Media Mentors: Digital Detox, How To Reset & Refresh

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And y'all know what time it iswhen the media listen, y'all know what
time it is. It's time toget busy. And I'm about to pick
up some real media mentors, somepeople that's coming through today. We're gonna
be talking about digital detoxing, rightbrother Nick came up with this fire ass

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top of y'all listen, you already, you know what we're doing. It's
gonna be one of them crazy rooms. We're gonna wait, we're gonna chill.
Shout us to about bro Tony.He got a freaking crazy room going
on right now. It's called Atlantacardon some billionaire buildings that they're going crazy
over there right now. But rightnow we're doing digital detalks. Get up

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here asap, right, help usget this in the algorithm. Me and
Nick we're gonna you know what I'msaying, we're getting We're just starting up.
You know what I'm saying. Let'swait for the family to come through.
Let's wait for everybody to see usin the hallway. But we first,
you're gonna be the ones to setit off and to set the tone,
set the pace for today. Taja, get up here asap, please,

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right, We set in the tone, we set in the pace.
Brother Nick came up with this fireass topic. I said, you know
what, let's go on with this, man, because digital detop is gonna
be a good topic for us totalk about on the podcast, on the
media mentorship, for people to understandwhat's going on. So, Brother Nick,
any any few words, man,while I'm warming it up, brother,
because you know, I'm gonna bringyou in with a few with a

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future song. You know what timeit is over to you? Man?
What's good? Yeah? What's goingon? Stack? Yeah? Honestly,
brother, this topic is gonna bepowerful. Man. I think I think
a lot of people need to knowthe importance of a digital detox man,
because it's important to really recharge yourpersonal battery. It's really it takes a
lot of time, patience, consistency, most importantly energy because a lot of

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times we find ourselves as entrepreneurs,creators and visionaries that we call ourselves all
these things, but the one thingwe are attached to most is our phone.
We're attached to social media, we'reattached to a computer. We don't
take the time to actually enjoy reallife. We're focused so much on being
on our phones. Like we're onclubhouse right now. We gotta take the

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time to really enjoy life, enjoythe things outside of life. Because Man,
I thought about this, and I'mthinking to myself, like, I've
been learning to practice detoxing from myphone because I've found that being a too
attached to my phone was actually adetriment to my success, to my mental
health, to my physical energy.And I really started I started to notice

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a lot of different things happening tomy mind and body. I noticed I
got more tired. I noticed Istarted focusing less on things on the outside.
I started giving less attention to mypartner, my family, things that
really matter because I was focused somuch on my phone. I did,

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I didn't really understand the value ofit. But now taking these detoxes,
man, has really changed my life. And I feel like every second I
was constantly looking at my phone.Who texted me, Who's who's dming me,
Who's who's inquiring about business for me? You know something? And it
always took my attention. So beingable to just put my phone down and

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actually like say, no, I'mnot touching it for a little bit,
it was really crucial for me todo that, and it took a lot
of self control, most of portantly, it took a lot of disciplines.
So I think this topic is gonnabe really important. It's gonna it's gonna
be a wealth of knowledge for everysingle one of us. It might even
be a wake up call because I'msure I'm not the only one that is
constantly on their phone and not focusingon things that truly matter on the outside

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of that. So I'm looking forwardto deep diving this. I'm looking forward
to see what kind of gems wecan all drop together. And man,
let's just let's just let's just bringthe right people in here, because I
want to see who can really benefitfrom this. I want to see who's
really gonna drop some gems. Iwant to see who else feels like a
detox is crucial every now and then. So I'm really excited to get this

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going. Man, that digital dechase, Nick, I'm telling you,
you you hit, you hit achord on this one. You you you,
you did it for me on thisone. Bro ping the room up.
Sure to room up. I'm gonnaget some friends in here. Y'all
know what time it is, DigitalNick, Let's go in a little bit
man, pick the room up,bro, let's go so one over those

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out DEDs blew a gas coming justsac into the cast. But listen,
I can't say and got a friend, no kids, not gift, got
a new bed and it's up bidI round on it like a rather like
anodden rags up from poverty, makea buvey you get no pet escaping it
out to the nood is cal decidedyou gotta prove it. I didn't sure

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that didn'tbody else dood turn an answerto a center and that said life fine,
need for the crazy to the grave, for the grade to the street.
Cred on my fraknice, cray onmy plane brought no materials coming out
of my banks. Make through thatthe no road took the plane. I'm
tame, make am creeping when I'mon the plane. Cherish my blesses out
of the range. I'm expecting youto understand the born will change, especially

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if it's selling in this something shootingsuit and a type. But don't want
to mentally abuse someone over those outthese blew a gas homicide. No discussions.
Take it to the casket. Position. Can't say I ain't been a
frank now exkills deeds true fizz Noexkis got the new bid in its real
bleeds. I grab all that likea river, like a little sin,

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raise up in property, make amovey, you get no pain escaping it
out? Shit the money? Isyou going to call the status? You
know? Lord Nick, this isgonna be a fire topic, bro,
because a lot of people need it. Get off there, Detox, get
in the real world. Man,Let's open this shit up. Man.

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What you're thinking? Man, Let'sgo what's up? Nick? Man?
Pass us up, Beth, what'sup? Talk to me, Steve Tasia
ms manifact Man, talk to meDigital detos Let's go, yeah, Stack
honestly, brother, And the reasonwhy I wanted to do this specific topic
is because there has been many momentsin my entrepreneurial journey where I felt like

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I was not only constantly on myphone, but I forgot how to actually
live. Like I was so focusedon what was happening on clubhouse, what
was happening on Instagram? Who postedon Facebook? Who's streaming on Twitch?
What you know if my favorite YouTuberdropped the new video today? Like,
you know, did I check myemails? Did someone acquire about me?

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Going to speak at their school,university of conference something. My attention was
always being dragged elsewhere. And whenI actually said to myself, man,
I imagine if I could just putmy phone down for like five minutes,
maybe even an hour, Imagine howmuch more productive I'd be. Imagine how
much more energy I would have.Because have you ever noticed when you're on

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your phone for hours at a time, you feel like you get some kind
of brain fog, like you forgetwhat somebody said to you, like you
can't do two things at once.And I noticed it becoming a problem.
Whenever I was on my phone andI was looking at things on my phone
that like tak care, business,scrolling, whatever what else I was doing,
and someone was talking to me,I had to ask them to repeat

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what they said because I was sofocused on looking on my phone. I
was so focused on what was happeningin front of me that I forgot to
acknowledge what's happening around me. Sowhen you're focused on just one thing you're
focused on, your focus is lesson everything else around you. And I
noticed that that was becoming a hugeproblem because it was not only affecting my

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speech, but it was affecting myrelationships with people, people that I've built
great relationships with. And I noticedthat people would calm me out and say,
Nick, you're constantly on your phone. Do you ever leave your phone?
Like it's like you're glued to it? And I said, yeah,
yeah, I'm good like I'm It'snot really that big of a problem.
Like I would almost gaslight the situation. I was always saying, nah,

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I'm good like I don't I'm goodlike I'm not on my phone all the
time. I'm just checking it rightnow because I got spare time. But
I realized it was more of aproblem as I got older, especially when
I entered the entrepreneurship realm. Inoticed that it started become a bigger problem
because I was on it every fiveseconds. I was constantly networking, I
was constantly inquiring, I was alwaysconstantly checking on other people and scrolling through

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social media, creating content, doingall these great things. But my attention
was less on my relationship with mywith my significant other, actually taking the
time to hang out with family,walk through nature. I was I had
phoma almost like I had that.I had that fear of missing out,
like who's posting on social media,who's emailing me, who's dming me?
Things like that? I was myfocus was so much hindered on what was

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happening on my phone that I forgotto actually live. Like you ever heard
that saying stop existing, start living? Well, it's a factual quote because
a lot of us, I feellike, are just existing. We're just
going with the flow, going withthe repetitive motion, and we forget to
actually live. So for me nowin this season of my life, like
yes, I'm on my phone isa huge part of what I do,

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but I take detoxes like now,It's one of the hardest. It was
the hardest thing I had to do. Sack one day a month, I
shut my phone off for a wholeday, a whole day. Nobody reaches
out to me, Nobody calls me, nobody texts me. People ask me
where I am, Like Nick,what happened to you? Are you good?
I'm good. I just need timefor myself. I need to decompress.

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I need to recharge, I needto refresh. I need to get
back in alignment. And we needto not apologize for that. People think
we need to constantly show up forthem and all these endeavors all the time.
But if we're not taking time torecharge and get ourselves back to one
hundred percent, we can never befully effective. We can never show up

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as best as we want to.We are always gonna be one step behind.
And I see a lot of peopleact like they're, oh, no,
I'm good, like you know,I'm good, you know de talks.
Who cares about that? I don'tneed to indulge in that. Those
are the ones that need the most, The ones that keep keep dodging it
and deflecting it, those are theones that need it the most because they're

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constantly trying to They're trying to escapethis so called reality of oh, you
know, I need my phone allthe time. You know, if everybody
else it's just me and my business, that's it. Listen, listen,
I'm gonna go get her too.I get it. I'm gonna go get
her too. But sometimes they gottabe realistic. I cannot be one hundred
percent in my craft and what Ido if I'm running on zero percent,

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if I'm constantly drained, if I'mconstantly having brain fog, if I'm constantly
having this phone of fear of missingout because I'm so worried about who's emailing
me, who's inquiring about me,who's posting on social media? Like,
I don't need to be up todate on everything. I don't. I'll
catch up when I catch up.That's just what it is. It's not
it's not going anywhere like Stack.One of the best lessons I've learned about

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taking a detox is people think that, oh, if I miss somebody's posting
I don't like it, then oh, well that's it. Or if I
if I don't miss, if Idon't get to this email of five minutes,
then I'm gonna lose a client.No, stop overthinking it. It's
not that deep. It's not thatdeep. When you overthink, you are
losing so you have no self control. When you are overthinking, you're constantly

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worried about what other people think.That means you're seeking validation and that's not
something you need to be a partof. That's not something you need to
be indulging in. When you shutyour phone off. Stack, you know,
bro, you call me a lot. What is my phone on constantly?
D and D? Do not disturnMy phone is on D and D
every single god minute of the day. Even though, yes, I'm on

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my phone, I'll call you whenI call you back. I'll get to
you when I get to you.Yes, I'm about about being precise and
being effective, but I need timeto get Nick right first, because if
Nick's not right, how can Iget you right? If Nick's not in
alignment, how can I help youget in alignment? If Nick's not effective,

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how can I help you be effective? If Nick's battery is not charged
up? How can I get youcharged up? You see what I'm saying.
You see what I'm going It's apattern here. So this is why
I wanted to bring this topic ofclubhouse because I feel a lot of people
we don't want to acknowledge it,but we need to reset. We need
to recharge our batteries. And I'mnot talking your phone battery. I'm talking

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your mental battery, your emotional battery, your physical battery, most of probably
if your spiritual battery. A lotof you are running on zero and it's
catching up to you. You think, oh, well, I got time.
I don't need I don't need todo this now. Out that's the
thing. We don't have enough time. So stop thinking you have time.
We don't even have enough of it. We don't have enough of it.

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So I want to bring away intothis topic because I think a lot of
us entrepreneurs we need it more thanwe think, and we don't need to
be We don't need to make sureeverybody's good all the time. We don't
need to be worried about who's postingsomething all the time. We don't need
to be worried about who's emailing usall the time, who's inquiring about business
or opportunities or proposals. We don'tneed to worry about that all the time

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because we're giving in to everybody elseexcept us. We don't realize it,
but it's catching up to us.So Sack, I want to see who's
got some gems. I want tosee who's got some feedback. I want
to see what you guys think aboutthis topic, because I know I'm not
the only one who struggles with this. I'm an entrepreneur, and I can
confidently say I struggle with taking thetime to get off my phone because I'm

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on it constantly, constantly, andsometimes I just want to throw it in
the ocean and never go back toit. But I know, I know
that, I know that's gonna bea problem. I know it's gonna be
a problem. But if I ifI could shut my phone off for a
week, which I think I mightdo to see if I can actually do
it, I think I'll come backand not be far behind it all.

