Attracting a High-Value Partner: The Single Mom's Guide to Showing Up Powerfully on Dating Apps

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave podcast. Now, let's style a single mom for her
dating profile.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Avoid black and sort of like a lot of black
is a serious color. Navy is serious and you think
it's slimming, but it makes you look kind of more
serious and somber. Pull out your reds and pinks. Those
are colors that evoke romance and femininity. Allow your feminine
curves to show somewhere, ruffles, lace. I usually wear my

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hair wavy because wavy is more romantic and accessible and touchable.
Super super straight is going to be more masculine.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
This explains the first five years of me trying to date.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
And you know, black leather and like, you know, flat
iron hair, edgy.

Speaker 4 (00:48):
Yeah, professional, Like it looked absently and I'd hear, wow,
you're kind of intimidating, and I just ri were the
wrong ones, but really I was putting off the.

Speaker 5 (00:58):
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Do you feel like you've lost yourself?

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Maybe it's because you became a single mom and all
you're doing is prioritizing everybody else because we think that's
what we're supposed to do, when hey, this might sound
kind of controversial and this might shock you a little.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
Bit, but I actually think it's the worst thing you
could ever do. So I've got a special guest.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
It's going to help you prioritize you so you feel good,
so that you can do everything and be a badass, superhero,
brave single mom. That's my job to make sure that
you're equipped with everything. I can't wait for you to
meet Aaron Mathis. I found her on Instagram and now
I'm like a huge fan, so I'm so glad that

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Erin is here. Aaron is a style coach and she's
gorgeous and has the best outfits you've ever seen in
your life, and she shares all of her secrets. She's
like that friend that doesn't just like buy all the
nice outfits and like gate keeps them.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
She teaches you how to do it. But it's more
than that. She's also a single mom.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
By the way, I'm so glad to be here with you, Amanda,
and all these brave single mamas we got.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
We gotta lift.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Each other up. I'll have our different areas that we
can contribute, and my area is about your style, your confidence,
your credibility, and just feeling good in your own skin.
That's how I can help.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
But why shouldn't I just like wear sweats and sacrifice
and give my kids everything?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Isn't that the way that I'm supposed to do it?

Speaker 2 (04:25):
I mean, think about that's a good question. Think about
your own daughter. Your daughter grows up, Okay, she unexpectedly
becomes a single mom. Do you want to see her
just schmucking around in her sweats and just kind of
putting her kids first all the time? I don't know,
Or do you want to see her feeling confident and glowy?

(04:47):
She's still a dedicated mom, She's still but she carves
out some time for herself, She cares for her appearance,
she actually invests in herself, and as a result, she
feels good in her own skin. She feels confident. She's
getting some different opportunities that she might not have had.
Guess what, She's attracting a higher quality man, potential partner.

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Because sorry, but men are visual and you kind of
need to make sure you reflect your best version of yourself.
So I mean, I totally get your question, but I
sort of think about my daughter, how would I want
to see her? Well, now apply that to yourself. They
actually are watching you. They're watching you to see how

(05:32):
do you care for yourself? How do you live life
as an adult? And if you live life just purely
sacrificial and you don't really care for yourself, And you
always wear sweats because they are comfortable, So that's one
form of self care. I get that, And don't.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
Get back with luggings on right now.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
But you know I have stretching hands. Okay, I love comfort.
I'm all about comfort, and I think you should take
an hour to get ready in the morning. We have
limited time, so let's figure out those quick techniques that
will help us glow up and feel better in our own.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
Skin because it has a trickle down effect on our life.
Do you remember doctor Laura, Yeah, I remember listening to her.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
If you don't know her.

Speaker 3 (06:11):
She was a radio show back when like a radio
was king and she was a psychologist and people would
call in and tell them their sad sex stories and
she would give them advice, and she was like real harsh.
She was like the judge duty of psychologists. When a
single mom would call and she would give them I
think the worst advice is she would always say, well, like,
you can't date aget until the kids are grown up,

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and you shouldn't work outside of the home, and you've
got a sacrifice and so you just wear sweats and
because your job is the mom and that's it and
that's what you have to focus on.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
I get where her heart is, but boy, that's terrible advice.

Speaker 2 (06:49):
That is terrible. And you know, I can imagine, you know,
maybe she experienced or saw the extreme where the mom
is like me time all the time, kids are meant
to be I've seen and not heard. I know it
can go to an extreme, but there's got to be
a balance in there where I know that when I
feel good about how I look and how I'm presenting

(07:11):
myself and that energy that I bring to the world,
that confidence, it comes back to me in so many
different ways. I feel happier and I'm a happier mom,
and my kids get to see me in that joyful place,
in that confident place.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
Yeah, there's the statistic that says the highest chance for
our children to have good mental health and good relationships
as adults is the quality of their mother's happiness while
she was raising them.

Speaker 2 (07:40):
Oh my god, I love that. I love that so much.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
My early years as a single mother, we're not very
happy and what can we do to be happier?

Speaker 1 (07:51):
So tell me, maybe what do you notice, Like, how
does it work.

Speaker 3 (07:54):
When maybe you bring in a client, Where are they
and then how do you see their trans information in
the process? They're mental transformation.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, many times women come to me when they've kind
of lost their style. I tend to work with women
maybe definitely thirties and beyond, many forties and beyond where
we have sacrificed. You know, you go into mom mode
and there's a season with young kids where it's just
you're doing your best, but it's all about the kids.

(08:25):
You know, I get that. I get that, but they've
then kind of gained weight, their bodies changed, they've lost
their sense of style, and they don't feel great about
themselves when they're going into situations, whether re entering the
job market or wanting to get a promotion, or re
entering the dating scene. You know, as a single it matters.

(08:46):
So they come and they've decided they've made a big,
courageous decision to invest in themselves because it does take
some time, and it takes some financial investment, and it
can be easy to think that style is just a
luxury only for the rich, only for the celebrities, but
that is not true. I work with everyday people, and

(09:08):
some of my clients have really made a sacrifice. They
do the payment plan, they you know, because they have
figured out that, you know what, I need to feel
good in my own skin. I need to feel more
confident and attractive. I'm not done showing up, I'm not
done feeling relevant. So they come and we do. We

(09:31):
have a couple different ways of working, but the primary
way is I have this online style coaching program because
I work with women all over. Sometimes they do in
person stuff, sometimes we meet up, we do photo shoots, shopping,
definitely closets. But they come into this program and the
first step is to really create a vision, a vision
board of what do I want my life to look like?

