July 15, 2025 • 35 mins
On this episode of The Rewrite I’m joined by Alexis Amato @manifestwithalexis — Manifestation & Mindset Mentor, Self-Love Guru, and Retreat Leader who turned heartbreak into healing and built four successful businesses along the way. After walking away from a toxic 11-year relationship, Alexis committed to self-love, aligned living, and helping women all over the world rewrite their own stories.We talk about:
-Breaking free from toxic cycles
-Building confidence after emotional pain
-Manifesting healthy, soul-aligned relationships
-And the power of choosing yourself first
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-Breaking free from toxic cycles
-Building confidence after emotional pain
-Manifesting healthy, soul-aligned relationships
-And the power of choosing yourself first
Follow Alexis:
FB: Alexis Amato
IG: Manifestwithalexis
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to The Rewrite, a podcast about divorce, choice and
new beginnings. I'm your host Wendy Sloan, former TV producer,
mom of two and one sweet golden retriever. This is
a space for real talk about the moments that break us,
the choices that define us, and the power we have
to begin again. You'll hear personal stories, heartfelt insights, and
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honest conversations about healing relationships and reclaiming your life one
choice at a time. I'll be joined by experts in divorce, finance,
mental health, wellness and more and everything you need to
support your next chapter. The most powerful chapters might be
the ones you write next. Let's begin your rewrite together.
This episode is brought to in part by the Needle
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Kuda Law Firm guidance that moves lives forward. Welcome to
another episode of The Rewrite. I'm your host, Wendy Sloan
and my guest today. A manifest and mindset mentor, a
retreat leader, and a self love guru. She specializes in
helping women heal from toxic relationship and breakups. Now a
symbol of women's empowerment and a guide for finding true love,
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turning pain into purpose. And dedicating her life to helping
others reclaim their power, feel emotionally and manifest the life
they love and they truly deserve.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
And that is everything my show is. And so are you.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
And you are so warm and delicious and I haven't
even introduced you yet.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Welcome to my show, Alexis Amano.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Thank you so much for having me, Mindy. I'm so
excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm so excited to have you and your everything that
the rewrite is that this show is. And I think
I loved you even before I started interviewing you, even
before we met this morning.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Thank you, Thank you. There's something about.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Your energy and your warmth and just you, like the
minute you popped up on the screen.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Thank you. I get that a lot. And I don't, like,
I don't purposely go out of my way to like
have more energy or anything. And I don't know. I
think it's just from working on myself so much much
that it honestly radiates, like out to other people. And
that's the goal, right is to have so much self
development for yourself that it trickles out to the people
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that surround you.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, it's working, it's working. You're definitely a ran of sunshine. Okay,
so let's get down to it.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You turned down a wedding with your college sweetheart at
sweetheart after eleven years?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
What led you that decision? What happened? Tell us the
whole story.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Yeah, absolutely, So I was with my college sweetheart of
eleven years. He and I met in college, and it
started off kind of toxic, to be honest. It started
off as a quote unquote situation ship as the kids
call it these days, where we kind of were like
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on and off for a year and actually started dating
one of his friends, like when he didn't want to
commit to me, and then of course at that time
he like did start committing to me. So and it
just from the beginning was like it was pretty toxic
from the beginning, like cheating on his end, then on
my end, because you know, back then, this was when
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you know, I was in my twenties and I wasn't
I was not into the manifesting. I believed in manifestation,
but I was not into manifestation itself yet or self development.
So I was a very petty person, and I'm very
open and honest about all of this. So I would
you know, he would cheat on me. I would cheat
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on him, we would break up, we'd get back together.
He did have a serious alcohol problem, and that was
something that I honestly enabled. I instead of like getting help,
I would just go along and like encourage drinking, encourage
going out. And so I really had no one to
blame but myself, Like I couldn't blame him for that.
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And I just remember not being happy. I remember like
the word for me is fulfilled, and I did not
feel fulfilled. A lot of women in relationships love their
partners and they're like, I love him, he's great, but
they can't put their finger on what the issue is
in the relationship. And usually that's what it is. That's
the word. It's fulfilling. It's not fulfilling to them. And
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I just knew I wasn't fulfilled. I felt like I
couldn't be myself around him. I felt like I would
walk on eggshells. I felt like I just like I
couldn't be like the partner that I wanted to be.
And I knew that this relationship was not meant to
be when I started falling in love with somebody else,
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And as soon as that happened, I was like, I
need to call this off. This is not healthy, and
so I did. I called off the wedding. I told him.
I came home one night. I spent a week a
weekend with girlfriends, and I told them, like what my
plan was. I was going to come home and I
was going to call off the wedding. And the one
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thing that somebody said to me that made me realize
that I had to let him go. And I want
to talk about this because I think it's really really
important and this was my AHA moment, and I hope
that someone listening will be the AHA moment for them.
My friend asked me, do you think that you are
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holding him back from meeting somebody that he would be
better aligned with. And as soon as she put that
into perspective for me, my whole mindset changed because this
was no longer about me. This was about him as well.
And I realized that not only was I holding myself
back from being happy, but I'm also holding him back
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from being happy. And in that moment that weekend, I did.
And I came home that Sunday night and I did.
I sat on the couch with him, and I remember
he told me, you know, if I can't make you happy,
now by now, I'm never going to be able to
make you happy. And I said, you know his name,
and I said, you know, it has nothing to do
with you making me happy. I was like, I'm not
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happy myself. I need to make myself happy and and
no one is going to be able to make me
happy if I'm not happy already. And so we did.
We broke up, and it was sad because we had
been living together on and off for like seven years
at this point, or six years, like a long time.
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But I just never felt fulfilled. I never felt like
he adored me. He did drink a little too much
for me. You know, we all have fun, but and
it's one thing when you're in your twenties, but like
when you're starting to get into your thirties, like I
at that point was thirty two, Like I was over it.
He also like didn't really know what you wanted. He
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didn't really have passions like where I had all these passions.
I started a blog that I was super passionate about.