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Really, I honestly think that ifI shut my phone off for a complete
week, I will not be farbehind it all. I've done it for
two days straight. I've been withoutmy phone for two days without no phone,
and I was okay. I wasokay. I didn't miss anything.
I was able to catch up oneverything. I wasn't far behind. People
think, if you do that,you're you're behind now, you're stressed out,

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you're overworked. No, it's actuallythe opposite. It's actually the opposite.
So I want to see what youguys think about this. Andrew as
seen you're coming off mute. Ithink I saw Shay as well. It
will keep it going. Let's getthis shit started, man, Put one
in the chat. If you're alreadyfor this conversation, appreciate it. Put
a one in the chat, sharea room on, paint the room out,

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have some more people come through digitaldats. It's that shit today right
flows open Nick, who's coming in, Man, let's go I've seen Andrea.
Go ahead, Andrea. Hey,Nick, this is a great topic
and actually same wavelength because a coupleof days ago, I was thinking of

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this word called altruism, right,And so because we're very servant hearted.
I mean, I know I speakfor myself only, but I know that
the people around me are very similar, we share the same energy. And
because we're very serving hearted, thatword altruism is something that really speaks to
me. Right. When we lookat the definition of altruism, it basically

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states, you know, doing thingsselflessly without expectation. Right. But then
if you look deeper about the biologicalstudy of it, right, the psychology,
the biology of that word, thedefinition, it says doing things helplessly
at the expense of ourselves. Right. So this is like the natural configuration

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of what that word altruism means.And we go deeper into the philosophy and
the etymology, we see that societytells us that we can give selflessly,
and that's okay. But the otheraspect, the biological definition, is that
when you give selflessly, you canpotentially give so much that it's at the

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expense of yourself, right, andso I think that it's important that we
also acknowledge both ends of that definition, so that we're conscious that we have
to refresh, reset, otherwise there'sgoing to be no more to give because
we've given all of ourselves and sothere's nothing left, you know, So
that's just my thought. I hope, Yeah, that's it. Wow.

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I appreciate that, because if youdon't give no term to yourself, what
you do, if you don't giveno time to yourself, you gotta be
able to pour into your own cup, right fire me and andre I got
a surprise with you guys soon,So picking the room up and share the
room up. Nick back to you, man, what are we talking about?

(17:15):
Man? I appreciate And honestly,she really hitting the chord on that,
because I feel I feel like alot of us we think we're in
alignment, but it's actually the completeopposite. And when you actually start to
notice these certain things happening, likeyour behavior is changing, your thought patterns
are changing, your words are gettingslurred, like you know, you need

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a refresh, like you need tohit the reboot button, like you need
to reprogram yourself a little bit.And I'm not saying that's a bad thing.
It's actually, like I mentioned,it's not a bad thing to take
a break. Like as entrepreneurs,we think we gotta be running one hundred
miles a minute, when let's behonest, our bodies came to keep up
with the half the thoughts. Wethink. I'm just being all the way

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on. Our bodies physically cannot keepup with half the thoughts who we are
thinking, Like we're the human brainis thinking at least a thousand thoughts a
minute. You actually think your body'sbeing able to keep up with that.
No, it's not realistic at allwhatsoever. So I made this topic and
I brought it to Stack's attention becausehim and I go through a lot of

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similar things, like sometimes like whenhe calls me, like he has to
call me twice because my phone's onD and D. Like I said,
my phone is on D and Dall hours of the day because sometimes I'm
not on my phone every minute.And I'm learning that it's actually a good
thing because even though yes, Iwant to make sure I'm up to date
on everything, I need to makesure that Nick is up to date on

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everything. Meaning I'm physically up todate. I'm mentally up to date,
I'm emotionally up to date, I'mspiritually up to date. My battery,
my personal battery, is up todate. Because if I'm not any of
those things, I cannot physically showup one hundred percent for every endeavor that
I pursue, for every conversation thatI have, for every approach that I
go after, I will not beable to do that to the best of

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my ability. And one thing Ialways always remind myself every single day of
is if I can't give you mybest, I don't want to give it
at all. I don't If Icannot give you my best, I don't
want to give it at all.That's just what it is. I don't
want to give you fifty percent ofme, or thirty percent of me,
or ten percent of me. Eventhough I'm human, I'm not a robot.

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I can't be one hundred percent everysingle day. That's just not realistic
and as motivating as I am,I need time for myself. I need
time to decompress, isolate, recharge, refresh all these things. And I
say this because as I'm going inthis entrepreneurship realm heavier and heavier, I'm

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like, yeah, I need it. I need it more than I think
it's crucial. And I know fora fact that's what's being said. I'm
speaking to somebody right now. Idon't know who in this room can hear
what's being said, but I knowyou're feeling called to speak. I know
you are. You may not admitit right now, but I'm gonna tell
you right now. You don't needto be one hundred percent every single day.

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You don't need to be on yourphone one hundred percent every single day.
You don't need to be checking onwhat other people are doing one hundred
percent every single day. You don'tneed to be on clubhouse every single minute
of the day. I'm just beingreal with you. I'm being all the
way real with you. You don'tneed to go to every single room.
I'm a waking up for y'all.You don't need to go to every clubhouse

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room. And hear me out whenI say that. That's not to say
you don't want to you don't wantto support your people, because I'm a
huge advocate for support, But sometimeswhen you give so much of yourself,
you can't give enough back to yourself. You can't. I've gone through rooms
where I do not speak. Youknow why I don't speak because I'm not
in the space to speak, orI don't I need to get myself recharged,

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and sometimes I just want to listen. Listening is better than speaking.
I don't need to speak every minuteof the day. I don't as much
as i'd like to, I don'tneed to. That want and need factor
are two different things. You wantto do it, but do you actually
need it? That's the difference rightthere. You want to do something,

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you want to go on clubhouse,you want to go on social media,
but do you need to? That'sthe question. That is the million dollar
question right there. And I'm learningI'll yield after this. I'm learning now
that I can do things in moderation. Moderation is doing something effectively but having

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time constraints on it. Being ableto manage my time, my energy,
my space, most support than myintellect, my thought process. All these
things are important, especially as anentrepreneur, because believe it or not,
we're not getting younger. We're notgetting any younger. And as I mentioned
in the beginning, we think wehave time. That's something we don't have

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enough of. We don't have enoughtime. So make use of your time,
and even if that time means gettingoff your phone and shutting it off
for an hour or two and thencoming back, that's fine. You don't
need to explain yourself to anybody.People think we have to tell everybody our
every move, We have to announceeverything, we have to let it be

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known. You don't have to telleverybody your every move. The more you
give them a reason as to whatyou're doing, you're letting them keep tabs
on you. And that's your fault, nobody else but you. That's your
own fault. I don't tell peoplewhen I need to recharge. I don't
tell people when I need to takea detox. I don't tell people when
I need to refresh. I don'tLess less announcements, more moves. It's

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simple, and I know you've heardthat before. Less announcements and more moves.
So who else is coming in?Who's got some gems to drop?
Hey, it's me miss self?Love, thank you, nig I love
everything you said. It was youwas hitting on a lot of points.

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Shout out to staff with the pocketmedia mentors, and I'm just definitely you
know, I agree. You knowthat's why one of my depos is this
I take naps, right, Ihave to take a nap so I can
recharge. It's not about going,going, going. I do make sure
I get my e hours asleep.It's manifest and I we both have it

(23:30):
on the schedules to wheill we takenaps, and then you have a schedule
for saying things that you do.You know in an am and maybe your
self care time, and in thenight time you may start checking messages and
stuff. I don't do messages untilwhen I'm laying in the bed relaxing like
so all of that stuff is aboutscheduling, taking a nap, taking care
of yourself. This is not amarathon. This is a consistency. This

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is about consistency. This is notabout running, running and burnout, because
when people are doing that and thenI detail, that's when they burn themselves
out. You can burn yourself outlike that and then you can't stay you
can't stay in again, you can'tstay sharing your purpose. So this is
about consistency, taking care of yourself, taking naps, going to sleep,

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waking up again, re charging,and just being consistent more than running and
burning yourself out. So thank youfor letting me share Nick, thank you
for the room, thank you stackwith the pack, and I yell that
burnout piece is crucial. You touchedon something right there. And I'll say

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this because I think I saw mismanifest coming off. One thing. One
thing I want to say to thatburnout pieces is that you know I've experienced
that far too often. Like youever had that one moment where you feel
like you had an epiphany but itwas actually just a brain like you ever
had a brain fart or brain fog. I've had that multiple times. Like
there have been times where I couldnot get my words into a full sentence,

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Like I was constantly running on E. Like you know how you need
to fill up your car. Yougo to the gas station, you feed
your car up, you get yourcar from a quarter tank to a full
tank. So I felt like I'vebeen constantly running on E constantly, more
times than I needed to. ButI realized it was in that moment that
I said to myself, Yeah,I'm running on E. I'm burnt out.

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And I couldn't effectively be there formy clients as best as I wanted
to because I was constantly running onE. The advice that I would give
them I wasn't even practicing that,and that was on my earlier stages of
being an entrepreneur. Now I knowhow to keep everything in moderation. Now
I know how to eliminate that stuffwhen it happens and take and take heave

(25:41):
of it. Then just letting itpass me by and think, oh wow,
like it's really catching up to me. Like that's sleep part miss off
Love you mentioned. Let me tellyou, I'm gonna be all the way
honest with y'all. Sleep is somethingI do not get enough of. I'm
being all the way real, likesometimes I struggle to get five hours and
even when I go to the gymin the morning, it really catches up
to me, like I can't workout effectively, I can't move effectively.

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Like it's almost like your mind getsinto like a depressive state where you feel
like you're constantly running on brain fogall the time. You can't get your
you can't think think straight, youcan't get your words out. You're like
it's something is just all over theplace. So I'm glad you touched on
that because we're gonna we're gonna divedeep on that a little bit. But
I want to get over to Mismanaassessing anybody else that wants to speak.

