July 31, 2024 • 28 mins
Transactional Relationships vs. Traditional Relationships - which do you prefer? Although there is not a lot of talk about transactional relatinoships, at least not openly, I personally feel that they exist a lot. There would probably be a lot of people who would look down on transactional relatinonship and/or think only negative things about them. But what if i told you that there are actually a lot of benefits to this type of relationship? Take a listen to this episode and see for yourself.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yes, it is your boor more Marquis. And you know,
I'm always glad when y'all come drawing. Y'all down to
the QB zone. Listen, today's gonna be interesting episode for me.
So sometimes I like to reach out to supporters, people
that I interact with from time to time as well,
to aks them what subject matters they would like to.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
See me talk about on my podcast or on my blog.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Right, and so, not too long ago, I had aks
some some friends and I also have put on my Facebook,
and I was intrigued by some of the topics and
actually quite interested and excited to do a few of 'em.
(00:54):
If you look at my blog from the past two weeks,
those topics were requested by other people and our last blog,
which you know, was about spinning the block, that was
also one that wasn't on the list suggested, but because
(01:16):
of conversations that I'd had with two very close friends,
I was like, this has to be a sign, like
I just wanna talk about it. Nonetheless, today's topic falls
ride in line with being relationship related, but a topic
that was suggested to me. So when I saw the topic,
(01:39):
I said, Okay, have I been in one of these before,
and I I feel like I have, but.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It didn't last long by my choice.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
And so today's topic is specifically about transactional relationships.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
First of all, do you know what.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
A transactional relationship is? What are your thoughts on one?
If you know what it is? And before we get started,
when you think about your love life, think about your
current relationship if you're in one, think about any relationships
in the past, any relationships, any situationships. For this episode,
(02:26):
we're gonna throw them all in the same category. Have
you been in any that are transaction? Give you a
few seconds I think about it, because for some people
you might have a long history, so you might need
a little longer to think about it than I do.
(02:50):
And if you have not been in one, I want
you to listen to what I'm gonna share do today
and thinking to yourself, would you ever be in one?
I know when I was doing research and looking into
material for this topic, I said, you know, as I
(03:11):
told you guys already, I'd been in them, but by choice,
they didn't last that long.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But I feel like I learned a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I feel like I learned a lot by some of
the things that I'm going to share with you all,
and I said, you know, I could see how this
could really serve me a great purpose to be on one,
I think, having lived life, having been through some things,
and I'm not talking about necessary negative stuff, just you know,
living life, I think that I'll be a lot more
(03:44):
equipped to be in a quote unquote transactional relationship and
it be vastly more successful than in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
In today's fast paced world, the concept of a transactional
relationship has gained attention as a unique approach to partnerships.
This type of arrangement, often misunderstood, has an impact on
how people view connections and interact with each other. As
(04:17):
society evolves, so do the ways individuals form and maintain relationships,
leading to a growing interest in exploring the potential benefits
of transactional partnerships. This episode delves into the hidden advantages
of embracing a transactional relationship. It examines the definition and
(04:43):
characteristics of these arrangements, sheds light on an unexpected perks,
and offers insight to navigate challenges. By exploring topics such
as communication expectations and the balance between emotional support and
practical exchanges. You all will gain a deeper understanding of
(05:07):
how transactional relationships can actually foster personal growth and mutual benefit.
So what exactly is a transactional relationship?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Transactional relationships are a unique form of interpersonal connection that
prioritizes the exchange of goods, services, or benefits between two
or more parties. These arrangements are characterized by the pragmatic
nature and goal orient approach, often resembling business transactions more
(05:47):
than traditional romantic partnerships. So there's some key characteristics to
a transactional relationship, right, So I'm going to go over
some of the characteristics. It's just for them that I'm
going to share. The first one is mutual benefit. In
transational relationships, both parties expect to gain something of value
(06:11):
from the exchange. This queer pro quo mentality forms the
foundation of the partnership or relationship. The second thing is
lack of emotional investment. Unlike conventional relationships, transational arrangements typically
(06:32):
involve minimal emotional connections. Partners focus on fulfilling the designated
roles rather than developing deep personal bonds. The third one
clear expectations. Transactional relationships often have well defined expectations from
(06:54):
each party. These expectations serve as the basis for the
range and may be explicity stated or implicity stated and understood.
