Mindset Monday: "The Mirror of Rebirth" | Pre-Birthday Reflection on Mirror Work & Self-Love - The Season of Self Love

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Season of Self Love podcast, the Season
of Healing Intentionally. I am your host, Naomi Banks, and
I am so glad that you are here. This season,
we are slowing down to go deeper. Every Monday and Wednesday,
we're creating a space of intentional healing, authentic conversations, and

(00:21):
the kind of self love that transform from the inside out.
This podcast is brought to you by Aks Naomi and
Elevate Me Self Discovery. Well, we believe that loving yourself
intentionally is a foundation of true transformation. So whether you're
on your own journey of rebirth navigating life transitions, we're

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simply choosing yourself. This is your safe space. So get comfort,
grab your favorite beverage, and let's heal together intentionally because
you've deserved to embrace that beautiful person that you are.
Now let's get started, all right, my beautiful people, Welcome

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back to this season and stufflo podcast. I'm your host,
Nomy Banks, and today it is my sad Monday, y'all.
Yes it is. And can we just take a moment
just to acknowledge where we are right now just a
little bit. Well, it is October thirteenth, Yes it is.

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It is Monday, October thirteenth, and my birthday is tomorrow, Yes, tomorrow,
t O M O R tomorrow, y'all, And I am
sitting here in such gratitude. I mean, I am sitting
here feeling all the feelings of gratitude, of excitement, in

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a little bit of pre birthday energy where you know,
we're just reflecting on everything. You know, you know well
since we came back last on Monday October, since we
came back with our season four premiere, and I have
just felt the shift since then, and not just in me,

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but also in the community. And you know the messages
that y'all have been sending, the emails I got them
about your own rebirth journeys, about the album, about the
the music healing modules that that I'm doing, and all
of that other stuff, and also about stepping into authenticity.
You know you all have written me thus far. You

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know you all are doing amazing work, and I see
you all, I see all of you. Well. Today's episode
is truly special because we're building on something powerful that
happened after last Wednesday. And if you didn't catch on
Wisdom Wednesday with Terror Whisko last week, you all need

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to go back. You need to go back and to
listen to that episode. You know, because Tara has shared
her journey of lou using two one hundred and twenty
pounds two hundred and twenty pounds naturally. But more than that,
she shared her journey to loving herself in the mirror.
And that's what we're diving into today, the mirror of rebirth.

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So before we go any further, before we go any further,
we're gonna ground ourselves, all right, we are going to
ground ourselves. So if you all can get into a
nice comfortable position, all right, all right, close your eyes,
if you feel comfortable, and take a deeper in and
release it slowly. Want you to place one hand on your heart,

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and I want you to feel that beat. That's your truth,
that's your life force. Now I want you to breathe
in self acceptance and then breathe out self judgment. But
on this next birtha, I want you to breathe in compassion.

Speaker 2 (04:06):
And breathe out criticism. Now, on this breath, I want
you to breathe in your reflection and breathe out the mass.
Now I want you to.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
Whisper to yourself. I see you, I love you, and
I am becoming. I want you to take one more
deep breath, then your niece, and when you are ready,

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gently open your eyes.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
All right, my beautiful people, thank you for sharing that
moment with me again. And if you are new here too,
the season and Self Love podcast is something we do
every episode is we upground ourselves. We ground herselves before
we get into the top of your hand. Okay, so
let me tell you why this episode is hitting different today.
Why is hitting different today because last week Tara Wisko,
she came on the show and she said something that

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stopped me writ in my tracks, something that stopped me
right in my track. She talked about standing in front
of the mirror, and she talked about standing there at
three hundred and thirty eight pounds and calling herself a
Helfer Hannah, not Tara Tara, not her own name, but

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Heifer Hannah. And for years she would even acknowledge herself
with her own name in the privacy of her own home.
And when she made the decision to love herself down
the scale, not to shame herself, not to punish herself,
but to love herself, the first thing she had to

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do was to stand naked in front of that mirror
and said, I love you, I'm proud of you, and
I'm so glad that I get to be you. Yeah.
I had to pause the recording because it was deep
and I was crying. And let me tell you why.

