Join host Nyomi Banks and resident therapist Dr. Will Washington on this transformative Mindset Monday episode of The Season of Self Love Podcast as they explore one of life's most crucial skills: distinguishing between fear and intuition when making major decisions. As Nyomi prepares for her explant surgery, this deeply personal conversation provides essential tools for navigating life's most pivotal moments. What You'll Discover: • The fundamental difference between fear (instinctual) and intuition (spiritual) • How to recognize when fear is protective versus when it's limiting • Why your first instinct is often your best choice • The three levels of fear: worldly, relational, and personal self-responsibility • Practical tools for strengthening your connection to inner wisdom Key Insights from Dr. Will:
Free Resource: Download the Year of ReBirth Workbook at theseasonofselflovepodcast.com Coming This Week: Wisdom Wednesday continues the transformation series with another inspiring guest story Hashtags: #MindsetMonday #FearVsIntuition #LifeAlteringChoices #TrustYourInnerWisdom #DrWillWashington #DecisionMaking #PreparingForTransformation #InnerKnowing #SpiritualGuidance #AuthenticChoices #Rebirth2025 #IntuitionIsYourSuperpower #FaithOverFear
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- Fear is instinctual and often reward-based from societal conditioning
- Intuition is spiritual - a "mental trust fall" that requires faith in your inner knowing
- The difference between being attached (stuck) versus connected (flowing) to emotions
- How to navigate the teeter-totter between fear and belief
- Worldly Fear: Cultural anxieties about global events and societal changes
- Relational Fear: Uncertainty about connections and relationships
- Personal Self Fear: Questioning whether you're worthy enough to experience life fully
- Start Small: Practice making daily decisions and sticking with them to build trust in your choices
- Cause and Effect Thinking: Move beyond reward/punishment to understand true consequences
- Pro-Con-Self Method: Include yourself in the middle of decision-making, not just pros and cons
- Values Clarification: Major decisions challenge you to be accountable for what you truly value
- Release the inner critic and unrealistic expectations of what meditation "should" look like
- Find your personal ritual rather than copying others
- Allow thoughts to flow rather than forcing silence
- Use visualization techniques that include cause-and-effect analysis
- The difference between gratitude and entitlement in personal growth
- How society teaches us to lose trust while asking us to grow faith
- The impact of over-exposure to information and cultural fear
- Why we're entitled to peace, rest, and authentic choices
- Nyomi's honest sharing about brain fog and cognitive changes from BII
- Dr. Will's powerful story about making difficult decisions that hurt others but freed his authentic self
- The recognition that sometimes you must make unfavorable choices to be loved "the right way"
- Faith as trusting that your existence is enough to be present
- The journey from external hunger to internal awareness
- How to navigate decisions when your values are being challenged
- The importance of connection over attachment in emotional processing
- Nyomi's realization about trusting medical authority over her own body wisdom
- Dr. Will's bathroom epiphany about CEO salary versus his worth
- The discussion of entitlement versus privilege in personal boundaries
- How to build decision-making muscles through daily practice
- "Sometimes you have to make the choice that makes you look unappreciated for the moment so you can free yourself to be loved the right way"
- "Your intuition is your superpower - the more you listen to it, the stronger it becomes"
- "We are entitled to have our body at peace and choose how we want to feel satisfied"
Free Resource: Download the Year of ReBirth Workbook at theseasonofselflovepodcast.com Coming This Week: Wisdom Wednesday continues the transformation series with another inspiring guest story Hashtags: #MindsetMonday #FearVsIntuition #LifeAlteringChoices #TrustYourInnerWisdom #DrWillWashington #DecisionMaking #PreparingForTransformation #InnerKnowing #SpiritualGuidance #AuthenticChoices #Rebirth2025 #IntuitionIsYourSuperpower #FaithOverFear
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your host, Naomi Banks and this is Mindset Monday. So
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as we continue our transformative July series preparing for transformation, today,
we are diving into one of the most crucial skills
of any of us can do in develop and that's
learning to distinguish between fear and intuition when making major
life decisions. And believe me as someone who is about
to undergo explant surgery. This topic couldn't be more personal
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may beautiful souls, But you know today's conversation is so
very close to mine. You know, I've been living in
this space between fear and intuition for months now. So
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when I first started having these health issues with Vertical,
you know, those severe headaches and unexplained symptoms that no
doctor could connect to my breast impluse, well, I had
to learn to trust my body's wisdom over medical authority,
and that dismissed my concerns when I said in my
altered months ago and I received that clear knowing that
these impluts had to go. I had to distinguish between
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the fear of judgment, the fear of change, the fear
of the unknown, and the deep intuitive knowing that this
decision will restore my health and my wholeness. You know,
this skill with being able to deferate between fear and
intuition isn't just important for my major medical decision, but
it's very essential for every significant choice that we make
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in our lives. Who to marry, whether to have children,
career changes, moving indy relationships, starting a new venture, all
of those things. You know, our lives are shaved by
these pivotal moments where we.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Have to decide. We have to decide.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Am I being guided by fear or by my deepest knowing?
And today I am so honored to have doctor Will
Washington back with us today. You know, doctor Will Washington,
he specializes in mindset, he specializes in healing, he specializes
in the decision making and emotional resilience. And he's been
very invaluable guy as I navigated through this preparation process.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And now I'm going to welcome doctor Will Washington. Hey, Hey, hey, it's.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
So good to see you. It's a beautiful day to day.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yes, yes it is, Yes it is. I know.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
We are like in week three of this series, and
I could just say the first two weeks have been
really great with the feedback in all.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
The responses have been really amazing too. I didn't think
that there would be such a not just just a
reaction to things, but people are really starting to talk
about a lot of fears that they didn't realize they
have until they read your story. There about your story.
So it's amazing how your story help people feel seen,
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even beyond their own own awareness. So I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Yeah, yeah, you know, before we even got I love
that we're talking about this now, about knowing the difference
between fear and intuition, because a lot of times that's
what stops us from making those decisions and those choices.
It's about trusting, truly trusting our body, truly trusting our body.
But before we really get into this topic, let's take
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a quick let's ground ourselves, all right, So you know,
my listeners out there, you know what to do. Get
in a nice comfortable position, all right, Close your eyes,
take a slow, deeper hold it for just a moment,
no exhale, gently allowing you to settle into this present moment.
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I want to feel your feet connected to the earth
beneath you, feel your body supported by whatever your sitting
or standing on right now. I want you to imagine
your inner voice, that calm, that clear, wise part of
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you that always knows what's right for your highest good. Now,
as you continue to breathe slowly and deeply, want you
to open your heart to understanding the difference between fear
and your intuition. Fear often speaks loudly with urgency and anxiety,
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and intuition it whispers quietly with certainty and peace. Now
your next breath, then, I want you to breathe in
confidence and your ability to discern, and I want you
to breathe out any doubt about your inner wisdom. You
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have everything you need within you to make the right
choices for your life. And when you are ready, gently
bring you awareness back to this conversation and carry that
sense of inner knowing with you. All right, my beautiful people, Well,
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Speaker 2 (07:35):
So before we dive.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Deep, I want to kind of set the stage for
our listeners. Why is it so important that we learn
to distinguish between fear and intuition, especially when we're facing
life altering decisions.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yes, to just keep it very foundational. Fear is instinctual.
Intuition is spiritual, right, and we have to understand that
sometimes our fear can become what we believe, and sometimes
what we believe can be limited by our fear. So
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I see it as like a teeter tighter, right, there's
really a teeter tighter mindset. And so it's really important
to put ourselves in the space where we can be honest,
we can be open, and we understand that fear is
an invitation of just awareness of what security is for us,
you know, So I say, let's just keep it simple
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at that place right now.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Okay, you know I like that.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
You you bringing it back, bringing it back to the basics,
all right. And so what you said for fear, fear
is more like state our invitation.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Of awareness of unresolved awareness, wounds, feelings, and it could
be a preparation for something that you know that may
be coming. So a lot of times fear is a
protector fears and all things.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
All right, So now let's talk about fear versus intuition.
What's exactly are we dealing with when we talk about there?
Because you did say intuition is spiritual because I think
a lot of people they use the term but don't
really understand what that means psychologically. So even though you
just broke it down with the fear, how can you
know one say, okay, so what's intuition there?
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, I can make it psycho spiritual and psychosomatic. Intuition
is like when they say trust your gut, when they
say that, you know, trust your first judgment. You know,
these things that don't really have statistical evidence, but it
does have a stathystical finding where our first choice is
typically our best one. Yeah, right, And a lot of
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us don't trust ourselves the first time because of how
we may be in conditioned by fear or the memory
of what fear has done to us in the past.
And so intuition is truly a mental trust, a trust fall,
which why I can sider it more spiritual than mental
or emotional. I can sier it more more of that.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
You know, thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I did a show last week about trusting abody were
better yet, And I want to make sure that I'm
saying this right. It was more looking at our body
as our teacher, meaning that you said it about that
gut feeling, that gut feeling in those emotions that we have.