(09:53):
You know, let's just throw up a vision board, and
then we have this wonderful process of identifying their style archetype,
like what are those visual qualities that really make them
unique and that express their personality and that bring them
visual to light. So that is a really fun exercise

(10:13):
that we do, very insightful, lots of aha moments. Once
we understand that, then we begin to build step by
step their style, their color, their body shape, their silhouette.
Which styles flatter and balance. We look at proportions, how
do you put your outfits together? You might need to
tuck that shirt, you know, because the one to one

(10:35):
ratio is not very attractive. So we want your torso
to look shorter, your legs look longer. There's all these
little tricks and techniques that we can teach you that
just create more balance and make you look more polished,
put together, flattering, and we kind of walk through that.
We look at your your face shapes and how that
relates to the accessories you're going.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
To pick and oh, my gosh, that's.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
Your bone structure, the scale and how that released purses
and shoes. I mean, it so fascinating that there really
is a very clear path and almost like a science
that once you understand it, getting dressed, putting together looks,
even hair and makeup, it just becomes so much easier.

Speaker 1 (11:17):
Wow. I love that.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
So it's not an overnight it's not overnight. It's a process.
But then you get these skills that become life skills.
And guess what your daughters need to learn this too.
If you're just wearing sweats all the time and that's
what your kids are seeing, they're not learning how to
put themselves together and present themselves in the world in

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a way that's flattering. So if you pick up those skills,
you can share those with your your kids and your daughters,
even your son. Some of the things you'll learn and
it's going to enrich your life and the way you
show up.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
I love this idea.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
I want to go back to something you said about
the need to feel relevant, and I thought, Ooh, I
think that's what so many single moms struggle with. It's
because all of a sudden, it's like I don't matter
to someone, or I feel irrelevant to this world. Do
you feel like you had a time in your life
where you didn't feel relevant?

Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, I definitely did. I had a couple times like that,
And the first time was in middle school, and I
just I was clueless about style at that point, and
I kind of became invisible. I had gone from being
popular in elementary school to like, got a bad haircut, god,
got glasses, and just disappeared. And I will go deep

(12:38):
into that story because it's such a young story, but
I do share it in a ted X talk that
I get. Oh, I share that whole and I show
pictures and I had this transformation and it's a pretty
powerful story. So that was my first. But then going
into midlife in my forties, I really hit this Like
I was an older mom, so I had young kids,

(12:59):
work full time, burnout, marriage was not doing great, I
had gained weight, I had just kind of lost my
sense of style, and I was definitely starting to feel
that more invisible. A lot of women, as we age,
we start we can feel irrelevant, unnoticed, unremarkable, and that's

(13:22):
not a great feeling. Yeah, they want to still show
up and feel attractive. So I did. Actually, even though
I was running this international style company, I had gone
through some really hard trials and just was struggling with
depression and anxiety and just burnout. I gave myself a makeover,

(13:44):
took my own tools, and I actually, at that time
I had darker, kind of like light brown hair. I
experimented with my natural color and I said, I am
a blonde at heart. I can't do this yet me doo,
you got you get that? So I went blonde again.
I got extensions. I went out bought a bunch of
new clothes, even consigned clothes, but I got everything tailored

(14:07):
perfectly to fit my curvy body and to flatter me
because I was heavier. And then had a photo shoot
for our business. The photos turned out great. I had
a big transformation, and it really just gave me this
new confidence and this new wind beneath my wings, I
mean the long blonde hair extensions. I'm walking on Sunset Boulevard.

(14:30):
We lived in Los Angeles, and this is literally like
just right after my transformation. I'm walking my preschooler to
school and this man approaches me on the street and says,
excuse me, ma'am, I'm a photographer for a fashion street
street blog. Wait, street styled blog? Oh could I take

(14:52):
your picture for the blog? And I did. I was
looking really silish that day. I had a workout fit
on that I'd recently purchased, and it was so flattering
that this photographer, this fashion pho amazing approached me on
the street. And so suddenly I went from being unfeeling unseen,
irrelevant and remarkable to photographers. Fashion photographers are stopping me

(15:16):
on the street in Sunset Boulevard in Los Angeles. So
that was a real moment.

Speaker 1 (15:23):
Finally, that was huge. I love that. Well, what was
it that? What was like? Was there an incident, an
event or just a that's it. I've got a change.

Speaker 3 (15:35):
Moment where you're like, you know what, like, oh my god,
I have to do something about this. I have to
work on my outward appearance almost to give them the
inward me the confidence I need.

Speaker 1 (15:47):
To go through this.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
Yeah, and there is usually that moment for me. It
was we were doing a new website for our company.
We had to take pictures and I just knew, like,
and so you know, for some of you single moms
listening and maybe you need fresh headshots. Maybe you've got
to get pictures on your dating profile. Yeah, this is
the perfect time to go. Okay, am I representing? Do

(16:12):
I feel good with how I'm presenting myself? Do I
need to freshen up? And probably you do. That's okay.

Speaker 1 (16:18):
I have had to.

Speaker 2 (16:19):
Reinvent my looks several times. A number of times we
get to yeah, we get cool as that, like we
get to create a new version.

Speaker 3 (16:26):
It's funny because I look at older versions of myself
when I was a younger, single mom with little kids.

Speaker 1 (16:34):
I like, don't even recognize that girl.

Speaker 2 (16:36):
I'm like, Wow, you're just surviving, right. And I want
to point out that a lot of women will say
I need to lose ten pounds or twenty pounds or
fifty pounds before I work on my style and my image.
But I really we encourage you don't wait to lose
the weight because you can then find yourself kind of

(16:57):
in this perpetual you're not feeling about yourself. You're trying
to lose the weight and it doesn't happen, and just
year after year and you're still kind of stuck in
clothing that's not making you feel good. For me, when
I hit that point, I was probably thirty pounds overweight.
I just said, I'm going to love my body as
it is right now. I'm going to love me as

(17:19):
I am. Now, dress me, clothe me, adorn me, and
have the clothes fitted to my curves so that it
comes in and gives me a feminine silhouette where I
have it. You know, at that time, I was more
of a triangle, you know, or some people say a
pair with wider thighs, and that's beautiful.