I started getting into self development. I loved my job
at the time, my corporate job before I went off
as an entrepreneur, and so we just weren't aligning and Yeah,
so I had to say goodbye, and it was one
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of the hardest things I did, but it led me
to where I am now.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
What you said, and I'm going to back up just
a little bit, and I've always said this, No one
can make you happy.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
You have to make you have to be happy with
yourself first.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
And I've always said that I have to be with
somebody who's happy too, because I'm happy, and it's not
to do that for you. And so you realize that
for both of you. Yeah, that was though eleven years
eleven years you were at that point. So how did
the breakup shape your journey into self love and spiritual healing?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Like what happened after that?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, so that's a fun story. So I started like
dabbling into different things like yoga and meditation and that
type of stuff prior to breaking up with him. But
like I said, you know, one of the reasons why
I really knew I need to break up with him
is because I started falling in love with somebody else
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at work. I want to say fall in love, but
I started really liking somebody at work, and I'm like, Okay,
you shouldn't be engaged to somebody. I'm like interested like
it to the point where you're like considering leaving somebody.
So I explored that relationship very quickly, honestly, out of
my relationship. It was definitely rebound, like looking back now,
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because I always teach my clients like, you really do
have to heal through your breakup and through your process
if you want to attract somebody who is really meant
for you. And I didn't allow myself that healing time.
I kind of went from one relationship into another, and
that relationship broke up after six months. But I say
this a lot, and sometimes the shorter relationships are much
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harder to get over than the long term relationships because
the long term relationships, it's like a long time coming,
like yes, you were together for so long, but also
you were probably thinking about leaving them for so long
that by the time it happens, it's more of a
feeling of relief, Whereas when you break up with somebody
after three months or six months or even a year,
you ually you have a lot of unfinished business and
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it breaks up usually more abruptly. So that's what happened
to me. It was I have a whole podcast on it,
my podcast How I Got broken up with over pizza.
He came over for pizza, we talked about our future,
and we basically just decided that this probably wasn't going
to be it like he was going to be holding
me back from doing things that I wanted in my life,
and I would be holding him back from doing things,
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and so I was really I got very depressed after
that breakup for like a week, and then I just
remember watching somebody on Instagram. I think it was Manifestation
Babe or somebody, and I just started following Manifestation very closely.
And then about six months after that, I had I
did get a new job, so because I was working
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with him, so I was like, I need to leave.
So I got a new job that took me across
country back to Connecticut because at this time I was
living in California. I lived in California for twenty years,
but I was born and raised here in Connecticut, where
Wendy's from. Yes, that where you're from, where you.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
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the Lexus. All right, So back to that story.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
So when I came back about six months later. So,
so I left that job because I was, you know,
working with an accident was just it felt didn't feel
right to me. It was very hard to meet to
work with him. I used to work in the hotel
industry and we were working for a boutique property, so
boutique meaning very small. So it's like it was unavoidable
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to see him. So I ended up getting an amazing job,
a twenty five K salary raise. I got to work
from home. But the caveat was that I had to
move back to the East Coast because I was working
now for a hotel in Bermuda. And when you work
for hotels that are in places like that, you know,
like islands and that type of stuff, usually the sales
team actually works remotely. So I had my dream job.
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I moved across country. I'm back in Connecticut. It's amazing,
and my boss gives me. I became very close with
this new boss, and she knew the stuff I was
going through, Like I really really wanted a new relationship.
I really wanted to manifest somebody of my culture actually,
which I'm of Italian descent, and it's very hard to
find somebody in California of that. But in Connecticut we
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have a melt you know, it's not as big of
a melting pot as it is in California. There's a
lot of Italian Americans in Connecticut. So my boss set
me this book called Oh my God, the Universe Has
Your Back by Gabby Benstein. I love still to this day,
my favorite book, my favorite self development book. It's the
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number one book that I give to people when they like, want,
want it, and the tagline of that book is churning
faith into fear. So it's all about manifestation, and it
was all about churning your mindset around on things, not
being a victim anymore, taking taking having awareness for where
you went wrong in your own life, and stop being
stop blaming other people for it. And that was the
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book that After I did that, I decided that I
wanted to get heavily into this and become a coach
eventually once I had my success story, so I delve
into manifestation like I had a morning routine, I did affirmations,
I did visualization, and I just went hardcore. I went
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on a retreat and I met somebody within eight months
who is my fiance now. And so that's really when
I was like, okay, I need to be a mentor
now because now I have done this for myself. It worked.
And then after I met Waltz, I started diving into
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the manifestation of money. And once I started manifesting money
like a lot of it, I was like, Okay, I
really really need to become a coach. So I went
into a program I did like a year long program
with the Click Academy. Who is Danny Watson is the
one who owns the Click Academy. And that was like
six years ago now, I think six seven years ago.
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It was like before COVID, or like right before COVID.
So and now I'm here today.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
You know, you're, like I said at the very beginning
of lessons, you're the You're the perfect example of like
have you not had that eleven year relationship?
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Had you not went through.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
That and a couple of other things, you would not
be manifest with a LEXI.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
You would not be who you are. This would not
be your mission to help other people.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yeah, toxic relationships and help people manifest And it's amazing.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Thank you all.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
My journey set you to where you are today. So
if you had not gone through that, we don't know
where you would be today.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
I don't I think about Like I would still be
in California. I would probably be in an unfulfilling relationship.
I would probably not be making as much money. I
would definitely not have my own business because that was
a very big limiting belief for me for a very
long time. Like I really needed COVID to I mean
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COVID really I was fortunate enough that COVID really helped
me thrive in my life. I found boyfriend and you know,
we got really close during that time. And I got
furloughed in my job because I wasn't one of those
people who hated my corporate job and like wanted to
leave my corporate job for my my side job. Like
I was never like that. It was always like, oh,
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I'm gonna just have this like side thing. But COVID
came and because I was in the hotel industry, that
was like one of the first industries to go, and
I got furloughed, and so I really had to, you know,
put my big girl pants on and be like, is
this something you really want to do? And it forced
me into becoming a woman entrepreneur, which I've been now
for the last six years.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
So inspirational to so many people. So what's the first.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Step towards emotional healing and empowerment? What's what do you
what do you teach your clients?
Speaker 2 (16:43):
What do you like? You know, everyone, it's so hard
to see the other side.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
It's so hard to see that you will survive, you
will get out there, the sun will shine again.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, I love that. So I do have a process.
It's called the vibe process vi IB and it stands
for vision, empowerment breakthrough. Wait did I say that right?
I'm sorry? Vision intention is the eye breakthrough empowerment. So
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like the first by the way, a lot, I love
it too. So the first part of vision is really
about gaining awareness of where you are in your life,
what you have done, what your patterns are, and then
what you really want from here, like knowing where you
are with your current circumstances. What is your big vision?
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Do you want to be a multi seven figure entrepreneur?
Do you want or yes, seven figure entrepreneur. Do you
want to get married? Do you want to have kids?
