July 24, 2025 • 58 mins
Ever feel like you’re doing all the healing work—but still stuck in the same survival loop? In this powerful episode, Kathy Baldwin sits down with Girisha Andrea Steigler, an embodiment guide and nervous system healer, to unlearn the performative patterns that high-achieving women carry: savior syndrome, overgiving, and the constant pursuit of external validation.
Together they explore the role of fascia, trauma, and stored emotion in shaping our identity—and how somatic healing offers the key to truly “leveling up.” You’ll hear raw stories, scientific insight, and soul-level truths that challenge the myth that success must come from struggle.
🎁 Find Girisha’s work and free offerings on Instagram @girisha.andrea.steigler
📚 Explore Kathy’s books: Unlearn the Crap & Level UP and How I Unlearned MY Crap — now on Amazon & bookstores worldwide.
✨ Visit https://kathybaldwin.me to start your own soul-led transformation.
Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and drop a comment if this episode moved you.
🎙️ Key Highlights:
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Crap to Unlearn: The belief that self-worth must be earned through external achievements and over-functioning. Girisha had to dismantle the survival patterns of “good girl,” “performer,” and “savior” to reclaim her true identity.
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Kathy’s Reflection: Kathy reveals her own entanglement with performance and caregiving identities—how she collapsed after being “too strong for too long.”
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Embodied Healing Wisdom: Girisha explains how trauma is stored in the nervous system and fascia, and how body-based healing—not just mindset—unlocks transformation.
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High-Achiever Burnout Signs: Chronic overgiving, boundary collapse, imposter syndrome, constant productivity pressure, feeling “never enough.”
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Challenged Myths: That healing must be linear, talk therapy is enough, or success equals hustle.
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Practical Reframe: Emotions aren’t problems to fix—they’re messengers. And healing isn’t fixing yourself, it’s remembering who you are underneath the programming.
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Girisha’s Gift: Listeners are invited to explore her embodied work and upcoming somatic offerings via her Instagram and healing sessions.
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💡 Memorable Quotes:
Girisha:
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“The body remembers what the mind forgets. That’s where the truth lives.”
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“You don’t heal by thinking your way through—it’s in the pause, the breath, the tremble.”
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“I had to stop performing healing and actually feel it.”
Kathy:
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“I didn’t just collapse emotionally—I collapsed energetically. And in that collapse, I heard my soul.”
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“You can’t level up if you’re still trying to earn your worth with every step.”
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Camera right in front.
Okay, are you ready?
Welcome to Unlearn the Crap and Level Up
Your Soul is Calling.
My name is Kathy Baldwin.
I am your host and I am so
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thrilled to help you with your Unlearning the
Crap journey.
Unlearn the Crap, as you know, is the
condition responses and automatic programming that go into
the neuro programming of our brain.
It is our limiting beliefs.
It is our thoughts.
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It is our habits.
It is our autopilot.
It is also from our society, from our
family, from our ancestral learnings.
Crap is also a physical component because everything
in our world is both energetic and physical.
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So what we think about, we bring about.
And in our physical body, when we suppress,
when we do not process our stress or
our traumas, we create physical disease within our
body.
We change our gut microbiome, which creates inflammation,
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which is the root cause of disease, whether
it is autoimmune disease or cancer or any
other diseases, we have been able to scientifically
now link it directly to our gut microbiome,
which is a direct reflection of the thoughts
we think.
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So the crap that we need to unlearn
is that which will affect every area of
our life.
And today's guest is going to be a
amazing conversation because we are going to talk
about the feminine expression of sexuality, of orgasm,
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of spirituality, of empowerment.
Today, we are going to go real and
raw with Andrea Steigler from.
I'm hungry.
Hungry, oh my goodness.
I don't know why I had a brain
fart there.
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It's okay.
And I'm not hungry at this moment because
there are also some jokes around that.
I remember I was in Germany and there
was a big round table and each country
was representing themselves.
And then someone made this joke, are you
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hungry?
And no, I said, I'm from Hungary.
I love that.
Andrea, could you please tell everybody before we
get into our fantastic conversation, what crap you
needed to unlearn so that you could level
up?
Yeah, thank you very much for having me.
