November 12, 2025 • 31 mins
Join host Nyomi Banks on The Season of Self-Love Podcast for a Wisdom Wednesday conversation with coach Jamie Lerner. Explore how community service becomes an extension of self-love, why you must fill your cup before giving to others, and how authentic service transforms both giver and receiver.
In This Episode:
Jamie is a coach, connector, and lifelong advocate of living from alignment and purpose. She brings a beautiful perspective on how community service becomes an extension of self-love.
Key Insights:
Service Starts with Self-Love: "We need to be in a place where we are loving ourselves before we can authentically be in service to others. Once we're in that place, it never feels like service. It's just the natural extension of who we are.
"The Full Cup Philosophy:
First thing in the morning, identify one thing you appreciate about yourself—not what someone else appreciates, but what YOU appreciate about you for you.
When to Give:
"When you are in alignment and feeling good about yourself, opportunities present themselves. Then we say yes—there's no hesitation. It's just a yes.
"The "Should" vs. "Could" Distinction:
Don't give because you think you should—that doesn't feel good. Give because you could and want to.Jamie's Personal Journey:Raised in Service: Grew up in a home where service was the foundation. Home always filled with people from all over the world. Parents' motto: "If there's a will, there's a way." Raised to feel it's a privilege to serve others.Why She Volunteers: "It almost feels selfish on my part. I'm getting so much out of it.
"Her Mother's Story:
Jamie had no emotional connection with her mother her entire life, despite being extremely connected to herself. When her mother was transitioning in the ICU, Jamie finally felt all the love pour through. Then her mother passed.Jamie realized: Her mother couldn't connect with her because she wasn't connected with herself. This became her book's message—connection with ourselves is the basis for every other connection.
Jamie's Superpower:
Born with inner knowing and self-connection. "I was impossible to be influenced. I only heard the sound of my own voice." That self-connection is now her superpower.
Listener Q&A:
Q: How can I give back when I'm still healing myself? Jamie: "When you're still healing, giving back is maybe not the priority. Use that energy for yourself. Actually, the healing IS the giving back."
Q: What's something small I can do to make a difference? Jamie: "Just being present in anyone's space, you are making a difference. When you are present, that is such a present for others
."Powerful Truths:
Connect with Jamie: www.jamie-lerner.com
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In This Episode:
- Why self-love must come before service to others
- The difference between giving from a full cup vs. an empty one
- How to find service opportunities that align with your authentic self
- Overcoming burnout and the "should" mentality in giving
- Jamie's powerful story about her mother and self-connection
Jamie is a coach, connector, and lifelong advocate of living from alignment and purpose. She brings a beautiful perspective on how community service becomes an extension of self-love.
Key Insights:
Service Starts with Self-Love: "We need to be in a place where we are loving ourselves before we can authentically be in service to others. Once we're in that place, it never feels like service. It's just the natural extension of who we are.
"The Full Cup Philosophy:
- You can't give from an empty cup without resentment
- Receivers can feel when giving comes from someone who isn't full enough
- "Put your own mask on first"—but this is counterintuitive, especially for women
- Self-service first—it's a lose-lose when you don't
First thing in the morning, identify one thing you appreciate about yourself—not what someone else appreciates, but what YOU appreciate about you for you.
When to Give:
"When you are in alignment and feeling good about yourself, opportunities present themselves. Then we say yes—there's no hesitation. It's just a yes.
"The "Should" vs. "Could" Distinction:
Don't give because you think you should—that doesn't feel good. Give because you could and want to.Jamie's Personal Journey:Raised in Service: Grew up in a home where service was the foundation. Home always filled with people from all over the world. Parents' motto: "If there's a will, there's a way." Raised to feel it's a privilege to serve others.Why She Volunteers: "It almost feels selfish on my part. I'm getting so much out of it.
"Her Mother's Story:
Jamie had no emotional connection with her mother her entire life, despite being extremely connected to herself. When her mother was transitioning in the ICU, Jamie finally felt all the love pour through. Then her mother passed.Jamie realized: Her mother couldn't connect with her because she wasn't connected with herself. This became her book's message—connection with ourselves is the basis for every other connection.
Jamie's Superpower:
Born with inner knowing and self-connection. "I was impossible to be influenced. I only heard the sound of my own voice." That self-connection is now her superpower.
Listener Q&A:
Q: How can I give back when I'm still healing myself? Jamie: "When you're still healing, giving back is maybe not the priority. Use that energy for yourself. Actually, the healing IS the giving back."
Q: What's something small I can do to make a difference? Jamie: "Just being present in anyone's space, you are making a difference. When you are present, that is such a present for others
."Powerful Truths:
- "Know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself—you are your own greatest resource."
- "Healing is not a destination—healing is an ongoing process."
- "We need to get back to trusting ourselves, knowing ourselves, loving ourselves. That's where it all is. There's nothing outside of us."
- Bob Proctor quote: "I'm being me for me—not for my wife or children or the world, but me for me."
- Her therapist's advice: Don't fill your cup halfway—let it overflow so others receive your overflow
- On today's world: "Tap into the God within you. Outside of you, it's going to be crazy. Find the strength within you."