(10:32):
You know a lot of times we ignore them because
we try to make sense on what that is that
we're feeling instead of allowing that feeling to teach us
or tell us what that is.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Yes, and let's be honest. Where do you learn how
to trust fear.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
From society?
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Yeah, exactly. And a lot of times our fear is
award based, right, you lose the reward or you gain
the reward depending on how you're chosen in society. So
that could be a lot, that could be a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Now you just went there with me with that about
the rewarding thing. You know, because I think and I
hate talking about politics.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I really do.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I really really do humanity I.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Know, but you know I hate talking about it. You
know why.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It's because it puts a lot of people on a
different side of the coin coin and for me, it
gives me a deeper insight on who you are in
your values. And I'm sorry because I'm one of the
biggest ones to say you can't judge a book by
yours cover or whatever. But when I think about the
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humanity part of it, on certain things, that is offered
or toll to us. You know, that's like hmm, but
you know what's going to happen or you know what's happened,
and you still going to So that's why I don't
like to talk about politics, but I want to get
into that right now with the mere aspect of being rewarded,
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because what's happening right now in our society, in our
world right now is based off of fear, and that
fear is.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Being fears and and and you know, fear is the
real four letter word, right It's the real four letter word.
And and I know we don't want to go them, but
we have to understand that that fear, fear has the
same power as money. And we have learned to rely
upon what fear can do in times of chaos times
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of peace. There what what actually gets rid of fear?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Right?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
And how do you choose intuition in the midst of fear?
That is that is what this is all about. How
do you choose yourself in the midst of fear because
that is going to define your entire life, you know,
you know.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's what I It's so funny.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I just interviewed somebody yesterday and we kind of talked
about this a little bit, and I think that's the
that's the importance when we talk about self love because
when we really look and think about what self love, well,
my definition of self love is is having that intimate
relationship of yourself and being aware. So with that awareness
is that intuition comes in where you were able to
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trust whether what that fear looks like for you and
how it is going to determine what's in your life
or what decision or choices you make.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (13:35):
Yeah, But we had we had a whole we had
a whole episode about this where I was saying that
intimacy is because relational work. It's the more I'm with you,
the more I see myself, and the more I see myself,
the more I trust how I'm expressing myself. Right, is
how much can you trust the way you express yourself?
That is true intimacy, right, and intuition allows you to
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understand and conceptualize what the experience may be for.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
You, right, and trust it and have faith in it.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah, to trust it and have faith in it. I
think a lot of the times, especially when it comes
to when we're dealing with especially when it comes from
the health aspect of it is that we look outside
of ourselves for those people who have went through and
they've gotten a degrees and this is what they do,
so we trust their knowledge more than we do our
own selves. I know, for me, I've been and I
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don't want to say gas lighted, but should that's what's
going on with you?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Are you sure that's what's happening?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
You know, let me take this test or let me
give you some medication for that. What you might think
that it is you understand what I'm saying. And so,
and I shared with you before about the explant documentary
that I had watched last week, and I was truly
horrified by what I witnessed throughout that whole time.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
The one thing is that.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
What I did love about doctors dude who is my surgeon,
is that when he when he found out about everything
that was going on with the implants. See, they wasn't
taught this in in medical school. They weren't taught this
in And I understand that. But now that he knows better,
he does not do implants at.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
All at all. You know.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
He does by to say I do no harm, no harm,
And he said, I know better, so I have to
do better.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
That is I took an Oh.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
And when you think about that, just being in just
just in humanity wise, just just living wise, that's like, Wow,
I've trusted someone who I thought, this is who I
paid my insurance from.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
This is who I've been going through And.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
I think about for fifty three years, I've had three babies.
You understand like, this is where and I didn't I
didn't trust I didn't trust myself. So when you look
at that coming from this point of view of it,
and I know it's a lot of women and men
that are listening to that.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And we could take it all up. We can go
racial with it. We could talk about the men, the
black men that they did the whole thing on. Yeah,
the whole you know, that whole thing on.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
And it's like, wow, when will we as human beings,
let's take the race out human beings start to trust
our own inner.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Self and what does that look like?
Speaker 1 (16:29):
So we can know the difference between fear and intuition,
and even within that word fear in so many ways
that we can dissect that because that fear could be
there as a protective and it can give us another
way to look at it whether than another fear in
a more negative way, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yes, And for me in my philosophy of healing, I see,
I see everything in the three layers. So you have
the worldly responsibility, the relational responsibility, and then the personal
self responsibility. And so fear has three levels. Right, There's
a worldly fear that we're experiencing, there's a relational fear
of uncertainty, and there's a self fear of whether you
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are enough to really be present in this? Are you
worthy enough to experience this to the folds of your
capability and your capacity? And a lot of us do
not feel certain in these three levels, and and a
lot of us are not even acknowledging the worldly fear
that we have the fact that people don't want to
watch the news, but you're willing to be on Instagram.
(17:31):
That doesn't even make sense. Yeah, how can you be
on Instagram and then say you don't want to be
on the news. That doesn't that's a worldly fear, right,
that you want to have relationship, but you don't want
to be intentional about your relationship. So there this distortion
of control is really causing fear to have its course
in everybody's lives right now.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Yeah, So let me say this because I'm about to
be very honest with this one right here, right I
am one of the ones that right now I don't
like watching in this And why I don't like watching
the news is because it's like an energy exchange for me,
and I am very strained by that. You know, by that.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
You can't scrow it, huh, because you can't scroll through it.
It just repeats the same story over and over.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
But even on my feed, I don't get that. So
let me tell you when I get that. I get
that with my husband. Send me that shit, excuse me?
And I say, don't send me that. And why I
say that because I know I internalize it, and I'm
just gonna be very honest with you all. Spiritually, I'm
trying to figure out how not to allow that to
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take over my whole being, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
Yeah, ye see. And I'm the exact opposite where I'm like,
if I receive it and I feel it and I'm
internalizing it, I'm asking myself, what is it about this
that I'm feeling that makes me feel stuck with this feeling?
Because for me, my emotions typically flow in and out.
And so when I watch something and that it gets
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me stuck, it means that there's something there that I'm
attached to and not connected with. Becauhen i'm connected with
something or somebody, there's a flow. When I'm attached to
somebody or something, I feel stuck. Yeah, And then that
does something to me. I can feel and I know,
and I feel stuck with things. And that's the sensitivity
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I had to work on because I was completely insensitive
and I did not have the sensitivity I needed as
a man to move forward in my life. I realized that, wow,
mm yeah, that's yeah, fear. When I think of fear,
I think of attachments and connections and intuition. Being in
the middle of that.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
But I totally get when you say, when you're watching
something and then make you feel something, you want to
know why you're feeling that.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
And I'm there too.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
But what it does It drains me because I'm sitting
there in it, And I guess maybe that's what you're
talking about, being stuck, because I'm sitting there in it
trying to figure out the problem or how can I
do that? And I'm gonna be very honest which is
not even in my my wheelhouse, you.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
So it's like, okay, how can what's in your willhouse
determining that? So and when I say this even like really, Naomi,
so then I put something else on my plate and
more on my plate without.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Do you understand what I'm saying. So I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
What can I say because I get a little brand
fall right now, I'm trying to prioritize different things, and
I know that sounds so fucked up because the world
is so excuse my language, it's so fucked up, But
it's like, Okay, I have to prioritize the work that
I'm doing right now, and that's really to get to
the core of people feelings and motions and and self
love so we can slowly bring this out, hopefully in
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the next four or five years. Then who's ever in
you understand I'm saying just in my mind that is
where thinking. It's going to the core because what I'm
I'm watching the news that's all outside right now.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Yeah, But but to your point, but to your point
that what you're talking about is fear manifesting, right, it's
it's it's understanding that it's understanding that there is a
fear that we have no control over or we feel
like we have no control over, and so the easiest
way is to remove ourselves from the situation because we
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realize that we don't have that control over things. And
that's a new level of awareness that we're having culturally,
is that we are all experiencing the same cultural fear
right now where we have no control over this. And
when we do have control, it's over how I treat
you and how you treat me and how I'm treating myself.
That's why I know I do have control over And
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in that faith that we talk about, the intuition is
really about understanding there's like there's a limitation that's not needed,
but there's a limitation that is that is meant to
presume our own emotional integrity. And we and we have
been way too exposed. We've been way too exposed to
things right now. And you're so right like we are.
We have been way too exposed to things. And society
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is not adapting as fast as what's happening right now,
even just with AI, like AI is working way fast
than our society is adapting to and what's what's going
to happen to us? Right, like, when we actually become
human enough to express ourselves. AI has already created the
infrastructure for us to even we can't even we can't,
it's not even a bottleneck. It's gonna be a gait
(22:34):
right right, But.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
There's a way that we can use that too. We
can use that as uh, you know, for our benefits
to really try to help grow and to really grow this.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
World, because we're not We're nowhere near grown.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
We're still infants in this world of chaos, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
What I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:53):
And so, but I receive everything that you just said.
