August 13, 2025 • 40 mins
t Join host Nyomi Banks for this profound Wisdom Wednesday episode featuring transformational healer Ann Hince, founder of Sacred Spirit Journeys. Ann's remarkable journey from profound childhood trauma to deep inner healing demonstrates the incredible power of releasing stored emotional burdens and reclaiming peace through body awareness and emotional freedom techniques.
🎯 What You'll Discover:
• How childhood trauma gets stored physically in our bodies for decades
• The revolutionary EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping method for releasing stuck emotions
• Why asking "why" can take you out of the present healing moment
• How to develop deep body awareness to feel emotions as physical sensations
• The connection between emotional release and actual physical growth
• Practical tools for becoming "imperturbable" - at peace regardless of external circumstances
💫 Ann's Transformation Story: After 20 years of carrying unprocessed grief from finding her mother dead at 19, Ann's healing journey began when two mothers at her children's school triggered a three-day mental spiral. This seemingly small incident revealed the massive emotional burden she'd been carrying from complex childhood PTSD, including being the only girl at a boys' boarding school where she was mercilessly teased.
⚡ The Breakthrough Moment: During a routine doctor's visit, Ann rated her stress level as 8/10 despite being a stay-at-home mom with healthy children. When asked why, she realized the tears from finding her mother's body were still "just under the surface." Her holistic physician introduced her to EFT tapping, and in just 15 minutes, she could tell the story of her mother's death without tears.
🌟 The Physical Reality of Stored Emotions: Ann's journey revealed that:
🎯 What You'll Discover:
• How childhood trauma gets stored physically in our bodies for decades
• The revolutionary EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping method for releasing stuck emotions
• Why asking "why" can take you out of the present healing moment
• How to develop deep body awareness to feel emotions as physical sensations
• The connection between emotional release and actual physical growth
• Practical tools for becoming "imperturbable" - at peace regardless of external circumstances
💫 Ann's Transformation Story: After 20 years of carrying unprocessed grief from finding her mother dead at 19, Ann's healing journey began when two mothers at her children's school triggered a three-day mental spiral. This seemingly small incident revealed the massive emotional burden she'd been carrying from complex childhood PTSD, including being the only girl at a boys' boarding school where she was mercilessly teased.
⚡ The Breakthrough Moment: During a routine doctor's visit, Ann rated her stress level as 8/10 despite being a stay-at-home mom with healthy children. When asked why, she realized the tears from finding her mother's body were still "just under the surface." Her holistic physician introduced her to EFT tapping, and in just 15 minutes, she could tell the story of her mother's death without tears.
🌟 The Physical Reality of Stored Emotions: Ann's journey revealed that:
- All negative experiences get stored as physical tension in our bodies
- Unprocessed emotions from childhood continue directing our adult lives
- We use precious energy keeping suppressed tears and trauma locked inside
- The body can actually grow and change when deep tension is released (Ann grew 3/4 inch in her 50s!)
- The Pandora's Box Effect: Once you start releasing trauma, your subconscious opens up and reveals more layers to heal
- Beyond the Big Traumas: Small conditioning from family, teachers, and society also gets stored as tension
- The Progression of Awareness: Healing moves from no body awareness to deep tissue and bone awareness
- Sound and Physical Sensation: Advanced healing allows you to feel sound vibrations throughout your entire body
- Identify the emotion or memory that's causing distress
- Tap on 9 specific acupressure points while talking through the experience
- Go through the story multiple times - each round reveals new details and emotions
- Continue until it becomes "just a story" with no emotional charge
- The tapping does the work for you - you don't need to feel to use it effectively
- Notice a thought with emotion (e.g., "I'm afraid to make this phone call")
- Find where that emotion lives in your body (fear often sits in the solar plexus)
- Stop like a statue - no breathing, no movement to maintain focus
- Talk to the sensation: "I can feel you there. I just want you to relax. It's okay to be felt."
- Give it attention without trying to change it
- Repeat until the emotion releases completely
- "All those tears we never shed in childhood are still stored inside of us, and we're using energy to keep them in"
- "We don't need to ask 'why' - the sensation is coming up to be felt, and once we release it, the 'why' often pops into our mind anyway"
- "My ultimate goal is to be imperturbable - to stand at peace regardless of what's happening around me"
- "There is so much more depth to life than we're aware of now - once we heal, life becomes fun and we feel physically lighter"
- Physical lightness and actual height increase
- Enhanced vocal range due to skull tension release
- Ability to feel sound vibrations throughout her body
- Deep understanding of how life works from the inside out
- Capacity to watch news and use it as a healing opportunity
- Joy, laughter, and fun that were previously supp
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welcome back. Well hello Anne, Hi, Are you ready?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
I am ready? Yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yes, So before usually before we start our conversation, we
do a nice grounding probably be like a minute a
little bit over a minute grounding meditation session, So before
we get into the conversation. Okay, is that all right?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yes, let's do that.
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All right, my listeners, so you know, get into a
nice comfortable position if you can close your eyes right now,
all right. I want you your nail deeply through your nose,
filling your lungs with air. I want you to hold on
for a brief moment. Now exhale slowly and completely, releasing
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any tension or stress. I want you to feel your
body relaxing with.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
Each bro.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Now as you continue to breathe at your own pace,
I want you to bring awareness to the present moment
and feel the weight of your body grounding you to
the earth. I want you to notice any sensation within
your body with that judgment, just simply observing. Take a
deep breath, thin drawing in peace and clarity, and I
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want you to exhale any distractions or words that may
be clouding your mind. With each breath creates space for
insights and intuition to flow freely. Now envision a bright
light at the center of your being, radiating more and wisdom,
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And with each innal, allow this light to expand and
illuminate your mind and spirit, and feel a sense of
calm and serenity in you. Take one final deep breath
in embracing this moment of stillness and interconnection, and exhale slowly,
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carrying this sense of present and openness with you.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
As you move forward.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So when you are ready, gently open your eyes and
carry this feeling mindfulness.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Throughout your day.
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You are grounded, you are centered and open to the
insights that away. All right, my beautiful people. First of all,
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If you're new here to the season and self love.
All right, So miss Anne again, welcome, welcome, I thank
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you again for just joining me on this series. I'm
excited about our conversation.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Thank you. It's great to be here. I'm excited too,
because I think we have some things in common.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yes, we do, all right, So let's dive in. You've
walked an incredible, an incredible path one field with heartbreak,
healing and just deep transformation. You know, for those who
may not know your story, your full story, could you
take us back to where and share what led you
to the work that you're doing.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Now. Sure, I started this work about twenty years ago,
in my late thirties, which now feels like a long
time ago, but at the time, it's like, gosh, it
took me that long to realize that my childhood was
still affecting me. It's like, wow, But it did. It
took something happening, and it was. It wasn't a big deal, really,
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but it was two other mothers at my boys' school.