The last key characteristic is results oriented approach. Kind of
(07:15):
similar to business environments, transactional relationships prioritize outcomes over effort.
Partners evaluate the success of the arrangement based on tangible
results rather than emotional satisfaction. Now, let's kind of compare
(07:38):
transactional relationships to a traditional one and.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
The ways that they.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Basically significantly differ from one another. Right, so just for these,
for real, I mean just for these as well. The
first one is emotional connection. While traditional relationships thrive on
emotional bonds and shared experiences, transactional relationships prioritize practical exchanges.
(08:12):
Number two long term commitment. Traditional relationships often involve long
term commitments and shared future plans. In contrast, transactional relationships
tend to be more short term and focus on immediate goals.
(08:35):
Three conflict resolution. In traditional relationship, partners typically work together
to resolve conflicts and strengthen their bond. Transactional relationships, however,
may involve keeping score or using insecurities against each other.
(08:56):
And number four flexibility. Traditional relationships often allow for flexibility
and understanding of each other's differences. Transactional arrangements, on the
other hand, can be rigid and leave little room for mistakes. Now,
I think when it comes to transactional relationships and just
(09:20):
the concept of it, just like with a lot of
things in life, there are some common misconceptions, right, So
I want to share some of those misconceptions that probably
call transactional relationships, especially the benefits of it, to be
vastly misunderstood. So the first one is that people feel
(09:40):
like it's inherently negative. While some view transactional relationships as
impersonal or lacking death, they serve an important function in
facilitating efficient exchanges and enabling parties to achieve their respective goals.
Number two it's limited to business. Although commonly associated with business,
(10:07):
transactional relationships can exist in various contexts, such as including
personal and professional aspects. Number three completely devoid of emotion.
While emotional investment is typically lower in transactional relationships, some
(10:28):
level of mutual respect and understanding can still exist between parties.
Number four always explicit. Not all transactional relationships involve formal
contracts or agreements. In personal relationships, their transactional nature may
be subtle and only visible.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
To one party.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Understanding the let's say nuances of transactional relationships helps to
record their role in various aspects of life. It can
be business, it can be personal, it can be a
little bit of both. I think one example could be
people who marry other people because they need a green card.
(11:15):
I think that's the that's the perfect example, definitely the
first example that pops in my mind when I think
their transactional relationships.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
You need a green.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Card, or you know, you have an inheritance that you
can only acquire and this is more cultural, but you
know where you have this inheritance that is left to you,
but you have to be married by a certain age.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
So yeah, I need you to help marry me.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I can give you a portion of this inherent I'm
about to get. That can be you know, and that's
more in like African and Indian cultures. But yeah, that's
some of the examples you can think about.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
While they may not provide the same emotional depth astra
additional relationships, transactional relationships can offer practical benefits and serve
specific purposes, especially in today's climax, and in today's complex
social landscape. Now there are definitely, I feel some unexpected
(12:19):
advantages and and some of these may be expected, and
some of these may surprise y'all. You know, Transactional relationships
are known for their transparency in well defined terms. Everybody
know what it is. We've been vastly communicated. It's nothing
(12:40):
more than this, that and the third. There's there's no
there's no deceit, there's no hidden agendas. We know what
this is. Let's not let's not front and act like
we don't. The clarity and the honesty and and just
everybody being on the same page helps to reduce misunderstandings
and promote open communication between parties. By establishing clear expectations
(13:05):
from the outset, individuals can focus on fulfilling their roles
and responsibilities without any ambiguity. The emphasis on reciprocity in
transactional relationships ensures that each party expects a fair and
equivalent exchange of value. This mutual understanding creates a solid
(13:28):
foundation for the partnership, allowing both sides to work towards
common goals with a clear sense of purpose. That's why
you want to make sure the expectations and boundaries are
crystal clear. The next I guess you could say unexpected
advantage is improved communication. You know, one of the key
(13:49):
benefits of transactional relationships is the enhancement of communication skills.