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Hey, Nick, thank you somuch for doing this room digital detox.
I love this. Thank you Stackfor always making these rooms so fire.
We all learn every single day.I think it's important that we share the
room out right, because a lotof people need to know how to relax.
They need to know how to detox, because that's what's going on now
is they're not showing up consistently becausethey're burned out. So myself love,
my business bestiae, make sure youget you one of those, right,

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a business best seat that's really committedto helping you with your weaknesses. Right,
my weakness, my challenge. That'slike. But next thing, I
consistently was running, running, running, run, running, like consistently point
where it was like I wasn't doingmy hair, I wasn't doing my it,
you know, I take that veryvery seriously. I wasn't going on
vacations. I was consistently keep showingup, you know, and giving my
last of my drops of energy,which is not good. So I had

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to reward them and self love.We sat down, we did our schedule.
I talk about this a lot,doing our schedule is cheap when my
self love set is very important.We look at our schedule every single day
and we like to make sure thatwe do have those naps. Now,
one of the things that I noticeis that in these rooms, we have
two hours in this room minimum.Right, This is where you should be
detoxing your thoughts. You should bewriting out your goals. It's not just
a listening session. If you're literallyable to write, you should be writing

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out your goals so that you couldwork on it later when you're off your
nine two five, or if youjust have free time. Right, because
now you got your goals written,now you have great ideas because sometimes we
take notes in this room, right, but we don't put our goals down
alongside of it. So that helpsme to detox as well, because this
room is a study hole for me, right, Stack Like this is a
study hole because when Stack does theserooms and he brings the hottest people in
this room, I get that's whenI'm most motivated. So I do my

(27:55):
best not to miss these rooms.Right, And we all need to be
in alignment with one specific time whereyou're slotting, where you're working on your
goals, and when you're doing adigital detox. Right. I love to
do it from four am to eight. Right, that's my schedule. I
don't know if it's gonna help somebody. I know it's a reach, but
if you're a full time entrepreneur orif you can do this, four am
is when everything is quiet, theworld is sleeping, you could work on
your goals and peat. So fromfour to eight I don't even touch my

(28:17):
phone. Nine times out of ten. It's on the side. I'm working
on my dreams, my goals,my expenses. I know what's coming in,
what's going out, what's the phonenumbers to my companies who I need
to connect with for the day.Everything is written out. Mind you,
I did my preset the night before, right before I go to sleep.
I go to sleep approximately ten pmevery day. You have to know what
time you're sleeping and what time you'retaking your naps. And I take a
two hour nap in between the day, so that's a total of what was

(28:38):
like almost eight hours. Right.That's what's gonna help you, guys,
to figure out what type of thingsyou have to plug in to get that
refresh and then on top of it, right to reset recharge, you should
have a vacation at least every threemonths minimum. I like to go a
vacation every month, even if it'sfor a weekend, because that's gonna help
me detox. You guys need tobe by water, right. Water is

(29:00):
very therapeutic. Water, beach everythingright. That like Miami right, that
gives you a sense of energy,right that you always got that right exactly
because we're you know, we're earthbeings, right, and we also spiritual,
so we need to be able tohave a balance. So a lot
of people I see people running,they're not going on vacation, or they're
going on vacation only doing business.That's why I love doing content because it

(29:22):
doesn't feel like i'm working. Itjust feels like purpose. I'm catching the
waves, I'm taking video of thesun. I'm being excited about just relaxing.
If you're working nine to five,make sure that you're speaking up to
your boss, right or anybody that'sin charge, and let them know when
your schedule is pre planning your vacations. Make sure you pre plan that because
that's important. Not don't use yoursick days just for sick days, use
that for a vacation time because it'sgonna help you recharge. So that's all

(29:45):
I got to say. I prayto help somebody. Just set that schedule
in place, and you know,make sure you follow in this room and
use this room as a study whole. Don't just sit here. Listen.
Make sure you got your pen andpaper written. We're writing out your goals.
Okay, y'all, y'all got this. This is ya. Yeah,
yo, you know what, goahead. She always you know, she
always been supporting me, you knowwhat I mean, supporting the club,

(30:07):
supporting you know, when we're standingon business. You know what I'm saying.
So, you know, shout upsto Miss Manifesting, Shout outs to
her, you know, for comingthrough the room because she asks vastly a
fire ask question and I appreciate thatbecause you know, it'll motivate more people
to do what they gotta do.You know what I mean, when you
come in there and involve yourself.So shout out to you. Back to
you, Nick. Let's get itin media, man. So yes,

(30:29):
sir, my boy, you alreadyknow man, And we got we got
one of the former clubhouse icons.My good friends, Zez Williams. I
appreciate you Zee for coming in.I know I know you can definitely resonate
with this topic because I feel Ifeel, especially as entrepreneurs and creators,
we definitely definitely are constantly running athousand miles a minute. And you know,
there's there's a few signs. I'mgonna say these five signs because we'll

(30:52):
kind of tap in on them alittle bit, and I think I think
lin Zay wanted to come in andspeak as well, so I'll give it
to her in second. These arefive signs that you needed digital detox.
One is fomo. Like I talkedabout, that fear of missing out,
wondering about who's posting on social media, worrying about who's emailing you, who's
inquiring about you, etc. Etc. All these things happening around you,

(31:12):
that your tensions being constantly dragged indifferent directions. There's brain fog, low
productivity, that's a huge one,poor sleep, and easily distracted. That
easily distracted piece is crucial because therehave been times, like I mentioned in
the beginning of the room, wheresomeone was speaking to me and I was
on my phone and I had tohave them repeat it two or three times

(31:34):
before I can actually understand what they'resaying. Because I'm so worried about what's
happening on my phone. If you'vebeen that person, or if that's happened
to you, I want you toput a thumbs up. That's happened to
me a bunch of times. AndI can't even tell you how frustrating is
because I look at it from theirangle and I'm like, wow, if
I had to repeat myself more thanonce, I would get a little bit
annoyed. So I see where they'recoming from. So I realized that I

(31:56):
have to nip that in the butt. So it does become a huge problem.
Lindsay over to you, did youwatch chimemn Oh, well, I
was. I was doing the praisehands because it's easy in the house,
so I was excited to see useasy and Jill, I'll snag it real
quick and then I'll toss it onover to my sister. She was coming
in. Let me say something aboutzazy real quick. You feel me.

(32:17):
Anytime she holds a space, shealways makes sure it's a safe space for
women, you understand. So wheny'all go over there, y'all rock was
easy. Y'all gonna see a bunchof women over there and y'all creep o,
stay up out of there, youknow what I mean? Called the
police on y'all or something not farrido. I love you. I thank you

(32:38):
for coming to support is easy.You always coming through with that fire energy,
and you always welcome me in yourspace. It's always like a community
feel. So I just wanted tosay that because you know, she doesn't
really come to our stages. Shecomes at the bottom. She's busy,
but like when she comes up,because you know it's legendary. She was
already on the clubhouse icon and meand her always have conversations on when we

(32:59):
can. So thank you for comingthrough. I'm passing the mic back up
and you know, you know anybodyyou know, when y'all see Ez easy
coming here, just invite her up. You know what I'm saying. It's
love, that's family, you knowwhat I'm saying. I haven't seen a
lot of y'all in so long.And y'allus to Britt too. When y'all
see Britt, don't quit and here, y'all make sure y'all bring her up
to you from me. So likethat's what it is. It's always family,

(33:19):
So it's easy shout out to you, Nick, back to you,
bro. Let's keep this rocking,absolutely, bro, absolutely, So does
anybody else want to chime in todrop some gyms before I because again,
you know me, I could talkfor everybody. I want to give somebody
else the floor. I know somebodyelse can relate to this. So what's
some gems you guys got. Haveyou experienced something where you it was a
sign that you needed a digital detox? Talk about it. Let's go yeah,

(33:45):
I'll jump back in here. Ohand then my sister Shay, I
hope we get to hear from ZZtoday. And you know, I want
I want to say that one ofthe things that I definitely noticed, and
it's a digital detox that I inviteus all to consider it if we can
do too, which is no longersleeping with our cell phones as our alarm

(34:06):
clocks. Oh my goodness, movingthese true like cancer causing agents. Outside,
Yes, I said, outside ofthe bedroom. Now listen. I
have a nineteen year old daughter,so I'm thinking of my sister Shay,
who's got a baby graduating this yeartoo, maybe a couple other of you
in the room, and she isn'talways home when we go to bed and

(34:27):
we don't have a house phone,and so this is the negotiation I will
make when that is the truth.And the negotiation that I make is that
I put it on do not disturb, and she is on my emergency contact.
There's you make a list in thesettings on your phone, and so
if she calls two if she callstwo times in a row, and she

(34:51):
knows this to be true, ifshe calls me two times, then the
phone call will come through. Soit's like do not disturb, plane mode,
you know, the whole thing.And that is the concession I make
when my baby is out after Iam asleep. And then the nights that
we are home, we get soexcited because we turn off the you know,

(35:12):
we turn off the phones fully powereddown outside of the bedroom because it's
like, you know, I alwayssay, like only time to that is
important to lock the doors when myfamily's inside and we're asleep, and so
how I like, that's what Ibelieve, because you know, and so
that is the truth with the phonetoo, And oh my goodness, what
a different sleep, especially if you'vegot a phone that's got five G and

(35:34):
you may be far from you know, recognizing the correlation and so that's okay
too. I invite you to,you know, set a alarm or some
way of watching, tracking, celebrating, and do it for a number of
days and see if you're getting longerbouts of sleep. And my second thing
is I fatigue. I work on, you know, on a screen so

(35:54):
much of the day phone call back. I work on a screen, as
I'm sure many of you. Andthen if you add in the cell phone
too, like more screens. Sothe two other things are, you know,
get a get a blue get yourselfglasses, even if you aren't glass

(36:15):
you know, a glass wearer,and if you are, you know,
someone who wears glasses, then youcan actually get blue light filtration built right
into your lenses. Really really powerfulthing to do because then they're always on
you. And the last is makingsure that we shut it down. Like
blue light is known to be stimulatingand that's what our phone is emitting.

(36:37):
And so giving yourself that window,you know, they we talk about it
in like a four three two one, but at minimum not butt. And
and the opportunity here is like seehow long you can give yourself and keep
stretching the steams of that. Somaybe you start at you know, giving
yourself twenty minutes, maybe you startto move it to forty minutes, like
giving yourself room to grow and celebratinggiving yourself that bigger window. And the

(37:01):
other thing that you can do ismake sure that your phone is on night
shift. This will start. Andyou know, I have all of my
bulbs in my home this way too, because that way, you know,
my husband's always like you make uslive in the dark, as like our
joke, and I'm like, it'scalled mood lighting for a reason, like
the reason the sun sets in thewinters, because it's time for hibernation.

(37:22):
We're meant to go to bed earlier. That's what the you know, our
circadian rhythm will tell us for thatrejuvenation and when we go against it.
Because of the modern day, thereare things we can do to make our
homes feel more that way. Soyou know, in the you know,
closing once the sun is set,like really setting the tone with lower ember
lights. Maybe those are you know, you're changing out your bulb something both

(37:45):
eco friendly and also mood setting.And so these are things that definitely help,
you know, these are the wellnesswarrior protocols that I used to share
religiously in pillars of wellness, andit is so powerful, it's so true.
It makes such an impact on beingable to live in the day.
And yes, take those days offlike Nick was so beautifully saying, and

(38:07):
so many others too, like giveourselves those windows or boxes of time.
And these are things we can doevery single day that helps us to truly
amplify our wellness within every opportunity thatwe have when we are as Nick would
say, six feet above the ground. So those are some things I wanted

(38:27):
to toss in today. And Iknow that both Shay and sweet Zezy I
believe we're coming off MIC. SoI would love to toss it to my
sister Ceezie and Shay. And thankyou Nick for allowing me to share today.
Oh, hold hold on, holdon, hold on, Lindsay,
you're stuck in the chord and me, I got to say something we could
actually you know what, Before Ieven say that, Stack, I want

(38:50):
to ask you something, brother,what happens when I click this link above
my head? Because I was reallyintrigued and I was actually scrolling through it
when Lindsay was speakers. So canyou and foremost on what this link above
is? So where how you knowHomer passes? Do you already know what
passes too? Right? Andrea,please tell them you know what the Media

(39:13):
Mentorship is doing. Please tell themhow we're go and dive all partnership,
these DALs and and the things thatwe're doing. Let's talk about it.
Let's let's get into it. Dremedia mentors so really excited to like wanted
to showcase the Media Mentorship house rightand get more people, invite more people

(39:34):
to the stage. But in additionto that, not only did we want
to support like how the community grows, but like support the opportunities that everybody
has to you know, benefit financially. And so we've created this brochure site
to market. Anyone can use it. It shows the value of the community

(39:58):
and it also allows us to growmore more sponsorship opportunities for everyone who's committed
to being on stage and showing up. And like it's growing. It's super
excited, super excited that stack thatdecided yes, let's do this, and
it's just about growing the community andgrowing opportunity for everyone. So that's it,

