November 13, 2024 • 39 mins
Sometimes the world tries to crush you, leaving you feeling small, powerless, and devastated. But here’s the truth: these moments of heartbreak and anger? They’re your fuel. In this solo episode, Amanda Carroll opens up about the raw emotions post-election, from anger to exhaustion. But this isn't about staying down—it's about transforming that pain into purpose, turning every setback into strength. Today, you’ll learn how to channel your anger, embrace your power as a high-value woman, and build a future on your terms. This is your call to rise up, stand tall, and start fighting back for yourself and for the women who will follow. Tap the link in the show notes for your Personal Action Activism Plan—your step-by-step guide to real change. This moment? It’s where your power begins.
DOWNLOAD YOUR PERSONAL ACTIVISM PLANNER HERE: https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/transition-day-toolkit-1
Ready for the Next Step?
Book a 1:1 call with me to explore joining the Women's Collective, where transformation is more than a goal—it’s a plan. Together, we'll create your Personal Activism Plan, a tailored roadmap that aligns your passions with purposeful action. With the support of a dedicated community, you'll not only design your path but have the accountability and encouragement to walk it out, one powerful step at a time. Click the link to book your call and start building your future today!
Apply for The Women's Collective Here: https://calendly.com/d/455-q3m-kd9/empowerment-call
And don’t forget to follow Amanda Carroll and Erin Mathis on Instagram @therealamandacarroll
Takeaways
Chapters
00:00Finding Strength in Heartbreak
05:57Harnessing Emotions for Empowerment
12:01Building High-Value Relationships
18:12Activism and Community Engagement
23:52Turning Feelings into Fuel
29:52Taking Action for Change
DOWNLOAD YOUR PERSONAL ACTIVISM PLANNER HERE: https://www.bravesinglemoms.com/transition-day-toolkit-1
Ready for the Next Step?
Book a 1:1 call with me to explore joining the Women's Collective, where transformation is more than a goal—it’s a plan. Together, we'll create your Personal Activism Plan, a tailored roadmap that aligns your passions with purposeful action. With the support of a dedicated community, you'll not only design your path but have the accountability and encouragement to walk it out, one powerful step at a time. Click the link to book your call and start building your future today!
Apply for The Women's Collective Here: https://calendly.com/d/455-q3m-kd9/empowerment-call
And don’t forget to follow Amanda Carroll and Erin Mathis on Instagram @therealamandacarroll
Takeaways
- The world can make you feel small, but you are strong.
- Transforming pain into purpose is essential for growth.
- Women must unite and support each other for real change.
- Anger can be a powerful fuel for action.
- Defining your purpose is crucial for personal empowerment.
- High-value relationships are key to personal growth.
- Financial independence empowers women to make choices.
- Activism starts with understanding your cause and values.
- Collective action amplifies individual efforts for change.
- Every woman has the power to shape her future.
Chapters
00:00Finding Strength in Heartbreak
05:57Harnessing Emotions for Empowerment
12:01Building High-Value Relationships
18:12Activism and Community Engagement
23:52Turning Feelings into Fuel
29:52Taking Action for Change
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Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network. Say it out loud. I will not settle,
I will not back down. I will not stay silent.
This podcast is a rallying cry for every woman that
feels defeated after this election, giving you specific steps on
what you can do about it, and a community of
women that you can join so together we can create
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a personal activism plan to change our future for the better.
Sometimes the world will try to make you feel really small.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
That's really good at it, but it's.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
In those moments of heartbreak and frustration that you find.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Out just how strong you really are.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Today we're turning all your pain and a purpose, all
your anger into action because this moment, right here, right now,
this is where your power begins. Welcome to the Single
mom Collective Podcast. I'm your host, Amanda Carroll, and this
is the second episode I recorded about the election. The
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first one, I admit to you was so angry nobody
needs to hear it. It was cathartic, but that's not
what is going to solve things. I'm calling this empowered,
turning post election emotions into personal strength. We're going to
harness this energy. Girl. This is a solo episode. I'm
going to pour my heart out and I'm going to
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listen to you. I'd love to hear from you on
what you think and do me a favor. Will you
please share this with five of your friends that are
hurting too, because we've got to get out of this
and we got to do.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Something about it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Low value men and those low value that elected them
do not get to run our country in our lives.
We have to rise up and yeah, I'm going to
say it, fight back. I'm going to be real with you.
After this election, I was devastated.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I know some of you.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Many of you feel like that too, Like you've just
been with a ton of bricks. It's like this heavy
weight and just massive amounts of disappointment. I mean, the
weight of the world feels like it is pressing on
all of our American shoulders right now.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Looking at us, like what did you do? I feel
like I need to walk around.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
At the grocery store or some kind of shirt that says, yes,
I'm a white woman, but I didn't vote for him.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
You're angry, I'm too.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You're exhausted, I'm too, and frankly, you're just playing tired
of the back and forth, the rhetoric and all the
fighting and the doom scrolling and all the videos that
friends are sending you. I get it because when I
watched those results, I felt it too. I went to bed,
hoping it would be a different story in the morning
that I woke up the next day.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
But it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
It was a punch to my feminist gut, like all
the work that my grandmother and my mother have done wasted,
Like all the work we've done here in the collective
aggress that we fought for of equality and respect and
safety for ourselves and our families. It felt like it
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was all slipping away that Monday. That Wednesday, I was devastated, and.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
I had moments where I thought, what now? What is
even the point? My poor husband had an earfull from me.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
One't his fault.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Here's the thing, though, Feeling devastated is not the end, girl,
This is just the beginning. It's the beginning of something
more powerful, something that can drive us to a place
where we not only heal, but we grow stronger. This
is gonna make it better. Listen, we weren't organized enough women.
We've got to stop competing with each other and actually
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work together for good.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
We have to do something.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
This episode is about turning that pain, the frustration, the
anger there with you, and turning all of it into
something more than just a reaction that we hope will
eventually go away. I actually don't want it to go away.
I just want you to channel it into something different.
Use the emotion and turn it into action. And I'm
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going to teach you how. I'm not just talking about
action in the world. I'm talking about action in your life,
in your relationships, in your choices. And you don't need
to wait for anyone else to lead.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
You are a woman. You lead.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
We all know that we are really the ones that
lead our families. We know we are the most successful,
the most hard working at our workplaces. We are the
best at multitasking. It's time that we stop hiding. It's interesting.
I had several women I know comment to me on
through social media, through messages, and even face to face
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publicly mentioning that I was brave for sharing my feelings
about the election before the vote. It's like, why is
this brave? We have to all do it, it should
be required.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
This is your moment.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I want you to take the reins of the future
for yourself and your children and your family. We're not
going to give it away to low value men anymore
who look over sexual assault and felonies and racism and
homophobia and think all of those things are just not
that big of a deal that they can sit in
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the White House. No, we're going to talk about how
you can use the emotions that you're rightfully.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Feeling right now to make some serious changes.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Changes in yourself, the way that you react, in your
relationships and in the world around you. So you can
listen to podcasts, grow through social media, not along in agreement,
but nothing ever changes when you do that, It just
puts you in a worse mood.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Do you want to do something about this?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
If you're not brave enough to stand up and speak out,
then this isn't for you. But if you're ready, it's
time to get involved. The first step is to join
the brand new collective. Imagine being surrounded by women who
feel exactly like you do, who are fed up and
ready to fight.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
They think like you do.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
They want equality for all, they want freedom over their
own body, for their daughters, and they want a country
that accepts all races and all people who love. However,
they choose to love. If you are on fire for change,
you're in the right place. Imagine being surrounded by these
women all together, chasing down financial independence, refusing to settle
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for low value partners who don't treat us as equals,
and demanding to be treated is equals at home and
in the workforce. This is your tribe and we're waiting
for you. This isn't just any community, though, this is exclusive.
