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August 6, 2025 38 mins
 Join host Nyomi Banks for this powerful Wisdom Wednesday episode featuring the inspiring Aneta Waclaw, writer, motivational speaker, and host of "Nourish Inside Out" podcast. After surviving a toxic marriage in her early twenties, Aneta has dedicated her life to helping others rebuild after heartbreak, discover their worth, and heal through emotional resilience.

🎯 What You'll Discover:
 • How childhood abandonment fears create toxic relationship patterns
 • Why moving outside your comfort zone accelerates authentic self-discovery
 • Practical tools for reprogramming your mind after emotional abuse
 • The crucial role boundaries play in protecting your peace
 • How to transform setbacks into stepping stones for growth

💫 Aneta's Transformation Story: Born in Chicago to immigrant parents, Aneta married a narcissist at 21 despite reading self-help books and knowing the relationship was toxic from day one. After three years of gaslighting, manipulation, and love bombing, she found the courage at 23 to walk away and rebuild her life.

🌍 The Bold Move: Aneta courageously moved to Mexico City without knowing the language or anyone there - motivated simply by hearing "the tacos were good." This leap taught her that unfamiliar environments shift you from victim mentality to solution-focused thinking.

💎 Defining Emotional Resilience: "Emotional resilience means not being the victim of your story. Instead of asking 'Why is this happening to me?' ask 'What did I ask for? What am I trying to improve?'"

🔥 Powerful Quotes & Wisdom:
  • "Our delays are our protection" - setbacks often shield us from unseen dangers
  • "Think of a slingshot - the more setbacks you face, the further you'll soar when released"
  • "We're settling for one rose when God wants to give us a garden"
  • "When the world tries to make you cold, build thick skin to protect your pure heart"
  • "Diamonds are made under pressure - if you're being crushed, you're in the best position for growth"
🛠️ Practical Healing Tools:
  1. Daily Affirmations: Write "I am" statements on post-it notes for your mirror
  2. Gratitude Practice: Find good in every situation, even traffic jams
  3. Intentional Living: Do things with purpose - walk without phones, savor coffee
  4. Boundary Setting: Protect your peace, not to hurt others but preserve energy
📞 Connect with Aneta:
  • Instagram: @aneta.waclaw
  • Podcast: "Nourish Inside Out" on all platforms
  • Newsletter: Substack at "Nourished Inside Out"
#️⃣ Hashtags: #WisdomWednesday #AnetaWaclaw #EmotionalResilience #ToxicRelationshipRecovery #NourishInsideOut #HealingJourney #BoundariesMatter #SelfLoveJourney #ChicagoStrong #InsideOutHealing #SetbackToComeBack #AuthenticLiving #SeasonOfSelfLove Perfect for anyone recovering from toxic relationships, learning to set boundaries, or ready to transform setbacks into comebacks through emotional resilience. 

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Season and Self Love podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
I am your host, Namibanks, and I.

Speaker 3 (00:05):
Am thrilled to have you joined me on this transformative journey.

Speaker 4 (00:10):
You see, every day we dive into a powerful conversation
about self discovery, healing and empowerment. This podcast is brought
to you by ax Naomi and Elevate Me Self Discovery
what we believe that loving yourself is the first step
to live in a fulfilling life. You can expect insightful discussions,
practical tips, and inspiring stories. Plus we're occasionally welcome special

(00:34):
guests who will.

Speaker 1 (00:35):
Share their unique perspectives on self love and personal growth.
So get comfy, grab your favorite beverage, and let's embark
on this journey together. Because it's time to embrace the
beautiful person that you are. So let's elevate our lives
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Speaker 5 (00:55):
Now, let's get started, all right, my beautiful people, will
welcome back to another episode of this Season and Self Love,
where we would claim our stories and we nurture our
growth and we celebrate the beauty of just becoming.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
I'm your host now, I me Banks, and today is
Wisdom Wednesday, and this year we are on a powerful
journey I like to call the Year of the Rebirth.
This month, we're focusing on the most transformative tubes in
your self love toolbox, and that's emotional resilience. And today
our conversation is one that I believe that you will
resonate with deeply. Our guest is the powerful and inspiring

