March 4, 2025 • 31 mins
Being a single mom can feel overwhelming—like you're stuck in survival mode, unsure of how to move forward. That’s exactly where Ilona found herself before she made a life-changing decision: to invest in herself.In this inspiring episode, Amanda sits down with Ilona, a single mom who went from feeling trapped in a cycle of exhaustion and fear to reclaiming her confidence, increasing her income, and embracing the dating world after five years. Through coaching with Amanda, mindset shifts, and the power of community, Ilona transformed her life—and she’s here to share exactly how she did it.
🎧 Listen in to hear:
✔️ How Ilona went from feeling stuck to thriving
✔️ The mindset shifts that unlocked new opportunities
✔️ Why single moms should invest in their own happiness
✔️ How dating again became an empowering journey
✔️ The ripple effect of self-growth on motherhood
If you're tired of just getting by and ready to rewrite your own success story, this episode is for you.
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🎧 Listen in to hear:
✔️ How Ilona went from feeling stuck to thriving
✔️ The mindset shifts that unlocked new opportunities
✔️ Why single moms should invest in their own happiness
✔️ How dating again became an empowering journey
✔️ The ripple effect of self-growth on motherhood
If you're tired of just getting by and ready to rewrite your own success story, this episode is for you.
Want more?
YES! I WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT "LOVE UNLOCKED"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brave podcast. Now, I would have been with these toxic
men for months, maybe even years.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
And the Single Mom Collective is more than a podcast.
This is an online community where we meet three times
a week live. Man, I'd love to have you. It's
super easy, super affordable. I put the link to join
in the show notes. Girl, it's less than a trip
to target. Or maybe you're like Aman, I really don't
want to talk about all my personal stuff.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
In a big group.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
That's okay. If you would like one on one coaching
for your single mom life, co parenting, peaceful parenting, or
finding love again, how to use the dating apps, I
would love to work for you. I offer one free
coaching call you and I can get on the phone.
I'll listen to what's going on, give you all the
advice I can in that call, and you can see
(00:49):
if it's a good fit for me to be your
coach again. The link is in the show notes. All right,
let's get into the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Single mom stories are so important because when we're open
and when we're vulnerable and we share what we've been
through and how far we've come and the secrets of
how we did it, we help another mother out and
that's what this podcast is all about. I'm bringing to
you client, a one on one coaching client that has
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gone through two of my courses. Metamorphosis is for newly
single moms to reinvent their life. And then once we're done,
we do love unlock and getting ready to date and
being open to love again. And Alona is one of
my gold star clients, and she said, sure, I'll come
and share my story. This is going to be a
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huge inspiration to you, especially if you're afraid to date,
especially if you feel really scared about things right now,
especially if you feel kind of stuck. Alona's story is
going to be the inspiration you need to be like, well,
maybe I can do it too. At least that's what
I think, Alona. I think you're incredible, by the way.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Thank you so much. You speak so kindly of me,
and I'm feeling humble.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Well, I feel confident girl, like you've done a lot
of work since we began working together. So let's start there, okay,
and then interrupt me. Is anything else you want to share?
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Before you and I started working together to coach you
through your single moment life, what was your biggest challenge then?
What was impacting your life the most before we started working.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, so before I came acraft your program, I just
was like really feeling stuck for pretty much what became years.
I thought it was just months, but it literally was years.
And so just feeling really stuck in my career. And
I hadn't even like I did open a dating app
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for like a month when I was living in Florida,
but it didn't really go anywhere. I was just feeling
stuck in all sectors of my life.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Basically, it's stuck like in your when you said stuck
in your career, why do you think you were suck?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah, it's just it was not any forward movement and
just like staying at like the same pay scale for years,
and I mean I love like the work and the company,
but like just kind of not feeling like I was
moving forward in any way. Yeah, I get it.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Well, I think single mom like, it's just hard. We
get it because it's I always said when I was
raising my kids by myself, I was like a firefighter.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I could only put out the.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Fire that was burning the most in front of me,
and I never seemed to be able to.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Get ahead exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
You got to give yourself from credit for like it's
kind of supposed to feel that way until you.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Get the help that you need. It's like survival mode,
like not thriving, but just surviving. Yeah, so can you
describe the moment that you realize, Okay, something's got a
change for the better?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Here? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
See here, I guess just kind of feeling like I
was in Groundhog Day, where I'm like waking up doing
the same old like you know, chores like getting like cooking,
like work, daycare drop off pickup, and just like in
this like hamster Wheel, and it's like super overwhelming. It
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doesn't feel like there's any movement in any direction, and
like there was a loneliness too that came with it too,
of just like I mean, my mom helps me a
lot with my son and everything, but not having just
like support and ways I've had in the path.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
And really my lonea is a full time single mom,
meaning that you're your son's father, not involved, you one
hundred percent full custody and you don't even get financial support,
do you.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
No? I decided against that. Just yes, it's a long story,
but he's not a safe person.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
The single mom collective, we're all about not necessary, not
forgetting the past, but we're about moving forward focus.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
So I liked there. We're like, Okay, that happened, and
I think that could become a.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Block in our lives so much when we're living in
the past, so we have to let it go.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
So good for you, and we worked on it together time.
That took like two years to even just heal that wound,
but like and then like to get a job and
all that, like there was movement, but then like for
a year or two now or a year or two
in the past, it was just starting to feel stuck again.
But once I healed that wound of like my son's father,
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like I was able to like close that one. But
then now I've just been kind of stuck or I
was stuck again, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And I remember, how did we find each other? How
did you find me?
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Was it Instagram? The podcast?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Like what was it that You're like, wait, I think
this person can help me.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yes, somehow I came across one of your reels on
Instagram and then I was like, oh my gosh, she's
like speaking my language, like this is exact like you
just were like hit every spot, Like do you feel
stuck in this this and this sector of your life.