They told me I'd done something wrong. And these women
were not like me. I was a scared mother on
the inside. I was always afraid because you know, I
had complex PTSD from my childhood. We could talk about
that if we want to. But they told me I'd
done something wrong, and these women were self confidence, self assured,
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authority type women, and I just could not stop my
mind spinning. It just went over and over everything that happened.
You know, what they said, what I said, what I did,
what I could have done differently. I could not stop
my mind for about three days, and it was at
the end of that I realized, Okay, this is not normal.
I don't know anyone else who would react this intently
(08:03):
to something that really wasn't a big deal. But I
also realized it felt like how I would react when
my dad would tell me I'd done something wrong. So
that was the first little opening that maybe my childhood
was still affecting me. But I didn't know what to
do at that point. I just kind of had that
little opening. So that was when I started looking deeper
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than I had been looking. And I went to a
doctor's appointment, and he was a holistic physician, so he
had more tools in his toolbox than most doctors do.
And I can't remember why I went there. It was
nothing to do with my mental health. I have no idea,
but certainly it wasn't about my mental health. But he
recognized I was really stressed, and he asked me, on
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a scale of zero to ten, what my stress level was.
Because I was a stay at home mother, were too
healthy young boys, I shouldn't have been that bad, and
it was an eight out of ten. And then he
asked me why, and it was that question that made
me realize, Oh, it was finding my mother dead on
the bathroom floor when I was nineteen. So the tears
from that event were still just under the surface all
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those years later because I hadn't dealt with it. So
he happened to know the technique that's called eft. Now
do you know that technique.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, I'm not familiar with.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
It's called tapping. Another word is tapping, because we're tapping
on our body as we're talking something through. He knew
that technique and he tapped with me about my mother's death,
and we tapped for about fifteen minutes, which is pretty
good for a doctor's appointment, and I went home being
able to tell the story of her death in my
mind without the tears there. And I realized at that point,
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is so okay, we store those memories and those emotions
physically in our body, and that we could let them go.
And that was eye opening to me. At the time,
I had no idea that was even possible. So that
was the start of my journey.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Oh wow. Oh well, first of all, thank you for
sharing that. I know so many of our listeners they
carry emotional burdens. I know I've been wanted to do
it all the time and would fill it in my body,
And a lot of times they don't realize it that
they're still holding on from things from old childhood, whether
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it's wounds or even you know, someone teasing them. I
remember just the other day, I had a client that
I was talking with, and just in his conversation, it
was so much anger build up from his brother, his
assibly rivalry, was brother bullying him, and he didn't understand
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why their relationship wasn't what he thought it should be.
It was so much resentment in it that he was
holding on to that he couldn't see his brother in
anything else but as that bully, you know, and anybody
else that actually talked or spoke or was a figure
of that of his brother. And we tend to do
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that a lot and not even know it. What I
do like is that you did to take those three
days and find out why is this trigger so much? Like?
Why is this conversation with these two ladies telling me
that I am doing something wrong with my children?
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Why?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Why? I love that you even stepped out and was like, Okay,
wait a minute, this is three days and I'm still
thinking about with these other two ladies you know, thought
of me. Can you speak up to what processed the
grief that you stored in your emotional with that pain,
with just realizing that at that moment, Well, I didn't.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I mean, it took me three days and I couldn't
have done it any faster because I did, that realization
didn't come till the end, yeah, right, And that's when
I realized that we kind of replay things over an
over again. So I had teasing a lot of teasing
in my childhood because I was sent to a boys
boarding school and I was the only girl boarder at
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this boys' boarding school. So I was tused mercilessly. So
I one of the reasons I went on my journey
because I had two boys, Yeah, and my boys were
getting older and I didn't want them to get to
that age of the boys in my boarding school, which
was age nine through thirteen, because I was terrified of
boys that age because I was teased so mercilessly. So,
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like you said, just like we tend to see everyone
through those lenses that we've stored inside. So I knew
I had to get over that, get over that teasing
and everything before my boys got to that age. So
that was part of what pushed me on this journey.
So you know, and over the year, well to begin with,
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over the weeks and months, right, I realized how much
we store inside and it we store everything inside. Everything
negative gets stored inside of us as tension. So it
might be a big trauma, but it also might be
a small trauma, but it's also conditioning from our family,
our siblings, our parents, our teachers, society, all of that
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gets stored inside of us as tension. But we can't
see that. We can't see beyond the big traumas, right,
if we've got a big trauma, those emotions that are
stored inside kind of direct our life. They direct what
we see. So we have to work through those big
things first, which is why I had to work through
my mother's death as the first thing I worked through.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Yeah, so that was my next question. My next question
was going to be how did you work through your
mother's death when your first initial so let me go back,
let's go back, let's go back when you did see
your mother's body, when you did discover her body on floor.
What did you feel in that moment?
Speaker 4 (13:56):
I was a panic. I was terrified and in shock
and afraid. I was the only one in the house
other than her, So there were all sorts of emotions
that were hidden there. But all I could see to
begin with was shock, and I suppressed it all because
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that's what we did as a family. We didn't talk
about things. She actually had cancer, so we knew there
was an end at some point. She had throat and
lung cancer, so what ended up happening is a tumor
in her throat burst. So it was a very sudden
and very messy death. But we'd only talked about her
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having cancer one time, which was months prior to that.
So as a family, we just didn't talk about things.
So I never talked about what had happened in detail
with anyone. I just kept all those emotions hidden inside.
So it took some work to deal with it and
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to let it go.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
So when and I'm trying not to go too deep
because I want to kind of stay, I have a
tend to go down a rabbit hole sometimes, so you
have to excuse me.
Speaker 4 (15:12):
I like going deep.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So when you when you realized after those three days,
and you realize and you went to the doctor, and
you went to see that very special doctor that helped
to give you tools to realize what was happening with you,
that you were actually releasing stored emotional trauma that was
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happening with you through all of these years. Could you
share with our listeners what did it look like when
that first initial release happened for you?
Speaker 4 (15:47):
It was tears. I let out those tears. I just
we hold tears back. And now I now believe you know,
all these years later, that all those tears we never
shed in childhood are still stored inside of us, and
we're using energy to keep them in. And most of us,
I think, would much rather use that energy for other things,
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would like our body to use that energy to heal.
So we want to let those tears out. So that's
what I did with him in that fifteen minutes. I cried.
I said things that I had never hadn't said in decades. Right,
I told him things, So I said them out loud
as I was tapping, and let those emotions flow until
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once they've flown enough, once those emotions have left the body,
then you're at peace. Yeah, so that wasn't just the
first I didn't just tap with him that one time.
I did tap with him just the one time. But
then I went home and I learned how to use EFT.