You have to go through me to join. I'm looking
for women that are strong and independent and are ready
to change the world. Because you too, agree that it's
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not okay that there's a rapist in the White House. Soon.
If you're ready to step up, be bold and surround
yourself with women like this who want to make things happen,
achieve financial independence, and create a personal activism plan to
believe in a cause and do something about it rather
than doom scroll. I want you to book a call
and apply with me. This is your chance to be
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a part of something much bigger, to transform your life,
your daughter's life, and our country, and to stand with
a sisterhood that is unstoppable. Are you brave enough to
take that step? Well, let's find out. Book your call.
The link is in the show notes. I'm ready for you,
Are you.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
First?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I just really want to acknowledge all the emotional tides
that we've been through. Let's talk about these emotions for
a second. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. Let's face it.
Sadness and anger and frustration. These are all real feelings
right now. And if you're like me, you don't really
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want anyone to tell you to.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Just get over it. It's gonna be okay. It's not
that simple. You've worked hard. We've worked hard.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
I was on phone banks calling people to vote for
Kamala Harris. I put out your heart signs, I'm posting
on social media, but it wasn't enough. I realized I
should have started years ago, sharing how I feel and
speaking up to people that disrespected women instead of ignoring it. Well,
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this unleashed a whole new lioness in me, and I
hope it did you too. We don't have to be nice.
We're not nice to racists. We're not nice to people
that are homophobic. We are not nice to rapists and
those that elect them. When it feels like everything we've
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fought for could be all undone in an instant, Yeah,
it stings, and it is okay to be angry, It
is okay to be heartbroken. But I'm telling you right now,
do not let the anger consume you. Because that anger, girl,
that is fuel, and what you do with that fuel,
how you turn it into something meaningful, will be the
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difference between staying stuck in that place and moving toward
something bigger and better. We got four years to fight
and change and resist. I want you to think about
the last time that you felt powerless. We're not going
to stay there. Just do me a favor, okay, I
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remember mine. The first thing that came to my mind
was when my ex left me.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
With three little kids with zero notics.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Just came home from a business trips that I'm leaving
you kids were four, two and eight weeks old.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I felt powerless.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I know what it feels like to look around at
the world and wonder, hey, do I even matter? Is
anyone noticing what's happening? And wonder can I even make
a difference? Am I ruined?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
There were days during that time when I felt the weight.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Of my entire family on my shoulders. But you know what,
those moments, they didn't get the best of me.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
They defined me.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
What I decided to do was to use that tragedy.
How a man is even allowed to do that to
his wife and children, I don't even understand.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
But I used it to get a better I want
you to use this.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Tragedy and these emotions to do something, and I'm going
to give you a path to do it, and I'm
going to be with you the entire way. What defined
me again was what I did instead of I mean,
I'm not a girl up and a ball for a
couple of days a month. But I decided to go
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get the life that I always wanted because I had
acquiesced my entire.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Career to his.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I wanted to get my career back. I wanted to
get my life back. I wanted to live it on
my terms. And a year of the day they left,
I did it. I was on a flight to California.
I got my dream job. He bought my own house
on a cold sack with a pool in California.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
How you like me now?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
It was something about the wrong that was done to
me that propelled me forward even more.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Use it.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Don't allow it to make you stay sad and in bed.
Use those emotions not to shrink back, but to stand taller,
put the freaking heels on, and fight for what really matters.
That's what I'm asking you to do now, and I'm
not going to leave you alone in it. I'm going
to give you the steps and the tools to do
it in this episode.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
So stay with me.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Promise me that we're not going to wallow in sadness
or frustration, but we're going to use this again to
fuel it. I want you to dig deep right now
and feel the anger for a second, feel the sadness
for the second.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Now, I want you to find the power in it.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Like imagine all of a sudden, what came to mind
is that movie Back to Future when the guy comes
back in the Dolore and he's got this thing and
he's putting trash in it and turning it into fuel.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I forget the name of it.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Put all of your anger and your sadness in that
thing and watch it turn into fuel to make a difference.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Are you there? Do you have it with me?
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Don't let anyone tell you you can't make a difference.
All of us can. So here's the first step. We're
gonna channel all of our emotions.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
We felt them, we got them, out that recorded a
whole podcast that I deleted. I'm a day late, two
days late putting this podcast out, but who cares. It's out. Now.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
We're going to channel those emotions now that we've turned
it into fuel, into empowerment. Because it's not just enough
to feel Call your mama, call your friend, call your
best friend, you share a bunch of reels. You've got
to take it, harness it, and turn it into something real.
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I wonder if the women that fought during Women's suffrage
for the right to vote felt this way.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Like I wish in a way.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I'm going to start watching documentaries and reading books about
that time.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Because I think we can learn a lot from their fight.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I'm sure people told them they were terrible people, probably men,
probably gave them very hateful things of the reason, but
they kept going to get the right to vote that
we have and we have to use it. I'm shocked
that women use the right to vote to vote for
a rapist, convicted felon. I will never understand it in
my life. We have to get to those women and
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change their mind. We have to somehow find love in
our hearts to say hey girl, hey, let me tell
you the truth and get them on our side.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Maybe you could send them this episode with all love.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Please give this a chance, because I feel like they
were lied to and manipulated. Let's harness this energy and
turn it into something real. Okay, we got the fuel
now right. I want you to take a stand on
something publicly, say the thing out loud. When that's going
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to feel so much better. You know, I work on
manifestation and for my business and for my family and
for love lives, and I always know the block is
when you're not being your true self. Stop pretending to
just be nice and be silent about what really matters
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to you. Stop being too scared to share the truth.
You must take a stand if you're upset about this.
Not enough of us did we silently voted? Don't silently
vote anymore. We're choosing to channel our emotion into personal growth.
For you. Your power doesn't just grow, it multiplies. Guess
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what when you say okay, that's it. I know whoever
has the money has the power. So I'm going to
go for that promotion. I'm going to get more money.
I'm going to start my business. So I'm going to
stop being a stay at home mom and being used
to propel someone else's career, and I'm going to get
back into the workforce. The more women that we have
in the workforce, the bigger change we can have. The
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more women that have more money, the bigger impact we have.
Who has the money has the power. Let's go get
that fuel to make more money. That is number one
rule of this collective what we have to do, and
I'll help you.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
This multiplies.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
The more women that have more money and more financially independent,
the more power we have. The more women that are
in leadership in businesses and corporations, the more power we have,
and the more we show we can lead and we're
damn good at it, and we can do it in
less time, is more effective and usually probably save the money.