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And then when you just shared this, it
started to arrive into my body, and every
single word you were just saying, it was
landing in me so deeply because I also
recognized and working on this that all what
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we are carrying, reflecting our true essence in
the one sense and also what I needed
to learn and unlearn that how value is
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my worth.
Because my worth was defined by others.
And you also mentioned my family, the society,
any kind of communities, the school, and the
different kind of ways how I connected with
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people.
And I was so sensitive to really believe
everything what I was told, how I was
labeled.
And I didn't question because this somehow, this
was my natural state of being that if
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someone told me something, even it was good
or bad, I completely just absorb it and
I became happy with it.
And so it led me to really felt
so much shame because most of the time
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I got shameful and painful and criticism and
judgmental labels.
And most of the time I wanted to
just disappear, to be transparent, to hide, to
run away.
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But most of the time I was just
frozen and silent.
And I had no clue what I wanted,
what I needed.
And I remember that in the most difficult
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moments and most painful moments, even it was
physical or emotional or mental, I had a
dream.
And this dream kept coming back in my
dreams.
And somehow it was that gateway to run
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away from the big pain in my body,
in my soul, in my emotions.
And it was a long journey that I
needed to realize that I'm much more than
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these neighbors.
I'm much more worthy than what others told
me that I was.
What others could see me because I was
different because I was something special and unique.
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And even though I had all of this,
and then I started to hide myself, that
even through that, my light was shining and
others could feel that.
So my learning process was to go back
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to this source, to find my true worth
inside of me, no matter what others are
telling me.
And it's so beautiful how the word is
reflecting on my healing journey that several times
I'm hearing from social media that there are
trolls, there are a lot of negative comments.
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And I haven't received this in the last
few years any, even though I don't have
so many comments because of the sensitivity of
my work.
But I'm so grateful that I could create
that space.
What I'm really thankful that you are also
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created here for me a really deep and
loving and accepting safe space that I could
share this.
I haven't shared this before from this angle.
Well, before we go into this.
And what I was just sharing that I
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haven't shared from this angle, my story.
So I really appreciate that I could also
reach from this connections.
Yeah, I love that.
Before we go too deep in how you
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serve the world, could you please tell everybody
who you are and how you serve the
world now that you've unlearned your craft and
you're leveling up?
Yeah, thank you.
So as I just mentioned in my healing
journey, I spent the last 21 years on
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finding this worthiness and also my uniqueness and
my gems and helping women to find their
own source of pleasures, healing their traumas transgenerational
patterns.
And also all of these limited beliefs, what
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holds us back to fully connect with our
precious, beautiful, magical body and really feel and
experience more pleasure, not just in a sexual
way, but even with our sensuality, with our
senses and every single moment and more moments
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than before to come back home, to connect
with this beautiful temple of our soul and
enjoy this femininity and finding, and this is
recently, I'm also working, finding the harmony inside
of us between the feminine and the masculine.
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Stop war, stop fight with others, stop finding
responsibilities or responsible persons or blaming others or
ourselves, but really coming back to the present
moment, more moments than before and release the
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heaviness of the past, the heaviness of our
history and worrying about the future.
And being in the present moment is so
magical.
This is so whole.
And this is the moment when we can,
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through our body, we can connect with an
infinite source, who we are.
Yes.
And also pleasure is our birthright.
And also the shame, the guilt, the pain,
the traumas, the abuses are disconnected us from
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really enjoying and feeling that we are loved,
we are seen, we are heard, we are
accepted, we are respected.
And it's safe to be here.
So this is the main, and I'm working
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holistically.
I created an Empress All method and I'm
working mainly with women who already have any
kind of feminine issues, feminine organ issues like
cyst, myoma, endometriosis, one poly infertility issues or
orgasmic issues or vulvodynia vaginis and cancer.
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And also recently, I have a big success
with sclerosis multiplex as well.
Wow.
Let's start with what is happening in our
world right now.
I believe that we are in a massive
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paradigm shift.
We have had for thousands of years, a
patriarchy society where everything has been based on
the 1% having control of money and
power.
And that included having control and power over
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women.
And I believe that the reason women specifically
have been suppressed and oppressed is because we
are so powerful.
And we are the opposite of the masculine.
The feminine is chaotic.
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It is creative.
It is magical.
It is orgasmic.
It is powerful pleasure.
All of the things that you stand for.