These partnerships often require task or communication that center around
immediate transactional goals. This focused approach leads to more efficient
and effective exchanges of information. To improve communication and transactional relationships,
(14:16):
individuals can do a few things. One, they can practice
active listening by being fully present and mentally engaged during interactions,
ask clarifying questions and seek additional information to ensure a
deep understanding of the message. Provide constructive feedback to address
(14:37):
any misunderstandings properly.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Another example of a transaction relationship that pops my mind,
and this made me think of specific individual that I
know who live in this type of relationship and it
works for them. Is mutually benefiting each other professionally. Yeah, y,
we may be cool. We not really attracted to each
(15:05):
and like that from a deeply emotional or sexual place,
but we get a high for life off of success,
off of building an empire, off of achievements financially and materialistically.
So I see a benefit that you have. I see
(15:28):
a benefit in you for my personal and professional goals
or most of professional goals, and you see a benefit
in me. There's something that we're bringing to the table
that whatever our goal is to accomplish, whatever our individual
goals are to accomplish professionally, specifically, you know, more like
(15:49):
materialistic stuff and income, and you know, things like that,
each one of us have something that the other needs
or the other can really overchieve their goals with. Whether
that's family connections, whether that's f F money, it could
(16:10):
be somebody that come from money. So there's like an
unlimited supply from that retrospect. There's a lot of different
a lot of different things, maybe just simple intellect and
experience with whatever field the other person wants to, you know,
have their empire in, whether that's from a marketing standpoint,
a techt standpoint. The other person possessed something that really
(16:36):
could benefit me.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
So let's just let's just get together.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
We look great on paper, we know what it is.
You can have your side in discretions. I'm gonna have
my side in discretions, and we're gonna make sure that
they don't mess up what we got going on, just
keep them on the And that's a great example. You know,
(17:03):
by adopting different types of communication strategies, I think that
when you're in a transactional relationship, you can foster better
understanding and really strengthen your connection with each other and
it could possibly bleed into other relationships that you.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Have in your life. There is a balance give and
take dynamic. This is another one of those.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Advantages to this type of relationship, balanced give and take dynamics,
because a lot of time when you're in these traditional
relationships is very lopsided.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
There's no balance with the give and take.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Someone's doing more than the other, someone's giving more to
the other. Hell, sometimes you've been in a relationship but
you still feel along, or you're in a relationship but
it's very one sided. Transactional relationships are built on the
principle of mutual benefit, where each person gives something to
the relationship and receives something in return. This balanced approach
(17:58):
creates a win win situation for both parties involved, leading
to increased satisfaction and productivity. The give and take nature
of these partnerships encourages effective If I'm sorry, it encourages
efficiency and productivity. It encourages flexibility and adaptability, and it
(18:21):
encourages fair and equitable exchanges. Now, with everything that's positive,
there gotta be some kind of negative for the most part, right,
So there are some ways to kind of navigate some challenges,
you know, cause challenges may come up and everything in life.
(18:41):
So while transitional relationships can offer certain benefits, they also
present unique challenges that partners must navigate to maintain a
healthy and fulfilling connection. By understanding these challenges and implementing
effective strategies, individuals can work to create a more balanced
(19:02):
and satisfying partnership. Now, one of them is maintaining an
emotional connection. One of the primary challenges in transactional relationships
is maintaining and emotional connection. These arrangements often prioritize practical
exchanges over emotional bonds, which can lead to feelings of
(19:24):
shallowness and unfulfillment. Now, to address this type of issue,
there's a few things that you can possibly do. Number One,
recognize the importance of emotional connection for human survival and
relationship satisfaction. Number two, make efforts to create deeper, more
meaningful bonds beyond the transactional exchanges three, practice acts of
(19:51):
kindness and care without expecting any kind of immediate returns.
By focusing on emotional investment, the two people in the
relationship can enhance their connection and create a more fulfilling
relationship experience.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Now.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Another challenge that can come across is avoiding purely quit
pro quo mentality. A strict quid pro quo approach can
be detrimental to the health of relationship. When partners view
their interactions solely through a transactional lens, it can lead
(20:30):
to emotional distancing and a diminished sense of security. To
overcome this challenge, you would need to cultivate or you
should cultivate a willingness to give without always expecting something
in return. You should focus on building a sense of
safety and trust that can withstand occasional unmet expectations, avoid
(20:56):
keeping score of favors or using past actions as leverage
against each other. By moving away from a poorly transactional mindset,
the two pe relationship can farster a more genuine and
supportive connection. Another challenge can be balancing individual needs with
(21:20):
relationship goals. Navigating individual aspirations while maintaining a strong relationship
can be challenging in a transactional relationship, So.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
You want to strike a balance.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Five things five key tips in order to do that.
