July 11, 2025 • 45 mins
Join host Nyomi Banks on this deeply vulnerable and transformative final Freedom Friday episode of The Season of Self Love Podcast before her extended break. In this raw and honest conversation, Nyomi shares her journey from performing who she thought she should be to embracing complete authenticity, while announcing her decision to step back from daily podcasting to honor her body's wisdom. What You'll Discover: • The exhausting cost of performing versus the liberation of authenticity • How to identify and remove the masks we wear to please others • The physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational costs of performance culture • Why authenticity can be threatening to those closest to us • Practical steps to transition from approval-seeking to truth-living The Masks We Wear:
The Ripple Effect of Authenticity: When you give yourself permission to be real, you give others permission too. Nyomi shares touching stories of women inspired by her vulnerability to start their own podcasts, embrace their scars, and reignite their passion for advocacy.
Dr. Will's Mirror Moment: A powerful exchange where Dr. Will holds up a mirror, asking Nyomi if she's going to stop listening to her body after just discussing its importance - leading to her decision to truly honor her body's need for rest.
Episode Highlights:
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- The People Pleaser Mask: Saying yes when we mean no, making others comfortable while dying inside
- The Perfect Woman Mask: Conforming to external standards of appearance and behavior
- The Strong Woman Mask: Hiding vulnerability and refusing to ask for help
- The Successful Woman Mask: Tying worth to achievements and the ability to "do it all"
- Physical: Stress, inflammation, illness as the body's way of saying "this isn't sustainable"
- Emotional: Losing touch with authentic feelings while managing others' perceptions
- Spiritual: Disconnecting from inner wisdom and becoming strangers to ourselves
- Relational: Others relating to our mask instead of our authentic self
- Recognition that she was still "carrying the mask in her hand" even after removing it from her face
- The realization that her implants were her "costume that she couldn't take off"
- How performing for 21-22 years created a prison of maintaining image over honoring truth
- The discovery that those closest to us often resist our authenticity the most
- Speaking your truth even when your voice shakes
- Setting boundaries that honor your wellbeing
- Making decisions based on your values, not others' expectations
- Embracing your natural body instead of conforming to external standards
- Following intuition even when it doesn't make logical sense
- Choosing relationships that see and celebrate your authentic self
- Mask Inventory: Identify when and why you wear different masks
- Values Clarification: Get clear on your core values for easier decision-making
- Truth Practice: Start with smaller truths as practice for bigger ones
- Boundary Boot Camp: Practice setting boundaries in low-stakes situations
- Authenticity Audit: Regular check-ins asking "Am I being authentic right now?"
- Support System Shift: Surround yourself with people who love your authentic self
The Ripple Effect of Authenticity: When you give yourself permission to be real, you give others permission too. Nyomi shares touching stories of women inspired by her vulnerability to start their own podcasts, embrace their scars, and reignite their passion for advocacy.
Dr. Will's Mirror Moment: A powerful exchange where Dr. Will holds up a mirror, asking Nyomi if she's going to stop listening to her body after just discussing its importance - leading to her decision to truly honor her body's need for rest.
Episode Highlights:
- The recognition that authenticity can be "contagious" and inspire others
- How those closest to us may resist our growth because it forces them to examine themselves
- The beautiful moment with Nyomi's mother (who has dementia) making healing tea with pure love
- The shallow moment of worrying about podcast rankings versus authentic self-care
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Schedule Update: Limited episodes through September with Mindset Mondays and Wisdom Wednesdays only, returning to full schedule in Oct
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Now, let's get started, all right, my beautiful people, will
welcome to Friday here on this season and civil of podcasts.
I am your host. Now on Me Banks and Honey,
we made it to Friday. But this isn't just a Friday.
This is a Friday where we talk about the ultimate freedom,
the liberation that comes when you stop performing who you
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think you should be and start living as who you
truly are. But this week's journey, it's been a great one,
hasn't it. I Mean, we talked about honoring our bodies
wisdom even when systems try to silence us. And we've
learned from Laura about trusting our inner voice. And we
explored with doctor Will that it means to embrace our
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bodies and understand our self worth. And yesterday we talked
about becoming students of our own bodies wisdom. But today
I want to talk about the freedom that awaits on
the other side of all of that work, the freedom
to live authentically, to make choices from love and set
of fear, and to be unapologetically yourself in the world
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welcome back. If you can hear my voice. It's a
little draining right now. I've been having a really harsh
cough for the past few weeks, really hard cough for
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the past few weeks, and so know that I'm listening
to my body. I was just wanting to make sure
that I you know, I came in and did my
work here. So here we go. Let's let's just go ahead,
because I can keep talking, you know, all day, but
I really need to, you know, at least have a
little part of this freedom Friday out here for you all,
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and that I am going back to bed, and I'm
going to rest my voice, as I know, and that
I'm doing a little bit too much. I hear my
body as of yesterday. My body says it's time to
rest and sit down. It's truly time to rest and
sit down. And so let's do this. Lit's ground ourselves.
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Let's find a nice little comfortable space, all right. Now.
I want us all to take a deep breath in,
and then I want you to let go. I want
you to let out with a sound, and that sound
will be take a deep breath in again through your
nose hold for a moment, now release. I want you
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to imagine yourself completely free, free from the need to
prove yourself, free from the weight of others' expectations, free
from the mass that you want to be accepted. Now
see yourself walking through life with complete authenticity, speaking your truth,
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honoring your needs, and making choices that align with your soul. Now,
in these next few breaths. I want you to breathe
in liberation and breathe out limitation. Now this next breath,
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I want you to breathe in authenticity and breathe out performance.
And it's next breath. Then I want you to breathe
in power and breathe out fear. I want you to
feel this freedom in your body, in your and your breath.
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Then the way that takes up space in the world.
Now I want you to stay with me. I am
free to be myself. I am free to choose my path.
I am free to live my truth and take one
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more deeper thin a freedom. And when you are ready,
open your eyes and step into your liberation. All right,
my beautiful people, if you are new here to the
season and seph of a podcast is something we do
every day Monday through Friday, again just to help ground
us before we get into the top of your hand.