Connect with Jamie: www.jamie-lerner.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What if the secret to loving yourself was actually found
in loving others. What if giving back was in just
about service, it was about recognizing that you're a part.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Of something greater.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Well, today we are diving into a conversation about community
connection and how showing up authentically for others is actually
one of the most powerful acts of self love that
you can practice.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I am now Imbanks and.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
You're listening to the Season and Self Love But today
on Wisdom Winesday, and I'm joined by Jamie Lerner. She's
a culture connector and an advocate for living in alignment
with your purpose.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
We're talking about why.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
You have to love yourself before you can truly serve others,
and how service becomes a natural extension of who you
are when you are rooted in that self love. This
conversation is going to shift something in you, so let's
get into it. Welcome to the Season and Self Love Podcast.
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Insightful discussions, practical tips, and inspiring stories.
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welcome back too. This season a self love podcast.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Today is Wisdom Wednesday, and I'm your host, Nami Banks.
I'm so honored to have you here with me today
as we dive into this topic that is truly embodies
the heart of this podcast, and that's community connection in the.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Transformative power of service.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
This month, our theme is about giving back and I
chose this thing because giving is an expression of love
not just to others, but to ourselves. So when we
show up for our community, we remind ourselves that we
are a part of something greater and that we matter
and that our presence can create ripples of change. Well,
today I am joyed by someone who radiates warmth, compassion,
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and wisdom, and that's Jamie Lerner. Jamie is a coach,
a connector, and a lifelong advocate of living from a
place of alignment and purpose. She brings a beautiful perspective
of how community service becomes an extension of self love
and soul alignment. But before we bring Jamie to the stage,
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All right, but welcome back. Well, welcome miss Jamie Lerner
her are you?
Speaker 6 (04:19):
I am great? Thank you so much for inviting me.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I'm excited about this conversation. You know, November is all
about giving back and that's something that we truly love
to do here on the season and stuff love.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
But before we get into this topic, I want to.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Do ground ourselves. We ground ourselves before we get into
the topic. All right, so my listeners, you know what
we do. If you all could just get into a
comfortable position right now and just close your eyes for
a moment, Begin with a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Then take a deep breath in now, release.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Now again in hell, compassion and exhale resistance. Now I
want you to imagine yourself surrounded by light, a gentle
golden light that wraps around you and flows from your
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heart into the world. Want you to visualize yourself offering support.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Kindness, or even just.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
A smile to someone in your community. See through the
ripple effect of your love as it moved through others.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You are in love with your action. You are a
vessel of service.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You are enough.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Now take one more deep breath and gently open your
eyes and come back into this space.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
All right, my beautiful people.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Again, if you are new here to the Season and
Stephala podcast, it is something we do every day Monday, Thay, Friday.
Just they have ground us before we get into the topic.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Can head all right?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Today we're talking about the power of service, of giving back.
Miss Jamie.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Let's talk about the importance of giving back and what
did that truly mean? So I would love to start
up with your personal journey. So what experience awakened you
to the importance of giving back?
Speaker 6 (06:29):
Well, I was actually raised in a home where that
was pretty much the foundation of what we did. My
parents were amazing people. Our home is always filled with
people from all over the world, and the message that
we always got from them is that any experience that
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we were having if we could extend that to anyone
else who was within our family at the time or
who was coming to visit us, then we actually were
enriching ourselves. So they really thought in terms of endless
possibilities for everybody. The motto is if there's a will,
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there's a way, and we were brought up to feel
that it is a privilege to be of service to us.
So that was really wonderful.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
You know, that's beautiful because a lot of people don't
learn that. You know, that's something my grandmothers, both of
my grandmothers, I called their homes revolving door because they've
raised children that were not theirs. That was from their
children friends, you know, just raised them from the time
that they were birth. So I know exactly what that means.
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Of giving of service, just of just being able to
be that, you know, just just allowing God to continue
to sh show up for you everything that you are
blessed with, you bless others with, no matter how big
or small that it is. So that's great that you
have that. How would you say giving bad contributes to
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our journey of self love?
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Well, it's interesting. I think that we really need to
be I don't like to say need, but need to
be in a place where we are loving ourselves before
we can authentically be in service to others. So and
once we're in that place of really loving ourselves, appreciating ourselves,
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knowing ourselves, it never feels like service. It's just the
natural extension of who we are. And from that place,
it feels so good to be of service and it
feels so good to people who are receiving them.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
Yeah, yeah, it is.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I want to piggyback on that.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I was just telling my husband this actually today is
that I said, today feels different And why it feels different,
I said, because I feel good.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
I'm truly.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
In gratitude, because I love what I do, Like I
love the Season of Self Love podcast, and I've been
doing this for almost two years and the way that
it came about was just so amazing for me to
share it.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And you are so right.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
When you definitely, when you're going through your healing journey
and you truly understand who you are and what your
purpose is in life, it's nothing but second nature. So
it doesn't feel like the truth. It feels like something
that you truly want to do every day.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Yeah. Yes, And we end up doing it for ourselves. Yeah,
so it's a win win for everybody. But one of
the things I asked clients to do is first thing
in the morning, to sit with themselves and to identify
one thing that they appreciate about themselves. Not one thing
that someone else appreciates about them, but what do you
(10:10):
appreciate about you for you?