(06:17):
It's because I know when I was going through my
self love journey, through my spiritual journey, I believe one thing.
The first, very first thing that I shared with you
all on the very first episode was about how I
do a mirror imaging practice and meditation that I've been doing,
and it was good to hear that someone else was

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doing it in their own way. But that was a
part of her healing journey. Remember I told you about
I have a picture of myself. I believe it's at
two years old, two or three years old. I have
a picture of myself that just wont my mirror, and
I talked to that two year old self of mine
as I am going through my healing journey, you know,

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because honestly, I truly understood what that men. To look
in the mirror and see yourself naked. This is where
your truth begins to speak and talk to you, and
not the truth that somebody else has told you, but
the truth of what you see with your own eyes.
And I also understood what it is like to look

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in the mirror and not recognize yourself. You see these
different costumes, these masks, are these versions of you that
you created just to survive, to be accepted, and to
be love. But in that mirror, sometimes you do not

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see you. So today we're talking about mirror work. We're
talking about the courage it takes to see yourself clearly,
not through the lens of shame, not through the lens
of society expectations, but through the eyes of love. And
we're going to use two songs from my album the

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Soundtrack to Rebirth, the Soundtrack to the Rebirth to guide
us through this conversation. And the two songs we're going
to talk about today is Mirror Mirror and Dear Me.
So I want you all to buckle up, you beautiful souls,
because this is going to be a raw and real

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transformational all right, all right, yeah, So let me tell
you all about Mirror Mirror. So this song came to me.
This was like the second song that I actually wrote,
and I had already been to the altar with the
very first song with Dear Me and I went to

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take a shower after my altar, I went to take
a shower, but I was going to go back to
the altar, but I wanted to take a shower and
get cleaned. And I was doing my lymphetic, my massages,
you know, and I remember just standing in the mirror
and I was, you know, naked, the water dressing, and
I remember looking at myself in the mirror and this

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wasn't the very first time that I saw myself without
my gods, you know, without the tape, you know, after
my explain surgery, but it was something different on this day.
It was something different on this day when I looked
in the mirror and I remember standing there and just
like wow, who is this? For a moment, it was

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like who is this? Because yes, my body was glowing.
It was it was glowing. But it was something that honestly,
I hadn't seen in over twenty years. And when I
say this, it wasn't bad. It wasn't bad that I
didn't recognize myself. But what I saw I saw a
new version of me. I saw a new version of me.

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So as I stood there and I just owe my body,
you know, and was just doing my lymphetic massages, you know.
And as I was standing there again, and I believe
I shared this last week, is that this overwhelming feeling
of gratitude just rushed over me and I saw my
body glowing, I felt it glowing like it was such

(10:18):
an amazing feeling. And all I can do is say
thank you. As I'm looking at myself in the mirror,
all I can say is thank you. Thank you for
being obedient, thank you for listening to your body, thank
you for reclaiming what is yours. But here's the thing.

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For over twenty years, I looked in the mirror and
I saw a version of me that I thought the
world wanted to see. I thought they wanted to see.
The implants. They were part of my custume. They were
a part of the mass that I wore. And when
I removed them, I had to learn how to look
at myself, my real self, without the shame. Now, let

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me be real with you all. There are some mornings
and still some mornings where I wake up and the
first thing I do is stroll through my social media
and I know I'm not supposed to do it, and
I just really just start doing it. When I on
my downtime literally, and I need to break myself from that.

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But then as I'm laying there, I remember, and it
happened that morning. That's the funny, that's the craziest thing.
I said, Why the hell am I doing this? How
the hell did I How in the hell am I
sitting here doing this when I know better? And as
I'm sitting, as I'm standing in the mirror and I'm
looking at myself, I'm like, wow, I'm looking at my

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body that has been rebirthed. But not only that, my
body feel at peace. I don't know what and the
last time my body felt at peace. But then I
remember I found myself layer in my bedscrolling through social

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media some mornings, looking and my comparing. Maybe am I wishing? Maybe?
But all of this is messing up. It messes up
what I piece, I mental health, I self love right see,

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because one thing we don't need to do. We don't
need to get into that comparison trap. You don't need
those empty voices speaking hateful, low vibrational words into your spirit.
I know that I don't need them into my spirit.

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But along the way, throughout this whole journey, what I've
learned is seeking validation from the outside will always leave
you empty. Seeking validation from the outside will always leave
you empty because you can never envision who you are.