Are you seeing the place of diseases that
you help people with because they are not
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in their pleasure?
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
And we always find a way and always
find a source when happened first time, even
in this lifetime, even in the past generations,
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even from history.
Because, and it's so incredible that you started
with my nationality.
Because Hungary is a huge and massive suffering
nation.
We suffered so much from Turks, from Austria,
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from Russia.
So we were always like in a servant
and we had so many fights, so many
fights, wars and revolutions.
And so we were fighting for our freedom.
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We were fighting for our life.
We had so many abuse and different ways.
And it's very interesting now, recently, a few
weeks ago, just started a brand new series
around the Turks era in Hungarian.
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And I'm just watching.
And through when I'm watching the series, then
I'm also feeling this is something different and
this is how I can also do the
healing work with ancestral, with our history.
Because it's very interesting that when we are
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seeing, even just let's say simple movie, a
lot of terrorism and war and fight and
this kind of violence.
But since this movie is on and this
series is on, Hungary somehow it's bubbling.
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And a lot of things are happening because
we had films about this era a long
time ago.
So it's from a kind of like new
point of views and with new and fresh
energy.
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And I'm so grateful for this because from
our perspective, from this new kind of like
we are in a new age in a
good sense that it's a new, as you
said, a paradigm.
Because the previous films were around 60s or
something.
So a long time ago and now this
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movie could show different angles and different aspects
we couldn't see before.
And a lot of violence and especially against
women and how manipulating each other, how misled
with power as you just mentioned.
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And what I can see our history could
be really, really healed these days.
Because what we are carrying is not just
our current life.
It's not just our kind of like seven
lifetime lineage.
It's much more.
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We have this massive opening to really heal.
Yes.
Heal that part of what I just mentioned
and I'm working so much in the harmony
between feminine and masculine because long, long way
time ago, this fight started.
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And when it was matriarchy, there was a
kind of like peaceful world.
When there was equality between feminine and masculine.
And somehow that with this unsatisfaction, this fight
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for power, for money, for different kind of
material things started.
And what I realized until I'm fighting, until
I'm pointing out to others, until I'm blaming
the men, they have violated us.
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I cannot find peace inside of me.
And this war could continue inside of me.
And we cannot fight for peace.
No, we have to become.
Yeah, yeah.
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Because what's happening, if I start to fight,
there will be a fight against.
And then there's a kind of like fire
onto the fire.
Yeah, yes.
And that's why coming to our peace, our
pleasure, our joy, that is what we radiate
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out into the world.
There's a parable about somebody who spills a
cup of coffee on somebody.
And the parable talks about that it is
what was in the cup, that what spilled
out.
And so we have to be really careful
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about what is in our cup, because it
will spill out into the world.
And so coming to peace and pleasure and
passion and prosperity, these are the fundamentals of
what unlearning the crap is all about.
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I love the fact that both of us
are from, I'm not personally, my grandmother was
born and raised in Estonia, which is the
Western part of Europe, which was also inhabited
and taken over by Russia.
And they were very oppressed.
And so I know for myself, the traumas
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that my grandmother experienced, both from inheriting from
her mother and growing up in a very
poor rural area, being under the World War
II and the oppression, it carried through.
And so what I found in my body
were cysts and fibroids I had to have
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a full hysterectomy.
There were so many things that were being
kept in my organs that were traumas that
were carried over for generations.
And you're helping women to release those traumas
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so they don't have to have the surgery
and have parts of their bodies removed.
Exactly.
And I'm so sorry that you had to
go through all of this.
And you know, my mother and she has
a younger sister and also my grandmother went
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through all of this.
And also it's very interesting, my grandmother, hysterectomy
for three of them and started with crampy
menstruation.
And my mother's sister, she didn't give birth.
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And my grandmother passed away in a vaginal
cancer.
And it was the second time.
And just recently learned that my mom's sister,
my aunt also had the first one.
So once.
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And last year, my mother was also diagnosed
with this.
And- Right in the organs of our
body.
Yes, exactly.
And as I started my inner journey 21
years ago, I had no issue with all
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of these organ problems also with the liver,
with thyroid, with the kidneys.
So all kinds of things, as I did
my inner work, somehow I stopped this inheritance.