Do you just like want that family life? Or is
it more specific on you know, you want to be
a best selling author or you want to be an actress,
like whatever it is you want, Like what is that
big vision? Then we go into intention, which is like
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how do you intend to get there? So it's creating
kind of a map for yourself of and I go
through this on my retreats of like it's one thing
to think of the vision, but now how are you
going to get there? So I help them through a
process that I do like create what their intentions are,
and then we go to breakthrough. So that's when we
start releasing do release work and self love work, and
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we start having the aha moments and we break through
the limiting beliefs of I can't do this, I shouldn't
do this, I won't do this. People will think this
way if I do this, you know, so I help
them break through that. And then the last part is
empowerment also known as embodiment. So that's becoming the person
that you want to become before you are them. So
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that's like empowering yourself to be a girlfriend before you
are the girlfriend. I say that a lot. I have
a lot of content around this of like you want
to be a girlfriend, but you like go out with
your friends all the time, like every single night, you know,
acting like I don't know, you know, having one night
stands and stuff like that. Like that's not portraying yourself
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as the wife that you want to be. So, you know,
taking it to a point where you know, if I
was in a relationship now, what would I be doing?
You know, So whatever it is, if I was an
actress now, or if I was a seven figure entrepreneur,
what would I do? And try to empower yourself and
embody yourself to do that now and not when you
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have that, because a lot of people are like, when
I have kids, I'll be happy, you know, when I
get married, I'll be happy, and it's like, you won't.
You'll be happy for a split second, but because you
haven't worked on yourself throughout that whole time, it's just
going to be a band aid of happiness and then
you're going to go back to feeling the way that
you were feeling. So it's so really the step is
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just trying to be the person that you want to
be before you get there. And that's what manifestation is
all about. And if you are not able to do that,
it's going to be very hard for you to manifest.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Wow, it makes so much sense the way you say.
Like that though too, so manifesting your soulmate, how do
you teach to do I mean everyone's like I I
like also your verbage what you said in that too,
these like when I when I get to do this, No,
I'm going to get to do this right?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Change you change your mindset too.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Yes, rewire, rewire and rewrite.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
That's right, U, manifesting.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Manifest Let's talk about manifesting and manifesting the life you want,
manifesting your soulmate.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Yeah, I love I love this topic. So the first
thing you need to do. It sounds so cliche, but
you really need to look inWORD at yourself and you
need you need to love yourself and have such utmost
confidence in yourself because if you don't, if you're an
insecure person, or if you're not confident, that is when
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you attract people who are narcissists, who are manipulative and
who walk all over you. And it's really sad because
you know, I coach a lot of women who are
with men like this. And I say that because I
only coach women. I'm not saying that men don't get manipulated,
because they absolutely do, and women are absolutely manipulated as well,
but for the sake of who I coach, that's what
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I'm referring to. So you know, most of the sweetest
women I have ever coached or been with, they are
the ones who get manipulated the most, who are with
the biggest narcissists because they're easily able to be taken
advantage of. So you really really have to look into
yourself and say, like, am I Do I have self worth?
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Do I have self love? Am I okay being by myself?
And am I ready? That's a big one. Not a
lot of people they think that they're ready, but they're
not there. They either are still holding on to their
ex holding onto the past, or they're not confident in
themselves and they don't have any self worth. You know.
So you know, VERSU isn't going to bring you somebody
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if you already have all this stagnant energy. You know,
I have a best friend and I love her to death,
but she she constantly sabotages herself by going back to
people that are not right for her, And I tell her,
you know, when you hold onto this stagnant energy, if
somebody who has already told you he's unavailable is not
going to be in a relationship with you, you're not
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going to be able to attract somebody. Amazing, because we
only have a certain amount of energy that we can
hold in our life, and the universe isn't going to
just keep giving us like this overflow of people to
me if we're holding on to this energy here, so,
you know, releasing a lot of that energy, learning how
to get over, get past your your last relationship and
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being open and ready in terms of like steps to do.
I love to, like I said, like become the girlfriend
before you're the girlfriend. So there's like a couple of
things that you can do, Like just in your household,
you can get an extra toothbrush that sits there and waits.
You can get like a coffee mug that the coffee
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one's copy one doesn't get touched until your new boyfriend
gets there, so you know, like you look at it
in the mornings and you're like, Okay, that's for my
future person. If you're toothbrush exactly. You know, if you
live by yourself, you can set to place setting, so
even though you're eating dinner by yourself, you set the
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place setting for the other person. You start manifesting them
a big one that and this is actually an Italian superstition.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
You need to have two end tables in your bedroom
because if you only have one, you're not welcoming for
another person to like put their things down or anything.
So it's like you're closing yourself off to have a uh,
to have another side. I remember my cousin telling me this,
and I bought a second end table and then I
manifested wall like four months later or something like that.
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So so it's like just making sure that you are
like super open to having somebody come into your life.
Maybe empty outer drawer for them, you know, like make
room for them in your life. Because if you're one
of those people like I have a single girlfriend and
like her house is granted she lives in the city,
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but her place is like packed, Like her closet wouldn't
even have room for anybody if she wanted it. Her
kitchen has no room for anything, you know, So you
need to make room for the person that you want
to come into your life. So start making room for them.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Now, such great ideas. No, I would have never thought
of all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
Yeah, you know. I one of my coaches went as
far and granted she's like a multi million dollar entrepreneur,
so this might would not work for everybody. When she
went to Bali, she did like a full like four
hundred dollars spat experience and she got it for two people.
And when she went they thought she was crazy. They
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were like, where's your other person. He's like, he's right here,
he's made up. He's my manifestation. So she literally like
paid for this spa experience for another person, just to
put it out into the universe, and she ended up
manifesting somebody the month after she got back from that trip.
So it's just like it's just like going out of
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your way send your cell flowers. You don't need to
like send yourself flowers and say your husband first.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Right, That's one of my all time favorite songs.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
And I buy myself flowers all the time just because
they're so pretty and because we should. We should all
buy ourselves flowers, so I guess, and mindset is a
big part of all of that too. It's like what
you said, manifesting, you have to put it in your
mind too, and amazing it just its shifts it you you.
I see how you can shift somebody's energy very fast
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by by even by just what you shared with us.
Just now, pretty amazing. Okay, So that's how manifest with
Alexis all came together. That's how the name came together.