I heard fit. I was like, I said, no, he
absolutely right, because I understand exactly what he means and
what he talk about in that instinct. Wow, you know,
we always go down to the rabbit hole. I mean
to go down the rabbit hole like that. But I
think this is a part of everything that we're talking
(23:13):
about too, because yeah, yeah, yeah, Because when we're really
talking about understanding what fear is for us and understanding
how with intuition as well versus that instead especially making
those life changing decisions, that's.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
What you have to really think about.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
But even let's go back, and what I talked about
earlier is about truly having faith in your ability to
make a choice and live with that choice that you've made.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
And I would love to hear you explain the basis
of faith for people because this world's becoming we're being
more open about spirituality, and so people don't talk about faith,
talk about spirituality, but they don't seem to coincide faith
in that. So how do you define faith in the
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healing realm?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
You know? So I'm going to go back just a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
When people usually think about faith, they think about church,
they think about religion, you know, they don't think about
having faith within yourself.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
What I think.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
About when I think about when I first let me
say first, when I first thought about faith and having
faith in something, it was always something outside of me.
That's something that we were taught by having something outside
of me. What you have to understand first is that
we were all created in God image. We all have
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God within us. It's spiritual. It's right here. People don't
understand what spirituality is. It's so many different things of
what people think spirituality. They think it you know, witch craft,
they think it is you know, budden, you.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Know what I'm saying. Then they started to put different types.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Of religions on the spirituality aspect, when it's not is
just between you really in your own self and your
own being right here, yeah, right here. And I remember
talking about prayer, when we pray and we ask for
these certain things, and you say that you have faith
in God, but you don't because you still worried, you
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still stress, you still do it everything that's causing it
to happen to you. So where is the faith? Do
you know what the faith is? And I can be
very honest, I can say I have faith in myself.
Can I explain it? No, I can only show you.
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I can only show you.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I don't know if I can truly brak And I'm
just being honest. I don't know if I can truly.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Break the words down to have them understand what that is.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
H Yeah. And I think that's I think that's the
foundation of it, is learning the trust that your existence
has been enough to be present. And I think that
is the foundation that we're we're talking about, because when
you're navigating through fear, you're being told everything against you
around you, that you're you're learning to lose trust if
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you're being taught to lose trust, you're being asked to
grow faith. And that's the and that's the premise of
our future.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Mm.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
That was deep, doctor will.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, that was deep. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Wow mm hmm. All right, let me stroll for a minute.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
I got you.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Let me stroll for a minute. Let me let me
go back to my notes over here. All right. So
because we did, we went deep right there? We really did.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
We went deep. All right, So let's let's get pacific
about major life decisions like surgery, INDI, relationships and career changes.
And I know we talked about we just got deep.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
So how do.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Fear intuition show up differently in these high stake moments?
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah, what it is is it's challenging your values. It's
making you have to adjust and change your values. What
do you really care about? What do you really believe in?
What do you actually want?
Speaker 1 (27:23):
You know?
Speaker 3 (27:24):
They say if they wanted to, they'll be there. If
they wanted to show up, they would, Like, if you
wanted it for yourself, you would. So a lot of
times our biggest decisions are are hard because it's making
us actually be accountable for what our values are and
psychologically speaking, we want to go with what where the
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reward is. No, people don't want to follow the pain.
That's why we have so much corruptness. It's because people
don't want to do the hard work. They don't want
to do the thing that's going to take a long time.
I want to press the button get the cookie. I
want to press the button of the cookie. I want
to press the button, do the chores and then get
half a cookie. Right. And so it's really understanding what
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is your enough? What is your enough? Are you okay
with your enough? What does it? What does it mean?
And so making those life altering choices, you're trying you
to be decisive and be okay with your values and
being in Unfortunately, as Americans, we do not always accept
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what it is enough. We just had to get a
little bit more, a little more off top or I'm okay,
I'm satisfied. What does satisfication mean in a life altering choice?
What does satisfication mean? We don't really talk about that.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
M you know, wow, So.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
You know I want to go back to this book.
I want to go back and as one of my
favorite books, change your paradign't change your life.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
And it was something that.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Bob Brock the sit and there he said about he
talked about his grandmother. He said, my grandmother used to
tell me, you know, you should be you should be
satisfied for where you at.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Hmm.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
And he said, I love my grandmama, sure enough. But
grandma was wrong, and he said, he said, because we
we want to strive for even though we know that
that perfection is not there.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
We always strive for perfection.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
We always strive to be better, you know, we always
strive to go to another level.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
You know, even the education wise, once you.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Once you finished kindergarten and you go to first grade,
and then you go to second grade, you know, then
you go you know, this is how we were always
built in that aspect of that is always getting better
in time. So when we say, when you say that
being satisfied or enough, it's like, how can we and
I know it's going somewhere else, but how can we
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know the difference what being grateful on what we have
but also being more than what people might feel that
you have enough?
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Am I making sense?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Yeah, to me, you're talking about the binary between gratitude
and entitlement. We are taught that we are not allowed
to be entitled. It's wrong to feel entitled. Being entitled
is a white thing. I'm like, No, the problem is
is that there's everything being entitled and being privileged, very
big difference. I am entitled to feel at peace with
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my life. I am entitled to ask and take time
off because I want rest. I am entitled to say
I don't want to do this relationship anymore because it's
making me become someone I do not want to be.
I should not be grateful that someone is just in
my life. I shouldn't be grateful that I just have
a job. I shouldn't be grateful that I had to
pay taxes that don't even mean anything to me because
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I'm not getting any percentage of that back.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
Right.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
There are there are ways that we've been taught to
We've been forced to feel grateful about things that we
should not be entitled to and that and that's the
problem is that these life altering choices are making us
think that we should be grateful for things. No, you
are entitled to have your body at peace. Mm hmm. You.
You are entitled to choose how you want to feel satisfied.
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And someone has a problem with it. That's not that's
not their body to tell. That's not their body to tell.
And we have been we feel like we have access
to people and things that we have no ruling right over.
And that's wild that we think that we have this
audacity to this power of audacity. That's that's that's just
beyond me. That's beyond me.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Okay, real, I'm mad.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
I'm like, let you put your meditation back on. I'm mad,
Like who yeah, people just.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, but you know what that.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Especially now, I am that type of person that I
want to get all the way in there, you know that, right.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Look after I got my PhD. After I got my PhD,
I got the highest level of education you can get.
You can't get a double, you can't get like a
higher p like you just you just plateau. You just
get more PhDs or more masters, you plateau. I'm like,
there's no more grades I can there's no more grades
that I can go up to. Right, and yet I
know that I did not learn everything I could have learned.
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I was not shown everything I need to show. I
was not given the freedom of financial freedom. My economy
did not support and provide for me. My government did
not support and provide for me, investing in the community
and being able to give back. I did not get
that support. So we're making a life altering choice to
be like, you know what, Yeah, I'm not gonna work
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for anybody. I'm work for myself. Yeah, there's no company.
I can't take the CEO's company. And I don't mean
to like move forward, but like making a life altering
choice in my career. I'm not trying to be funny,
but like, I was literally sitting on the bathroom at
my company, and I was looking at my CEO and
my company, and I was in the bathroom taking a
little longer than lecture there, and I saw that what
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he made in a month is what I made it
a year. I said, yeah, I'm gonna stay in the
bathroom a little longer, and I did. I took my
time because this person literally made as much as I
made a year in a month and he's not even
doing half the work I'm doing. The system has already
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been automated. Yeah, so he's just in the position. And
so for me, it's like my gratitude and my entitlement
were finally at its friction, and I had to make
a choice of how much do I want to value
my life? And time is becoming the true factor of
worth right now? How do you spend your quality time
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rather than your quantity time? Yeah, it's just it's happening.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Yeah, yeah, but I want to do this, and I
hope you just you follow me, right.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I want to make sure that the listeners understand that
he's not saying that he is not grateful for anything.
He's just saying that he and I want to make
sure that I'm saying that that you are entitled to
want more or entitled to be, you know, to be
in peace on what you want your life to be
for your values.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Right.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
Yes, I went I went from an external hunger to
an internal awareness. And I had an external hunger. I
wanted the highest grade, the highest goal, the highest education,
the highestness, and then I realized that there was nothing
really there. It was it was an awareness knowing that
I'm competent. It was proud of myself. I'm grateful that
I was able to accomplish this, But it made me
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turn back into self worth. Well, what does it? What
do I need to make me feel good? The image,
the representation that I represent is very strong, but my
heart needed was a connection, not an attachment. And that's
where I'm leading to I was to me the grades
and all these things were attachments because they could come
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and go, right, But it's that connection I was desiring,
and many of us are being told not to do
that because of fear. Yeah, if you don't get the
highest grade, then you're never going to get this. If
you don't do this part, you're never going to get this. Yeah,
you're making me chase something that doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you for that. Thank you for following
me and bringing it back.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
Clearing it up too. Yeah, I was in it.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
I look, I got you. So let's get really practical.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Now, what are some specific tools our listeners can use
to strengthen their connection to their intuition and make more
confident decisions?
Speaker 3 (35:59):
Yeah, start small, Start small decisions. So like learning how
to choose yourself starts from the moment you wake up, Well,
how do you choose how you want to get out
of bed, choose how you want to eat, choose how
you so make all these decisions right, and then what
you do is actually stick with those decisions throughout the day.