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And it was very interesting that I also
had two times, a miscarriages two times.
And I was also, I would love to
have a baby.
And I'm 51 and I'm still in my
cycles.
And I'm still believing that there is something
magical could happen through my body.
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And I can give a life to a
human being.
And the beauty of this, that when my
mom started the treatment I got in the
understanding and this insight that if I could
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give birth to a baby, I would inherited
this cancer pattern.
And it was so beautiful to understand that
my mom, so my mom's commitment was to
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close the cycle and not inherited to me
or to the future generation.
And if I could give birth, then I'm
naturally inheriting this pattern.
So somehow this was a kind of like
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agreement between us that until she's not closing
this cycle that I'm not giving birth.
And to look at this, it was such
a huge relief that and I was supported
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her on her healing journey.
And she's cancer free by now.
So we got the results few weeks ago.
And I think this is the first time
I'm talking in public.
So it's very, yeah, just sharing this because
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if we are ready and if we are
enough brave to feel safe to face with
our crap, as you said, our inheritances, which
are not allowing us to fully shine to
fully step into our power, then the magic
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can happen.
And we got all kinds of support.
And even though it was really hard, but
we have all the tools and support and
everything that my mom did this healing process
so beautifully.
Of course, it was very overwhelming for me,
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but the most important thing that, because most
of the time the diagnosis is an extra
trauma.
So if she's not going to the doctors,
this could, because if the cancer is happening
in the body, it's absolutely a shows that
the healing process started.
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So when something is arise in the body
physically, so when there is a symptom, even
we don't have any very painful symptoms, if
there is a diagnosis, which means that your
body started the healing process of something.
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And if you are finding the source and
the core of the diagnosis, the sickness, then
you can immediately do the healing work.
Yes, yes, yes.
One of the things that I learned on
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my healing journey was that everything is physical
as well as energetic and emotional.
And so I became an energy healer of
the body code and the emotion code by
Dr. Bradley Nelson.
And what I learned was that when we
release the trauma and the pain and the
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energetic connection within us, it goes back generations
and it goes forward generations.
We are the cycle breakers.
And so your mother's journey through cancer and
healing and becoming the cycle breaker is changing
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everything within all of that energetic connection because
we are all interconnected.
Exactly, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
So that's the magic also, our body is
storing everything and only in conscious mind, we
can bring up seven, maximum seven, so kind
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of like five to seven percentage.
Can we imagine how much more is in
our body and our body is so magical
and wise?
So therefore, I'm also doing in person a
very special trigger points massage, trauma massage, when
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we are looking for the different points in
the body, when these traumas, the abuses, even
historical are blueprinted.
And it's so beautiful that there is a
brand new, a kind of like reborn, reverse
process and everything which is ready to heal,
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to be healed, it happens and the cycle
is closed.
And therefore, this is what I'm experiencing.
It's really scary because I cannot go back
to my loops, just kind of like self
-pitying myself or kind of like asking for
help, for kind of like spending time with
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me, just feeling sorry for me or feeling,
just worrying about me.
No, it's completely gone because we are born
to really enjoy being here in this infinite
abundance.
And as you just mentioned, first, it's coming
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energetically and also in our emotional body.
And then at the end, in our physical
body.
And before that, we always got signs.
Hello, hi, that this is the sign you
need to take account.
And usually I'm saying that, when there is
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unpleasant emotion or feeling or sensation in my
body, it's always a sign.
Or there is a person who hurts me.
There is a sign that there is a
sign, there is a new opportunity to close
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the cycle.
And not just, oh my God, the same
happened with me again.
No.
Yes, yes, yes.
Yes.
So let's go back to pleasure.
Okay.
We've talked about the trauma and the effects
of not being in alignment and not living
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within our pleasure bodies, not bringing joy and
passion into the world.
And one of the first things that you
had said was that we needed to be
able to bring pleasure to every area of
our life.
So I'm assuming you're talking about when we're
doing things like cooking or bathing or driving,
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we bring in music, we bring in all
of our senses.
Is that what you're talking about?
Yes.
Bringing pleasure to every aspect?
Yes, because when I'm not in my mind,
I'm not in, because when I'm in my
mind, I'm in the past or in the
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future.
And then the only way how I can
be in the present moment when I'm fully
connecting to my body, when I'm fully embodying
my body, usually what we are doing, focusing
on the breath, right?