Speaker 1 (17:40):
It's normal.

Speaker 2 (17:41):
It's very feminine, but there's just ways that you balance
that with your clothing. And after I gave myself a
makeover because it made me feel so good and gave
me this new boot burst of energy, I actually lost
most of that weight within the next year because logical switch.

Speaker 1 (18:01):
Yes, I talk to single moms every day.

Speaker 3 (18:04):
Sometimes it breaks my heart, the ones that decide not
done best in themselves. Yeah, because I'm like, man, I
get it like and I get you know, I get
struggling financial situations one hundred and ten percent like.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
We all have. You know.

Speaker 3 (18:20):
I had to get to the point where I was like, wait,
money flows. If I don't do something, I'm going to
stay in this situation.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
That's exactly it. Money is energy. Money is energy. Let
it flow. Obviously, wisely you don't just pour it all out.
But you've got to choose those things that you know
are going to move you forward and that are going
to challenge you.

Speaker 3 (18:39):
What's the internal change that you've noticed in some of
your clients after like comes to you, Let's say, single
mom comes to you, and it's like, oh my god, I
lost myself. I really I want to get on a
dating app. And the only pictures I have of myself
are like me with my hair and a messy button
and kids in the photo, So like, I've got to

(18:59):
do this. And then she changes and she's there, tell
me about her personal transformation. What do you notice after
she invests in herself or invests in any of us,
invest in something and then go go to try to
improve our lives, become the woman that we're meant to be.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
I'll tell you this story about one of my clients.
I'll call her Heather, and she's given me permission to
share the story. But Heather what found herself divorced with
four boys, several of them special needs, and she was
ready to meet. She wanted to start dating. She has

(19:37):
very full figure, large bosom, like a fuller figure, a
little bit shorter, so you know, not an easy to
dress body, but very womanly and feminine. And she was
so proud of herself because she had done some martial
arts and was building up her strength and her confidence
that way. And so she had a picture of herself

(19:59):
and her martial arts to get up on the dating apps.
But that wasn't emphasizing her feminine beauty. So we worked
together and kind of worked with some of what was
in her closet and did a little shopping. But it was,
you know, it was a single mom budget, so it
wasn't thousands of dollars, but it was an investment for her.

(20:20):
It was definitely an investment, so I know, I need
to make this. We did a photo shoot, hair makeup,
the new looks. We did a photo shoot, and that
day she felt so transformed. She said, I feel more
beautiful today than I have ever felt in my entire life.
And it just kind of went in to her heart

(20:44):
and just gave her this I am beautiful. I'm beautiful,
And when a woman can appreciate her own unique beauty,
not the standards of our society, not what they say
it has to be but her own because she's in
the right colors, the right accessories that make her vibrant,
that show off her figure and her assets, and those

(21:06):
pictures turn out beautiful. They she put them up in
the dating apps, and then she was having way more action,
way more options. Okay, how many of you single minds
would like options? Okay, I'm talking about I'm talking about options.
Let's just expand your options. Okay, do you want to

(21:28):
choose from three guys or you want to choose from
twenty guys? Okay, like yours. The pictures will make so
much of a difference.

Speaker 1 (21:36):
Oh my god, one hundred percent. I tell the songs.
It's like, okay, we need at least three pictures.

Speaker 3 (21:41):
My rule is you need a picture your face and
gorgeous look up your face.

Speaker 1 (21:45):
We need a picture, a full shot.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
Yeah, yeah, own it, and we need you to do
and then we need you doing something fun and it
obviously your job.

Speaker 2 (21:54):
Yeah, that's right. And it doesn't matter what size you
are or even you know, sometimes what you're wearing, well
that matters some, but like, it doesn't matter what size
you are when you own it and you wear it
and you just like, hey, I've got called him. You know,
because men like all different body types, you know, you
don't have to just be one body type. It makes

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a big difference. So she got this action. She met
a very nice man who lived several states away. They
begin a long distance relationship, fell in love. He moved
to California to be with her. They dated here, they
got married, and they are a wonderful couple. He's a
great stepdad to her four boys and just I actually

(22:40):
recently went back years later and I got her ready
for a family photo shoot with him. I styled him
a little bit, and there's such a cute couple.

Speaker 1 (22:49):
Oh my god, that's the best.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
So I see these stories over and over again. It's just,
you know, Heather was beautiful. She just didn't know how
to express it through her fashion.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Yeah, because I think sometimes we're maybe past relationship or
even we've built ourselves, we've torn ourselves down too much.
And I feel like I'm on a mission to always
tell moms like, you're not ruined, there's nothing broken about you.

Speaker 1 (23:15):
It's just a new season in your life that we
get to go do that.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
Why do you feel like it's so important for a
woman to feel beautiful.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
The good question.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
I feel like it's kind of inherently feminine. So we
want to feel cherished. I don't know, I want I
personally like feeling cherished.

Speaker 1 (23:34):
Yeah, And how.

Speaker 2 (23:36):
Is somebody else anybody a friend, a boyfriend? How are
other people going to really cherish you if you don't
cherish yourself and say I am worthy of being cherished.
So that's how I view style.

Speaker 1 (23:54):
That's beautiful. Why did you get into this?

Speaker 2 (23:56):
My mom is super stylish and she did her best
as a pastor's wife. Actually, I'm a pastor's kid, so
growing up in the church, and she was always like
the super stylish So I learned a lot from her.
But then, ultimately, saraen dipitity led me to meet and
marry a man whose mother is one of the pioneers

(24:17):
and the teachers and the authors in the image consulting industry.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
Oh my god, her name, that's no pressure, that ain't
no rushare at all for a mother in law.