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So like I'm gonna choose lunch right, I'm like, you know, lunch,
I mean, I'm gonna eat a BLT. I'm not gonna
eat a cheeseburger. And then throughout the day you stick
with that choice. Doesn't matter what happened today doesn't matter.
How does matter if you went to another restaurant, go
to where the belt is a lot of us change
our minds so much and so fast that we don't
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even know what it feels like to stick through a decision.
So then your intuition is always being misguided because it's
never fully it's never comes to term. We never give
a term to our intuition. So make decisions before they
happen and actually go through it and see how, you know,
get through your day knowing that you have to stick
with the decision that you've already made. That's a great
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way to start.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Yeah, I love that. I love that. All right, So
let's talk about meditation. Let's talk about meditation.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
In mindfulness, because I know some people think that they're
not good enough, they're not good at meditation. You know,
how can someone who's never meditated to start connecting with
their inner wisdom?
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Yes, to get to inner wisdom, you have to release
the inner critic. A lot of times many of us
are are not good at meditation because we don't know
what it means to be a meditator. We don't know
what does it look like to be a meditator, or
we have an image of meditation that is unrealistic to
our lifestyle. My first image of a meditation was a
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shalin monk that was glowing and floating in the air.
I was like, Oh, that's meditation. I'm not going to
get that. I'm in Cleveland. I'm not I'm not just
on mountain up here. We got lakes, you know, So
I'm not going to do that. So I had to
remove the expectation of what I thought a meditator should
be and look like, and I had to learn the
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ritual that was needed. So you have to find your ritual,
and you have to remove the inner critic of what
you think peace looks like as a meditator. And also
with mindfulness, it's not about having complete silence. It's about
allowing the flow of thought.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
So a lot of it is typically educational awareness, and
it's typically just we have a representation of something that
is against us. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
You know, for me, and when I first started with Meditator.
I remember, I'm thinking that I had to be in silence.
That's what I thought at first. I really thought like
I had to be inside this.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
So maybe some you know that type of thing.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
And like hold the polls right in.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
The whole time, I'm sitting there wrecking my brain and
stressing out because my mind is going all over the place,
and first of all, I'm not even knowing what I'm
supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (39:04):
That's the thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Then when I really learned, is that how it's really
to get me mindfulness, really to get me grounded, to
be in that moment to open up to whatever comes
to my mind. So whatever that comes in. That's when
I started realizing about visualization. That's when I started realizing,
oh and where messages come through.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
Then I started using music. Music would worry.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
And you know, and so I will have me a
whole you know, playlist of things and understand and literally
I would need those songs to come in.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Those songs will come in right on, you know, with
spare of boom boom boom boom boom, with the messages
that I need you understand what I'm saying. And so
for me I intertwine all of that, and you know,
I love visualization. You know I just to go just
with it.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
But can you share some specific visualization techniques for decision making?
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Yeah, for decision making because we think in such binary
thinking already, like one plus one is two, right, we'd
keep doing that always, back and forth. It's important to
start our decision making with the pro and the con.
But the problem with the pro and the con is
that we never think about what's in the middle, which
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is us. So they always teaches pro and con or
cause and effect, but we never actually put ourselves in
the middle of that. So the best way to do
it is to state the pro and then give the
cause and effect, then state the con and put the
cause and effect right. If we can do it that way,
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it helps out with our decision making processing because a
lot of times we just think of reward and punishment.
We have to start thinking of cause and effect. Rewards
and punishments are not real things. That's a capitalistic thinking,
and so we have to remove ourselves from the reward
and punishment and think of cause and effect instead.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I love that On Thursdays we have what we call
a threshold Thursday. It's like when you're there and you're
in that mindsetting, you've already made the decision and you
in the front, but then that reality of that decision
made is not quite there yet. So it's like, when
you're right there at that threshold, what do you feel?
How are you feeling right now? One other decisions that
you just made, and what do you feel is going forward?
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What do you see yourself moving forward from that? Because
you already made that decision, you studied at the threshold
that wasn't go through that door, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (41:33):
Yeah, And I'll be very transparent, very transparent. I think
I was gonna say this, but I had to make
a very hard decision last year that would put me
in such a terrible position, such a terrible position, and
it was going to hurt people around me, Hurt people
I love, hurt the things that I care about. But
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it was I knew that there was no reward to it. Yeah,
and there was a there was a there was a
bigger punishment than reward to it. But the cause and
the effect would have been I'm freeing myself and releasing
myself from a control that is not mine. There's a
criticism and a shame and a guilt that was holding
on to that was going to kill me internally, and
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I didn't want to live like that anymore. And so
I I I hope that whoever's listening to this understands
that sometimes you have to make the choice that makes
you look or feel unappreciated and unloved for the moment
so that you can fee yourself to be loved the
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right way and seeing the right way. And when you
do it, though, you became there's a there's a level
of inner strength and peace that no external validation could
ever commit to. So, you know, it's just important to
know that sometimes you have to make the least favorable
option to hold that.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
You know, Yeah, I love that, Thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
I think a lot of times that we we want
to just go with the what we think the flow
is to you know what I mean, just to make
it just whatever, but not knowing that we are truly
in pain. We're like in shackles that whole time instead
of you know, really releasing that and looking at really
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looking at the bigger picture.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
Like what do you want to feel? Like? Who do
you want to be?
Speaker 1 (43:31):
And I guess that's the thing is. And we talk
about this a lot about who are you?
Speaker 2 (43:35):
What's the definition of you? Of you? Not nobody else say,
but you feel that you are you know?
Speaker 1 (43:42):
And I think that's another thing and we can talk
about that on a later, later time or whatever about
us knowing it will help us to make those decisions
and understand between what fear and I love the way
that you say you did three levels of fear. Is
even breaking those down and how do they beneficial or
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catalyst in our relationship or in our self relationship with
self that allows us to move forward, if that makes yes?
Speaker 3 (44:12):
And I think when we do that, it's going to
change the way people value themselves. Yeah, because a lot
of our value has been based upon reward and punishment,
not authenticity.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah, Yeah, this has been a good one. This has
been a good one. Yes, Yeah, been a really really
good one. So you know, just this month we're doing two.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
Meditations.
Speaker 1 (44:47):
Y'all have to excuse me because when I say I
am going through brainfall.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Through brain fak so let me tell you hold on
for one minute. Job.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
As I'm sitting here, it's like the words are like this,
and I'm trying to catch them in my mind like
to put them.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:05):
Wow, I'm trying to catching butterflies as words. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
And I have to laugh because this is when I
told my baby earlierday. I was trying to explain something.
He was looking at me. I said, no, worry about
I'm gonna catch it in a minute.
Speaker 3 (45:17):
And I was just doing like I gotta get my
net this right, I was just.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Doing like this, but I was he was like wow,
he said, yeah, we gonna get them things.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
That they got to they got to go, they got
to go, you know, because I was.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
The type of person that I think about it when
I started with asks Nayomi, even when I was on radio,
man this boomoo.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
Now I have to have a teleprompt.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
I have to write everything out, type it out, put
it on there so it'd be like, okay.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
It's.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
Wow. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
So I can laugh right now because I can see,
like literally, I can see what is happening to my
body in my mind like that.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
That's that's all body body experience. That's the fact that
you can be conscious in that is wild.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Yes, yeah, be looking at me like, I don't ever
want to be in your mind.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
I promise I don't.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
I want to know what you think, whatever it is, Yes,
whatever it is you got, yes, whatever you need, Yes,
all right, that beautiful.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
People were gonna break it back to what I'm so sorry,
but I just had to share that with because.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
I'm like over here life.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Look, I'm just in your patient. I'm like happy, I'm
just sitting here happy. It's like I'm just happy to
be here.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Right back, We're like, I.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
Got you, all right, my beautiful people, I'm sorry, gonna
bring it back to one. So, you know, for just
this month only, we said that we were going to
do a closing meditation just to help, you know, kind
of you know, take us out in a more encouraging
and inspiring way. I know, we had a deep conversation today.
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We talked about some of the things that we needed
to talk about, and then we got a little deep
which I.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
Thought was pretty good. This is this is our this
is our mo. This is our mo here.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
So if you all can just do me one love
favor right now, if you all can just close your eyes,
whire close the meditation all right, Place one hand on
your heart, in one on your belty. I want to
take three deep breaths, allowing.
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Your body to relax with the checks help.
Speaker 1 (47:36):
I want to bring to mind any decision that you're
currently facing. Instead of trying to figure it out with
your mind, ask your body what feels right and notice
any sensation or any sense of expansion.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Or contraction.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
I want you to ask your heart, what do you
know to be true? To listen without Jeshua to whatever arises. Now,
imagine yourself six months from now, having made a decision
from your deepest rest.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
How does that version of you feel?
Speaker 1 (48:21):
What does she have for you or message that he
has for you? Now take one more deep breath and
trust that you have everything everything you need to make
the right.