(01:31):
Annetta Wildcat. Anetta is a writer, a motivational speaker, and
a host of the podcast Nourished inside Out. After surviving
a toxic marriage at a young age, she's dedicated her
life to helping others rebuild after heartbreak and rescover their
worth and hear through emotional resilience. So before we jump in,

(01:51):
I want to you all to remember to download the
Year the Rebirth work Book Book two for August, which
includes our journal promt in informations in the align perfectly
with this month's series. But before we bring a needed
to the stage, let's sicker could break right it? Shagurty
got his number, brings hire on this season and stuff
on the podcast I'm Gonna be right back.

Speaker 6 (02:13):
Washington wells into two focuses on healing. Always for me,
if I look good, then I feel good. If I
feel good, then I share the good. If I share
the good, then I celebrate the good. If I celebrate
the good, then I live the good. So I can
be paid to be my greatest. But I have to
learn the good to be the good.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
So what does it take to be the greatest.

Speaker 6 (02:36):
It's as simple as a free fifteen minute consultation. Be
kind to yourself and you'll always.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
All right, my beautiful people will welcome back. We have
missed Anita with us. How are you?

Speaker 7 (02:52):
I'm very well. Thank you for having me today, Naomi.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
Yes, I love it that we have too, Shytown. Yes,
it's good. I've yet to you my first shot town.

Speaker 7 (03:05):
Yes, I love that. I love how you stay shine Town,
and that's how you know you're truly from there.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yes, yes, So what I want to do is before
we truly get into your topic today, I want to
take a nice quick grounded meditation and I guide it
and just come back and then we are full flowing
once we come back. All right, sure, all right, so listeners,
you know what we do. If you can just close
your eyes at this moment right now, just prepare yourself

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for a nice guided meditation.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, I want to close your eyes. I'm inhale deeply
through your nose, full count of four and hold one three.
Now I excel slowly through your mouth, full count of six, one, two, three, four,

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five six. I want to fill your body, softened with
each breath the goal of any tension, and say silently
to yourself, I am safe, I am enough, I am healing.

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Now take one more teap breath then now gently return
to the space around you, and when you are ready,
gently open your eyes.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
All right, my beautiful people will welcome back. This is
something we do every day Monday through Friday, just to
help ground us before we get into this topic hand.
So I thank you for sharing.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
This mom with me.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
Anita again, welcome to the season and self love. Thank you.
I want to start by just thank you for your bravery.
I read part of your story and your willingness to
just share your truth. Can you take us back to
your early twenties. You married a narcissist at twenty one.

(05:10):
What was that experience like and what ultimately led you
to walk away?

Speaker 7 (05:17):
Yeah, so I'll just take you back on a little
journey of where I was at in my early twenties.
So I grew up in a household where my parents
integrated from another country to America, and I was growing
up in like a cultural kind of household and that
was great, but there were certain things that we just

(05:37):
weren't taught, and that was communication and emotional stability and
how to regulate your emotions. So I really struggled through
that as growing up and going to school. And then
when I got older, I think about eighteen seventeen to eighteen,
I started listening to podcasts on personal development. I started
reading more self help books, and I felt like I

(05:59):
was growing and I felt like I was more stable
in certain areas, and I felt like I was ready
for a relationship based on the work that I was doing.
And I always say when you're when you ask for something,
it doesn't come to you on a bold platter, It
actually comes to you in the form of challenges. So

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for me, I was in my little safe space talking
to God and I was like, God, I want to
be more emotionally stable and more emotionally mature. He was like,
are you sure? Are you ready? I was like, yeah,
I'm ready. So then I was presented with my now
ex husbands, but he literally broke me down in every

(06:40):
single area that I couldn't ever imagine, like there was
constant gas lighting, constant manipulation, constant love bombing, all of
those things and thence and that really broke me down
into pieces. But what I realized in the middle of
the relationship was that he was my person to learn

(07:04):
my lessons and my person to learn how to pick
myself back up. So when I was twenty one, we
ended up hitting married. I knew at the time I
shouldn't be doing this and this is not a good idea,
but I'm gonna do it anyway, and I did, and
it didn't make anything better, Like shit just kept hitting
the fan and we kept bumping heads. So then when

(07:26):
I was twenty three, I finally had the courage to
say enough is enough and I deserve better than this.
So that's when I decided to walk away. Was not
until three years later, actually.