Speaker 2 (24:28):
She it's funny because her name is Carla Mathis. She
wrote this book, Triumph of Individual Style. And when I
first met her, she told her son later she said,
Aaron's the only woman I've ever seen who doesn't need
my help for image. I was like, that's a compliment,
thank you huge. She tells that story. She still we're

(24:50):
still business partners today and so basically I'm married into it.
And I was a graphic designer, which is very visual,
and I always had drawn women's faces and drawn clothing designs,
and even in high school, I would look at people.
After I experienced the power of my own transformation, I
would look around and be like, if I had a

(25:12):
magic wand I would just here's how I would make
over this person or that person. So clearly I already had,
but I didn't know it was a career growing up
in this small town of Chico. I didn't know it
was a career until I met and married. We have
since divorced. We were married for twenty five years, but
thankfully we had an amicaled amicable divorce, and I'm still

(25:34):
in business with my mother in law.

Speaker 1 (25:36):
That's amazing. That's imps right, that's a whole other podcast.
How you're able to do that's a whole other talk.

Speaker 2 (25:42):
And she's wonderful, she's amazing. We're a good team.

Speaker 3 (25:46):
I'm sure you find this incredibly fulfilling. What are the
most fulfilling parts of it for you.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
I have women tell me on a regular basis my
clients thank you for changing my life, and it's so
I never would have imagined that I would be changing
lives through glaming up women or heiding in woo. But
it's so much deeper than just the external because we

(26:11):
really take our clients, and I take my clients through
like a discovery process of who are you and how
are you going to authentically express that. I don't want
you just to be trendy or put on the clothes
that I think you should wear, but we want you
to get in touch with your heart and then begin
to express it so that when you're styling yourselves hair, makeup, wardrobe,

(26:33):
it feels really good and satisfying. And there's such a
huge shift and ripple effects that happen in their lives.
I see promotions, I see new relationships, I see renewed confidence.
Suddenly they're showing up. They feel relevant again. People are
noticing where they had felt invisible and noticing in a

(26:53):
good way, and they can contribute. Their voice is heard,
they stand up on a stage, they are seen, and
there's credibility.

Speaker 1 (27:03):
All of that.

Speaker 2 (27:04):
Can be communicated visually. So I love changing lives through
fashion and style and.

Speaker 1 (27:12):
How I think about it. Yeah, I love that.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
And when you think about it, it is not that
hard to look like the most well dressed person in
a room lately, like on a small scale, like when
you think about sometimes I wear lots of gym clothes,
and then when I do get dressed up, sometimes I'm like,
I don't feel like anyone else is dressed up, and
I always feel so overdressed.

Speaker 1 (27:33):
Maybe there's more to that.

Speaker 3 (27:35):
I've just always thought that, well, people just don't dress
up anymore, But that just means that people aren't really
caring about themselves anymore and.

Speaker 2 (27:42):
They want to like fit in or blend in. I
have this new mantra, not a new mantra, but I've
been saying it more recently, which is wear all the
pretty dresses.

Speaker 1 (27:51):
I like that.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
Okay, I have pretty dresses. You know what, I'm not
going to worry about if I want to wear it,
if that feels good to me, I am going to
show up in the pretty, flowy dress and just own it.
So my daughter, who's now a teenager, we were going
out to a birthday brunch for my mom, and she's like, Mom,
I kind of want to wear this dress, but it

(28:12):
feels a little fancy for Chico and for this restaurant.
And I said, girl, life is short, let's wear the
pretty dresses. All wear one, we'll both you know. And
she did it and it was fun. But I want
to make a point. I want to make a point. Okay,
let's talk about gym clothes and casual clothes because a
lot of single moms are running around, we're doing school drops,

(28:33):
we're driving kids. Okay, so you're not going to be
wearing the pretty dresses when you're doing that, and that's fine.
But you know what, when you understand your body type,
your best colors, your proportions, you then can put together
super casual ath leisure outfits that are flattering, that feel good,

(28:54):
and even you'll show up even in your casual, super
comfy at leisure, even with your boots, and people will
say you look great because you know, I in the
gym wearing clothes that flatter me and they're not super fancy,
but they're just the right cut, they're the right scale,
the colors, and my my trainer always introduces me to

(29:15):
people and says Aaron's an international style coach and they
you know, they say, well, I could tell you know,
you kind of do have style. So even in gym clothes,
you can do it in a way that flatters and
that's comfortable.

Speaker 1 (29:30):
So that's amazing. I agree.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
I like fabletics, Yeah, for those I get matching gym
outfits and like and it's easy and I can order
and I'm like, nope, this matches.

Speaker 1 (29:41):
I'll get the orange one and the pink one and the.

Speaker 3 (29:43):
Red one and just to change it up because forever
I was like, I only wore black, right, and I
only wore things.

Speaker 1 (29:50):
That were like like big T.

Speaker 2 (29:52):
Shirts or I would you know, and I.

Speaker 1 (29:55):
Would whatever was old.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
It's the big T shirts that off and women wear
that are just making them look really frumpy. You want
to look feminine, even if you're heavier than you like,
wear a shirt that kind of accentuates your curves, cuts
in under your bosom a little bit, so it's not
just a big box. Yeah, has some fit, has some firmness,

(30:18):
so it doesn't go in all the hills and valleys
that you know we have sometimes and there's other little tips,
like know, the necklines that flatter you if you have
a large bosom or a lower bosom, you want to
wear lower necklines. If you have a high neckline, then
it can make the space feel, you know, in the eye.

(30:40):
So there's all these little tips and tricks that you understand.

Speaker 1 (30:45):
Okay, So let's style a single mom for her dating profile.

Speaker 2 (30:50):
Okay, avoid black and sort of like a lot of
black is a serious color. Navy is serious. You think
it's slimming, but it makes you look kind of more
serious and somber. Go for I'll tell you a romance color,
red and pink. Whatever your good red is. It could

(31:10):
be a soft cran but it just have to be
a bright red, right. It could be a soft cranberry red,
a kind of coral red, a pink red. Pull out
your reds and pinks. Those are colors that evoke romance
and femininity. Okay, so we're trying to evoke femininity, so
we can draw the masculine. Oh and yes, definitely show

(31:35):
your curves. You don't need to be super tight all over,
but allow your feminine curves to show somewhere, whether that's
your bosm or your waistline. You know, we don't want
to be super tight everywhere. But ruffles, lace, any sort
of things that have inherently feminine styles.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
I ever want have thought about that?

Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yes, yeah, I actually have some reels on my Instagram
that talk about red and how to dress for romance,
and I show some different dresses I have, like this
first date dress that's amazing and it gives me amazing
results every time.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (32:11):
That's what I do tell some of my clients is like,
have one outfit that you just absolutely love.

Speaker 1 (32:16):
Okay, so this is good.

Speaker 3 (32:17):
Like I can help them dating strategy with the app,
but you can help with the outfit.

Speaker 1 (32:20):
And I said, look, just pick one and that's the
outfit you wear on every first date.

Speaker 3 (32:25):
Yeah, so you're not overthinking it every single time and
you feel confident is yeah?

Speaker 2 (32:30):
So what pretty much like if you go really it's
sort of like this kind of one of my reds,
like kind of corally coral red, and it has it's
a it's a surplus. So it's like a surplus is
very flattering on a lot of women's figures because when
you have diagonal lines, so surplus is when it crosses

(32:52):
over it sort of like a rap like a rap dress.
Oh okay, yeah, it's a rap dress with ruffles and
like a large ruffle and then it ties at the waist,
so it cinches in at the waist and then if
you've got hips or a booty that you feel self
conscious of, it then flows out and you know, kind
of down and out and the ruffles sort of make

(33:14):
it sachet and swish and it's not too roughly, but
it definitely has large ruffles. And again you'll find it
on my Instagram Air and Style Coach and it's got
a little flower pattern on it. I do it a
little feminine flower necklace and hoops. I usually wear my
hair wavy because wavy is more romantic and accessible and touchable.

(33:38):
Really straight slicked, you know highly. I mean, if your
hair is sticks straight, don't worry about it. You know,
it's great. But I can wear my hair wavy or straight,
and like super super straight is going to be more
masculine because straight lines in general are more masculine and
curvy lines are more feminine.

Speaker 3 (33:58):
This explains the first five years of me trying to date.
I basically yeah, and you know.

Speaker 2 (34:07):
Black leather and like, you know, flat hair, edgy, yeah, professional.

Speaker 4 (34:15):
Like I looked absently and I'd hear, wow, you're kind
of intimidating, and I just like they were the wrong ones.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
But really I was putting off the wrong vibe.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
And if you're a blonde wearing black, it's high contrast,
so it's power. It's a power move. And also if
you're wearing black and white, that's really high contrast, and
that's also not good for blonde hair because it doesn't
relate to our contrast level anyway. So we get into
all those little teachings that you should if you're blonde,

(34:45):
you shouldn't be wearing black and white. It's too high
contrast for you. If you have dark brown hair, I
wear oh boy.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
Gosh, I have a high neck line with big boobs.

Speaker 4 (34:59):
Right, anything's okay, it's okay, I'm learning a lot, It's okay, I.

Speaker 2 (35:05):
Need These are all these great little tips. But yeah,
so when you when you have you know kind of
like you dress for romance, and then you want your
pictures to be warm, accessible. You imagine that you're, you know,
looking at your dream guy. And I take pictures of
my clients. I actually use a camera, so I know

(35:27):
how to draw those looks out where you're looking approachable,
that you're looking warm and romantic and so kind.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
That's what you're looking for, like you, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (35:40):
I mean I have I have guys tell me about
my profile, like you, you look kind of it's your eyes,
you know, and it's like, but it's really just that
I know, and I think I'm kind, but I know
how to convey that with a look and really play
up the eyes, you know. And yeah, my current my

(36:01):
current boyfriend, I tell you that, and he's kind of
my I've only been divorced for like three years and
I've been dating. Okay, I have a relationship that's fairly
new and really well. But or the roughly dress on
the first daid he commented about the profile that you know,
it was your eyes, your kind eyes, and I'm thinking, yeah,

(36:23):
it was the smile, it was the romantic dress.

Speaker 3 (36:25):
You know.

Speaker 1 (36:27):
I had a strategy, dude, I got you.

Speaker 3 (36:29):
Oh yeah, well, how do we take pictures with kind eyes?

Speaker 2 (36:33):
It's really I know, that's good. That's really good. It's
it's finding those expressions that are authentic when you are
getting your pictures taken. It's so easy to feel awkward.
Most people feel like, Okay, I just gotta file, like.

Speaker 3 (36:50):
I'm getting nervous and intimidated because I'm like, oh god,
I want this picture to look good.

Speaker 2 (36:54):
Yeah, I mean, you know, maybe have a glass of
wine or something. But you got to like settle into
a more because that and you really have to project
more motion than you're normally comfortable with to have it
convey on the camera. So yeah, I'm.

Speaker 1 (37:10):
Really kind of getting the mood.

Speaker 6 (37:11):
Like imagine almost like a whole bunch take a whole
bunch of pictures, like you know, fifty pictures, and try
every expression and try more mellow, and try try smiling,
try really.

Speaker 2 (37:24):
Big smile, like oh my gosh, I just you know,
but then maybe that's too much, you know, so you
kind of little smile. So just try different looks, and
then you can have a friend help you hone in
on what are those looks that feel kind, that feel authentic,
that feel romantic, that feel feminine, and that effective pictures

(37:45):
make a huge difference. And I've done this with my clients,
all different women who look so many different ways and
body types and ethnicities, and there's always a way to
capture that.

Speaker 1 (37:57):
This is brilliant. I love this Basically, like.

Speaker 3 (38:01):
You could like pregame your photos and you're you know,
you're like visualizing like arriving on this first date and
they're as tall as they say they are and they
are even cuter than their pictures and you feel those
butterfly feelings. You're like, oh my god, and then take
your picture like you have that emotion going on. Yeah,

(38:23):
maybe do something like that totally, Yeah, totally.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
And then so on the first date, you want to
do the same thing.

Speaker 2 (38:30):
Dressed for romance, just accessible, you know, like you want
to have a femininity and an accessibility and if you
got like really like structured blazer and you know, turtleneck
and even dates, even if it's you know, you want
to be as much skin as you're comfortable for your

(38:53):
you know, cultural everybody's different with that, but show a
little skin and have you know, feminine accessories. I just
you know, it's really an art of like stepping into
the feminine so that the masculine can feel masculine. And
they respond, yeah, you want to You're not hailing it.