It was given away by Gary Craig for free, and
you could go online, and you still can go online,
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and then everything you can about it for free, which
was really nice. But I had to go back and
tap through her story again, because the subconscious mind opens
up once it's been released, Pandora's box opening up. Once
it's been released. You start to remember more aspects of
the events that have happened. So I would tap through
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the event. I'd talk through it from beginning to end.
You know, I woke up one morning and the radio
wasn't told and she always had to radio on that
kind of thing. I talk through everything that happened that day,
and as I tapped, as I tapped on these points,
the acty pressure points, and then I went back to
the beginning of the story and I tapped through it again.
And each time I went through it, I might remember
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more details that had been hidden before, and more emotions
that had been hidden under those big emotions. And I
just kept going until it just became a story. I'm
just telling a story like reading from a book. There's
no energy left in my voice, there's no emotions left inside.
And at that point, you know you've you've released it.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah. Yeah, So let me ask you this once you
released it all, well, let's go back. Let me ask
this question first before I access one. Now that all
that is released, what made you want to share your
journey in your gifts?
Speaker 4 (18:18):
Well, that comes all the way down to the last
few years where I went through I worked on EFT,
I went through all my traumas and every emotion that
would come up during the day, I worked through them,
and my awareness got deeper and deeper inside. And I
became aware inside my body, which is a really weird
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thing to say, and it was really weird to experience
at the time. And I can now focus inside my
bones and my tissues, and I can release tension in
the connective tissue and the bones with my focused awareness.
And I felt my skull bones shift or relax. And
I've grown three quarters of an inch in my fifties
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because of that release of that burden. And I hadn't
heard anyone else talk about this. I didn't know we
had these capabilities inside of us, and I wanted to
other people to know that we can do these incredible things.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
You know, I love that. You know. I'm sitting here
a lost of words right now because at this moment,
I feel everything that you're saying. Just in April, we
were talking where our topic was the whole month is
on mindfulness and just sitting and still And one of
the things that I shared with on one of the episodes
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was about heartful listening. So as I'm sitting here and
I'm listening to you, were full of heart, just what
my heart is so full I'm hearing mind and body connection.
When you talk about feeling the different things and are
different in your body's moving or growing or release scene,
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you know, that's something that you're right. No one's never
heard that, But as you speaking and saying that, I'm
feeling that right now like I'm feeling. And my prayer
is that our listeners can feel that too. So a
lot of times when we think that our emotions are
just in our head, but they live in our whole
entire body. How do you help people become aware of
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that that they can fear what you just gave to me?
How can our listeners link that between their emotional and
physical states, how can they get there?
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Well, you have from listening to your podcast, you have
a deeper level of awareness self awareness than I had
when I started. I was not aware of sensations in
my body. I was not aware of emotions and where
they live inside of my body. I was so suppressed
everything for so long, I just didn't know how I felt.
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So to me, that first level using EFT was the
first step that allowed the tension to release, like the
big emotions to release. And as that happens, the self
awareness deepens, So I became aware at a deeper level.
I can sense the emotions inside the body now when
we learn about an emotion as a child, So think
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back to when you're a child, and if you saw
someone who was sad, who was crying, someone would have
said to you, oh, that persons sad. So we would
have related the physical aspects of being sad with the
word sad, right, And over time we kind of suppress
the actual emotions or the feelings themselves, the sensations themselves,
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and we just used the word. So we'll say we're frustrated,
but we won't be aware that frustration lives inside of
us as physical sensations. Yeah, so this work that I
did reverse that process, started to become aware of those
physical sensations and then wear deeper inside the body. Right,
So there was a progression from no awareness to deep awareness.
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So when I'm working with people, I'm taking them through
those first steps, working through those traumas, releasing the big
emotions so that the self awareness develops at a deeper
and deeper level.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
You know, thank you for sharing that, because especially for
me going through my journey, having those emotions and those
feelings is it feels, and I know a lot of
my listeners can agree. Sometimes it feels so draining on
you physically, and then it goes into an emotional drain
(22:43):
as well, because now you're thinking, Okay, what have I
just done? What I've opened up? What am I? You know?
What am I I'm doing to myself? And then once
you truly and this is how So let me say
this when before we got on our listeners, I share
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with in that just being with this podcast is doing
this podcast has been such an amazing discovery for myself
with this and in growing we're now in August of
this month doing this series, going on two years has
been an amazing discovery for myself and understanding being so
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self aware and even when people are talking, even when
you're talking, feeling each word and emotion that you are saying.
For me, it truly is a whole deeper feeling and
emotion that sometimes you do feel daunting because it's so much.
And I know I have a lot of listeners, because
I have some that have written in about what do
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we do with all of that? What do we do
with all of that?
Speaker 4 (23:55):
We feel it, We just relax into it. Now for
me with EFT, I mean, EFT is just such an
amazing technique because you don't have to be able to
feel to use it. The tapping does the work for you.
So that was kind of my first step. But as
I became aware of the physical sensations underneath the emotions.
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For example, where frustration lives inside of my body is
tension in my solar plexus, I started to feel those
feelings instead of using the tapping. Right, So you're aware
at this level. Many people, including me are not, But
when you're aware at this level, you can just feel them.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Now.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
I think my way of feeling feelings is a little
different from some of the people we hear. So the
way I would do it is I would notice a
thought that had an emotion. For example, I'm afraid of
making a phone call right that's got fear in it.
So I would find that fear inside of my body,
notice where it was, focus on it, and at that
(24:58):
point I would stop and hold myself like a statue.
I wouldn't take any more breath in or out. I
would just stop and not move any muscle because if
I tried to focus on it and breathe or focus
on it and move, I would lose my focus. So
I would just stop like a statue and hold my
focus on it, and I would talk to it. I
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would say things like, Okay, I can feel this tension
or this fear right there in my solar plexus. I
can feel you right there. I just want you to relax,
to be I just want you to be felt. It's
okay to feel you to be felt. I'm not trying
to change you in any way. I just want to
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feel you, to give you the attention that you never
had before, which is why you got stuck inside. I
just want to give you that attention and allow you
to release. Then at some point I'd have to take
a deep breath, obviously, and then I'll do it again.
I think the same thought again, feel the same tension again,
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which now might be a little bit less, and I
would do it again, and I would do that again
and again until the in motion the fear had left,
at which point it becomes easy to make the phone call. Yeah.
So that's what we do at all the levels. Even
right now when I'm focusing inside my head on the
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tissues and buns, I'm just allowing it and not changing it.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I know you know this.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
I'm not trying to change it in any way. I'm
just allowing it to be. I'm giving it the attention
that it wants, and that's when it releases, When it's
been felt enough, it releases.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Yeah, thank you. I love that. And let me tell
you why I love that. It's because a lot of
times when we talk about self love, self care, self healing,
a lot of times we think about how can we
fix it?
