August 28, 2024 • 11 mins
At its heart, speaking up is really a conversation regarding boundaries. The uncomfortable feeling that you associate with needing to say something, even if you’re afraid to say it. Of all the different kinds of communication, speaking up is probably the most overlooked. That’s because while most kinds of communication occur between two or more individuals, speaking up begins with a conversation with oneself.
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Speaker 3 (00:01):
Well, look at here.
Speaker 1 (00:03):
You are listening to someone who is bold, authentic, diverse, unpredictable. Baby,
I am unapologetically Ramon and you have entered my zone,
the QB zone.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Baby. Hello, somebody, Rocje.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Do you speak up for yourself? Do you know how
to advocate for yourself? If something comes up, a situation happens,
who has your back? One of the things I wanna
talk about today is just the power of speaking up
for yourself. Yes, this is your ball with Mo Marquis,
(01:15):
and I thank you for coming on down to the
QB zone to kick it with me for a little bit. Listen.
In a world where voices often get lost in the noise,
finding the courage to speak up for yourself can feel
like an uphill battle. It's natural to want to avoid
a confrontation or keep your thoughts to yourself, but there
(01:36):
comes a time when silence is no longer an option.
Whether it's standing up to a bully, voicing your opinion
in a meeting, or setting boundaries in a relationship, finding
your voice is a crucial skill that every young adult
and millennial should strive to master. One of the things
we have to do is understand the power of our voice.
(02:00):
Your voice is your ultimate superpower. It's the tool that
allows you to express your thoughts, emotions, and desires to
the world. However, many of us struggle to find the
strength to wield this power effectively. We fear judgment, rejection,
or simply being misunderstood. But if I told you that
(02:22):
your voice is your key to empowerment, how would you feel.
Some people have a fear of speaking up. Do you
ever find yourself staying silent when you have an opinion
to share or a feeling to express? You're not alone
(02:43):
listen as vocal as many don't be to be. From
the time I was a child, there are times where
I don't like I don't speak about everything. I try
to be that one that when I do speak, you
know that it's important. I'm very observing. I'm observing as hell,
(03:03):
and I always one of the things I always say
about myself is I may not speak on every I
may not speak on a lot of things, but I
observe everything. Many of us struggle speaking up for ourselves
and others due to fear and hesitation. We worry about
social threats, consequences, and staying silent out of fear of
(03:25):
making things worse. However, staying silent often makes things worse
in the long run. Speaking up allows us to express
our opinions, share our perspective, and take action towards creating
positive change. Fear is a natural response when it comes
to speaking up. The fear of rocking the boat, of
(03:49):
not being taking serious, or of facing backlash can be paralyzing.
But here's the secret that fear is just a barrier.
It is just a barrier, not an impenetrable wall. By
acknowledging your fear and pushing through it, you can unlock
(04:09):
a world of possibilities. Remember, courage is not the absence
of fear, but the willingness to act despite it. Instead
of viewing the fear of speaking up as a barrier,
try reframe it as an opportunity for growth and learning.
When we speak up, we can gain confidence and develop
(04:32):
new skills that can benefit us in various aspects of life.
For example, speaking up can help us to develop our
communication and leadership skills, which can be valuable in both
personal and professional contexts. When we speak up, we also
demonstrate our willingness to take risks and advocate for what
we believe in, which can be an important part of
(04:55):
building self confidence and self respect and to get used
to speaking of for yourself. It's important to build your
support system. Listen, no one should have to face their
battles alone. Surround yourself with a tribe of people who
uplive and support you. Seek out friends, mentors, or maybe
(05:15):
even online communities where you feel safe to share your
thoughts and experiences. These are the people who would cheer
you on when you find the courage to speak up
and offer a shoulder to Leno when the journey gets tough.
So one of the characteristics and skills you would need
is definitely to be a little certive. Assertiveness is the
(05:37):
art of expressing your thoughts and needs clearly, respectfully, and confidently.
It's about setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and advocating
for what you believe in practice asserting yourself in simple
everyday situations, like clearly stating your preferences or saying no
when you feel overwhelmed. The more you flex your assertiveness muscle,
(06:01):
the stronger it will become. Being assertive is a core
communication skill. Assertiveness can help you express yourself effectively and
stand up for your point of view. It can also
help you do this while respecting the rights and beliefs
of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self
(06:24):
confidence and earn others respect. This can help with stress management.
It may especially help you reduce stress if you tend
to take on too many responsibilities because you have a
hard time saying though and Lord, no, sometimes that's me.
To truly find the strength to pick up for yourself,
(06:46):
you need to understand why your voice matters. What change
do you want to see in the world. What values
do you hold dear By connecting your voice to a
deeper purpose, you can find the motivation to push past
your fears and insecurities. Remember, your voice has the power
(07:07):
to spark change, both in your life and the lives
of others. Now, one of the issues with doing this
at times is probably gonna be You're gonna have to
embrace vulnerability. Emotional vulnerability is the quality or feeling of
being exposed to possible emotional attack or harm. Having to
(07:28):
face potential criticism or rejection is also attached to that.