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This is where the magic happens. So let's talk about
how we do this. We turned our feelings into fuel.
That was step number one. Now I want you to
ask yourself this question, what is my purpose? By the way,
it's more than being awayefe and mother. Those are wonderful things,
but that's just an added benefit to your life.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
You were made to do something more. What's my purpose?
What is it that drives me.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Me? Don't make it about your kids, or your spouse
or the spouse that you want, and make it about you.
What is it that drives you? When you're connected to
a bigger purpose, when you know why you're fighting, that's
when the real change starts. Change in the world and
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change in you. Isn't that what you need? We need
to not feel sad and angry. We need to feel
confident and powerful. And when you know your purpose and
you know your why, and you're not just aware of it,
but you're actively pursuing it, you love yourself. It was
written in one of my favorite books, You were a badass.
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You know what The holy grail of happiness is love yourself.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
No one else can love you enough.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You have to love you.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
That is your holy grail of happiness. And stay true.
Stay true to what you believe and talk about it.
Stop hiding it.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
I want you to start waking up each day knowing
that you're not just reacting to the world around you,
but you're shaping it.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Women need to.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Shape this world. It's very obvious that the men have
failed us. We have to be the ones that stand
up and shape it. Be bold, be strong, make a
dream and achieve it.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
It is not okay just to coast anymore.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I know I'm being a little strong here, but it's
not girl.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
You're ruining it for all of us.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
It is not easier to be a stay at home
mom and just let somebody else do all the work.
That's suffocating. We can't do it anymore. That's why we're
losing our power. I want you to wake up every
day having a plan instead of a reaction. When you
get clear on what matters most to you, that is
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when you identify the cause that burns in your chest.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
That's when you stop feeling powerless and you.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Realize that the change you seek is inside of you already,
and you just you just need to start moving. I
want you to do one thing a day towards having
your voice be heard and speaking up for the cause
that you believe in. I've got the whole template. The
link is in the show notes for you to start.
We're gonna do this together. You're gonna find your purpose,
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define it, and you're not gonna let anyone, no one,
not your kids, not your husband, not your parents, not
your church, not your pastor definitely not them, to tell
you it's too big or too bold or too radical.
It is you, It's yours, and it will carry you
through the darkest of days.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
No longer do we react. We plan, and we implement.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
I also want to talk about something that often gets
overlooked in times like this.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
It's our relationships. Not all men are bad. We have
to educate them on what's important to us.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
And then those that I would consider low value NAGA
don't belong in our lives anymore because we're not safe
with a man that thinks it's okay to elect a
sexual abuser, and a convicted felon, and a rapist and
a homophobic man, oh also an adulterer. If they think
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that person should be president, they shouldn't be in your life.
If you've been through this emotional roller coaster, if you've
had your heart broken by the state of the world,
the last thing you want to do is to let
us someone else break it to. This is where the
concept of being a high value woman comes in. You've
probably if you're follow me on Instagram at the real
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Amanda Carroll, you've seen me talk about that a lot.
Now I'm talking about it more on the podcast too.
It's not some checklist of superficial qualities like that stupid
proverb thirty one woman that was written, by the way,
by a mother in law that somehow, in some high
demand religion world, all women thought that they had to
be like her. No, actually, you should be nothing like
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that woman. You should be the kind of woman that
knows her worth and demands it and doesn't put up
with anybody that doesn't respect her as an equal, who
walks into every room with her head held high, with
her own purpose and independence firmly in place.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
She's got the confidence to make her own decisions, she's
got the financial independence to stand on her own two
feection care, and she knows exactly what she wants. When
you are a high value woman, you don't settle for
less than you deserve. You don't settle for someone who
isn't on the same page as you, who isn't meeting
your needs, or who doesn't have the respect for your journey.
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If you are single, many of us are the key
to finding a partner who supports you. I believe is
two things. Number one your financial independence. We're not looking
for a financial support. We're looking for someone who treats
us like an equal, who wants to help us chase
down our dreams while we support them in their dreams.
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So you have to have dreams. You have to have
your own money and your own dreams. Then you come
together and work together. That is what a high value
woman is. The highly value man is the one that.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Wants a woman like that.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
He doesn't want a woman to serve him to achieve
his dreams. He would never do that to you. He
wants a woman that has her own that impresses him,
that challenges him, that makes him go to the next
level too. So in order to have that dream relationship,
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you have to be the high value woman. You have
to get this personal activism planner that helps you find
your why, your purpose and gives you the step by
steps to start walking it out. So when you're on
a date or even challenging your current partner and you
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share what you're doing, they're.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Like, that's awesome, let's go. They don't pick it. A
partner stand in your way. That's low value.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
When you become that woman that's chasing down dreams, that
has her own money, you make a better choice and
a partner because you don't choose the partner that you
have to be with anymore. You don't overlook red flags.
He's kind of rude to me, and he's said some
names sometimes. But he has a good job. Are you
kidding me? That's not good enough.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
You have a good job.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
If you don't have your own money yet, you're not
ready to date, to find a high value partner, especially
if you have children. If you don't have your own
dream yet to pursuing, you're not ready to date. Let's
get those two things in line first, because once women
make out a requirement, we change the world. We hold
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men to a higher accountability standard, like you've got a
level up to be with us.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Then all of a sudden, they know it's stupid to
vote for someone who is a rapist, racist, convicted felon,
and homophobe. They know that any woman who's worth or
worth anything will not respect them or even allow them
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in our life. We have to level up our lives
and our expectations too. I want you to truly understand
who you are and what you stand for.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
The right person will be drawn.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
To that, and you'll be able to make choices that
empower you, choices that will only make you stronger and sexier.
If a man isn't attracted to a strong woman. He's
a weak man, and you don't want to be in
his You.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't want him anywhere around you. Girl.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Okay, so what do we do. We're turning our emotions
into fuel. We're leveling up being high value women. That's
increasing our income, having our own money, amassing our own
money and savings, and we're coming up with our own
dreams and we're pursuing them and we're a high value.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Man needs to keep up.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
That's how we're going to change this mentality in the
world that women are meant to lead. We have to
teach oh, the men and the women that some reason
voted for this man, that are rightful place is in
leadership too. So you have to lead now and show
that as an example to every man and every child
in your life. That's where the personal action activism plan
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comes in. Maybe we're like, Amanda, how the hell do
I do this?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
I got you? I got you. This is the good part.
This is the fun part.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Okay, give you have some fun because we've all been
wondering what the hell do I do?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
How do I change this?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
This is how the personal action Activism planner what do
they say? This is where the rubber meets the road.
I hate cliches, but that's a good one there. If
you can just I mean, you could sit and be
mad at the world. But if you don't have a
plan in place, nothing's ever going to change, right. So
let's make the plan a real plan, the plan that
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moves you from frustration to action.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
And it's not about better about the world. It's about
taking all.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
This frustration and using it to create a world that
reflects your values. It's about defining your cause, setting your goals,
and finding the allies are going to help you build
a future we all deserve.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Think about it.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
What would it look like if you woke up tomorrow
you download this and you had a clear plan for
the next year of what you wanted for your life
and how you wanted to use your life to make
more money, make a bigger difference, be high value, and
attract a high value partner. Ooh, that's hot, that's sexy.