Speaker 5 (26:55):
Yes, I don't know if you can hear me, but
it's gone.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yep, I can hear you. I can hear it frollze
off over here too. So let me go back when
we what you have shared about the way that you
do yours. I think everybody experience is different. And a
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lot of times we are talked to kind of we're
gonna fix this, we're gonna fix this fear, we're gonna
make We're not gonna feel it, but we're gonna fix
this fear. But I love the way that you said
how we're gonna acknowledge that fear and we're gonna talk
to that fear. We're gonna figure out where is okay.
So this is you're fearful. I understand that you're there,
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and I thank you, and I always say and I
thank you for just protecting this moment. We don't need
the fear of the protection. So I love how you
even said the way that you do it, because the
way that I might say it it might not resonate
with everyone. Does that make sense?
Speaker 4 (28:13):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
And so this is why I love when I have
amazing people that come on and share their experience with
our listeners, because they are our listeners. Because how you
do with emotional resilience could be the very people that
speak your language, and I don't mean foreign language, I
mean that truly speak your healing language and that can
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hear you when you speak yes as well as me.
So when you said that, I was like, Okay, I
get it. I understand what she's saying. And I hopeful
my prayer is that the listeners that are supposed to
be listening because you said you knew that you that
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you knew that I know, but yet that I know.
I know my way, but your way can be just
as strong if we're given everybody our way of doing
it and they can do it they way, you know,
and they can say, oh, I did it. I heard
Aunt on season of Self Love and she did this
thing and it just I got that. Now, you know,
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I love any any technique or any tube that can
because I might end up doing it at home myself
after the show. I'm good for that.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
One of the other things is we talk about mindfulness, right,
so this is being very present in the moment with
whatever it is we're feeling, and a lot of people
and a lot of past teachers talk about asking why
and why is this happening? As soon as we ask
that question, we go out to the present moment. We're
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no longer with the sensation, but the sensation is just
coming up to be felt. Yeah, so we don't have
to ask why. And the crazy thing is, once we
release the tension, and once the tension releases on its own,
the why will often pop into our mind. Anyway, a
memory of something from the past of why this happened
will often just pop into our mind. It was there
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all along. We just have to allow it to release.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Thank you. That was for me. My ear just started ringing,
thank you, thank you. That that was definitely for me.
That yeah, because I'm a why even though I'm going
I am I am, I am a wy girl because
I want to know. I want to know. I just
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always been that type of person. I'm deep down researcher
and I want to know stuff. So that, yeah, there
you go.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I was that way too for a long time, for
many years, and then it took me the realization, Okay,
I don't need to ask why, I just because I
realized when I did that it's taking me away from
the sensation. I know. It's the sensation that is coming
out to be healed.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Yes, oh my god, that is so so home right
now and so for us, so for us to truly
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be in the present moment, it's like honor whatever is
going on right now in your body honor that, feel
that emotion, feel that emotion, and like you said, that
trigger is going to tell you why. Whatever vision or
whatever that you see is going to tell you why.
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So now all you have to do is honor it,
because we probably didn't honor it before. And that's why
I keep revealing itself in these ways. So once you
honor it, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:11):
Thank you, an welcome. We're so programmed to suppress everything.
And one of the thoughts that I worked on a
lot with in my tapping days, in those early days,
not right at the beginning of tapping, I worked for
all my traumas first, but it got to the place
where I could catch that thought, I hate myself. And
I caught it and I realized, okay, that's the thought
(32:33):
that I keep thinking, so let me work on it.
So I tapped on that thought, I hate myself. I
hate myself. I tapped on it probably for a few hours,
over a couple of weeks, I don't remember for sure,
but it got to the place I realized that they're
just three words. They no longer have any attachments inside
of me, So the thought never comes up anymore.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, So do me a favor, because I know I've
never talked about tapping on this show. I don't remember
ever talking about tapping, so real quickly, if you can
just give a a small description of exactly what tapping
is for our listeners.
Speaker 4 (33:13):
Okay, it's a little bit like acupressure, right, we're using
Chinese medicine points the ends of meridian systems, and the
tapping interrupts the nervous system. So when you think of
thought or you remember something from the past that has
some negative emotions, your body reacts it right. It brings
those emotions back into the body, and the tapping interrupts
the nervous system and allows some of the energy to release.
(33:36):
So you say a thought, or you talk through a memory,
or you feel an emotion. As you tap, that energy
starts to release. So when you can't feel your feelings,
it's a great way of doing it because the tapping
does the work for you. And it's just a series
of nine points, same points. You always use, the same points.
You just learn the points and you just keep tapping
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through them.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
Beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing that. Alright. So I
talk about sacred spaces all the time. I have different
sacred spaces in my house that I create. But I
know that's something that you talk about too. Can you
explain what that looks like for you?
Speaker 4 (34:16):
Well, actually, I don't talk about it a lot because
for me, I look for deeper healing. So if I'm
not comfortable somewhere, I find that discomfort and I feel
it and allow it to release. So like these days.
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For many years, I didn't watch the news because it
was too much, because I had too much inside of me.
And now I watch the news because I want to
know what's still going on inside of me? Right what
emotion does it bring up inside me? What sensations are
in there? When I hear those people say those horrible things?
Where's that inside of me? And I feel it and
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I allow it to release because my ultimate goal is
to be able to be imperturbable, so to stand at
peace regardless of what is happening around me. So I
do have some places in my house. I love this room.
It's so colorful. I love colors. So there are places
that I do feel really good, but I also go
out of my comfort zone to find deeper healing.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Beautiful, thank you for sharing that all right, So, as
our conversation has it's coming to an end, but it
has been a a great gift. Before we close, do
you have a final message or encouragement to leave our listeners?
Speaker 4 (35:39):
Yes, I love people to know that there is so
much more depth to life than we are aware of.
Now we have to go through this healing journey to
become aware at a deeper level. But once we are
aware at this deeper level, life becomes fun. Right, with
so much lighter the burden has lifted, so we can
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laugh more easily. We actually feel physically lighter. I remember
feeling so heavy as a child in my twenties and
early thirties, and we get these other abilities right. I
can feel sound vibrations throughout my body, so I can
listen to music and feel in my body, not just
hear in my ears. The tension in my skull has
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relaxed so much that I can actually sing different notes
than I could ever in my past, So my voice
has changed. And because I understand myself so deeply on
the inside, I understand how life works, what's happening, I
also see that outside of me. So it just makes
life so much more fun. And I encourage you all
to go on this journey.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Beautiful thank you is there any where can I find Aneisch?
Where can I find you? At your website? Okay?
Speaker 4 (36:52):
Yeah, my last name is hints hi Nce, that's okay,
and my website is my name and Hints Calm. You
can see the x rays there to see how my
skull bones have shifted. So if you don't believe that,
I probably wouldn't have. I'm also very active on Facebook
and I'm very active on my YouTube channel as well,
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which is also just my name, So I encourage you
to look there, and I do do one on one
sessions if anyone's interested in some coaching to help them
on this journey, that's available to beautiful.