But you know what, my beautiful people, I've been just
thinking a lot this week about the performance we put
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on every day. And I'm talking about the kind of
performance that lights up a stage. That's not what I'm
talking about or create arts. I'm talking about the exhausting
performance of trying to be who we think others want
us to be. You know, for twenty one twenty two years,
I performed the role of a woman with perfect breast,
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A performed confidence that I didn't always feel. I performed
sexuality there sometimes felt disconnected from my authentic self. I
performed success in industries that profited from my willingness to
be something other than my natural self. And y'all, don't
get me wrong, there were parts of that performance that
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served me, that taught me, that helped me to build
the platform that I have today. But there came a
point where that performance became a prison, where maintaining that image.
Maintaining that image became more important than honoring my truth.
You see that migrain on Monday that forced me to
be steeled, that forced me to watch that documentary about
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the truth behind breast and plants. That was my body
saying enough with the performance. It's time for the real show.
So let's get real about the mask that we wear,
because freedom starts with recognizing what we're trying to free
ourselves from. There's the people please her mask, you know,
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that's the one that says yes when we mean know
that bends over backwards to make everyone else comfortable while
we're dying inside. Then there's another mask. There's that perfect
woman mask, you know, the one that says that we
have to look a certain way, act a certain way,
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be a certain size, to be worthy of love and respect,
speak a certain way. You know. I remember being having
that mask on. And then there's that strong woman mask,
you know, that one that says we can't show vulnerability,
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we can't ask for it out, we can't admit when
we're struggling. And then there's that successful woman mask, the
one that says our worth is tied to our achievements,
or our incomes, or our ability to do it all.
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I've worn all of these masks, my beautiful people. I've
worn them so long that sometimes I forgot who I
was underneath them. But here's what I've learned. Masks are very,
very hairy. They're exhausting, and they're completely unnecessary when you
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know your own worth. But then there's come a cost
of the performance, right you see, performance culture. It tells
us that we have to be everything to everyone, and
that we have to look perfect, feel perfect, perfect lives.
But what's the cost of all of this performance? Physical costs?
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Our body paid the price stress, inflammation, illness. These are
often our body ways of saying this isn't sustainable. And
I'm just going to be very honest. I believe right
now this is what my body is going through. In
my mind. I had a plan to record have a
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complete series for July, knowing that I'm preparing my body,
my mind, my spirit for next month explant journey. I
thought I did enough. I thought i'd cut back on
my interviews, were just saying I was just going to
interview here in interview for some things in August and
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September so I can be ahead of the game. But
what I forgot through all of that is that the
innerchange of energy, the interchangeable energy that I am receiving
from these amazing, amazing people that I am speaking to,
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that I'm talking to, and I'm gonna have to sit
and learn to rest. So I'm going to say this now,
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and this is what my heart is telling me, that
this is probably the last Freedom Friday episode for this
month until I return in October. I made the conscious
decision in prayer and meditation at my altar to there
will be only limited episodes the rest of January. I
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mean the rest of July, excuse me August in September,
so you will get episodes every week, but it will
not be every day, just until I return back from
my surgery in August. Because even though I said I
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put my mask down, I took it off my face,
but I was still holding it in my hand, And
as long as I have that mask in my hand,
I cannot be my authentic self. So now let's talk
about the emotional costs. We lose touch with our authentic feelings.
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We become so focused on managing others perceptions of us
as we don't even know how we really feel about things.
And then spiritual cost, we disconnect from our inner wisdom
or our intuition or our souls calling, and we become
strangers to ourselves. And then the last one is the
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relational cost. When we're performing, we're not truly connecting. Others
are relating to our mask and not our authentic selves,
and we wonder why we feel so lonely when we're
even in a crowded room. You know, that's something that
I learned in these past few years, specifically when doing
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this podcast here this season and self Love. It's because
I have been probably the most authentic of myself that
I've been is sharing my journey, sharing my transformation, sharing
the wisdom that I've learned through my life. But also
what I've learned is that through that is that there
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have been people around me that look at that as
a weakness and a vulnerability for My vulnerability for them
is a weakness to them for me, and it's and
when I say this, when I look at it, I'm like, Wow,
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that's what this is. That's what God's showing me. That's
what God is showing me. And I can say this.
I was sitting at my autar today and I know
I'm kind of going off, but I want you to
know the importance of when you take that mask off
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and when you are really being in your authentic self. Truly,
those that are most closest to you do not want
you to be in your authentic self. And why it
because it not only do you see them through their mask,
but it forced this is them to be in a
place of uncomfortability. So it makes you two where they
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have to really look at themselves when they're not ready.
I've learned that in the past few months, especially now,
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and I guess it was like there is a realization
that comes when doing your work, and I think I
said this before early on in with this podcast, is
that you will lose people from around you. They will
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move from you, Some will move in peace, and some
won't want to move. But this is where you realize
that those people are no longer aligned with you, no
matter how long you've been friends, no matter if your
blood relatives. And it's so unfortunate that that happens. But
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when we talk about growing beyond the seasons or being
in that work in that season, and you actually grow
beyond it and you still stuck there, this brings on
the stress in your body. This brings you out of
who you are, your growth, and your authenticity. So again,
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when I shared on Tuesday that this was more than
just an explant an implant removal, this is truly looking
at everything as a whole and knowing that where I
am going after this month as a place that a
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lot of people are not gonna be able to go
with me. But then that's for me. That's a freedom
for me. And like I said before, I apologize because
it got a little awf of what I was talking about,
But but then again it didn't because that's where you
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come to where it's like the turning point, that's when
you know you. That's when I really say stop performing.
As I said, I had that mask in my hand.
It wasn't on my face anymore, but I still was
carrying it around in my hand. I guess for convenience,
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So whatever I needed, I put it back on. But
now that I'm taking off probably one of the most
important parts of my mask, my costume, my impluse, my
implanse has been my costume that I couldn't take off.