This is the simplest way.
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But if I'm focusing on my breath, of
course my mind is going everywhere.
And if I don't know how to feel
safe, because I'm traumatized, I was abused several
times, I'm scared, I'm worrying about everything, then
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I'm disconnected from my body.
When, and this is the main thing, and
that finding the source of safety in my
body.
And I just mentioned my massage that I'm
always teaching and all of my clients I'm
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teaching first to reconnect with their body in
a way how you can create safety anytime.
Because usually safety, what gives us safety?
If I'm asking this question, usually what we
are saying, money, friends, family, home, work, right?
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These are the main things.
All the foundation.
These are outside things.
If I have it, I feel okay.
If I don't have it or I'm losing
or I'm lacking of something, then I'm scared.
I'm frightened.
I'm worrying.
Which means you can't experience pleasure.
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Of course not.
That's why it's very important.
So the first kind of like zero point
is how I can create safety in my
body.
Because pleasure is not what we are doing.
We cannot do pleasure.
We are just receiving and enjoying, we are
saying enjoying pleasure, right?
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Oh, you gave me goosebumps with that one.
That is a mic drop moment.
You are right.
We can't do it.
We can only experience it.
We can only accept it.
We can only receive it.
Exactly.
And what we are doing all the time?
Do, do, do, do.
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Think, think, think, think.
And focusing on outside.
Oh, I have goosebumps over this one.
Yeah, and even this could be pleasureful, right?
Yes, because the basic thing about being in
our feminine is the receiving aspect.
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And we can't receive if we're not feeling
safe.
If our stress has set off, if we're
in a fear flight or fight, if our
central nervous system is on high alert, we
can't experience passion and pleasure and peace.
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Exactly.
Yeah.
And so we need to create that safety.
Exactly.
How do we as women create that safe
environment that says, yes, you can experience pleasure.
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You can feel it.
It is safe for you to allow.
Yeah, the first, I think what, how you
can do this, that sit in a space
physically where you can feel safe.
Even you can just close your, the door.
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Just create around you safety and then start
to, to feel with all of your senses.
You know that I feel safe in this
room.
I feel that the chair is holding me.
And so I also feel, I feel that
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I'm held by the chair, by the floor,
by the bed.
And then look around, you know, with your
physical eyes, what you can see and focus
on the further and the closer thing, pieces,
you know, that's what is around you.
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And after that, you can either just smell
in the air or you can also either,
you can use essential oil or something, you
know, just breathe in.
Okay, this is the safety smell for me.
Or you can also imagine, you know, what
gives you safety as a smell.
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And also you can touch or you can
hold, you can hug yourself.
Okay, now I feel safe around here.
And- Can I interrupt you for just
one moment?
Sure.
Because what you just described was connecting consciously
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with our senses.
Yes.
You went to smell, touch, sight.
I'm sure even taste, all of these.
Now we have 122 senses that scientists have
discovered.
What you're talking about is conscious engagement with
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the connecting of our energy with our physical
senses.
Am I correct?
Absolutely, yes, 100%.
Yes, yes, yes.
So first kind of like feel in the
air and then I started to just feel
the taste in my mouth.
So even you start to consciously, and maybe
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if you are alone, you can also speak
it out loud because it gives you more
coming into the present moment.
Even though you are carrying so much shame,
pain, guilt, you know, traumas in your body,
you can start to anchor, you know, that
in the space around you, that you are
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feeling safe.
Yeah.
And after that, you know, it started when
I started to hug myself and I started
to feel, yes, I'm here in my body.
And the next step could be for you
that, you know, around you, you feel safe
in the room where you are.
So I suggest first time in the closed
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room, not in the nature.
But we can do this anywhere, at any
point in our lives.
In a boardroom meeting, driving in our car.
If at any point we feel that we
are disconnecting or stressing out, we can use
this to immediately come back and create the
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environment to allow us to receive pleasure at
any time.
Exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yes, absolutely, absolutely.
And then as you started to switch on
and focus on and be aware of your
senses, then you start to also kind of
like feel that it's touching your body and
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feeling the physical boundaries of your body.
And just think about that.
How many times we are scared to touch
our body?