(40:19):
damn it. I'm so excited.And you know what else I'm excited
about too, And Dred this rocketHub being teamed up with rocket Hub.
I'm taking that shit to the moon. I got a bunch of people that
are, you know, trying tocome on board and buy some software because
I know a lot of people that'sin the tech. So I cannot wait
for people to come on and useit and accelerate. Right man, we
always opening doors. I love it. I appreciate you. Put a hard

(40:40):
in the chat, y'all appreciate you. Know this right here? The media
mentorship diving in right, We're divingall the way. I need more people
for the podcast. I need morepeople for the TV show. I need
more pull for the radio. Ineed more people to get on Forbes.
I'm featuring more people. I wantto feature somebody on Forbes this year,
right, Like, yeah, Igot on it, but more people to
get on it. I need morepeople for the billboards too. I want

(41:05):
to I want to see people inTimes Square A side. Look. I
appreciate you. I'm passing this backto my brother Nick. Were in the
digital detox room. How to recharge, reset and refresh click the link at
the top and also rs VP fornext next Q and a let's go in.
Let's go man, stag. Letme tell you, Bro, I
want to say something to what yousaid. Man, trust me, Man,

(41:27):
it's a beautiful feeling when you getfeatured in Times Square. Brother.
When I got when I got mybillboard, I did that, Nick,
you did? Yeah? Man?When I got mine up there, Man,
it was it was it was likenext level, Bro, like super
next level. Like it really showedme. I'm like, wow, traction
is being built. But I can'tget comfortable now, Brother, I can't

(41:49):
get comfortable real quick, Nick,real real quick. Before we talk about
detoxing from the phone, how wasthat feeling? You know? Because I
know you one of the few peopleI know that got on the billboard.
I know people that got on it, but I'm talking about like real life,
no that got on it. Youfeel me? So what was the
first feeling you had when you goton it, bro, And how'd you
feel when you've seen it? Man? Honestly, Bro, to keep it

(42:13):
like really short and brief. Ihad no idea I was even on that
billboard. But somebody I know thatlives in NYC actually was in Times Square
and actually took the picture in thevideo for me, And it was like,
Yo, Nick, you know you'reon Time Square right. I'm like,
I'm like, bro, stop blindme, man, Like I really
thought he was just hitting me upon some joke, like just trying to

(42:35):
be funny. But then once hesent me the video in the picture,
I was like, no way,bro, and I kid you not.
It's like it's not like I reachedout to someone to put me on it.
Like I just seen a picture ofme in my Instagram handle my name
and my profession on an ad runningin Times Square. It was like right
above Sophora and I'm sitting here like, bro, who on earth did this?

(43:00):
Like who took the time to puta billboard of me in Times Square?
But I was like, I waslike, man, I'm was super
thankful, like super super thankful.I was grateful most supportingly because it really
showed me like wow, like thisthere's really a lot of traction being built.
But I told myself, I can'tget comfortable, Like I can't get
comfortable. I'm not gonna get sidetracked, like yeah, it's a good feeling's

(43:21):
an accomplishment, but I gotta rememberwhat I'm doing here, Like I can't.
I can't free in a second,think this is this is my end
all be all, I can justkick my feet up like sack. It
was a great feeling, bro,But I just I said right there,
I'm like, yeah, I gotI gotta turn this grind notch up a
little bit, like I gotta gofrom a three to eight quick, you
know what I mean. I justhad to adapt. But it was an
amazing feeling, bro, I appreciateyou for asking that. Listen, if

(43:46):
you guys are enjoying this conversation,let's keep going, Digital detos. Who
else is in the building, whoelse wants to chime in? Let's talk
about it, Let's get into it. Who is next, Digital detox?
Who's taking a mic? Let's golet's oh. I'll let y'all know.
I just left a broker's open withabout thirty five millionaire agents that come into

(44:09):
this property today, and not oneperson could put down their phone. If
you want to see an industry ofpeople that can't put down their phones,
come and find some real estate professionals, whether it be finance, title lawyers
or the realtors. Everybody has aphone, and they might have three.

(44:29):
I mean I had two set besideof me. It's very hard, but
man doesn't feel good when you justdrop the phone and say tonight, I'm
done not picking up. And Ido have my phone set that at seven
pm. The only people that canget into my phone to call me are
the people I have scheduled that theyare allowed to call me after that timeframe

(44:51):
their twenty four hour calls, whichare my kids, my husband, and
my parents and my sisters, likeclose people, the closest ones. After
that, I'm done. I don'tpick up for clients. They can text
me. I can see that,but unless it's an emergency, they will
not get a call back from meuntil the next business day. But I'm

(45:12):
telling you setting expectations. Depending onwhat industry you're in, you better set
the damn fucking expectations right up frontso they know that you are not going
to pick up for them, soit does not make them mad. They
already understand it. But that's mytwo cents. There you go, Stack
and Nick, honestly, listen whenshe said that I had to come off

(45:36):
the microphone or come onto the mic, because that's setting boundaries, that's self
care. And I actually have alink that I'm going to put in the
room chat that talks about what thebenefits of detoxing from our digital devices does
for us, and how we cando it, you know, put it
at the tops. He put itat the top. We want to see

(45:57):
it. Put it. Let meput it at the top. But I
really love, love, love thistopic, you know, because so many
of our children, so many ofthe young people, so many of the
new entrepreneurs, they're going through somany, so many health factors where it's
like the anxiety coming through, theoverwhelm, coming through, the burnout happening

(46:22):
because they can't detox, they can'tlet go of the phone, they can't
put it down, they can't setboundaries like Beth was talking about, you
know, and I heard Nick talkingabout the social media break. I heard
Lindzia talking about having that tech freezone, and I was like, oh
my gosh, I gotta share thislink with y'all because this is what we
talk about in the Self Care Housefor Women. You know, we go

(46:44):
over different you know, strategies tohelp us and to help the kids,
and to help whoever it is,so that you won't enter into that anxiety,
that burnout situation where it's just likeyou feel like you're just running around
in circles and you're not being productivebecause chances are that's what's happening. You
think you're being productive, but you'renot because you have too many things open.

(47:07):
Look at your phone right now.Maybe some of you have already closed
out some apps, but I cantell you that if you look at your
apps, see how many are open, you're going to see more than three,
more than four, more than five. Because that is what happens when
you're an entrepreneur, a business owner, a content creator, a career minded

(47:27):
person. You just have so manythings that you're trying to take care of
and then you're not really taking careof that one thing. And so it's
so important. This topic is powerfulto detox digital detox, how to recharge,
how to reset, and how torefresh and listen. It's going to
be beneficial for your mind, yourbody, your heart, and your soul

(47:50):
period. You know. So Ijust I love it. I'm so happy
I came in Think Stack Thinks Nick. Thanks everyone, and you know it
was that you said something right.There's something I want to do for you
really quickly. I want to giveyou your flowers because every day, and
I kid you not every single dayI see in the hallway that Z has
a self care for women's space,and you guys need to go over there.

(48:13):
Any woman that's in this room rightnow, you guys need to go
over there and support the self carefor women's space. I go in there
just to listen. Obviously I haveno space to be speaking over there,
but I just go over there justto listen and just gain value because there's
a lot of gems that be droppedin there. And this is exactly what
this room is about. Talking today, digital detox and actually taking the time

(48:35):
to do some self care, becauseif you don't instill those boundaries, people
will walk all over you, they'lldisrespect you, they'll take you for granted,
They'll they'll waste your time. That'snot something I ever want to indulge
in in my lifetime. Like ifI feel like constantly somebody's wasting my time,
that's not something I want to bea part of because they're like like

(48:58):
like z and is like z andand Beth was saying, like there are
times where I go on spurs whereI'm not on social media or clubhouse,
like I say, I'm not goingon it at this time of the day.
I don't care who's hosting a room, I'll be in when I come
in, Like I'm not. Idon't owe anybody anything. And this is
where I think people get like misconstrued, is that we think we owe people

(49:19):
our time. If you have notgiven me a reason to give you my
time, you do not deserve it. That's just what it is. It's
not that I don't want to supportyou. It's not that I don't see
the work that you're doing. It'sthat sometimes I'm not good in my heart,
mind and spirit, and I gottatake that time for myself for a
little bit, and I'll come backwhen i'm good. That's all it is.
Like I said at the beginning ofthe room, you don't need to

(49:40):
announce everything. Everything you do,everything you say, everything you operate on,
you don't need to announce it.Everybody thinks you got to announce every
little move that you make, everylittle thing that you do. You don't
need to do that because the lessyou speak, the more moves you can
make. The less that you speak, the less tabs people can keep on
you. That's a true fact.Britt. Did I see you coming off

(50:01):
you? Oh my goodness, I'msorry. I was just trying to like
give you your flowers because like,man, I haven't been on a long
time. I just had a baby. But man, you are just speaking
to my soul. And yet ohI got com music in the background.
Okay, oh I missed the house. But AnyWho, Yeah, what you're

(50:23):
saying is amazing. What I've learnedto to kind of pick it back.
What you said is you gotta stoptelling your dreams to everyone because you don't
need that negative energy when you're tryingto manifest good stuff in your dreams.
Right, So recently, you know, I have real estate properties by Google
and Microsoft, all this stuff.Go to my Instagram, you'll see all
that. And I've spent so muchenergy this week trying to convince people in

(50:45):
my family get into real estate.Look at all this passive money I'm making.
I have properties in dr and allthis stuff, and they just always
constantly tell me that it's not gonnawork. And I'm like, well,
how do you know it that's gonnawork when you don't even own real estate.
So I say that to say,you can't take people's negative energy into
your space. So sometimes that canbe A self health care tip is making

(51:07):
sure that you're not telling everyone.So when you said be silenced, honey,
you spoke to my soul because youcan't be telling your dreams everybody because
not everybody is for you. Andnot that it's a bad thing or not
that they're bad people, it's justnot for them. They weren't chosen,
okay, and especially when you're talkingabout entrepreneur, because I've been entrepreneur for
fifteen years and let me tell yousomething, and it ain't for everybody,

(51:30):
so you can't take everyone with you. Unfortunately, I just wanted to pick
you back. I think your namewas Nick on what you said that really
resonated my soul. Brother, keepbringing a heat, Brit don't quit.
I'm out. Thank you for that, queen. I appreciate that share you
want to try on first and foremost. I had three things that I wanted
to say straight away, but thelast thing that Britt just said was Britt
don't quit. I think this's freakingfighter. That's my name. Yes,

(51:53):
Britt, don't quit it now.That was awesome. That was funny.
Zee. You asked a question ormade a statement about how many tabs we
have open on our phones. Andwhen you asked that question, I went
and counted, not including clubhouse.I counted seventeen tabs open on my phone.
Seventeen. That's crazy, and Iswipe up all mine all the time.