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (10:13):
I think when we are able to do that and
get comfortable with that, it really starts off the day differently.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yes, it does, it does.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
I took a walk this morning in a park and
I was listening to by Procter and I've listened to
Change your Paradigm, Change your Life so many times.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I've listened to that out a book.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
And every time that I hear it, I hear something
different in it for me, something so different from me.
And it was he was talking about this, he was
at this conference and one of the speakers on a
conference I forgot the guy name again. He said, But
I'm being me for me. I'm being me for me,
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he said, not me for my wife, or my children,
or for the world, but I'm mean for me. And
then what that does is it allows you when you
are your total of who you are of you, then
you are able to give your authentic self to others.
And when I heard that, I was like, this is
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what I'm talking about. It just puts you in a
whole new mode.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
Well, it is interesting. I think we are only able
to hear from the perspective of where we are with ourselves,
moment by moment.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Yeah, so yeah, I like that moment by moment.
Speaker 6 (11:40):
I like that one moment in the next moment.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Yeah, all right, So let me ask you this, the
connection between serving others and nurturing ourselves. I know we
talked to this a little bit because it can be
so real giving from a full cup.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
And not an empty one.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
So I think it's not possible to give from an
empty cup without resentment on the part of the giver
and without the receiver feeling uncomfortable with the receiving, because
receivers can feel ambivalence when it comes from somebody who
is not full enough to actually be given. So it's
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kind of like that expression, put your own mask on first,
and then it's just others. But that's counterintuitive, especially as women.
I find that women try to extend themselves before they
serve themselves. I always say self service first, and I
think that it's a lose lose. It doesn't feel good
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to the giver, it doesn't feel good to the receiver.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Yeah, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Now, for our listeners who are wondering where do they start?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Where can I start?
Speaker 1 (12:56):
What are some simple ways that they can give back
and engage in their communities.
Speaker 6 (13:03):
I think when you are in a place once again
of alignment and feeling good about yourself and filled with appreciation,
those opportunities present themselves and then we end up saying yes.
There's no hesitation there, like, it's just it's a yes.
And if a situation is presented to you and you
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feel like yes, I think that's a wonderful fit for
where you are with yourself and what is available in
terms of the natural extension that will come and for
you to be in service.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah, some great advice.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Now, Sometimes it's just it's not just about showing up right,
it's not just about what about the challenges like the burnout,
like the burnout of the feeling it just like the
burnout feeling right, that really don't matter, But how do
we overcome those?
Speaker 6 (13:59):
I think once again, it's so important that we nurture
and nourish ourselves back into the connection that we have
with ourselves moment by moment, and that's up to us.
That's our responsibility. We cannot look to anyone else to
do that for us. So I think that has to
be the priority. And for some people that's okay. It
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might take a long time to get to that place
where you're putting yourself first and feeling really connected with
you and then extending yourself of service. But I don't
think it feels good to do it before. And I
don't think it feels good to do it because you
think you should. That doesn't feel good, right. I mean
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you could, right, that's a different feeling, but you should no, right.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
I believe that kind of goes back to the not
giving from an empty cup.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You know, you want to make.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Sure your cup is full. It's something that my therapist
said to me when you first started working with me
here on this season and self love is He said
that because I always say that my cup I used
to always say my cup is halfway full. I used
to always say it's halfway full. He said, how about
allowing your cup to completely full and flow over so
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those that are receiving your your your overflow. So that's
what we say, So start to learn to overflow your cup.
Speaker 6 (15:27):
Yeah, and I think allowing is good because we must
give ourselves permission to do that that does not come easy.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah. Yeah, you are so right. You are so right.
Thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Now, when when we hear stories of transformation, you know,
those light bulb moments, it reminds us of why we
give so for you. Can you share one that really
moved you.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
Wow, it moves me differently. It's not because of the
response of my service. It's because I get so much
out of giving. So I volunteer a lot, and I'm
finding that there are a lot of volunteers that aren't
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really showing up even though they sign up. So when
I'm able to show up consistently and not even from
a place like oh I should, no one else is
doing it. But like I'm really loving this, Like this
is so fun and so amazing, and not because I'm
feeling bad about what is happening that's requiring volunteer work,
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but just to like look at some of these agencies
or some of these places and how they're running, and
it's just I'm often amazed. Yeah, it's really more about me.
It's never about what I'm giving or how I'm giving.
It's it almost feels offish on my part. I'm getting
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so much.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Out of it. Okay, so let me ask you this.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Let's go into what's happening in today's world, our house
society is. You know, we talk about this a lot,
especially on my other podcast, about just the hopeless that
a lot of people feel in this moment in time.
What will be your advice or encouragement for them?
Speaker 6 (17:28):
Well, I really encourage people not to watch mainstream news
because there is nothing there that is hopeful or positive.
And I think that what happens is that we feel
paralyzed and we feel very unempowered, which is the purpose,
which is okay, But you know, I think that there
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are other news sources that are filled with hope and
where the message is very different. And I do think
that there is a silver lining in every situation, but
it really depends on where we're choosing to put our attention,
and that takes a lot of work sometimes, especially now
when we're bombarded with so many things that feel very hopeless. However,
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I do think that there's a whole other side to it,
and we have to look for that other side.