Number one, respect each other's goals and ambitions, viewing the
relationship as a team effort rather than a competition.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Number two.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Engage in open, honest communication about personal and shared objectives.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Number three.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Create a joint plan that incorporates both individual and shared goals.
Allocate time efficiently for personal pursuits and shared activities, and lastly,
remain flexible and willing to adapt plans as circumstances change.
(22:19):
Look By working together to align individual needs with relationship goals,
the two partners in the relationship can create a more
harmonious and mutually beneficial arrangement. To successfully navigate these challenges,
is crucial for partners to regularly evaluate their relationship dynamics.
(22:41):
If the transactional nature of the relationship becomes uncomfortable or unsatisfying,
it's important to address the issue through open dialogue. By
discussing feelings and concerns, partners can work together to do
a relationship based on authentic trust and mutual support. Transactional
(23:04):
relationships can have an impact on how people connect and
interact in today's fast paced world. By understanding their unique
characteristics and unexpected benefits, individuals can make informed decisions about
the partnerships, clear expectations, improve communication, and balanced given tech
(23:28):
dynamics are just so few of the advantages that these
arrangements can offer to those who choose to embrace them.
While challenges like maintaining emotional connections and avoiding a preorly
cherpro chrole mentality exists, there are always ways to navigate
(23:50):
these hurdles. By focusing on building trusts, respecting individual goals,
and fostering open communication, partners can create more fulfilling and
mutually beneficial relationships. In the end, Transactional relationships, when approached thoughtfully,
(24:10):
can provide a framework for personal growth and achieving shared
objectives in both personal and professional spheres. Now there's for
questions for I guess you could say frequently asked questions
that I found very necessary to share with you guys,
(24:32):
very necessary and interesting. The first one is what are
the benefits? Just from more of a summarized point of view,
what are the benefits of engaging in a transactional relationship?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Transactional relationships can.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Have several benefits, As we've discussed, Both parties involved typically
contribute equally, preventing any one sided dynamics. There is also
clear communication regarding the expectations and fonsibilities within the relationship,
which can foster a sense of safety and security. The
(25:07):
next question is it possible for in transactional relationships to
be beneficial? As we know and discuss, Yes, transactional relationships
can be beneficial and are a common and necessary component
in various aspects of life. Although they are sometimes viewed negatively,
these relationships can provide both advantages and disadvantages depending on
(25:32):
the context in which they are used and navigating some
of the challenges we discussed. The next question what are
the main challenges associated with transactional relationships? So, one significant challenge,
as we know in transactional relationships is the minimal the
emotional investment and trusts. As these relationships often focus on
(25:55):
individual benefits rather than mutual understanding the benefits, we won't
give a got about, no understanding, no perspectives, we wont
the benefits and achieved goals. This focus can result in
relationships that feels superficial and may hinder the development of
a deeper, more genuine connection. But it's a transactional one,
(26:18):
so you don't need all that deeper connection and stuff.
The last question, what are some alternatives to transactional relationships?
Some alternatives to transaction relationships that I came across include
relationships that are based on family ties, partnerships, friendships, and
(26:39):
fellowships like tribal religion, fraternity sororities. These types of relationships
are typically less transactional and more rooted in love, common causes.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Spirit, and romance.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
So I hope you guys found something intriguing, interesting, provoking. Hey,
if you interested in being in one right on, I
support it. Hell, I think that might be the best
type relationship for me at this point, with my age
(27:14):
and goals and life experiences, this might be best for me.
But I definitely think that once again, as we as
we discussed, as I share, there's a lot of benefits,
and once again, it's all about communication. It's all about
making sure we're both on the same page. We know
what it is.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
There's no second guesting, there's no assuming we know what
it is.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
We both agree, and we do whatever we have to
do to make sure that the goals we come into
relationship with all the goals that we're gonna make sure
we achieved. So you know the last thing I'm gonna
do BEFO, I let you go it. You know, it's
the same old thing, never gonna change. And that's me
living y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
With a quote.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
So this quote simply says there is nothing inherently wrong
with their being transaction in any relationship. You should not
try to eliminate transaction from relationships, after.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
All, you couldn't if you wanted to.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Instead, start to practice conscious transaction.