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But also when I understood that every day I was
choosing to carry four objects in my body to maintain
an image that was never really me. That was a
part of my turning point. As I'm walking with the
mask in my hand, not on my face, but still
wearing a costume. But let's even go a little further,
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because it wasn't just about the impluse. It was about
all the ways that I was performing instead of being
All the times I said what I thought people wanted
to hear instead of what I really believed, At the
times that I made myself smaller to make others comfortable,
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at the times I chose approval over authenticity. That turning
point came when I said at my alto, asked myself,
who am I when no one is watching? Who am
I when no one is watching? Who am I when
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I'm not trying to be anything for anyone else? Who
am I? In my most natural state? And I know,
I told myself, this is that. Oh, well, you showed
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yourself in your natural locks. People really never see your
natural hair. Oh you're not wearing makeups, so you're good.
So you're all natural. You know, all people seeing you
without your kind you know, people seeing you with your
role born and you're looking like you just you know,
so you're showing your authentic self. But it's more than
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just that. It's so much more than just that. But
what I said at that altar, and I asked myself
all of those questions, I heard a voice of a
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woman who's been waiting patiently for permission to be herself.
So let's talk about what authentic freedom looks like. Real
freedom is it about doing whatever you want without consequences.
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Real freedom is about making choices from your authentic self
rather than from fear, rather than from obligation or the
need for approval. Freedom looks like speaking your truth even
when your voice shakes, setting boundaries that honor your well being,
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making decisions based on your values and not others' expectations.
Embracing your natural body instead of trying to conform to
external standards, following your intuition even when it doesn't make
logical sense, Choosing relationships that see you, that see you
and celebrate your authentic self and not who they have
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seen you as this celebrity or the semi celebrity or
this poem star, but some of that authentically see you
underneath all of that and celebrate you. Freedom looks like
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pursuing work that aligns with your purpose. It looks like
saying no without guilt, then yes without resentment. It looks
like take it up space unapologetically, And it looks like
celebrating your unique gifts instead of trying to be like
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everyone else. Trust me, when I'm speaking today, I am
not being hard on myself, not at all, and it
might not even sounded in my voice, but I am
in celebration of myself right now. But I just want
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you all to to listen to what I've been going
through the past few weeks and just preparing myself for
this transformation and understanding now ONMI. If you really want
to be as free as you say you want to be,
if you wanna continue to be talking to your season
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of self love verse out there and show them your
authentic selfthing, you need to be real and honest and
tell them y'all know what I've been caring around my mask.
I had it on my face, but I still had
it in my hands for inconvenience, for convenience to have
it there, because I knew I still was wearing my costume.
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But I know what I said about you know the
people around you when you become authentic and they don't
want to see that. But then also there's a good
side of that, because authenticity can be very contagious. When
you give yourself permission to be real, you give others
permission to be real too. When I started sharing my
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struggles on this podcast, my anxiety, my health issues, my
journey away from performing, the response was overwhelming, especially from
the ladies and the man let me not forget about
my beautiful men out there, but from the women, especially
this past month. Then, remember I shared with you all
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that my prayer for years, Well, how can I be
of service to women too? Because honestly, majority of my career.
Unbeknownst to me, I have been of service to men,
But how can I be in service to women that
can help them, to inspire them, to encourage them. And
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that's what the message that I got a few weeks ago.
But again, my body was my teacher, and my body
set me down. But the messages that I get from
the women that are reaching out saying thank you for
being honest about the hard stuff and your vulnerability, give
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me permission to be vulnerable too. One of my beautiful
guests that you guys will be able to hear later
this month. We had a nice hour talk before our interview.
We came back the next day, did the interview, then
we had another hour to two talk afterwards. And now
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she's moving forward and creating herself a podcast and a
blog series. In all of that, she said, thank you.
I didn't even know who you were, she said, but
thank you for putting fire in me. Thank you for
reuniting that fire that was there before and I thought
it was gone. This is a beautiful sixty plus year
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old woman. I think she like sixty two, sixty three,
beautiful woman. And she said, I still have time to
be an advocate I still have time to serve others
in my way and my voice, and I say, yes
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you do. I said, yes you do. And so even
though I've been carried around my mask and I still
had on my costume, I was still able to reach
those that wanted to see they authentic selves and has
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given them the courage to do so. And that's what
that ripple effect of authenticity is. It gives you the
freedom to create spaces for other freedom. But there was
another amazing young lady that I had on here not
too long ago, and she has an organism, organization, excuse me,
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a strength stronger than strict that I know, I'm saying
it wrong. Like I said, I got bradon fog right now.
But she'd had loopus. She has loopus. And before she
used to put you know, makeup on to cover up
the scars from you know, some of the outbreaks from
you know, her loopers. But now she now she's on
camera without it. Now she speaks every day to her
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audience just with it. And I think that speaks so
many values of just showing who your real, authentic self is.
But this is my thing. It's so unfortunate that we
we are bashed people that want to be their authentic
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self with no makeup or whatever it is with your
your being is is that it has to be ridic cure.
I remember looking on her page and just seeing you know,
some some mean things on air, and I said, I
just this world really needs to be healed. This world
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really needs to be healed, because this is what we
should want. We should want people being authentic. We should
not want that fake love. I know that's not what
I want in my life. I know that's not what
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I have in my life. So now I celebrate this today,
I celebrate the choices that I'm not gonna be every
day for the next few months. Today will be our
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last Freedom Friday until I come back in October. So
you would get the mindset Mondays this month. You would
get the Winnsdom Wednesdays this month, but that's it. The
next month August there would be a Wednesday, a Wednesdom
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Wednesday shows, and in September will be the same. And
then once my body is healed spiritually, mentally, emotionally, then
I will be back in October and my fullness at
one hundred and maybe one hundred and fifty, but that
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is when I will be back. So I just want
to leave some practical tips for you. Off to freedom again.
This will be our last week of freedom Friday until October.
So how do we move from performance to authenticity? And
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how do we step into the freedom to be ourselves?
Here are some practical stuff. One is the mask inventory.
I want you to take an honest look at the
mask that you wear. When do you put when do
you put them on? And what are you trying to achieve?