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, beautiful, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You know, I remember when everything when the election came in,
turned and I remember we had like an after math
show of the whole thing. And I'm nowhere near political,
but I knew this was something that was going to
change all of our lives. This was a different type
of election that was going on here, and as you know,
(18:44):
things had started to change. I remember saying something like
you said about there's something that we are supposed to
learn from this that's happening right now. I'm not quite
sure what it is, but my advice to everyone is
open your eyes and start paying attention. This is the
moment time that you truly need to tap into the
God within you so you can hear that because outside
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of you, it's.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Going to be crazy.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So you have to find the strength within you. That's
where that resilience come in. That's where this self love
is coming in. And it's so ironic that it's so
many platforms that's talking about self love, that's talking about
self discovery. Let's talk about that inner strength that's so
much needed right now.
Speaker 6 (19:29):
Yes, that is for sure, and if we are wanting
to see that, we will find it. Yeah, be a
conscious process, which is it's tough. I have to say
it is tough right now.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
Yeah, so true.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
So you worked with so many beautiful souls, so many
beautiful souls. What are some of the most inspiring transformations
that you've witnessed through the acts of service?
Speaker 6 (19:57):
You know, people do get transformed. It is really amazing.
And I think the most amazing things that I see
is how much how it actually fills people to do
the service work. It fills them well, it's part of
their whole loving themselves. So it contributes to filling the cup.
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I feel like service anymore. It just feels like the
natural extension. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
So let me ask you this, what inspired you to
write your book?
Speaker 6 (20:37):
Okay, well that's an interesting story. My family was amazing,
and I did not have an emotional connection with my mother.
And I was extremely connected to myself from my earliest memory.
And I spent half my life trying to figure out
how could I be so connected to myself and have
no connection with this amazing woman that brought me to
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this world. And I did not feel that connection until
she was transitioning in the ICU and she was intubated
and then I felt all the love pour through her
to me and I thought, oh my goodness, this is
the beginning of our mother and daughter relationship. And then
she transitioned and I realized that even though my mother
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was amazing and lived forty eight hours in every day,
she couldn't connect with me because she wasn't connected with herself.
And I realized this is such an important message for people, that,
you know, the connection with ourselves is really the basis
for every other connection that we will go on to
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have with others or another. So after she transitioned, I
sat down with a friend of mine who knew my
mom really well, and we wrote this book on a weekend.
It just flowed through me, and it's a tribute to
my mom and really thanking her for giving me this
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opportunity to, you know, stay eternally connected to myself because
intuitively I knew it was me. I needed to be
guided by me because that was it, It was just me.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
So yeah, beautiful, thank you for sharing that. So let
me ask you how did you become connected to yourself?
And first of all, let me ask you how old
was your were you when your mother passed away?
Speaker 6 (22:29):
When she transitioned, So she's gone like fourteen years. Fifteen,
she's gone fifteen years, and I am sixty two, so
you know, it was yeah, I was older. This book
is maybe fifteen years old, and I don't know I
was born with a knowing, but we all are. And
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I think I knew intuitively that I could not give
that up because usually we look to our parents to
guide us, and I just that connection wasn't there. So
I'm very grateful for that now because that's my superpower,
my connection with myself well.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
And love. Yes, you know that that is so beautiful
because it does, it takes you know. The one thing
is that we talk about here is kind of relearning things,
relearning the things that we was taught from our parents.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You know, just growing up.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
You get these paradigms or these habits or things that
that such. But for you not to even have a connection,
it's it's honestly, it's like really, like really, and I'm
really looking at a superhero here because for you to
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share that and also understand, like I really, I only
I'm so connect to myself.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
That I know.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
That I know that there is no connection with her.
Speaker 6 (24:08):
Lifeline. But I think the other thing is that I
trusted what I knew, God knows how. You know, I
was very, very small. It was impossible to influence be influenced.
I only heard the sound of my own voice, you know.
And I think that we need to get back to that,
to trusting ourselves, to knowing ourselves, to loving ourselves, to
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allowing ourselves to be guided from our inner knowing interviewing,
because that's where it all is. There's nothing outside of ourselves.
I mean, of course those parental connections, they're very important,
but sometimes they're not available. Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
That was beautiful.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
All right, So we have a few.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Questions from the listeners that we pre pulled up for them.
Speaker 4 (24:57):
For you one, listeners, how can.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I give back when I feel like I'm still healing myself?
Speaker 6 (25:07):
You know, I think when you're still healing yourself, then
giving back is maybe not the priority. I think you
have to just use that energy for yourself. I don't
think that's the time to necessarily give back. Actually, the
healing is the giving back, it really is. You allowing
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yourself to heal is the giving back.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
You know.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
There's a statement that.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I heard that.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Healing is not a destination, Because I believe that we
are always healing. Healing is on going process. Yeah, healing
is an ongoing process. So for those that are going
through that on and I guess there's levels.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
I think we just talked about I just talked about
this the other day.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
There is levels to the healing process to go through.
I think there's a point to where you when you're
truly at that I don't even know what stage would
that be, to where you are so aware of things
now that the healing is so much easier because now
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you have the tools. Now you have the tools for
the triggers, because we're always going to have these triggers
that's going to come subconsciously in our mind. But it's
all about how we respond to those triggers and that's
where the tools come from in the healing process. If
that makes sense.