Yes, it is your boor more Marquis. And you know,
I'm always glad when y'all come drawing. Y'all down to
the QB zone. Listen, today's gonna be interesting episode for me.
So sometimes I like to reach out to supporters, people
that I interact with from time to time as well,
to aks them what subject matters they would like to.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
See me talk about on my podcast or on my blog.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Right, and so, not too long ago, I had aks
some some friends and I also have put on my Facebook,
and I was intrigued by some of the topics and
actually quite interested and excited to do a few of 'em.
(00:54):
If you look at my blog from the past two weeks,
those topics were requested by other people and our last blog,
which you know, was about spinning the block, that was
also one that wasn't on the list suggested, but because
(01:16):
of conversations that I'd had with two very close friends,
I was like, this has to be a sign, like
I just wanna talk about it. Nonetheless, today's topic falls
ride in line with being relationship related, but a topic
that was suggested to me. So when I saw the topic,
(01:39):
I said, Okay, have I been in one of these before,
and I I feel like I have, but.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It didn't last long by my choice.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
And so today's topic is specifically about transactional relationships.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
First of all, do you know what.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
A transactional relationship is? What are your thoughts on one?
If you know what it is? And before we get started,
when you think about your love life, think about your
current relationship if you're in one, think about any relationships
in the past, any relationships, any situationships. For this episode,
(02:26):
we're gonna throw them all in the same category. Have
you been in any that are transaction? Give you a
few seconds I think about it, because for some people
you might have a long history, so you might need
a little longer to think about it than I do.
(02:50):
And if you have not been in one, I want
you to listen to what I'm gonna share do today
and thinking to yourself, would you ever be in one?
I know when I was doing research and looking into
material for this topic, I said, you know, as I
(03:11):
told you guys already, I'd been in them, but by choice,
they didn't last that long.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But I feel like I learned a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I feel like I learned a lot by some of
the things that I'm going to share with you all,
and I said, you know, I could see how this
could really serve me a great purpose to be on one,
I think, having lived life, having been through some things,
and I'm not talking about necessary negative stuff, just you know,
living life, I think that I'll be a lot more
(03:44):
equipped to be in a quote unquote transactional relationship and
it be vastly more successful than in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
In today's fast paced world, the concept of a transactional
relationship has gained attention as a unique approach to partnerships.
This type of arrangement, often misunderstood, has an impact on
how people view connections and interact with each other. As
(04:17):
society evolves, so do the ways individuals form and maintain relationships,
leading to a growing interest in exploring the potential benefits
of transactional partnerships. This episode delves into the hidden advantages
of embracing a transactional relationship. It examines the definition and
(04:43):
characteristics of these arrangements, sheds light on an unexpected perks,
and offers insight to navigate challenges. By exploring topics such
as communication expectations and the balance between emotional support and
practical exchanges. You all will gain a deeper understanding of
(05:07):
how transactional relationships can actually foster personal growth and mutual benefit.
So what exactly is a transactional relationship?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Transactional relationships are a unique form of interpersonal connection that
prioritizes the exchange of goods, services, or benefits between two
or more parties. These arrangements are characterized by the pragmatic
nature and goal orient approach, often resembling business transactions more
(05:47):
than traditional romantic partnerships. So there's some key characteristics to
a transactional relationship, right, So I'm going to go over
some of the characteristics. It's just for them that I'm
going to share. The first one is mutual benefit. In
transational relationships, both parties expect to gain something of value
(06:11):
from the exchange. This queer pro quo mentality forms the
foundation of the partnership or relationship. The second thing is
lack of emotional investment. Unlike conventional relationships, transational arrangements typically
(06:32):
involve minimal emotional connections. Partners focus on fulfilling the designated
roles rather than developing deep personal bonds. The third one
clear expectations. Transactional relationships often have well defined expectations from
(06:54):
each party. These expectations serve as the basis for the
range and may be explicity stated or implicity stated and understood.
