was studying plants and I was like, yeah,
if you if a plant isn't growing, we don't say
to the plant, like what you know, what's the problem
with you. We adjust the water, we adjust the sunlight,
we we change it up, right, And we need to
nourish ourselves in the same way. You need to see

(23:59):
yourself in the same way, especially when you're at that
point where you're a seed, you know you're done, Like
you've moved on from a relationship of marriage. So you've
pulled your energy back in. But you always thought like,
once I pull it back in, it wouldn't it be easier?
But there's still that time that you have to keep
nourishing yourself to sprout through, right, And if you're not

(24:20):
sprouting through, then what needs to change? How can you
nurse yourself better?

Speaker 1 (24:26):
Yeah, it's like it's like the I call that the
first pancake, Like when you make pancakes, right, the first
is just a test and it never really comes out right,
but it still tastes good and everybody still eats it.
But all you need to do and you don't throw
out the batter if the first one is you just
make adjustments, Yeah, and you make it better. So maybe

(24:47):
it's time for you to make some adjustments and get
rid of the scarcity mindset of a single mom and
figure out how can I, really, lack of a better phrase,
kick some ass. Okay, yeah right, there's probably a much
more beautiful way of saying that, but sorry, that's just
what came out. So then you go from stay home

(25:12):
mom day trading, figuring out I can do this, that
gives you confidence opening up your dance studio. That's your passion,
you see potential, you follow your passion, and then you
study and you become an herbalist. And now where does
the manifestation come in into this process? Where now you're like,

(25:34):
had that been going on the whole time? Did you
manifest this?

Speaker 2 (25:37):
I didn't, you know what, I didn't even know about manifestation,
and I was intuitively doing it because ultimately we're always
all manifesting, right, we just don't we're not doing it
good or mostly right. Yeah, we're subconsciously calling stuff in.
And I just decided I'm going to get conscious about it.
I don't want to be in this marriage anymore. I

(25:59):
know there's better, So how do I get to it?
You know, one thing I did do is I said
to myself, I'm switching on my intuition. I'm turning down
the logic because when the logic is high, what happens
is very easy for someone to infiltrate your mind. And
what I mean by this is that you can hear
what there's like, right, they can logic you into believing anything.

Speaker 1 (26:21):
Right.

Speaker 2 (26:21):
For me, that was another thing. Right, I have a
bit of a rebel. So when they kept telling me
like they meaning, you know, family people well wishers like
you're gonna if you leave your husband, you're going to
be a broke single mom. And I'm like, yeah, I
don't think so, I'll show you, right, yeah, watch me.
But they can throw every piece of logic at you

(26:44):
and be like, this is why you'll be broke, this
is why you'll be I'm like, I'm shutting that logic
down right now, and I'm listening to this and I'm
going to follow my intuition, right, So, like intuition is
guiding me. And now I'm totally forgotten your question. So
sorry you said I did too in festation? Where did
that come from? Because now, right, keep going because we're

(27:06):
all manifesting based on the logical stuff people are telling us,
and we're creating our beliefs based on that logic. When
you create your beliefs based on your intuition, that's when
you start to see things differently. That's when I started
to like and say, learn from the plants, right. But
I was studying herbalism, and so you're observing plants and
I'm like, well that's interesting, Like you know, the plant

(27:26):
growing when it gets nourished, right, And so I'm applying
all of these things. But the biggest thing was and
this is going to be really interesting because I started
to make the mind body connection and I started to
learn that, yeah, there's an emotional root cause of your
chronic condition, your physical pain. Yeah, we know that. But
when I started working with clients, I had a clinic,

(27:49):
and when my clients would know the emotional root cause
of their pain and we started doing the emotional work,
we started moving it, they would start manifesting things that
they wanted.

Speaker 1 (27:59):
Right.