Speaker 2 (07:41):
So you realized that twenty three, and then you didn't
leave until you were twenty six.

Speaker 7 (07:46):
No, So I left when I was twenty three, Like
I knew the relationship was bad since the day I
met him, That's the thing. But I can say now
that I didn't have the courage to leave when I
knew I should have isn't strong enough, and I wasn't
emotionally prepared to deal with all of that baggage. Because

(08:08):
essentially what I did is I took my wounds and
my hurts and I brought it into the relationship thinking
they were going to get fixed. And he did the
same thing. He brought his wounds and his traumas thinking
that I was going to fix them, and we just
kept bumping heads instead of actually making things work.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah, you know, I want to ask you because you
said you had started to listen to podcasts and Rea
self help books and all of those things, and you
would think if you started at such a young age
as you were, that, Okay, now I got it together
when I get there. And I love when you say,
be careful what you ask, when you ask, when you're
thinking that you're getting in what you get. These are

(08:47):
the challenges that you get to see if you truly
are if you truly are ready for these moments. And
I love that you shared that. So you know, with
the level of emotion a mental pressure that we have
at such a young age, it's truly undeniable. It's unimaginable.
I know, But how did those years shape you to

(09:09):
understand of trauma, fear, and identity.

Speaker 7 (09:15):
You know, I don't think that in order to create
trauma as a child that has to be some big
traumatic experience. I think it can start something as subtle.
For example, I actually learned this over the weekend about myself,
was that you know, if your parents are worth constantly working,

(09:36):
and let's say you grew up with a nanny or
a friend or a family member that's helping them watch
you while your parents are at work, that can actually
start a form of trauma because if you think about
it at such a young age, let's stay five years old,
you say I love you to this person who's your parent,

(09:57):
they say it back, and then you watch them go
to work all day. And that's what I did, was
I saw my parents work really hard to provide for
my brother and I and our family. But what I
didn't realize is that that was actually building small bits
of trauma. Because my dad would travel a lot for
work and he would say I love you, I'll see

(10:18):
you when I get back. And I think that started
to build a fear of abandonment into me. So when
I got older and I got into this relationship, I
attached to him like a leech. I was so fearful
of him leaving me that it turned everything upside down
as well. So I can't blame sit here and blame him.

(10:39):
I don't blame him because it was both of our
fault for the unhealthiness and the relationship.

Speaker 2 (10:45):
Yeah, yeah, you know I love When you were saying it,
I said, yeah, an abandonment. You know, my story kind
of mirrors yours a little bit, with you know, my mom,
my parents working very hard and not truly as a child,
we don't understand that those other things that need to
be done. We just know that once you say I
love you, then you go away and like, okay, if
you love me so much, why aren't you here with

(11:08):
me at this moment? And we don't understand those things
with intel it carries over into our adulthood. What I
love about is that you did recognize it so quickly,
even though it was three years from twenty one to
twenty three of you all being married. At least you
did recognize it. Actually, when I think about it now,

(11:29):
listening to those podcasts and that stulf help actually help
you to really like, Okay, this doesn't feel right. It
doesn't I don't want to feel this way anymore. This
is something that I don't want to do. So that
for you has been an incredible evolution from you, but
now from being a ballet dancer. I read that to
a hairstylist, to now our author and a coach. What

(11:53):
was your turning point for you? For each one of
those moments.

