February 25, 2025 • 12 mins
Are you unknowingly attracting the wrong men over and over again? The energy you date from—fear or love—determines the kind of relationships you create. If you’ve been stuck in a cycle of emotionally unavailable men, breadcrumbing, or settling for less than you deserve, this episode is for you.We’re diving deep into the Fear vs. Love Dating Trap—how fear-based dating keeps you stuck in toxic patterns and how shifting into love can make you magnetic to high-value, emotionally available men.
🔥 In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ The sneaky ways fear shows up in dating (and how to spot it in yourself)
✅ Why fear-based dating leads to the wrong men, every time
✅ The mindset shifts you need to start attracting real, healthy love
✅ How to embody confidence, self-worth, and trust in the dating processIf you’re ready to break free from the fear cycle and start dating from love, power, and abundance, hit play now!
✨ Let’s transform your love life—one shift at a time.
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🎧 Listen now and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!
🔥 In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ The sneaky ways fear shows up in dating (and how to spot it in yourself)
✅ Why fear-based dating leads to the wrong men, every time
✅ The mindset shifts you need to start attracting real, healthy love
✅ How to embody confidence, self-worth, and trust in the dating processIf you’re ready to break free from the fear cycle and start dating from love, power, and abundance, hit play now!
✨ Let’s transform your love life—one shift at a time.
YES! I WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT "LOVE UNLOCKED"
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- Join the Single Mom Collective for 7 days for FREE
- Book a Free One-on-One Coaching Call
- Follow me on Instagram @therealamandacarroll Daily Inspiration
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network. You step out of the shadows of
single motherhood and into your power.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
And the Single Mom Collective is more than a podcast.
This is an online community where we meet three times
a week live. Man, I'd love to have you. It's
super easy, super affordable. I put the link to join
in the show notes. A girl, it's less than a
trip to target.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Or maybe you're like Aman, I.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Really don't want to talk about all my personal stuff
in a big group.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
That's okay.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
If you would like one on one coaching for your
single mom life, co parenting, peaceful parenting, or finding love again,
how to use the dating apps. I would love to
work for you. I offer one free coaching call. You
and I can get on the phone. I'll listen to
what's going on, give you all the advice I can
in that call, and you can see if it's a
good fit for me to be your coach again. The
(00:54):
link is in the show notes.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Fere Let's get into the podcast to two energies that
shape our life. So how do we make sure that
they're shaping them positively right and not damaging our chances
and our new relationships? And as we're dating looking for someone,
so We have fear, love, right, darkness, light, scarcity or abundance,
(01:19):
and every decision, every belief, and every action is guided
by one of these forces. Fear is the voice that
keeps us small. It tells us we're not enough, that
we're never enough, that love is unsafe, and that dreams
are too risky. Fear convinces us to settle, to stay stuck,
(01:40):
to hide from what we truly want. It thrives in doubt, insecurity,
and the wounds of our past. But love, Love is expansive.
Love is the energy of trust, faith, and infinite possibility.
It's the belief that you are worth, that life is
(02:01):
unfolding in your favor, and that you are capable of
creating everything that you desire. Love is the courage to
step forward even when you're afraid. Love is choosing healing
over bitterness, hope over despair, and connection over isolation. The
(02:25):
most important question is which energy are you living from.
Are your choices driven by the fear of being alone,
the fear of failure, or the fear of rejection, or
are you moving in alignment with love, believing in your power,
(02:46):
trusting in the process and the dating journey, and embracing
this beautiful, loving light from within you. I happen to
think that the moment you choose love over fear, your
entire reality begins to shift. You stop surviving, start driving,
(03:08):
You stop waiting for permission, and you start cleaning what
is meant for you. You step out of the shadows
of sinding motherhood and into your power. So I want
to talk about how we can help each other make
this conscious choice fear or love, darkness or light, because
(03:30):
I happen to think the energy you choose really does
shape your life when you think about it. When we're
showing up in fear on a first date, what happens
when you date from fear? You're living in this energy
of lack on worthiness and self protection. Right. You fear
(03:53):
being alone, so you accept less than you deserve. You
fear rejection, so you play small. You don't show up
as your true self. You fear abandonment, so you end
up overgiving, overfunctioning, and tolerate behavior that you know is
not right. You fear getting hurt, so you build up
(04:17):
walls instead of really healthy boundaries. You fear that no
one will want you, so you settle for the first
man who shows interest, even if he's not really a
good fit and doesn't treat you very well. So when
you're dating with this energy of fear, you end up
calling in situations.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Then that reinforce your fears right, It's like you're attracting
the exact thing that you're afraid of.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
You attract emotionally unavailable men, you get breadcrumbed. You see
red flags, but explain them away and make excuses, and
your love life ends up becoming a cycle of disappointment
instead of joy and fulfillment. So we got to find
a way to shift our interview from fear of repeating
(05:07):
a toxic cycle to the energy of love. So what's
the difference when you date from love? Everything changes. Dating
from love does not mean that we are blindly optimistic
or that we are naive. It means that you're deeply
rooted in these three things self worth, abundance, and trust.