It is not easy to take emotional risks and open
ourselves up to the possibility of being heard. I personally
hate it, and embracing emotional vulnerability can lead to personal growth.
(07:49):
Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, but in reality,
it's a source of immense strength. I've learned that as
I've gotten older, specifically the past few years, being vulnerable
means being authentic and unapologetically yourself. It means owing your
imperfections and embracing your uniqueness. Listen. When you speak from
(08:10):
a place of vulnerability, you invite others to do the same,
fostering genuine connections and deeper relationships. Vulnerability is an inevitable
part of life. So many things require vulnerability. We don't
realize when we're younger, but anybody who has been able
(08:32):
to grow older they can. I'm pretty sure they can
tell you at least one situation quickly that has forced
them to be vulnerable. Listen, trying something new, sharing a
difficult experience, expressing emotions, and if we constantly have a
guard up, we often end up living a less fulfilling life.
(08:54):
That's the truth. Instead of trying to guard against it,
we can practice embracing vulnerability, knowing that it often leads
to personal growth and will make our lives more meaningful
in the long run. What I would want you to
do is when you give yourself a chance, and when
you step outside of your comfort zone one day at
(09:15):
a time, one step at a time, and you allow
yourself to be vulnerable and to practice speaking up for yourself.
One thing I want you to remember, one thing I
want you to always do. Celebrate your progress. Finding your
voice is a journey, not a destination. I want you
to celebrate every small victory along the way, whether it's
(09:38):
speaking up in a meeting, setting a personal boundary, or
standing up for someone else. Recognize the courage it takes
to use your voice, and I want you to patch
yourself on the back for each step forward. Remember progress
a prog Progress is progress, no matter how small. So
(09:59):
who's got your back? The answer is simple, you do.
By finding the strength to speak it for yourself, you
become your own advocate, ally and cheerleader. You hold the
power to shape your reality, influence those around you, and
create positive change in the world. So take a deep breath,
(10:22):
muster your courage, and let your voice be heard. Your
words have the power to inspire, to empower, and to
make a difference. So do yourself a favorite and don't
let them go to waste. Now I want you to
go forth one day at a time, one step at
a time. Speak your truth. The world is waiting for it. Now.
(10:47):
You know what I'm gonna do next. Leave up your
a nice little quote. So here's the quote that I
have for you. Guys. Never apologize for having standards. People
who really want to be in your life will rise
to meet them.
Well, look at here.
Speaker 1 (00:03):
You are listening to someone who is bold, authentic, diverse, unpredictable. Baby,
I am unapologetically Ramon and you have entered my zone,
the QB zone.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Baby. Hello, somebody, Rocje.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Do you speak up for yourself? Do you know how
to advocate for yourself? If something comes up, a situation happens,
who has your back? One of the things I wanna
talk about today is just the power of speaking up
for yourself. Yes, this is your ball with Mo Marquis,
(01:15):
and I thank you for coming on down to the
QB zone to kick it with me for a little bit. Listen.
In a world where voices often get lost in the noise,
finding the courage to speak up for yourself can feel
like an uphill battle. It's natural to want to avoid
a confrontation or keep your thoughts to yourself, but there
(01:36):
comes a time when silence is no longer an option.
Whether it's standing up to a bully, voicing your opinion
in a meeting, or setting boundaries in a relationship, finding
your voice is a crucial skill that every young adult
and millennial should strive to master. One of the things
we have to do is understand the power of our voice.
(02:00):
Your voice is your ultimate superpower. It's the tool that
allows you to express your thoughts, emotions, and desires to
the world. However, many of us struggle to find the
strength to wield this power effectively. We fear judgment, rejection,
or simply being misunderstood. But if I told you that
(02:22):
your voice is your key to empowerment, how would you feel.
Some people have a fear of speaking up. Do you
ever find yourself staying silent when you have an opinion
to share or a feeling to express? You're not alone
(02:43):
listen as vocal as many don't be to be. From
the time I was a child, there are times where
I don't like I don't speak about everything. I try
to be that one that when I do speak, you
know that it's important. I'm very observing. I'm observing as hell,
(03:03):
and I always one of the things I always say
about myself is I may not speak on every I
may not speak on a lot of things, but I
observe everything. Many of us struggle speaking up for ourselves
and others due to fear and hesitation. We worry about
social threats, consequences, and staying silent out of fear of
(03:25):
making things worse. However, staying silent often makes things worse
in the long run. Speaking up allows us to express
our opinions, share our perspective, and take action towards creating
positive change. Fear is a natural response when it comes
to speaking up. The fear of rocking the boat, of
(03:49):
not being taking serious, or of facing backlash can be paralyzing.