And I mean, I don't remember your exact wording, but
I was like, oh my gosh, I feel like she's
speaking to my soul. And then I followed you, and
(06:11):
then I was like I would like like your post
every once in a while, but I was following you
for like a good year, maybe six months to a year,
and I know you messaged me a couple times. You're like,
cause I took a couple of your surveys that you
had put up on Instagram. But I was like, I
don't have money to do this right now, Like I
don't have money for coaching, even though I literally had
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savings like that a lot of single moms don't have,
or like anyone in general doesn't have savings, and so
I kept pushing it away, like no, I can't do
that right now. I don't have the money. But it
was more so fear, I think, because coaching is amazing,
it's super helpful. What were you afraid of? I was
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afraid that, like I should have been. I was like,
I shouldn't use that money, like for for my own selfish,
like oh, wanting to date again. That's so selfish, like
I need to use that money for like taking my
son on an awesome vacation.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Or like.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Whatever else, like things that I'm needing to get at
my house or whatever it is. And so it was
fear of using that like money for coaching, and then
like just what would happen with the coaching is I
knew it was going to push me out of my
comfort zone and I wasn't ready for that.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
R I hear you sometimes we're like, but when we
think about it, actually the most uncomfortable place to be
is usually the current place we're in, and if we
don't do anything about it, it's actually more uncomfortable to
stay stuck then to decide to invest in yourself and
do something about it, Like the end result of you
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being in the exact same position. If you're thinking, I'm
kind of like that, I'm kind of like, is it's
worse six months from now to be in the exact
same spot. You could invest in yourself and be in
a completely new spot in six months or lass, And
I think the transformation happens really fast. And also I
want to speak into something that alone has said, because
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I hear that all the time, and I think it's
not even single mom's falt.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
It's not even your fault.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Like we're we're conditioned by our culture and our society
that like there is some kind of shame about becoming
a single mom, and because of that, we punish ourselves,
thinking that we can't do anything nice for ourselves and
we have to give it all to our kids, Like well,
I shouldn't buy nice clothes, I shouldn't wear a nice makeup.
I just have to completely sacrifice because I became a
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single mom. We're punishing ourselves, and it's also a false reward,
Like our kids don't really want us to sacrifice for them.
They want us to live our own lives so they
can live theirs, especially as they grow older. And the
fact that it's best for your children if you invest
(08:54):
in yourself, don't you agree.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Absolutely reminds me of that saying that I recently saw
that's like the number one indicator of like your child
having like growing up and having like a happy, successful
life is how happy his or her mother was. Like
I kept seeing that, you know, on like reels and stuff.
It's like it really does affect them, like if you're
(09:18):
down and out and like in this like stuck feeling
and negativity and which I definitely it's a daily practice
of trying to get out of that, which I'm still
working on. Like it never just goes away. It takes
a lot of energy to get out of that stuck
and negative like negativity and just to like power through
like one day at a time. So that because as
(09:40):
my kid's getting older too, he's four now, Like he
definitely picks up on my moods. Where in the past,
I mean, I'm sure when he was a baby subconsciously
like he was picking up on it, but like now
I see it like in reflection or he'll say it
like be happy mom. So it's like, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
If you want your kids to be happy, you have
to be happy first, and you have to do everything.
What I say is you're the magic pill. Like if
you knew if your kids needed a special medication and
that medicaid they were sick and they needed help, you
would do everything you could to get that medication right,
even if it was expensive. And if you knew that
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also that your happiness level is the number one indicator
of your child's success, especially if you're a single mom,
then hello, you're the magic pill. Yeah, it's you, and
so then you're like, Okay, what was it that you
finally said, Okay, I'm going to invest in myself because
I have a feeling like it probably wasn't as expensive
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as he thought.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
No, it wasn't at all. Like I think what helped
is when you weren't pushy about it, like because I've
had poeches in the past, but are like pushy it.
And I just kept watching your reels and they're really inspiring.
And then you had messages like one more time and
You're like, I have this introductory call, like no strings attacked,
just you and me talking about your situation. We can
(11:03):
figure out like if I can work with you. So
it was like what do I have to lose to
do this call? I can. I'm not like saying I
have to put down any money. I'm just like literally
talking to her and just seeing And I was at
this point where I'm just like, yeah, like what do
I have to lose? Like it's not going to hurt
anything to like have this call. And then like when
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you laid out like all of like what you help
with and what your program is, it was like a
light bulb moment. It was like that is something I
definitely need right now because I am doing therapy, a
meditation and journaling, like I'm doing all the things, but
there's no accountability. I think it was. The other thing
is you were great during the program to have that
(11:47):
accountability and also to have the community and the group
and the group messaging and being able to check in
with other single moms and they're going through similar situations
because oftentimes you feel so like we're I'm living. It
feels like everyone and their mother no pun intended, is married, yes, right,
Like it just feels so a long so like it
(12:07):
was just yeah, it was like a light bulb moment, like, yes,
this is something I need.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
But what when you're like all the things that the
program did, I'm curious. Maybe it's a selfish question, but
I think it can help others. What were the things
that you said, Oh, yes, I need that.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, definitely the accountability factor like helped a lot. And
then what I mean, there was so many things it's
like hard to pinpoint, Like I mean like yeah that
I've gotten through it, Like yeah, just the encouragement and
like pushing me out of my comfort zone because otherwise
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I would just keep doing the same old thing or
being scared to even try anything new, Like like it's
been amazing to have I've had like a few interviews
that it has given have given me such good practice,
and I even had a job offer, what it wasn't
lined up correctly with like what was what I was
(13:09):
needing in it? But like, yeah, there was just so
many things that pushed me out of my comfort zone.
And I grew like so much during the program and
it's now like kind of set within me where it's
like now it's like a daily practice. And like also,
I like things you've said to me in our private
coaching sessions like come back to me. So I feel
like you're my You were like a guide then, but
(13:31):
like you're still with me. It's like a beautiful thing
because like like just kind of like a lion. No,
like like you got this and you know you're doing
amazing things for your mom and your son and like
just the encouragement and stuff. And yeah, so I'm going off.
I got hopefully that all made sense. I love it. Yeah,
(13:52):
well let's go back to the specific things. What would
you say?