Speaker 7 (12:00):
I always say, if you have a dream inside of you,
go chase it so that your fullest potential. You're never
too young and you're never too inexperienced to chase your
dreams because it's your dream. For a reason, I always
had dreams of being a professional dancer. I did that
for a little bit after high school and then forever

(12:20):
thankful for it because it built resilience and it built
discipline and to me and then actually later on I
went to cosmotology school to be a hairstylist. But part
of me going to cosmotology school it reflects back on
my childhood because I didn't like my image. I didn't

(12:41):
know what to do with my hair and my makeup.
I'm from the ballet studio. They teach you how to
do it, and you don't want to be walking in
public like that, and that's all I knew so. Also,
I started cosmetology school when I was in a relationship
with my ex husband, and he would also knock me down,
why do you look like this? Why do you dress

(13:01):
like that? Why is your hair that color? And that
also made me insecure. So I went to school to
learn how to do my hair and makeup because I
wanted to help others in those areas that they struggle.
One of the most rewarding things about being a hairstylist
is having somebody sit in your chair insecure, and when

(13:23):
they leave your chair they can look at themselves in
the mirror and say, I feel beautiful. And that is
such a rewarding part of the job. And I always
knew that I loved educating because that's what actually created
my loyal clientele. When I was at the salon is,
I educated them on hair products, how to do their

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hair at home, how to blow dry, simple things like
that that nobody tosses around for free. And I knew
I wanted to educate more people based on the challenges
that I've overcome, and the best way I could do
it is through writing and podcasting.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
Thank you for sharing that. I know that you you
also made a very courageous decision to move to another country.
Can you share how stepping outside of your comfort zone
has helped you to discover your authentic self? To move there,
that's a big step.

Speaker 3 (14:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (14:18):
Yeah, So I love Chicago born and raised. You know,
I have that Chicago flag in my living room at
my old apartment. It's not kind of going anywhere. But
I think one of the biggest blessings when you're going
through tough times is try to get away from your
hometown for a little bit. It doesn't have to be forever,

(14:38):
but when you go to a new place where it's unfamiliar,
you no longer look at your challenges from the perspective of,
oh my god, this happened to me, and you're no
longer in the victim mentality. You immediately switched to where
am I going to do laundry? Where am I going
to be at groceries? Is there a train? Is there
a bike? How do I get around? Where do I live?

(15:01):
You no longer make your problems so big and put
them on the pedestal, and you realize that they're part
of who you are and there were to help shape you.
And I think this might sound crazy, but I've never
I moved to Mexico City and I've never been here before.
I didn't know the language, I didn't know anybody. I

(15:21):
just heard the tacos were good. That is my motivation,
and it's really a fulfilling thing because you learn new
things about yourself and you learn that you are strong
and that you are capable. Because I always say, if

(15:42):
it works out, it's God's direction. If it doesn't work out,
it's his resurrection to something better. And when you have
peace in that you won't have you'll feel more content
stepping outside of your comfort zone.

Speaker 3 (15:55):
Beautiful, I love that.

Speaker 2 (15:56):
I love that same where you just said is about
God redirection. Yes, yeah, I love that.

Speaker 3 (16:05):
Thank you for that.

Speaker 2 (16:06):
You know, we often speak about confidence, about being an
inside job. I love that. What are some of the
innershifts that you had to make to reclaim your power?

Speaker 7 (16:21):
I had to learn to fall in love with myself again.
I had to find what I like to do and
fall in love with who I am. Because nobody is
responsible for my happiness and nobody is responsible for keeping
me happy. Somebody can add to my happiness, but if
I'm not happy with myself, how can somebody else be

(16:44):
happy with me. One of the biggest actionable steps that
I have taken is looking myself in the mirror and
saying I love you. It's such a foreign concept sometimes,
but why you tell your you love them? You tell
a family member you love them, Why don't you tell
yourself you love yourself? That's the biggest eye opener and

(17:08):
like helps open up your perspective.

Speaker 2 (17:12):
Yeah, I love that. That's what self love the season
and self love is all about, is falling in love
with yourself, having that intimate relationship with yourself. And I
don't think enough of us do that. I don't think
we understand what that truly means. So I thank you
for sharing that. So let's talk about emotional resilience right now.
You know, for me, it feels like an elusive content,

(17:35):
like we don't know that, you know, how do you
define it in your own words?

