April 9, 2025 • 8 mins
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🎙️ Episode Description: Think you're too busy to date?
You're not.
You're just dating without a strategy—and it’s costing you your time, your energy, and your belief that love is even possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common lies smart, high-achieving women tell themselves: “I just don’t have time to date.” From custody schedules to babysitter drama to calendar chaos—I’ve heard it all. But here’s the truth:
You don’t need more time. You need a better plan.
💡 Here’s what you’ll learn:
✅ Why “not enough time” is a mindset trap, not a fact
✅ How to date intentionally—even if you only have 2 nights a week
✅ Why blaming your ex, your kids, or your schedule is giving away your power
✅ Simple solutions to overcome common time-related dating roadblocks (including where to find a babysitter in 5 minutes 🙃)
🚨 P.S. — Love Unlocked is closing on April 20th (Easter Sunday!)
This is your LAST CHANCE to join before summer. If you're ready to attract a high-value, emotionally available man without burnout or second-guessing yourself, now is the time. ✨ Doors close April 20—click here to apply!
💬 Loved this episode? Screenshot it and tag me on Instagram @therealamandacarroll — I want to hear your biggest takeaway and how you're reconnecting with your future self.
Click Here to Book your free call now!
💡 Join The Single Mom Collective → Get the coaching, community, and tools you need to transform your life. Join now here
💖 Watch the Magnetic Attraction Masterclass (FREE!) → If you’re tired of attracting emotionally unavailable men or wondering why you keep doing everything “right” and still not finding love—this is for you. Learn how to shift your energy, become the woman love can’t resist, and attract a high-value man who shows up. 👉 Watch it here now!
🎙️ Episode Description: Think you're too busy to date?
You're not.
You're just dating without a strategy—and it’s costing you your time, your energy, and your belief that love is even possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common lies smart, high-achieving women tell themselves: “I just don’t have time to date.” From custody schedules to babysitter drama to calendar chaos—I’ve heard it all. But here’s the truth:
You don’t need more time. You need a better plan.
💡 Here’s what you’ll learn:
✅ Why “not enough time” is a mindset trap, not a fact
✅ How to date intentionally—even if you only have 2 nights a week
✅ Why blaming your ex, your kids, or your schedule is giving away your power
✅ Simple solutions to overcome common time-related dating roadblocks (including where to find a babysitter in 5 minutes 🙃)
🚨 P.S. — Love Unlocked is closing on April 20th (Easter Sunday!)
This is your LAST CHANCE to join before summer. If you're ready to attract a high-value, emotionally available man without burnout or second-guessing yourself, now is the time. ✨ Doors close April 20—click here to apply!
💬 Loved this episode? Screenshot it and tag me on Instagram @therealamandacarroll — I want to hear your biggest takeaway and how you're reconnecting with your future self.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network. You don't have time to date, okay,
but somehow you've had time to text your XBAC, scrolled
Zillow for dream houses, spend forty five minutes choosing what
you want to order from door Dash and Rewatch that
scene in Bridgerton where he says, I burn for you
like it's your religion. So yeah, let's talk about what's
really going on. Girl, let's get into it. Here's the truth.
(00:23):
Welcome to the Single Mom Collective, the podcast for high
value women who are reinventing their lives. You're done settling
and you're ready to rebuild a life that's better than
you ever imagined. And I'm your host to show you
the way. I'm Amanda Carroll, single mom turned CEO, radio host, speaker,
and now remarried in a beautiful, blended family of seven.