Speaker 3 (39:17):
It's hard, like I remember, because you play both roles
as a single mom, and you're playing the masculine and
feminine roles, and sometimes I'm like, uh, there's making money.

Speaker 1 (39:28):
Shouldn't be masculine. It's not that it's.

Speaker 3 (39:30):
Like, but you're you're the disciplinarian and you're doing all
the things. So I think sometimes it's hard to shut
it off, and maybe we can shut it off with
like the right outfit.

Speaker 2 (39:40):
Mm hmm, yeah, yeah, I mean.

Speaker 1 (39:42):
I thought about that.

Speaker 2 (39:43):
How you put yourself together, you might. I have my
tools and my methods. Listening to music is one way
that I get myself into a more sensual feminine place,
because it's true, as a single mom, we are in
the masculine. Yeah, the fit, we're doing all of it.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
I just mowed the lawn. Now I'm going to go
out on a date, right, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (40:06):
Yeah, So listen to some music, you know, have your
glass of wine or whatever you and vibe to sort
of you know, but I'm I'm not trying to encourage drinking.
I don't. I don't hear you hear and you can
put this if you want. But I'm microdose cannabis and
that helps me. That helps me as well, just a
little bit to just kind of settle in, be.

Speaker 1 (40:29):
Present and.

Speaker 2 (40:33):
Yeah, and and kind of music do you listen to?
I have this Pandora station that sort of has like
modern sensual, groovy. I don't even know. It's like alternative
world beat, new age. I can't quite describe it, but
it just Yeah. I did this whole playlist from the

(40:54):
moment I was thinking about divorce, all the way through
to now, all all the songs that represented my journey
that I would listen to for strength and to get
me into the mindset and wherever arrived is like happy, sensual, fun, groovy.

(41:14):
I love that I get into that vibe. Yeah. And
I bring the dates, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (41:20):
I love that I tell my clients on the way
to a date. There's this one song I love. I'm
not even a big country music fan, but this song to.

Speaker 1 (41:28):
Me is awesome.

Speaker 3 (41:29):
It's a Woman by Florida Georgia Line, and it's just
like talking and singing about beautiful women, women, beautiful women,
and it's just got that it sounds like maybe that's
something that you're talking that would be on your playlist
and like, yeah, and that was a song like I
would when I was I'm remarried. Now I've been married
almost a year.

Speaker 1 (41:49):
Yay, like in a couple of weeks when you're a
whole year.

Speaker 3 (41:52):
So, but I would when I would go out on
dates I would always I would get in the shower
and that's the song I would turn on.

Speaker 2 (41:59):
I Love.

Speaker 3 (42:00):
I was getting ready because it just like it got me.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
Okay, you're not mom right now.

Speaker 3 (42:05):
Turn off mom vibes, turn off work vibes, turn off
business owner vibes.

Speaker 2 (42:10):
Right now you're getting in that spirit and you're a
power boss woman, and you know I'm also running businesses.
You know, it's just like, right, we we we need
to shift gears. Because you bring all that boss energy
into a date. It's like, it's not.

Speaker 1 (42:24):
Scare them away.

Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah it's not.

Speaker 1 (42:26):
I scared many away that way.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
Sure that I did.

Speaker 1 (42:29):
I'm pretty sure did.

Speaker 2 (42:30):
Ultimately, you need a guy who can handle that boss energy,
but you've got to kind of ease them, ease them
into it, and even in the relationship, you know, learn
to kind of I don't know, everybody has a different philosophy,
but I just think, yeah, there's there's something to be
said for that feminine masculine roles in a relationship, and

(42:52):
it trickles down into everything how you relate, even like sexually.
So I just think that it's it's good to I
can remember even in my first marriage, I'm going on
a tangent. But we had to see a therapist because
I was really strong in the masculine and he was
really strong and the feminine, not so much externally but

(43:15):
in the way that we operated. And so yeah, we
had to learn from that therapist what are those roles,
how do they manifest? And how do we shift our
roles in the marriage so he can become more masculine
and I can become more.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
Feminine, especially the longer your single mom.

Speaker 3 (43:32):
You know, early on when I met my husband, he's
very much a he can fix He's a fix it guy.

Speaker 1 (43:37):
It's freaking the sexiest thing, by the way.

Speaker 3 (43:40):
Yeah, to find a gain like totally you know, it's
like I go back.

Speaker 1 (43:44):
To my twenty year old self. I'm like, girl, listen,
you not want the guy. You want the guy that
knows how to fix your toilet. And you're right, okay,
it's like, yeah, you don't find him.

Speaker 2 (43:54):
Who elusive, cool guy you write the nice mister fix
it treats you like a princess.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
Guy does he have a drill? Let's look for the
drill who cares about his car. But I struggled too.

Speaker 3 (44:07):
I think maybe it was that masculine feminine energy at first,
because like he would come in with fix things in
the house or clean and I would get almost on
defense or make me uncomfortable, and I didn't like that
about me.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
Learning how to receive. The feminine has to receive, Yeah,
and it's hard. I mean, on one hand, you know,
part of me just wants to be like, would somebody
please come save me? Can I get a sugar daddy
to just like come save me? That's not our reality,
so we move into the masculine. But yeah, it's learning
in those moments how to receive and let somebody else give.

Speaker 1 (44:45):
That's beautiful.

Speaker 3 (44:45):
I think it's important that we make decisions to own
our situation. Yes, so many of us the relationship broke down,
maybe if there was abuse or an affair. I completely understand.
I've been through it.

Speaker 1 (44:59):
But also there has.

Speaker 3 (45:00):
To be a point where I'm like, you know what,
I'm not going to be the victim of that anymore.
I'm going to be my own hero, and I'm going
to take responsibility for that. When you take responsibility, you
stop being the victim.

Speaker 2 (45:14):
Yeah, that's absolutely right. I mean I in my marriage,
I was the primary breadwinner and it was exhausting and
it really depleted me. I kept waiting and hoping for
God to save me, for my husband to come save
me and give me a break. But it's a certain
point I just had to go, you know what, nobody's
coming to save me, right, I am going to have

(45:37):
to save myself and take that ownership and just deal
with it. And the reality is you do have people
who are coming alongside your friends, your family. You know
there are other people who can help us. We're not alone.
But ultimately, you're right, you got to take the responsibility.
And it's true with our style, like, no magical fairy

(45:58):
is going to show up and just transform us one day.