The last key characteristic is results oriented approach. Kind of
(07:15):
similar to business environments, transactional relationships prioritize outcomes over effort.
Partners evaluate the success of the arrangement based on tangible
results rather than emotional satisfaction. Now, let's kind of compare
(07:38):
transactional relationships to a traditional one and.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
The ways that they.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Basically significantly differ from one another. Right, so just for these,
for real, I mean just for these as well. The
first one is emotional connection. While traditional relationships thrive on
emotional bonds and shared experiences, transactional relationships prioritize practical exchanges.
(08:12):
Number two long term commitment. Traditional relationships often involve long
term commitments and shared future plans. In contrast, transactional relationships
tend to be more short term and focus on immediate goals.
(08:35):
Three conflict resolution. In traditional relationship, partners typically work together
to resolve conflicts and strengthen their bond. Transactional relationships, however,
may involve keeping score or using insecurities against each other.
(08:56):
And number four flexibility. Traditional relationships often allow for flexibility
and understanding of each other's differences. Transactional arrangements, on the
other hand, can be rigid and leave little room for mistakes. Now,
I think when it comes to transactional relationships and just
(09:20):
the concept of it, just like with a lot of
things in life, there are some common misconceptions, right, So
I want to share some of those misconceptions that probably
call transactional relationships, especially the benefits of it, to be
vastly misunderstood. So the first one is that people feel
(09:40):
like it's inherently negative. While some view transactional relationships as
impersonal or lacking death, they serve an important function in
facilitating efficient exchanges and enabling parties to achieve their respective goals.
Number two it's limited to business. Although commonly associated with business,
(10:07):
transactional relationships can exist in various contexts, such as including
personal and professional aspects. Number three completely devoid of emotion.
While emotional investment is typically lower in transactional relationships, some
(10:28):
level of mutual respect and understanding can still exist between parties.
Number four always explicit. Not all transactional relationships involve formal
contracts or agreements. In personal relationships, their transactional nature may
be subtle and only visible.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
To one party.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Understanding the let's say nuances of transactional relationships helps to
record their role in various aspects of life. It can
be business, it can be personal, it can be a
little bit of both. I think one example could be
people who marry other people because they need a green card.
(11:15):
I think that's the that's the perfect example, definitely the
first example that pops in my mind when I think
their transactional relationships.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
You need a green.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Card, or you know, you have an inheritance that you
can only acquire and this is more cultural, but you
know where you have this inheritance that is left to you,
but you have to be married by a certain age.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
So yeah, I need you to help marry me.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
I can give you a portion of this inherent I'm
about to get. That can be you know, and that's
more in like African and Indian cultures. But yeah, that's
some of the examples you can think about.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
While they may not provide the same emotional depth astra
additional relationships, transactional relationships can offer practical benefits and serve
specific purposes, especially in today's climax, and in today's complex
social landscape. Now there are definitely, I feel some unexpected
(12:19):
advantages and and some of these may be expected, and
some of these may surprise y'all. You know, Transactional relationships
are known for their transparency in well defined terms. Everybody
know what it is. We've been vastly communicated. It's nothing
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more than this, that and the third. There's there's no
there's no deceit, there's no hidden agendas. We know what
this is. Let's not let's not front and act like
we don't. The clarity and the honesty and and just
everybody being on the same page helps to reduce misunderstandings
and promote open communication between parties. By establishing clear expectations
(13:05):
from the outset, individuals can focus on fulfilling their roles
and responsibilities without any ambiguity. The emphasis on reciprocity in
transactional relationships ensures that each party expects a fair and
equivalent exchange of value. This mutual understanding creates a solid
(13:28):
foundation for the partnership, allowing both sides to work towards
common goals with a clear sense of purpose. That's why
you want to make sure the expectations and boundaries are
crystal clear. The next I guess you could say unexpected
advantage is improved communication. You know, one of the key
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benefits of transactional relationships is the enhancement of communication skills.