Speaker 2 (28:00):
So, like I had one client who was, oh, I'm
going to share this her story a little bit, but
she was a pre diabetic, so like if she didn't
change things, she was going to go on insulin. And
she was single and she hadn't been on dates and
years and this and that, and I knew, I knew

(28:22):
it was like she's not nourishing herself. She's going for
all the wrong Like she wasn't even she was in
a situationship where she wasn't even seeing the guy, and
like it was just an awful and you can you know,
we all know, we've all been there where you're replaying
your trauma. Just same story, different person kind of thing.
And so anyway, she's in this situationship where they haven't

(28:44):
even spoken for months, she's not really gone on dates
and years with anybody else, and she's pre diabetic. And
I said, you know what, she needs to nourish herself.
And so we came down to figuring out what she
loved the most in this world, and she just doing
that and I was like, this is gonna The emotional
root cause of her diabetes is the same trauma that's

(29:08):
causing her to be in this situation ship. So when
she starts to nurse herself, when she starts to release
that pattern, that thought pattern, that behavior, that emotional trauma
by nourishing herself, everything's going to change her blood sugar regulated.
She was getting asked out at the gym all day long.
Then she messages me she's like I just met this man,

(29:29):
like she was taking a class and she met him
in the class and then the next day he took
her on like the date. She's like the date I've
been dreaming of for years, just by doing that work right,
And so I was like, oh wow, manifestation is real,
Like I've been doing it all this time. I'm helping
my clients do it, and so I want people to
understand that, Like, yeah, you have a lot of influence

(29:49):
on your reality, and it doesn't feel that way when
you're in a emotionally negative place or when you're in
a place where things aren't working. But if if you
can pull yourself out of the loop just for a
bit and give your like, just go back to nourishing yourself,
you'll see the light. You'll find the way.

Speaker 1 (30:10):
Nourishing yourself with your food, exercize like doing and you
said passion, like you went back to dance. Yeah, is
that what you say, I like for nourishing myself, Like
it's writing, Yeah, you know, and maybe everybody has their thing.
Is that what you mean about nourishing yourself? Like, how
could a single mom listening right now, going crap, I'm

(30:33):
in that negative mindset? What do I do to find
the thing.

Speaker 2 (30:38):
That's going to nourish myself, the thing that makes you
feel alive? For this client, it was photography, right, photography
and poetry, And so I told her, I said, you
know what, I want you to just go to a
local business and just start taking photos almost like a stocker,
and create a really nice Instagram real for them and

(30:59):
show it to them. And because they felt they were like, wow, like,
I love the way you see my business. And because
now she's getting feedback in validation too, right on, her
passion encourages it more and then her confidence levels go up. So,
I mean, there's so many nuances at play, but it's
the thing that makes you feel alive. It's a thing

(31:20):
like before all of this happened to you, what were
you doing that just made you happy and without a
care in the world. Time flew by.

Speaker 1 (31:30):
Yeah, I love that saying that there was two kinds
of people we have to make happy in our life.
Not our mom, it's not our dad, it's not even
God or spiritual being whatever you believe in, because all
three of those people pretty much love you no matter what. Really,
the two people we have to make proud is our
eight year old self and our eighty year old self. Right,
I've not heard that before.

Speaker 8 (31:52):
Yes, it's like your eight year old self had passions
and dreams and no one had hurt her, right, and
all she saw was potential and all make passion.

Speaker 1 (32:06):
Like my eight year old self, like I was wonder woman,
like I had the under rus so therefore I was
her right, like I could do anything, and like she
still exists deep inside of you and if you can
tap into that eight year old version of you. I
have a picture if you watch this on YouTube you
can see it. But I have a picture of like
me as a little girl on my desk to remind me, like,

(32:29):
I don't know, like I'm punching something, which is very hilarious,
but I like like it reminds me like that girl.
She was fierce and no one had hurt her to
keep acting like her. And then your eighty year old
self is the one that's going to be really pissed
off if you don't go for your dreams.

Speaker 8 (32:50):
Right.

Speaker 1 (32:50):
And we don't want to let her down, and she's
not like and I think about relationships, She's going to
be really mad if you let the fact that somebody
hurt you never get back into relationship ever again. So
she's alone. I think those are the two people that
we have to constantly think in our mind. It's just
something that motivates me on a regular basis. So if

(33:11):
you were to really talk into a newly single mom
or even someone thinking about it maybe and go into
do I want this single mom journey thing? Or do
I want to stay in this hard relationship thing, which
which hard am I got to pick? Like, how would
you tell them to like start, give them a potential

(33:35):
and passion, give her potential and passion. I'll let you
think about that. Do you need.

Speaker 2 (33:43):
I didn't write that down because I'm so intuitive, right,
So I'm going to share, Like when you were talking this,
a story came into my head. It was a friend
of mine. So we come from a very conservative community, right,
divorce doesn't happen, and if it does, is right? Okay,
so you get it right and if and then you
get the look of pity, people looking at you with

(34:04):
pity like, oh, I'm so sorry. I'm like, okay, so
actually you should be sorry.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
I was staying in an abusive relationship. Please, yes, right,
somehow that.