We are just kind of like very quickly
and unconsciously, unrespectfully touching our body.
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So kind of like slowly touching.
Well, we were touching.
We were touching.
Yeah, absolutely, absolutely.
And how many times we are judging by
our thoughts or our words our body, right?
So let me ask you this.
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There's almost not one woman that I've ever
had this conversation with who is unable to
touch their belly or allow anyone else to
touch their belly.
That is the area of our body that
is the sacral center.
It is right where our sexual organs are
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held.
It is where we carry our shame.
It is where inflammation hides when we have
stress and we create this poach.
It is where our belly grows when we
have babies.
How do you help people remove the shame
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of this part of their body?
Yeah, thank you for the question.
And before that, I would like to just
add that in our womb, this is a
sacred wisdom of our ancestral feminine.
This is our creative center.
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This is our manifestation center.
So this is where we can manifest from
our feminine with our feminine energy.
If we are just thinking, we were also
talking about giving birth.
How magical is our womb, right?
So I've learned hundreds of different types of
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methods and in my holistic method, in Empress
All method, I combine all of this.
So I'm also working energetically, emotionally, mentally, physically,
and also not just this lifetime, but the
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transgenerational and also historical and the collective, because
in the collective group belief systems, there are
so much we are connected.
So we can also disconnect from there.
And my method is somehow like a ball.
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And most of the time while we are
just in the loop, we are keep still
in the loop that we are looking down
from here and there on there.
And then our mind, which is a supercomputer,
can find a way how to jump out.
And my method is that, and I'm also
using individually what is needed at the present
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moment, because somehow I can give a very
special presence, be present with my clients and
finding the way and then absolutely closing, and
when these completely close the ball from all
angles, then we can find the roots of
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the issues.
And most of the time, so for example,
for a cyst, it's very, I can say
it's simple to find one or two reason
or cause of the cyst.
In endometriosis, in infertility, there are so many,
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in so many kind of like different ways.
And, but this is somehow, this is my
magic, this is my gem that we are
finding the last pieces, last missing pieces, how
we can close the cycles.
Oh, this is so, so exciting and so
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powerful.
I want us to talk about the ultimate
pleasure.
Okay.
We're almost out of time and I cannot
let you go.
Yeah, sure.
Unless we talk about the big O, the
orgasm.
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And how so many women can't feel that
pleasure and that there are so many layers
that are in the way.
What I'm hearing you say is that our
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pleasure is not only a right, but when
we allow ourselves to receive and experience pleasure,
we are affecting the whole collective.
Absolutely, yeah, yeah, I love it, I love
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it.
And also that there are so many misconceptions
around pleasure.
So now I kind of like, I feel
that I could bring one, so the pleasure
is not just sexual.
And we can create so many ways in
any kind of ways what you feel, I
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can usually say that what makes you smile,
what makes you joy and happy, this could
bring pleasure and you can also use another
words, but which is filling you up, filling
your cup up.
And also that orgasm, we are thinking, or
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so many women first is that I don't
have it, I'm not able to do that.
And if someone told me that, okay, just
have a look at that.
And it's always that because of the shame,
the trauma, the abuse, we disconnected from our
body, our organs are working incredibly perfectly.
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Just we have this lack of wall that
I don't sense it, I don't feel it,
I don't know whether it's there.
And as I'm also doing- Which is
our consciousness, not our reality, right?
Exactly, exactly, exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So somehow there is like what I can
say, there is a kind of like bubble
around that or a wall, so I'm here
and my pleasure is here, so therefore there
is, maybe I can show like this.
So here is the pleasure, here is the
pleasure and there is a wall, so I'm
outside of the wall, so therefore I have
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no connection.
But it's still there.
I have the pleasure in my body, I
have some reactions, but somehow maybe because of
I was frozen, maybe because I was silenced,
maybe because I was completely in my head,
therefore I don't have connection.
And just a quick story, how I realized
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this that a long time ago I had
a partner and I was so much busy
with my work and he was pleasing me
all kinds of ways he could.
He did his best and more.
And I was like, oh, oh, almost, oh,
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no.
I'm sure that you know what, oh, oh,
and what I, and then at the end
I said, and then I was like, okay,
I was not aware that I was completely
disconnected, I was completely in my mind.
And then once he just looked at me
and he asked me that, are you with
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me?