What would happen if you took them off? I want
you to write it all down. You can't free yourself
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for what you don't acknowledge. And then the next one too,
the values of clarification. Get clear on your values, not
what you think your value should be, but what actually
matters to you. When you know your values, decision becomes easier.
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You can ask does this choice align with my values?
Or am I making it for someone else's approval? And
if we want to go back to where when we
first started about choosing, what are nine nine top what
are nine top values of who we are? And number
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three is the truth practice. Start telling smaller truths as
practices for bigger ones. So instead of saying I'm fine
when you're not. Try I'm having a hard day. And
instead of agreeing with when you disagree, try I see
it differently. So you build your truth telling muscles for
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the boundary boot camp practice setting boundaries in low stakes situations.
So say no the things that you don't want to do,
ask for what you need, communicate your limits clearly and kindly.
And boundaries are in wilds. There are gates that let
in what serves you and keep out what doesn't. The
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authenticity audit regularly check in with yourself. Am I being
authentic right now? Am I making this choice from love
or fear? Am I honoring my truth? Or am I
performing for approval? The gold is in perfection, but it's awareness.
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And I'm going to tell you this. As I was
sitting here doing this episode, right here, right now, that
is when I made the decision that this will be
the last Freedom Friday until I return. Because not only
did I feel my body, not only did I hear
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my body and see my body, But that is when
I was really realizing, like you really walking around with
that mask, you really out here performing because you know
right now your body you tired. You need to be
resting up for this surgery. Yesterday, I went to the
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doctor and just was just one moment I listened to.
I went to the doctor and I, you know, I
got all the pre opt test, to the e KG,
the X ray, you know, the blood all of all
of those things, and I remember sitting there and they
was taking my blood pressure. Now, let me share with
you for the past the past year two years that
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I've been going back and forth to the doctor about
my migraines, about my you know, my pains and stuff
like that, my blood pressure has been very high to
where they are actually diagnosed me as being high potential
borderline high blood pressure. And it wanted to give me
some methods in and I said, no, I'm gonna do
the herbal way. But I haven't been taking any herbs,
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as I shared yesterday, because I'm preparing my body for
this surgery, and on the to do and not to
do lists, it is advised to you not to take
certain herbs, not to take you know, certain medications and
stuff like that. And so I want to go in
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to wing my body off of these things so I
can have the best success in my in my surgery.
But knowing that those herbs helped me to be able
to function daily. So I'm pushing my body more to
the limit and I don't have the things I'm not
I don't have the things that will help me to
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push forward. And so when I'm sitting here talking about
this being a authenticity authentic, I had a like, Okay,
today will be your last day of freedom Friday, because
you literally pulled yourself out of bed. Can you hear
your voice? I sound like a female version of very White.
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But then I also remember that my goal is in perfection.
It's awareness, and I'm very aware of who I am
and I've been so far. I've worked so far, did
so much work to go backwards. And I'm gonna share
another thing with you. Yesterday, before my doctor's appointment, I
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did pre recording with doctor Will. And throughout that whole time,
I was going through these coughing spells, and you all
would hear it. In the very last episode, in the
very last episode for my set, and we had the pause,
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and I remember, and I want to give this to
my still friend doctor Will. He said, so you, he said,
so you just gonna stop listening to your body. We
just talked about that, and you know, I couldn't do
nothing but just look like, wow, you know he is
so true. We just talked about this. I talk about
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this all the time, like you didn't get enough. We'll
just you know. And we cut that short. We cut
that last episode short, and he said, I know you good,
my still friend, he said, I know you good, he said,
but I want you to really look and I want
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you to take care of your body. I want to
take care of you. I know you out there want
to take care of everybody else, but I want you
to remember what you say and what your teachings are.
And my still friend, what he ye was he he
put that mirror right in front of my face and
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so I had to look at it. That was that
that check for me. And I thank him for him. Actually,
I think after I get out for here, I'm gonna
text him and say thank you for that.
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Yeah.
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And then my last we were just talking about the
support system shift. I just talked to one amazing person. Doctor.
Will surround yourself with people who love your authentic self,
not for your performance. These are the people who celebrate
your growth, who aren't threatened by your changes, who encourage
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you to be real even when it's messy. So doctor
will thank you, my husband thank you. My mother made
me some great tea yesterday. And if anybody is new
here listening, my mother has dimension. But she saw her
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baby down even after I came back from doctor, and
she said, what you need and it took her a
minute to get everything down there. I told her my
husband was right next to her and he was trying
to help, and she would not let him help. All
I kept seeing would taste like she won't let me help.
I said, you have to let her do it. And
when she brought it up to me, y'all, I felt
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nothing but love in that cup of tea as she
cut the ginger. I can feel it, y'all, the lemon.
It was so potent with my mother's love in there. Man.
So when you say about that support system shift, that's
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what that is. That's what that is. All right, my
beautiful people. I'm gonna cut this short, but as always,
this month, we'll be doing another a closing meditation, all right.
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So what I want you all to do right now
is to close your eyes and get into a nice
comfortable position. All right.
Speaker 4 (39:29):
Now.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I want you to take a deep breath in, and
I want you to feel yourself in this moment exactly
as you are.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
Now.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Imagine shedding every mask, every performance, every way that if
you try to be someone other than yourself, see them
falling away like old clothes that no longer fits. Feel
the likeness, the relief, the spaciousness of being completely yourself.
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This is your natural state. This is who you were
before the world told you who to be. Now see
yourself moving through life from this place of authenticity. See
yourself speaking your truth, honoring your needs and celebrating your uniqueness.
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Feel the peace that comes from alignment, from living in
integrity with your values, from being the same person in
private that you are in propor. This is freedom, This
is your birthright. This is what awakes on you on
the other side of that courage that we talk about.
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So I want you to say, with me, are your
free to be myself? I choose authenticity over approval, and
I trust that I am enough exactly as I am.
They'll take one more deep breath in and when you
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are already, open your eyes and step into this liberated moment.