Speaker 2 (34:15):
Place given for your priority. So anyways, I know, so
my friend, she said, we're in the same community, and
we've now both like she her kids were with her
ex husband and mine were with mine for a week
and so we just did this like last minute impromptu
trip to Costa Rica. Okay, Like this is I'm just saying.

(34:37):
I'm saying this because if anyone's thinking the single life
mom is hard, there's so many perks to it. The
fact that you can just get up and go to
Costa Rica for a week. So we get we decide
we're going to go, and we're in Costa Rica and
one somebody else from like that we know, sends a
message and you know, it was like a divorce pity message. Right,

(34:59):
She's like, they pity us. I'm like I know, but
she's like, you know, do we tell them we escaped
or do we let them to continue feeling hard for us.
I'm like, I know, like we're sitting here in Costa
Rica and I'm like, I really don't feel like anyone
should feel sorry for me at all. And I think
what I would say to somebody right who's in that place,

(35:21):
because so easy, Like it feels like it's so easy
now that you're through it, you can say that, but
when you're in that hard place, and I do remember
the pity notes, like I think I remember someone sent
me a message on Christmas like you know, our thoughts
are with you, because they knew my kids were with
I was like, I'm just sitting here on Christmas like
it's peaceful, it's quiet, and I have class.

Speaker 9 (35:44):
I'm not like anyways, I'm good, thank you, but but
I get it, and I get where they're coming from,
and I get there's a lot of things right.

Speaker 2 (35:55):
And this is where I say it's so important to
sometimes turn off that logical brain because everything they're saying
makes logical sense and they mean well. And you know,
there are a lot of like we can't avoid reality.
There are a lot of realistic fears and risks that
you're taking when you're making this decision to become a
single mom. Right, But there's a part of you that knows, right,

(36:19):
it's that eight year old self. She's still there and
she knows there's better. And so when you start to
tune into her more, that's when you can see potential.
If you're caught up in all the logic that people
are throwing at you, all the pity that they're throwing
at you, all the stuff, then you're only going to
be able to see that. You have to turn off
the noise in order to see the potential, and you

(36:42):
have to also surround yourself with the people. I think
for me, one big thing was having the people that
had gone through it like front and center, Like you guys,
get to have access now to my logical brain, not
the people, not the naysayers, You guys get to help
me logic stuff out, because I need new logic. With

(37:03):
my old logic, I'm going to step to stuck in
my old life. And I think that's all it is.
It's rewiring that logical brain of yours is what it's
going to take to step out of it. And what
I tell my clients all the time is that what
we want to do here is the minute you find
that tiny seed, that mustard seed of hope, like leach

(37:24):
onto it and use it to build more momentum in
the direction that you want to go in. So even
if everything in your life right now it feels difficult,
if you're stuck, you're this, you're that. Find the one thing,
like I did, it was my kids. They make me happy.
We can have why, right, the why We can have
a beautiful relationship when someone's not like looming over and

(37:45):
criticizing my every motherly move right. And I want more
of that, And so I'm going to hold onto that.
I'm going to girl that, I'm going to nourish that
and let that be what guides me. So if you're
in a place where like there's only a sliver of hope,
leach onto that sliver, and that's all.

Speaker 1 (38:01):
I there's a sliver.

Speaker 2 (38:03):
Let me take that.

Speaker 7 (38:04):
I love how you say it's a seed, Like we've
got the seed.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
You know what happens if you plant it? Yeah, I
remember I came up with like a band name for
me and my kids when I first got to Forest.
I called them the Sunshines. I gave them like a nickname,
and we were Mama and the Sunshines everywhere we went.
And because the song that I sang to them when

(38:29):
they were babies, you make me happy. When skys are gray,
I'm like, all right, Sunshines they still answer to. It
was a lot quicker than saying Emily, Andy Zoe, come on,
time to go up, like Sunshines, we're out, Like, let's go.
It was a lot, but I love that. It was
like that was my sliver of hope that I was like, No,
we're still a family. There's nothing broken about us, there's

(38:51):
nothing missing about us. Like, let's just we're just rebranded.
We're just rebranded into a new name. So you know,
let me ask you about a couple more steps of manifestation.
So it's interesting because this is something I've learned as
i've understood like a deep like growing up and I