And I said, oh my goodness.
It was like hitting these words, this kind
of like very kind, but really to the
point question.
And I realized that this was the moment
when I started to realize that something is
not okay with me in a sense that
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I need to find a way how I
can feel safe in my body, how I
can allow pleasure in my body.
And so if you feel right now that
you don't know how to have an orgasm
or if you feel that you can have
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orgasm only one way, for example, the clitoral
orgasm and maybe by just yourself, so kind
of like with self-pleasuring and with partner,
it doesn't work, there is no problem with
you.
You just need to find a way how
you can release all of these layers around
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your pleasure source.
And the other way, the other thing around
orgasm, what I usually, very often I'm hearing
that I just have one types of orgasm
and I want, let's say, I have only
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one clitoral orgasm, but I don't have any
vaginal orgasm.
And most of the women are thinking that
there are these two types of orgasm.
And Mantak Chia is one of the main
Taoist teachers.
His book in the multi-orgasmic couples or
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multi-orgasmic feminine, a woman, he mentioned, it
was written a long time ago, he mentioned
four types of orgasm.
And personally, I can tell you that there
are infinite types of orgasm because every single
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moment is different.
And even though I'm doing most of the
time, for example, the same, how I'm pleasuring
myself or how I'm doing with my partner,
I cannot experience the same because that moment
is totally different than the previous one.
And also the other misconception that I want
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to feel the same as I did it,
I felt it last time.
You can never, never, because if you are
kind of like setting that goal, I want
to feel the same, then you are stuck
in your head and you are not allowing
your body to really unfold new types of
pleasure and new types of orgasm.
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And there are so many ways.
And then it is not just what you
can see in the movies or in any
kind of tutorials, because every single feminine body
and even masculine body are completely different and
unique.
And what you can see even with your
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partner, you can see something you have never
known or you have never imagined what was
happening inside.
Because if we are seeing something from outside,
we can just imagine somehow and translate into
our experiences or knowledges or something.
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But as our body is completely different, even
our organs are more or less at the
same spot, but we are experiencing every single
moment something different.
So I'm inviting everyone to open up and
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with curiosity, with kind of like the joyful
curiosity, open yourself to experience something brand new,
which is unknown and we can scare from
that.
But definitely if you can jump over of
it, then you can experience something unique, something
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magical and something brand new.
And we can do that in every area
of our life, not just sexual.
We can experience moments of pleasure, looking at
the sunshine, feeling the breeze.
As you have been talking, I have been
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consciously connecting with my own body and feeling
the cells of my body come alive.
And I have felt even in this conversation,
changes of pleasure and joy coming alive in
me.
You have brought the concept of pleasure to
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a place of joy rather than as a
destination.
Yes.
Because so many times we think we need
to get there and it isn't getting there.
It is opening up to receive what we
already have.
Thank you so very much.
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We could continue talking for hours because there's
so many more things that I would love
to be able to talk about, but we're
running out of time.
So before we run out of time, could
you please tell everyone who's listening how they
can reach you if they want your help?
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Your information, your guidance to help them heal
whatever is physically in their way and experience
a beautiful life of pleasure and passion.
Yeah, thank you very much.
And yeah, I can also feel that we
can continue for hours and days, definitely.
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And I hope that we will have another
opportunity to talk from different angles.
Yeah, you can find me on Girish Andrea,
all kinds of social media, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube,
LinkedIn, and TikTok.
And I would love to also offer a
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gift as an ebook which is an unapologetic
pleasure guidebook where you can also explore a
little bit more what we were just talking
about.
We're just tapping into how you can create
more pleasure for moments in your everyday life.
And then how you can also build in
your everyday habits, your everyday routine, just focusing
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on a little bit differently in even in
your morning routine or the evening or while
you are eating, while you are driving, while
you are just watching a movie or listening
to music or how you can fully embody
this beautiful, magical being who you really are.
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Oh, yes, yes, yes.
Where can they find that gift?
Yeah, I can also share you if it's
possible then a link where they can get
it.
Yes, I will make sure that in the
show notes, the link is there that everybody
can go and get their own copy.
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Because if you have experienced even a small
moment of pleasure in this conversation, imagine what
is possible if you can access all that
is available to you.
Thank you so very much for this conversation.