(05:31):
You trust that the right partner for you exists and
will meet you at your level. When you're dating from
the energy of love instead of fear, you set boundaries
because you love yourself, not because you're fear of rejection.
You don't chase because love isn't something that you have
(05:52):
to beg for you already give it to yourself. You
believe you're worthy, so you attract a man who beats
you accordingly, and no one else gets to apply for
the job. You don't settle for chemistry. You require deep
connection and alignment. When you date from love, you are magnetic.
(06:19):
On those first dates, and in the beginning of a relationship,
you shine. You walk into a room with confidence, knowing
that you are the prize. You don't need to prove
yourself or force anything, because love flows effortlessly to a
woman who believes she is worthy of it. So how
(06:41):
do we do that? I think the first way that
we do that is understanding fear is the thing that's
holding you back. Also, fear is a lie. Fear is
based on the past, which is no longer relevant to
your life. Now you got out of that relationship, you
(07:01):
created a new life. You're focused on your future. So
let's stop expecting this past to repeat. So daily choosing love.
And one of the things we can do that is
making a point to show everyone love that we can.
(07:23):
I admit to you, I had a moment a couple
days ago when I don't know about in your neighborhood,
but in my neighborhood. They just won't stop knocking on
our door trying to sell solar And it was a
day and we were going through some stuff. It was
not the time to knock on my door, Okay. I
was not having it, and I admit to you, I
was really rude, and I said something like stop knocking
(07:44):
on people's doors in the middle of the day, and like,
why do you have this? Like stop? And then I
immediately goes, God, that's not who I want to be.
So I ended up walking outside and then talking and
calling out to these two gentlemen and be like, hey,
I'm really sorry, like we're going through those stuff and
I don't want to be the bee like it's okay, man.
(08:06):
I was like, we're just going through some stuff. It's okay.
And then I've regularly practice, especially with people that are
different with you from you, especially people that could trigger you,
is to compliment kind and love. There's a woman at
my gym, you know, that's my safe place, and she
(08:29):
has overcome a stroke and she wears a mask still
at the gym, and I know a lot of people
it's triggering, right, like, oh God. But about a year
ago I just went up to her and talked to her,
and she's become one of my best friends. And it
(08:50):
bothers me that I'm one of the only people that
talk to her at our little gym because others judge her.
I don't want to be that per and when you
walk in love, it's amazing what you get back. She's
been there for me, regularly texting me daily with what's
(09:12):
happening with my daughter, and when I'm not at the gym,
she worries and wonders and calls me. And I'm thankful
and I have that because I decided to walk in
love no matter what. So moving from dating from a
position of fear to entering dating as a confident woman
that's expecting love is a daily choice with everyone we
(09:34):
come into contact with, So choosing I'm going to be
kind and loving until this person shows me something else,
and if they do, I'm just going to walk away.
Instead of living in the energy of fear and then
bringing in exactly the thing that we're afraid of, because
that's all we're focusing on. Instead, go to bed every
(09:58):
evening listening to meditations. There's many on YouTube that you
can listen to that just talk about how your love
is already here. We've talked a lot about manifesting and
imagining and visualizing and practicing that great love, the kind
I call it the soul evolving love. It's like the
(10:19):
person that takes your soul and makes you even better
and more understanding and more loving. And so expect be
there for someone and expect them to be there for you.
So let's get rid of the dangers of dating from fear.
We don't want to date from fear, and let's embraced
and shift to the energy of dating from love, trusting
that the right person exists, setting boundaries on yourself, not
(10:43):
chasing anybody down, believing that you're worthy, and not settling
for chemistry, but requiring deep connection and alignment.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
WHOA, that was powerful. If this episode hit home for you,
if you've felt that shift, then do not just go
back to life as usual, girl, take action. First, make
sure you're subscribed to this podcast so you don't miss
any of the coming episodes, because let me tell you,
this is just the beginning for you. And second, if
this episode a little fire in you, girl, share it
(11:15):
with a friend. Don't keep this breakthrough to yourself, Text
it to your bestie, drop it in your mom group
chat or post it on Instagram Stories and tag me
at the real Amanda Carrol. Let's get this message to
every single mom who needs to hear it. And before
we go, I need you to know about something big
for Gallantines. Love Unlocked, my game changing dating and confidence program,
(11:39):
is fifty percent off for Valentine's Day and when you join,
I'm giving you three months free inside the Single Mom Collective.