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Well, thank you, I am. I apologize I've been saying
the last name so wrong. That's okay, but again I
want to thank you. I want to thank you just
for being here and just sharing your wisdom and your
life and to my listeners out to our listeners, I
want you to go and download our free copy of
the Year Book two. There are exercises there that go
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hand in hand with what we talked about today in
throughout the whole series a month series here that will
definitely help you to reflect on your emotional resilience in
reflect on how you grow too. And if you want
to connect with and you know, you can go find
out our social media at Sacred Spirit Journeys dot com. Right,
that's your website and Hints Stockcolm, it's my name, okay
(38:13):
at hints dot com. All right, So what is Sacred
Spirits Journeys. Don't don't worry about don't worry no mind.
Her events, workshops and sources are incredibly empowering and I
encourage you all to just dive in. Again. Thank you
guys for just being here. I truly am just beyond words.
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If you guys really knew what was going on in August,
I really love that you all are still sticking with
here and you are taking a courage to just tap
into yourself with this self love truly tapping into yourself
with this chef self love journey and committing yourself to
having that intimate relationship with yourself, this emotional resilience. This
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month's series is a very deep one and I'm truly
excited for the rest of the guest I'm excited for
what you have going on with you and and to
my listeners again, thank you all, and if this resonates.
Speaker 4 (39:06):
With you, please genius with someone.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
All right, have an amazing, amazing day, have a good one.
Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering
and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember,
embracing self love is a continuous journey, and we're so
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So until the next time, take a moment for yourself
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welcome back. Well hello Anne, Hi, Are you ready?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
I am ready? Yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Yes, So before usually before we start our conversation, we
do a nice grounding probably be like a minute a
little bit over a minute grounding meditation session, So before
we get into the conversation. Okay, is that all right?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Yes, let's do that.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
All right, my listeners, so you know, get into a
nice comfortable position if you can close your eyes right now,
all right. I want you your nail deeply through your nose,
filling your lungs with air. I want you to hold on
for a brief moment. Now exhale slowly and completely, releasing
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any tension or stress. I want you to feel your
body relaxing with.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
Each bro.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Now as you continue to breathe at your own pace,
I want you to bring awareness to the present moment
and feel the weight of your body grounding you to
the earth. I want you to notice any sensation within
your body with that judgment, just simply observing. Take a
deep breath, thin drawing in peace and clarity, and I
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want you to exhale any distractions or words that may
be clouding your mind. With each breath creates space for
insights and intuition to flow freely. Now envision a bright
light at the center of your being, radiating more and wisdom,
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And with each innal, allow this light to expand and
illuminate your mind and spirit, and feel a sense of
calm and serenity in you. Take one final deep breath
in embracing this moment of stillness and interconnection, and exhale slowly,
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carrying this sense of present and openness with you.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
As you move forward.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
So when you are ready, gently open your eyes and
carry this feeling mindfulness.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Throughout your day.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
You are grounded, you are centered and open to the
insights that away. All right, my beautiful people. First of all,
thank you for just sharing that moment with me. And
as always, it's something we do every day Monday through Friday.
If you're new here to the season and self love.
All right, So miss Anne again, welcome, welcome, I thank
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you again for just joining me on this series. I'm
excited about our conversation.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Thank you. It's great to be here. I'm excited too,
because I think we have some things in common.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yes, we do, all right, So let's dive in. You've
walked an incredible, an incredible path one field with heartbreak,
healing and just deep transformation. You know, for those who
may not know your story, your full story, could you
take us back to where and share what led you
to the work that you're doing.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Now. Sure, I started this work about twenty years ago,
in my late thirties, which now feels like a long
time ago, but at the time, it's like, gosh, it
took me that long to realize that my childhood was
still affecting me. It's like, wow, But it did. It
took something happening, and it was. It wasn't a big deal, really,
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but it was two other mothers at my boys' school.
They told me I'd done something wrong. And these women
were not like me. I was a scared mother on
the inside. I was always afraid because you know, I
had complex PTSD from my childhood. We could talk about
that if we want to. But they told me I'd
done something wrong, and these women were self confidence, self assured,
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authority type women, and I just could not stop my
mind spinning. It just went over and over everything that happened.
You know, what they said, what I said, what I did,
what I could have done differently. I could not stop
my mind for about three days, and it was at
the end of that I realized, Okay, this is not normal.
I don't know anyone else who would react this intently
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to something that really wasn't a big deal. But I
also realized it felt like how I would react when
my dad would tell me I'd done something wrong. So
that was the first little opening that maybe my childhood
was still affecting me. But I didn't know what to
do at that point. I just kind of had that
little opening. So that was when I started looking deeper
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than I had been looking. And I went to a
doctor's appointment, and he was a holistic physician, so he
had more tools in his toolbox than most doctors do.
And I can't remember why I went there. It was
nothing to do with my mental health. I have no idea,
but certainly it wasn't about my mental health. But he
recognized I was really stressed, and he asked me, on
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a scale of zero to ten, what my stress level was.
Because I was a stay at home mother, were too
healthy young boys, I shouldn't have been that bad, and
it was an eight out of ten. And then he
asked me why, and it was that question that made
me realize, Oh, it was finding my mother dead on
the bathroom floor when I was nineteen. So the tears
from that event were still just under the surface all
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those years later because I hadn't dealt with it. So
he happened to know the technique that's called eft. Now
do you know that technique.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
No, I'm not familiar with.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
It's called tapping. Another word is tapping, because we're tapping
on our body as we're talking something through. He knew
that technique and he tapped with me about my mother's death,
and we tapped for about fifteen minutes, which is pretty
good for a doctor's appointment, and I went home being
able to tell the story of her death in my
mind without the tears there. And I realized at that point,
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is so okay, we store those memories and those emotions
physically in our body, and that we could let them go.
And that was eye opening to me. At the time,
I had no idea that was even possible. So that
was the start of my journey.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Oh wow. Oh well, first of all, thank you for
sharing that. I know so many of our listeners they
carry emotional burdens. I know I've been wanted to do
it all the time and would fill it in my body,
And a lot of times they don't realize it that
they're still holding on from things from old childhood, whether
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it's wounds or even you know, someone teasing them. I
remember just the other day, I had a client that
I was talking with, and just in his conversation, it
was so much anger build up from his brother, his
assibly rivalry, was brother bullying him, and he didn't understand
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why their relationship wasn't what he thought it should be.
It was so much resentment in it that he was
holding on to that he couldn't see his brother in
anything else but as that bully, you know, and anybody
else that actually talked or spoke or was a figure
of that of his brother. And we tend to do
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that a lot and not even know it. What I
do like is that you did to take those three
days and find out why is this trigger so much? Like?