Speaker 7 (17:41):
Emotional resilience to me means not being the victim of
your story. It's so easy to say, why is this
happening to me? Why is this person being a jerk
to me? But sometimes you have to take a step
back and evaluate what did I ask for? What am
I trying to improve? If you ask for more peace.
Guess what you're going to be tested with something that's

(18:04):
going to try to get you away from peace. Like
if you're in traffic and you wanted more peace, you
better say thank you God for this traffic, because you
also don't know what you're being protected from as well,
you know. I this is actually a really crazy story,
but I remember my mom, my parents, and I and

(18:25):
my brother, and we lived in the suburbs of Chicago
and my mom works in the city, and my brother.
She said that there was so much traffic right as
she was getting off the highway, and it was not normal.
It was like maybe two or three hours on her
I fifty five, you know, I fifty five. And she
said that when she got home, she turned on the

(18:47):
news and there was actually a shooting on the highway
and because she was able to skip out on that
traffic and she was getting off the highway, she was
protected from that. So if you're in or whoever was
probably way down they would a good thing would be

(19:08):
the same. I'm thankful for this traffic because you're being
protected from what's ahead. And I think a lot of
times we need to understand that our delays, our protection
and just really have peace in that because you're always
being protected and you need to keep that in mind
that a delay is not to make you feel bad.

(19:32):
A delay is to protect you from what's ahead.

Speaker 2 (19:36):
I love what you just said, and I'm going to
repeat because I know my listeners probably missed that. You said,
our delays is our protection. Yes, Yeah, our delays is
our protection. That's very profound. You need to do a
T shirt or look before I do, because that is Yeah,

(20:01):
well that just stood out to me. Yes, our delays
are our protection, and I believe that's a message. That's
a message from me right now in this moment as
we interviewing. So I thank you.

Speaker 3 (20:12):
For that one.

Speaker 2 (20:13):
I thank you now. In your coaching work, in your podcast,
you talk about reprogramming your mind. Can you give our
listeners a few practical tools that have helped you personally
and professionally.

Speaker 7 (20:27):
So the number one thing is positive affirmations. That is
something that helps me tremendously. You know, I had a
dance teacher one time and she said, in order to
start getting more positive results, you have to start speaking
more positive And I remember she recommends it to get
a step of post it notes and write one I
am affirmation every day and stick it on your bathroom mirror,

(20:50):
so then every day you would add one and you
would see that when you wake up before you go
to a bed. And that's something that really helps me.
And then starting to spe existence and what you want
and gratitude journaling, because if you don't know what you want,
then how are you going to achieve it? And it's
easier said than done, but it starts with finding the

(21:12):
good in every situation. I can sit here and tell
you and be upset and angry. Oh man, my ex
husband beat the shit out of me last week or
he said this mean thing to me because he did
all the time. But instead I took those situations and
I looked at them and stuck the stones to build myself.

(21:34):
Every time he yelled at me, I said, it's okay.
I didn't argue back. I said, this is teaching me patients,
This is teaching me how to stabilize my emotions. Every
time he left me at home crying every weekend, this
is me building myself back up, but this time without him.
And I have a lot of compassion for people who

(21:56):
don't leave unhealthy relationships. It's not over night and every
time somebody tries to knock you down, look at it
as an opportunity to stand back up at this time
stronger without them.

Speaker 3 (22:11):
Yeah, beautiful, thank you.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
What role does boundaries playing? And we're building after a
toxic relationship?

Speaker 8 (22:22):
I never heard the word until after my divorce. The
boundaries are huge.

Speaker 9 (22:33):
I never heard that word until after my divorce because
after I left, I ended up traveling for a little
bit and I met I made a friend abroad and
he was like, bro, and da you need boundaries.

Speaker 10 (22:46):
I was like, what is that chatting me to you?
What is the boundaries made? And I say a lot
of times.