You're getting an entire community of high value women, single
moms just like you who get it around you, plus
the step by step blueprint to finally attract the love
that you deserve. But this offer is gone in a
(12:00):
few days. It expires on Valentine's Day. This is my
effort to helping you make.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
This your last Valentine's Day single. So don't wait.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Just go to the show notes and click on the
link Valentine's Day offer for Love Unlocked right now and
grab your spot. You get to choose what happens next.
Are you staying stuck in old patterns or are you
stepping into your power? I know what I want for you.
The question is do you we also go grab a
(12:29):
Love Unlocked now Before this deal is done and I'll
see you next time inside the single month Collective
Brave Podcast Network. You step out of the shadows of
single motherhood and into your power.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
And the Single Mom Collective is more than a podcast.
This is an online community where we meet three times
a week live. Man, I'd love to have you. It's
super easy, super affordable. I put the link to join
in the show notes. A girl, it's less than a
trip to target.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Or maybe you're like Aman, I.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Really don't want to talk about all my personal stuff
in a big group.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
That's okay.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
If you would like one on one coaching for your
single mom life, co parenting, peaceful parenting, or finding love again,
how to use the dating apps. I would love to
work for you. I offer one free coaching call. You
and I can get on the phone. I'll listen to
what's going on, give you all the advice I can
in that call, and you can see if it's a
good fit for me to be your coach again. The
(00:54):
link is in the show notes.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Fere Let's get into the podcast to two energies that
shape our life. So how do we make sure that
they're shaping them positively right and not damaging our chances
and our new relationships? And as we're dating looking for someone,
so We have fear, love, right, darkness, light, scarcity or abundance,
(01:19):
and every decision, every belief, and every action is guided
by one of these forces. Fear is the voice that
keeps us small. It tells us we're not enough, that
we're never enough, that love is unsafe, and that dreams
are too risky. Fear convinces us to settle, to stay stuck,
(01:40):
to hide from what we truly want. It thrives in doubt, insecurity,
and the wounds of our past. But love, Love is expansive.
Love is the energy of trust, faith, and infinite possibility.
It's the belief that you are worth, that life is
(02:01):
unfolding in your favor, and that you are capable of
creating everything that you desire. Love is the courage to
step forward even when you're afraid. Love is choosing healing
over bitterness, hope over despair, and connection over isolation. The
(02:25):
most important question is which energy are you living from.
Are your choices driven by the fear of being alone,
the fear of failure, or the fear of rejection, or
are you moving in alignment with love, believing in your power,
(02:46):
trusting in the process and the dating journey, and embracing
this beautiful, loving light from within you. I happen to
think that the moment you choose love over fear, your
entire reality begins to shift. You stop surviving, start driving,
(03:08):
You stop waiting for permission, and you start cleaning what
is meant for you. You step out of the shadows
of sinding motherhood and into your power. So I want
to talk about how we can help each other make
this conscious choice fear or love, darkness or light, because
(03:30):
I happen to think the energy you choose really does
shape your life when you think about it. When we're
showing up in fear on a first date, what happens
when you date from fear? You're living in this energy
of lack on worthiness and self protection. Right. You fear
(03:53):
being alone, so you accept less than you deserve. You
fear rejection, so you play small. You don't show up
as your true self. You fear abandonment, so you end
up overgiving, overfunctioning, and tolerate behavior that you know is
not right. You fear getting hurt, so you build up
(04:17):
walls instead of really healthy boundaries. You fear that no
one will want you, so you settle for the first
man who shows interest, even if he's not really a
good fit and doesn't treat you very well. So when
you're dating with this energy of fear, you end up
calling in situations.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Then that reinforce your fears right, It's like you're attracting
the exact thing that you're afraid of.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
You attract emotionally unavailable men, you get breadcrumbed. You see
red flags, but explain them away and make excuses, and
your love life ends up becoming a cycle of disappointment
instead of joy and fulfillment. So we got to find
a way to shift our interview from fear of repeating
(05:07):
a toxic cycle to the energy of love. So what's
the difference when you date from love? Everything changes. Dating
from love does not mean that we are blindly optimistic
or that we are naive. It means that you're deeply
rooted in these three things self worth, abundance, and trust.
(05:31):
You trust that the right partner for you exists and
will meet you at your level. When you're dating from
the energy of love instead of fear, you set boundaries
because you love yourself, not because you're fear of rejection.
You don't chase because love isn't something that you have
(05:52):
to beg for you already give it to yourself. You
believe you're worthy, so you attract a man who beats
you accordingly, and no one else gets to apply for
the job. You don't settle for chemistry. You require deep
connection and alignment. When you date from love, you are magnetic.