Why is this conversation with these two ladies telling me
that I am doing something wrong with my children?
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Why?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Why? I love that you even stepped out and was like, Okay,
wait a minute, this is three days and I'm still
thinking about with these other two ladies you know, thought
of me. Can you speak up to what processed the
grief that you stored in your emotional with that pain,
with just realizing that at that moment, Well, I didn't.
Speaker 4 (11:46):
I mean, it took me three days and I couldn't
have done it any faster because I did, that realization
didn't come till the end, yeah, right, And that's when
I realized that we kind of replay things over an
over again. So I had teasing a lot of teasing
in my childhood because I was sent to a boys
boarding school and I was the only girl boarder at
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this boys' boarding school. So I was tused mercilessly. So
I one of the reasons I went on my journey
because I had two boys, Yeah, and my boys were
getting older and I didn't want them to get to
that age of the boys in my boarding school, which
was age nine through thirteen, because I was terrified of
boys that age because I was teased so mercilessly. So,
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like you said, just like we tend to see everyone
through those lenses that we've stored inside. So I knew
I had to get over that, get over that teasing
and everything before my boys got to that age. So
that was part of what pushed me on this journey.
So you know, and over the year, well to begin with,
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over the weeks and months, right, I realized how much
we store inside and it we store everything inside. Everything
negative gets stored inside of us as tension. So it
might be a big trauma, but it also might be
a small trauma, but it's also conditioning from our family,
our siblings, our parents, our teachers, society, all of that
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gets stored inside of us as tension. But we can't
see that. We can't see beyond the big traumas, right,
if we've got a big trauma, those emotions that are
stored inside kind of direct our life. They direct what
we see. So we have to work through those big
things first, which is why I had to work through
my mother's death as the first thing I worked through.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Yeah, so that was my next question. My next question
was going to be how did you work through your
mother's death when your first initial so let me go back,
let's go back, let's go back when you did see
your mother's body, when you did discover her body on floor.
What did you feel in that moment?
Speaker 4 (13:56):
I was a panic. I was terrified and in shock
and afraid. I was the only one in the house
other than her, So there were all sorts of emotions
that were hidden there. But all I could see to
begin with was shock, and I suppressed it all because
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that's what we did as a family. We didn't talk
about things. She actually had cancer, so we knew there
was an end at some point. She had throat and
lung cancer, so what ended up happening is a tumor
in her throat burst. So it was a very sudden
and very messy death. But we'd only talked about her
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having cancer one time, which was months prior to that.
So as a family, we just didn't talk about things.
So I never talked about what had happened in detail
with anyone. I just kept all those emotions hidden inside.
So it took some work to deal with it and
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to let it go.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
So when and I'm trying not to go too deep
because I want to kind of stay, I have a
tend to go down a rabbit hole sometimes, so you
have to excuse me.
Speaker 4 (15:12):
I like going deep.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
So when you when you realized after those three days,
and you realize and you went to the doctor, and
you went to see that very special doctor that helped
to give you tools to realize what was happening with you,
that you were actually releasing stored emotional trauma that was
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happening with you through all of these years. Could you
share with our listeners what did it look like when
that first initial release happened for you?
Speaker 4 (15:47):
It was tears. I let out those tears. I just
we hold tears back. And now I now believe you know,
all these years later, that all those tears we never
shed in childhood are still stored inside of us, and
we're using energy to keep them in. And most of us,
I think, would much rather use that energy for other things,
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would like our body to use that energy to heal.
So we want to let those tears out. So that's
what I did with him in that fifteen minutes. I cried.
I said things that I had never hadn't said in decades. Right,
I told him things, So I said them out loud
as I was tapping, and let those emotions flow until
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once they've flown enough, once those emotions have left the body,
then you're at peace. Yeah, so that wasn't just the
first I didn't just tap with him that one time.
I did tap with him just the one time. But
then I went home and I learned how to use EFT.
It was given away by Gary Craig for free, and
you could go online, and you still can go online,
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and then everything you can about it for free, which
was really nice. But I had to go back and
tap through her story again, because the subconscious mind opens
up once it's been released, Pandora's box opening up. Once
it's been released. You start to remember more aspects of
the events that have happened. So I would tap through
(17:12):
the event. I'd talk through it from beginning to end.
You know, I woke up one morning and the radio
wasn't told and she always had to radio on that
kind of thing. I talk through everything that happened that day,
and as I tapped, as I tapped on these points,
the acty pressure points, and then I went back to
the beginning of the story and I tapped through it again.
And each time I went through it, I might remember
(17:34):
more details that had been hidden before, and more emotions
that had been hidden under those big emotions. And I
just kept going until it just became a story. I'm
just telling a story like reading from a book. There's
no energy left in my voice, there's no emotions left inside.
And at that point, you know you've you've released it.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah. Yeah, So let me ask you this once you
released it all, well, let's go back. Let me ask
this question first before I access one. Now that all
that is released, what made you want to share your
journey in your gifts?
Speaker 4 (18:18):
Well, that comes all the way down to the last
few years where I went through I worked on EFT,
I went through all my traumas and every emotion that
would come up during the day, I worked through them,
and my awareness got deeper and deeper inside. And I
became aware inside my body, which is a really weird
(18:39):
thing to say, and it was really weird to experience
at the time. And I can now focus inside my
bones and my tissues, and I can release tension in
the connective tissue and the bones with my focused awareness.
And I felt my skull bones shift or relax. And
I've grown three quarters of an inch in my fifties
(19:00):
because of that release of that burden. And I hadn't
heard anyone else talk about this. I didn't know we
had these capabilities inside of us, and I wanted to
other people to know that we can do these incredible things.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
You know, I love that. You know. I'm sitting here
a lost of words right now because at this moment,
I feel everything that you're saying. Just in April, we
were talking where our topic was the whole month is
on mindfulness and just sitting and still And one of
the things that I shared with on one of the episodes
(19:38):
was about heartful listening. So as I'm sitting here and
I'm listening to you, were full of heart, just what
my heart is so full I'm hearing mind and body connection.
When you talk about feeling the different things and are
different in your body's moving or growing or release scene,
(19:58):
you know, that's something that you're right. No one's never
heard that, But as you speaking and saying that, I'm
feeling that right now like I'm feeling. And my prayer
is that our listeners can feel that too. So a
lot of times when we think that our emotions are
just in our head, but they live in our whole
entire body. How do you help people become aware of
(20:22):
that that they can fear what you just gave to me?
How can our listeners link that between their emotional and
physical states, how can they get there?
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Well, you have from listening to your podcast, you have
a deeper level of awareness self awareness than I had
when I started. I was not aware of sensations in
my body. I was not aware of emotions and where
they live inside of my body. I was so suppressed
everything for so long, I just didn't know how I felt.