What if you had a map to help guide you
towards that change you want to see in the world.
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Imagine that hot power. Imagine how stoppable you could be
when anybody hurt you or take advantage of that kind
of woman.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Hell no, that's who you want to be.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
So let's look at this personal action plan. I've got
it all laid out for you. Okay, I'm pulling it
up right here recording this podcast. Let's see if I
can multitask for you. We are going to first identify
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your why.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
What is it.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
That will help you beyond a shadow of a doubt
feel more confident in life? What is it that you
really and truly want to be a part of. How
are you going to make a difference post election? How
are you going to stop being angry? So we've got
the fuel, What the heck do we do with it?
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You can download this personal Activism Plan. But first thing
we're going to do is we're going to define your cause.
Ask yourself this right now. We take some notes if
you can, if you don't, if you're drive in, think
about it or put on your phone.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
What issues light a fire in you?
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Make a list, and then I want you to choose
one that you feel really a passion about for the
next year to focus on.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
What is your cause? Maybe it's women's.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Rights, maybe it's pro choice, maybe it's racial equality, maybe
it's LGBTQIA plus rights. Why this is the most important thing.
Why does this cause matter to you personally? And how
does it connect with your story or values?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I bet you already have it.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I connect with women's rights and women's equality and helping
women make money because I'm a third generation single mother
and I know what it's like to not be respected.
That's my cause. You are my cause. Identify your why?
Why do you want to be an advocate for this cause?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Why?
Speaker 1 (29:45):
What's your purpose in your motivation? I think I'm constantly
trying to help the previous version of me because she
was so scared and I don't want another woman to
go through that. And then maybe even use CHATCHBT and
I want you to write a brief mission statement that
captures your reason for activism. For example, I will fight
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for women's equality in the next year because I don't
want any woman to suffer the way that I suffered,
and I don't want my daughters to have to go
through that.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
I want a different world from my daughters.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Something like that, And then ask yourself this, how would
you feel if you made a real impact in this area?
Oh my god, if I could truly be a part
of a cause that makes a better and more equal
playing field, so my daughters get equal pay in the workforce,
I would feel fantastic. I would feel like my life mattered.
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That's really important. Then we're going to set your goals.
What specific change do you want to see. I want
to educate women on increasing their finances, increasing their income,
making their own businesses, and I want to help them
see their worth great. So let's set a short term
goal and a long term goal two six months. Goals
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for your activism. What is it that you're going to accomplish.
I'm going to launch I'm going to expand from the
single Mom Collective to the Women's Collective, and I'm going
to open this up to all women who want to
increase their income. Set goals and achieve it. That's one
thing I'm going to do in the next three months.
I hope you're okay with that. I want you to
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write it down and put a date on it.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
That's how to achieve it. Write your goals, be specific
of what you're going to do. Okay, Then we're going
to map out your first steps.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
I believe in this process called Kaizen, it's we can
be the most effective when we do one percent more
every single day. So I want you to write an
exhaustive list of all the steps that you can make
to make a difference for your cause, like women's rights,
even if just join a community, you know, give five
bucks a month to the Democratic Party, post something on
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my Instagram page. I make exhaustive list, and all I
want you to do is do one thing a day.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
That sounds doable, doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
The thing is you want to build consistency and build
momentum over time to be the most effective. So you
just you don't want to do too much. It's like
hitting leg day after the holidays. You haven't been to
the gym for two weeks and you're sore and can't walk,
so you never go back to the gym. Don't do that, girl,
Just do one thing a day. I mean, imagine if
you did one thing a day to propel your cause
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forward for the next thirty days, you'd be thirty percent there.
Imagine if you did it for ninety days, you'd be
ninety percent there. Next after, we've got our we've got
our cause, we've got our goals, and we've mapped out
all of our first steps that I want you to
go find allies and resources.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Who's going to help you amplify your impact.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
Friends, you know, somebody that has a podcast, organizations, communities.
Maybe you could be a voice to your church that
not all Christians need to be Republicans.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
We need those women in our world.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Maybe you want to be a voice for hiring more
female pastors, hiring more women at your job, asking your
boss if he's looked at it, are the women being
paid equally? Go find your allies and then go find mentors.
People you know are like, Wow, she's in this cause already,
I want to meet her. Make friends. Don't be intimidated.
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So make a list of three or five three to
five potential allies, mentors, and local organizations that you connect with.
Just do some Google, get on chatcypt It'll take you
five minutes, and then think about how you might reach
out collaborate. I've had some amazing collaborations by just setting
a DM to somebody I really looked up to online.
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Then we're going to make a plan for growth after
your first three months, goals, your first six months, how
do you continue to learn and grow in your activism.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
So come up with a list.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Write down two to three ways you can plan to
depend your understanding or your skill set books you can read,
events that you can attend, organizations you can join, courses
that you can take like dig Dig deep, get into
like the women's rights community or the lgbt QI plus
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community and what's going on there.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Get involved.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Don't just sit at home going yep, I agree with that.
Freaking do something. I think that's why we lost, because
all we did was agree did we were not women
were not as active as the Maugus. And then if
you're interested, you can join me. Download for free this
personal activism planner. We just went through it, fill it out,
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and then I'd like you to think about joining the
women's collective. I'm starting a new guy this coming week.
It's called Rise and Roar. We're going to develop our
personal activism plan together, and then I'm going to help
you every single week walk it out because I don't
think we need to be alone anymore. You will join
Rise and War and you will have your personal transformation
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plan on how you're going to be active, how you're
going to affect change, and how you will now speak
up with courage and confidence. You'll have the full plan,
all the steps on walking it out, and the support
of the entire community.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
To help you do that. That sounds really good.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
And if you download this free planner for your activism,
I'm also going to include I made this.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
It's kind of the change Makers reading list. I love
to read books, self help books, so.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
I have seven books that I recommend that if you're
still like on the fence of I don't know what
to do, that will inspire you. So I want to
include that too, because this is how we change the world.
My friend, thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Today.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
You decided to turn your anger and your emotions and
sadness into fuel. You decided to use that fuel to
become an even higher value woman that only allows high
value partners that treat you like an equal in your life.
Doing that, ladies, is going to make the MAGA step
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up and level up. We really do hold the power.
If they want us, they got to be high level.
And you're making your plan for action. This is not
about waiting until the next election. I saw the other
day there's this cruise that you can just go out
and cruise for the next four years and escape. No,
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that's what they want us to do. Don't you dare
do that? We need you to act otherwise we're going
to keep going.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
Through this over and over again. The next president needs
to be a woman.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
And the only way we're going to make that happen
is if you us.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
We are high value.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
We demand our partners to be high value, and we
make more money and.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
We get active.
Speaker 1 (37:15):
This is about taking control of your own life, your
own choices, in your own future. Church doesn't tell you
what to do, your pastor doesn't tell you what to do.