I assume I want to hear so much more to
talk to you. I want to hear about your retreats,
and I want to hear about your thirty day breakup
to Breakthrough program.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Lovely. Yeah, yeah, so I've been hosting. I've honestly been
hosting retreats for like twenty years because I did it
back in college when I was on the Panelanic Council.
So I started hosting retreats when I was in college
for like hundreds of women, and so I then went
into the hotel and tourism industry. So I have a
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lot of experience both in teaching principles on retreats but
also on the back end of the operational side. I
do a little light retreat coaching. I am going to
be I have my Retreat Life Academy that'll be coming
out for those who do want to host retreats. That
won't be until the end of the year. But my retreats,
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I have two different types of retreats, so I host
Mastermind retreats and I host Manifestation retreats. So my Manifestation
retreats are usually once a year and they are for
any type of woman who wants to come, so you
don't need to be an entrepreneur. And we go through
the vibe process. We do beautiful excursions, spiritual stuff like
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you know, breathworks, sound healing, EFT, tapping, cacaw ceremonies, burn,
release ceremonies, and you know, a lot to just really
get you from point A to point B. I have
really great testimonials. You know, some words that women say
is transformational, life changing, best thing I've ever spent my
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money on. I do have one. I'm not sure when
the time of this recording is, it'll probably already be over.
But my one coming up is in Saint Thomas. Last
year was in Hawaii. The year before is in Costa Rica.
I have another one coming up in Costa Rica in
May of twenty twenty six, and then my summer one.
So that's my Spring Manifestation retreat. My Summer Manifestation retreat
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is TBD, but I think it's going to be in
the Caribbean. This year it's in Saint Thomas. I think
I said that. So that's July seventeenth, Yeah, July seventeenth
to the twenty first, and then I have Mastermind retreats,
so these are solely for women entrepreneurs. I have one
in California in Temecula. That one is August twenty first
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to twenty fourth, and then usually I do my line
in Autumn retreat in September or October, but I don't
have dates set for that. Yea, but that is a little.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Bit of the times that you do it. The times
of year you do these things.
Speaker 3 (28:33):
Yeah, I do about three to four year.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
So I'm getting out of retreats for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
I would love for you to come on one of
my I.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Just experienced recently a sound healing, a sound healing event.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Did you do it? Uh?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Huh?
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Did you do it? Tina?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
And I did it with Lisa. It was Lisa Cooper,
so it was somebody in my neighborhoods.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
It took us to this.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
I was like, okay, one of my girlfriends are the
right she was snoring and the other one we were
just we were we were I was awake the whole time,
but it was like, I SUPD so good that night.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
Oh yeah, you sleep amazing after a sound.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
If you've ever experienced it, I highly recommend people to
experience it. It was so amazing what sound can do
in the power of that.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, and there's actually different types of sound that people
don't realize. So I'm not sure what kind you did.
But there is a sound bath which is more for relaxation,
like we have to sound a journey which takes you
through your thoughts are supposed to like take you through
a journey, and then you have sound healing, where it's
basically the sound journey, but it's a little bit of
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an extra level because usually when you're doing the sound healing,
it will bring up a lot of emotion for you.
So you'll be hearing sounds that bring up very intentional
memories that lead you to other thoughts that help you heal.
Because at the end of the day, healing is just
sitting with your emotions. That's what it is. It's everybody
makes it like this big thing, but really it's just
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crying and sitting with your emotions allowing you to get
your emotions out. But yeah, we always do some sort
of sound healing or sound journey during one of my
retreats and.
Speaker 1 (30:18):
All that up on social So Alexi, your rewright, the
power of resilience led you to.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
A life of fulfillment, Yes, it did.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
What do you want to say about your rewrite to listeners?
Speaker 3 (30:31):
I want to say that no matter where you are,
or no matter how old you are, you are able
to rewrite your past and rewire your past or i'm sorry,
your future, well and your past and your future. I
think that a lot of people they are afraid of
their age and they think, like, while I've been with
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my husband for forty years, like I'm never going to
be happy now. And you know, my aunt, at seventy
years old, just had her first boyfriend after she lost
my uncle like ten plus years ago to cancer and
had never been with anybody her entire life. I've never
seen her so happy and she's seventy years old. My
stepmom and my dad had been together for thirty five years,
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and you know, unfortunately my father. I'm very open about this,
but my father used to have a lot of affairs
and my stepmom got to a point where she was
like bye, and at you know, fifty years old, she
decided to rewrite her her future. And she ended up
meeting somebody in Italy and like going back and forth
(31:39):
and having a boyfriend in Italy and that was a
little bit. But now now she's back and she has
somebody here. But like, I just want you to know
whoever is listening, that no matter how old you are
or what your current circumstances are, it doesn't matter what
you're going through, you can break through to the other side.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Absolutely manifest With Alexus, I just want to say someone
said this to me recently, and I think it was
one of the nicest things someone ever said to me.
They said, I see blue skies all around you and
inside you, and then you know what, I see the
same in you. I'm going to I'm going to pay
that forward and say that to you because I've amber
said it to one of my guests before, but I
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truly feel that about you. So we're going to have
much more with you. Thank you, Thank you for sharing
your story what you do.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
So yeah, yes, And.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
If you guys want to find me, I am at
manifest with Alexis on Instagram and also on Facebook. I
have a Facebook group called Women who Manifest designing your
life through Travel and Manifestation. If you want to join
the Facebook group, it's free. And if you need some
handholding when you are going through a breakup, I do
have my program Breakup to break Through. It's a thirty
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day challenge where I give you something daily. It drops
daily you get something to do, so whether that is
detoxing your social media or cleaning out something or burning something,
writing a future letter to yourself, I really help you
take There's four weeks of it and so The first
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week is really about, you know, being okay with the breakup,
coming to terms with it. The second week is more
about starting to get self love and give yourself the
love that you were given by that relationship and how
to reframe that. The third week is about empowerment, and
the fourth week is about starting to manifest somebody new
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if you're ready for it. Some people choose to wait
a couple of months until they're ready for the fourth week,
and then I have my breakup sos where if you
want me to handhold you even further, you actually get
text message and Boxer support with me. Boxer is kind
of like a voice memo system while you're going through
(33:56):
the thirty day process, so you can me and you
can talk about it and I can help you with
that on a more one on one basis. So if
you guys are interested in any of that, just DM
me let me know that you got me from the
Wendy's podcast, and I'll be sure to give you a discount.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Oh thank you so much. I loved having you. We're
going to have so much more with me and I
can't manifest with alexis all your social will all be
up there, don't worry, We'll get and everyone should be
manifesting with Alexis.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Thank you so much, Thank you, Wendy Nito.