Speaker 2 (48:40):
Choice for your life.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
Can gently open your eyes? All right, my beautiful people,
excuse me, I'm so sorry. If this episode resonate with you,
please share it with someone who might be struggling with
the diff decision. Sometimes we all need a reminder to
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just trust ourselves. And I want you to remember, my
beautiful people, this is that your intuition is your superpower.
The more you listen to it, the stronger it becomes,
and the more aligned that your life becomes with your
authentic truth. Doctor Will, is there any last words that
you want to say to our listeners today.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
Yeah, just be kind to yourself and you'll always.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
I know that's right, all right, And so until next week,
I want you guys to keep trusting your inner wisdom.
Remember that you are capable of making.
Speaker 3 (49:31):
The choices that honor your high school.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
Have an amazing, amazing day, have a good work. Thank
you for joining us on this journey of discovering and
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Speaker 2 (50:06):
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Speaker 1 (50:07):
Questions or topics that you'd like for us to explore,
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Speaker 2 (50:16):
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Speaker 1 (50:17):
So until the next time, take a moment for yourself
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all the beautiful things that life has to offer you.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
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welcome back to this season a Self Love Podcast. I'm
your host, Naomi Banks and this is Mindset Monday. So
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as we continue our transformative July series preparing for transformation, today,
we are diving into one of the most crucial skills
of any of us can do in develop and that's
learning to distinguish between fear and intuition when making major
life decisions. And believe me as someone who is about
to undergo explant surgery. This topic couldn't be more personal
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or relevant. But before we get into it, let's take
a quick break, all right, And y'all know who's here
to join me.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
You know, doctor will here. But we're gonna take a
quick break and then we'll be back.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
All right, it's your Gurty gott is here on this
season a self love podcast, and we'd be right back.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Washington wells into two focuses on healing. Always for me,
if I look good, then I feel good. If I
feel good, then I share the good. If I share
the good, then I celebrate the good. If I celebrate
the good, then I live the good. So I can
be paid to be my greatest. But I have to
learn the good to be the good. So what does
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may beautiful souls, But you know today's conversation is so
very close to mine. You know, I've been living in
this space between fear and intuition for months now. So
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when I first started having these health issues with Vertical,
you know, those severe headaches and unexplained symptoms that no
doctor could connect to my breast impluse, well, I had
to learn to trust my body's wisdom over medical authority,
and that dismissed my concerns when I said in my
altered months ago and I received that clear knowing that
these impluts had to go. I had to distinguish between
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the fear of judgment, the fear of change, the fear
of the unknown, and the deep intuitive knowing that this
decision will restore my health and my wholeness. You know,
this skill with being able to deferate between fear and
intuition isn't just important for my major medical decision, but
it's very essential for every significant choice that we make
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in our lives. Who to marry, whether to have children,
career changes, moving indy relationships, starting a new venture, all
of those things. You know, our lives are shaved by
these pivotal moments where we.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Have to decide. We have to decide.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Am I being guided by fear or by my deepest knowing?
And today I am so honored to have doctor Will
Washington back with us today. You know, doctor Will Washington,
he specializes in mindset, he specializes in healing, he specializes
in the decision making and emotional resilience. And he's been
very invaluable guy as I navigated through this preparation process.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
And now I'm going to welcome doctor Will Washington. Hey, Hey, hey, it's.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
So good to see you. It's a beautiful day to day.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Yes, yes it is, Yes it is. I know.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
We are like in week three of this series, and
I could just say the first two weeks have been
really great with the feedback in all.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
The responses have been really amazing too. I didn't think
that there would be such a not just just a
reaction to things, but people are really starting to talk
about a lot of fears that they didn't realize they
have until they read your story. There about your story.
So it's amazing how your story help people feel seen,
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even beyond their own own awareness. So I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Yeah, yeah, you know, before we even got I love
that we're talking about this now, about knowing the difference
between fear and intuition, because a lot of times that's
what stops us from making those decisions and those choices.
It's about trusting, truly trusting our body, truly trusting our body.
But before we really get into this topic, let's take
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a quick let's ground ourselves, all right, So you know,
my listeners out there, you know what to do. Get
in a nice comfortable position, all right, Close your eyes,
take a slow, deeper hold it for just a moment,
no exhale, gently allowing you to settle into this present moment.
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I want to feel your feet connected to the earth
beneath you, feel your body supported by whatever your sitting
or standing on right now. I want you to imagine
your inner voice, that calm, that clear, wise part of
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you that always knows what's right for your highest good. Now,
as you continue to breathe slowly and deeply, want you
to open your heart to understanding the difference between fear
and your intuition. Fear often speaks loudly with urgency and anxiety,
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and intuition it whispers quietly with certainty and peace. Now
your next breath, then, I want you to breathe in
confidence and your ability to discern, and I want you
to breathe out any doubt about your inner wisdom. You
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have everything you need within you to make the right
choices for your life. And when you are ready, gently
bring you awareness back to this conversation and carry that
sense of inner knowing with you. All right, my beautiful people, Well,
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welcome back. First, thank you for sharing that space with me.
And if you're new here to the season and self
of the podcast, this is something we do every day
Monday through Friday.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So before we dive.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Deep, I want to kind of set the stage for
our listeners. Why is it so important that we learn
to distinguish between fear and intuition, especially when we're facing
life altering decisions.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yes, to just keep it very foundational. Fear is instinctual.
Intuition is spiritual, right, and we have to understand that
sometimes our fear can become what we believe, and sometimes
what we believe can be limited by our fear. So
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I see it as like a teeter tighter, right, there's
really a teeter tighter mindset. And so it's really important
to put ourselves in the space where we can be honest,
we can be open, and we understand that fear is
an invitation of just awareness of what security is for us,
you know, So I say, let's just keep it simple
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at that place right now.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Okay, you know I like that.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
You you bringing it back, bringing it back to the basics,
all right. And so what you said for fear, fear
is more like state our invitation.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Of awareness of unresolved awareness, wounds, feelings, and it could
be a preparation for something that you know that may
be coming. So a lot of times fear is a
protector fears and all things.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
All right, So now let's talk about fear versus intuition.
What's exactly are we dealing with when we talk about there?
Because you did say intuition is spiritual because I think
a lot of people they use the term but don't
really understand what that means psychologically. So even though you
just broke it down with the fear, how can you
know one say, okay, so what's intuition there?
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, I can make it psycho spiritual and psychosomatic. Intuition
is like when they say trust your gut, when they
say that, you know, trust your first judgment. You know,
these things that don't really have statistical evidence, but it
does have a stathystical finding where our first choice is
typically our best one. Yeah, right, And a lot of
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us don't trust ourselves the first time because of how
we may be in conditioned by fear or the memory
of what fear has done to us in the past.
And so intuition is truly a mental trust, a trust fall,
which why I can sider it more spiritual than mental
or emotional. I can sier it more more of that.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
You know, thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I did a show last week about trusting abody were
better yet, And I want to make sure that I'm
saying this right. It was more looking at our body
as our teacher, meaning that you said it about that
gut feeling, that gut feeling in those emotions that we have.
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You know a lot of times we ignore them because
we try to make sense on what that is that
we're feeling instead of allowing that feeling to teach us
or tell us what that is.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Yes, and let's be honest. Where do you learn how
to trust fear.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
From society?
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Yeah, exactly. And a lot of times our fear is
award based, right, you lose the reward or you gain
the reward depending on how you're chosen in society. So
that could be a lot, that could be a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Now you just went there with me with that about
the rewarding thing. You know, because I think and I
hate talking about politics.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I really do.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
I really really do humanity I.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Know, but you know I hate talking about it. You
know why.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
It's because it puts a lot of people on a
different side of the coin coin and for me, it
gives me a deeper insight on who you are in
your values. And I'm sorry because I'm one of the
biggest ones to say you can't judge a book by
yours cover or whatever. But when I think about the
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humanity part of it, on certain things, that is offered
or toll to us. You know, that's like hmm, but
you know what's going to happen or you know what's happened,
and you still going to So that's why I don't
like to talk about politics, but I want to get
into that right now with the mere aspect of being rewarded,
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because what's happening right now in our society, in our
world right now is based off of fear, and that
fear is.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Being fears and and and you know, fear is the
real four letter word, right It's the real four letter word.
And and I know we don't want to go them, but
we have to understand that that fear, fear has the
same power as money. And we have learned to rely
upon what fear can do in times of chaos times
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of peace. There what what actually gets rid of fear?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Right?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
And how do you choose intuition in the midst of fear?
That is that is what this is all about. How
do you choose yourself in the midst of fear because
that is going to define your entire life, you know,
you know.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
That's what I It's so funny.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I just interviewed somebody yesterday and we kind of talked
about this a little bit, and I think that's the
that's the importance when we talk about self love because
when we really look and think about what self love, well,
my definition of self love is is having that intimate
relationship of yourself and being aware. So with that awareness
is that intuition comes in where you were able to
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trust whether what that fear looks like for you and
how it is going to determine what's in your life
or what decision or choices you make.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 3 (13:35):
Yeah, But we had we had a whole we had
a whole episode about this where I was saying that
intimacy is because relational work. It's the more I'm with you,
the more I see myself, and the more I see myself,
the more I trust how I'm expressing myself. Right, is
how much can you trust the way you express yourself?