Your partner doesn't tell you what to do.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
You do what you know is right.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
We've been through it, the heartbreak, the anger, the frustration.
But you know what, this is not going to define
us in a negative way. It's going to define us
in a positive way. And I go back to that
moment where my ex left me with three kids. It
was devastating and it defined me and it made me
a better woman. I never would have the career that
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I have, the home that I have. I never would
live in California. I would never have experienced what I'm
experienced if that tragedy hadn't happened. I don't think it's
a tragedy, doll. It's actually the best thing. You shouldn't
even say that. This could be the best thing that
ever happened to our nation because this is the moment
that women rise up and demand equality and don't allow
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anyone in our life that's not going to give it
to us. So click the link in the show notes
and get started again. It's totally free the Personal Action
Activism Planner. I've been working on this for days or
a week since the election, and let's turn the anger
into change. Let's turn the sadness into power, and let's
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get to work. Thank you for being here, Thank you
for feeling I'm here for you. Thank you for turning
your feelings into fuel. If you need anything, you can
find me on Instagram at the real Amanda Carol. I
personally answer all of my dms, so send.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Me a message. I'm here to help in any way
I can. And also, will you.
Speaker 1 (38:58):
Share this with five friends, Friends.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
That you know that are looking and wondering what do
I do now?
Speaker 1 (39:05):
And maybe even that friend that voted.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
For him and is regretting it.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Let her know she can fix it when she joins us.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Thanks for being a part of the collective.
Brave Podcast Network. Say it out loud. I will not settle,
I will not back down. I will not stay silent.
This podcast is a rallying cry for every woman that
feels defeated after this election, giving you specific steps on
what you can do about it, and a community of
women that you can join so together we can create
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a personal activism plan to change our future for the better.
Sometimes the world will try to make you feel really small.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
That's really good at it, but it's.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
In those moments of heartbreak and frustration that you find.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Out just how strong you really are.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Today we're turning all your pain and a purpose, all
your anger into action because this moment, right here, right now,
this is where your power begins. Welcome to the Single
mom Collective Podcast. I'm your host, Amanda Carroll, and this
is the second episode I recorded about the election. The
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first one, I admit to you was so angry nobody
needs to hear it. It was cathartic, but that's not
what is going to solve things. I'm calling this empowered,
turning post election emotions into personal strength. We're going to
harness this energy. Girl. This is a solo episode. I'm
going to pour my heart out and I'm going to
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listen to you. I'd love to hear from you on
what you think and do me a favor. Will you
please share this with five of your friends that are
hurting too, because we've got to get out of this
and we got to do.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Something about it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Low value men and those low value that elected them
do not get to run our country in our lives.
We have to rise up and yeah, I'm going to
say it, fight back. I'm going to be real with you.
After this election, I was devastated.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I know some of you.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Many of you feel like that too, Like you've just
been with a ton of bricks. It's like this heavy
weight and just massive amounts of disappointment. I mean, the
weight of the world feels like it is pressing on
all of our American shoulders right now.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Looking at us, like what did you do? I feel
like I need to walk around.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
At the grocery store or some kind of shirt that says, yes,
I'm a white woman, but I didn't vote for him.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
You're angry, I'm too.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You're exhausted, I'm too, and frankly, you're just playing tired
of the back and forth, the rhetoric and all the
fighting and the doom scrolling and all the videos that
friends are sending you. I get it because when I
watched those results, I felt it too. I went to bed,
hoping it would be a different story in the morning
that I woke up the next day.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
But it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
It was a punch to my feminist gut, like all
the work that my grandmother and my mother have done wasted,
Like all the work we've done here in the collective
aggress that we fought for of equality and respect and
safety for ourselves and our families. It felt like it
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was all slipping away that Monday. That Wednesday, I was devastated, and.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
I had moments where I thought, what now? What is
even the point? My poor husband had an earfull from me.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
One't his fault.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Here's the thing, though, Feeling devastated is not the end, girl,
This is just the beginning. It's the beginning of something
more powerful, something that can drive us to a place
where we not only heal, but we grow stronger. This
is gonna make it better. Listen, we weren't organized enough women.
We've got to stop competing with each other and actually
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work together for good.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
We have to do something.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
This episode is about turning that pain, the frustration, the
anger there with you, and turning all of it into
something more than just a reaction that we hope will
eventually go away. I actually don't want it to go away.
I just want you to channel it into something different.
Use the emotion and turn it into action. And I'm
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going to teach you how. I'm not just talking about
action in the world. I'm talking about action in your life,
in your relationships, in your choices. And you don't need
to wait for anyone else to lead.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
You are a woman. You lead.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
We all know that we are really the ones that
lead our families. We know we are the most successful,
the most hard working at our workplaces. We are the
best at multitasking. It's time that we stop hiding. It's interesting.
I had several women I know comment to me on
through social media, through messages, and even face to face
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publicly mentioning that I was brave for sharing my feelings
about the election before the vote. It's like, why is
this brave? We have to all do it, it should
be required.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
This is your moment.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
I want you to take the reins of the future
for yourself and your children and your family. We're not
going to give it away to low value men anymore
who look over sexual assault and felonies and racism and
homophobia and think all of those things are just not
that big of a deal that they can sit in
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the White House. No, we're going to talk about how
you can use the emotions that you're rightfully.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Feeling right now to make some serious changes.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Changes in yourself, the way that you react, in your
relationships and in the world around you. So you can
listen to podcasts, grow through social media, not along in agreement,
but nothing ever changes when you do that, It just
puts you in a worse mood.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Do you want to do something about this?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
If you're not brave enough to stand up and speak out,
then this isn't for you. But if you're ready, it's
time to get involved. The first step is to join
the brand new collective. Imagine being surrounded by women who
feel exactly like you do, who are fed up and
ready to fight.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
They think like you do.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
They want equality for all, they want freedom over their
own body, for their daughters, and they want a country
that accepts all races and all people who love. However,
they choose to love. If you are on fire for change,
you're in the right place. Imagine being surrounded by these
women all together, chasing down financial independence, refusing to settle
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for low value partners who don't treat us as equals,
and demanding to be treated is equals at home and
in the workforce. This is your tribe and we're waiting
for you. This isn't just any community, though, this is exclusive.
You have to go through me to join. I'm looking
for women that are strong and independent and are ready
to change the world. Because you too, agree that it's
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not okay that there's a rapist in the White House. Soon.
If you're ready to step up, be bold and surround
yourself with women like this who want to make things happen,
achieve financial independence, and create a personal activism plan to
believe in a cause and do something about it rather
than doom scroll. I want you to book a call
and apply with me. This is your chance to be
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a part of something much bigger, to transform your life,
your daughter's life, and our country, and to stand with
a sisterhood that is unstoppable. Are you brave enough to
take that step? Well, let's find out. Book your call.
The link is in the show notes. I'm ready for you,
Are you.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
First?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I just really want to acknowledge all the emotional tides
that we've been through. Let's talk about these emotions for
a second. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. Let's face it.