(39:14):
would call it a high demand religion and still kind
of trying to figure out faith and spirituality and all
the things so and understanding stuff that my grandma used
to say to me. My grandma really is just and
now she's brilliant. Now I wish I could still talk
to her. But she would say things like, you know,

(39:35):
your mind is like jello. You have to put all
the good stuff before it sets. Like she's talking about
your thoughts, so like put in the good stuff before
it sets. And I think it was about some proverbs
your thoughts provoke your life. But she's like, you know,
your mind's like jello. She would refuse to allow me
to say anything negative. So I have a manifestation process

(39:56):
and it's like I've read books upon books on it,
like Into the Magic Shop is one of my favorites.
I don't know if you've read that book, but highly
recommend that book Different The Science of Getting Rich. Read
that book and it's like, Okay.

Speaker 5 (40:13):
I'm going to like relax my whole body and I'm
gonna like do this thing and I'm going to listen
to this high vibration music and I'm gonna imagine myself
and in.

Speaker 1 (40:23):
This like I imagine my husband and I on land
and I have a garden and he's got a wood
shop and like all these things. So I'm curious for
you what you teach, Like, if you were going to
help a single mom that maybe she's in the scarcity mode,
how would you teach her to manifest a better future
by following by believing in her potential and following her passion. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (40:44):
So one of the things I learned because I did
the mind body connection, and I think the thing that's
the game changer for my clients when it comes to
manifestation is understand this one thing because people sit here
and they tell you, like we're saying it, like, oh,
believe that money is abundant and believe this, and you're like,
I'm I'm trying. I'm trying. I'm drying all day long,
I'm affirming, I'm saying and I'm meditating. It's not happening.

(41:07):
The money is not falling out of the tree.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
So like, what is it?

Speaker 2 (41:12):
And the thing I've told my clients is that it's
actually manifestation is really cool. And there's so many books
you can read and there's so much stuff you can logic. However,
your body is a big part of manifestation, and your
body is actually chemically addicted to where you are right now,
because where you are right now produces a chemical reaction

(41:34):
in your brain. Your emotions produce a chemical reaction in
your body, and your body is actually addicted to that,
just like it would be addicted to caffeine or alcohol
or anything else. It gets addicted to chemicals. This is
why it is hard to leave the marriage, because you
are chemically addicted right If you think about toxic relationships,
r sick relationships, you're on you're on a high, you're

(41:56):
on a low, and then when you're on the low
and you get back on the high, there's an adrenaline rush,
there's a happiness. You're addicted to that roller coaster. I
remember saying to my therapist, I'm like, you should get
off this roller coaster, and I realized my body, my
brain was done, but my body was still addicted. That's
why we take so long to make these choices and

(42:17):
these decisions. And then what happens to my clients is
like then they're beating up on themselves. They're like and
it what happened to me too. It's like, why am
I taking so long? Why did that person do it?
Why is it so hard for me just to believe?
And it's like, it's not. Your body's going through a process.
So let your body get on board and override. You
got to override the body whenever it wants to go back,

(42:38):
because that's why you want to go back to the marriage,
because you know it was bad for you, but you
want to go back to the toxic relationship because your
body's all you know, well, your body's having withdrawn it
wants it again. And so this is where you have
to be more powerful and say no, we're moving forward.
And bodies are also wired for the familiar, like you said,
because it ensures survi.

Speaker 1 (43:00):
Right.

Speaker 2 (43:01):
So it's about making sure your body's safe. So as
you're doing the work, as you're going to therapy, you're
doing the mindset work, you're doing the belief work, keep
doing the body work, the nervous system regulation, the tapping,
whatever works for you. Right, Like I like dancing personally obviously,
right Like, so like I will journal out whatever needs

(43:21):
to be released and then dance it out of my body.
Right So I think it's having compassion that you're not
moving slowly, that your body is just in a chemical
addiction and you need to give it time to adjust
and catch up.

Speaker 1 (43:35):
Beautiful, I haven't made that connection with manifestation, so thank you.
That must be why I like to go to the gym,
Like I feel so much better after lifting weights and
going to the gym, Like my day is so much
better because I've gotten it all out, Like I feel
strong because lifting weights makes me feel strong.

Speaker 2 (43:53):
Yeah, and you feel good and you're moving the stuff right, Like,
I think that's another reason too, right, Like, so when
we talk about like nourishing yourself, when you do something
you love that you're passionate about, like you know, we
talked about photography or painting or writing, your body has
a different chemical reaction than it doesn't. And so now

(44:14):
you want your body to get used to happy vibes
or happier vibes or vibes where you know. So the
more you do think your love, the more that becomes
your normal, and the more then you welcome you manifest
the things you want, because now your body's used to
being happy, it's used to being safe, it's used to
having what it wants.