Speaker 1 (46:02):
Right.

Speaker 2 (46:03):
We don't need to go.

Speaker 3 (46:04):
Thank you to God's Mother with a little bippity boppity boo.

Speaker 1 (46:06):
Can we have that? I know, right?

Speaker 2 (46:08):
Could we please have that? But you know, I don't
know if the makeover show is going to show up
on our doorstep and say, congratulations, you want to make
over you. No, we're going to have to own it
and say I want to feel good about myself. First
of all, For me, when I look in the mirror,
I want to go, yeah, girl, you look good.

Speaker 1 (46:29):
I like that.

Speaker 2 (46:30):
Then we want to take that out into the world,
and we want to feel confident and have influence the
way we feel, influence the way others perceive us. And
your style can influence the kinds of opportunities and connections
that you will attract. So when it comes to pertaining
whoa that's a big, you know, connection that you're trying

(46:54):
to attract if that's the case. But it could be job,
it could be friends, it could be all kinds of things.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
Do you think that upgrading your style and really focusing
on it can help you make more money.

Speaker 1 (47:07):
Because that's the other thing that all single moms want.

Speaker 3 (47:09):
We all want to dat a great partner, and we
all want to make more money so we can help.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
Absolutely, have you shared that connect Yes, I have one
of my clients very specifically. She really I've seen my
clients upgrade their whole lives. But it's first to saying,
you know what, I am worthy. I want to be
seen as a leader. I want to be seen as
somebody who's who's ready for promotion. So there needs to

(47:36):
be a level of polish in your presentation. If you're sloppy,
if you're just blending in, if you're not dressing in colors,
you know, make you look vibrant. All of that is subtle,
but it's nonverbal communication. So Tiffany came to me and
did my style coaching program, and we worked on her

(47:57):
style and her outfits and her hair and her makeup,
and then eventually photos. I helped her for the photoshoot
she met. She'd been single, she was in her late thirties,
maybe even early forties at that point, hadn't married yet,
and she met a man and began dating him, and
they'd go out and people would always be compliment her,

(48:19):
Oh my goodness, you look so beautiful. You look amazing,
and he's just like, wow, girl, you just you know.
She really had her look had come together and she
felt beautiful and attractive, and the courtship went really well.
They got married, and I've watched her career promotion, promotion, promotion,
and the way she presents herself now is so different

(48:42):
than the way she did when she started. Yep, it
makes a difference.

Speaker 1 (48:46):
Man.

Speaker 3 (48:47):
This is another episode that I'm going to want to
play for my teenagers. We have conversations about this all
the time, which I like. Again, another reason why it's
a single mom, you really want to upgrade your look.
You know to higher value person on an app, go
on better dates, make more money, get more promotions.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
Your pictures on LinkedIn, your pictures on social media, those
are not insignificant. That's a first impression where people are
going to see you. Let's make sure that those pictures
are showing what you want to show, what you want to.

Speaker 3 (49:21):
Convey the impact it has as an example to your children.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
I say to my children all the time, Hey like,
let's stress up. Hey, we're going to a nice place.
Hey like, can you go change? You know, because we're
going to this nice restaurant. Mom, it doesn't. I was like,
I hear you. I know that, I get it, But
it does.

Speaker 2 (49:40):
You teach through modeling. They see you. They might not
do it instantly, but you're showing, you know what. I
am taking care of how I present And they might
not do it right away, but they're watching. They're watching.

Speaker 3 (49:54):
And I always say, well, honey, I think people treat
you better when you arrive at a restaurant, a store,
anywhere looking like you have it together.

Speaker 1 (50:08):
It doesn't take that much work. You know, Mom, we're
gonna go to the mall. Oh hold on, let me
go put my makeup on. Why you don't have to
do it as like we're going to the mall or shop.
I'm going to once help from a nice store, so
people treat you better this way. This is really important
and it's hard to teach, but you're right, we have

(50:29):
to model it. Does it work for our sons too?
You think it does?

Speaker 5 (50:34):
You know?

Speaker 2 (50:34):
I was just thinking about that because my son went
through a phase where he didn't even he didn't even
see see style. It is literally just grab a shirt.
And I had that face too, so I thought, okay,
this is normal, this is just yeah, you haven't tuned
in yet.

Speaker 3 (50:47):
The shorts pace that I wear shorts all winter, never weares.

Speaker 2 (50:51):
I remember, yes, I can't remember. When I was in
middle school, I would just open the shirt drawer and
just take a shirt, open the pants and just take that.
I wasn't thinking style I had included. So, but now
that he's getting to be about to turn eighteen, I've
just watched him begin to take more pride in his
appearance and his own style, and you know he is,

(51:14):
he's finding his own style. So I think it does
work with our sons as well. And he now asked me, Okay,
what do you think of this yeah.

Speaker 3 (51:22):
And I think also we want our sons to attract
high value partners as well, and because those are the
women that we get to hang out with, right our daughter,
our future daughter in laws, so we wouldn't want them
also to be pretty amazing strong women.

Speaker 1 (51:36):
So and I think they go after what they see
their mother do.

Speaker 2 (51:40):
Yeah, that's right.

Speaker 3 (51:41):
In some ways, so I can see how it would
trickle down to everyone in the family.

Speaker 1 (51:47):
Man, I love this. Thank you. We talked about why.

Speaker 3 (51:49):
To work on your style, what it's so important your
how to stylere yourself for your dating profile, how to
style yourself on that first date.

Speaker 1 (51:58):
I hope you feel so equipped, and then how to
use your personal style to make more money. I mean,
this is awesome.

Speaker 3 (52:05):
Is there anything else that I didn't ask you that
you'd really love to communicate to a single mom who's
maybe died to beauty a little bit because of everything
that has happened in a fault of our own, but
is ready to make a change.

Speaker 1 (52:20):
Anything else that I miss?