Sadness and anger and frustration. These are all real feelings
right now. And if you're like me, you don't really
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want anyone to tell you to.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Just get over it. It's gonna be okay. It's not
that simple. You've worked hard. We've worked hard.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
I was on phone banks calling people to vote for
Kamala Harris. I put out your heart signs, I'm posting
on social media, but it wasn't enough. I realized I
should have started years ago, sharing how I feel and
speaking up to people that disrespected women instead of ignoring it. Well,
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this unleashed a whole new lioness in me, and I
hope it did you too. We don't have to be nice.
We're not nice to racists. We're not nice to people
that are homophobic. We are not nice to rapists and
those that elect them. When it feels like everything we've
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fought for could be all undone in an instant, Yeah,
it stings, and it is okay to be angry, It
is okay to be heartbroken. But I'm telling you right now,
do not let the anger consume you. Because that anger, girl,
that is fuel, and what you do with that fuel,
how you turn it into something meaningful, will be the
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difference between staying stuck in that place and moving toward
something bigger and better. We got four years to fight
and change and resist. I want you to think about
the last time that you felt powerless. We're not going
to stay there. Just do me a favor, okay, I
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remember mine. The first thing that came to my mind
was when my ex left me.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
With three little kids with zero notics.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Just came home from a business trips that I'm leaving
you kids were four, two and eight weeks old.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I felt powerless.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I know what it feels like to look around at
the world and wonder, hey, do I even matter? Is
anyone noticing what's happening? And wonder can I even make
a difference? Am I ruined?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
There were days during that time when I felt the weight.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Of my entire family on my shoulders. But you know what,
those moments, they didn't get the best of me.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
They defined me.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
What I decided to do was to use that tragedy.
How a man is even allowed to do that to
his wife and children, I don't even understand.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
But I used it to get a better I want
you to use this.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Tragedy and these emotions to do something, and I'm going
to give you a path to do it, and I'm
going to be with you the entire way. What defined
me again was what I did instead of I mean,
I'm not a girl up and a ball for a
couple of days a month. But I decided to go
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get the life that I always wanted because I had
acquiesced my entire.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Career to his.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I wanted to get my career back. I wanted to
get my life back. I wanted to live it on
my terms. And a year of the day they left,
I did it. I was on a flight to California.
I got my dream job. He bought my own house
on a cold sack with a pool in California.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
How you like me now?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
It was something about the wrong that was done to
me that propelled me forward even more.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Use it.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Don't allow it to make you stay sad and in bed.
Use those emotions not to shrink back, but to stand taller,
put the freaking heels on, and fight for what really matters.
That's what I'm asking you to do now, and I'm
not going to leave you alone in it. I'm going
to give you the steps and the tools to do
it in this episode.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
So stay with me.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Promise me that we're not going to wallow in sadness
or frustration, but we're going to use this again to
fuel it. I want you to dig deep right now
and feel the anger for a second, feel the sadness
for the second.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Now, I want you to find the power in it.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Like imagine all of a sudden, what came to mind
is that movie Back to Future when the guy comes
back in the Dolore and he's got this thing and
he's putting trash in it and turning it into fuel.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I forget the name of it.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Put all of your anger and your sadness in that
thing and watch it turn into fuel to make a difference.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Are you there? Do you have it with me?
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Don't let anyone tell you you can't make a difference.
All of us can. So here's the first step. We're
gonna channel all of our emotions.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
We felt them, we got them, out that recorded a
whole podcast that I deleted. I'm a day late, two
days late putting this podcast out, but who cares. It's out. Now.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
We're going to channel those emotions now that we've turned
it into fuel, into empowerment. Because it's not just enough
to feel Call your mama, call your friend, call your
best friend, you share a bunch of reels. You've got
to take it, harness it, and turn it into something real.
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I wonder if the women that fought during Women's suffrage
for the right to vote felt this way.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Like I wish in a way.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I'm going to start watching documentaries and reading books about
that time.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Because I think we can learn a lot from their fight.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I'm sure people told them they were terrible people, probably men,
probably gave them very hateful things of the reason, but
they kept going to get the right to vote that
we have and we have to use it. I'm shocked
that women use the right to vote to vote for
a rapist, convicted felon. I will never understand it in
my life. We have to get to those women and
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change their mind. We have to somehow find love in
our hearts to say hey girl, hey, let me tell
you the truth and get them on our side.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Maybe you could send them this episode with all love.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Please give this a chance, because I feel like they
were lied to and manipulated. Let's harness this energy and
turn it into something real. Okay, we got the fuel
now right. I want you to take a stand on
something publicly, say the thing out loud. When that's going
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to feel so much better. You know, I work on
manifestation and for my business and for my family and
for love lives, and I always know the block is
when you're not being your true self. Stop pretending to
just be nice and be silent about what really matters
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to you. Stop being too scared to share the truth.
You must take a stand if you're upset about this.
Not enough of us did we silently voted? Don't silently
vote anymore. We're choosing to channel our emotion into personal growth.
For you. Your power doesn't just grow, it multiplies. Guess
(15:46):
what when you say okay, that's it. I know whoever
has the money has the power. So I'm going to
go for that promotion. I'm going to get more money.
I'm going to start my business. So I'm going to
stop being a stay at home mom and being used
to propel someone else's career, and I'm going to get
back into the workforce. The more women that we have
in the workforce, the bigger change we can have. The
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more women that have more money, the bigger impact we have.
Who has the money has the power. Let's go get
that fuel to make more money. That is number one
rule of this collective what we have to do, and
I'll help you.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
This multiplies.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
The more women that have more money and more financially independent,
the more power we have. The more women that are
in leadership in businesses and corporations, the more power we have,
and the more we show we can lead and we're
damn good at it, and we can do it in
less time, is more effective and usually probably save the money.
(16:42):
This is where the magic happens. So let's talk about
how we do this. We turned our feelings into fuel.
That was step number one. Now I want you to
ask yourself this question, what is my purpose? By the way,
it's more than being awayefe and mother. Those are wonderful things,
but that's just an added benefit to your life.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
You were made to do something more. What's my purpose?
What is it that drives me.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Me? Don't make it about your kids, or your spouse
or the spouse that you want, and make it about you.
What is it that drives you? When you're connected to
a bigger purpose, when you know why you're fighting, that's
when the real change starts. Change in the world and
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change in you. Isn't that what you need? We need
to not feel sad and angry. We need to feel
confident and powerful. And when you know your purpose and
you know your why, and you're not just aware of it,
but you're actively pursuing it, you love yourself. It was
written in one of my favorite books, You were a badass.
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You know what The holy grail of happiness is love yourself.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
No one else can love you enough.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
You have to love you.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
That is your holy grail of happiness. And stay true.
Stay true to what you believe and talk about it.
Stop hiding it.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
I want you to start waking up each day knowing
that you're not just reacting to the world around you,
but you're shaping it.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Women need to.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Shape this world. It's very obvious that the men have
failed us. We have to be the ones that stand
up and shape it. Be bold, be strong, make a
dream and achieve it.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
It is not okay just to coast anymore.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
I know I'm being a little strong here, but it's
not girl.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
You're ruining it for all of us.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
It is not easier to be a stay at home
mom and just let somebody else do all the work.