Speaker 3 (13:56):
I have some ideas I might brag on you because
I have a feel you might undersell yourself, but I
want to hear from you first.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Definitely, I hate talking about myself.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I could brag on it for you, but I'm curious
what you would say. What specific results do you feel
like you achieved going through metamorphosis method Lavaunlock doing one
one coaching with me and then being involved in our group,
our online community, the single mom collective. What have you
achieved since we started working together and can we quantify
(14:27):
these results?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah? So I literally did reach. I didn't reach the
exact number of what I was wanting to increase my
monthly income, but however I did each month in the
program without even like it was more of a mindset thing.
It's kind of crazy, like I didn't get a higher
pain job, I didn't get a side gig, but money
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was coming to me. It was like through like random
things through like my work was like, oh, we overpaid
something on the four oh one K, so here's seven
hundred dollars. And like, I guess I did do one
side gig thing with like dog sitting, but like I
did actually quantify like I can quantify it. I did
have an increase in my bank account each month that
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I was in the program. And it actually continues to
happen now now that I'm getting tax returned backs, you know,
like even that is increasing, just the encouragement from you
too to like go get your eyebrows done, go get
your hair done, like because I was just hoarding this
money and savings, and it's like no, like I actually
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can utilize some of this for like self care, which
is really important. Like it's I'm doing all like I
always get, like, you know, all new clothes and haircuts
for my son, and I'd put, you know, all my
stuff on the back burner, and you encourage me, like Alona,
you have like your setup to be able to like
do the self care and so yeah, quantitize and then
(15:53):
I take care dated Yeah, and like I hadn't dated
in fat like five years, like not I should have
taken that to the grave, but it had been five
years since I had been on a phone.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
So we increase your income and you started self care,
taking better care of yourself, yet doing what you needed
to do with you know, I guess you said your
brows and clothes. I remember us picking out outfits together
and sitting out up as visual aazing and these just
so you can feel better about you feel more confident
about yourself time in like a long time months, you
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wore dress for the yeah, like on a date, like
I'm such a tomboy, but yeah, that was quantifiable. And
you also decided to start instead of feeling stuck.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Because often what we do is when we.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
Feel, you know, pinched financially, often what we do is
is we go, we start holding back and we start cutting.
And I said, well, why don't we just look to
earn more money, and which wasn't a thought that you
had before. So and then you decided, Okay, I'm going
to go to look for a better paying job, and
that's what you and you got job offers. And what
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I love about it is I would love to say
on this podcast that you got a job that doubled
your income, but I also think it's that hasn't happened yet,
but I know it's coming.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
But what's amazing is you discovered your worst and you
put yourself out in the job market that you hadn't
done before. Felt better about.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
Yourself with the way that you were taking care of
yourself and dressing with all the job interviews, and then
when they didn't offer you as much money as you wanted,
you had as much self worth as you needed to
be able to say, actually, no, I'm going to keep
going and hold out to a better paying job.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
That was really powerful, Yes, and that helped that you
introduced me to all these amazing books such as you
are a badass at making money and still reading this
book and the other one by Tori I'm forgetting her name,
the financial feminist Tory Emma, the financial fomness. And that
helped me to know how to navigate, which always gave
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me so much anxiety in the past. How to navigate
like salary negotiations, negotiating the salary and.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
You realized that this company wasn't going to give you
what you were worth. And because of the confidence that
I saw you achieve in the program, you were like, well,
why would I go do that?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
That would make sense.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
I'm going to hold out for a better job because
now I know my worse before you might have accepted
that position.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Yes, and mirroring that, like sorry to jump the gun
on this, but same with the men I was dating,
Like in the past, I would have let these like
it's a long story what happened, But I would have
been with these toxic men for months, maybe even years.
Definitely I've had in the past years, so like it
mirrored the dating aspects too, like of putting a stop
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to it two months and like, you know this is
not correct.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We elevated your picker to choose a high value partner.
That's what I would say would be the transition. Instead
of just allowing whoever said yes into our life, We're
going to be more choosy because again, when your confidence grows,
which is I think the biggest thing that I've seen
in you in the past six months, thank.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
You, is that this huge. It's like almost like unlocked.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
I loan a two point zero right this and seeing
that unlocked and going, actually, I don't have to put
up with somebody that's bread frumbing me, somebody that's not
willing to commit solely to me, somebody that's just not
reliable and not even good at communication. Before so many
single moms again, let's go back to that shame that
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they think they have. They feel like they have to
accept less than they really want because they are a
single mom. Instead of saying no, I'm going to be
even pick here because I'm a single mom, I deserve
even more.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
And I saw you make that shift. Yeah, thank you.
I guess it's hard to see it when it's like happening,
but since I was meeting with you weekly, it was
really cool. Or yeah it was it weakly yea. Yeah, weekly,
So you're able to see you.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Increase your income, opened up your worth, got the confidence
to start looking for higher paying jobs, overtain fear of dating,
and learn more about what you want as a high
value partner that you can continue to implement. How did
all of these changes in your life make you feel?
What did it mean for you and how it affect
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your souff?
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Yeah, I think definitely like the confidence factor and just
like knowing my worth and just I don't know, I
I definitely see there has been like a difference where
like that there's not as much of that negative energy
that I had before and that stuckness, and I I
know it's like rubbed off on him, like cause he'll
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always be like you look so pretty, mom, or you
have such a good singing voice, which I don't, by
the way, but like just little Hello boys just picked
up on it. I feel like he's so and Tina,
he's happier. Absolutely, it was definitely a really good investment good.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
It meant a lot to your son. The changes made
you feel better. So and this is I'm just curious
if you were, which I know you would, if you
would recommend joining a single mom collective and doing one
of our forces like metamorphosis or love Unlocked, how would
you recommend that to a close friend or a family member.
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What would you say to them?
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I actually have recommended it to one of my friends, Elizabeth.
I sent her like the link or a couple people
actually another acquaintance too, because they're also both single moms.