Speaker 2 (52:21):
I would just say that we've so many of us
have been there where you are and just overwhelmed and
not you know, focusing on ourselves, but just be intentional.
Do what little you can do, maybe it's just a
few small steps, or if you can do more, do that.
But just be intentional to say, Okay, I'm not going

(52:43):
to keep myself on the back burner. I'm going to,
you know, go ahead and prioritize this so that I
can feel better. And it really does have a ripple effect.
So and I just I've been there, I understand it.
You don't have to do it alone. You know, when
we do it, we're doing it in a community of

(53:04):
women that are going through this style coaching experience. Very transformational.
We're encouraging each other, so I don't have to do
it alone. And and most people don't have the skills.
We weren't taught the skills. So come to an expert,
just like you'd go to a doctor for medical come
to an expert who can educate you and help you

(53:25):
and give you that second opinion. Stylish friends can help too,
but sometimes they just tend to put their own style
on you because they don't necessarily understand the principles. They're
just saying I love this, so you should love this,
or you know this is trendy, but it can help
to work with a professional.

Speaker 1 (53:43):
I love that what the little depths.

Speaker 3 (53:45):
Yeah, I forgot to ask this question in you reminded.

Speaker 1 (53:49):
Me, what are the first steps to figure out?

Speaker 3 (53:51):
Like I just became So you're just your newly single mom,
you've got young kids. You know you need to upgrade
your style to start dating and if you want that
motion and you're like, I don't even know what my
style is? How do you find it?

Speaker 2 (54:05):
Steps that we take our clients through as we have
them select favorite images to start a Pinterest board, images
of nature, interiors, art, and architecture, just you know, browse pinterests,
add them to your board. Visual favorites, my visual favorites,
things that you love. And then we have our clients

(54:27):
identify what do they love about that, And they might
say I love the order, the structure, the colors, the
ombre effect or the sparkle, or I love the riot
of color and liveliness. And you start to see a
theme in the pictures that you're choosing. These are the
qualities of your visual preferences, and then I teach my

(54:49):
clients how to bring that into their style. So it's
a really fascinating process. So you can start at home
with your Pinterest board and then come and you'll be
that much closer to figuring out your authentic style. But
the other thing is, i'd say get my free guide.
It's like the top five style tips and it's like hair, makeup, wardrobe.

Speaker 1 (55:15):
Love it.

Speaker 2 (55:16):
Grab that free guide, which you can get on my
Instagram links Aaron Style Coach, or you can get it
at Aaronmathis dot com, forward slash top five. So start
with that and that those are you going to give
you some like high impact techniques that you can try
right away?

Speaker 3 (55:34):
Oh yes, I love that, So okay, I would have
I would have made a pictures I do have one,
a picture's board, But it's about outfits that I like.

Speaker 2 (55:43):
See a lot of people not Yeah, people start there,
but they're looking often at body types that are so
different than theirs, colors that are so different. So try if
you're going to do that, you can do it. But
find some models or some influencers or what that have
similar coloring and body type to you. Then look at

(56:04):
what they're wearing because they probably have figured out some
of the techniques. Maybe they have, maybe they haven't. You're
not Everything on there is great, but at least don't
don't I get like these older women with fuller figures,
and they're like, Kate Middleton is their style? I right,
the body type is so different, the coloring is so different. Yes,

(56:25):
she looks amazing, but that is not going to translate
to your style.

Speaker 1 (56:28):
You're right, Oh that's good.

Speaker 3 (56:31):
Yeah, so how do we make that Pinterest board?

Speaker 1 (56:35):
And then we're like okay, and then maybe we just
try something.

Speaker 2 (56:38):
Try go ahead and get my freebie, go on my Instagram,
see what the free resources are, and get on in
my community. And I regularly just sort of send out
tips and things that you can learn and begin to apply.
I sometimes do free events that you can come and
get some really high impacts. So there's resources for you

(56:59):
to be again to learn.

Speaker 3 (57:01):
For yourselve that aaronmathis dot com and I'll put all
of the links in the show notes for you so
it's easy. You can just click any other ways we
can get a hold of you.

Speaker 1 (57:13):
We've got your Instagram.

Speaker 3 (57:15):
That's how I founder Aaron r I, n E r
I and Aaron Style Coach aaronmathis dot com.

Speaker 1 (57:22):
And like if you somebody was like, okay, like that's it.
I need.

Speaker 3 (57:26):
I want my dating profile to look freaking amazing, and
they want to hire you.

Speaker 1 (57:30):
How do they do that?

Speaker 2 (57:32):
Just get in touch with me. You'll find the contact.
Contact me and let's book a call. We'll just talk
about what are your goals, your needs, no pressure, We'll
just what are your next steps? So book a session
with me, and based on your goals, I can I
can make a suggestion about what your next steps could be.
I would love to help you increase your options, your opportunities.

Speaker 1 (57:57):
So I love that so much.

Speaker 2 (58:01):
Fun, so much manner. When you're in the dating world
and you know how to work it a little bit right.

Speaker 3 (58:07):
You're not just guessing. You're not like you're like, what's
on my camera roll? Okay, that picture was good?

Speaker 2 (58:13):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (58:13):
I block out their face? You know the intentional Let
me tell.

Speaker 2 (58:19):
You you'll get I've had a three time and I do
not wake up looking like I can look very, very
very average in mousey. It is style techniques. Okay, I
am fifty three and I use style techniques to look
a lot younger and vibrant and to show up. And
you know what any woman can do that.

Speaker 1 (58:41):
Thank you for sharing your gift with us. You're amazing.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
Thanks for having I have love this conversation and your
community I'm cheering you on. I'm right there with you.
Let's make it amazing.

Speaker 5 (58:53):
Thank you for joining this single mom collective on this episode.

Speaker 1 (58:56):
Do me a favor.

Speaker 5 (58:57):
Share this with a friend, a single mom you know
that could really use this and could use some encouragement.

Speaker 1 (59:04):
Post about it on Instagram. You can find me at
the real Amanda Carroll. Tag me. I'd be so honored
and join our collective. Girl, what are you waiting for?
You don't have to go through this journey alone anymore.
Join the community of.

Speaker 5 (59:20):
Single mothers that are all about moving forward with our
future and never staying stuck. Because your kids deserve to
have

Speaker 1 (59:28):
A mom that they can brag about.

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