That's suffocating. We can't do it anymore. That's why we're
losing our power. I want you to wake up every
day having a plan instead of a reaction. When you
get clear on what matters most to you, that is
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when you identify the cause that burns in your chest.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
That's when you stop feeling powerless and you.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Realize that the change you seek is inside of you already,
and you just you just need to start moving. I
want you to do one thing a day towards having
your voice be heard and speaking up for the cause
that you believe in. I've got the whole template. The
link is in the show notes for you to start.
We're gonna do this together. You're gonna find your purpose,
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define it, and you're not gonna let anyone, no one,
not your kids, not your husband, not your parents, not
your church, not your pastor definitely not them, to tell
you it's too big or too bold or too radical.
It is you, It's yours, and it will carry you
through the darkest of days.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
No longer do we react. We plan, and we implement.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
I also want to talk about something that often gets
overlooked in times like this.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
It's our relationships. Not all men are bad. We have
to educate them on what's important to us.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
And then those that I would consider low value NAGA
don't belong in our lives anymore because we're not safe
with a man that thinks it's okay to elect a
sexual abuser, and a convicted felon, and a rapist and
a homophobic man, oh also an adulterer. If they think
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that person should be president, they shouldn't be in your life.
If you've been through this emotional roller coaster, if you've
had your heart broken by the state of the world,
the last thing you want to do is to let
us someone else break it to. This is where the
concept of being a high value woman comes in. You've
probably if you're follow me on Instagram at the real
(21:10):
Amanda Carroll, you've seen me talk about that a lot.
Now I'm talking about it more on the podcast too.
It's not some checklist of superficial qualities like that stupid
proverb thirty one woman that was written, by the way,
by a mother in law that somehow, in some high
demand religion world, all women thought that they had to
be like her. No, actually, you should be nothing like
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that woman. You should be the kind of woman that
knows her worth and demands it and doesn't put up
with anybody that doesn't respect her as an equal, who
walks into every room with her head held high, with
her own purpose and independence firmly in place.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
She's got the confidence to make her own decisions, she's
got the financial independence to stand on her own two
feection care, and she knows exactly what she wants. When
you are a high value woman, you don't settle for
less than you deserve. You don't settle for someone who
isn't on the same page as you, who isn't meeting
your needs, or who doesn't have the respect for your journey.
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If you are single, many of us are the key
to finding a partner who supports you. I believe is
two things. Number one your financial independence. We're not looking
for a financial support. We're looking for someone who treats
us like an equal, who wants to help us chase
down our dreams while we support them in their dreams.
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So you have to have dreams. You have to have
your own money and your own dreams. Then you come
together and work together. That is what a high value
woman is. The highly value man is the one that.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Wants a woman like that.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
He doesn't want a woman to serve him to achieve
his dreams. He would never do that to you. He
wants a woman that has her own that impresses him,
that challenges him, that makes him go to the next
level too. So in order to have that dream relationship,
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you have to be the high value woman. You have
to get this personal activism planner that helps you find
your why, your purpose and gives you the step by
steps to start walking it out. So when you're on
a date or even challenging your current partner and you
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share what you're doing, they're.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Like, that's awesome, let's go. They don't pick it. A
partner stand in your way. That's low value.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
When you become that woman that's chasing down dreams, that
has her own money, you make a better choice and
a partner because you don't choose the partner that you
have to be with anymore. You don't overlook red flags.
He's kind of rude to me, and he's said some
names sometimes. But he has a good job. Are you
kidding me? That's not good enough.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
You have a good job.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
If you don't have your own money yet, you're not
ready to date, to find a high value partner, especially
if you have children. If you don't have your own
dream yet to pursuing, you're not ready to date. Let's
get those two things in line first, because once women
make out a requirement, we change the world. We hold
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men to a higher accountability standard, like you've got a
level up to be with us.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Then all of a sudden, they know it's stupid to
vote for someone who is a rapist, racist, convicted felon,
and homophobe. They know that any woman who's worth or
worth anything will not respect them or even allow them
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in our life. We have to level up our lives
and our expectations too. I want you to truly understand
who you are and what you stand for.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
The right person will be drawn.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
To that, and you'll be able to make choices that
empower you, choices that will only make you stronger and sexier.
If a man isn't attracted to a strong woman. He's
a weak man, and you don't want to be in
his You.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't want him anywhere around you. Girl.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Okay, so what do we do. We're turning our emotions
into fuel. We're leveling up being high value women. That's
increasing our income, having our own money, amassing our own
money and savings, and we're coming up with our own
dreams and we're pursuing them and we're a high value.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Man needs to keep up.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
That's how we're going to change this mentality in the
world that women are meant to lead. We have to
teach oh, the men and the women that some reason
voted for this man, that are rightful place is in
leadership too. So you have to lead now and show
that as an example to every man and every child
in your life. That's where the personal action activism plan
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comes in. Maybe we're like, Amanda, how the hell do
I do this?
Speaker 2 (26:25):
I got you? I got you. This is the good part.
This is the fun part.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
Okay, give you have some fun because we've all been
wondering what the hell do I do?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
How do I change this?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
This is how the personal action Activism planner what do
they say? This is where the rubber meets the road.
I hate cliches, but that's a good one there. If
you can just I mean, you could sit and be
mad at the world. But if you don't have a
plan in place, nothing's ever going to change, right. So
let's make the plan a real plan, the plan that
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moves you from frustration to action.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
And it's not about better about the world. It's about
taking all.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
This frustration and using it to create a world that
reflects your values. It's about defining your cause, setting your goals,
and finding the allies are going to help you build
a future we all deserve.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Think about it.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
What would it look like if you woke up tomorrow
you download this and you had a clear plan for
the next year of what you wanted for your life
and how you wanted to use your life to make
more money, make a bigger difference, be high value, and
attract a high value partner. Ooh, that's hot, that's sexy.
What if you had a map to help guide you
towards that change you want to see in the world.
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Imagine that hot power. Imagine how stoppable you could be
when anybody hurt you or take advantage of that kind
of woman.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Hell no, that's who you want to be.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
So let's look at this personal action plan. I've got
it all laid out for you. Okay, I'm pulling it
up right here recording this podcast. Let's see if I
can multitask for you. We are going to first identify
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your why.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
What is it.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
That will help you beyond a shadow of a doubt
feel more confident in life? What is it that you
really and truly want to be a part of. How
are you going to make a difference post election? How
are you going to stop being angry? So we've got
the fuel, What the heck do we do with it?
(28:38):
You can download this personal Activism Plan. But first thing
we're going to do is we're going to define your cause.
Ask yourself this right now. We take some notes if
you can, if you don't, if you're drive in, think
about it or put on your phone.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
What issues light a fire in you?
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Make a list, and then I want you to choose
one that you feel really a passion about for the
next year to focus on.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
What is your cause? Maybe it's women's.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Rights, maybe it's pro choice, maybe it's racial equality, maybe
it's LGBTQIA plus rights. Why this is the most important thing.
Why does this cause matter to you personally? And how
does it connect with your story or values?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
I bet you already have it.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
I connect with women's rights and women's equality and helping
women make money because I'm a third generation single mother
and I know what it's like to not be respected.