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two O three five five seven nine five zero zero
Welcome to The Rewrite, a podcast about divorce, choice and
new beginnings. I'm your host Wendy Sloan, former TV producer,
mom of two and one sweet golden retriever. This is
a space for real talk about the moments that break us,
the choices that define us, and the power we have
to begin again. You'll hear personal stories, heartfelt insights, and
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honest conversations about healing relationships and reclaiming your life one
choice at a time. I'll be joined by experts in divorce, finance,
mental health, wellness and more and everything you need to
support your next chapter. The most powerful chapters might be
the ones you write next. Let's begin your rewrite together.
This episode is brought to in part by the Needle
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Kuda Law Firm guidance that moves lives forward. Welcome to
another episode of The Rewrite. I'm your host, Wendy Sloan
and my guest today. A manifest and mindset mentor, a
retreat leader, and a self love guru. She specializes in
helping women heal from toxic relationship and breakups. Now a
symbol of women's empowerment and a guide for finding true love,
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turning pain into purpose. And dedicating her life to helping
others reclaim their power, feel emotionally and manifest the life
they love and they truly deserve.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
And that is everything my show is. And so are you.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
And you are so warm and delicious and I haven't
even introduced you yet.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Welcome to my show, Alexis Amano.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Thank you so much for having me, Mindy. I'm so
excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm so excited to have you and your everything that
the rewrite is that this show is. And I think
I loved you even before I started interviewing you, even
before we met this morning.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Thank you, Thank you. There's something about.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Your energy and your warmth and just you, like the
minute you popped up on the screen.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Thank you. I get that a lot. And I don't, like,
I don't purposely go out of my way to like
have more energy or anything. And I don't know. I
think it's just from working on myself so much much
that it honestly radiates, like out to other people. And
that's the goal, right is to have so much self
development for yourself that it trickles out to the people
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that surround you.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, it's working, it's working. You're definitely a ran of sunshine. Okay,
so let's get down to it.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
You turned down a wedding with your college sweetheart at
sweetheart after eleven years?
Speaker 2 (02:20):
What led you that decision? What happened? Tell us the
whole story.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Yeah, absolutely, So I was with my college sweetheart of
eleven years. He and I met in college, and it
started off kind of toxic, to be honest. It started
off as a quote unquote situation ship as the kids
call it these days, where we kind of were like
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on and off for a year and actually started dating
one of his friends, like when he didn't want to
commit to me, and then of course at that time
he like did start committing to me. So and it
just from the beginning was like it was pretty toxic
from the beginning, like cheating on his end, then on
my end, because you know, back then, this was when
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you know, I was in my twenties and I wasn't
I was not into the manifesting. I believed in manifestation,
but I was not into manifestation itself yet or self development.
So I was a very petty person, and I'm very
open and honest about all of this. So I would
you know, he would cheat on me. I would cheat
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on him, we would break up, we'd get back together.
He did have a serious alcohol problem, and that was
something that I honestly enabled. I instead of like getting help,
I would just go along and like encourage drinking, encourage
going out. And so I really had no one to
blame but myself, Like I couldn't blame him for that.
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And I just remember not being happy. I remember like
the word for me is fulfilled, and I did not
feel fulfilled. A lot of women in relationships love their
partners and they're like, I love him, he's great, but
they can't put their finger on what the issue is
in the relationship. And usually that's what it is. That's
the word. It's fulfilling. It's not fulfilling to them. And
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I just knew I wasn't fulfilled. I felt like I
couldn't be myself around him. I felt like I would
walk on eggshells. I felt like I just like I
couldn't be like the partner that I wanted to be.
And I knew that this relationship was not meant to
be when I started falling in love with somebody else,
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And as soon as that happened, I was like, I
need to call this off. This is not healthy, and
so I did. I called off the wedding. I told him.
I came home one night. I spent a week a
weekend with girlfriends, and I told them, like what my
plan was. I was going to come home and I
was going to call off the wedding. And the one
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thing that somebody said to me that made me realize
that I had to let him go. And I want
to talk about this because I think it's really really
important and this was my AHA moment, and I hope
that someone listening will be the AHA moment for them.
My friend asked me, do you think that you are
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holding him back from meeting somebody that he would be
better aligned with. And as soon as she put that
into perspective for me, my whole mindset changed because this
was no longer about me. This was about him as well.
And I realized that not only was I holding myself
back from being happy, but I'm also holding him back
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from being happy. And in that moment that weekend, I did.
And I came home that Sunday night and I did.
I sat on the couch with him, and I remember
he told me, you know, if I can't make you happy,
now by now, I'm never going to be able to
make you happy. And I said, you know his name,
and I said, you know, it has nothing to do
with you making me happy. I was like, I'm not
(05:59):
happy myself. I need to make myself happy and and
no one is going to be able to make me
happy if I'm not happy already. And so we did.
We broke up, and it was sad because we had
been living together on and off for like seven years
at this point, or six years, like a long time.
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But I just never felt fulfilled. I never felt like
he adored me. He did drink a little too much
for me. You know, we all have fun, but and
it's one thing when you're in your twenties, but like
when you're starting to get into your thirties, like I
at that point was thirty two, Like I was over it.
He also like didn't really know what you wanted. He
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didn't really have passions like where I had all these passions.
I started a blog that I was super passionate about.
I started getting into self development. I loved my job
at the time, my corporate job before I went off
as an entrepreneur, and so we just weren't aligning and Yeah,
so I had to say goodbye, and it was one
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of the hardest things I did, but it led me
to where I am now.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
What you said, and I'm going to back up just
a little bit, and I've always said this, No one
can make you happy.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
You have to make you have to be happy with
yourself first.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
And I've always said that I have to be with
somebody who's happy too, because I'm happy, and it's not
to do that for you. And so you realize that
for both of you. Yeah, that was though eleven years
eleven years you were at that point. So how did
the breakup shape your journey into self love and spiritual healing?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Like what happened after that?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, so that's a fun story. So I started like
dabbling into different things like yoga and meditation and that
type of stuff prior to breaking up with him. But
like I said, you know, one of the reasons why
I really knew I need to break up with him
is because I started falling in love with somebody else
(07:57):
at work. I want to say fall in love, but
I started really liking somebody at work, and I'm like, Okay,
you shouldn't be engaged to somebody. I'm like interested like
it to the point where you're like considering leaving somebody.