And I'm like, I just highly recommend, like you can
find community here, you can find like exactly like the
path that you're trying to go down, like to get
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the encouragement you need, and like just the cheerleader that
you need in the background, because it really does make
a difference. Like therapy is great too, but like there's
like a different element to this where it's like, well,
therapy you're like kind of going more in the path,
you know, and discussing like pastings, and this is more
about like forward movement positivity. And yeah, I just highly
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recommend it because it's just super beneficial things.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Well, I yeah, I would never say don't do therapy,
or this is better than therapy.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
I just got to make sure that I say that, Like,
I think it's both.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
You're right, therapy is great and overcoming the past, and
I think a coach is really great at moving them
forward towards your future. So both are incredible, especially if
you do them together or you finish therapy and then
you start coaching, and you're like, and because we have
to look at our life at a constant growth mindset.
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If we don't, we're going to stay stuck ords like,
but it's true.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Yeah, that's true, which is kind of like always a
fear of mind hovering over me. But seriously, like your
programs really helped me to hone in on that positivity
and like that different mindset of just like everything's always
working out in your favor type of mindset.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Was there any breakthrough moments that you can think about,
like a moment during a coaching session that really stood
out to you that you were like, yeah, see here,
or something you learned in the program.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, probably the mindset thing of like even though things
like with certain jobs that I was trying to apply for,
like weren't lining up correctly or like you know, I
was I was running into like all these like roadblocks sometimes,
but it was like the mindset shift is what really
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really like I noticed a huge difference, Like going the
program is just the mindset shift of like, you know,
I got that random paycheck, like when I was like
trying to increase my income and because I kept believing
like I'm going to get like more this month, I'm
going to get more this month. And not to like
(24:16):
not to sound like super woo woo, because you do
have to put in the work too, but just the
mindset shift, because like I was really like feeling stuck
and negative before joining in the program.
Speaker 3 (24:28):
Like we do a lot of we do like a
morning system. I call it owning the first hour of
your day where you know, we set up all your
alarms a little bit earlier. It's not the easiest thing
in the world at first, but most of my clients
that say, Okay, now I can't live without this.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
So you start implementing it slowly and you're really manifesting.
We're working on meditation and manifestation and positive affirmations and
grab it often so like oh that grateful for what
you have now to yeah, tell me more well, that's right.
Every day we start with I still definitely implement that.
(25:04):
Like if I can't get to like the Kaisen or
like those steps that I'm doing for the day, I'm
like I at least definitely making time for the gratitude
lists because that is that's what helps shift the mind truly,
Like I mean, it's been proven, like they've done little
like literal studies and stuff like how gratitude lists like
(25:25):
a lot of like psychiatrists and therapists recommend it, like
at night time if you're struggling to go to sleep,
like doing gratitude list. It's like it's so beneficial.
Speaker 3 (25:34):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I'm so happy.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Yeah, we do ten things you're grateful for every single
morning in a single mom collective, and it's like ten things,
but really it's fun because when you focus on all
that you don't have as a single mom, you're never
gonna feel like you have enough. There's a lot of
things every human being, no matter what your relationship status is.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
You can say that you don't have.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
But instead, if the first thing you do in your
brain before you check your phone or your turn on
the tea, if you write down ten things you're grateful
for you all of a sudden focus on all the
things that you do have. And then if you know
that you're gonna do that every morning, I feel like
then throughout your day you look for the stuff that
you can write down the next day, So instead of
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focusing on on how bad.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
You're actually looking for the good. Yeah, you can do
that right.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
Now, like whether you decide to join the single Mom
collective or do one of the courses, like just start
writing ten things you're grateful for.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Like it's so silly, but it really will like make
a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
And then you did your pathways. That's the next thing
is like, Okay, what are some pathways?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
How are we going to move forward? Yes, and like
having like set goals each day, like applying for at
least five positions per day and yeah, just breaking things
into instead of like before I had joined the program,
it was like way overwhelming, like oh my gosh, like
I have never even dated someone in five years. I've
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never I haven't even job hunted in Yere. It just
feels but like breaking things into steps, yeah, is the
is the trick.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
How do you think your life has changed since working
with me and joining the collective?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
I feel that like my mindset has really shifted, Like
even if I haven't reached all these specific goals I had,
which I have reached some of them, but just the
mindset thing, because it was definitely I was feeling more stuck.
And I know I've said this a few times probably,
but just like more in a negative mode. So that's
been the huge, the biggest shift, I think.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
So, Glad, is there anything else that you wanted to
share about your experience that I didn't ask too about?
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Just that I love that you're doing what you're doing
and following your dream of like helping others because you
were in this, like you're not it's not like you're
just someone that's never experienced this and you're like I'm
like like I don't know, I'm only and showing everyone
that even though I haven't been in that situation like
you've been in in it and so like like having
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that experience, it's just like so much wisdom and knowledge
that you provide in the program, and I'm just so
thankful that you're following your dream and doing this because
it's helping so many.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Well, now you're in that position, Like now what I
think is, you know metamorphosis is kind of an analogy
of how a caterpillar goes through a metamorphosis and turns
into a butterfly. And when you graduate, you get your
wings from metamorphosis.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
And then what do we do.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Butterflies become pollinators and they go and they make the
world more beautiful and spread more flowers. So now you've
been through the process and now you can take on
It's like you're just an extension of the program, like
you've already recommended it to other friends.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
You're like, no, let me help you.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
I've been there, and there's another new single mom that's
probably going to come across your way.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Definitely, you can take up your wings. Yeah, stuff, I
love to inspire. Good. Thanks for your time and thanks,
thank you for doing and this was really fun. Thanks
for yet again getting me out of my comfort zone, coach.
When you ask me, I'm like, I don't do a podcast,
but that's what you're great, pushing us out of our
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comfort zone. And it's not scary, right, No, it's just
like talking to you like we're in our one on
one Yeah, you're mate.
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Thanks for you giving me an opportunity to go along
with you on your single mom journey to reinvent your
life and your journey to find love again. It's an
absolute honor.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
If this episode hit home for you, if you felt
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Speaker 3 (30:01):
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Speaker 1 (30:03):
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Speaker 2 (30:05):
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Speaker 3 (31:01):
You get to choose what happens next.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
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Brave podcast. Now, I would have been with these toxic
men for months, maybe even years.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
And the Single Mom Collective is more than a podcast.