But here's the secret that fear is just a barrier.
It is just a barrier, not an impenetrable wall. By
acknowledging your fear and pushing through it, you can unlock
(04:09):
a world of possibilities. Remember, courage is not the absence
of fear, but the willingness to act despite it. Instead
of viewing the fear of speaking up as a barrier,
try reframe it as an opportunity for growth and learning.
When we speak up, we can gain confidence and develop
(04:32):
new skills that can benefit us in various aspects of life.
For example, speaking up can help us to develop our
communication and leadership skills, which can be valuable in both
personal and professional contexts. When we speak up, we also
demonstrate our willingness to take risks and advocate for what
we believe in, which can be an important part of
(04:55):
building self confidence and self respect and to get used
to speaking of for yourself. It's important to build your
support system. Listen, no one should have to face their
battles alone. Surround yourself with a tribe of people who
uplive and support you. Seek out friends, mentors, or maybe
(05:15):
even online communities where you feel safe to share your
thoughts and experiences. These are the people who would cheer
you on when you find the courage to speak up
and offer a shoulder to Leno when the journey gets tough.
So one of the characteristics and skills you would need
is definitely to be a little certive. Assertiveness is the
(05:37):
art of expressing your thoughts and needs clearly, respectfully, and confidently.
It's about setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and advocating
for what you believe in practice asserting yourself in simple
everyday situations, like clearly stating your preferences or saying no
when you feel overwhelmed. The more you flex your assertiveness muscle,
(06:01):
the stronger it will become. Being assertive is a core
communication skill. Assertiveness can help you express yourself effectively and
stand up for your point of view. It can also
help you do this while respecting the rights and beliefs
of others. Being assertive can also help boost your self
(06:24):
confidence and earn others respect. This can help with stress management.
It may especially help you reduce stress if you tend
to take on too many responsibilities because you have a
hard time saying though and Lord, no, sometimes that's me.
To truly find the strength to pick up for yourself,
(06:46):
you need to understand why your voice matters. What change
do you want to see in the world. What values
do you hold dear By connecting your voice to a
deeper purpose, you can find the motivation to push past
your fears and insecurities. Remember, your voice has the power
(07:07):
to spark change, both in your life and the lives
of others. Now, one of the issues with doing this
at times is probably gonna be You're gonna have to
embrace vulnerability. Emotional vulnerability is the quality or feeling of
being exposed to possible emotional attack or harm. Having to
(07:28):
face potential criticism or rejection is also attached to that.
It is not easy to take emotional risks and open
ourselves up to the possibility of being heard. I personally
hate it, and embracing emotional vulnerability can lead to personal growth.
(07:49):
Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, but in reality,
it's a source of immense strength. I've learned that as
I've gotten older, specifically the past few years, being vulnerable
means being authentic and unapologetically yourself. It means owing your
imperfections and embracing your uniqueness. Listen. When you speak from
(08:10):
a place of vulnerability, you invite others to do the same,
fostering genuine connections and deeper relationships. Vulnerability is an inevitable
part of life. So many things require vulnerability. We don't
realize when we're younger, but anybody who has been able
(08:32):
to grow older they can. I'm pretty sure they can
tell you at least one situation quickly that has forced
them to be vulnerable. Listen, trying something new, sharing a
difficult experience, expressing emotions, and if we constantly have a
guard up, we often end up living a less fulfilling life.
(08:54):
That's the truth. Instead of trying to guard against it,
we can practice embracing vulnerability, knowing that it often leads
to personal growth and will make our lives more meaningful
in the long run. What I would want you to
do is when you give yourself a chance, and when
you step outside of your comfort zone one day at
(09:15):
a time, one step at a time, and you allow
yourself to be vulnerable and to practice speaking up for yourself.
One thing I want you to remember, one thing I
want you to always do. Celebrate your progress. Finding your
voice is a journey, not a destination. I want you
to celebrate every small victory along the way, whether it's
(09:38):
speaking up in a meeting, setting a personal boundary, or
standing up for someone else. Recognize the courage it takes
to use your voice, and I want you to patch
yourself on the back for each step forward. Remember progress
a prog Progress is progress, no matter how small. So
(09:59):
who's got your back? The answer is simple, you do.
By finding the strength to speak it for yourself, you
become your own advocate, ally and cheerleader. You hold the
power to shape your reality, influence those around you, and
create positive change in the world. So take a deep breath,
(10:22):
muster your courage, and let your voice be heard. Your
words have the power to inspire, to empower, and to
make a difference. So do yourself a favorite and don't
let them go to waste. Now I want you to
go forth one day at a time, one step at
a time. Speak your truth. The world is waiting for it. Now.
(10:47):
You know what I'm gonna do next. Leave up your
a nice little quote. So here's the quote that I
have for you. Guys. Never apologize for having standards. People
who really want to be in your life will rise
to meet them.
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