Speaker 6 (26:49):
Yeah, it does make sense, It really does. And for
some people, if they feel that that is going to
help them in their journey to reach out and to
be of service for others or another, then intuitively allow
yourself to be attracted to whatever that experience is.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
Yeah, So let me ask you something, this is a
little personal. Do you think there's anything that you need
to be healed from.
Speaker 6 (27:15):
Not that I need to be healed, but I'm very
self aware and I think that I work on myself.
It's moment. It's really moment to moment because when I
get triggered, my go to now is to laugh, which
is great because it gives me some levity. It's not
like this huge thing that happened. It's more like, Okay,
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thank you very much, universe, I got it. This is
a trigger. And I think that the awareness has helped
me really just appreciate my humanness and also forgive myself
in that moment that I regress and onto the next moment.
(27:59):
But yeah, I think I think it's I think it really
is moment to moment, okay, and I give myself grace,
and giving yourself grace is very important.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Is that it is.
Speaker 4 (28:13):
The last question?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
What's something small that I can do to still make
a difference?
Speaker 6 (28:22):
You know, when in a moment, if you are feeling
good and you're sharing, just being present in anyone's face,
you are making a difference. You know, because when you
feel good, you look at others, you smile, you're open,
you're available. It's kind of like you're present. And when
we are present, that is such a present for others. Yeah,
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it really disarms people. It allows people to feel comfortable
in their own skin. There's a lot that happens without
going to a place and doing a task.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Right right, Beautiful, thank you, thank you, thank you. All right,
my listeners, if you haven't already, make sure that you
grab our free copy of the Year a Rebirth Workbook,
Part two. This month's section, it's all about community and
connections and reflection and there is guide it, journal, prompts,
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service ideas, and even a calendar that you can plan
your own mini service of projects. I want you to
head over to the link for the show notes or
visit our website and download a copy. Right now, it's
the season and stephalopodcast dot com. Jamie, I want to
thank you so much for just sharing your heart and
your life with your wisdom with us today. You inspired
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us to think a little deeper about some things and
what really means to give back the process. Is there
anything that you would love to share with our listeners today?
Speaker 6 (29:50):
Know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself because you are your
own greatest resource.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Beautiful, can can you tell my listeners where can they
find you if they wanted your service or anything.
Speaker 6 (30:04):
I have a website. It's www dot j A M
I E jsh L e r n e R dotum beautiful.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Thank you all right to my listeners, I want to
thank you for just being here.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
I want you to.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Remember that service doesn't require a big gest it just
starts at a single act of kindness. That's how we
create more loving world. So join us next week when
we are giving back this series to just another more
powerful conversation. So until then, stay grounded, stay grateful, and
always leave love.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
Have an amazing day, have a good one.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Thank you so much for joining me today on this
journey of intentional healing. I hope that this conversation has
filled your cup and reminded you of the beautiful and
worthy person that you are. I want you to remember
healing isn't about rushing. It's about showing up for yourself
with love and intention, one day at a time. So
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I'll see you back here Monday and Wednesday for another
episode of the Season of Healing intentionally right here on
the Season of Self Love podcast. So until then, keep
choosing you and visit us at the Season of Self
Love podcast dot com for show notes.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
And resources, and remember to.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
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What if the secret to loving yourself was actually found
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Speaker 6 (04:19):
I am great? Thank you so much for inviting me.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I'm excited about this conversation. You know, November is all
about giving back and that's something that we truly love
to do here on the season and stuff love.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
But before we get into this topic, I want to.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Do ground ourselves. We ground ourselves before we get into
the topic. All right, so my listeners, you know what
we do. If you all could just get into a
comfortable position right now and just close your eyes for
a moment, Begin with a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Then take a deep breath in now, release.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Now again in hell, compassion and exhale resistance. Now I
want you to imagine yourself surrounded by light, a gentle
golden light that wraps around you and flows from your
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heart into the world. Want you to visualize yourself offering support.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Kindness, or even just.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
A smile to someone in your community. See through the
ripple effect of your love as it moved through others.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You are in love with your action. You are a
vessel of service.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
You are enough.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Now take one more deep breath and gently open your
eyes and come back into this space.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
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Again, if you are new here to the Season and
Stephala podcast, it is something we do every day Monday, Thay, Friday.
Just they have ground us before we get into the topic.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Can head all right?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Today we're talking about the power of service, of giving back.
Miss Jamie.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Let's talk about the importance of giving back and what
did that truly mean? So I would love to start
up with your personal journey. So what experience awakened you
to the importance of giving back?
Speaker 6 (06:29):
Well, I was actually raised in a home where that
was pretty much the foundation of what we did. My
parents were amazing people. Our home is always filled with
people from all over the world, and the message that
we always got from them is that any experience that
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we were having if we could extend that to anyone
else who was within our family at the time or
who was coming to visit us, then we actually were
enriching ourselves. So they really thought in terms of endless
possibilities for everybody. The motto is if there's a will,
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there's a way, and we were brought up to feel
that it is a privilege to be of service to us.
So that was really wonderful.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
You know, that's beautiful because a lot of people don't
learn that. You know, that's something my grandmothers, both of
my grandmothers, I called their homes revolving door because they've
raised children that were not theirs. That was from their
children friends, you know, just raised them from the time
that they were birth. So I know exactly what that means.