This is an online community where we meet three times
a week live. Man, I'd love to have you. It's
super easy, super affordable. I put the link to join
in the show notes. Girl, it's less than a trip
to target. Or maybe you're like Aman, I really don't
want to talk about all my personal stuff.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
In a big group.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
That's okay. If you would like one on one coaching
for your single mom life, co parenting, peaceful parenting, or
finding love again, how to use the dating apps, I
would love to work for you. I offer one free
coaching call you and I can get on the phone.
I'll listen to what's going on, give you all the
advice I can in that call, and you can see
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if it's a good fit for me to be your
coach again. The link is in the show notes. All right,
let's get into the podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Single mom stories are so important because when we're open
and when we're vulnerable and we share what we've been
through and how far we've come and the secrets of
how we did it, we help another mother out and
that's what this podcast is all about. I'm bringing to
you client, a one on one coaching client that has
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gone through two of my courses. Metamorphosis is for newly
single moms to reinvent their life. And then once we're done,
we do love unlock and getting ready to date and
being open to love again. And Alona is one of
my gold star clients, and she said, sure, I'll come
and share my story. This is going to be a
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huge inspiration to you, especially if you're afraid to date,
especially if you feel really scared about things right now,
especially if you feel kind of stuck. Alona's story is
going to be the inspiration you need to be like, well,
maybe I can do it too. At least that's what
I think, Alona. I think you're incredible, by the way.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Thank you so much. You speak so kindly of me,
and I'm feeling humble.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Well, I feel confident girl, like you've done a lot
of work since we began working together. So let's start there, okay,
and then interrupt me. Is anything else you want to share?
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Before you and I started working together to coach you
through your single moment life, what was your biggest challenge then?
What was impacting your life the most before we started working.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Yeah, so before I came acraft your program, I just
was like really feeling stuck for pretty much what became years.
I thought it was just months, but it literally was years.
And so just feeling really stuck in my career. And
I hadn't even like I did open a dating app
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for like a month when I was living in Florida,
but it didn't really go anywhere. I was just feeling
stuck in all sectors of my life.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Basically, it's stuck like in your when you said stuck
in your career, why do you think you were suck?
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah, it's just it was not any forward movement and
just like staying at like the same pay scale for years,
and I mean I love like the work and the company,
but like just kind of not feeling like I was
moving forward in any way. Yeah, I get it.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Well, I think single mom like, it's just hard. We
get it because it's I always said when I was
raising my kids by myself, I was like a firefighter.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I could only put out the.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Fire that was burning the most in front of me,
and I never seemed to be able to.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Get ahead exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
You got to give yourself from credit for like it's
kind of supposed to feel that way until you.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Get the help that you need. It's like survival mode,
like not thriving, but just surviving. Yeah, so can you
describe the moment that you realize, Okay, something's got a
change for the better?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Here? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
See here, I guess just kind of feeling like I
was in Groundhog Day, where I'm like waking up doing
the same old like you know, chores like getting like cooking,
like work, daycare drop off pickup, and just like in
this like hamster Wheel, and it's like super overwhelming. It
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doesn't feel like there's any movement in any direction, and
like there was a loneliness too that came with it too,
of just like I mean, my mom helps me a
lot with my son and everything, but not having just
like support and ways I've had in the path.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
And really my lonea is a full time single mom,
meaning that you're your son's father, not involved, you one
hundred percent full custody and you don't even get financial support,
do you.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
No? I decided against that. Just yes, it's a long story,
but he's not a safe person.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
The single mom collective, we're all about not necessary, not
forgetting the past, but we're about moving forward focus.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
So I liked there. We're like, Okay, that happened, and
I think that could become a.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Block in our lives so much when we're living in
the past, so we have to let it go.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
So good for you, and we worked on it together time.
That took like two years to even just heal that wound,
but like and then like to get a job and
all that, like there was movement, but then like for
a year or two now or a year or two
in the past, it was just starting to feel stuck again.
But once I healed that wound of like my son's father,
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like I was able to like close that one. But
then now I've just been kind of stuck or I
was stuck again, if that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And I remember, how did we find each other? How
did you find me?
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Was it Instagram? The podcast?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Like what was it that You're like, wait, I think
this person can help me.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yes, somehow I came across one of your reels on
Instagram and then I was like, oh my gosh, she's
like speaking my language, like this is exact like you
just were like hit every spot, Like do you feel
stuck in this this and this sector of your life.
And I mean, I don't remember your exact wording, but
I was like, oh my gosh, I feel like she's
speaking to my soul. And then I followed you, and
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then I was like I would like like your post
every once in a while, but I was following you
for like a good year, maybe six months to a year,
and I know you messaged me a couple times. You're like,
cause I took a couple of your surveys that you
had put up on Instagram. But I was like, I
don't have money to do this right now, Like I
don't have money for coaching, even though I literally had
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savings like that a lot of single moms don't have,
or like anyone in general doesn't have savings, and so
I kept pushing it away, like no, I can't do
that right now. I don't have the money. But it
was more so fear, I think, because coaching is amazing,
it's super helpful. What were you afraid of? I was
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afraid that, like I should have been. I was like,
I shouldn't use that money, like for for my own selfish,
like oh, wanting to date again. That's so selfish, like
I need to use that money for like taking my
son on an awesome vacation.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Or like.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Whatever else, like things that I'm needing to get at
my house or whatever it is. And so it was
fear of using that like money for coaching, and then
like just what would happen with the coaching is I
knew it was going to push me out of my
comfort zone and I wasn't ready for that.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
R I hear you sometimes we're like, but when we
think about it, actually the most uncomfortable place to be
is usually the current place we're in, and if we
don't do anything about it, it's actually more uncomfortable to
stay stuck then to decide to invest in yourself and
do something about it, Like the end result of you
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being in the exact same position. If you're thinking, I'm
kind of like that, I'm kind of like, is it's
worse six months from now to be in the exact
same spot. You could invest in yourself and be in
a completely new spot in six months or lass, And
I think the transformation happens really fast. And also I
want to speak into something that alone has said, because
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I hear that all the time, and I think it's
not even single mom's falt.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
It's not even your fault.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Like we're we're conditioned by our culture and our society
that like there is some kind of shame about becoming
a single mom, and because of that, we punish ourselves,
thinking that we can't do anything nice for ourselves and
we have to give it all to our kids, Like well,
I shouldn't buy nice clothes, I shouldn't wear a nice makeup.