(52:15):
So that's just I'm assuming to day, or maybe for the past two
days, which now is going toenlighten me to pay attention to that a
lot more. The other thing Iwanted to say is attitude. Our attitudes
change when we're not in front ofour phones or we're not in social media
all the time. I literally tookmy son's PlayStation away, not because he

(52:35):
was in trouble, just because Ifelt like he was not focusing. And
not even just the focusing part ofit, it was also the interactions that
we would have because he would getirritated if I said, Okay, it's
time to get off or you know, we gotta eat dinner, you gotta
do this, And taking that awayliterally has changed the trajectory of our relationship
in a day to day during theweek exponentially. So I just wanted to

(53:00):
add that two cents in thank youguys, Thank you Nick, thank you
Dak. That's a valuable two centsright there, and the reason why I
think what you and Britt said wasso important is that sometimes like we just
feel like we're pouring into everybody else'sbucket and our bucket is empty. Like
we're pouring air at this point,We're not even pouring water, we're not

(53:22):
pouring energy, we're not pouring gems. We're just pouring air. And you
can't see air. So one thing, one thing I'll say is that something
I've learned to do is not deattached, but limit my access to people,
certain things, certain environments. Andonce I started to do that,

(53:42):
I noticed I had a lot moremental clarity and I was able to put
my focus towards things that really mattered, because when I was constantly on my
phone and constantly focused on everything elsethat was around me, like posting content,
making sure other people are good,making sure that you know everybody else
is straight and eating, and I'mnot like everybody got money in their bank
account, and I don't like,of course I want to see everybody when

(54:02):
of course I want to see everybodydo good. That's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying that sometimes I gotta makesure i'm good too. That's what
it is, like. It's notjust detoxing from your phone it's detoxing your
mind, is detoxing your guts,is detoxing your brain, is detoxing your
heart. Like sometimes you just needa complete reset. I'm not talking reset

(54:24):
just from your phone or from socialmedia or from your computer. You need
to reset in general, like sometimesyou just need to take the time for
you, Like there have been times, like like I said, I went,
I went without my phone for threedays, and let me tell you,
I had a lot more focus,and my attention was put towards more
things, and my effort was puttowards things that really needed my attention.

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And I didn't realize the value inthat until I did it. And I
didn't have to worry about who wastexting me, who emailed me, who
sent me a DM? Did Iget any new business coming in? Like
I don't have to worry about itall that well, My attention can focus
on the people that I'm around,me having natural conversations like listen. One
of my biggest pet peeves is somethingI'm learning to do more of now because

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I'm guilty of it. When yougo out to dinner with your friends or
your significant other, man, putyour goddamn phone down, seriously, put
your phone down like that. Youdon't need to be on your phone when
you out to eat, having aconversation with somebody, or out out to
eat or out doing something with somebody. Just put your phone in your pocket.
You don't need to be on yourphone like that. That Like,

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listen, that text can wait,that email can wait, that DM can
wait. That's that post that somebodymade, it can wait. That You're
not gonna miss nothing. Trust,trust, and believe you're not gonna miss
anything. I'm telling you, Like, I have not been on social media
for a whole hours, maybe twohours at a time, and I noticed
that the hours that someone posted twohours ago is right there. I didn't

(55:52):
miss anything. You can take thattime to not be on social media.
Matter of fact, take a coupleof days. You just delete the app
and then come back in two threedays. Trust me, you'll be better
off. And that's not to discreditwhat I'm saying, Like I'm a huge
supporter of everybody, because I am. But sometimes man, when i feel
depleted and I'm running on zero,it makes no sense, It makes no

(56:15):
sense. I'm just being one hundredpercent straight up. I will never sugarcoat,
I will never lie I'll never say, oh, now I gotta be
I gotta be on clubhouse every day. No, I do not gonna be
on clubhouse every single day. Idon't. I don't even host rooms every
day like I used to. SometimesI need that break. It's not a
bad thing, my friends, it'snot. That's why I want to bring

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this topic to light because I knowa lot of people and not just myself,
that are struggling because they have eitherhave brain fog, they got fomo,
they got lack of sleep, love, productivity, they're not eating rights,
they feel like they're kind of ina depressive state. That's normal.
Like you're a human, you're nota robots. You're allowed to feel those

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things out. You're allowed to gothrough that. Okay. It doesn't mean
you're behind, it doesn't mean you'retoo far ahead. You're right where you
need to be. Matter of fact, it's normal, Trust me, it's
normal. So I don't know ifanybody else got some gems, but I'm
liking this topic of discussion. I'mliking this conversation. There's no such thing
as a bad response. There's nosuch thing as even a bad gem,

(57:19):
something that can bring me value oranybody in this room. Value. That's
insightful. So I will I wantto hear from you guys. What do
you guys got from me? Hey, y'all come off and share, Shay,
come on the next Beyonce let mehear it. Can I give you
know what? Manifest and Beyonce moneyif we're talking about that detox, so
let me let me detalk, detalkfrom this mindset and bring in some Beyonce

(57:44):
money. I love that you guysare right. I love that you guys
are talking about Beyonce money. Ilove that we're talking about the kids.
Because even though my son is seventeen, he's about to eighteen. He has
to give me his phone at theend of the night, like we have

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a cutoff for phones and TV inthe house now the flip side to that
for my seven year olds and evenfor him, if you want the TV
on, it has to be likelike a screensaver from the beach or like
some sound frequency, but no TV, no stimulation, just rest at night.

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So he always he's always asking melike Mom, like you know this
is what this is how my sontalks. He's like, Mom, about
to be eighteen, Like what areI gonna put my phone up because he
doesn't realize that he hasn't looked up, like to breathe like to stop and
to think. So it's very important, especially in my household. When we

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eat dinner, there are no phonesat the table. When we get ready
to go to sleep, all phonesare put away. I don't want to
hear that game. We don't havethe game on. I was even told
the other day, they was like, just cut the internet off. I
was like, nah, the editit off. But he'll put his phone
up because yes, a lot ofteenagers. My son plays basketball, and

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honestly, it's very it's very concerningto see how angry the kids are.
Now. I am an angry parentsometime in the audience, but that's just
because I'm so passionate about him playingand how passionate he is. But the
anger on the basketball court, ohmy goodness. Can you only imagine if

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the younger generation took a break,and even if the parents, so that
we can connect with our kids.I think it's so important to detox.
I wanted to bring I brought thisup in the room the other day.
But there, let me tell youabout how I'm looking at detox. I
call it the three a's, sowe're talking about batteries, so like a
triple A battery. Stay with me. I'm a very visual person, so

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aware, acknowledge and action. Sobe aware when you need a detox.
Don't say, oh, you knowwhat, I'll get rest later. Oh
no, I'll do the detox nextweek. Keep putting it off, like,
be aware, so don't you know? And then the next thing,
acknowledge after you're aware that you needa detox. Because we can know all

(01:00:21):
day long that we need more sleep, or we need to put more you
know, healthy food in our body, or we need to put our phones
up, or we need to turnthe TV off, or we need to
detox from certain people or certain conversationsor certain apps on our phone. Like
acknowledging that we need that detox isalso important, But the last one is
action. So knowing that you needthe detox, acknowledging that you need the

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detox, and then following through withthe detox. The body is only as
strong as the mind. I said, And oh my god, this conversation
just speaks to me because me andmy son talk about this all the time.
I said, Hey, why don'tyou go running? Put your phone
up, maybe go for a run, and if you want to, I'll

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go for a run with you.It's even to the point now where when
it's time for him to put uphis phone. If I'm I'm on an
avid yoga, I practice yoga.So at night sometimes when he puts his
phone up, guess what he's like, Ma, have you did yoga yet?
Because his attention is put elsewhere.So I just want to remind the
room because it's a reminder from myselfas well. The body is only as

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strong as a mind and as parents, whether it's kids, whether it's pets,
or whether it's just being an individualin this world with life and as
life is lifing is so important tostep away to replenish the mind, the
body, and the soul. Ifwe don't take time to step away,

(01:01:50):
we're going to look up and weare going to be drained and we're not
even going to recognize the burnout becausewe're going to be sick, We're gonna
have headaches, it's going to startbecoming physical with it or with in our
body. So taking time to reset, to reboot, like even when your
phone mess up, your phone islike hey, turn me off and turn
me back. On, or whenyour work computer is like at his end,

(01:02:12):
it's like turn me off and turningof. Isn't that the first thing
we think about when something is messingup. It could be the TV in
the house, It could be thealarm system, it could be the refrigerator,
could be the coffee pot. Turnit off and turn it back on.
That is like the go to sofor us, let's turn it off
and then we could turn it backon and come back to self. Life
is lifing. If I could endwith anything for the room, remember you

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at the end of the day.I can't be a great mother or a
great wife or a great person andlive my life to the fullest if I'm
not taking time to invest in thingsthat are taking care of me mentally,
sleep, physically. For me,it is yoga on the mat for my

(01:02:57):
soul is reading. So taking aminute to step away. Everything is gonna
be okay and everything's working out.But remember you at the end of the
day. Thank you for letting mespeak us. She put a heart in
the chat for that, Nick,I need a heart in the chat,
bro No way, it was itwas like a It's like a fresher breath.

(01:03:21):
It right, Nick, when youhear that. Man, if you
guys are just joining were talking aboutthat digital detox, brother, Nick,
put this topic together. Ping theroom out, Share a room out.
There's no way we can keep going, Nick, They got it. They
gotta share the room out. Game, you can't even keep going, all
right, Share it out, man, share a room out, Ping the
room out. Man. We needmore people in here for digital detox,
so share it out. How torecharge, how to reset you dig self?

(01:03:45):
Care for women? I like thisright here. Click this link at
the top too, asav you hearfacts and then get inside the media mentors
mansioned too, because we're gonna havemore conversations like this. Nick, come
up with some more stuff, man, I need some mental health, some
breakthroughs, you feel me, alltypes of stuff. We're gonna be having
a SEO of rocket Heub come onreal soon too, So Andrea, you
know hit me. We gonna putthat together right for the community. Y'all

(01:04:06):
know what term is, Nick,I'm passing it back, bro, Let's
keep this ship rocket yeah. Man. Honestly, Bro, something that Shay
said was really it really struck mynerve because like that's something that like I
used to do repeatedly. I wouldconstantly be on my phone at dinner,

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when I'm in when I'm in acertain setting with a group of friends.
And like I noticed, like onething that we don't have enough of is
time. I'm gonna say it timeand time again in this space, like
in every other space I go toafter this, we don't have enough time.
We think we think that time ison our side, we don't even
actually have enough of it. Like, we gotta make sure we value the
time and value the people that whilethey're around us. Because one thing,

(01:04:51):
one thing I saw right, Isaw this meme and it was about an
older man and an older woman.This the older man was on his phone,
laying down in bed, scrolling throughsocial media, scrolling through emails.
Only thing that his wife wanted fromhim was attention. Now, hear me
out where I'm going with this.Three months later she passed away, and

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one thing he was regretting was notputting his phone down and taking the time
to talk to his wife. Andthat spoke to me, not even just
in the relationship aspects, but justin the life aspect, because like one
of my biggest habits and struggles,I can say this is a struggle for
me. I struggle putting my phonedown. Like I'm on my phone all

(01:05:40):
the time, especially when I'm aroundpeople that I love and I care for,
Like I value connections like relationships,conversations. I'd rather have those things
and actually live the human experience thanjust being in my phone twenty five eight,
three sixty five, Like that's notLike, Yeah, it's good because
I'm an entrepreneur and I'm constantly busy, but I'm not too busy enough to

(01:06:02):
not put my phone down and sayI need to take a break. I
need time for myself. Like there'sbeen a lot of gyms that have been
set in this space. That onething I'm getting from everything is that the
more you focus on being on yourphone, worrying about what other people are
doing, what other people are posting, Like, I get it. We're

(01:06:23):
all content created all. We wantto be a step ahead. We don't
want to fall behind. Social mediais not going anywhere. If you take
two three day break, Instagram,Clubhouse, TikTok, all these social media
platforms, they're not going to dieout in three days. It's not going
to happen. You think three Ifyou're three days gone, you're gonna miss
anything. You're not gonna miss anything. There have been times where I didn't

(01:06:47):
host rooms for a whole two monthsand I was fine. I was good.
I came back better than I everwas. But I say that because
sometimes we need a break, andwe don't it until it's in the heat
of the moment, until we gethit in the face with it to think,
yeah, we actually need a break, Like we need to take time

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for ourselves. We need a detox. Like and I'm not just talking detox
from your phone, detox your health, detox your behavior, detalks your mind.
Sometimes we're sitting around watching too muchNetflix, eating foods that are literally
draining us, making us feel heavy, lethargic, have brain fog, Like
this isn't just on your phone,but this is everything. And you wonder