These partnerships often require task or communication that center around
immediate transactional goals. This focused approach leads to more efficient
and effective exchanges of information. To improve communication and transactional relationships,
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individuals can do a few things. One, they can practice
active listening by being fully present and mentally engaged during interactions,
ask clarifying questions and seek additional information to ensure a
deep understanding of the message. Provide constructive feedback to address
(14:37):
any misunderstandings properly.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Another example of a transaction relationship that pops my mind,
and this made me think of specific individual that I
know who live in this type of relationship and it
works for them. Is mutually benefiting each other professionally. Yeah, y,
we may be cool. We not really attracted to each
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and like that from a deeply emotional or sexual place,
but we get a high for life off of success,
off of building an empire, off of achievements financially and materialistically.
So I see a benefit that you have. I see
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a benefit in you for my personal and professional goals
or most of professional goals, and you see a benefit
in me. There's something that we're bringing to the table
that whatever our goal is to accomplish, whatever our individual
goals are to accomplish professionally, specifically, you know, more like
(15:49):
materialistic stuff and income, and you know, things like that,
each one of us have something that the other needs
or the other can really overchieve their goals with. Whether
that's family connections, whether that's f F money, it could
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be somebody that come from money. So there's like an
unlimited supply from that retrospect. There's a lot of different
a lot of different things, maybe just simple intellect and
experience with whatever field the other person wants to, you know,
have their empire in, whether that's from a marketing standpoint,
a techt standpoint. The other person possessed something that really
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could benefit me.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
So let's just let's just get together.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
We look great on paper, we know what it is.
You can have your side in discretions. I'm gonna have
my side in discretions, and we're gonna make sure that
they don't mess up what we got going on, just
keep them on the And that's a great example. You know,
(17:03):
by adopting different types of communication strategies, I think that
when you're in a transactional relationship, you can foster better
understanding and really strengthen your connection with each other and
it could possibly bleed into other relationships that you.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Have in your life. There is a balance give and
take dynamic. This is another one of those.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Advantages to this type of relationship, balanced give and take dynamics,
because a lot of time when you're in these traditional
relationships is very lopsided.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
There's no balance with the give and take.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Someone's doing more than the other, someone's giving more to
the other. Hell, sometimes you've been in a relationship but
you still feel along, or you're in a relationship but
it's very one sided. Transactional relationships are built on the
principle of mutual benefit, where each person gives something to
the relationship and receives something in return. This balanced approach
(17:58):
creates a win win situation for both parties involved, leading
to increased satisfaction and productivity. The give and take nature
of these partnerships encourages effective If I'm sorry, it encourages
efficiency and productivity. It encourages flexibility and adaptability, and it
(18:21):
encourages fair and equitable exchanges. Now, with everything that's positive,
there gotta be some kind of negative for the most part, right,
So there are some ways to kind of navigate some challenges,
you know, cause challenges may come up and everything in life.
(18:41):
So while transitional relationships can offer certain benefits, they also
present unique challenges that partners must navigate to maintain a
healthy and fulfilling connection. By understanding these challenges and implementing
effective strategies, individuals can work to create a more balanced
(19:02):
and satisfying partnership. Now, one of them is maintaining an
emotional connection. One of the primary challenges in transactional relationships
is maintaining and emotional connection. These arrangements often prioritize practical
exchanges over emotional bonds, which can lead to feelings of
(19:24):
shallowness and unfulfillment. Now, to address this type of issue,
there's a few things that you can possibly do. Number One,
recognize the importance of emotional connection for human survival and
relationship satisfaction. Number two, make efforts to create deeper, more
meaningful bonds beyond the transactional exchanges three, practice acts of
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kindness and care without expecting any kind of immediate returns.
By focusing on emotional investment, the two people in the
relationship can enhance their connection and create a more fulfilling
relationship experience.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Now.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Another challenge that can come across is avoiding purely quit
pro quo mentality. A strict quid pro quo approach can
be detrimental to the health of relationship. When partners view
their interactions solely through a transactional lens, it can lead
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to emotional distancing and a diminished sense of security. To
overcome this challenge, you would need to cultivate or you
should cultivate a willingness to give without always expecting something
in return. You should focus on building a sense of
safety and trust that can withstand occasional unmet expectations, avoid
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keeping score of favors or using past actions as leverage
against each other. By moving away from a poorly transactional mindset,
the two pe relationship can farster a more genuine and
supportive connection. Another challenge can be balancing individual needs with
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relationship goals. Navigating individual aspirations while maintaining a strong relationship
can be challenging in a transactional relationship, So.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
You want to strike a balance.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
Five things five key tips in order to do that.