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Of giving of service, just of just being able to
be that, you know, just just allowing God to continue
to sh show up for you everything that you are
blessed with, you bless others with, no matter how big
or small that it is. So that's great that you
have that. How would you say giving bad contributes to
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our journey of self love?
Speaker 6 (08:15):
Well, it's interesting. I think that we really need to
be I don't like to say need, but need to
be in a place where we are loving ourselves before
we can authentically be in service to others. So and
once we're in that place of really loving ourselves, appreciating ourselves,
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knowing ourselves, it never feels like service. It's just the
natural extension of who we are. And from that place,
it feels so good to be of service and it
feels so good to people who are receiving them.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
Yeah, yeah, it is.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I want to piggyback on that.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I was just telling my husband this actually today is
that I said, today feels different And why it feels different,
I said, because I feel good.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
I'm truly.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
In gratitude, because I love what I do, Like I
love the Season of Self Love podcast, and I've been
doing this for almost two years and the way that
it came about was just so amazing for me to
share it.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And you are so right.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
When you definitely, when you're going through your healing journey
and you truly understand who you are and what your
purpose is in life, it's nothing but second nature. So
it doesn't feel like the truth. It feels like something
that you truly want to do every day.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Yeah. Yes, And we end up doing it for ourselves. Yeah,
so it's a win win for everybody. But one of
the things I asked clients to do is first thing
in the morning, to sit with themselves and to identify
one thing that they appreciate about themselves. Not one thing
that someone else appreciates about them, but what do you
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appreciate about you for you?
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (10:13):
I think when we are able to do that and
get comfortable with that, it really starts off the day differently.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yes, it does, it does.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
I took a walk this morning in a park and
I was listening to by Procter and I've listened to
Change your Paradigm, Change your Life so many times.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I've listened to that out a book.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
And every time that I hear it, I hear something
different in it for me, something so different from me.
And it was he was talking about this, he was
at this conference and one of the speakers on a
conference I forgot the guy name again. He said, But
I'm being me for me. I'm being me for me,
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he said, not me for my wife, or my children,
or for the world, but I'm mean for me. And
then what that does is it allows you when you
are your total of who you are of you, then
you are able to give your authentic self to others.
And when I heard that, I was like, this is
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what I'm talking about. It just puts you in a
whole new mode.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
Well, it is interesting. I think we are only able
to hear from the perspective of where we are with ourselves,
moment by moment.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Yeah, so yeah, I like that moment by moment.
Speaker 6 (11:40):
I like that one moment in the next moment.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Yeah, all right, So let me ask you this, the
connection between serving others and nurturing ourselves. I know we
talked to this a little bit because it can be
so real giving from a full cup.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
And not an empty one.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
So I think it's not possible to give from an
empty cup without resentment on the part of the giver
and without the receiver feeling uncomfortable with the receiving, because
receivers can feel ambivalence when it comes from somebody who
is not full enough to actually be given. So it's
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kind of like that expression, put your own mask on first,
and then it's just others. But that's counterintuitive, especially as women.
I find that women try to extend themselves before they
serve themselves. I always say self service first, and I
think that it's a lose lose. It doesn't feel good
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to the giver, it doesn't feel good to the receiver.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Yeah, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Now, for our listeners who are wondering where do they start?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Where can I start?
Speaker 1 (12:56):
What are some simple ways that they can give back
and engage in their communities.
Speaker 6 (13:03):
I think when you are in a place once again
of alignment and feeling good about yourself and filled with appreciation,
those opportunities present themselves and then we end up saying yes.
There's no hesitation there, like, it's just it's a yes.
And if a situation is presented to you and you
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feel like yes, I think that's a wonderful fit for
where you are with yourself and what is available in
terms of the natural extension that will come and for
you to be in service.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Yeah, some great advice.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Now, Sometimes it's just it's not just about showing up right,
it's not just about what about the challenges like the burnout,
like the burnout of the feeling it just like the
burnout feeling right, that really don't matter, But how do
we overcome those?
Speaker 6 (13:59):
I think once again, it's so important that we nurture
and nourish ourselves back into the connection that we have
with ourselves moment by moment, and that's up to us.
That's our responsibility. We cannot look to anyone else to
do that for us. So I think that has to
be the priority. And for some people that's okay. It
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might take a long time to get to that place
where you're putting yourself first and feeling really connected with
you and then extending yourself of service. But I don't
think it feels good to do it before. And I
don't think it feels good to do it because you
think you should. That doesn't feel good, right. I mean
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you could, right, that's a different feeling, but you should no, right.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
I believe that kind of goes back to the not
giving from an empty cup.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
You know, you want to make.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Sure your cup is full. It's something that my therapist
said to me when you first started working with me
here on this season and self love is He said
that because I always say that my cup I used
to always say my cup is halfway full. I used
to always say it's halfway full. He said, how about
allowing your cup to completely full and flow over so
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those that are receiving your your your overflow. So that's
what we say, So start to learn to overflow your cup.
Speaker 6 (15:27):
Yeah, and I think allowing is good because we must
give ourselves permission to do that that does not come easy.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Yeah. Yeah, you are so right. You are so right.
Thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Now, when when we hear stories of transformation, you know,
those light bulb moments, it reminds us of why we
give so for you. Can you share one that really
moved you.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
Wow, it moves me differently. It's not because of the
response of my service. It's because I get so much
out of giving. So I volunteer a lot, and I'm
finding that there are a lot of volunteers that aren't
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really showing up even though they sign up. So when
I'm able to show up consistently and not even from
a place like oh I should, no one else is
doing it. But like I'm really loving this, Like this
is so fun and so amazing, and not because I'm
feeling bad about what is happening that's requiring volunteer work,
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but just to like look at some of these agencies
or some of these places and how they're running, and
it's just I'm often amazed. Yeah, it's really more about me.
It's never about what I'm giving or how I'm giving.
It's it almost feels offish on my part. I'm getting
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so much.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Out of it. Okay, so let me ask you this.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
Let's go into what's happening in today's world, our house
society is. You know, we talk about this a lot,
especially on my other podcast, about just the hopeless that
a lot of people feel in this moment in time.
What will be your advice or encouragement for them?
Speaker 6 (17:28):
Well, I really encourage people not to watch mainstream news
because there is nothing there that is hopeful or positive.
And I think that what happens is that we feel
paralyzed and we feel very unempowered, which is the purpose,
which is okay, But you know, I think that there
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are other news sources that are filled with hope and
where the message is very different. And I do think
that there is a silver lining in every situation, but
it really depends on where we're choosing to put our attention,
and that takes a lot of work sometimes, especially now
when we're bombarded with so many things that feel very hopeless. However,
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I do think that there's a whole other side to it,
and we have to look for that other side.
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, beautiful, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
You know, I remember when everything when the election came in,
turned and I remember we had like an after math
show of the whole thing. And I'm nowhere near political,
but I knew this was something that was going to
change all of our lives. This was a different type
of election that was going on here, and as you know,
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things had started to change. I remember saying something like
you said about there's something that we are supposed to
learn from this that's happening right now. I'm not quite
sure what it is, but my advice to everyone is
open your eyes and start paying attention. This is the
moment time that you truly need to tap into the
God within you so you can hear that because outside
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of you, it's.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Going to be crazy.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
So you have to find the strength within you. That's
where that resilience come in. That's where this self love
is coming in. And it's so ironic that it's so
many platforms that's talking about self love, that's talking about
self discovery. Let's talk about that inner strength that's so
much needed right now.
Speaker 6 (19:29):
Yes, that is for sure, and if we are wanting
to see that, we will find it. Yeah, be a
conscious process, which is it's tough. I have to say
it is tough right now.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
Yeah, so true.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
So you worked with so many beautiful souls, so many
beautiful souls. What are some of the most inspiring transformations
that you've witnessed through the acts of service?
Speaker 6 (19:57):
You know, people do get transformed. It is really amazing.
And I think the most amazing things that I see
is how much how it actually fills people to do
the service work. It fills them well, it's part of
their whole loving themselves. So it contributes to filling the cup.
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I feel like service anymore. It just feels like the
natural extension. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
So let me ask you this, what inspired you to
write your book?
Speaker 6 (20:37):
Okay, well that's an interesting story. My family was amazing,
and I did not have an emotional connection with my mother.
And I was extremely connected to myself from my earliest memory.
And I spent half my life trying to figure out
how could I be so connected to myself and have
no connection with this amazing woman that brought me to
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this world. And I did not feel that connection until
she was transitioning in the ICU and she was intubated
and then I felt all the love pour through her
to me and I thought, oh my goodness, this is
the beginning of our mother and daughter relationship. And then
she transitioned and I realized that even though my mother
(21:22):
was amazing and lived forty eight hours in every day,
she couldn't connect with me because she wasn't connected with herself.
And I realized this is such an important message for people, that,
you know, the connection with ourselves is really the basis
for every other connection that we will go on to
(21:42):
have with others or another. So after she transitioned, I
sat down with a friend of mine who knew my
mom really well, and we wrote this book on a weekend.
It just flowed through me, and it's a tribute to
my mom and really thanking her for giving me this
(22:03):
opportunity to, you know, stay eternally connected to myself because
intuitively I knew it was me. I needed to be
guided by me because that was it, It was just me.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
So yeah, beautiful, thank you for sharing that. So let
me ask you how did you become connected to yourself?
And first of all, let me ask you how old
was your were you when your mother passed away?
Speaker 6 (22:29):
When she transitioned, So she's gone like fourteen years. Fifteen,
she's gone fifteen years, and I am sixty two, so
you know, it was yeah, I was older. This book
is maybe fifteen years old, and I don't know I
was born with a knowing, but we all are. And
(22:52):
I think I knew intuitively that I could not give
that up because usually we look to our parents to
guide us, and I just that connection wasn't there. So
I'm very grateful for that now because that's my superpower,
my connection with myself well.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
And love. Yes, you know that that is so beautiful
because it does, it takes you know. The one thing
is that we talk about here is kind of relearning things,
relearning the things that we was taught from our parents.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
You know, just growing up.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
You get these paradigms or these habits or things that
that such. But for you not to even have a connection,
it's it's honestly, it's like really, like really, and I'm
really looking at a superhero here because for you to
(23:55):
share that and also understand, like I really, I only
I'm so connect to myself.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
That I know.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
That I know that there is no connection with her.