(00:46):
Yeah we have five teenagers. I live the heartbreak. I've
rebuilt from scratch. I created a life I used to
only dream about, and now I'm here to help you
do the same. This show is where Healing Me tussled,
confidence meets calling, and faith meets fire girl. Each week,
I'm going to bring you real talk, raw stories, powerful
strategies to help you heal from heartbreak, build wealth and independence,
(01:09):
attract a high value partner, and create a life so
good your X won't believe it. But this isn't just
a podcast. It's a movement or a community, and you
can join us for live group coaching, private one on
one sessions. Q and A's I created the community that
I wished I would have had when I became a
(01:31):
single mom. This is your single mom collective, your comeback,
and I'm your biggest cheerleader. The link is in the
show notes. You're not too busy today, you're not too tired,
you're not stuck. You're just experiencing what I call a
false reward loop. So let's break that down. A false
reward loop is when your brain settles for a quick
(01:53):
hit of comfort instead of doing the thing that gets
you the life you actually want. So instead of a
messaging a high value man about setting up a date,
you scroll, reorganize your fridge, rewatch a rom com, or
tell yourself your kids are too young or it's just
(02:14):
not the right time, and then boom, your brain goes
to ah relief, I didn't put myself out there, I'm safe,
and you're somehow feeling like you're sacrificed to your kids
makes you more worthy. It doesn't. It just makes you
more of a victim girl, and you're also still alone.
Here are the top excuses I hear from women in
(02:36):
on my Instagram and inside the single mom Collective about dating.
Excuse number one, I don't have time to date because
my kids and my custody schedule. Okay. I even had
one client say, well, I only have Thursdays and Sundays free.
I'm like, only I didn't have any of those free.
I had full custody with an ex that lived in Texas,
and still find someone. You've got two days a week
(02:57):
where you can date. I understand it feels like limited time.
Maybe you have split weekends and your ex makes things hard.
But here's what I need you to hear. Letting your
X and your custody schedule control your dating life. That's
letting him win. Letting his chaos spill into your future relationship.
(03:17):
That's giving him rent free in your love life. The
right man, he doesn't care that you only have Thursday
nights and Sunday afternoons. The right man goes, oh cool,
you've got a life. I really respect that let's make
this count. That's how you find a high value man
by being busy. So that's actually not an excuse? Is it?
(03:39):
Excuse number two that I hear from single moms in
the single mom collective, I can't date. I don't have
a babysitter. Okay, listen, girl, you can find a babysitter.
You just haven't decided to. Have you heard of care
dot com. I found three babysitters on that. Have you
asked your friends for one night a month? Have you
(04:00):
asked them to recommend a babysitter. Have you even posted
on Facebook group or asked your teenage neighbor. You just
haven't put the effort. You're letting fear win. This is
your dream partner we're talking about, not a trip to CVS.
Your future deserves a little bit more creativity, babe. Let's
(04:21):
go find a roster of three to five babysitters from
care dot com and neighbors and friends and recommendations, get
them on a text thread, and when a guy asks
you out, book one of them and pay them really well,
because when you do, they end up saying yes to
you every single time. Okay, so we solve that problem.
(04:41):
Excuse number three. H dating. It feels like a chore.
I hate it, No kidding, of course it does because
you're probably dating like it's the Hunger Games, no filters,
swiping on men with sunglasses in every pick, entertaining men
who say I don't know what I'm looking for yet,
but hey, they've got abs. This is not a vibe,
(05:01):
but you know it is dating with clarity, dating with boundaries,
and dating with a system and a strategy that brings
emotionally available men to your table begging for your time.
That's what I teach. You're not lazy, you're just burned
out on low effort energy. I get it, and girl,
(05:23):
I am here to help. Here's what you need instead.
You need a vision for what your ideal dating life
looks like. You need boundaries around your time, your energy,
and your communication. And you need a strategy that works
with your single mom life, not against it. You've got
two nights a week to date, that's plenty. We're not
(05:45):
trying to build a relationship with everyone. We're trying to
connect with one aligned, high value, healthy man that wants
to commit to you and will treat you like as
equal and that takes intention time by the way, there's
not a scarcity of them. Don't believe that lie. And
(06:07):
this right here, this is the kind of work we
do inside Love Unlocked, a dating revolution for single mothers.
We build a dating strategy that honors your time, your energy,
and your values. Because dating doesn't need to feel like
a second job. It should feel like expansion, like fun,
like momentum. If you're even thinking about joining Love Unlocked,
(06:28):
this is your shot. We close enrollment April twentieth, Easter Sunday,
and we're not going to open it again until the
middle of the summer. I don't want you to miss
your chance at summer love. So click the link in
the show notes and join us. Right now, you can
watch a video all about it, and if you want
to join, just click the link underneath that you and
I get on a call. We sign you up, so
(06:49):
you're not waiting on love until July. It's not about time.