That's my cause. You are my cause. Identify your why?
Why do you want to be an advocate for this cause?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Why?
Speaker 1 (29:45):
What's your purpose in your motivation? I think I'm constantly
trying to help the previous version of me because she
was so scared and I don't want another woman to
go through that. And then maybe even use CHATCHBT and
I want you to write a brief mission statement that
captures your reason for activism. For example, I will fight
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for women's equality in the next year because I don't
want any woman to suffer the way that I suffered,
and I don't want my daughters to have to go
through that.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
I want a different world from my daughters.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Something like that, And then ask yourself this, how would
you feel if you made a real impact in this area?
Oh my god, if I could truly be a part
of a cause that makes a better and more equal
playing field, so my daughters get equal pay in the workforce,
I would feel fantastic. I would feel like my life mattered.
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That's really important. Then we're going to set your goals.
What specific change do you want to see. I want
to educate women on increasing their finances, increasing their income,
making their own businesses, and I want to help them
see their worth great. So let's set a short term
goal and a long term goal two six months. Goals
(31:09):
for your activism. What is it that you're going to accomplish.
I'm going to launch I'm going to expand from the
single Mom Collective to the Women's Collective, and I'm going
to open this up to all women who want to
increase their income. Set goals and achieve it. That's one
thing I'm going to do in the next three months.
I hope you're okay with that. I want you to
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write it down and put a date on it.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
That's how to achieve it. Write your goals, be specific
of what you're going to do. Okay, Then we're going
to map out your first steps.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
I believe in this process called Kaizen, it's we can
be the most effective when we do one percent more
every single day. So I want you to write an
exhaustive list of all the steps that you can make
to make a difference for your cause, like women's rights,
even if just join a community, you know, give five
bucks a month to the Democratic Party, post something on
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my Instagram page. I make exhaustive list, and all I
want you to do is do one thing a day.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
That sounds doable, doesn't it.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
The thing is you want to build consistency and build
momentum over time to be the most effective. So you
just you don't want to do too much. It's like
hitting leg day after the holidays. You haven't been to
the gym for two weeks and you're sore and can't walk,
so you never go back to the gym. Don't do that, girl,
Just do one thing a day. I mean, imagine if
you did one thing a day to propel your cause
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forward for the next thirty days, you'd be thirty percent there.
Imagine if you did it for ninety days, you'd be
ninety percent there. Next after, we've got our we've got
our cause, we've got our goals, and we've mapped out
all of our first steps that I want you to
go find allies and resources.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Who's going to help you amplify your impact.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
Friends, you know, somebody that has a podcast, organizations, communities.
Maybe you could be a voice to your church that
not all Christians need to be Republicans.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
We need those women in our world.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Maybe you want to be a voice for hiring more
female pastors, hiring more women at your job, asking your
boss if he's looked at it, are the women being
paid equally? Go find your allies and then go find mentors.
People you know are like, Wow, she's in this cause already,
I want to meet her. Make friends. Don't be intimidated.
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So make a list of three or five three to
five potential allies, mentors, and local organizations that you connect with.
Just do some Google, get on chatcypt It'll take you
five minutes, and then think about how you might reach
out collaborate. I've had some amazing collaborations by just setting
a DM to somebody I really looked up to online.
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Then we're going to make a plan for growth after
your first three months, goals, your first six months, how
do you continue to learn and grow in your activism.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
So come up with a list.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Write down two to three ways you can plan to
depend your understanding or your skill set books you can read,
events that you can attend, organizations you can join, courses
that you can take like dig Dig deep, get into
like the women's rights community or the lgbt QI plus
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community and what's going on there.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Get involved.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Don't just sit at home going yep, I agree with that.
Freaking do something. I think that's why we lost, because
all we did was agree did we were not women
were not as active as the Maugus. And then if
you're interested, you can join me. Download for free this
personal activism planner. We just went through it, fill it out,
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and then I'd like you to think about joining the
women's collective. I'm starting a new guy this coming week.
It's called Rise and Roar. We're going to develop our
personal activism plan together, and then I'm going to help
you every single week walk it out because I don't
think we need to be alone anymore. You will join
Rise and War and you will have your personal transformation
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plan on how you're going to be active, how you're
going to affect change, and how you will now speak
up with courage and confidence. You'll have the full plan,
all the steps on walking it out, and the support
of the entire community.
Speaker 2 (35:40):
To help you do that. That sounds really good.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
And if you download this free planner for your activism,
I'm also going to include I made this.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
It's kind of the change Makers reading list. I love
to read books, self help books, so.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
I have seven books that I recommend that if you're
still like on the fence of I don't know what
to do, that will inspire you. So I want to
include that too, because this is how we change the world.
My friend, thanks for listening.
Speaker 2 (36:10):
Today.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
You decided to turn your anger and your emotions and
sadness into fuel. You decided to use that fuel to
become an even higher value woman that only allows high
value partners that treat you like an equal in your life.
Doing that, ladies, is going to make the MAGA step
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up and level up. We really do hold the power.
If they want us, they got to be high level.
And you're making your plan for action. This is not
about waiting until the next election. I saw the other
day there's this cruise that you can just go out
and cruise for the next four years and escape. No,
(36:53):
that's what they want us to do. Don't you dare
do that? We need you to act otherwise we're going
to keep going.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
Through this over and over again. The next president needs
to be a woman.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
And the only way we're going to make that happen
is if you us.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
We are high value.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
We demand our partners to be high value, and we
make more money and.
Speaker 2 (37:13):
We get active.
Speaker 1 (37:15):
This is about taking control of your own life, your
own choices, in your own future. Church doesn't tell you
what to do, your pastor doesn't tell you what to do.
Your partner doesn't tell you what to do.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
You do what you know is right.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
We've been through it, the heartbreak, the anger, the frustration.
But you know what, this is not going to define
us in a negative way. It's going to define us
in a positive way. And I go back to that
moment where my ex left me with three kids. It
was devastating and it defined me and it made me
a better woman. I never would have the career that
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I have, the home that I have. I never would
live in California. I would never have experienced what I'm
experienced if that tragedy hadn't happened. I don't think it's
a tragedy, doll. It's actually the best thing. You shouldn't
even say that. This could be the best thing that
ever happened to our nation because this is the moment
that women rise up and demand equality and don't allow
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anyone in our life that's not going to give it
to us. So click the link in the show notes
and get started again. It's totally free the Personal Action
Activism Planner. I've been working on this for days or
a week since the election, and let's turn the anger
into change. Let's turn the sadness into power, and let's
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get to work. Thank you for being here, Thank you
for feeling I'm here for you. Thank you for turning
your feelings into fuel. If you need anything, you can
find me on Instagram at the real Amanda Carol. I
personally answer all of my dms, so send.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Me a message. I'm here to help in any way
I can. And also, will you.
Speaker 1 (38:58):
Share this with five friends, Friends.
Speaker 2 (39:01):
That you know that are looking and wondering what do
I do now?
Speaker 1 (39:05):
And maybe even that friend that voted.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
For him and is regretting it.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
Let her know she can fix it when she joins us.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
Thanks for being a part of the collective.
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