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And I remember writing these words because I can never
or they can never envision the woman, the person that
stands in front of my mirror, the reflection of me.
So it will be the ref in front of you,

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the reflection of you. So when I wrote this song,
it was a conversation to myself in the mirror. It
was a conversation to myself in a mirror. It was
a reflection conversation. It was accountability conversation. It was a
self love and nurturing conversation with myself in that mirror.

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So I'm gonna give y'all a little, a little sneak
peek into something. I am currently right now writing a
book call Reclaimed and Unashamed, And in one of the
opening chapters, I am standing in the mirror and I'm
having a conversation with myself. So when I was standing
there that morning doing my lymphetic massages, in the song

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mirror mirror came to mind. I was thinking about that book.
I was thinking about what words can I truly speak
and say to that I wasn't thinking about a song.
At that time, I was actually thinking about what was
that next chapter of that book that I was getting
ready to read, get ready to write. So when I

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started hearing music, a melody in my head, just the
same when I got up that morning at two three
o'clock in the morning with the song Dear Me in
my head, and I said, what do I want this
song to be about? And before I knew it, the

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song is supposed to be about taking my power back.
It's about refusing to use social media or any other
person's else opinions as a reflection of who I am
or who you are. It's about standing in front of
that mirror and saying, I am amazing, I am powerful,

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I am unstoppable in every way. And it's about embracing
your scars. I embraced my scars that morning. I remember
taking my hand underneath my bosoms and I remember tracing
those scars with my hand all the way to my side.

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Because those scars, those scars are wounds of honor for me.
And when I say they're the road map of my soul,
they are they are. I want to go back again.
I want to go back to the beginning of the season.

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Of self love. When I was telling you all about
embracing all of your scars, your bruises, and your imperfections,
well these cars that are these scars that I receive
nine weeks ago was an honor, was a road map

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to my rebirth. They were a road map of my soul.
So the same as your scars and your bruises, those
can be a road map to your soul. They have
a story, they have direction. So what I want you

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to listen to, and while you listen, I want you
to ask yourself this, what do I see when I
look in the mirror without judgment? I write my beautiful people,

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here's mirror, mirror?

Speaker 4 (17:34):
Oh good, yeah, muh.

Speaker 1 (17:47):
Way, God.

Speaker 4 (17:48):
Scrolling through social media, why in the hell did I
do that? Knowing my tease moment?

Speaker 5 (17:55):
So myself love really don't need that, But it's that
version on my myself. It's hard to let go seeking
validation and acceptance from my out of self. The harsh
words and violl imagine leads me in a low vibrational stage.

Speaker 6 (18:13):
I don't need no reminders of who they think I am.
They can never envision the women the person is standing
and the reflection in front of me as I stretch
my legs and stare.

Speaker 4 (18:22):
In the mirror, all I see is this amazing reflect
very mirror, mirror on the water.

Speaker 5 (18:29):
I hope you know the short, the veriest double harm
embracing love and sherry shall the stars the baby, those are.

Speaker 6 (18:36):
Horns of honor and man of your soul, your yell,
it's time to take the power back and refrain from

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using social media as a reflection the cool Listen. It's
some empty voices with empty hearts, feeling hackels of vibrational words.
I stand proud in.

Speaker 4 (19:07):
The mirrors that say these powerful. I amazing. I am powerful.

Speaker 5 (19:15):
I am unstopabulling everyone.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
I don't hate.

Speaker 5 (19:20):
No reminders of who they think I am.

Speaker 4 (19:23):
They can never visit orson stands and the reflection in
front of you.

Speaker 6 (19:28):
So, as I stretch my legs and stare at the mirror,
I see is this amazing reflect shot, A mirror on
the water, shre the first of the horn of the
cherish shadow. Far baby, those are walls of honor and
a map of your soul.

Speaker 4 (19:51):
Shock your shot?

Speaker 1 (20:15):
All right? So I want you to take a breath
right now, so tell me how did that make you feel?
I want you to sit with that question for a moment, because, well,
here's what I know. We spend so much time looking
in the mirror, searching for flaws, searching for what's wrong,
what needs to be fixed, what needs to be smaller, bigger, tighter, smoother.