That is true intimacy, right, and intuition allows you to
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understand and conceptualize what the experience may be for.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
You, right, and trust it and have faith in it.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah, to trust it and have faith in it. I
think a lot of the times, especially when it comes
to when we're dealing with especially when it comes from
the health aspect of it is that we look outside
of ourselves for those people who have went through and
they've gotten a degrees and this is what they do,
so we trust their knowledge more than we do our
own selves. I know, for me, I've been and I
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don't want to say gas lighted, but should that's what's
going on with you?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Are you sure that's what's happening?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
You know, let me take this test or let me
give you some medication for that. What you might think
that it is you understand what I'm saying. And so,
and I shared with you before about the explant documentary
that I had watched last week, and I was truly
horrified by what I witnessed throughout that whole time.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
The one thing is that.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
What I did love about doctors dude who is my surgeon,
is that when he when he found out about everything
that was going on with the implants. See, they wasn't
taught this in in medical school. They weren't taught this
in And I understand that. But now that he knows better,
he does not do implants at.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
All at all. You know.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
He does by to say I do no harm, no harm,
And he said, I know better, so I have to
do better.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
That is I took an Oh.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
And when you think about that, just being in just
just in humanity wise, just just living wise, that's like, Wow,
I've trusted someone who I thought, this is who I
paid my insurance from.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
This is who I've been going through And.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
I think about for fifty three years, I've had three babies.
You understand like, this is where and I didn't I
didn't trust I didn't trust myself. So when you look
at that coming from this point of view of it,
and I know it's a lot of women and men
that are listening to that.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And we could take it all up. We can go
racial with it. We could talk about the men, the
black men that they did the whole thing on. Yeah,
the whole you know, that whole thing on.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
And it's like, wow, when will we as human beings,
let's take the race out human beings start to trust
our own inner.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Self and what does that look like?
Speaker 1 (16:29):
So we can know the difference between fear and intuition,
and even within that word fear in so many ways
that we can dissect that because that fear could be
there as a protective and it can give us another
way to look at it whether than another fear in
a more negative way, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yes, And for me in my philosophy of healing, I see,
I see everything in the three layers. So you have
the worldly responsibility, the relational responsibility, and then the personal
self responsibility. And so fear has three levels. Right, There's
a worldly fear that we're experiencing, there's a relational fear
of uncertainty, and there's a self fear of whether you
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are enough to really be present in this? Are you
worthy enough to experience this to the folds of your
capability and your capacity? And a lot of us do
not feel certain in these three levels, and and a
lot of us are not even acknowledging the worldly fear
that we have the fact that people don't want to
watch the news, but you're willing to be on Instagram.
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That doesn't even make sense. Yeah, how can you be
on Instagram and then say you don't want to be
on the news. That doesn't that's a worldly fear, right,
that you want to have relationship, but you don't want
to be intentional about your relationship. So there this distortion
of control is really causing fear to have its course
in everybody's lives right now.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Yeah, So let me say this because I'm about to
be very honest with this one right here, right I
am one of the ones that right now I don't
like watching in this And why I don't like watching
the news is because it's like an energy exchange for me,
and I am very strained by that. You know, by that.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
You can't scrow it, huh, because you can't scroll through it.
It just repeats the same story over and over.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
But even on my feed, I don't get that. So
let me tell you when I get that. I get
that with my husband. Send me that shit, excuse me?
And I say, don't send me that. And why I
say that because I know I internalize it, and I'm
just gonna be very honest with you all. Spiritually, I'm
trying to figure out how not to allow that to
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take over my whole being, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
Yeah, ye see. And I'm the exact opposite where I'm like,
if I receive it and I feel it and I'm
internalizing it, I'm asking myself, what is it about this
that I'm feeling that makes me feel stuck with this feeling?
Because for me, my emotions typically flow in and out.
And so when I watch something and that it gets
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me stuck, it means that there's something there that I'm
attached to and not connected with. Becauhen i'm connected with
something or somebody, there's a flow. When I'm attached to
somebody or something, I feel stuck. Yeah, And then that
does something to me. I can feel and I know,
and I feel stuck with things. And that's the sensitivity
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I had to work on because I was completely insensitive
and I did not have the sensitivity I needed as
a man to move forward in my life. I realized that, wow,
mm yeah, that's yeah, fear. When I think of fear,
I think of attachments and connections and intuition. Being in
the middle of that.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
But I totally get when you say, when you're watching
something and then make you feel something, you want to
know why you're feeling that.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
And I'm there too.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
But what it does It drains me because I'm sitting
there in it, And I guess maybe that's what you're
talking about, being stuck, because I'm sitting there in it
trying to figure out the problem or how can I
do that? And I'm gonna be very honest which is
not even in my my wheelhouse, you.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
So it's like, okay, how can what's in your willhouse
determining that? So and when I say this even like really, Naomi,
so then I put something else on my plate and
more on my plate without.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Do you understand what I'm saying. So I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
What can I say because I get a little brand
fall right now, I'm trying to prioritize different things, and
I know that sounds so fucked up because the world
is so excuse my language, it's so fucked up, But
it's like, Okay, I have to prioritize the work that
I'm doing right now, and that's really to get to
the core of people feelings and motions and and self
love so we can slowly bring this out, hopefully in
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the next four or five years. Then who's ever in
you understand I'm saying just in my mind that is
where thinking. It's going to the core because what I'm
I'm watching the news that's all outside right now.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
Yeah, But but to your point, but to your point
that what you're talking about is fear manifesting, right, it's
it's it's understanding that it's understanding that there is a
fear that we have no control over or we feel
like we have no control over, and so the easiest
way is to remove ourselves from the situation because we
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realize that we don't have that control over things. And
that's a new level of awareness that we're having culturally,
is that we are all experiencing the same cultural fear
right now where we have no control over this. And
when we do have control, it's over how I treat
you and how you treat me and how I'm treating myself.
That's why I know I do have control over And
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in that faith that we talk about, the intuition is
really about understanding there's like there's a limitation that's not needed,
but there's a limitation that is that is meant to
presume our own emotional integrity. And we and we have
been way too exposed. We've been way too exposed to
things right now. And you're so right like we are.
We have been way too exposed to things. And society
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is not adapting as fast as what's happening right now,
even just with AI, like AI is working way fast
than our society is adapting to and what's what's going
to happen to us? Right, like, when we actually become
human enough to express ourselves. AI has already created the
infrastructure for us to even we can't even we can't,
it's not even a bottleneck. It's gonna be a gait
(22:34):
right right, But.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
There's a way that we can use that too. We
can use that as uh, you know, for our benefits
to really try to help grow and to really grow this.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
World, because we're not We're nowhere near grown.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
We're still infants in this world of chaos, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
What I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:53):
And so, but I receive everything that you just said.
I heard fit. I was like, I said, no, he
absolutely right, because I understand exactly what he means and
what he talk about in that instinct. Wow, you know,
we always go down to the rabbit hole. I mean
to go down the rabbit hole like that. But I
think this is a part of everything that we're talking
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about too, because yeah, yeah, yeah, Because when we're really
talking about understanding what fear is for us and understanding
how with intuition as well versus that instead especially making
those life changing decisions, that's.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
What you have to really think about.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
But even let's go back, and what I talked about
earlier is about truly having faith in your ability to
make a choice and live with that choice that you've made.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
And I would love to hear you explain the basis
of faith for people because this world's becoming we're being
more open about spirituality, and so people don't talk about faith,
talk about spirituality, but they don't seem to coincide faith
in that. So how do you define faith in the
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healing realm?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
You know? So I'm going to go back just a
little bit.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
When people usually think about faith, they think about church,
they think about religion, you know, they don't think about
having faith within yourself.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
What I think.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
About when I think about when I first let me
say first, when I first thought about faith and having
faith in something, it was always something outside of me.
That's something that we were taught by having something outside
of me. What you have to understand first is that
we were all created in God image. We all have
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God within us. It's spiritual. It's right here. People don't
understand what spirituality is. It's so many different things of
what people think spirituality. They think it you know, witch craft,
they think it is you know, budden, you.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Know what I'm saying. Then they started to put different types.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
Of religions on the spirituality aspect, when it's not is
just between you really in your own self and your
own being right here, yeah, right here. And I remember
talking about prayer, when we pray and we ask for
these certain things, and you say that you have faith
in God, but you don't because you still worried, you
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still stress, you still do it everything that's causing it
to happen to you. So where is the faith? Do
you know what the faith is? And I can be
very honest, I can say I have faith in myself.
Can I explain it? No, I can only show you.
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I can only show you.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I don't know if I can truly brak And I'm
just being honest. I don't know if I can truly.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Break the words down to have them understand what that is.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
H Yeah. And I think that's I think that's the
foundation of it, is learning the trust that your existence
has been enough to be present. And I think that
is the foundation that we're we're talking about, because when
you're navigating through fear, you're being told everything against you
around you, that you're you're learning to lose trust if
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you're being taught to lose trust, you're being asked to
grow faith. And that's the and that's the premise of
our future.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Mm.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
That was deep, doctor will.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
I'm with you.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah, that was deep. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1 (26:39):
Wow mm hmm. All right, let me stroll for a minute.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
I got you.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Let me stroll for a minute. Let me let me
go back to my notes over here. All right. So
because we did, we went deep right there? We really did.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
We went deep. All right, So let's let's get pacific
about major life decisions like surgery, INDI, relationships and career changes.