(20:56):
So to me, that first level using EFT was the
first step that allowed the tension to release, like the
big emotions to release. And as that happens, the self
awareness deepens, So I became aware at a deeper level.
I can sense the emotions inside the body now when
we learn about an emotion as a child, So think
(21:19):
back to when you're a child, and if you saw
someone who was sad, who was crying, someone would have
said to you, oh, that persons sad. So we would
have related the physical aspects of being sad with the
word sad, right, And over time we kind of suppress
the actual emotions or the feelings themselves, the sensations themselves,
(21:43):
and we just used the word. So we'll say we're frustrated,
but we won't be aware that frustration lives inside of
us as physical sensations. Yeah, so this work that I
did reverse that process, started to become aware of those
physical sensations and then wear deeper inside the body. Right,
So there was a progression from no awareness to deep awareness.
(22:06):
So when I'm working with people, I'm taking them through
those first steps, working through those traumas, releasing the big
emotions so that the self awareness develops at a deeper
and deeper level.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
You know, thank you for sharing that, because especially for
me going through my journey, having those emotions and those
feelings is it feels, and I know a lot of
my listeners can agree. Sometimes it feels so draining on
you physically, and then it goes into an emotional drain
(22:43):
as well, because now you're thinking, Okay, what have I
just done? What I've opened up? What am I? You know?
What am I I'm doing to myself? And then once
you truly and this is how So let me say
this when before we got on our listeners, I share
(23:03):
with in that just being with this podcast is doing
this podcast has been such an amazing discovery for myself
with this and in growing we're now in August of
this month doing this series, going on two years has
been an amazing discovery for myself and understanding being so
(23:25):
self aware and even when people are talking, even when
you're talking, feeling each word and emotion that you are saying.
For me, it truly is a whole deeper feeling and
emotion that sometimes you do feel daunting because it's so much.
And I know I have a lot of listeners, because
I have some that have written in about what do
(23:48):
we do with all of that? What do we do
with all of that?
Speaker 4 (23:55):
We feel it, We just relax into it. Now for
me with EFT, I mean, EFT is just such an
amazing technique because you don't have to be able to
feel to use it. The tapping does the work for you.
So that was kind of my first step. But as
I became aware of the physical sensations underneath the emotions.
(24:17):
For example, where frustration lives inside of my body is
tension in my solar plexus, I started to feel those
feelings instead of using the tapping. Right, So you're aware
at this level. Many people, including me are not, But
when you're aware at this level, you can just feel them.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Now.
Speaker 4 (24:38):
I think my way of feeling feelings is a little
different from some of the people we hear. So the
way I would do it is I would notice a
thought that had an emotion. For example, I'm afraid of
making a phone call right that's got fear in it.
So I would find that fear inside of my body,
notice where it was, focus on it, and at that
(24:58):
point I would stop and hold myself like a statue.
I wouldn't take any more breath in or out. I
would just stop and not move any muscle because if
I tried to focus on it and breathe or focus
on it and move, I would lose my focus. So
I would just stop like a statue and hold my
focus on it, and I would talk to it. I
(25:19):
would say things like, Okay, I can feel this tension
or this fear right there in my solar plexus. I
can feel you right there. I just want you to relax,
to be I just want you to be felt. It's
okay to feel you to be felt. I'm not trying
to change you in any way. I just want to
(25:40):
feel you, to give you the attention that you never
had before, which is why you got stuck inside. I
just want to give you that attention and allow you
to release. Then at some point I'd have to take
a deep breath, obviously, and then I'll do it again.
I think the same thought again, feel the same tension again,
(26:00):
which now might be a little bit less, and I
would do it again, and I would do that again
and again until the in motion the fear had left,
at which point it becomes easy to make the phone call. Yeah.
So that's what we do at all the levels. Even
right now when I'm focusing inside my head on the
(26:21):
tissues and buns, I'm just allowing it and not changing it.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I know you know this.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
I'm not trying to change it in any way. I'm
just allowing it to be. I'm giving it the attention
that it wants, and that's when it releases, When it's
been felt enough, it releases.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
Yeah, thank you. I love that. And let me tell
you why I love that. It's because a lot of
times when we talk about self love, self care, self healing,
a lot of times we think about how can we
fix it?
Speaker 5 (26:55):
Yes, I don't know if you can hear me, but
it's gone.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yep, I can hear you. I can hear it frollze
off over here too. So let me go back when
we what you have shared about the way that you
do yours. I think everybody experience is different. And a
(27:32):
lot of times we are talked to kind of we're
gonna fix this, we're gonna fix this fear, we're gonna
make We're not gonna feel it, but we're gonna fix
this fear. But I love the way that you said
how we're gonna acknowledge that fear and we're gonna talk
to that fear. We're gonna figure out where is okay.
So this is you're fearful. I understand that you're there,
(27:55):
and I thank you, and I always say and I
thank you for just protecting this moment. We don't need
the fear of the protection. So I love how you
even said the way that you do it, because the
way that I might say it it might not resonate
with everyone. Does that make sense?
Speaker 4 (28:13):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
And so this is why I love when I have
amazing people that come on and share their experience with
our listeners, because they are our listeners. Because how you
do with emotional resilience could be the very people that
speak your language, and I don't mean foreign language, I
mean that truly speak your healing language and that can
(28:34):
hear you when you speak yes as well as me.
So when you said that, I was like, Okay, I
get it. I understand what she's saying. And I hopeful
my prayer is that the listeners that are supposed to
be listening because you said you knew that you that
(29:08):
you knew that I know, but yet that I know.
I know my way, but your way can be just
as strong if we're given everybody our way of doing
it and they can do it they way, you know,
and they can say, oh, I did it. I heard
Aunt on season of Self Love and she did this
thing and it just I got that. Now, you know,
(29:29):
I love any any technique or any tube that can
because I might end up doing it at home myself
after the show. I'm good for that.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
One of the other things is we talk about mindfulness, right,
so this is being very present in the moment with
whatever it is we're feeling, and a lot of people
and a lot of past teachers talk about asking why
and why is this happening? As soon as we ask
that question, we go out to the present moment. We're
(30:01):
no longer with the sensation, but the sensation is just
coming up to be felt. Yeah, so we don't have
to ask why. And the crazy thing is, once we
release the tension, and once the tension releases on its own,
the why will often pop into our mind. Anyway, a
memory of something from the past of why this happened
will often just pop into our mind. It was there
(30:23):
all along. We just have to allow it to release.
Speaker 1 (30:27):
Thank you. That was for me. My ear just started ringing,
thank you, thank you. That that was definitely for me.