Speaker 6 (24:08):
Lifeline. But I think the other thing is that I
trusted what I knew, God knows how. You know, I
was very, very small. It was impossible to influence be influenced.
I only heard the sound of my own voice, you know.
And I think that we need to get back to that,
to trusting ourselves, to knowing ourselves, to loving ourselves, to
(24:32):
allowing ourselves to be guided from our inner knowing interviewing,
because that's where it all is. There's nothing outside of ourselves.
I mean, of course those parental connections, they're very important,
but sometimes they're not available. Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
That was beautiful.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
All right, So we have a few.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Questions from the listeners that we pre pulled up for them.
Speaker 4 (24:57):
For you one, listeners, how can.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I give back when I feel like I'm still healing myself?
Speaker 6 (25:07):
You know, I think when you're still healing yourself, then
giving back is maybe not the priority. I think you
have to just use that energy for yourself. I don't
think that's the time to necessarily give back. Actually, the
healing is the giving back, it really is. You allowing
(25:29):
yourself to heal is the giving back.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
You know.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
There's a statement that.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I heard that.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Healing is not a destination, Because I believe that we
are always healing. Healing is on going process. Yeah, healing
is an ongoing process. So for those that are going
through that on and I guess there's levels.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
I think we just talked about I just talked about
this the other day.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
There is levels to the healing process to go through.
I think there's a point to where you when you're
truly at that I don't even know what stage would
that be, to where you are so aware of things
now that the healing is so much easier because now
(26:28):
you have the tools. Now you have the tools for
the triggers, because we're always going to have these triggers
that's going to come subconsciously in our mind. But it's
all about how we respond to those triggers and that's
where the tools come from in the healing process. If
that makes sense.
Speaker 6 (26:49):
Yeah, it does make sense, It really does. And for
some people, if they feel that that is going to
help them in their journey to reach out and to
be of service for others or another, then intuitively allow
yourself to be attracted to whatever that experience is.
Speaker 1 (27:04):
Yeah, So let me ask you something, this is a
little personal. Do you think there's anything that you need
to be healed from.
Speaker 6 (27:15):
Not that I need to be healed, but I'm very
self aware and I think that I work on myself.
It's moment. It's really moment to moment because when I
get triggered, my go to now is to laugh, which
is great because it gives me some levity. It's not
like this huge thing that happened. It's more like, Okay,
(27:38):
thank you very much, universe, I got it. This is
a trigger. And I think that the awareness has helped
me really just appreciate my humanness and also forgive myself
in that moment that I regress and onto the next moment.
(27:59):
But yeah, I think I think it's I think it really
is moment to moment, okay, and I give myself grace,
and giving yourself grace is very important.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Is that it is.
Speaker 4 (28:13):
The last question?
Speaker 1 (28:14):
What's something small that I can do to still make
a difference?
Speaker 6 (28:22):
You know, when in a moment, if you are feeling
good and you're sharing, just being present in anyone's face,
you are making a difference. You know, because when you
feel good, you look at others, you smile, you're open,
you're available. It's kind of like you're present. And when
we are present, that is such a present for others. Yeah,
(28:46):
it really disarms people. It allows people to feel comfortable
in their own skin. There's a lot that happens without
going to a place and doing a task.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Right right, Beautiful, thank you, thank you, thank you. All right,
my listeners, if you haven't already, make sure that you
grab our free copy of the Year a Rebirth Workbook,
Part two. This month's section, it's all about community and
connections and reflection and there is guide it, journal, prompts,
(29:17):
service ideas, and even a calendar that you can plan
your own mini service of projects. I want you to
head over to the link for the show notes or
visit our website and download a copy. Right now, it's
the season and stephalopodcast dot com. Jamie, I want to
thank you so much for just sharing your heart and
your life with your wisdom with us today. You inspired
(29:39):
us to think a little deeper about some things and
what really means to give back the process. Is there
anything that you would love to share with our listeners today?
Speaker 6 (29:50):
Know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself because you are your
own greatest resource.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Beautiful, can can you tell my listeners where can they
find you if they wanted your service or anything.
Speaker 6 (30:04):
I have a website. It's www dot j A M
I E jsh L e r n e R dotum beautiful.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Thank you all right to my listeners, I want to
thank you for just being here.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
I want you to.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Remember that service doesn't require a big gest it just
starts at a single act of kindness. That's how we
create more loving world. So join us next week when
we are giving back this series to just another more
powerful conversation. So until then, stay grounded, stay grateful, and
always leave love.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
Have an amazing day, have a good one.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Thank you so much for joining me today on this
journey of intentional healing. I hope that this conversation has
filled your cup and reminded you of the beautiful and
worthy person that you are. I want you to remember
healing isn't about rushing. It's about showing up for yourself
with love and intention, one day at a time. So
(31:02):
I'll see you back here Monday and Wednesday for another
episode of the Season of Healing intentionally right here on
the Season of Self Love podcast. So until then, keep
choosing you and visit us at the Season of Self
Love podcast dot com for show notes.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
And resources, and remember to.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Connect with me on Instagram at.
Speaker 4 (31:23):
The Real Naomi Banks.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
This has been brought to you by Aks Naomi and
elevating me self discovery because your healing matters. You are loved,
you are worthy, and you are exactly where you need
to be.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Take care
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