And I know we talked about we just got deep.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
So how do.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
Fear intuition show up differently in these high stake moments?
Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah, what it is is it's challenging your values. It's
making you have to adjust and change your values. What
do you really care about? What do you really believe in?
What do you actually want?
Speaker 1 (27:23):
You know?
Speaker 3 (27:24):
They say if they wanted to, they'll be there. If
they wanted to show up, they would, Like, if you
wanted it for yourself, you would. So a lot of
times our biggest decisions are are hard because it's making
us actually be accountable for what our values are and
psychologically speaking, we want to go with what where the
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reward is. No, people don't want to follow the pain.
That's why we have so much corruptness. It's because people
don't want to do the hard work. They don't want
to do the thing that's going to take a long time.
I want to press the button get the cookie. I
want to press the button of the cookie. I want
to press the button, do the chores and then get
half a cookie. Right. And so it's really understanding what
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is your enough? What is your enough? Are you okay
with your enough? What does it? What does it mean?
And so making those life altering choices, you're trying you
to be decisive and be okay with your values and
being in Unfortunately, as Americans, we do not always accept
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what it is enough. We just had to get a
little bit more, a little more off top or I'm okay,
I'm satisfied. What does satisfication mean in a life altering choice?
What does satisfication mean? We don't really talk about that.
Speaker 2 (28:47):
M you know, wow, So.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
You know I want to go back to this book.
I want to go back and as one of my
favorite books, change your paradign't change your life.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
And it was something that.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Bob Brock the sit and there he said about he
talked about his grandmother. He said, my grandmother used to
tell me, you know, you should be you should be
satisfied for where you at.
Speaker 3 (29:13):
Hmm.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
And he said, I love my grandmama, sure enough. But
grandma was wrong, and he said, he said, because we
we want to strive for even though we know that
that perfection is not there.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
We always strive for perfection.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
We always strive to be better, you know, we always
strive to go to another level.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
You know, even the education wise, once you.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
Once you finished kindergarten and you go to first grade,
and then you go to second grade, you know, then
you go you know, this is how we were always
built in that aspect of that is always getting better
in time. So when we say, when you say that
being satisfied or enough, it's like, how can we and
I know it's going somewhere else, but how can we
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know the difference what being grateful on what we have
but also being more than what people might feel that
you have enough?
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Am I making sense?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:13):
Yeah, to me, you're talking about the binary between gratitude
and entitlement. We are taught that we are not allowed
to be entitled. It's wrong to feel entitled. Being entitled
is a white thing. I'm like, No, the problem is
is that there's everything being entitled and being privileged, very
big difference. I am entitled to feel at peace with
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my life. I am entitled to ask and take time
off because I want rest. I am entitled to say
I don't want to do this relationship anymore because it's
making me become someone I do not want to be.
I should not be grateful that someone is just in
my life. I shouldn't be grateful that I just have
a job. I shouldn't be grateful that I had to
pay taxes that don't even mean anything to me because
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I'm not getting any percentage of that back.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
Right.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
There are there are ways that we've been taught to
We've been forced to feel grateful about things that we
should not be entitled to and that and that's the
problem is that these life altering choices are making us
think that we should be grateful for things. No, you
are entitled to have your body at peace. Mm hmm. You.
You are entitled to choose how you want to feel satisfied.
(31:24):
And someone has a problem with it. That's not that's
not their body to tell. That's not their body to tell.
And we have been we feel like we have access
to people and things that we have no ruling right over.
And that's wild that we think that we have this
audacity to this power of audacity. That's that's that's just
beyond me. That's beyond me.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Okay, real, I'm mad.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
I'm like, let you put your meditation back on. I'm mad,
Like who yeah, people just.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, but you know what that.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Especially now, I am that type of person that I
want to get all the way in there, you know that, right.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Look after I got my PhD. After I got my PhD,
I got the highest level of education you can get.
You can't get a double, you can't get like a
higher p like you just you just plateau. You just
get more PhDs or more masters, you plateau. I'm like,
there's no more grades I can there's no more grades
that I can go up to. Right, and yet I
know that I did not learn everything I could have learned.
(32:36):
I was not shown everything I need to show. I
was not given the freedom of financial freedom. My economy
did not support and provide for me. My government did
not support and provide for me, investing in the community
and being able to give back. I did not get
that support. So we're making a life altering choice to
be like, you know what, Yeah, I'm not gonna work
(32:56):
for anybody. I'm work for myself. Yeah, there's no company.
I can't take the CEO's company. And I don't mean
to like move forward, but like making a life altering
choice in my career. I'm not trying to be funny,
but like, I was literally sitting on the bathroom at
my company, and I was looking at my CEO and
my company, and I was in the bathroom taking a
little longer than lecture there, and I saw that what
(33:19):
he made in a month is what I made it
a year. I said, yeah, I'm gonna stay in the
bathroom a little longer, and I did. I took my
time because this person literally made as much as I
made a year in a month and he's not even
doing half the work I'm doing. The system has already
(33:40):
been automated. Yeah, so he's just in the position. And
so for me, it's like my gratitude and my entitlement
were finally at its friction, and I had to make
a choice of how much do I want to value
my life? And time is becoming the true factor of
worth right now? How do you spend your quality time
(34:01):
rather than your quantity time? Yeah, it's just it's happening.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Yeah, yeah, but I want to do this, and I
hope you just you follow me, right.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I want to make sure that the listeners understand that
he's not saying that he is not grateful for anything.
He's just saying that he and I want to make
sure that I'm saying that that you are entitled to
want more or entitled to be, you know, to be
in peace on what you want your life to be
for your values.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
Right.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
Yes, I went I went from an external hunger to
an internal awareness. And I had an external hunger. I
wanted the highest grade, the highest goal, the highest education,
the highestness, and then I realized that there was nothing
really there. It was it was an awareness knowing that
I'm competent. It was proud of myself. I'm grateful that
I was able to accomplish this, But it made me
(34:50):
turn back into self worth. Well, what does it? What
do I need to make me feel good? The image,
the representation that I represent is very strong, but my
heart needed was a connection, not an attachment. And that's
where I'm leading to I was to me the grades
and all these things were attachments because they could come
(35:11):
and go, right, But it's that connection I was desiring,
and many of us are being told not to do
that because of fear. Yeah, if you don't get the
highest grade, then you're never going to get this. If
you don't do this part, you're never going to get this. Yeah,
you're making me chase something that doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you for that. Thank you for following
me and bringing it back.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
Clearing it up too. Yeah, I was in it.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
I look, I got you. So let's get really practical.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Now, what are some specific tools our listeners can use
to strengthen their connection to their intuition and make more
confident decisions?
Speaker 3 (35:59):
Yeah, start small, Start small decisions. So like learning how
to choose yourself starts from the moment you wake up, Well,
how do you choose how you want to get out
of bed, choose how you want to eat, choose how
you so make all these decisions right, and then what
you do is actually stick with those decisions throughout the day.
(36:21):
So like I'm gonna choose lunch right, I'm like, you know, lunch,
I mean, I'm gonna eat a BLT. I'm not gonna
eat a cheeseburger. And then throughout the day you stick
with that choice. Doesn't matter what happened today doesn't matter.
How does matter if you went to another restaurant, go
to where the belt is a lot of us change
our minds so much and so fast that we don't
(36:42):
even know what it feels like to stick through a decision.
So then your intuition is always being misguided because it's
never fully it's never comes to term. We never give
a term to our intuition. So make decisions before they
happen and actually go through it and see how, you know,
get through your day knowing that you have to stick
with the decision that you've already made. That's a great
(37:06):
way to start.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Yeah, I love that. I love that. All right, So
let's talk about meditation. Let's talk about meditation.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
In mindfulness, because I know some people think that they're
not good enough, they're not good at meditation. You know,
how can someone who's never meditated to start connecting with
their inner wisdom?
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Yes, to get to inner wisdom, you have to release
the inner critic. A lot of times many of us
are are not good at meditation because we don't know
what it means to be a meditator. We don't know
what does it look like to be a meditator, or
we have an image of meditation that is unrealistic to
our lifestyle. My first image of a meditation was a
(37:51):
shalin monk that was glowing and floating in the air.
I was like, Oh, that's meditation. I'm not going to
get that. I'm in Cleveland. I'm not I'm not just
on mountain up here. We got lakes, you know, So
I'm not going to do that. So I had to
remove the expectation of what I thought a meditator should
be and look like, and I had to learn the
(38:11):
ritual that was needed. So you have to find your ritual,
and you have to remove the inner critic of what
you think peace looks like as a meditator. And also
with mindfulness, it's not about having complete silence. It's about
allowing the flow of thought.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
So a lot of it is typically educational awareness, and
it's typically just we have a representation of something that
is against us. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
You know, for me, and when I first started with Meditator.