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But when we look in the mirror through the eyes
of judgment, that is what we see. But what happened?
But what will happen if we looked in the mirror
through the eyes of love. Listen to those scars that
you are ryan hide, those stretch marks, those wrinkles, those

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imperfections that you see when you zoom in too close.
Those are wounds of honor. Those are the road map
of your soul. Every scar tells a story. Every mark
is evident that you have survived something, that you live

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through something, and that you that you are here. So
what would happen Instead of saying I hate my stomach,
you would say, thank you stomach, Thank you stomach for
holding my babies. What would happen if instead of saying

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I hate my scars, you would say embrace them, love them,
cherish all of those scars. And what will happen if
you stop walk waking up, scrolling through social media and
comparing yourself to filtered, edited, curated versions of other people lives.

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Because here's the truth. Those empty voices with empty heart
spewing hateful, low vibrational words, they can never a vision
the person, the woman, the man that stands in the
reflection in front of you. They don't know who you are.

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They can never a vision on how amazing you are. Never.
They don't know your story, they don't know your journey,
they don't know what it took for you to still
be standing. So it's time to take your power back.

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It's time to stand in front of that mirror and
say the words that I say every morning. I am amazing,
I am powerful. I am unstoppable in every way. So
I want you to say that with me right now.
I am amazing, I am powerful. I am unstoppable in

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every way. One more time and louder. I don't know
where you're adding this moment while you're listening to this,
but as I am amazing, I am powerful, I am
unstoppable in every way. That's your voice, not theirs. That's

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your voice telling your truth. That's your voice. You know.
Tara taught us something else powerful last Wednesday when she said,
the hardest part of her journey was wasn't losing the weight,
it was learning to stand in front of the mirror

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completely naked and say I love you, Tara. That's vulnerability,
that's courage, that's rebirth. So here's my challenge to you today.
When you get home tonight, I want you to stand
in front of the mirror. You don't have to be naked,

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if you don't feel if it doesn't feel vulnerable, if
you're feeling too vulnerable with it, you know, just stand
in the mirror. But this time, I want you to
look yourself in your eyes, look at yourself in your eyes,
and I want you to say your name, just your name,

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not stupid, not fat, not ugly, not lazy, just your name,
with love. And then I want you to say I
see you, I see you. And for my women, you
are the fairies of them all, and the men you

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are the most amazing of them all. And that's it.
That is where we will start, because you can't love
what you refuse to see. And I want to repeat
after me one more time, I am enough exactly as

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I am right now. I am enough exactly as I
am right now. So let that s again let that seek.
All right, my beautiful people, Well, let's do this. Let's
take a quick break, and then when we return, we're

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gonna get deep dive in the practice of mirror work.
All right, it's your gurty God is on this season
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Speaker 7 (26:21):
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the good, then I live the good. So I can
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learn the good to be the good.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
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all right, maybe the foot people, well, welcome back, welcome back,
all right, So let's go deeper. All right, So you know,
mirror work, it's not easy. Let me just say that upfront.
It is not one of those cute self care practices
where you light a candle when you feel good for
five minutes. Mirror work will humble you, it will break

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you open, It will make you confront every lie that
you ever told yourself about your work. But it would
also heal you in ways that you didn't even think
you need it. You didn't even think you knew that
you need it. So let me share one of my
own mirror work journeys with you. So for years, I

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mean years, I couldn't look at myself in the mirror
without performing, without performing. Even when I was alone, I
was performing. I was posing, I was holding my stomach
can I was angling my face. I was being the
version of me I thought I needed to be. And

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when I got my breast implants over twenty years ago,
the mirror became even more complicated because I was looking
at a version of myself that wasn't even fully me.
It was me plus a costume. It was me plus
that enhancements. It was me and what I thought the

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world wanted from me. So when I did have my
explant surgery, I knew the mirror was going to be
a reckoning. I knew it was going to be a challenge,
and I was ready for that challenge again. I remember
when doctor Sue was like you know, I advise you,

(30:10):
as I advise all of my patients, is that you
probably want to go through therapy because this will be
a change twenty years of your life. Over twenty years
of your life, your body will look different. A lot
of those old things or old thoughts will come back
to mind before you got those implants at implants in

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and I remember, I remember sitting there and I ain't
gonna lie. I was a little eric and I was like, no,
I got this because I'm doing a whole show on
it and everything. And I remember even talking to doctor
Will about it and he was just like wow, he said,
so you're really gonna do it. I said, yeah, I said,
but you know what I want to do. One, I
want to talk to other women who's been through it.

