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February 7, 2025 16 mins
Ever met someone who seemed too good to be true—sweeping you off your feet with constant affection, lavish gifts, and over-the-top gestures way too soon? That’s love bombing, and it’s one of the biggest red flags in modern dating.In this episode, I’m breaking down:

✅ What love bombing really is and why it’s so dangerous
✅ The 5 major signs you’re being love bombed (and how to spot them early!)
✅ The difference between genuine affection and manipulation
✅ Why single moms are especially vulnerable to love bombers—and how to protect yourself
✅ How to maintain your independence and avoid losing yourself in a relationship.

We’re diving deep into real-life experiences, warning signs, and exactly what to do if you realize you’ve been caught in a love bomber’s trap. This episode is your guide to dating smarter, protecting your heart, and building real, healthy love.🚨 Don’t miss this one! Hit play now and learn how to spot a love bomber before it’s too late

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave Podcast Network.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
Love is not a race, it's a journey. And on
this journey, you deserve someone who values and respects you
for who you are without needing to overwhelm you with
grand gestures or constant atene true.

Speaker 1 (00:18):
Love or is it a love bomber?

Speaker 2 (00:20):
How to spot a love bomber and not get sucked
in to their.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
I guess as my kids say, their aura.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Or the negative aura? Is that such a thing. That's
what we're going to talk about.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
And I'm so glad you're here for the rest Thursday,
because right now you're going to be fully prepared on
how to spot a love bomber and not fall for it.
Can we all give some excitement and handclaps and whatever
we can, whatever emoji we want to do to know that.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
We're never going to fall for this again after today.

Speaker 2 (00:52):
So it starts with the butterflies.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
And you know, I love butterflies, but not.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
In this one area. When it comes to dating.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
We're looking for peace. We're not looking for that.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
Anxious feeling of does he like me?

Speaker 1 (01:09):
Oh my god, does he like me? That's a bad sign.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
You know those butterflies, the ones that make you feel
like you're just floating on air when.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
You meet someone new. I mean, it's exciting. We've been there,
that exhilarating.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
Feeling, a whirlwind romance. Everything seems perfect and you're showered
with endless affection and texting and your grand gestures, and
it feels like, oh my god, it's a fairy tale.

Speaker 3 (01:33):
But what if that fairy tale is too good be true?

Speaker 1 (01:37):
Pretty much always is.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
So today we're going to dive into the world of
love bombing. What it is and how can that fall work.
I would define love bombing as kind of a seductive
yet deceptive factic that can leave you wheeling, and that's
what I don't want to happen to you. The question is,
how do you know if what you're experiencing is true

(02:02):
love or just a cleverly disguised red flag. Sometimes the
love bombers don't even realize that they're doing it. They
just know they're not healthy and so they're overcompensating by
their actions. So love bombing, we'll start with the allure
and danger of it. It feels amazing at first someone

(02:25):
is pouring all their attention into you, and as single moms,
we have been craving that, So you're more at risk,
and they're making you feel like the center of their universe.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
And oh my.

Speaker 3 (02:38):
God, finally that feels so good.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
But here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
When it's too much too soon. Soon is the word
we're going to camp on. It's time to take a
pause and take a closer look. Love bombers are experts
at making you feel really special, but their intensity often
comes with an agenda, and it's not about building a deep,

(03:02):
lasting connection.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
It's about control.

Speaker 2 (03:07):
So in this session, we're going to uncover the signs
of a love bomber so you can protect your heart
stay open to the real deal, because you deserve genuine love,
not just the cleaning fantasy. So I've got five signs
to spot a love bomber.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
I love my numbers, and I love my lists.

Speaker 2 (03:27):
Okay, so the number one sign on how to spot
a love bomber too much too soon. Love bombers often
overwhelm you with affection and attention, declarations of love.

Speaker 3 (03:42):
Very early on. One guy after one time. I had
a guy after two.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
Dates send me a poem that he addressed to his wife.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
That was freaky.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
They might even say I love you within days, or
talk about a future together before you've even had a
chance to get to know each other.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
And this intensity is meant to sweep you off.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Your feet, but it's a tactic to pull you in
quickly and most likely distract.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
You from the mess that's really going on in their
life that they don't want you to notice.

Speaker 2 (04:19):
The second way to identify a love bomber is.