I just have to completely sacrifice because I became a
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single mom. We're punishing ourselves, and it's also a false reward,
Like our kids don't really want us to sacrifice for them.
They want us to live our own lives so they
can live theirs, especially as they grow older. And the
fact that it's best for your children if you invest
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in yourself, don't you agree.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Absolutely reminds me of that saying that I recently saw
that's like the number one indicator of like your child
having like growing up and having like a happy, successful
life is how happy his or her mother was. Like
I kept seeing that, you know, on like reels and stuff.
It's like it really does affect them, like if you're
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down and out and like in this like stuck feeling
and negativity and which I definitely it's a daily practice
of trying to get out of that, which I'm still
working on. Like it never just goes away. It takes
a lot of energy to get out of that stuck
and negative like negativity and just to like power through
like one day at a time. So that because as
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my kid's getting older too, he's four now, Like he
definitely picks up on my moods. Where in the past,
I mean, I'm sure when he was a baby subconsciously
like he was picking up on it, but like now
I see it like in reflection or he'll say it
like be happy mom. So it's like, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
If you want your kids to be happy, you have
to be happy first, and you have to do everything.
What I say is you're the magic pill. Like if
you knew if your kids needed a special medication and
that medicaid they were sick and they needed help, you
would do everything you could to get that medication right,
even if it was expensive. And if you knew that
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also that your happiness level is the number one indicator
of your child's success, especially if you're a single mom,
then hello, you're the magic pill. Yeah, it's you, and
so then you're like, Okay, what was it that you
finally said, Okay, I'm going to invest in myself because
I have a feeling like it probably wasn't as expensive
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as he thought.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
No, it wasn't at all. Like I think what helped
is when you weren't pushy about it, like because I've
had poeches in the past, but are like pushy it.
And I just kept watching your reels and they're really inspiring.
And then you had messages like one more time and
You're like, I have this introductory call, like no strings attacked,
just you and me talking about your situation. We can
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figure out like if I can work with you. So
it was like what do I have to lose to
do this call? I can. I'm not like saying I
have to put down any money. I'm just like literally
talking to her and just seeing And I was at
this point where I'm just like, yeah, like what do
I have to lose? Like it's not going to hurt
anything to like have this call. And then like when
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you laid out like all of like what you help
with and what your program is, it was like a
light bulb moment. It was like that is something I
definitely need right now because I am doing therapy, a
meditation and journaling, like I'm doing all the things, but
there's no accountability. I think it was. The other thing
is you were great during the program to have that
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accountability and also to have the community and the group
and the group messaging and being able to check in
with other single moms and they're going through similar situations
because oftentimes you feel so like we're I'm living. It
feels like everyone and their mother no pun intended, is married, yes, right,
Like it just feels so a long so like it
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was just yeah, it was like a light bulb moment, like, yes,
this is something I need.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
But what when you're like all the things that the
program did, I'm curious. Maybe it's a selfish question, but
I think it can help others. What were the things
that you said, Oh, yes, I need that.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, definitely the accountability factor like helped a lot. And
then what I mean, there was so many things it's
like hard to pinpoint, Like I mean like yeah that
I've gotten through it, Like yeah, just the encouragement and
like pushing me out of my comfort zone because otherwise
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I would just keep doing the same old thing or
being scared to even try anything new, Like like it's
been amazing to have I've had like a few interviews
that it has given have given me such good practice,
and I even had a job offer, what it wasn't
lined up correctly with like what was what I was
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needing in it? But like, yeah, there was just so
many things that pushed me out of my comfort zone.
And I grew like so much during the program and
it's now like kind of set within me where it's
like now it's like a daily practice. And like also,
I like things you've said to me in our private
coaching sessions like come back to me. So I feel
like you're my You were like a guide then, but
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like you're still with me. It's like a beautiful thing
because like like just kind of like a lion. No,
like like you got this and you know you're doing
amazing things for your mom and your son and like
just the encouragement and stuff. And yeah, so I'm going off.
I got hopefully that all made sense. I love it. Yeah,
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well let's go back to the specific things. What would
you say?
Speaker 3 (13:56):
I have some ideas I might brag on you because
I have a feel you might undersell yourself, but I
want to hear from you first.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Definitely, I hate talking about myself.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I could brag on it for you, but I'm curious
what you would say. What specific results do you feel
like you achieved going through metamorphosis method Lavaunlock doing one
one coaching with me and then being involved in our group,
our online community, the single mom collective. What have you
achieved since we started working together and can we quantify
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these results?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah? So I literally did reach. I didn't reach the
exact number of what I was wanting to increase my
monthly income, but however I did each month in the
program without even like it was more of a mindset thing.
It's kind of crazy, like I didn't get a higher
pain job, I didn't get a side gig, but money
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was coming to me. It was like through like random
things through like my work was like, oh, we overpaid
something on the four oh one K, so here's seven
hundred dollars. And like, I guess I did do one
side gig thing with like dog sitting, but like I
did actually quantify like I can quantify it. I did
have an increase in my bank account each month that
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I was in the program. And it actually continues to
happen now now that I'm getting tax returned backs, you know,
like even that is increasing, just the encouragement from you
too to like go get your eyebrows done, go get
your hair done, like because I was just hoarding this
money and savings, and it's like no, like I actually
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can utilize some of this for like self care, which
is really important. Like it's I'm doing all like I
always get, like, you know, all new clothes and haircuts
for my son, and I'd put, you know, all my
stuff on the back burner, and you encourage me, like Alona,
you have like your setup to be able to like
do the self care and so yeah, quantitize and then
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I take care dated Yeah, and like I hadn't dated
in fat like five years, like not I should have
taken that to the grave, but it had been five
years since I had been on a phone.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
So we increase your income and you started self care,
taking better care of yourself, yet doing what you needed
to do with you know, I guess you said your
brows and clothes. I remember us picking out outfits together
and sitting out up as visual aazing and these just
so you can feel better about you feel more confident
about yourself time in like a long time months, you
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wore dress for the yeah, like on a date, like
I'm such a tomboy, but yeah, that was quantifiable. And
you also decided to start instead of feeling stuck.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Because often what we do is when we.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
Feel, you know, pinched financially, often what we do is
is we go, we start holding back and we start cutting.