Right here, I write my beautiful people again that we
had we explored, honoring our bodies, wisdom, listening to our
inner voice, embracing our self worth and becoming students of
our own bodies and now claiming our freedom to live authentically.
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Next week we will continue preparing me for our transformation
series where we would have Mindset Monday with doctor Will
and then we have Wisdom Wins that Will we have
an amazing guest to share her story on this transformational journey.
I believe I said all to you all on what
exactly what was going on with my body and why
I choose too, But I think it's time that you
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hear other voices right now, and I'm going to remove
myself from those other days. There will be no Transfer Tuesday,
no Threshold Thursday, or no Freedom Friday for the next
few weeks in the next few months. So again I
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pray that you all I having an amazing, amazing weekend.
But also I want you to know that I truly
want to celebrate on how far that you off come.
I want you to celebrate the courage to listen to
your bodies, to celebrate your willingness to trust your ill
inner knowing, and to celebrate your commitment to authenticity when
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it's scary. And I celebrate myself right now I celebrate
myself right now because I'm gonna share something else with you.
I thought about it if I'm not doing it every day,
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but I lose my placing and my rankings, and I
thought that was so shallow of me. Like girl, Really,
I had to check myself because that was outside validation.
You are more important than that. You know that. But again,
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this is me giving you my real route and uncut
of it all, my authentic self. I write, my beautiful people,
I just want you to know that you are not
just preparing for transformation, that you are transformation. So every
choice you make from love instead of fear, every truth
you speak, every boundary that you set, every moment that
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you choose yourself, that is transformation. I love you, I
see you, and I'm honored to walk this past a
free with you. Love. Have a beautiful, beautiful weekend. All right,
have a good one.
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welcome to Friday here on this season and civil of podcasts.
I am your host. Now on Me Banks and Honey,
we made it to Friday. But this isn't just a Friday.
This is a Friday where we talk about the ultimate freedom,
the liberation that comes when you stop performing who you
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think you should be and start living as who you
truly are. But this week's journey, it's been a great one,
hasn't it. I Mean, we talked about honoring our bodies
wisdom even when systems try to silence us. And we've
learned from Laura about trusting our inner voice. And we
explored with doctor Will that it means to embrace our
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bodies and understand our self worth. And yesterday we talked
about becoming students of our own bodies wisdom. But today
I want to talk about the freedom that awaits on
the other side of all of that work, the freedom
to live authentically, to make choices from love and set
of fear, and to be unapologetically yourself in the world
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And tell them diamas all right, My beautiful people will
welcome back. If you can hear my voice. It's a
little draining right now. I've been having a really harsh
cough for the past few weeks, really hard cough for
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the past few weeks, and so know that I'm listening
to my body. I was just wanting to make sure
that I you know, I came in and did my
work here. So here we go. Let's let's just go ahead,
because I can keep talking, you know, all day, but
I really need to, you know, at least have a
little part of this freedom Friday out here for you all,
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and that I am going back to bed, and I'm
going to rest my voice, as I know, and that
I'm doing a little bit too much. I hear my
body as of yesterday. My body says it's time to
rest and sit down. It's truly time to rest and
sit down. And so let's do this. Lit's ground ourselves.
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Let's find a nice little comfortable space, all right. Now.
I want us all to take a deep breath in,
and then I want you to let go. I want
you to let out with a sound, and that sound
will be take a deep breath in again through your
nose hold for a moment, now release. I want you
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to imagine yourself completely free, free from the need to
prove yourself, free from the weight of others' expectations, free
from the mass that you want to be accepted. Now
see yourself walking through life with complete authenticity, speaking your truth,
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honoring your needs, and making choices that align with your soul. Now,
in these next few breaths. I want you to breathe
in liberation and breathe out limitation. Now this next breath,
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I want you to breathe in authenticity and breathe out performance.
And it's next breath. Then I want you to breathe
in power and breathe out fear. I want you to
feel this freedom in your body, in your and your breath.
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Then the way that takes up space in the world.
Now I want you to stay with me. I am
free to be myself. I am free to choose my path.
I am free to live my truth and take one
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more deeper thin a freedom. And when you are ready,
open your eyes and step into your liberation. All right,
my beautiful people, if you are new here to the
season and seph of a podcast is something we do
every day Monday through Friday, again just to help ground
us before we get into the top of your hand.
But you know what, my beautiful people, I've been just
thinking a lot this week about the performance we put
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on every day. And I'm talking about the kind of
performance that lights up a stage. That's not what I'm
talking about or create arts. I'm talking about the exhausting
performance of trying to be who we think others want
us to be. You know, for twenty one twenty two years,
I performed the role of a woman with perfect breast,
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A performed confidence that I didn't always feel. I performed
sexuality there sometimes felt disconnected from my authentic self. I
performed success in industries that profited from my willingness to
be something other than my natural self. And y'all, don't
get me wrong, there were parts of that performance that
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served me, that taught me, that helped me to build
the platform that I have today. But there came a
point where that performance became a prison, where maintaining that image.
Maintaining that image became more important than honoring my truth.
You see that migrain on Monday that forced me to
be steeled, that forced me to watch that documentary about
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the truth behind breast and plants. That was my body
saying enough with the performance. It's time for the real show.
So let's get real about the mask that we wear,
because freedom starts with recognizing what we're trying to free
ourselves from. There's the people please her mask, you know,
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that's the one that says yes when we mean know
that bends over backwards to make everyone else comfortable while
we're dying inside. Then there's another mask. There's that perfect
woman mask, you know, the one that says that we
have to look a certain way, act a certain way,
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be a certain size, to be worthy of love and respect,
speak a certain way. You know. I remember being having
that mask on. And then there's that strong woman mask,
you know, that one that says we can't show vulnerability,
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we can't ask for it out, we can't admit when
we're struggling. And then there's that successful woman mask, the
one that says our worth is tied to our achievements,
or our incomes, or our ability to do it all.