(01:07:31):
why you can't show up one hundredand ten percent. You wonder why you're
one step behind because you're just worriedabout so many other things that are irrelevant,
Like we always talk about, Oh, the world's so fed up with
social media. Nowadays, everybody's ontheir phone. People don't know how to
have a conversation anymore. People needto look at social media to hold a

(01:07:53):
conversation. I'm like, man,that's so true. That's so true,
and it's sad that that's the wordwe live it today, But like I
get it. We all trying tomake it. But let's not lose sense
of ourselves. Let's not lose senseof reality. Let's not lose sense of
having human connection. Because what's thesense of having all these all having all

(01:08:15):
these clubhouse rooms, talking with allthese people if we can't get to meet
these people in real life, goout to dinner to celebrate, shake somebody's
hand, give them a hug.You know what I'm saying, what's the
point of having all these clubhouse roomsand conversations If we can't meet people in
real life, there's no point ofit. We might as well just dead
this app now because we ain't gonnacall somebody our brother our sister. Man,

(01:08:40):
how are you my brother and mysister? And you haven't met me
in real life yet? You don'teven know what I look like? How's
it? How does that make sense? How can I call you my brother
or my sister if I haven't metyou a person yet, I haven't even
take the time to see what youlook like. Heck, some people maybe
might be looking at my petar thinkingthat might not even be what Nick looks
like. You don't know. I'mjust saying, y'all, hear me out,

(01:09:05):
listen, let me vent a littlebit. I'm just I'm just keeping
it real. Like, sometimes wegot to understand that social media is not
going nowhere. Our phone is notgoing nowhere. Like we can put our
phone on D and D and beokay for a couple hours. Seriously,
sometimes we need to get back intouch with reality. We need to get
back in tune with ourselves sometimes sometimeswe need it. Sometimes I need it.

(01:09:29):
I take breaks when I need to, and I don't apologize for that.
So and so asked me, Oh, hey, you know where you've
been. I haven't seen your clubhouserooms. I've seen you post on Snapchat,
Instagram, Facebook, where you've beenat my friend Oh I've been.
I've been getting back in alignment.They're like, oh, what's that mean?
Try it and then you let meknow what it is, and then
then you let me know. Tryit and then you let me know.

(01:09:49):
So I'm liking this conversation. LikeI said, it's passionate to me because
I've taken it more often than Ishould have. But when I take these
breaks, when I recharge my personalbattery, I feel great. I feel
revitalized, I feel rejuvenated, Ifeel recharged, I feel reelectrified. I

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don't know about you, guys,but like I said, I've gone on
my phone with it for three daysand it was the best three days of
my life. Seriously. I couldwalk in nature, get vitamin D,
have conversation with friends, travel,enjoy life. I can still, I
can still make content. Still,We're just having a conversation with people.
I don't always got to have myphone to screenshot something or take a video

(01:10:34):
to be called content. I canhave a conversation with someone to still be
networking and still be productive without beingon my phone, truthfully, if I'm
being real. So yeah, likeI said, I know I'm going on
a tangent, but some of thesethings I'm just passionate about. So don't
mind me, don't mistake my don'tmistake my conquitness for passion, because I'm

(01:10:54):
just passionate, y'all. That's justwhat it is. I'm passionate because majority
of these things I'm saying, I'veexperienced it firsthand and I realized the importance
of it. So that's all I'msaying. I appreciate that, Queen,
and said, listen, man,we in the building. Nick, I
love this topic. Put a fireemoji in the chatter. Y'all enjoying this?

(01:11:15):
Nick? I think we need onereset? Man? What you think?
Man? I think we need onereset. After this reset, we're
gonna come in hot. I needone. Need a couple more shares,
Nick, it's a couple more.You feel me gonna go to like three
point thirty? You know what I'msaying, and then we out of here.
But picked the room up, Sharethe room up, Put it on
Twitter, put it on Facebook,tag us on the story. My brother

(01:11:38):
Mark Days just pulled up. Youknow what time it is right going all
the way up and j'alla could justpulled up right. Make sure y'all picked
the room up and share the roomup. Man, Media mentorship. Click
the link at the top. Man, let's go w this thunders all on

(01:12:08):
how people saying, Man, andwe ain't never going back to a Wilie.
I wasn't gonna lie to you,but I hadn't better truth. I'm
just going under my coming back dirtylod. This bit some this man,
I'm a rock stuff flight Wow.One thought moves you a ConA wh is

(01:12:44):
man coing up to some corona,Johnny hanging out to Bentley Wyn swinging nt
Coner. Take the lady, thisis not a lower This on foot owners.
This ain't for the least. Itstime for locust. You can never
time my slinkis put on the blacklist. I'm like, bye, Felicia,
I'll be on the island water spinishMama sater and shorty shit you wil
in. It's no way that I'mgonna eat it. Don't feed out,

(01:13:06):
just don't need it. I'm like, we just trying to win. Clip
full kiss. Clint took a fish, don't fish. We bitched two friends
kissing on the et and it's likea fresh shit, new bitch. When
we hit that black we spending it. We be riding bulletproof because we be
really y. He was riding bulletproof. We shut it. Two week fifty,

(01:13:27):
I was thirty man when Always Thirtystarted One Arounds had twenty million.
By this time I'm thirty. Iwas in and out de been that field
and by thirty haying with the killers, playing Bye bye birty. You did
kind of on. Try to tackthis my mother, Hey, nick,
man, I think they ready forsome more jam this this man digital detoks
man, I don't know, man, y'all. Let you know what y'all

(01:13:47):
think. Digital des he doing bro, Man, y'all, let me know.
Sorry. I had to build theanticipation up a little bit. I
wanted to see who's active a littlebit. Man, You know what I
mean, because I'm an energy guy, y'all. I don't know about y'all,
but I thrive off energy. IfI feel the energy is low,

(01:14:08):
I gotta come in and just say, hey, how y'all doing. You
know what I'm saying. I'm justthe energy guy. Man, don't mind
me. That's just turn y'all upa little bit. Goddamn it. That's
just yeah, man, that's justme. Man, That's just me.
So listen, let me say.Let me say something real quick. I
see a lot of beautiful faces inthis space, mis manifest Andre. I'm
gonna shot y'all on individually, Shay, Miss of Love, Sherry Jacob,

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Queen, Marisol Dante, Valerie,Jamisha, Angelica, My man Mark Days,
man Mark Days, You slipping yourhere under the cracks and I say
nothing crazy, bro, crazy crazyman. I was going on Laura and
Khaled, Heidi, what's up?Juliana? How you doing? What's up?
Miss Denzel seven, Nikola, Candice, breethe Ace, Coco Cat,

(01:14:50):
everybody in the audience. Hope y'alldoing good? Peace and love is always
man. Listen, listen, y'allknow how we getting down? Man?
Y'all know what's going on? Whatdo y'all think about this? How to
recharge, reset and refresh digital detox? How y'all feeling about this conversation?
Based on what's been said? Andput one in the chat? Y'all want

(01:15:11):
Nick to keep going? Nick can'tkeep going. If y'all want, like,
put the one in the chat.Y'all ready in the chat? Bro,
Put the one in the chat.Y'all want to keep going because Nick
could be doing anything else. Weain't. We ain't gotta you know what
I'm saying, Nick, we won'tsee who's in the chat real quick,
bro, Let's see who's up inthe neck. I don't know, man,
what they talking about? Man,I don't know, Nick. I

(01:15:33):
think they ready brom hmm, Ithink so sure, I think so man.
I think let's get the ninety let'seven get the ninety. Let's get
the ninety. Let's get the ninetyat least, let's see if they're ready
get the ninety. G Let mesho, y'all, let's get the nineties.
Let's go go. Is it chat? What y'all doing? I got

(01:15:53):
a lot of powerful people in here, man. I want to hear what
y'all gotta say. Man, becausea lot of y'all work nine to five,
a lot of y'all have kids,a lot of y'all are entrepreneurs,
like we all in different professions.But listen, we all can relate to
this topic. Like digital detox isnot just for one group of people,
It's for everybody. We all canexperience what digital detox is. Like I
said, and I'm gonna say itagain while I'm blue in the face,

(01:16:15):
if that's even gonna happen. Itake frequent breaks, and sometimes when I
take these breaks, I don't tellpeople I'm taking these breaks. I mentioned
it earlier. You don't got toannounce everything. You don't gotta tell people
like you don't gotta go make somesocial media post or put on your Instagram
story a Snapchat story and say hey, y'all, so I'm just kind of
going through it at the moment.I'm just taking a break. Look,

(01:16:38):
look, you seeking validation at thatpoint, you don't need to do all
that. You don't. I knowpeople that don't say nothing, and I'll
be wondering, where the hell dothey go? They fall off the face
of the earth. I ain't heardfrom them at all. But you know
what, I'm like, A,you know what, some things don't got
to be explained. Some things don'tgot to be going to descriptive detail.
You don't got to announce everything.And that's okay, that's cool, that's

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completely okay. And I've learned thatone of the most valuable assets we have
is the two things between our eyes. That's our brain. Our brain.
If our brain does not have topar we cannot think straight and think clearly.
We are not going to be productive. Doesn't matter how motivated we wake
up, doesn't matter how we ambusinesswe may be. If we are having

(01:17:23):
brain fog and our mind's running athousand miles a minute, we can't keep
up. We are gonna be onestep behind. We can't put one foot
in front of the other at all. And one thing I want to share
with y'all that I've learned along myjourney do detoxing. And I'm not just
like I said, I'm not talkingabout just your phone, because if you

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can detox from your phone, youcan detox from anything. I'm a firm
believer in that. If you canknot, if you can put your phone
down and not be on it forhours of the time, days at the
time, you can detox almost anything. You can detox your mind, you
can detox your health, your guts, your behavior, your word patterns.
You can detox almost anything. Trustand believe you can detox about anything.

(01:18:06):
And it's a true fact. Butyou can't say you're gonna detox it if
you don't actually do it. BecauseI know a lot of people that say,
oh, yeah, like I'm inneed of a detox, you know,
I need to take a break.But y'all, some people don't don't
do it, they don't practice it. I have never seen them do it
once. Never be that person thatsays they're going to do something and don't

(01:18:27):
do it, because your word iseverything. Your word is bond at that
point. If you're if you're oneof those people that constantly say something and
don't do it. I mean,I don't even got to go into detail.
I really don't. I don't evengot to go into detail. I
don't even got to explain it.I don't got to explain as to why
that's that's crucial. And one thingI'll add right, one thing I stopped

(01:18:49):
doing that was a huge factor forme. A lot of y'all don't notice,
but I don't drink alcohol. Idon't drink alcohol. Stop drinking alcohol
year and a half ago. Iwas never really an avid drinker. I
detox from that. That was somethingthat was no benefit to me. But
I feel great not doing it becauseall I drink now is water and I

(01:19:10):
feel good and I'm not wanting toknock anybody, but it's just not for
me. It's just not for me. But that was one thing I had
to give up, and I feelbetter doing it. I feel amazing.
I go to the gym every day, I eat, I try to eat
right as best I can, andI want I want to live a long
life. And something that Linseaiah said, I see you may so I'm gonna

(01:19:30):
give it to you in one second. Something that Linzaiah said that really struck
me was that blue light factor likelooking at your phone too much. Because
when you're looking at your phone toomuch, you have a look at your
phone so much, your eyes startto hurt. If that's happened to you,
put a thumbs up. When youlook at your phone so much and
your eyes start to hurt, that'shappened to me a lot. You know

(01:19:50):
what that is someone I know inthis true story. I'm not making this
sub I don't know the person personally, but I found out through a mutual
friend that someone they know I wentblind by looking at their phone too much.
It's a true fact. I'm notmaking it up. I don't know.