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I want to talk to other women that because it
will help with my journey. But I know it will
help with other women journey as well as going through
this because even though I made this quick decision, I
jumped in feet first. You know, sometimes I have that

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old paradiamosed old things that's right on my shoulder, and
I do I had those days. So I tell you
the very first time that I looked at myself post surgery.
I cried. I remember being in my aunt's house in

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her bathroom because I didn't look at them. The next day. Well, no,
let me take that back by myself, because I did
have to go back to the doctor the next day.
And I saw, and I want to be honest, I

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put on a shell. I put on the show. Yes,
I was happy they were gone. But when I see
you and look at I put on the shell. When
I got back to my room, I laid that down.
And I think the next day after that, we went
to my aunt's and you know, that's where we stayed

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at for two weeks because I had to go back
to the doctor there in Chicago. And I remember standing
there with no clothes or naked, with just the the
what did I now? And I can't even the things
they hang from you. I got brain fog again. But
those things were just hanging with me, little bulls with

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blood in them, little you know, mm hmmm, syringes, just
hanging from the side of my body. And I'm there
with you know, I've taken off the little ugly broad
that they give you to put on, and I'm standing
there and I'm just looking and I'm like wow, but
I still got the you know, the stuff on and

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I'm like wow, m.

Speaker 2 (33:14):
Mm.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
And it was one of the strangest moments because I
did not recognize myself. And what I mean by that,
I didn't recognize the body that I had got accustomed
to for over twenty years. I mean, they weren't perfect booze,
but they were out there. They were out there, and

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I looked at my whole body and I remember looking
in the mirror, It's like, Okay, who is she? And
why I said that is because I've had a whole
persona with my implants. I've had Naomi, i had Miss

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Type one, I had so many different names to go
with this whole booby thing. And then I like slowly realized,
I'm like, wow, she's me, the real me, the me
I was before the world told me that I wasn't enough.

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The moment in the mirror was my birth. That moment
in the mirror was my rebirth. But it didn't stop there,
because healing isn't just a one time event, it's practice.
So I started doing mirror work every single day, and

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the beginning it was hard. I was there, I would
standing there and I was forcing myself not to cringe.
I would force myself not to look away. I would
force myself to meet my own eyes, and then I
will say, girl, I love you, I love you or
every named that you are, a man demanding my own goddess,

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I love every part of you, and I am so
very proud of you. I am so glad that I
get to be you. Most days I believed it. In
some days I didn't, but I kept showing up, and

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over time something shifted. The mirror stopped being a place
of judgment. It became a place of love, a place
of truth, a place of rebirth for me. And see
in the healing that I did before in the mirror, Remember,
I still had on a costume. I couldn't see it

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all because I had that costume on. But now I
see the realness the alle I see my beautiful I
guess they are small sea, a medium sized sea, or whatever,
but I love them. But I didn't see that before.

(36:16):
You know, last Wednesday, Tyra, she says something similar. She
told us that for years she called herself half her handle,
remember in the mirror, and she wouldn't even use her
own name. She had disconnected from herself so deeply that
she couldn't even acknowledge her own identity. And when she
made the committment to love herself down the scale, the

(36:38):
first thing she had to do was stand in front
of that mirror, completely naked and reclaim her name. I
love you, Tara. That's power, y'all, that's work. But let
me let me tell you all this. And I quite
don't remember if I said it in the show. A

(36:58):
lot of these shows, most of these shows how I
had pre recorded before I went into surgery, And so honestly,
I have brain fog. So sometimes I even forget even editing.
I forget about what the topic is. I know what
the topic is it and I got that message on
the day that I was supposed to get the message.

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So me even writing the song Mirror Mirror, I wrote
that song before because Tyra wasn't even supposed to be
the first episode coming back. It was supposed to be
another young Lady. And when I sit and I think
about it, I'm like, oh my God, God was just

(37:41):
ordering my steps all along. And when I think about
why my computer was down, because I would have been
doing something else, I wouldn't have never wrote the songs.
No novel. So what I have went through my complete healing,

(38:03):
or do the healing that I'm supposed to go through.
What I've been on that same path, Well God knew,
that's why he shut my computer down. But that work
that Tower did, and that work that I've done, that's power.