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I've worn all of these masks, my beautiful people. I've
worn them so long that sometimes I forgot who I
was underneath them. But here's what I've learned. Masks are very,
very hairy. They're exhausting, and they're completely unnecessary when you
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know your own worth. But then there's come a cost
of the performance, right you see, performance culture. It tells
us that we have to be everything to everyone, and
that we have to look perfect, feel perfect, perfect lives.
But what's the cost of all of this performance? Physical costs?
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Our body paid the price stress, inflammation, illness. These are
often our body ways of saying this isn't sustainable. And
I'm just going to be very honest. I believe right
now this is what my body is going through. In
my mind. I had a plan to record have a
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complete series for July, knowing that I'm preparing my body,
my mind, my spirit for next month explant journey. I
thought I did enough. I thought i'd cut back on
my interviews, were just saying I was just going to
interview here in interview for some things in August and
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September so I can be ahead of the game. But
what I forgot through all of that is that the
innerchange of energy, the interchangeable energy that I am receiving
from these amazing, amazing people that I am speaking to,
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that I'm talking to, and I'm gonna have to sit
and learn to rest. So I'm going to say this now,
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and this is what my heart is telling me, that
this is probably the last Freedom Friday episode for this
month until I return in October. I made the conscious
decision in prayer and meditation at my altar to there
will be only limited episodes the rest of January. I
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mean the rest of July, excuse me August in September,
so you will get episodes every week, but it will
not be every day, just until I return back from
my surgery in August. Because even though I said I
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put my mask down, I took it off my face,
but I was still holding it in my hand, And
as long as I have that mask in my hand,
I cannot be my authentic self. So now let's talk
about the emotional costs. We lose touch with our authentic feelings.
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We become so focused on managing others perceptions of us
as we don't even know how we really feel about things.
And then spiritual cost, we disconnect from our inner wisdom
or our intuition or our souls calling, and we become
strangers to ourselves. And then the last one is the
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relational cost. When we're performing, we're not truly connecting. Others
are relating to our mask and not our authentic selves,
and we wonder why we feel so lonely when we're
even in a crowded room. You know, that's something that
I learned in these past few years, specifically when doing
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this podcast here this season and self Love. It's because
I have been probably the most authentic of myself that
I've been is sharing my journey, sharing my transformation, sharing
the wisdom that I've learned through my life. But also
what I've learned is that through that is that there
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have been people around me that look at that as
a weakness and a vulnerability for My vulnerability for them
is a weakness to them for me, and it's and
when I say this, when I look at it, I'm like, Wow,
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that's what this is. That's what God's showing me. That's
what God is showing me. And I can say this.
I was sitting at my autar today and I know
I'm kind of going off, but I want you to
know the importance of when you take that mask off
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and when you are really being in your authentic self. Truly,
those that are most closest to you do not want
you to be in your authentic self. And why it
because it not only do you see them through their mask,
but it forced this is them to be in a
place of uncomfortability. So it makes you two where they
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have to really look at themselves when they're not ready.
I've learned that in the past few months, especially now,
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and I guess it was like there is a realization
that comes when doing your work, and I think I
said this before early on in with this podcast, is
that you will lose people from around you. They will
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move from you, Some will move in peace, and some
won't want to move. But this is where you realize
that those people are no longer aligned with you, no
matter how long you've been friends, no matter if your
blood relatives. And it's so unfortunate that that happens. But
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when we talk about growing beyond the seasons or being
in that work in that season, and you actually grow
beyond it and you still stuck there, this brings on
the stress in your body. This brings you out of
who you are, your growth, and your authenticity. So again,
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when I shared on Tuesday that this was more than
just an explant an implant removal, this is truly looking
at everything as a whole and knowing that where I
am going after this month as a place that a
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lot of people are not gonna be able to go
with me. But then that's for me. That's a freedom
for me. And like I said before, I apologize because
it got a little awf of what I was talking about,
But but then again it didn't because that's where you
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come to where it's like the turning point, that's when
you know you. That's when I really say stop performing.
As I said, I had that mask in my hand.
It wasn't on my face anymore, but I still was
carrying it around in my hand. I guess for convenience,
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So whatever I needed, I put it back on. But
now that I'm taking off probably one of the most
important parts of my mask, my costume, my impluse, my
implanse has been my costume that I couldn't take off.
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But also when I understood that every day I was
choosing to carry four objects in my body to maintain
an image that was never really me. That was a
part of my turning point. As I'm walking with the
mask in my hand, not on my face, but still
wearing a costume. But let's even go a little further,
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because it wasn't just about the impluse. It was about
all the ways that I was performing instead of being
All the times I said what I thought people wanted
to hear instead of what I really believed, At the
times that I made myself smaller to make others comfortable,
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at the times I chose approval over authenticity. That turning
point came when I said at my alto, asked myself,
who am I when no one is watching? Who am
I when no one is watching? Who am I when
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I'm not trying to be anything for anyone else? Who
am I? In my most natural state? And I know,
I told myself, this is that. Oh, well, you showed
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yourself in your natural locks. People really never see your
natural hair. Oh you're not wearing makeups, so you're good.
So you're all natural. You know, all people seeing you
without your kind you know, people seeing you with your
role born and you're looking like you just you know,
so you're showing your authentic self. But it's more than
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just that. It's so much more than just that. But
what I said at that altar, and I asked myself
all of those questions, I heard a voice of a
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woman who's been waiting patiently for permission to be herself.
So let's talk about what authentic freedom looks like. Real
freedom is it about doing whatever you want without consequences.
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Real freedom is about making choices from your authentic self
rather than from fear, rather than from obligation or the
need for approval. Freedom looks like speaking your truth even
when your voice shakes, setting boundaries that honor your well being,
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making decisions based on your values and not others' expectations.
