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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network. This isn't about arrogance. This is about alignment.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
It's about being so deeply in tune with who.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
You are that you attract the right person who matches
your frequency. It's about creating a life you love so
much that the right person becomes a bonus and not
the entire game. And the Single Mom Collective is more
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The link is in the show notes. All right, let's
get into the podcast. Did any of you see.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
How amazing the Beyonce halftime show was?
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I thought it was incredible. It was like, well, who
needs the super Bowl? Now?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
That kind of inspired today, So I want to dive
into this topic that's going to set the tone not
just for your love life for twenty twenty five, for
the new year, but also in every area of your life.
That main character energy. That means like you're showing up
as the star of your life, not ready to give
off everything if you're your love just because somebody decides
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to come into your life. This isn't just a vibe
or like a trend on Instagram.
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This is a mindset and a movement.
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And I feel it's really the key to unlocking the
love you truly you want.
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And I got it today, really inspired.
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I'm reading this classic book called The Art of Loving.
I highly recommend it to you. It's by Eric from
and he said this quote I wrote down today. It's
hardly necessary to trust the fact that the ability to
love is an act of giving depends on the character
development of the person. Everybody can interpret that multiple different ways.
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Here's how I interpreted it. Right, there is your truth,
the love you want, the real, soul satisfying, high value
love starts with who you are, and it's not about
how you look or what you own. It's about the
depth of your character, your passions, that you stay true
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to your authenticity, and your commitment to becoming the best
version of yourself. I don't know about you, but I've
been in relationships in the past where I just lost
myself and I gave up all the things that I
loved because either I was criticized for having them, or
I thought, well, like I couldn't do it and keep
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this person happy, or I had to give more of
my time to other things.
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And then all of a.
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Sudden, we don't recognize ourselves in the mirror. That's what
we want to make sure doesn't happen the second time around. Right,
maybe you gave up yoga, maybe you gave up hiking,
or maybe you gave up like champion body building or.
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Whatever it is.
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It's time to reclaim who you are this year. The
more you're focused on your passions, the things that light
you up inside, the more attractive you're going to be
to the right person. So you never have to ever
have your light dimmed ever. Again, we know that our
kids are the happiest when they're playing like that instrument
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they love or that sport that they love. Those moments,
as parents are some of the best moments that we
have because we're watching our kid doing the thing they
love and experiencing pure joy. Why do we stop that
as mothers? We still need to have our own lives
and do the thing that we love because that's what's
going to make you incredibly attractive to the right partner.
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And the right partner is going to celebrate those things,
and the right partner would never ask you to give
up something that you love to be with them.
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You're not shrinking, you're expanding.
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So I want you to focus and think about to
really elevate your love life and find that high value partner.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I want you to focus on being the star of
your own.
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Story, not being a star so you can be a
part of someone else's.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Story, like Beyonce riding in on that white horse to
perform that NFL halftime show on Christmas. If you miss it,
It's on Netflix. All you have to do is watch
her performance. It was unbelievable.
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Did she care what anyone thought of her hair, her outfit,
riding on a white horse, or her presence? Did she
dim her light just because she was afraid of somebody's
post or somebody's comment. No, she shows up as freaking Beyonce.
The woman doesn't even need a last name. She knows
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she's good, she knows she's sexy, she knows she's prepared.
She owns the stage and owns the moment. That's the
main character energy that I feel like it's time for
all of us to channel. Your life is your stage.
You don't have to wear you know, sexy clothes on
stage is not necessarily what I'm talking about.
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I'm just talking out about. Be your version, be your Beyonce.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
What is it that you freaking love and that lights
you up inside? Keep doing that and don't ever stop.
What is it that you're so good at? Keep focusing
and excelling at that, and don't ever let a relationship
take you away from that.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Just let them add.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
That main character energy is very powerful because it takes
you from meeting someone from you talking about what you
don't have yet and what you want to.
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Here's who I am? Can you match this?
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The other thing to focus on to really excel in
your dating life in the new year, I feel like
is your authenticity. True authenticity attracts high value partners. It
even attracts followers on Instagram. One crazy thing that I notice,
the more often that I'm doing reels and content and
no makeup and just from the gym or sit in
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my car looking crazy, they perform better because it's authentic.
This is the true version of I am. There's no
cover up.
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People love that and they relate to that.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
So does your person that you want to be with.
The more authentic and uniquely you you are, the more
magnetic you become. Like say, you're like I am yoga
hiking girl, and I gave that up and I'm not
going to do it any more.