Speaker 7 (23:00):
People can look at boundaries though from the victim perspective,
like you're being mean, Why aren't you doing this? Why
aren't you showing us to this event? Why aren't you
texting back as fast? But what the true purpose of
boundaries is is that they're to protect your peace and
they're not to hurt other people. So if somebody doesn't
understand why you don't go out on Fridays anymore, then

(23:23):
maybe they're not worth hanging around with us much. If
somebody doesn't understand your boundaries, then maybe you should reevaluate
how much value they're adding to your life, because if
they're not adding value and vice versa, then it's okay
to move on as well.

Speaker 2 (23:41):
Nice, thank you, thank you for that. So tell us
about your podcast. I love the title Nourish inside Out.
How do you hope it serves women and who are
in the middle of healing themselves?

Speaker 7 (23:57):
Basically, my goal is nourished and said has always been
to give people the education that I once needed during
really challenging times. You know, I lacked so many things,
from emotional stability, awareness, boundaries, peace to all of it.
And I was always looking for a community, and I
was always looking for podcasts on self nourishment and how

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to overcome those challenges and those setbacks. So all I
really want to do is share my education with others.
And by doing that, I like to interview people who
are either psychologists, therapists, nutritionists, because it all starts within you.
What are you putting in yourself? What are your thoughts?

(24:42):
Your food? How much sleep are you getting. I worked
at the salon for four or five years. The things
that I had heard behind the chair, I'm like, people's skills,
where are they? You know? But everybody always talks about
the outside side, appearance at the salon, your hair, your nails,

(25:03):
your eyelashes, your botox. Why is nobody talking to you
about what you're telling yourself? Why is nobody talking to
you or teaching you how to have more professional conversations
with your clients? How do you like? Those are such
important things? So that's the main purpose of Nourished inside Out.

Speaker 2 (25:25):
I love the name, I love the concept, and why
I say that is because I was listening to well,
actually it actually started most of my journey, my real
journey of changing my mindset. I read a book called

(25:48):
change your Para, Doesn't Change Your Life by Bob Proctor,
and in one of his teachings, he talked about going
from the inside out. We always talk about the outside in,
but we never talk about the inside out. And with
you doing that, could you just share some steps on

(26:11):
how our listeners can practice two or three steps they
can practice up coming from the inside out.

Speaker 7 (26:21):
Yeah. Something that has helped me is in the past
I would be looking for fulfillment in people, places, and things,
and I learned that that's not the way to go.
So I do really do things with intention. If I'm
gonna go for a walk, I try not to be
on my phone, and I try to enjoy the fresh air.

(26:43):
I try to enjoy the scenery. I like to go
get myself my favorite cup of coffee at a bakery
or at a cafe and express gratitude. Because gratitude goes
such a long way. I can't express it enough, and
sometimes people will say, I don't know what to be
grateful for. Be grateful for the sun shining. I'm from Chicago.

(27:05):
You're from Chicago. We don't get that much sun. And
be thankful that the birds are singing today. That's something
that can uplift you. And when you start showing gratitude
for all of these little things, it's gonna bring more
abundance to you, and it's going to give you a
more fresh perspective on life. So take time to be mindful.

(27:28):
You know, it's so important to control those unconscious thoughts
because a lot of times we're always listening to something music,
someone talking, a podcast. Take that time, go get your
favorite cup of coffee, spend intentional time with yourself and

(27:48):
start noticing the unconscious thoughts and try to find the
good in them.

Speaker 3 (27:54):
Yeah, thank you for sharing it.

Speaker 2 (27:56):
The self reflection, all of that because everything. All of
that is vital. Everything that you.

Speaker 3 (28:00):
Sit is vital.

Speaker 2 (28:01):
Right, So now I have a few questions from you
that I predate from the audience. So here's one. How
do you begin to trust again after being betrayed by
someone else?

Speaker 7 (28:13):
When somebody betrays you, it's not a reflection of you,
it's a reflection of them. And when you understand that,
that's when you get grace and compassion for them. I
can sit here and tell you all of the shitty
things my ex husband did, simmy my ex best friend.
But at the end of the day, all you know
is all you know. So if that person has not

(28:35):
done the inner work, you can't take it personal because
all they know is all they know.