And I said, well, why don't we just look to
earn more money, and which wasn't a thought that you
had before. So and then you decided, Okay, I'm going
to go to look for a better paying job, and
that's what you and you got job offers. And what
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I love about it is I would love to say
on this podcast that you got a job that doubled
your income, but I also think it's that hasn't happened yet,
but I know it's coming.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
But what's amazing is you discovered your worst and you
put yourself out in the job market that you hadn't
done before. Felt better about.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
Yourself with the way that you were taking care of
yourself and dressing with all the job interviews, and then
when they didn't offer you as much money as you wanted,
you had as much self worth as you needed to
be able to say, actually, no, I'm going to keep
going and hold out to a better paying job.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
That was really powerful, Yes, and that helped that you
introduced me to all these amazing books such as you
are a badass at making money and still reading this
book and the other one by Tori I'm forgetting her name,
the financial feminist Tory Emma, the financial fomness. And that
helped me to know how to navigate, which always gave
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me so much anxiety in the past. How to navigate
like salary negotiations, negotiating the salary and.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
You realized that this company wasn't going to give you
what you were worth. And because of the confidence that
I saw you achieve in the program, you were like, well,
why would I go do that?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
That would make sense.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
I'm going to hold out for a better job because
now I know my worse before you might have accepted
that position.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Yes, and mirroring that, like sorry to jump the gun
on this, but same with the men I was dating,
Like in the past, I would have let these like
it's a long story what happened, But I would have
been with these toxic men for months, maybe even years.
Definitely I've had in the past years, so like it
mirrored the dating aspects too, like of putting a stop
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to it two months and like, you know this is
not correct.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
We elevated your picker to choose a high value partner.
That's what I would say would be the transition. Instead
of just allowing whoever said yes into our life, We're
going to be more choosy because again, when your confidence grows,
which is I think the biggest thing that I've seen
in you in the past six months, thank.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
You, is that this huge. It's like almost like unlocked.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
I loan a two point zero right this and seeing
that unlocked and going, actually, I don't have to put
up with somebody that's bread frumbing me, somebody that's not
willing to commit solely to me, somebody that's just not
reliable and not even good at communication. Before so many
single moms again, let's go back to that shame that
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they think they have. They feel like they have to
accept less than they really want because they are a
single mom. Instead of saying no, I'm going to be
even pick here because I'm a single mom, I deserve
even more.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
And I saw you make that shift. Yeah, thank you.
I guess it's hard to see it when it's like happening,
but since I was meeting with you weekly, it was
really cool. Or yeah it was it weakly yea. Yeah, weekly,
So you're able to see you.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Increase your income, opened up your worth, got the confidence
to start looking for higher paying jobs, overtain fear of dating,
and learn more about what you want as a high
value partner that you can continue to implement. How did
all of these changes in your life make you feel?
What did it mean for you and how it affect
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your souff?
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Yeah, I think definitely like the confidence factor and just
like knowing my worth and just I don't know, I
I definitely see there has been like a difference where
like that there's not as much of that negative energy
that I had before and that stuckness, and I I
know it's like rubbed off on him, like cause he'll
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always be like you look so pretty, mom, or you
have such a good singing voice, which I don't, by
the way, but like just little Hello boys just picked
up on it. I feel like he's so and Tina,
he's happier. Absolutely, it was definitely a really good investment good.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
It meant a lot to your son. The changes made
you feel better. So and this is I'm just curious
if you were, which I know you would, if you
would recommend joining a single mom collective and doing one
of our forces like metamorphosis or love Unlocked, how would
you recommend that to a close friend or a family member.
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What would you say to them?
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I actually have recommended it to one of my friends, Elizabeth.
I sent her like the link or a couple people
actually another acquaintance too, because they're also both single moms.
And I'm like, I just highly recommend, like you can
find community here, you can find like exactly like the
path that you're trying to go down, like to get
(22:00):
the encouragement you need, and like just the cheerleader that
you need in the background, because it really does make
a difference. Like therapy is great too, but like there's
like a different element to this where it's like, well,
therapy you're like kind of going more in the path,
you know, and discussing like pastings, and this is more
about like forward movement positivity. And yeah, I just highly
(22:22):
recommend it because it's just super beneficial things.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Well, I yeah, I would never say don't do therapy,
or this is better than therapy.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
I just got to make sure that I say that, Like,
I think it's both.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
You're right, therapy is great and overcoming the past, and
I think a coach is really great at moving them
forward towards your future. So both are incredible, especially if
you do them together or you finish therapy and then
you start coaching, and you're like, and because we have
to look at our life at a constant growth mindset.
(22:54):
If we don't, we're going to stay stuck ords like,
but it's true.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Yeah, that's true, which is kind of like always a
fear of mind hovering over me. But seriously, like your
programs really helped me to hone in on that positivity
and like that different mindset of just like everything's always
working out in your favor type of mindset.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Was there any breakthrough moments that you can think about,
like a moment during a coaching session that really stood
out to you that you were like, yeah, see here,
or something you learned in the program.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, probably the mindset thing of like even though things
like with certain jobs that I was trying to apply for,
like weren't lining up correctly or like you know, I
was I was running into like all these like roadblocks sometimes,
but it was like the mindset shift is what really
(23:56):
really like I noticed a huge difference, Like going the
program is just the mindset shift of like, you know,
I got that random paycheck, like when I was like
trying to increase my income and because I kept believing
like I'm going to get like more this month, I'm
going to get more this month. And not to like
(24:16):
not to sound like super woo woo, because you do
have to put in the work too, but just the
mindset shift, because like I was really like feeling stuck
and negative before joining in the program.