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And there's somebody that's like, dang, where is yoga hiking girl?
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Like I need her, I love her, I've got all
these things that I want to do with somebody that's
a cool partner, like he's just waiting.
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For the authentic version of you to show up. They
see your.
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Passions even if they don't share the passions, and they're like,
I'll cheer you on. I once told my husband, I
was like, hey, do you want to ever do like
one of those big races, like those obstacle courses or
like I'm into all that extreme stuff And he's into
things about just keep us safe.
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Which is why we're you're a good match. And I
was like, do you want to do that with me?
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And he just flat out no, but like I'll be
the sidelines and I'll beat the finish line holding the beer.
I was like, okay, But they would never say no,
why would you do that? Even if it's not their thing.
This kind of partner would always be like, yeah, and
how can I It may not be my thing, but
I'm there for you. They see your passions and they
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cheer you on. They want you to shine because that's
who you are, So you have to start shining. You're
no longer settling for somebody who.
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Ever wants to dim you. That is over.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
This year.
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We're only saying yes.
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To people who celebrate our authenticity and our main character
energy in our life and would never want to change us.
The next thing we got to be aware of though,
as we're dating and we're showing up with main character
energy and authenticity.
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Is he doing the work too? Let's flip the script
on this.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
True love, the gift of love is really developing your
own character. So you're doing the work to become your
best self. But what about this partner?
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My value?
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Love is a two way street. So here are the
questions to ask or to notice and pay attention. Is
he reading something to propel him forward? Is he just
working out, taking care of himself? Is he eating healthy?
Is he listening to podcasts? Is he growing? Does he
have a growth mindset? Or is he just like everything
is terrible?
Speaker 2 (08:59):
I hate that?
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Is he in therapy? That's super sexy? Let me tell
you if he's not doing any of that, that he's
not developing his own main character. And he's needing to
attach himself to you to even be a character that
has a spot in the show.
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That's not what you want. You want someone that has not.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Necessarily their own crazy thing that they're working on, that
want you to sacrifice everything to join. You want to
know that they're developing their best self. They're showing up
and working on their authenticity. They're working on how good
of a person they can be in a relationship. You
want to see growth of character. So your mission, if
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you choose to accept it, in this new year, is
to develop your main character energy.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
So most of you already have it, but really get
clear on it.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Work on you, Dive into the things that make you
happy more than you're swiping on the app. Try new hobbies,
reclaim the parts of you that maybe you set aside
in your past relationship. Build your confidence and don't apologize
ever for shining or standing out. Be the woman who
walks into a room and owns it, or rides in
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on a white horse like Beyonce, The woman who knows
she's amazing and she doesn't need anyone else to validate her.
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The woman who's.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
Attracting not just love, but the right kind of love,
love that lifts you higher and main character energy.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
This isn't about arrogance. This is about alignment. It's about
being so deeply in tune with who you are that.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
You attract the right person who matches your frequency. It's
about creating a life you love so much that the
right person becomes a bonus and not the entire gain.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
So start as the star of.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Your own story, like if you have to like write
down on a little piece of paper past myself as
the star in my year of.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
I'm going to show up as the main character. You're
not the best friend role, You're not the supporting actress.
You are the lead actress, the main character of a
love story that you can't wait to live. The main
character of a love story not just with the right partner,
but a love story with you and the authentic version
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of you that you love. And I am here to
help you make it all happen. If you want to
define what your main character is this year, I've got
some stuff for you.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
You can schedule a free empowerment call.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
It's a one on one call, just you and me
talking about how do we set you up to have
the best year ever so you can.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Attract the best high value partner ever.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I'm going to give you strategies on that call and
talk about if you want to work more, maybe even
doing some one on one coaching. I also want to
give you something free with this episode. Attached to the
show notes, you will find my Brave Life Planner. This
is a planner and journal system to get you thinking
about who your main character is. Going to be this
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year and keep you accountable every day to your goals,
your dreams, your affirmations so you can be future focused
and not sidelined by whatever your access up to. You
need to be so busy about planning your future that
you don't even think about them anymore. So that sound nice,
So download the free Brave Life Planner. It's in the
show notes. And if you want to be a part
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of one of these recordings, we would love to have you.
This is a small segment from the Single Mom Collective.
It's an online membership for single women who are focused
on achieving, increasing their income, being the best they can
be physically and mentally so that they can find a
high value partner. I would love for you to be
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What do I do with this guy that's ghosting?
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