(38:25):
That's power. That's that's the work. So here's what I
want you to do, and I'm calling it the twenty
day Mirror Challenge, And here is how it's going to work.
Days one through seven, I want you to stand in
front of the mirror every morning. I want you to
look at yourself in your eyes, eye to eye. I

(38:49):
don't I want you to say your name out loud,
that's it, just your name with love. Days eight fourteen,
I want you to keep saying your name, But now
I want you to add I love you in your name,
even if you don't believe it yet, say it anyway.

(39:14):
In days fifteen through twenty one, I want you to
keep saying your name and I love you. Now I
want you to add I'm proud of you. So by
twenty one. By day twenty one, you will have rewired
your brain. You will have created a new relationship with

(39:37):
your reflection. You will have taken a step toward loving
yourself the way you deserve to be loved. And listen,
some of you are going to do this and cry
every single day for twenty one days. That's okay, cry,
let it out. Those tears are healing. Those tears are healing.

(40:00):
Some of y'all are going to feel awkward and silly.
That's okay too, keep going. And some of you are
going to resist this with everything in you because you
are scared of what you'll see. I get it, do
it anyway, because you can't heal what you refuse to see.

(40:26):
I'm gonna say this again, you cannot heal what you
refuse to see. So I'm challenging you to start it tonight. Tonight,
when you brush your teeth before bed, I want you
to pause, look in the mirror, eye to eye, and

(40:49):
say your name. That's it. Start there, all right. So
let's take a quick break breath before we move into
the next song. All right, take a deep breath in

(41:10):
release one more.

Speaker 4 (41:19):
All right?

Speaker 1 (41:20):
Okay, So now I want to share with you all
about dear Me. About Dear Me, This was the very
first song that I wrote for this album, and that's
the one that started everything. I woke about two or
three in the morning, hum and a melody I've never
heard before, and words just started flowing. Words I needed
to say to myself, words that I've been caring for

(41:44):
years but never gave it voice. And I thought, dear me,
this is a love letter to me. That became the title.
And then within twenty four hours, I have written nine
ten songs to double up to twenty two songs. But see,

(42:04):
dear Me is where it all began. It's the moment
I decided to write myself the love letter that I've
been waiting for for someone else to write to me.
And y'all, when I tell you, this song made me
cry when I first heard it. Yes, I did the
ugly crime, because it was so many emotions that came

(42:25):
through that, so many emotions that came through that as
I was writing, as I was writing the words, and
I remember putting that song into putting those lyrics into
that app and receiving that music back to me. Wow,

(42:52):
you know, because I was staring in the mirror of
my life, wondering how the hell I got here. For
so long I never knew the truth of my own words.
I could write my ass off. But like I told
you last week, when we're writing in those journals and
re writing that book, or were writing in that block,

(43:14):
or were writing here and there, it's that voice in
that music that brings it to life. And in that instance,
that is when it spoke to me. That's when it
spoke to me. It's one line that I have, and

(43:41):
I said that I have to forgive the conversations of
my past. I have to release the fact that no
one taught me the true meaning of self love and
hope when I was young. But that's not their fault.
They only gave me what they had. But what I
am so blessed that is that once I did learn

(44:02):
what self love is, I instantly wanted to share what
that was and what was it about. Not only would
my children well with the world, whoever wants to listen.
Now when I look in the mirror, I see an
amazing story that's about to arise. So this song is

(44:25):
about committing to yourself. It's about being impeccable with your words,
and not just to others, but to yourself. It's about
breaking change. It's about giving that little voice inside you
a very powerful voice to heal your broken heart. It's
about recognizing that you're an original, intentional, loving and true.

(44:51):
And it's about finally seeing clearly in the mirror that
it's always been you. It's tender, it's and it's honest.
And it asked the question, if you wrote a love
letter to yourself today, what would a say? What would

(45:13):
it say? If you wrote a love letter to yourself today?
What will say? So listen, and while you're listening, I
want you to think about what apology you owe to yourself,
What forgiveness you need to offer yourself? What love letter

(45:35):
that you've been waiting to receive? All write, my beautiful people,
here's dear.