(01:20:13):
I don't know how true it is, but they said someone went blind
from looking at their phone too much. Now, until I see the proof,
I can't really believe it, becauseanybody can say anything right. But
I'm starting to think, like,because I've looked at my phone a lot
of my eyes start to hurt.I'm thinking to myself like, Okay,
maybe this might be a little bittrue. I don't know how true,

(01:20:34):
but I notice the more I lookat especially like when I keep my phone
so close to my face, LikeI don't need to keep my phone that
close to my face. I don't. I don't know about you guys,
but I don't know. I don'tknow if you guys ever had that happen
to you too, where you likeput your phone so close to your face,
like you can give it like anarm's length and be fine, like
you can still see. You don'tneed to keep your phone like a centimeter

(01:20:56):
away from your face. It's notrealistic. You can have it about an
arm's length to be okay. So, Marisol, I'm gonna go over to
you what gems you got for us? Hey? Nick, I was actually
raising not raising my hand, butjust putting my hands up in response to
what you were saying about detoxing foralcohols. I don't drink when I go

(01:21:21):
to social gatherings, I barely drink. I mean I drink like one cup
and that's it. But I'm stillthe life of the party. But anyway,
I just wanted to let you knowthat I agree what you were saying.
I'm all for it and for stack. I had a question, what
are your thoughts on organizing a meetupnetworking event for media mentors. It's crazy

(01:21:45):
you said that because me and Nickwas already talking about that already, So
we'll put something like that together soon. Send me your number and then we'll
talk about it. Put that together, Yeah, great, come down or
travel to Boston. In Boston,m Stack, My New York girls will

(01:22:06):
come too, right, Miss Manifest, miss self Low. You already know
we can guardpool up there. Let'sgo down, you know, Stack.
It's so funny she said that,because remember I told you I want to
do a big networking event early spring, early summer up here. I think

(01:22:27):
I remember talking to you about that, man, and I'm actually I'm actually
you know, it's something I've beenworking on, but I haven't really spoke
on it much. But I'm gonnabe putting together a massive networking event in
my home city, like straight up, like I'm not talking just for people
in Boston. I'm talking all overlike you. If you come from all
the way from California, you're welcome. If you live in New York,
you welcome. If you live inAfrica, you're welcome. You can pull

(01:22:50):
up and come through. Like it'sgonna be massive. I'm not talking like,
no, one hundred people. I'manticipating five to ten people, maybe
even more depending on baby Can.I've been looking for venues. I'm looking
for a place to do it becauseI'm just preparing for the worst. Not
preparing for the worst, like it'sa bad thing. But I want to

(01:23:11):
meet some of y'all in person,Like, like I talked about a lot
of y'all I've built great connections within relationships with on this app. I
want to meet you guys in reallife. Just the magice putting, putting
a voice to the face, actuallygetting hugged, somebody handshake them like carry
that off of social media. Man, that's that's just super dope to me.
I don't know about y'all, butthat's a good feeling. So I'm

(01:23:32):
glad you. I'm glad you mentionedthat, Marisol, because we're gonna We're
gonna make it happen. I don'thave an exact date, but I'm gonna
talk to Stack further and we go. We definitely gonna put it together.
So once we have that all together, we'll they We'll let everybody know.
Sounds good, let me know howit can help. I'm here, absolutely
absolutely, So if anybody else gotsome gems on digital detox, please let

(01:23:54):
it, like, let us know, because I'm open to being enlightened.
I need some I need some feedbackand some info because there might be some
things I'm not doing that can implementin my journey as well. Value is
that you I come off Mike,oh, Value, Yeah, I can't
hear you. You're off you,but I can't hear you. Leave the

(01:24:15):
room and come back. It happenssometimes. What's that song from Jeopardy when
they're waiting to write the write todamthe songs called. But I know what
you're talking about the theme song rightnow. I probably know that because he's

(01:24:41):
a Canadian. That's I got excited. Sorry she is she come back in?
Value? You there, She's there, but I still can't hear you.
Valerie, turn the Wi Fi off? Maybe that's sorry. Value.
We'll come back to you. We'llcheck on you in this second. Angelica,

(01:25:01):
you want to come in, sayshow you doing? I'm doing good.
I got a fleeting moment between.It's tax season, so it's I'm
feeling I'm feeling it. But blessingsto what is happening anyway. Happy to
see everybody in the room, andI just I want to give some tips
because I actually this last month dealingwith my concussion and things like that.

(01:25:24):
I actually like the fact that Ihave been detoxing and that I have been
not on social media now. Beforethis, I would always use my screen
time because it shows me my screentime, how much screen time I had
on my phone. And when mydoctor limited my screen time, I was
like, it reduced significantly, andI think I just got in the habit

(01:25:45):
of doing so. And so whenI was looking at my screen time,
I spent about fourteen to fifteen hourson the phone, like literally looking at
stuff on the phone. What Iwas doing on the phone. I think
I designed and stuff a lot onthe phone, But I was looking at
my screen time and I was like, gosh, I didnk fourteen to fifteen
I was on this phone. GrantedI was doing like work, but then
I'm like, I'm looking at myproductivity on there, and I'm looking at

(01:26:09):
where I spent my time and thingslike dan, I'm like, I could
be doing some other stuff. Andone of the things I can say about
digitally detox and I know it's away the world, it's a way for
it to communicate, but it's somethingthat you have to become disciplined in not
be so app to pick up yourphone So what I have learned to do
is all of my notifications going toa scheduler, so I don't see them

(01:26:32):
unless I go to the scheduler likeand see them, like it's a notification
on iPhones that'll say where do youwant these notifications to go? Allow them
or allow them to schedule, andthey go into schedule, Meaning I look
at them when you know, Ilook at them when I feel like it,
not when they pop up. LikeI had this thing with Clubhouse that

(01:26:53):
when I would see a Clubhouse notificationpop up, I will go into that
room. Now I don't see anyof your clubhouse notifications, Instagram not I
see nobody notifications until I look atthe notifications in my phone. So I
turned off the push notifications to keepme from being tempted, because it's a
lot of things that I have todo, Like even though I am resting,

(01:27:13):
I'm still working, but I stillwith the limited time that I can
be on the screen, I haveto make it worth it before you know,
I get tired or cause I gettired more frequently nowadays, and before
my eyes started hurting, and youreyes, like my concussion enhanced is that
now, but your eyes can reallyhurt from looking at the screen too much.

(01:27:34):
So some of the things that I'vedone is just turn off my push
notifications. I set a bedtime notificationat ten thirty, so my phoneill started
powering down at now like nine thirty, nine forty five. Sometimes I like,
if I'm doing certain things on myphone, zoom meetings, it googled

(01:27:57):
me, anything like that. Ihave work notification, so it'll put me
in that work do not disturb typething, and so and Plus I have
to really time manage my time,especially being a single mother and an entrepreneur.
An entrepreneur with employees and clients,I have to really prioritize where my

(01:28:20):
focus is. And so although Ido a lot of things on my phone,
if I'm not doing things on myphone or my laptop, I'm making
sure I'm sending time with my kids. And time management for me is kind
of easy, I guess, andI've been disciplined for a while in it
because my son is artistic and he'swe found out he was artistic when he

(01:28:42):
was four, So a lot ofmy time management skills come from him,
like figuring out his schedule and beinga part of his schedule in his world
so now I'm disciplaining in time management. But when it comes to this phone,
like I can design, create,communicate on this phone. But I've
been learning that just the mostly strollon social media like Facebook, Instagram.
I don't like the energy on Facebook, so I don't really get on Facebook

(01:29:05):
like that TikTok every now and then. I mean, I just was a
proved of TikTok shops, so Iprobably just only go in there and look
at sales. Instagram, I post, and I get off. I don't
even see the notifications from them untilI open up my app if I have
a few leisure times. But Itry to make it a habit of not
aimlessly strolling, because aimlessly strolling willtake you down a rabbit hole of going

(01:29:26):
from this video to that video tothat to that to that, and before
you know you're ben spent like anhour or two, your eyes hurting,
your head's hurting, You're like,where did my time go? And so
some of the things that I've learnedto just turn off my push notifications,
allowed to go into the scheduler beingdisciplined and in that, you know,
it takes twenty one days to forma habit in twenty one days to break
one. So if you're consistently doingthe same thing over and over for twenty

(01:29:49):
one days, eventually it's gonna becomea habit, and then you're gonna realize
that you really didn't have to doall those things that you were doing in
the first place it and it justbecomes more productive. I have to really
realize what was my life like beforesocial media. That's hard to imagine because
I've been on social media since twothousand and five, well probably before that

(01:30:09):
because it was like my Space,but I was on a computer, so
as far as phone Facebook two thousandand five when it was like the college
Facebook, and so I've been onhere for a while, So like,
what was my life like before that? I like to read. I like
to self develop, so I haveto figure out other alternatives. Like I
don't even like reading books on myphone. I would rather buy the book

(01:30:32):
and read it because I might getdistracted. So it's just creating those boundaries,
having that discipline, and it's nothard. It may seem hard when
you're initially trying it, but it'snot hard at all if you keep at
it, and if you got tofocus, if you know it's something that

(01:30:53):
you need to get done, ifyou know it's something that you need to
do. Because I have so muchstuff going on. I think I got
three calendar in my room. Ihave a week at glance, I got
my whole month calendar. Then Igot my to do list. Like I
have all those things visually in frontof me. They're not on my phone.
Now. I do got calendars inmy phone, but I like to
see it where I can touch itand check things off and things like that.

(01:31:14):
So create a system with yourself that'sa self care regiment. If you
have to turn off those push notifications, do that because those can be a
distraction where you're trying to work onyour phone. Try not to aimlessly stroll
because that can lead you down arabbit hole on any app. And just
be very intentional with your time.I am at this space where time and
energy isn't valuable to me, soit's I kind of equated to it's no

(01:31:38):
amount of money you can give meto aimlessly do anything that I feel like
I'm gonna waste my time on.So it's easier for me to say no
and set those boundaries. And so, like you know, if I'm not
in media mentors. You're probably notgonna see me in too many clubhouse rooms
like period, because I don't feelthe need to. I come here because
I want to support and you know, be apart, but anywhere else,

(01:32:01):
like if I come in, it'sjust because I'm genuinely supporting. But I
had to learn I little backstory whenthis app first started. Stack though we
used to be on some rooms twentyfour hours period, but I'm like,
gosh, we were doing and ifyou're like in a room where you're active,
it's hard for you to be activein a room and be doing something
at the same time. I don'tknow how anybody else ADHD is set up,

(01:32:24):
but that's my like, I gottapay attention to what I am and
so as I wing myself off ofclubhouse and other apps, I just came
very intentional with my time. Ihave five active businesses to run, all
of them have employees. It's taxisand people are pulling at me, phone
calls, all those things. Sojust be intentional about how you schedulize your

(01:32:45):
time. Turn off those pushing notifications, tune out those things. Let airplane
mode be your friend, or evenD and D they made the red button
when somebody calls your phone for areason, hit end if you don't feel
like talking. But when it comesdown to digital things like I have a
time where I check my emails.I check them in the morning and in
the evening, and that's why Ihave that disclaim between four to forty eight
hours. So setting those systems upin your business or even with yourself can

(01:33:10):
help you have better time management andyou can spend your time on other things.
And always remember, it's okay tosecond break, it's okay to unwind,
it's okay to unplug. Social media'sgoing to be here, it's not
going anywhere. These digital platforms aregoing to be here. But you have
to take care of yourself, takecare of your mindset, take care of

(01:33:30):
you. If you're no good toyourself, If you're no good to yourself,
how can you be good to others? How can you serve the people
that you're going to come across,And whether that's your clients or your family
or your friends, how can youserve them if you're no good to you.
So at the end of the day, I always choose you over these
digital platforms. I don't care howexcited they are choose you because you're needed

(01:33:53):
in this earth. Everybody has apurpose. So and I think I adopted
that mindset where I chose myself.And when I did that, and I
knew Facebook and Instagram, I mightnot even post on Instagram every day,
but my email marketing is running.I might not be on Facebook all the
time, but my Google ads andFacebook ads are running. So I'm still
making money. So it doesn't botherme to not be on these platforms like

(01:34:17):
that. So once you become disciplineand figure out what's your intention on these
platforms while you're here, what you'redoing, what's the purpose, you will
serve your purpose and realize you gotother time to spare. And so that's
all I want to share. Oh, that is a healthy mindset to adopt.