Speaker 3 (28:41):
Beautiful, beautiful.

Speaker 2 (28:43):
What's the first step to regaining regaining your self worth
at the years of emotional abuse?

Speaker 7 (28:52):
Understand that if you're facing adversity and you're facing challenges,
it's because there's a greater purpose inside of you. And
never take a personal when you get faced with the setback,
think about a sling shot or a bow and arrow.
You get a set back, you get pulled back, a setback,
pulled back, setback, one more time, pulled back, and the

(29:15):
more setbacks you face, you're actually in a good spot
because when it's time to move forward, you're gonna go
so far. So never take your setbacks personal. They're preparing
you to be the person you're called to be. I
love that.

Speaker 2 (29:31):
I love that sling shot.

Speaker 4 (29:34):
I love that.

Speaker 1 (29:37):
That is great.

Speaker 2 (29:38):
I love that. I'm gonna have to sit with that
one for a second.

Speaker 7 (29:43):
Takes go get your favorite cup of coffee and love
and process. Yeah, you know that one.

Speaker 2 (29:48):
That's a good one because we really don't think about that.
And even what's that saying that said that a setback
is for a great comeback, but just you putting it
as a sling shotting you right, Because the more you
gotta set back, the more you pull back, the more
you pull back, and when it's released and ready.

Speaker 7 (30:05):
You're Yeah, when it's time, it's like when it's time
for you to win. Nobody can stop you from winning
when it's your time. A lot of times we're settling
for that one rose, But the reality is God wants
to give us a garden, and the garden takes longer
to bloom than one rose, So be patient. Every setback

(30:28):
is leading you to your garden.

Speaker 2 (30:30):
Beautiful, I love that you you you you dropping some
gems today.

Speaker 3 (30:38):
You're dropping some gems today.

Speaker 1 (30:41):
You know.

Speaker 2 (30:42):
I want to thank you for your transparency. I really
do your fire, just your grace. You know you are
so you said there's some This is when I when
I see you and I close my eyes, I just
see a nice little light right here at the heart.

Speaker 7 (31:00):
Thank you. I hear that.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
Yeah, you can.

Speaker 7 (31:05):
I add to that. I was thinking about this the
other day as well as when the world tries to
make you cold, don't allow it to allow the coldness
of the world give you the opportunity to build thick
skin to protect at your pure heart. Because we don't
have a pure heart. So allow the world to give
you the opportunity to build thick skin because you have

(31:28):
a pure heart to protect.

Speaker 2 (31:29):
Wow, let me tell you something. My prayer this morning,
actually right before we talk was about praying for thick skin.

Speaker 7 (31:39):
I kid you not. And we always you're at the
right place at the right time. We both are. Everybody is.
You just have to believe that. And that makes my
heart so full because I always in my prayer every morning,
I'm like God guid our hearts, got our conversations align
us with the people that need to hear us because

(32:00):
we're all a team. It takes a village to build.
Sometimes you're never alone.

Speaker 2 (32:06):
Yeah, you know, I thank you. I thank you. As
we come to the near of this episode, I really believe,
just even in this month of speaking all emotional resilience,
this is something that our society needs at this time
because I think we kind of overlook what compassion or

(32:30):
empathy for others look like. We just having grace for others,
and even in situations that being in an abusive relationship
or something just traumatic, is that we don't take the
time to really understand like, wow, they're treating me not

(32:50):
because of who I am, but because of what they've
been through.

Speaker 1 (32:54):
You know.

Speaker 2 (32:54):
So when we start to understand that we all have
a story when we come together, you know, it's just
up to us to understand, Okay, I know what my
story is, So if my story was this way and
also understanding our mirroring of one another, you know, and
once we able to learn and understand that, then I

(33:16):
truly believe that we can truly be more emotional with
each other and be more compassionate to understand like, Okay,
it ain't about me, this is really not about me,
but it's about that person. And I do have the
choice to be able to go and deal with it
or now I have the tools to set boundaries.