When you really think about it, let me leave you
with this. You don't need more time. You need to
stop lying to yourself about why you're not dating. If
you're scared, cool, that's honest. If you're tired, let's build
something that energizes you. If you're overwhelmed. Come get a
(07:12):
strategy that simplifies it. Because the woman who says I
just don't have time to date is often the same
woman who secretly doesn't believe love is possible for her.
And that's the real work that I want to help
you with. If this hits home for you and you're
finally ready to get on stuck, can we talk book
(07:35):
your free one on one empowerment call with me. I'm
going to show you how to date in a way
that fits your actual life, not some fantasya schedule you
wish you had. We're going to map out what kind
of partner you want, what's been blocking you, and how
to start attracting high value men who respect you and
(07:56):
your time and don't forget love Unlocked. It closes April twentieth.
This isn't just about dating. This is about your healing,
your joy, and your next chapter. So go to the
links in the show notes and click on that link
watch the video. If you want to join, find some
(08:16):
time on my calendar. There's plenty of spots for you.
But it closes April twentieth. Let's build a love life
you actually want. I only work with fifteen women at
a time so I can give you my absolute all.
I've got five spots left until April twentieth. If you
want one, go click on that link and snag a girl.
(08:37):
Because you're not too busy, you're just ready for a
new strategy. Let's go
Brave Podcast Network. You don't have time to date, okay,
but somehow you've had time to text your XBAC, scrolled
Zillow for dream houses, spend forty five minutes choosing what
you want to order from door Dash and Rewatch that
scene in Bridgerton where he says, I burn for you
like it's your religion. So yeah, let's talk about what's
really going on. Girl, let's get into it. Here's the truth.
(00:23):
Welcome to the Single Mom Collective, the podcast for high
value women who are reinventing their lives. You're done settling
and you're ready to rebuild a life that's better than
you ever imagined. And I'm your host to show you
the way. I'm Amanda Carroll, single mom turned CEO, radio host, speaker,
and now remarried in a beautiful, blended family of seven.
(00:46):
Yeah we have five teenagers. I live the heartbreak. I've
rebuilt from scratch. I created a life I used to
only dream about, and now I'm here to help you
do the same. This show is where Healing Me tussled,
confidence meets calling, and faith meets fire girl. Each week,
I'm going to bring you real talk, raw stories, powerful
strategies to help you heal from heartbreak, build wealth and independence,
(01:09):
attract a high value partner, and create a life so
good your X won't believe it. But this isn't just
a podcast. It's a movement or a community, and you
can join us for live group coaching, private one on
one sessions. Q and A's I created the community that
I wished I would have had when I became a
(01:31):
single mom. This is your single mom collective, your comeback,
and I'm your biggest cheerleader. The link is in the
show notes. You're not too busy today, you're not too tired,
you're not stuck. You're just experiencing what I call a
false reward loop. So let's break that down. A false
reward loop is when your brain settles for a quick
(01:53):
hit of comfort instead of doing the thing that gets
you the life you actually want. So instead of a
messaging a high value man about setting up a date,
you scroll, reorganize your fridge, rewatch a rom com, or
tell yourself your kids are too young or it's just
(02:14):
not the right time, and then boom, your brain goes
to ah relief, I didn't put myself out there, I'm safe,
and you're somehow feeling like you're sacrificed to your kids
makes you more worthy. It doesn't. It just makes you
more of a victim girl, and you're also still alone.
Here are the top excuses I hear from women in
(02:36):
on my Instagram and inside the single mom Collective about dating.
Excuse number one, I don't have time to date because
my kids and my custody schedule. Okay. I even had
one client say, well, I only have Thursdays and Sundays free.
I'm like, only I didn't have any of those free.
I had full custody with an ex that lived in Texas,
and still find someone. You've got two days a week
(02:57):
where you can date. I understand it feels like limited time.
Maybe you have split weekends and your ex makes things hard.
But here's what I need you to hear. Letting your
X and your custody schedule control your dating life. That's
letting him win. Letting his chaos spill into your future relationship.