I remember, I'm thinking that I had to be in silence.
That's what I thought at first. I really thought like
I had to be inside this.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
So maybe some you know that type of thing.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
And like hold the polls right in.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
The whole time, I'm sitting there wrecking my brain and
stressing out because my mind is going all over the place,
and first of all, I'm not even knowing what I'm
supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (39:04):
That's the thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
Then when I really learned, is that how it's really
to get me mindfulness, really to get me grounded, to
be in that moment to open up to whatever comes
to my mind. So whatever that comes in. That's when
I started realizing about visualization. That's when I started realizing,
oh and where messages come through.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
Then I started using music. Music would worry.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
And you know, and so I will have me a
whole you know, playlist of things and understand and literally
I would need those songs to come in.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Those songs will come in right on, you know, with
spare of boom boom boom boom boom, with the messages
that I need you understand what I'm saying. And so
for me I intertwine all of that, and you know,
I love visualization. You know I just to go just
with it.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
But can you share some specific visualization techniques for decision making?
Speaker 3 (39:57):
Yeah, for decision making because we think in such binary
thinking already, like one plus one is two, right, we'd
keep doing that always, back and forth. It's important to
start our decision making with the pro and the con.
But the problem with the pro and the con is
that we never think about what's in the middle, which
(40:18):
is us. So they always teaches pro and con or
cause and effect, but we never actually put ourselves in
the middle of that. So the best way to do
it is to state the pro and then give the
cause and effect, then state the con and put the
cause and effect right. If we can do it that way,
(40:40):
it helps out with our decision making processing because a
lot of times we just think of reward and punishment.
We have to start thinking of cause and effect. Rewards
and punishments are not real things. That's a capitalistic thinking,
and so we have to remove ourselves from the reward
and punishment and think of cause and effect instead.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
I love that On Thursdays we have what we call
a threshold Thursday. It's like when you're there and you're
in that mindsetting, you've already made the decision and you
in the front, but then that reality of that decision
made is not quite there yet. So it's like, when
you're right there at that threshold, what do you feel?
How are you feeling right now? One other decisions that
you just made, and what do you feel is going forward?
(41:24):
What do you see yourself moving forward from that? Because
you already made that decision, you studied at the threshold
that wasn't go through that door, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (41:33):
Yeah, And I'll be very transparent, very transparent. I think
I was gonna say this, but I had to make
a very hard decision last year that would put me
in such a terrible position, such a terrible position, and
it was going to hurt people around me, Hurt people
I love, hurt the things that I care about. But
(41:56):
it was I knew that there was no reward to it. Yeah,
and there was a there was a there was a
bigger punishment than reward to it. But the cause and
the effect would have been I'm freeing myself and releasing
myself from a control that is not mine. There's a
criticism and a shame and a guilt that was holding
on to that was going to kill me internally, and
(42:21):
I didn't want to live like that anymore. And so
I I I hope that whoever's listening to this understands
that sometimes you have to make the choice that makes
you look or feel unappreciated and unloved for the moment
so that you can fee yourself to be loved the
(42:41):
right way and seeing the right way. And when you
do it, though, you became there's a there's a level
of inner strength and peace that no external validation could
ever commit to. So, you know, it's just important to
know that sometimes you have to make the least favorable
option to hold that.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
You know, Yeah, I love that, Thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
I think a lot of times that we we want
to just go with the what we think the flow
is to you know what I mean, just to make
it just whatever, but not knowing that we are truly
in pain. We're like in shackles that whole time instead
of you know, really releasing that and looking at really
(43:26):
looking at the bigger picture.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
Like what do you want to feel? Like? Who do
you want to be?
Speaker 1 (43:31):
And I guess that's the thing is. And we talk
about this a lot about who are you?
Speaker 2 (43:35):
What's the definition of you? Of you? Not nobody else say,
but you feel that you are you know?
Speaker 1 (43:42):
And I think that's another thing and we can talk
about that on a later, later time or whatever about
us knowing it will help us to make those decisions
and understand between what fear and I love the way
that you say you did three levels of fear. Is
even breaking those down and how do they beneficial or
(44:04):
catalyst in our relationship or in our self relationship with
self that allows us to move forward, if that makes yes?
Speaker 3 (44:12):
And I think when we do that, it's going to
change the way people value themselves. Yeah, because a lot
of our value has been based upon reward and punishment,
not authenticity.
Speaker 2 (44:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah, Yeah, this has been a good one. This has
been a good one. Yes, Yeah, been a really really
good one. So you know, just this month we're doing two.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
Meditations.
Speaker 1 (44:47):
Y'all have to excuse me because when I say I
am going through brainfall.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Through brain fak so let me tell you hold on
for one minute. Job.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
As I'm sitting here, it's like the words are like this,
and I'm trying to catch them in my mind like
to put them.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (45:05):
Wow, I'm trying to catching butterflies as words. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
And I have to laugh because this is when I
told my baby earlierday. I was trying to explain something.
He was looking at me. I said, no, worry about
I'm gonna catch it in a minute.
Speaker 3 (45:17):
And I was just doing like I gotta get my
net this right, I was just.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
Doing like this, but I was he was like wow,
he said, yeah, we gonna get them things.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
That they got to they got to go, they got
to go, you know, because I was.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
The type of person that I think about it when
I started with asks Nayomi, even when I was on radio,
man this boomoo.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
Now I have to have a teleprompt.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
I have to write everything out, type it out, put
it on there so it'd be like, okay.
Speaker 2 (45:50):
It's.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
Wow. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
So I can laugh right now because I can see,
like literally, I can see what is happening to my
body in my mind like that.
Speaker 3 (46:04):
That's that's all body body experience. That's the fact that
you can be conscious in that is wild.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
Yes, yeah, be looking at me like, I don't ever
want to be in your mind.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
I promise I don't.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
I want to know what you think, whatever it is, Yes,
whatever it is you got, yes, whatever you need, Yes,
all right, that beautiful.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
People were gonna break it back to what I'm so sorry,
but I just had to share that with because.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
I'm like over here life.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Look, I'm just in your patient. I'm like happy, I'm
just sitting here happy. It's like I'm just happy to
be here.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Right back, We're like, I.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
Got you, all right, my beautiful people, I'm sorry, gonna
bring it back to one. So, you know, for just
this month only, we said that we were going to
do a closing meditation just to help, you know, kind
of you know, take us out in a more encouraging
and inspiring way. I know, we had a deep conversation today.
(47:03):
We talked about some of the things that we needed
to talk about, and then we got a little deep
which I.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
Thought was pretty good. This is this is our this
is our mo. This is our mo here.
Speaker 1 (47:13):
So if you all can just do me one love
favor right now, if you all can just close your eyes,
whire close the meditation all right, Place one hand on
your heart, in one on your belty. I want to
take three deep breaths, allowing.
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Your body to relax with the checks help.
Speaker 1 (47:36):
I want to bring to mind any decision that you're
currently facing. Instead of trying to figure it out with
your mind, ask your body what feels right and notice
any sensation or any sense of expansion.
Speaker 2 (47:55):
Or contraction.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
I want you to ask your heart, what do you
know to be true? To listen without Jeshua to whatever arises. Now,
imagine yourself six months from now, having made a decision
from your deepest rest.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
How does that version of you feel?
Speaker 1 (48:21):
What does she have for you or message that he
has for you? Now take one more deep breath and
trust that you have everything everything you need to make
the right.
Speaker 2 (48:40):
Choice for your life.
Speaker 1 (48:43):
Can gently open your eyes? All right, my beautiful people,
excuse me, I'm so sorry. If this episode resonate with you,
please share it with someone who might be struggling with
the diff decision. Sometimes we all need a reminder to
(49:03):
just trust ourselves. And I want you to remember, my
beautiful people, this is that your intuition is your superpower.
The more you listen to it, the stronger it becomes,
and the more aligned that your life becomes with your
authentic truth. Doctor Will, is there any last words that
you want to say to our listeners today.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
Yeah, just be kind to yourself and you'll always.
Speaker 1 (49:24):
I know that's right, all right, And so until next week,
I want you guys to keep trusting your inner wisdom.
Remember that you are capable of making.
Speaker 3 (49:31):
The choices that honor your high school.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
Have an amazing, amazing day, have a good work. Thank
you for joining us on this journey of discovering and
empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember,
embracing self love is a continuous journey, and we're so
glad to have you with us. So if you enjoy
today's episode, please leave us a review and don't forget
(49:57):
to join our community on Facebook Season of Self Love
connect with like minded individuals who are also on their
self love journey.
Speaker 2 (50:06):
Now, if you have any.
Speaker 1 (50:07):
Questions or topics that you'd like for us to explore,
we'd love to hear from you. Email us at Seasonosseelflove
at gmail dot com and let your.
Speaker 2 (50:16):
Voice be heard.
Speaker 1 (50:17):
So until the next time, take a moment for yourself
today and remember you are worthy of love, joy, and
all the beautiful things that life has to offer you.
Speaker 2 (50:28):
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