Speaker 7 (33:36):
So yeah, it's never anything that you did, because a
lot of times as people will just take how they
feel about themselves and project it unto you. And I
had to learn that the hard way. But I wouldn't
change it for the world. And that's a beautiful thing.
So also when it comes to gratitude, be thankful for

(33:57):
your challenges. They're beautifully what for you.

Speaker 2 (34:02):
They are lessons for teachable moments. They truly are there
lessons for teachable moments. Those are tools. And I do
I sit now and like thank you, thank you for everything,
both good, bad and whatever. I thank you for it
because I see and it applies me. It was probably

(34:22):
about six months ago I remember speaking and talking about
whatever situation that you're going through right now, trust and
believe you've already been through it. You've already been through it.
So if you can take yourself back to that moment
you know you got through, so you know you can
get through this, go back and get that too, because
you've forgotten what I too is go get it and

(34:43):
it will help you to get forward in life. And
I had gotten a few emails, was like thank you,
because I never they never really thought about it. They
think about No, I'm going through this right now. Yeah,
but then you dropped another gym. Today you dropped another one,
and that's about the delay. I'm so serious. You dropped

(35:03):
another one about the delay, the delay being a protector.
So we want to move so quickly so many times.
Oh what we think our flow is, and sometimes our
flow is not the flow most of the time, most
of the time is God's flow.

Speaker 7 (35:20):
Sometimes God destroys your plans before your plans destroy you.
That's so that's such a valid thing.

Speaker 10 (35:27):
You know.

Speaker 7 (35:28):
I thought I loved being a hairstylist. I truly did.
But at the same time, I took this last year
away from the salon to step back and reevaluate who
I am and what I want to do. And that's
when I started writing, when I go back to the
hair salon, we'll see in the future like it's still

(35:48):
a passion of mine. But at the same time, it's
okay to take a step away from what you enjoy
and to reevaluate, because I'll leave you with this. Diamonds
are made under pressure, are crushed to make oil. If
you're under pressure or if you're being crushed right now
by life, you're in the best position for growth. So
be thankful because having a life full of ups and

(36:10):
downs is better than just the linear life going like this.
The linear life like this won't get you anywhere, but
our life like this. Guess what, You're learning and you're growing,
and you're learning and you're growing, and eventually you're going
to go up.

Speaker 2 (36:22):
Beautiful, Beautiful, said beautiful beautiful. Thank you again, Thank you
again for just being here for everyone that's listening. You
can find I needed in her podcast Nurse Inside Out
on all major platforms and connect with her through her
socials and what's your socials again, because we didn't accept

(36:43):
what's your socials?

Speaker 7 (36:44):
Yeah? So my Instagram is Anna do Walk Claw and
then I write on substack, so I have a weekly
newsletter and I write my blog there at Nourished inside
Out and then my podcast Nourished Inside Out on Apple, Spotify, YouTube,
et cetera.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
Beautiful, Beautiful Listen listeners. If this episode has resonated with you,
share with someone, Share with a friend, a loved one,
and leave a review, tag us on Instagram and let
us keep this conversation going so till next time.

Speaker 7 (37:15):
Thank you so much, Naomi, It's been a pleasure.

Speaker 2 (37:18):
Yes, thank you, it had it. I love it. This
is my Shytown girl over here.

Speaker 7 (37:25):
You remember, healing is.

Speaker 2 (37:27):
Not a destination, It is a sacred return to yourself.
Have an amazing and amazing day.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering
and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast.
Remember embracing self love. It's a continuous journey and we're
so glad to have you with us. So if you
enjoy it today's episode, please leave us a review and
don't forget to join our community on Facebook at Season

(37:53):
and Self Love connect with like minded individuals who are
also on their self love journey. Do you have any
questions or topics that you'd like for us to explore.
We love to hear from you.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
Email us at Season Ourself Love at gmail dot com
and let your.

Speaker 3 (38:09):
Voice be heard. So until the next time, take a
moment for yourself today and remember you are worthy of love, joy,
and all the beautiful things that life has to offer.

Speaker 8 (38:21):
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