So I explored that relationship very quickly, honestly, out of
my relationship. It was definitely rebound, like looking back now,
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because I always teach my clients like, you really do
have to heal through your breakup and through your process
if you want to attract somebody who is really meant
for you. And I didn't allow myself that healing time.
I kind of went from one relationship into another, and
that relationship broke up after six months. But I say
this a lot, and sometimes the shorter relationships are much
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harder to get over than the long term relationships because
the long term relationships, it's like a long time coming,
like yes, you were together for so long, but also
you were probably thinking about leaving them for so long
that by the time it happens, it's more of a
feeling of relief, Whereas when you break up with somebody
after three months or six months or even a year,
you ually you have a lot of unfinished business and
(09:03):
it breaks up usually more abruptly. So that's what happened
to me. It was I have a whole podcast on it,
my podcast How I Got broken up with over pizza.
He came over for pizza, we talked about our future,
and we basically just decided that this probably wasn't going
to be it like he was going to be holding
me back from doing things that I wanted in my life,
and I would be holding him back from doing things,
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and so I was really I got very depressed after
that breakup for like a week, and then I just
remember watching somebody on Instagram. I think it was Manifestation
Babe or somebody, and I just started following Manifestation very closely.
And then about six months after that, I had I
did get a new job, so because I was working
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with him, so I was like, I need to leave.
So I got a new job that took me across
country back to Connecticut because at this time I was
living in California. I lived in California for twenty years,
but I was born and raised here in Connecticut, where
Wendy's from. Yes, that where you're from, where you.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
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the Lexus. All right, So back to that story.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
So when I came back about six months later. So,
so I left that job because I was, you know,
working with an accident was just it felt didn't feel
right to me. It was very hard to meet to
work with him. I used to work in the hotel
industry and we were working for a boutique property, so
boutique meaning very small. So it's like it was unavoidable
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to see him. So I ended up getting an amazing job,
a twenty five K salary raise. I got to work
from home. But the caveat was that I had to
move back to the East Coast because I was working
now for a hotel in Bermuda. And when you work
for hotels that are in places like that, you know,
like islands and that type of stuff, usually the sales
team actually works remotely. So I had my dream job.
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I moved across country. I'm back in Connecticut. It's amazing,
and my boss gives me. I became very close with
this new boss, and she knew the stuff I was
going through, Like I really really wanted a new relationship.
I really wanted to manifest somebody of my culture actually,
which I'm of Italian descent, and it's very hard to
find somebody in California of that. But in Connecticut we
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have a melt you know, it's not as big of
a melting pot as it is in California. There's a
lot of Italian Americans in Connecticut. So my boss set
me this book called Oh my God, the Universe Has
Your Back by Gabby Benstein. I love still to this day,
my favorite book, my favorite self development book. It's the
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number one book that I give to people when they like, want,
want it, and the tagline of that book is churning
faith into fear. So it's all about manifestation, and it
was all about churning your mindset around on things, not
being a victim anymore, taking taking having awareness for where
you went wrong in your own life, and stop being
stop blaming other people for it. And that was the
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book that After I did that, I decided that I
wanted to get heavily into this and become a coach
eventually once I had my success story, so I delve
into manifestation like I had a morning routine, I did affirmations,
I did visualization, and I just went hardcore. I went
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on a retreat and I met somebody within eight months
who is my fiance now. And so that's really when
I was like, okay, I need to be a mentor
now because now I have done this for myself. It worked.
And then after I met Waltz, I started diving into
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the manifestation of money. And once I started manifesting money
like a lot of it, I was like, Okay, I
really really need to become a coach. So I went
into a program I did like a year long program
with the Click Academy. Who is Danny Watson is the
one who owns the Click Academy. And that was like
six years ago now, I think six seven years ago.
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It was like before COVID, or like right before COVID.
So and now I'm here today.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
You know, you're, like I said at the very beginning
of lessons, you're the You're the perfect example of like
have you not had that eleven year relationship?
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Had you not went through.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
That and a couple of other things, you would not
be manifest with a LEXI.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
You would not be who you are. This would not
be your mission to help other people.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yeah, toxic relationships and help people manifest And it's amazing.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Thank you all.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
My journey set you to where you are today. So
if you had not gone through that, we don't know
where you would be today.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
I don't I think about Like I would still be
in California. I would probably be in an unfulfilling relationship.
I would probably not be making as much money. I
would definitely not have my own business because that was
a very big limiting belief for me for a very
long time. Like I really needed COVID to I mean
(15:53):
COVID really I was fortunate enough that COVID really helped
me thrive in my life. I found boyfriend and you know,
we got really close during that time. And I got
furloughed in my job because I wasn't one of those
people who hated my corporate job and like wanted to
leave my corporate job for my my side job. Like
I was never like that. It was always like, oh,
(16:13):
I'm gonna just have this like side thing. But COVID
came and because I was in the hotel industry, that
was like one of the first industries to go, and
I got furloughed, and so I really had to, you know,
put my big girl pants on and be like, is
this something you really want to do? And it forced
me into becoming a woman entrepreneur, which I've been now
for the last six years.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
So inspirational to so many people. So what's the first.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Step towards emotional healing and empowerment? What's what do you
what do you teach your clients?
Speaker 2 (16:43):
What do you like? You know, everyone, it's so hard
to see the other side.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
It's so hard to see that you will survive, you
will get out there, the sun will shine again.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, I love that. So I do have a process.
It's called the vibe process vi IB and it stands
for vision, empowerment breakthrough. Wait did I say that right?
I'm sorry? Vision intention is the eye breakthrough empowerment. So
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like the first by the way, a lot, I love
it too. So the first part of vision is really
about gaining awareness of where you are in your life,
what you have done, what your patterns are, and then
what you really want from here, like knowing where you
are with your current circumstances. What is your big vision?
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Do you want to be a multi seven figure entrepreneur?
Do you want or yes, seven figure entrepreneur. Do you
want to get married? Do you want to have kids?