Speaker 3 (04:22):
The constant contact. Guy.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
Does this person seem to need to be in touch
with you every waking moment. It's one thing to have
a good morning text, tax us a couple times during
the day at good night text, But is it overwhelming
you and blowing up your phone so much to the
point where it's distracting you from your job and your
kids and your real life.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
That's a bad sign.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
Love bombers often bombard you with texts, calls, messages, leaving
you very little space for yourself, and.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
It's on purpose.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
The constant contact is designed to keep you folks. It's
on them because they're really needy and to prevent you
from stepping back to assess this relationship when it's early
to figure out if this is.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
Really something that you want.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
It's almost like the constant contact is a purposeful.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
Distraction in a way, that they try.

Speaker 2 (05:23):
To control and keep you from having any time to
talk to anybody else, even though you're not exclusive.

Speaker 3 (05:29):
With them yet.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Anybody had the constant contact guy, the blow up your
phone guy, So be aware of that, and if you
get it, just stop answering. The good ones will understand
they've been a little bit too much, and the bad
ones will get mad at you for not responding. And
then as they say, there's your sign right, So that's

(05:53):
number two, we've got too much too soon, and constant
contact number three. Grand gestures and lavish gifts. Very early on,
it's very easy to get swept up when someone showers
you with expensive gifts, over the top romantic gestures, wants
to take you.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
On a trip to Cabo in week one. It might
seem really flattering and exciting.

Speaker 3 (06:15):
You're like, oh my god, I would really love get
away and it's easy.

Speaker 2 (06:20):
I have anyone else have gotten sucked into the grand
gestures and lavish gifts? Yeah, need too, because it seems
really great and god, you really need it and deserve it,
and yeah, it's fun. But it's really important to ask yourself,
is this a genuine expression of affection or is this
a way that they're manipulating your emotions because they often

(06:44):
do it to create a sense of obligation.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
So very early on there's a grand.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Gesture, even to the point where it's like not just
a regular first date. They take you to the most
expensive restaurant in town, and you're like, well, you haven't
even gone exclusive with this person yet. And then it's
like second date, third date, and you're like, I'm really
not feeling it. And then they're going to be like,
but I spend a lot of money on you, and
I took you to that super nice restaurant. You've got

(07:12):
to give me a chance. Do you see what they're
doing there? I'm going to repeat that the grand gestures
and lavish gifts are very often a way to manipulate
your emotions and create a sense of obligation to this person.
To the love bomber, you don't owe anyone anything anyone

(07:37):
had that happen to them. Anyone want to share, Like,
what's a lavish gift or a grand gesture?

Speaker 3 (07:45):
I had an offer of a trip to Vegas one time.

Speaker 1 (07:49):
I was like, well, we just met.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Uh uh, anyone have one of those? So Number four
how to spot and identify the signs of a love
bomber is isolation and family and friends. So a love
bomber might subtly or overtly try to isolate you from
your support system. This doesn't happen early on, but they
try like week two, week three, month one, it likely

(08:14):
could happen because again, they're overwhelming you with all this attention.
They're wanting all your time, and all of a sudden,
your friends are like, hey, where'd you go?

Speaker 3 (08:22):
We haven't seen you for a while.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
They might even suggest that your friends don't have your
best interests at heart, or that they're jealous of your
relationship with your friends, and you're like, I just want
to have a night. I just want to go with
the girls because this is a girl's night, and they're
already like, well, what do you mean you don't want
to hang out with me?

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Bad time.

Speaker 2 (08:41):
The goal is to make you dependent on them for
emotional support, create a dynamic where they hold all the power,
so they remove you from your current emotional support system.
Your girlfriends, even parents, your siblings, and they're taking all
of your time and love bombing you, and all of

(09:03):
a sudden, you haven't seen those people in a while,
Like I really miss my friends. I want to go
hang out with them, like can you like do something
on this Saturday night?

Speaker 3 (09:10):
And they're like, what do you mean, why wouldn't you
do that? All you need is me. This one's very
scary and it's happened to me.

Speaker 2 (09:19):
The isolation from friends and family, as anyone else experienced that,
trying to isolate you, Lisa, yet making you feel like
you don't need all your friends, or they didn't like
your friends and they made you feel bad about that,
Mikayla yep. So number five, the fifth and final way

(09:41):
to spot.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
A love bomber that I came up with. I'm sure
sometimes you might have some.