Embracing your natural body instead of trying to conform to
external standards, following your intuition even when it doesn't make
logical sense, Choosing relationships that see you, that see you
and celebrate your authentic self and not who they have
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seen you as this celebrity or the semi celebrity or
this poem star, but some of that authentically see you
underneath all of that and celebrate you. Freedom looks like
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pursuing work that aligns with your purpose. It looks like
saying no without guilt, then yes without resentment. It looks
like take it up space unapologetically, And it looks like
celebrating your unique gifts instead of trying to be like
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everyone else. Trust me, when I'm speaking today, I am
not being hard on myself, not at all, and it
might not even sounded in my voice, but I am
in celebration of myself right now. But I just want
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you all to to listen to what I've been going
through the past few weeks and just preparing myself for
this transformation and understanding now ONMI. If you really want
to be as free as you say you want to be,
if you wanna continue to be talking to your season
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of self love verse out there and show them your
authentic selfthing, you need to be real and honest and
tell them y'all know what I've been caring around my mask.
I had it on my face, but I still had
it in my hands for inconvenience, for convenience to have
it there, because I knew I still was wearing my costume.
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But I know what I said about you know the
people around you when you become authentic and they don't
want to see that. But then also there's a good
side of that, because authenticity can be very contagious. When
you give yourself permission to be real, you give others
permission to be real too. When I started sharing my
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struggles on this podcast, my anxiety, my health issues, my
journey away from performing, the response was overwhelming, especially from
the ladies and the man let me not forget about
my beautiful men out there, but from the women, especially
this past month. Then, remember I shared with you all
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that my prayer for years, Well, how can I be
of service to women too? Because honestly, majority of my career.
Unbeknownst to me, I have been of service to men,
But how can I be in service to women that
can help them, to inspire them, to encourage them. And
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that's what the message that I got a few weeks ago.
But again, my body was my teacher, and my body
set me down. But the messages that I get from
the women that are reaching out saying thank you for
being honest about the hard stuff and your vulnerability, give
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me permission to be vulnerable too. One of my beautiful
guests that you guys will be able to hear later
this month. We had a nice hour talk before our interview.
We came back the next day, did the interview, then
we had another hour to two talk afterwards. And now
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she's moving forward and creating herself a podcast and a
blog series. In all of that, she said, thank you.
I didn't even know who you were, she said, but
thank you for putting fire in me. Thank you for
reuniting that fire that was there before and I thought
it was gone. This is a beautiful sixty plus year
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old woman. I think she like sixty two, sixty three,
beautiful woman. And she said, I still have time to
be an advocate I still have time to serve others
in my way and my voice, and I say, yes
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you do. I said, yes you do. And so even
though I've been carried around my mask and I still
had on my costume, I was still able to reach
those that wanted to see they authentic selves and has
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given them the courage to do so. And that's what
that ripple effect of authenticity is. It gives you the
freedom to create spaces for other freedom. But there was
another amazing young lady that I had on here not
too long ago, and she has an organism, organization, excuse me,
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a strength stronger than strict that I know, I'm saying
it wrong. Like I said, I got bradon fog right now.
But she'd had loopus. She has loopus. And before she
used to put you know, makeup on to cover up
the scars from you know, some of the outbreaks from
you know, her loopers. But now she now she's on
camera without it. Now she speaks every day to her
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audience just with it. And I think that speaks so
many values of just showing who your real, authentic self is.
But this is my thing. It's so unfortunate that we
we are bashed people that want to be their authentic
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self with no makeup or whatever it is with your
your being is is that it has to be ridic cure.
I remember looking on her page and just seeing you know,
some some mean things on air, and I said, I
just this world really needs to be healed. This world
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really needs to be healed, because this is what we
should want. We should want people being authentic. We should
not want that fake love. I know that's not what
I want in my life. I know that's not what
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I have in my life. So now I celebrate this today,
I celebrate the choices that I'm not gonna be every
day for the next few months. Today will be our
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last Freedom Friday until I come back in October. So
you would get the mindset Mondays this month. You would
get the Winnsdom Wednesdays this month, but that's it. The
next month August there would be a Wednesday, a Wednesdom
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Wednesday shows, and in September will be the same. And
then once my body is healed spiritually, mentally, emotionally, then
I will be back in October and my fullness at
one hundred and maybe one hundred and fifty, but that
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is when I will be back. So I just want
to leave some practical tips for you. Off to freedom again.
This will be our last week of freedom Friday until October.
So how do we move from performance to authenticity? And
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how do we step into the freedom to be ourselves?
Here are some practical stuff. One is the mask inventory.
I want you to take an honest look at the
mask that you wear. When do you put when do
you put them on? And what are you trying to achieve?
What would happen if you took them off? I want
you to write it all down. You can't free yourself
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for what you don't acknowledge. And then the next one too,
the values of clarification. Get clear on your values, not
what you think your value should be, but what actually
matters to you. When you know your values, decision becomes easier.
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You can ask does this choice align with my values?
Or am I making it for someone else's approval? And
if we want to go back to where when we
first started about choosing, what are nine nine top what
are nine top values of who we are? And number
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three is the truth practice. Start telling smaller truths as
practices for bigger ones. So instead of saying I'm fine
when you're not. Try I'm having a hard day. And
instead of agreeing with when you disagree, try I see
it differently. So you build your truth telling muscles for
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the boundary boot camp practice setting boundaries in low stakes situations.
So say no the things that you don't want to do,
ask for what you need, communicate your limits clearly and kindly.
And boundaries are in wilds. There are gates that let
in what serves you and keep out what doesn't. The
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authenticity audit regularly check in with yourself. Am I being
authentic right now? Am I making this choice from love
or fear? Am I honoring my truth? Or am I
performing for approval? The gold is in perfection, but it's awareness.
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And I'm going to tell you this. As I was
sitting here doing this episode, right here, right now, that
is when I made the decision that this will be
the last Freedom Friday until I return. Because not only
did I feel my body, not only did I hear
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my body and see my body, But that is when
I was really realizing, like you really walking around with
that mask, you really out here performing because you know
right now your body you tired. You need to be
resting up for this surgery. Yesterday, I went to the
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doctor and just was just one moment I listened to.