(03:17):
That's giving him rent free in your love life. The
right man, he doesn't care that you only have Thursday
nights and Sunday afternoons. The right man goes, oh cool,
you've got a life. I really respect that let's make
this count. That's how you find a high value man
by being busy. So that's actually not an excuse? Is it?
(03:39):
Excuse number two that I hear from single moms in
the single mom collective, I can't date. I don't have
a babysitter. Okay, listen, girl, you can find a babysitter.
You just haven't decided to. Have you heard of care
dot com. I found three babysitters on that. Have you
asked your friends for one night a month? Have you
(04:00):
asked them to recommend a babysitter. Have you even posted
on Facebook group or asked your teenage neighbor. You just
haven't put the effort. You're letting fear win. This is
your dream partner we're talking about, not a trip to CVS.
Your future deserves a little bit more creativity, babe. Let's
(04:21):
go find a roster of three to five babysitters from
care dot com and neighbors and friends and recommendations, get
them on a text thread, and when a guy asks
you out, book one of them and pay them really well,
because when you do, they end up saying yes to
you every single time. Okay, so we solve that problem.
(04:41):
Excuse number three. H dating. It feels like a chore.
I hate it, No kidding, of course it does because
you're probably dating like it's the Hunger Games, no filters,
swiping on men with sunglasses in every pick, entertaining men
who say I don't know what I'm looking for yet,
but hey, they've got abs. This is not a vibe,
(05:01):
but you know it is dating with clarity, dating with boundaries,
and dating with a system and a strategy that brings
emotionally available men to your table begging for your time.
That's what I teach. You're not lazy, you're just burned
out on low effort energy. I get it, and girl,
(05:23):
I am here to help. Here's what you need instead.
You need a vision for what your ideal dating life
looks like. You need boundaries around your time, your energy,
and your communication. And you need a strategy that works
with your single mom life, not against it. You've got
two nights a week to date, that's plenty. We're not
(05:45):
trying to build a relationship with everyone. We're trying to
connect with one aligned, high value, healthy man that wants
to commit to you and will treat you like as
equal and that takes intention time by the way, there's
not a scarcity of them. Don't believe that lie. And
(06:07):
this right here, this is the kind of work we
do inside Love Unlocked, a dating revolution for single mothers.
We build a dating strategy that honors your time, your energy,
and your values. Because dating doesn't need to feel like
a second job. It should feel like expansion, like fun,
like momentum. If you're even thinking about joining Love Unlocked,
(06:28):
this is your shot. We close enrollment April twentieth, Easter Sunday,
and we're not going to open it again until the
middle of the summer. I don't want you to miss
your chance at summer love. So click the link in
the show notes and join us. Right now, you can
watch a video all about it, and if you want
to join, just click the link underneath that you and
I get on a call. We sign you up, so
(06:49):
you're not waiting on love until July. It's not about time.
When you really think about it, let me leave you
with this. You don't need more time. You need to
stop lying to yourself about why you're not dating. If
you're scared, cool, that's honest. If you're tired, let's build
something that energizes you. If you're overwhelmed. Come get a
(07:12):
strategy that simplifies it. Because the woman who says I
just don't have time to date is often the same
woman who secretly doesn't believe love is possible for her.
And that's the real work that I want to help
you with. If this hits home for you and you're
finally ready to get on stuck, can we talk book
(07:35):
your free one on one empowerment call with me. I'm
going to show you how to date in a way
that fits your actual life, not some fantasya schedule you
wish you had. We're going to map out what kind
of partner you want, what's been blocking you, and how
to start attracting high value men who respect you and
(07:56):
your time and don't forget love Unlocked. It closes April twentieth.
This isn't just about dating. This is about your healing,
your joy, and your next chapter. So go to the
links in the show notes and click on that link
watch the video. If you want to join, find some
(08:16):
time on my calendar. There's plenty of spots for you.
But it closes April twentieth. Let's build a love life
you actually want. I only work with fifteen women at
a time so I can give you my absolute all.
I've got five spots left until April twentieth. If you
want one, go click on that link and snag a girl.
(08:37):
Because you're not too busy, you're just ready for a
new strategy. Let's go
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