Number one, respect each other's goals and ambitions, viewing the
relationship as a team effort rather than a competition.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Number two.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Engage in open, honest communication about personal and shared objectives.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Number three.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Create a joint plan that incorporates both individual and shared goals.
Allocate time efficiently for personal pursuits and shared activities, and lastly,
remain flexible and willing to adapt plans as circumstances change.
(22:19):
Look By working together to align individual needs with relationship goals,
the two partners in the relationship can create a more
harmonious and mutually beneficial arrangement. To successfully navigate these challenges,
is crucial for partners to regularly evaluate their relationship dynamics.
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If the transactional nature of the relationship becomes uncomfortable or unsatisfying,
it's important to address the issue through open dialogue. By
discussing feelings and concerns, partners can work together to do
a relationship based on authentic trust and mutual support. Transactional
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relationships can have an impact on how people connect and
interact in today's fast paced world. By understanding their unique
characteristics and unexpected benefits, individuals can make informed decisions about
the partnerships, clear expectations, improve communication, and balanced given tech
(23:28):
dynamics are just so few of the advantages that these
arrangements can offer to those who choose to embrace them.
While challenges like maintaining emotional connections and avoiding a preorly
cherpro chrole mentality exists, there are always ways to navigate
(23:50):
these hurdles. By focusing on building trusts, respecting individual goals,
and fostering open communication, partners can create more fulfilling and
mutually beneficial relationships. In the end, Transactional relationships, when approached thoughtfully,
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can provide a framework for personal growth and achieving shared
objectives in both personal and professional spheres. Now there's for
questions for I guess you could say frequently asked questions
that I found very necessary to share with you guys,
(24:32):
very necessary and interesting. The first one is what are
the benefits? Just from more of a summarized point of view,
what are the benefits of engaging in a transactional relationship?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Transactional relationships can.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Have several benefits, As we've discussed, Both parties involved typically
contribute equally, preventing any one sided dynamics. There is also
clear communication regarding the expectations and fonsibilities within the relationship,
which can foster a sense of safety and security. The
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next question is it possible for in transactional relationships to
be beneficial? As we know and discuss, Yes, transactional relationships
can be beneficial and are a common and necessary component
in various aspects of life. Although they are sometimes viewed negatively,
these relationships can provide both advantages and disadvantages depending on
(25:32):
the context in which they are used and navigating some
of the challenges we discussed. The next question what are
the main challenges associated with transactional relationships? So, one significant challenge,
as we know in transactional relationships is the minimal the
emotional investment and trusts. As these relationships often focus on
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individual benefits rather than mutual understanding the benefits, we won't
give a got about, no understanding, no perspectives, we wont
the benefits and achieved goals. This focus can result in
relationships that feels superficial and may hinder the development of
a deeper, more genuine connection. But it's a transactional one,
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so you don't need all that deeper connection and stuff.
The last question, what are some alternatives to transactional relationships?
Some alternatives to transaction relationships that I came across include
relationships that are based on family ties, partnerships, friendships, and
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fellowships like tribal religion, fraternity sororities. These types of relationships
are typically less transactional and more rooted in love, common causes.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Spirit, and romance.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
So I hope you guys found something intriguing, interesting, provoking. Hey,
if you interested in being in one right on, I
support it. Hell, I think that might be the best
type relationship for me at this point, with my age
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and goals and life experiences, this might be best for me.
But I definitely think that once again, as we as
we discussed, as I share, there's a lot of benefits,
and once again, it's all about communication. It's all about
making sure we're both on the same page. We know
what it is.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
There's no second guesting, there's no assuming we know what
it is.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
We both agree, and we do whatever we have to
do to make sure that the goals we come into
relationship with all the goals that we're gonna make sure
we achieved. So you know the last thing I'm gonna
do BEFO, I let you go it. You know, it's
the same old thing, never gonna change. And that's me
living y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
With a quote.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
So this quote simply says there is nothing inherently wrong
with their being transaction in any relationship. You should not
try to eliminate transaction from relationships, after.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
All, you couldn't if you wanted to.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Instead, start to practice conscious transaction.
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