(01:34:39):
And I appreciate that, Ajelica,thank you for coming and dropping those
gems, because everything that you alludedto, I said the same thing and
beginning in the room, and I'mthinking to myself, man, it's so
good to hear the second tier,because sometimes I've constantly told my friends and
myself, like I don't need tobe on social media all the time.
Like sometimes like there's other things inmy life that need my attention, like

(01:35:00):
my goals. Like if I'm focusingso much on scrolling and seeing what people
are posting, I'm forgetting to postcontent myself. I'm forgetting to respond to
DMS myself. I'm forgetting to lookin and lock you with myself. Like
and once I feel like I'm outof alignment, then I feel like I'm
losing all sets to myself, andI feel like it's important to take that
time to refocus, recharge, refresh, revitalize, rejuvenate as many times as

(01:35:25):
you need to, Like it's noteven just one time and you're done,
Like you can do as many timesas you want to, as many times
you feel the need to, Likeit's not just a one time thing.
You're done, Like, all right, that's it. I don't need to
recharge your very again. Like sometimesyou gotta do it more than one time,
and it might be at spurts,like you might do it right now,
you might do it two months fromnow, Like it's it's all on
your timing. So it's really justwhat you feel good, Nick, real

(01:35:49):
quick, we should do this daily? Like how so, y'all I'm in
this age now? Why I takenaps to have to day. Don't judge
me. I'm up at five o'clockevery morning, though, But we should
schedule time in our phone for internetbreaks, like an alarm that reminds us
let me get off this phone,Let me put my phone down, Let
me close my laptop. Let meget up and stretch my legs. Let

(01:36:11):
me walk around the house. Youknow, do that. Let me go
out and get a breath of freshair. You know, we should schedule
those internet quote unquote breaks, Imean for ourselves mentally, and if it's
like it doesn't automatically come to you, put it on your phone, and
you know, when the alarm hits, put your phone down, close your
laptop, go take a break,go walk away. For me, I

(01:36:32):
take it out, Okay, Itake it out twice a day because I
beat it. But I also takeinternet breaks too, because I feel like,
if you're on the phone or onyour laptop two and three hours,
your brain is going to get overstimulated. And I know about overstimulation because of
my son. My son stems outsometimes when he's on his game or things

(01:36:55):
you know too much, And stemmyfor artistic kids is like different than stemming
for us. You might feel overwhelmedand me like jittery and like, So
in order for your brain to notgo to that place, make a note
to take daily breaks. You maystart off with one break and then that
one break might feel good, andthen your brain is refreshed and your eyes
are renewed. And then you didit for twenty minutes, and you got

(01:37:15):
up and you walked out the door. You stretched, you move your legs,
you got some circulation in your body, and then you got back down
and you was able to go backinto that creative mode. Then you got
up again and took another break.Like schedule those internet breaks and shut down
all phones, tablets, I passwhatever, laptop, close it, computer,
sleep it, and go pour twentyminutes into yourself, whether you run

(01:37:39):
and play, stretch or whatever.Start scheduling those into your life daily.
I guarantee you'll feel a difference.Like literally, I take powering out to
like thirty minutes an hour or whatever, but I feel good once I do
that. So start scheduling those aswell, because it would definitely help,
like stimulate so many things inside ofyou and change your energy and how you

(01:38:00):
see things, and you won't feelso bogged down. I'm an energy person,
so like I love energy, Ilove vibes. And if I'm not
in a good mood because i didn'ttake a break from the internet or because
i didn't do whatever, then I'mno good to my employees of anybody else.
And so they get like cranky Angelica. And I don't want them to
have cranky Angelica. I want themto have, you know, joyful Angelica.

(01:38:24):
So I have to realize what Ihave to do on my part and
for me in order for me tobe present in other people and in their
world. So I just want toadd that in Mick. Absolutely second that
statement. Fact, that's a hugefact, huge fact. Absolutely Queen stack
you there, brother, how wefeeling? Man, what's going on?

(01:38:45):
One more thing to put them befirst? That comes in if he doesn't
mind, Absolutely ahead, And Jelicajust reminded me of something that I wish
I would have remembered it earlier.But it's fine, it's okay if it
really I truly believe that it's okayif you don't something done today. It
is okay if you don't get somethingdone. And the reason why I don't
know what she said, but asa parent or a single parent. I'm

(01:39:06):
speaking specifically to myself. I feellike I stay up way later than I
need to because I feel like Ineed to have everything done until the next
day, like for the next day, and sometimes it's okay not to get
that stuff done. I just wantto say that part. Absolutely absolutely thank

(01:39:27):
you for that, Sherry. Iappreciate that stack. How you feeling,
Brother, What you think of theroom so far? Man? What you
think about all the gems being dropped? I don't even know if stacking his
phone that man always busy, bro, that man's stack is always busy.
Man got to give credit? Whatcredit is doing? Man? Listen,
Man, I don't know if anybodyelse got anything else they want to share?

(01:39:47):
Ye, go ahead? What what'sgoing on? Oh? Man?
I missed the beginning of the roombecause I was in the room with sign
me pouring my heart out. ButI'm so glad to be here, and
I'm I'm glad for the replace here, so I would go back and listen,
but I wanted to share. Iheard what she said and Angelica and

(01:40:09):
even with you said Nick, thatdefinitely like detoxing from phone and everything.
It was just like being that.I'm so like big on this energy thing.
It's just like I know now,like if somebody is around me and
their energy is not level, Istart to like declinent. So it was
like, yeah, no, Idon't know what you have going on over

(01:40:30):
there, but you have to departfrom me because I have enough on my
plate and I have my own thingsgoing on. Even my kids, like
to this day, they are soelectronic. I'd be like, yo,
like you all have the detox fromyour phone. So like I've been like
entering it in there into our schedulebecause my kids have always been on the

(01:40:53):
schedule. So I'm like, youknow what, We're going to enjoy each
other's company, enjoy each other's space. Christmas time, I had to get
books. I had them get boardgames because it's like they so used to
being on you know, the Xboxor PlayStation. It's like what happened to
Candy Land and Little in House?You know, board games that you can

(01:41:14):
do, you know, to interactwith each other, like falling away from
your phone when it's time to sitdown and eat. I'm like, hey,
y'all know if y'all got your phonetwenty four to seven, Like,
how y'all gonna know what's going onwhen they get home is take your book
bags off, mom? How wasyour day today? I tell them how
my day was, How was y'allday? Anything happened? I got to

(01:41:34):
keep asking them multiple questions because theybe trying to hit you with them shirt
and wording, Oh my day wasgood? Oh okay, what did you
do today? Did anybody upset you? X, Y and Z and so
on and so forth. So allthis stuff is like the key essential is
like I was so glad that theyhad the new iPhone and it tells you
like if her phone is too closeto your faith, and I'll be telling

(01:41:58):
my kids like y'all need to backy'all, Oh my eyes hurt. I
can't see it, or they havethe phone was so loud and it's right
there in their faces, and I'mlike, yo, like my ears are
so visitive and everything. Like it'sjust like y'all can't hear your phone.
It's right there in your face,like turn it down, you know,
detox from it. So it's likethis room is like very much needed.

(01:42:23):
I've already been working on it,taking those walks, nature walks just to
you know, release those things.And I'm glad that it's son outside because
I'm in Pennsylvania, so it's startingto be like some nice days. And
I'm glad because my birthday is Saturday, and it's like, I hope I'll
enjoy it this nice weather. Idon't have anything planned, but I'm just

(01:42:47):
gonna enjoy the best of it.Twenty thirty two years being on this earth
is good to me. But yes, I teach my kids about detoxing from
their phone and like you said,from people too, people as well,
because they are energy suckers. Theywill suck the life out of you and
you don't even know it. Butthat's why I'm so glad that I've been

(01:43:10):
grounded in myself and knowing the energywhen it's not right, Like of course
people want to invite you, butit's like, no, if I know
these people want to be there,I'm not being there, like I'm not
being there. And I try totell my siblings, like, y'all don't
understand because y'all not at this levelthat I'm at. My energy is not
for everybody. I don't have nobeef with anybody, but I just can't

(01:43:32):
be here like y'all have to understandthat, Like when you're an energy person.
You just can't be around every typeof energy. If I figured,
I'll just say this, if Godnot there, I don't want to be
there. That's what I say.Like, if God is not there,
I do not want to be there. So don't invite me because line house

(01:43:53):
out of ten, I'm not coming. Like, if it's not benefiting me
in no shape, way or form, if it's not uplifting empowering me,
I'm not the beer. And thatis my choice. You can feel how
you want to feel, think whatyou want to think, so forth,
so be it. I don't evencare, and I'm gonna wrestle on Mike
because I'm getting home one day.But thank you guys so much. Who

(01:44:16):
you over here dropping gems. Iappreciate that. That's powerful. Thank you
for that, Queen, thank youfor that. Listen, man, we
were going for about a good hourand forty five minutes. Man, this
has been a powerful topic. Ithink Stack is busy in the background,
But let me just say this toy'all. I appreciate y'all for coming through.
I appreciate you all for dropping somegems in the media mentor's house.
I'm not sure what topic we gottomorrow. But it's going to be super

(01:44:40):
impactful, super insightful. In themedia Mentor's house. You know how we
do five days a week. It'salways powerful topics, always great discussions,
always great conversations, great Q anda's from time to time, and this
onement listen was a great topic today. I appreciate you guys for coming in
on recognizing the importance of digital detoxingdetox as a whole. And for those

(01:45:00):
of y'all that don't know, Ihave a live Q and A tonight with
my good friend Coco Brown, comedianand actress who's been on nine to eleven,
who's been on TED two, man, a lot of y'all favorite TV
shows. Man, So we're doinga live Q and A tonight in my
room and only the motivated. It'sgonna be powerful. If y'all want to
come through, definitely tap in.If not, I get it, man,
we all got things going on.Sometimes you got to take that that

(01:45:23):
digital detox. You see what I'msaying. But listen, man, go
support to people. Man, whatif they got rooms? Even if you
can just listen to the audience,Man, that's that's something man. Support
is free. It costs nothing.Be there for your people and support their
endeavors on their journey because a lotof us we're still figuring it out.
A lot of us are still puttingthe pieces of the puzzle together. A
lot of us are still trying toyou know, be famous, be be

(01:45:45):
you know, be impactful, besuccessful. We all, we all want
to do great things, and Isee everybody in this space this is the
year to do that. Twenty twentyfour is gonna be a game changer.
I don't know about you, guys, but I feel the energy shift coming.
It's gonna it's gonna turn some heads. It's gonna turn some heads.
So it's uh, I'm preparing myselffor it. So I hope you guys
have an amazing day. Hey,next one question, what time is your

(01:46:09):
room out? Eight pm tonight Central, I mean Eastern Eastern time. Yes,
thank you, no problem. Iwill see y'all tonight. Appreciate you
all for tapping in and I'll seey'all tonight. Let's go

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