(06:19):
On those first dates, and in the beginning of a relationship,
you shine. You walk into a room with confidence, knowing
that you are the prize. You don't need to prove
yourself or force anything, because love flows effortlessly to a
woman who believes she is worthy of it. So how
(06:41):
do we do that? I think the first way that
we do that is understanding fear is the thing that's
holding you back. Also, fear is a lie. Fear is
based on the past, which is no longer relevant to
your life. Now you got out of that relationship, you
(07:01):
created a new life. You're focused on your future. So
let's stop expecting this past to repeat. So daily choosing love.
And one of the things we can do that is
making a point to show everyone love that we can.
(07:23):
I admit to you, I had a moment a couple
days ago when I don't know about in your neighborhood,
but in my neighborhood. They just won't stop knocking on
our door trying to sell solar And it was a
day and we were going through some stuff. It was
not the time to knock on my door, Okay. I
was not having it, and I admit to you, I
was really rude, and I said something like stop knocking
(07:44):
on people's doors in the middle of the day, and like,
why do you have this? Like stop? And then I
immediately goes, God, that's not who I want to be.
So I ended up walking outside and then talking and
calling out to these two gentlemen and be like, hey,
I'm really sorry, like we're going through those stuff and
I don't want to be the bee like it's okay, man.
(08:06):
I was like, we're just going through some stuff. It's okay.
And then I've regularly practice, especially with people that are
different with you from you, especially people that could trigger you,
is to compliment kind and love. There's a woman at
my gym, you know, that's my safe place, and she
(08:29):
has overcome a stroke and she wears a mask still
at the gym, and I know a lot of people
it's triggering, right, like, oh God. But about a year
ago I just went up to her and talked to her,
and she's become one of my best friends. And it
(08:50):
bothers me that I'm one of the only people that
talk to her at our little gym because others judge her.
I don't want to be that per and when you
walk in love, it's amazing what you get back. She's
been there for me, regularly texting me daily with what's
(09:12):
happening with my daughter, and when I'm not at the gym,
she worries and wonders and calls me. And I'm thankful
and I have that because I decided to walk in
love no matter what. So moving from dating from a
position of fear to entering dating as a confident woman
that's expecting love is a daily choice with everyone we
(09:34):
come into contact with, So choosing I'm going to be
kind and loving until this person shows me something else,
and if they do, I'm just going to walk away.
Instead of living in the energy of fear and then
bringing in exactly the thing that we're afraid of, because
that's all we're focusing on. Instead, go to bed every
(09:58):
evening listening to meditations. There's many on YouTube that you
can listen to that just talk about how your love
is already here. We've talked a lot about manifesting and
imagining and visualizing and practicing that great love, the kind
I call it the soul evolving love. It's like the
(10:19):
person that takes your soul and makes you even better
and more understanding and more loving. And so expect be
there for someone and expect them to be there for you.
So let's get rid of the dangers of dating from fear.
We don't want to date from fear, and let's embraced
and shift to the energy of dating from love, trusting
that the right person exists, setting boundaries on yourself, not
(10:43):
chasing anybody down, believing that you're worthy, and not settling
for chemistry, but requiring deep connection and alignment.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
WHOA, that was powerful. If this episode hit home for you,
if you've felt that shift, then do not just go
back to life as usual, girl, take action. First, make
sure you're subscribed to this podcast so you don't miss
any of the coming episodes, because let me tell you,
this is just the beginning for you. And second, if
this episode a little fire in you, girl, share it
(11:15):
with a friend. Don't keep this breakthrough to yourself, Text
it to your bestie, drop it in your mom group
chat or post it on Instagram Stories and tag me
at the real Amanda Carrol. Let's get this message to
every single mom who needs to hear it. And before
we go, I need you to know about something big
for Gallantines. Love Unlocked, my game changing dating and confidence program,
(11:39):
is fifty percent off for Valentine's Day and when you join,
I'm giving you three months free inside the Single Mom Collective.
You're getting an entire community of high value women, single
moms just like you who get it around you, plus
the step by step blueprint to finally attract the love
that you deserve. But this offer is gone in a
(12:00):
few days. It expires on Valentine's Day. This is my
effort to helping you make.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
This your last Valentine's Day single. So don't wait.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Just go to the show notes and click on the
link Valentine's Day offer for Love Unlocked right now and
grab your spot. You get to choose what happens next.
Are you staying stuck in old patterns or are you
stepping into your power? I know what I want for you.
The question is do you we also go grab a
(12:29):
Love Unlocked now Before this deal is done and I'll
see you next time inside the single month Collective
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