That yeah, because I'm a why even though I'm going
I am I am, I am a wy girl because
I want to know. I want to know. I just
(30:48):
always been that type of person. I'm deep down researcher
and I want to know stuff. So that, yeah, there
you go.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
I was that way too for a long time, for
many years, and then it took me the realization, Okay,
I don't need to ask why, I just because I
realized when I did that it's taking me away from
the sensation. I know. It's the sensation that is coming
out to be healed.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Yes, oh my god, that is so so home right
now and so for us, so for us to truly
(31:33):
be in the present moment, it's like honor whatever is
going on right now in your body honor that, feel
that emotion, feel that emotion, and like you said, that
trigger is going to tell you why. Whatever vision or
whatever that you see is going to tell you why.
(31:56):
So now all you have to do is honor it,
because we probably didn't honor it before. And that's why
I keep revealing itself in these ways. So once you
honor it, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:11):
Thank you, an welcome. We're so programmed to suppress everything.
And one of the thoughts that I worked on a
lot with in my tapping days, in those early days,
not right at the beginning of tapping, I worked for
all my traumas first, but it got to the place
where I could catch that thought, I hate myself. And
I caught it and I realized, okay, that's the thought
(32:33):
that I keep thinking, so let me work on it.
So I tapped on that thought, I hate myself. I
hate myself. I tapped on it probably for a few hours,
over a couple of weeks, I don't remember for sure,
but it got to the place I realized that they're
just three words. They no longer have any attachments inside
of me, So the thought never comes up anymore.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, So do me a favor, because I know I've
never talked about tapping on this show. I don't remember
ever talking about tapping, so real quickly, if you can
just give a a small description of exactly what tapping
is for our listeners.
Speaker 4 (33:13):
Okay, it's a little bit like acupressure, right, we're using
Chinese medicine points the ends of meridian systems, and the
tapping interrupts the nervous system. So when you think of
thought or you remember something from the past that has
some negative emotions, your body reacts it right. It brings
those emotions back into the body, and the tapping interrupts
the nervous system and allows some of the energy to release.
(33:36):
So you say a thought, or you talk through a memory,
or you feel an emotion. As you tap, that energy
starts to release. So when you can't feel your feelings,
it's a great way of doing it because the tapping
does the work for you. And it's just a series
of nine points, same points. You always use, the same points.
You just learn the points and you just keep tapping
(33:57):
through them.
Speaker 1 (33:59):
Beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing that. Alright. So I
talk about sacred spaces all the time. I have different
sacred spaces in my house that I create. But I
know that's something that you talk about too. Can you
explain what that looks like for you?
Speaker 4 (34:16):
Well, actually, I don't talk about it a lot because
for me, I look for deeper healing. So if I'm
not comfortable somewhere, I find that discomfort and I feel
it and allow it to release. So like these days.
(34:38):
For many years, I didn't watch the news because it
was too much, because I had too much inside of me.
And now I watch the news because I want to
know what's still going on inside of me? Right what
emotion does it bring up inside me? What sensations are
in there? When I hear those people say those horrible things?
Where's that inside of me? And I feel it and
(35:00):
I allow it to release because my ultimate goal is
to be able to be imperturbable, so to stand at
peace regardless of what is happening around me. So I
do have some places in my house. I love this room.
It's so colorful. I love colors. So there are places
that I do feel really good, but I also go
out of my comfort zone to find deeper healing.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Beautiful, thank you for sharing that all right, So, as
our conversation has it's coming to an end, but it
has been a a great gift. Before we close, do
you have a final message or encouragement to leave our listeners?
Speaker 4 (35:39):
Yes, I love people to know that there is so
much more depth to life than we are aware of.
Now we have to go through this healing journey to
become aware at a deeper level. But once we are
aware at this deeper level, life becomes fun. Right, with
so much lighter the burden has lifted, so we can
(36:01):
laugh more easily. We actually feel physically lighter. I remember
feeling so heavy as a child in my twenties and
early thirties, and we get these other abilities right. I
can feel sound vibrations throughout my body, so I can
listen to music and feel in my body, not just
hear in my ears. The tension in my skull has
(36:25):
relaxed so much that I can actually sing different notes
than I could ever in my past, So my voice
has changed. And because I understand myself so deeply on
the inside, I understand how life works, what's happening, I
also see that outside of me. So it just makes
life so much more fun. And I encourage you all
to go on this journey.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Beautiful thank you is there any where can I find Aneisch?
Where can I find you? At your website? Okay?
Speaker 4 (36:52):
Yeah, my last name is hints hi Nce, that's okay,
and my website is my name and Hints Calm. You
can see the x rays there to see how my
skull bones have shifted. So if you don't believe that,
I probably wouldn't have. I'm also very active on Facebook
and I'm very active on my YouTube channel as well,
(37:14):
which is also just my name, So I encourage you
to look there, and I do do one on one
sessions if anyone's interested in some coaching to help them
on this journey, that's available to beautiful.
Speaker 1 (37:26):
Well, thank you, I am. I apologize I've been saying
the last name so wrong. That's okay, but again I
want to thank you. I want to thank you just
for being here and just sharing your wisdom and your
life and to my listeners out to our listeners, I
want you to go and download our free copy of
the Year Book two. There are exercises there that go
(37:49):
hand in hand with what we talked about today in
throughout the whole series a month series here that will
definitely help you to reflect on your emotional resilience in
reflect on how you grow too. And if you want
to connect with and you know, you can go find
out our social media at Sacred Spirit Journeys dot com. Right,
that's your website and Hints Stockcolm, it's my name, okay
(38:13):
at hints dot com. All right, So what is Sacred
Spirits Journeys. Don't don't worry about don't worry no mind.
Her events, workshops and sources are incredibly empowering and I
encourage you all to just dive in. Again. Thank you
guys for just being here. I truly am just beyond words.
(38:34):
If you guys really knew what was going on in August,
I really love that you all are still sticking with
here and you are taking a courage to just tap
into yourself with this self love truly tapping into yourself
with this chef self love journey and committing yourself to
having that intimate relationship with yourself, this emotional resilience. This
(38:55):
month's series is a very deep one and I'm truly
excited for the rest of the guest I'm excited for
what you have going on with you and and to
my listeners again, thank you all, and if this resonates.
Speaker 4 (39:06):
With you, please genius with someone.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
All right, have an amazing, amazing day, have a good one.
Thank you for joining us on this journey of discovering
and empowerment here at the Season and Self Love Podcast. Remember,
embracing self love is a continuous journey, and we're so
glad to have you with us. So if you enjoy
today's episode, please leave us a review and don't forget
(39:30):
to join our community on Facebook at Season and Self
Love connect with like minded individuals who are also on
their self love journey. Now, if you have any questions
or topics that you'd like for us to explore, we
love to hear from you. Email us at season usseelf
Love at gmail dot com and let your voice be heard.
So until the next time, take a moment for yourself
(39:53):
today and remember you are worthy of love, joy, and
all the beautiful things that life has to a
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