Speaker 4 (45:42):
Me, as of sermon in the mirror, wondering how the
hell did again tell them know that you tomorrow words
only spoke the ones a todd conversations of our past.
We have to forgive those talks. No one's taught is

(46:04):
the true meaning of self, love and hope. But now,
as a look in the mirror, staring two our eyes,
I see an amazing story that's about two rise. So
I'm gonna write me a dear love letter. I word

(46:25):
love and full of hope. As I've committed to a
four agreements. I can't lie the first good out more. Instead,
dear me, I want to thank you for your your
eating love for me. It's time to break those shades.
Give that little voice a powerful voice to heal a

(46:45):
broken heart. Dear me, Oh, You're an original contention, no
other than true. It's time to love me. It's time
to love on you. No, I see clearly in the
mirror it's always been you. Conversations of our past. We

(47:16):
have to forgive those times. No one's taught is the
t meaning of solf, love and hole. But now as
I look in the mirror, I star into our eyes.
I see an amazing story that's about two our eyes.

(47:38):
So I'm gonna right me and deal love letter my words,
loving and full of hope. As I've committed to a
four agreements, I can't lit the first stood out more
and stare Dear me, I want to thank you forel
your MEI love for me. Is time to break those things.

(47:59):
If I little voice a powerful voice to hear a
broken hearts. Dear me, Oh, You're an original intention of
the truth. It's love me. It's sound to love on you.
See really, it's always in you.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
Mm hmmm mmmm all right, breathe. So what came up
for you? I want you to sit with that, because
here's the truth. Most of us are walking around waiting

(48:49):
for someone to see us, waiting for someone to validate us,
to tell us that we're enough. But what if you
stop waiting? What if you gave yourself the love letter
that you've been waiting for. What if you thank yourself
for your unique love? What if you broke those chains

(49:12):
that have been holding you back? What if you gave
that little voice inside you, the one that's been silencing
for years, a very powerful voice to finally heal your
broken heart. Listen. For too long, we've been living in
conversations from my past. I know I have. We've been

(49:34):
speaking words that we were taught, not words that are
true to us. But now now it's time to see
clearly in the mirror. So when you look, what will
you discover? In this? You would discover it's always been you.

(49:56):
The power was always inside you, love was always inside
of you, The healing was always inside of you. You
are an original, you're intentional, you're loving, and you're true.

(50:17):
And at this time pastime to love on yourself the
way that you've been loving on everybody else. So what
if you apologize to yourself for all of the years
that you've abandoned yourself, that you silence yourself, that you
damned yourself. What if you forgave yourself for not knowing,

(50:40):
for not knowing better, for not doing better, for not
being perfect? What would that letter say? I'll tell you
what MINUS say, Dear Naomi. I'm sorry that I didn't
listen to you sooner. I let the world tell you

(51:01):
who to be. I'm sorry that I put everyone else's
knees before yours. And I'm sorry that I made you
feel like you weren't enough. But I see you now,
I hear you now, and I'm choosing you now. So
I want to thank you for your unique love for me.

(51:21):
I want to thank you for never giving up even
when I wanted to. I want to thank you for
breaking those chains. Understand you are an original, you are intentional,
You are loving, and you are true. And I love
you exactly as you are. And it's time to love me.

(51:43):
It's time to love on you love me. That's my
love letter? What's yours? So? I want you to write
this week. I want you to sit down with a
journal or open your note, your no absence. Just write
yourself a love letter and tell yourself everything that you've
been waiting to hear. I want you to thank yourself

(52:06):
for your unique love and apologize for the ways that
you abandon yourself and commit to breaking those chains. And
if you're feeling brave, share with me. Tag me on
social media with the hashtag dear Me love Letter. I
want to read them. I want to witness your rebirth
because when you see clearly in the mirror, you realize

(52:27):
that it's always always been you. And I want to
share something with you before we do our last meditation
today is that even while listening to the song with
you All, I got very teared out. I got very
emotional because I kind of knew that with those words

(52:50):
meant to me, and even just writing that dear love letter,
that dear me, that love letter to myself. And see,
the thing is that while I was down for these
past two three months, as I thought of creating a
community called the Daily the Daily love Letter, and I