Speaker 3 (24:28):
Like we do a lot of we do like a
morning system. I call it owning the first hour of
your day where you know, we set up all your
alarms a little bit earlier. It's not the easiest thing
in the world at first, but most of my clients
that say, Okay, now I can't live without this.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
So you start implementing it slowly and you're really manifesting.
We're working on meditation and manifestation and positive affirmations and
grab it often so like oh that grateful for what
you have now to yeah, tell me more well, that's right.
Every day we start with I still definitely implement that.
(25:04):
Like if I can't get to like the Kaisen or
like those steps that I'm doing for the day, I'm
like I at least definitely making time for the gratitude
lists because that is that's what helps shift the mind truly,
Like I mean, it's been proven, like they've done little
like literal studies and stuff like how gratitude lists like
(25:25):
a lot of like psychiatrists and therapists recommend it, like
at night time if you're struggling to go to sleep,
like doing gratitude list. It's like it's so beneficial.
Speaker 3 (25:34):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I'm so happy.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Yeah, we do ten things you're grateful for every single
morning in a single mom collective, and it's like ten things,
but really it's fun because when you focus on all
that you don't have as a single mom, you're never
gonna feel like you have enough. There's a lot of
things every human being, no matter what your relationship status is.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
You can say that you don't have.
Speaker 3 (25:55):
But instead, if the first thing you do in your
brain before you check your phone or your turn on
the tea, if you write down ten things you're grateful
for you all of a sudden focus on all the
things that you do have. And then if you know
that you're gonna do that every morning, I feel like
then throughout your day you look for the stuff that
you can write down the next day, So instead of
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focusing on on how bad.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
You're actually looking for the good. Yeah, you can do
that right.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
Now, like whether you decide to join the single Mom
collective or do one of the courses, like just start
writing ten things you're grateful for.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Like it's so silly, but it really will like make
a huge impact.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
And then you did your pathways. That's the next thing
is like, Okay, what are some pathways?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
How are we going to move forward? Yes, and like
having like set goals each day, like applying for at
least five positions per day and yeah, just breaking things
into instead of like before I had joined the program,
it was like way overwhelming, like oh my gosh, like
I have never even dated someone in five years. I've
(27:00):
never I haven't even job hunted in Yere. It just
feels but like breaking things into steps, yeah, is the
is the trick.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
How do you think your life has changed since working
with me and joining the collective?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
I feel that like my mindset has really shifted, Like
even if I haven't reached all these specific goals I had,
which I have reached some of them, but just the
mindset thing, because it was definitely I was feeling more stuck.
And I know I've said this a few times probably,
but just like more in a negative mode. So that's
been the huge, the biggest shift, I think.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
So, Glad, is there anything else that you wanted to
share about your experience that I didn't ask too about?
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Just that I love that you're doing what you're doing
and following your dream of like helping others because you
were in this, like you're not it's not like you're
just someone that's never experienced this and you're like I'm
like like I don't know, I'm only and showing everyone
that even though I haven't been in that situation like
you've been in in it and so like like having
(28:06):
that experience, it's just like so much wisdom and knowledge
that you provide in the program, and I'm just so
thankful that you're following your dream and doing this because
it's helping so many.
Speaker 3 (28:17):
Well, now you're in that position, Like now what I
think is, you know metamorphosis is kind of an analogy
of how a caterpillar goes through a metamorphosis and turns
into a butterfly. And when you graduate, you get your
wings from metamorphosis.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
And then what do we do.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
Butterflies become pollinators and they go and they make the
world more beautiful and spread more flowers. So now you've
been through the process and now you can take on
It's like you're just an extension of the program, like
you've already recommended it to other friends.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
You're like, no, let me help you.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
I've been there, and there's another new single mom that's
probably going to come across your way.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
Definitely, you can take up your wings. Yeah, stuff, I
love to inspire. Good. Thanks for your time and thanks,
thank you for doing and this was really fun. Thanks
for yet again getting me out of my comfort zone, coach.
When you ask me, I'm like, I don't do a podcast,
but that's what you're great, pushing us out of our
(29:17):
comfort zone. And it's not scary, right, No, it's just
like talking to you like we're in our one on
one Yeah, you're mate.
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Thanks for you giving me an opportunity to go along
with you on your single mom journey to reinvent your
life and your journey to find love again. It's an
absolute honor.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
If this episode hit home for you, if you felt
that shift, then do not just go back to life
as usual, girl, take action. First, make sure you're subscribe
to this podcast so you don't miss any of the
coming episodes, because let me tell you, this is just
the beginning for you. And second, if this episode a
little fire in you, girl, share it with a friend.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
Don't keep this breakthrough to yourself.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Text it to your bestie, drop.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
It in your mom group chat, or post it on
Instagram stories and tag me at the real Amanda Carrol.
Let's get this message to every single mom who needs
to hear it. And before you go, I need you
to know about something big for Gallentines. Love Unlocked, my
game changing dating and confidence program is fifty percent off
(30:26):
for Valentine's Day, and when you join, I'm giving you
three months free inside the Single Mom Collective. You're getting
an entire community of high value women, single moms just
like you who get it around you, plus the step
by step blueprint to finally attract the love that you deserve.
But this offer is gone in a few days. It
expires on Valentine's Day. This is my effort to helping
(30:50):
you make this your last Valentine's Day single, So don't wait.
Just go to the show notes and click on the
link Valentine's Day offer for Love Unlocked right now and
grab your spot.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
You get to choose what happens next.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Are you staying stuck in old patterns or are you
stepping into your power. I know what I want for you,
the question is do you, girl, So go grab a
Love Unlocked now before this deal is done, and I'll
see you next time. Inside the Single Month Collective
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