Speaker 2 (09:45):
More you could add is to watch for inconsistencies between
their words and actions. So a love bomber might promise
the world but absolutely fail to follow through what it counts.
They might say all right things at dinner, but if

(10:05):
their actions don't match, it's a red flag.

Speaker 1 (10:10):
Maybe some of.

Speaker 2 (10:11):
You have an example of this that you could share.
I think someone that says, wow, like, yeah, I just
want to buy this big house and we can create
this huge family and it's up on the hill and
we could have a land.

Speaker 3 (10:27):
And you're like dude, you're like.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
In a lot of debt and you can't even afford
the car payment that you're in, Like, you're not.

Speaker 3 (10:34):
Able to do that, but they present the world. Does
that make sense?

Speaker 2 (10:38):
Has anyone been in a situation where they spot those
inconsistencies where they promise more than they can deliver and
we have to be aware of that, right, it's really
scary when that happens. Okay, so we've broken down the
signs too much too soon, constant contact, grand gestures, lavish gied,

(11:00):
isolation from friends and family, inconsistency and actions. It's important
to remember that I'm not trying to beat anybody up
or be critical or too tough.

Speaker 3 (11:12):
I just want to protect your heart.

Speaker 2 (11:14):
And it doesn't mean, oh my god, I don't want
to scare you with these. You wanted me to present
these to you, so I've got to put in my
little disclaimer here. Doesn't mean we have to be closed
off to relationships. And as soon as somebody is like
texting us too much, absolutely freak.

Speaker 1 (11:29):
Out and be like, no, it's a love bomber.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Like, let's just keep our eyes open here and keep
hope alive.

Speaker 3 (11:37):
Genuine love is out there and it is waiting for you.
The key is to move slowly, stay grounded.

Speaker 2 (11:47):
Trust your instincts, pay attention to the patterns, not just
the promises. Love is not a race, it's a journey,
and on this journey, you deserve someone who vowsvalues and
respects you for who you are, without needing to overwhelm
you with grand gestures or constant attention.

Speaker 3 (12:10):
It should be enough to have a nice dinner at home.

Speaker 2 (12:13):
Here's a couple action items of some steps to take
today when we're like, Okay, I'm just I'm aware of
this love bombing situation now and I want.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
To keep dating and not freak out.

Speaker 3 (12:24):
But what do I do with these five categories?

Speaker 1 (12:28):
Number one, first step your action item.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
Take your time, don't rush into anything. Take the time
to really get to know someone before investing your whole heart.
True love unfolds over time. It is not something that
can be forced, and if it's instant and forced and overwhelming,
it's most likely not real. Number two, I need you

(12:53):
to trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably
is and you're maybe thinking, but Amanda, like, I don't
trust my gut anymore because I became a single mom
because I made a bad choice in a relationship, but
I don't trust myself.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
I get it. That's not what I'm talking about.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
I'm talking about that you now leaving the past behind
on a date or meeting someone when you just have
one of those feelings that you're like, that's kind of weird.
Listen to that. We became single parents and we got

(13:31):
through a breakup because we didn't trust our gut. If
you could look back, there were probably times that you
add that little feeling like something's weird here, and you
pressed on instead of stepped back to a value.

Speaker 1 (13:47):
Pay attention.

Speaker 2 (13:49):
Your gut feeling is a very powerful tool for detecting
with flags.

Speaker 1 (13:54):
And number three.

Speaker 2 (13:56):
So make sure you maintain your sense of self even
when you're in new relationship. So just because we met
somebody amazing and they want to do all these great
things with us, that's wonderful, But you don't have to
fill every single day with them.

Speaker 3 (14:10):
You still need your girlfriend.

Speaker 2 (14:11):
Time, right, and you still need time to hang out
with your mom and your sister.

Speaker 1 (14:16):
So it really is important, so to a balance. Yeah,
we want to date and we want.

Speaker 2 (14:20):
To you know, do this fast, and we want to
have lots of different meetups and find somebody that we
can connect with and go exclusive with, but still maintain
your friendships because that's what's going to bring you sanity and.

Speaker 3 (14:34):
That's what's gonna, you know, keep you busy.

Speaker 2 (14:36):
We don't want to be that accessible, right, we want
to be a little hard to.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
Get WHOA That was powerful.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
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Speaker 2 (15:05):
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