(53:17):
will talk more about that at the end of the
month because I will be opening up for a community,
a school community s k o L to where I
will encourage tea and help you to know how to
save these words to yourself, these amazing words to yourself,
what you're loving on yourself. And this is a part

(53:39):
of that self love healing that we have to go
through because again we cannot we cannot speak or talk
to what we don't see, you know. But I got
emotional just listening to the song right now, and I
just had to share that with you. All is there,
and I pray that that this is what you can

(54:04):
relate to or resonate with you in some kind of
way that you can't find the words to be able
to speak to yourself when especially when you're staring at
yourself out of the eye in that mirror. All right,
all right, my beautiful souls. Well we're coming to an
end of today's episode, but before we go, I want
to just type this all back together. You know. Tyr

(54:24):
says something on Wednesday that I can't stop thinking about,
and she said that healing is not linear. That some
days you're going to look in the mirror and you're
going to love what you see. Then in some days
you're going to struggle. Some days you're going to want
to give up. But healing is necessary. Mirror work is necessary.

(54:45):
Choosing yourself is necessary, and it doesn't have to be perfect,
it just has to be real. This week on Wisdom Wednesday,
we have another powerful guest joining us Miscaniniqua, Miss Kanika.
I can't pronounce her last name, that's a shame. And
we'll continue this conversation about authenticity, healing and reclaiming your power.

(55:09):
And remember tomorrow's my birthday and actually my The full
album soundtrack to the Reburse drops midnight tonight, midnight tonight.
All I want to say twenty two tracks, but I'm
still debating. I'm still in the final editing process of it.
But everything, and it's complete, completely free. You will go

(55:29):
on to ax ax Naomi dot com. That's a s
k n y Ommi dot com. In the full thing
will be there where you can download it and stuff
like that. Yes, and I wouldn't. I won't put it
in the notes just yet. I'll probably go back tomorrow.
So if you're listening this in real time, no, go

(55:51):
back tomorrow and you see it. But also tomorrow. I
was at my altar this past weekend and I was
just told that I need to do listening. So tomorrow
I will be doing a live listening birthday party tomorrow
on ask Naomi Bridging the Gap, So you guys, make
sure you tune in to that tomorrow night at seven
pm Pacific Center's time. And I also want you to

(56:13):
remind you that we're still raising money for Body Love
and Hope United from Raising where our goal is one
thousand dollars for Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and you could
donate it at asks naomi dot com. Every dollar counts, y'all,
So let's hit the goal together, and don't forget that
October seventeenth through the twenty third is men Breast Cancer
Awareness Week, and we'll be talking about that over at

(56:34):
ask Naomi. And this is a conversation that we definitely
need to be having. So before I go, I want
to leave you with this. You are not broken. You
are becoming in the mirror, and the mirror the mirror
isn't just showing you the truth of who you always been.
Choose to see yourself through the eyes of love, all right,

(56:58):
And I want you to repeat after me. I choose
to see myself through the eyes of love, my beautiful people,
all right. So if you can just close your eyes
one more time, and I want you to breathe in
reflection and breathe out the mask. I want you to
breathe in truth and breathe out performance. I want you

(57:22):
to breathe in your name and breathe out the shame.
Because you are home, you are worthy, you are read born.
Take one final deeper than and when you are ready,
gently open your eyes. All right, my beautiful people, So

(57:44):
until next time, my beautiful souls, I want you to
keep choosing you, keep choosing love, keep stepping into your truth.
This is Naomi Banks and you've been listening to the
Season and Self Love podcast. Happy Monday, talk to your
home Wednesday. Thank you so much for joining me today
on this journey of intentional healing. I hope that this

(58:06):
conversation has filled your cup and reminded you of the
beautiful and worthy person that you are. I want you
to remember, healing isn't about rushing. It's about showing up
for yourself with love and intention, one day at a time.
So I'll see you back here Monday and Wednesday for

(58:26):
another episode of the Season of Healing Intentionally right here
on the Season of Self Love podcast. So until then,
keep choosing you and visit us at the Season of
Self Love Podcast dot com for showing notes and resources,
and remember to connect with me on Instagram at the
real Naomi Banks. This has been brought to you by

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