I went to the doctor and I, you know, I
got all the pre opt test, to the e KG,
the X ray, you know, the blood all of all
of those things, and I remember sitting there and they
was taking my blood pressure. Now, let me share with
you for the past the past year two years that
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I've been going back and forth to the doctor about
my migraines, about my you know, my pains and stuff
like that, my blood pressure has been very high to
where they are actually diagnosed me as being high potential
borderline high blood pressure. And it wanted to give me
some methods in and I said, no, I'm gonna do
the herbal way. But I haven't been taking any herbs,
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as I shared yesterday, because I'm preparing my body for
this surgery, and on the to do and not to
do lists, it is advised to you not to take
certain herbs, not to take you know, certain medications and
stuff like that. And so I want to go in
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to wing my body off of these things so I
can have the best success in my in my surgery.
But knowing that those herbs helped me to be able
to function daily. So I'm pushing my body more to
the limit and I don't have the things I'm not
I don't have the things that will help me to
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push forward. And so when I'm sitting here talking about
this being a authenticity authentic, I had a like, Okay,
today will be your last day of freedom Friday, because
you literally pulled yourself out of bed. Can you hear
your voice? I sound like a female version of very White.
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But then I also remember that my goal is in perfection.
It's awareness, and I'm very aware of who I am
and I've been so far. I've worked so far, did
so much work to go backwards. And I'm gonna share
another thing with you. Yesterday, before my doctor's appointment, I
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did pre recording with doctor Will. And throughout that whole time,
I was going through these coughing spells, and you all
would hear it. In the very last episode, in the
very last episode for my set, and we had the pause,
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and I remember, and I want to give this to
my still friend doctor Will. He said, so you, he said,
so you just gonna stop listening to your body. We
just talked about that, and you know, I couldn't do
nothing but just look like, wow, you know he is
so true. We just talked about this. I talk about
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this all the time, like you didn't get enough. We'll
just you know. And we cut that short. We cut
that last episode short, and he said, I know you good,
my still friend, he said, I know you good, he said,
but I want you to really look and I want
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you to take care of your body. I want to
take care of you. I know you out there want
to take care of everybody else, but I want you
to remember what you say and what your teachings are.
And my still friend, what he ye was he he
put that mirror right in front of my face and
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so I had to look at it. That was that
that check for me. And I thank him for him. Actually,
I think after I get out for here, I'm gonna
text him and say thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (37:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:26):
And then my last we were just talking about the
support system shift. I just talked to one amazing person. Doctor.
Will surround yourself with people who love your authentic self,
not for your performance. These are the people who celebrate
your growth, who aren't threatened by your changes, who encourage
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you to be real even when it's messy. So doctor
will thank you, my husband thank you. My mother made
me some great tea yesterday. And if anybody is new
here listening, my mother has dimension. But she saw her
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baby down even after I came back from doctor, and
she said, what you need and it took her a
minute to get everything down there. I told her my
husband was right next to her and he was trying
to help, and she would not let him help. All
I kept seeing would taste like she won't let me help.
I said, you have to let her do it. And
when she brought it up to me, y'all, I felt
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nothing but love in that cup of tea as she
cut the ginger. I can feel it, y'all, the lemon.
It was so potent with my mother's love in there. Man.
So when you say about that support system shift, that's
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what that is. That's what that is. All right, my
beautiful people. I'm gonna cut this short, but as always,
this month, we'll be doing another a closing meditation, all right.
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So what I want you all to do right now
is to close your eyes and get into a nice
comfortable position. All right.
Speaker 4 (39:29):
Now.
Speaker 2 (39:29):
I want you to take a deep breath in, and
I want you to feel yourself in this moment exactly
as you are.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
Now.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Imagine shedding every mask, every performance, every way that if
you try to be someone other than yourself, see them
falling away like old clothes that no longer fits. Feel
the likeness, the relief, the spaciousness of being completely yourself.
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This is your natural state. This is who you were
before the world told you who to be. Now see
yourself moving through life from this place of authenticity. See
yourself speaking your truth, honoring your needs and celebrating your uniqueness.
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Feel the peace that comes from alignment, from living in
integrity with your values, from being the same person in
private that you are in propor. This is freedom, This
is your birthright. This is what awakes on you on
the other side of that courage that we talk about.
(40:56):
So I want you to say, with me, are your
free to be myself? I choose authenticity over approval, and
I trust that I am enough exactly as I am.
They'll take one more deep breath in and when you
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are already, open your eyes and step into this liberated moment.
Right here, I write my beautiful people again that we
had we explored, honoring our bodies, wisdom, listening to our
inner voice, embracing our self worth and becoming students of
our own bodies and now claiming our freedom to live authentically.
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Next week we will continue preparing me for our transformation
series where we would have Mindset Monday with doctor Will
and then we have Wisdom Wins that Will we have
an amazing guest to share her story on this transformational journey.
I believe I said all to you all on what
exactly what was going on with my body and why
I choose too, But I think it's time that you
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hear other voices right now, and I'm going to remove
myself from those other days. There will be no Transfer Tuesday,
no Threshold Thursday, or no Freedom Friday for the next
few weeks in the next few months. So again I
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pray that you all I having an amazing, amazing weekend.
But also I want you to know that I truly
want to celebrate on how far that you off come.
I want you to celebrate the courage to listen to
your bodies, to celebrate your willingness to trust your ill
inner knowing, and to celebrate your commitment to authenticity when
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it's scary. And I celebrate myself right now I celebrate
myself right now because I'm gonna share something else with you.
I thought about it if I'm not doing it every day,
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but I lose my placing and my rankings, and I
thought that was so shallow of me. Like girl, Really,
I had to check myself because that was outside validation.
You are more important than that. You know that. But again,
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this is me giving you my real route and uncut
of it all, my authentic self. I write, my beautiful people,
I just want you to know that you are not
just preparing for transformation, that you are transformation. So every
choice you make from love instead of fear, every truth
you speak, every boundary that you set, every moment that
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you choose yourself, that is transformation. I love you, I
see you, and I'm honored to walk this past a
free with you. Love. Have a beautiful, beautiful weekend. All right,
have a good one.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering
and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember,
embracing self love is a continuous journey and.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
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Speaker 1 (44:20):
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Speaker 1 (44:33):
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Email us at Season usseelf Love at gmail dot com
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life has to offer you.
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