Do you just like want that family life? Or is
it more specific on you know, you want to be
a best selling author or you want to be an actress,
like whatever it is you want, Like what is that
big vision? Then we go into intention, which is like
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how do you intend to get there? So it's creating
kind of a map for yourself of and I go
through this on my retreats of like it's one thing
to think of the vision, but now how are you
going to get there? So I help them through a
process that I do like create what their intentions are,
and then we go to breakthrough. So that's when we
start releasing do release work and self love work, and
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we start having the aha moments and we break through
the limiting beliefs of I can't do this, I shouldn't
do this, I won't do this. People will think this
way if I do this, you know, so I help
them break through that. And then the last part is
empowerment also known as embodiment. So that's becoming the person
that you want to become before you are them. So
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that's like empowering yourself to be a girlfriend before you
are the girlfriend. I say that a lot. I have
a lot of content around this of like you want
to be a girlfriend, but you like go out with
your friends all the time, like every single night, you know,
acting like I don't know, you know, having one night
stands and stuff like that. Like that's not portraying yourself
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as the wife that you want to be. So, you know,
taking it to a point where you know, if I
was in a relationship now, what would I be doing?
You know, So whatever it is, if I was an
actress now, or if I was a seven figure entrepreneur,
what would I do? And try to empower yourself and
embody yourself to do that now and not when you
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have that, because a lot of people are like, when
I have kids, I'll be happy, you know, when I
get married, I'll be happy, and it's like, you won't.
You'll be happy for a split second, but because you
haven't worked on yourself throughout that whole time, it's just
going to be a band aid of happiness and then
you're going to go back to feeling the way that
you were feeling. So it's so really the step is
(19:45):
just trying to be the person that you want to
be before you get there. And that's what manifestation is
all about. And if you are not able to do that,
it's going to be very hard for you to manifest.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Wow, it makes so much sense the way you say.
Like that though too, so manifesting your soulmate, how do
you teach to do I mean everyone's like I I
like also your verbage what you said in that too,
these like when I when I get to do this, No,
I'm going to get to do this right?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Change you change your mindset too.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Yes, rewire, rewire and rewrite.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
That's right, U, manifesting.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Manifest Let's talk about manifesting and manifesting the life you want,
manifesting your soulmate.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Yeah, I love I love this topic. So the first
thing you need to do. It sounds so cliche, but
you really need to look inWORD at yourself and you
need you need to love yourself and have such utmost
confidence in yourself because if you don't, if you're an
insecure person, or if you're not confident, that is when
(20:54):
you attract people who are narcissists, who are manipulative and
who walk all over you. And it's really sad because
you know, I coach a lot of women who are
with men like this. And I say that because I
only coach women. I'm not saying that men don't get manipulated,
because they absolutely do, and women are absolutely manipulated as well,
but for the sake of who I coach, that's what
(21:17):
I'm referring to. So you know, most of the sweetest
women I have ever coached or been with, they are
the ones who get manipulated the most, who are with
the biggest narcissists because they're easily able to be taken
advantage of. So you really really have to look into
yourself and say, like, am I Do I have self worth?
(21:40):
Do I have self love? Am I okay being by myself?
And am I ready? That's a big one. Not a
lot of people they think that they're ready, but they're
not there. They either are still holding on to their
ex holding onto the past, or they're not confident in
themselves and they don't have any self worth. You know.
So you know, VERSU isn't going to bring you somebody
(22:02):
if you already have all this stagnant energy. You know,
I have a best friend and I love her to death,
but she she constantly sabotages herself by going back to
people that are not right for her, And I tell her,
you know, when you hold onto this stagnant energy, if
somebody who has already told you he's unavailable is not
going to be in a relationship with you, you're not
(22:24):
going to be able to attract somebody. Amazing, because we
only have a certain amount of energy that we can
hold in our life, and the universe isn't going to
just keep giving us like this overflow of people to
me if we're holding on to this energy here, so,
you know, releasing a lot of that energy, learning how
to get over, get past your your last relationship and
(22:44):
being open and ready in terms of like steps to do.
I love to, like I said, like become the girlfriend
before you're the girlfriend. So there's like a couple of
things that you can do, Like just in your household,
you can get an extra toothbrush that sits there and waits.
You can get like a coffee mug that the coffee
(23:04):
one's copy one doesn't get touched until your new boyfriend
gets there, so you know, like you look at it
in the mornings and you're like, Okay, that's for my
future person. If you're toothbrush exactly. You know, if you
live by yourself, you can set to place setting, so
even though you're eating dinner by yourself, you set the
(23:25):
place setting for the other person. You start manifesting them
a big one that and this is actually an Italian superstition.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
You need to have two end tables in your bedroom
because if you only have one, you're not welcoming for
another person to like put their things down or anything.
So it's like you're closing yourself off to have a uh,
to have another side. I remember my cousin telling me this,
and I bought a second end table and then I
manifested wall like four months later or something like that.
(23:56):
So so it's like just making sure that you are
like super open to having somebody come into your life.
Maybe empty outer drawer for them, you know, like make
room for them in your life. Because if you're one
of those people like I have a single girlfriend and
like her house is granted she lives in the city,
(24:17):
but her place is like packed, Like her closet wouldn't
even have room for anybody if she wanted it. Her
kitchen has no room for anything, you know, So you
need to make room for the person that you want
to come into your life. So start making room for them.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Now, such great ideas. No, I would have never thought
of all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (24:36):
Yeah, you know. I one of my coaches went as
far and granted she's like a multi million dollar entrepreneur,
so this might would not work for everybody. When she
went to Bali, she did like a full like four
hundred dollars spat experience and she got it for two people.
And when she went they thought she was crazy. They
(24:58):
were like, where's your other person. He's like, he's right here,
he's made up. He's my manifestation. So she literally like
paid for this spa experience for another person, just to
put it out into the universe, and she ended up
manifesting somebody the month after she got back from that trip.
So it's just like it's just like going out of
(25:19):
your way send your cell flowers. You don't need to
like send yourself flowers and say your husband first.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Right, That's one of my all time favorite songs.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
And I buy myself flowers all the time just because
they're so pretty and because we should. We should all
buy ourselves flowers, so I guess, and mindset is a
big part of all of that too. It's like what
you said, manifesting, you have to put it in your
mind too, and amazing it just its shifts it you you.
I see how you can shift somebody's energy very fast
(25:49):
by by even by just what you shared with us.
Just now, pretty amazing. Okay, So that's how manifest with
Alexis all came together. That's how the name came together.
I assume I want to hear so much more to
talk to you. I want to hear about your retreats,
and I want to hear about your thirty day breakup
to Breakthrough program.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Lovely. Yeah, yeah, so I've been hosting. I've honestly been
hosting retreats for like twenty years because I did it
back in college when I was on the Panelanic Council.