Speaker 1 (44:33):
I love that. Thank you. Oh my god, I'm so rich.
Talk to you forever. So is there anything else that
I did not ask you that you wanted to give
to the single Mom collective as we're working on seeing
potential in our future following our passions, believing that we

(44:56):
can be financially independent and raise great kids. Anything else
that you wanted to give that I didn't ask?

Speaker 2 (45:02):
I think I've been leaving them with one thought, like,
dare to dream because the world you grew up in
is not the world it is today. And one of
the things that like I was taught from, Like I
came from a I come from a family of entrepreneurs
who are so practical, and they always told me you'll
never make money dancing, You'll never make money, right like

(45:24):
with like you know, holistic health, who cares people like
and here most medicines are subsidized, Like it's almost free
to get help.

Speaker 1 (45:31):
Why would someone pay you? Right?

Speaker 2 (45:34):
So, dare to dream because the world is changing. People
are changing. There are so many women who are now
empowered to make choices that we couldn't make years ago.
And the more of us that are making it, the more.
Like we were talking about this before, like we've created it.
Just we've just created our own little economy at this point. So, yes,

(45:55):
it is what you what. Whatever someone's telling you wasn't possible,
isn't based on what is actually going on right now.
Because there's a big movement. There's a lot happening, and
if you're wondering if you can be a part of it,
you can. Otherwise you wouldn't be here listening to this.

Speaker 1 (46:15):
Yeah. Absolutely. I had a business consultant back when I
was in radio, say but Amanda, what if you were
done dreaming small? What would you do? And I was like, oh, well,
I'd have a national radio show. And a year to
the date that my ex left, I got that national
radio show because I just decided to be done dreaming small. Yeah,

(46:39):
so I think that's all. Yeah, like giving you permition,
single mom, collective and if yes, yes, because you deserve it.
You deserve it and you can do it like anything.
It's like what would you tell your own children? You know?
And I think about my grandmother who became a single mom,

(47:00):
a widow of four children in nineteen fifty six, and
her best job, the only job option she had, was
to be a bank teller or a telephone operator. She
chose bank teller and learned a lot about money, put
all four of her children through college, and just was
a hero in my mind. And then like just the

(47:22):
fact that she made it work made me think, well, heck,
I can do it. And then my mother, you know,
she you know, couldn't even get her own credit card
until like this just sounds crazy without a male co signer.
And the fact that like they did it, Now, what
could you do? You have all the freedoms and all

(47:44):
the ability to do everything and to become the hero
of your own story and the mom that your children
will absolutely brag about. So a girl, go and we're
here to help and propel you forward in a single
mom collective. So how can we get in touch with you?
We're like, okay, I want some help in the manifestation world, Like,
how can we connect with you? RENI?

Speaker 2 (48:06):
The best place to connect with me is Instagram. I
don't know if you can link it in your in
your notes.

Speaker 1 (48:12):
Put it all in the show notes, but yeah, really.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
That kind of come and find my community.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (48:17):
You know, we're all about manifesting the life that you desire.
Nothing is out of reach. It's called live in flow
and thrive. So that's the best.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
Way to get me like it, okay, and again all
the links will be in the show notes, and like,
thank you for blessing a single Mom Collected today. And
I just know it's just the beginning of lots of
cool things.

Speaker 2 (48:40):
Yeah, And I just want to say, I think the
work you're doing is so fabulous, so important for anyone.
I wish I had a collective like you know, seven
years ago when I was going through this. But so
thank you for doing what you do. I think it's great. Iulusting.

Speaker 1 (48:56):
Thanks for saying that. That's and you hit the nail
on the head is why I created. I created the
group that I wish you.

Speaker 3 (49:03):
Thank you for joining this single mom collective on this episode.
Do me a favor. Share this with a friend, a
single mom you know that could really use this and
could use some encouragement.

Speaker 1 (49:14):
Post about it on Instagram. You can find me at
the real Amanda Carroll tag me.

Speaker 3 (49:20):
I'd be so honored and join our collective. Girl, what
are you waiting for? You don't have to go through
this journey alone anymore. Join the community of single mothers
that are all about moving forward with our future and
never staying stuck because your kids deserve to have a
mom that they can brag about.