So I started hosting retreats when I was in college
for like hundreds of women, and so I then went
into the hotel and tourism industry. So I have a
(26:30):
lot of experience both in teaching principles on retreats but
also on the back end of the operational side. I
do a little light retreat coaching. I am going to
be I have my Retreat Life Academy that'll be coming
out for those who do want to host retreats. That
won't be until the end of the year. But my retreats,
(26:50):
I have two different types of retreats, so I host
Mastermind retreats and I host Manifestation retreats. So my Manifestation
retreats are usually once a year and they are for
any type of woman who wants to come, so you
don't need to be an entrepreneur. And we go through
the vibe process. We do beautiful excursions, spiritual stuff like
(27:12):
you know, breathworks, sound healing, EFT, tapping, cacaw ceremonies, burn,
release ceremonies, and you know, a lot to just really
get you from point A to point B. I have
really great testimonials. You know, some words that women say
is transformational, life changing, best thing I've ever spent my
(27:36):
money on. I do have one. I'm not sure when
the time of this recording is, it'll probably already be over.
But my one coming up is in Saint Thomas. Last
year was in Hawaii. The year before is in Costa Rica.
I have another one coming up in Costa Rica in
May of twenty twenty six, and then my summer one.
So that's my Spring Manifestation retreat. My Summer Manifestation retreat
(27:58):
is TBD, but I think it's going to be in
the Caribbean. This year it's in Saint Thomas. I think
I said that. So that's July seventeenth, Yeah, July seventeenth
to the twenty first, and then I have Mastermind retreats,
so these are solely for women entrepreneurs. I have one
in California in Temecula. That one is August twenty first
(28:20):
to twenty fourth, and then usually I do my line
in Autumn retreat in September or October, but I don't
have dates set for that. Yea, but that is a little.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Bit of the times that you do it. The times
of year you do these things.
Speaker 3 (28:33):
Yeah, I do about three to four year.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
So I'm getting out of retreats for sure.
Speaker 3 (28:39):
I would love for you to come on one of
my I.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Just experienced recently a sound healing, a sound healing event.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Did you do it? Uh?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Huh?
Speaker 3 (28:50):
Did you do it? Tina?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
And I did it with Lisa. It was Lisa Cooper,
so it was somebody in my neighborhoods.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
It took us to this.
Speaker 1 (29:00):
I was like, okay, one of my girlfriends are the
right she was snoring and the other one we were
just we were we were I was awake the whole time,
but it was like, I SUPD so good that night.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
Oh yeah, you sleep amazing after a sound.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
If you've ever experienced it, I highly recommend people to
experience it. It was so amazing what sound can do
in the power of that.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, and there's actually different types of sound that people
don't realize. So I'm not sure what kind you did.
But there is a sound bath which is more for relaxation,
like we have to sound a journey which takes you
through your thoughts are supposed to like take you through
a journey, and then you have sound healing, where it's
basically the sound journey, but it's a little bit of
(29:44):
an extra level because usually when you're doing the sound healing,
it will bring up a lot of emotion for you.
So you'll be hearing sounds that bring up very intentional
memories that lead you to other thoughts that help you heal.
Because at the end of the day, healing is just
sitting with your emotions. That's what it is. It's everybody
makes it like this big thing, but really it's just
(30:07):
crying and sitting with your emotions allowing you to get
your emotions out. But yeah, we always do some sort
of sound healing or sound journey during one of my
retreats and.
Speaker 1 (30:18):
All that up on social So Alexi, your rewright, the
power of resilience led you to.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
A life of fulfillment, Yes, it did.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
What do you want to say about your rewrite to listeners?
Speaker 3 (30:31):
I want to say that no matter where you are,
or no matter how old you are, you are able
to rewrite your past and rewire your past or i'm sorry,
your future, well and your past and your future. I
think that a lot of people they are afraid of
their age and they think, like, while I've been with
(30:54):
my husband for forty years, like I'm never going to
be happy now. And you know, my aunt, at seventy
years old, just had her first boyfriend after she lost
my uncle like ten plus years ago to cancer and
had never been with anybody her entire life. I've never
seen her so happy and she's seventy years old. My
stepmom and my dad had been together for thirty five years,
(31:18):
and you know, unfortunately my father. I'm very open about this,
but my father used to have a lot of affairs
and my stepmom got to a point where she was
like bye, and at you know, fifty years old, she
decided to rewrite her her future. And she ended up
meeting somebody in Italy and like going back and forth
(31:39):
and having a boyfriend in Italy and that was a
little bit. But now now she's back and she has
somebody here. But like, I just want you to know
whoever is listening, that no matter how old you are
or what your current circumstances are, it doesn't matter what
you're going through, you can break through to the other side.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Absolutely manifest With Alexus, I just want to say someone
said this to me recently, and I think it was
one of the nicest things someone ever said to me.
They said, I see blue skies all around you and
inside you, and then you know what, I see the
same in you. I'm going to I'm going to pay
that forward and say that to you because I've amber
said it to one of my guests before, but I
(32:20):
truly feel that about you. So we're going to have
much more with you. Thank you, Thank you for sharing
your story what you do.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
So yeah, yes, And.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
If you guys want to find me, I am at
manifest with Alexis on Instagram and also on Facebook. I
have a Facebook group called Women who Manifest designing your
life through Travel and Manifestation. If you want to join
the Facebook group, it's free. And if you need some
handholding when you are going through a breakup, I do
have my program Breakup to break Through. It's a thirty
(32:54):
day challenge where I give you something daily. It drops
daily you get something to do, so whether that is
detoxing your social media or cleaning out something or burning something,
writing a future letter to yourself, I really help you
take There's four weeks of it and so The first
(33:14):
week is really about, you know, being okay with the breakup,
coming to terms with it. The second week is more
about starting to get self love and give yourself the
love that you were given by that relationship and how
to reframe that. The third week is about empowerment, and
the fourth week is about starting to manifest somebody new
(33:36):
if you're ready for it. Some people choose to wait
a couple of months until they're ready for the fourth week,
and then I have my breakup sos where if you
want me to handhold you even further, you actually get
text message and Boxer support with me. Boxer is kind
of like a voice memo system while you're going through
(33:56):
the thirty day process, so you can me and you
can talk about it and I can help you with
that on a more one on one basis. So if
you guys are interested in any of that, just DM
me let me know that you got me from the
Wendy's podcast, and I'll be sure to give you a discount.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
Oh thank you so much. I loved having you. We're
going to have so much more with me and I
can't manifest with alexis all your social will all be
up there, don't worry, We'll get and everyone should be
manifesting with Alexis.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
Thank you so much, Thank you, Wendy Nito.
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