Thank you for your openness and your vulnerability.
And I absolutely have enjoyed every single second
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of this.
Thank you so much.
Thank you very much.
Thank you for holding space for me to
really go deep and share all of this.
Thank you very much.
And thank you for our listeners and watchers.
And I hope that you can get the
most out of it.
Thank you.
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Absolutely.
Don't forget that you can unlearn your crap
and level up because your soul is calling
and you can live with peace, passion, purpose,
and prosperity.
You can have it all because you are
worth it.
You matter.
And the world is waiting for you to
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level up.
Until next time.
Thank you.
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Okay, are you ready?
Welcome to Unlearn the Crap and Level Up
Your Soul is Calling.
My name is Kathy Baldwin.
I am your host and I am so
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thrilled to help you with your Unlearning the
Crap journey.
Unlearn the Crap, as you know, is the
condition responses and automatic programming that go into
the neuro programming of our brain.
It is our limiting beliefs.
It is our thoughts.
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It is our habits.
It is our autopilot.
It is also from our society, from our
family, from our ancestral learnings.
Crap is also a physical component because everything
in our world is both energetic and physical.
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So what we think about, we bring about.
And in our physical body, when we suppress,
when we do not process our stress or
our traumas, we create physical disease within our
body.
We change our gut microbiome, which creates inflammation,
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which is the root cause of disease, whether
it is autoimmune disease or cancer or any
other diseases, we have been able to scientifically
now link it directly to our gut microbiome,
which is a direct reflection of the thoughts
we think.
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So the crap that we need to unlearn
is that which will affect every area of
our life.
And today's guest is going to be a
amazing conversation because we are going to talk
about the feminine expression of sexuality, of orgasm,
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of spirituality, of empowerment.
Today, we are going to go real and
raw with Andrea Steigler from.
I'm hungry.
Hungry, oh my goodness.
I don't know why I had a brain
fart there.
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It's okay.
And I'm not hungry at this moment because
there are also some jokes around that.
I remember I was in Germany and there
was a big round table and each country
was representing themselves.
And then someone made this joke, are you
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hungry?
And no, I said, I'm from Hungary.
I love that.
Andrea, could you please tell everybody before we
get into our fantastic conversation, what crap you
needed to unlearn so that you could level
up?
Yeah, thank you very much for having me.
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And then when you just shared this, it
started to arrive into my body, and every
single word you were just saying, it was
landing in me so deeply because I also
recognized and working on this that all what
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we are carrying, reflecting our true essence in
the one sense and also what I needed
to learn and unlearn that how value is
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my worth.
Because my worth was defined by others.
And you also mentioned my family, the society,
any kind of communities, the school, and the
different kind of ways how I connected with
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people.
And I was so sensitive to really believe
everything what I was told, how I was
labeled.
And I didn't question because this somehow, this
was my natural state of being that if
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someone told me something, even it was good
or bad, I completely just absorb it and
I became happy with it.
And so it led me to really felt
so much shame because most of the time
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I got shameful and painful and criticism and
judgmental labels.
And most of the time I wanted to
just disappear, to be transparent, to hide, to
run away.
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But most of the time I was just
frozen and silent.
And I had no clue what I wanted,
what I needed.
And I remember that in the most difficult
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moments and most painful moments, even it was
physical or emotional or mental, I had a
dream.
And this dream kept coming back in my
dreams.
And somehow it was that gateway to run
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away from the big pain in my body,
in my soul, in my emotions.
And it was a long journey that I
needed to realize that I'm much more than
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these neighbors.
I'm much more worthy than what others told
me that I was.
What others could see me because I was
different because I was something special and unique.
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And even though I had all of this,
and then I started to hide myself, that
even through that, my light was shining and
others could feel that.
So my learning process was to go back
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to this source, to find my true worth
inside of me, no matter what others are
telling me.
And it's so beautiful how the word is
reflecting on my healing journey that several times
I'm hearing from social media that there are
trolls, there are a lot of negative comments.
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And I haven't received this in the last
few years any, even though I don't have
so many comments because of the sensitivity of
my work.
But I'm so grateful that I could create
that space.
What I'm really thankful that you are also
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created here for me a really deep and
loving and accepting safe space that I could
share this.
I haven't shared this before from this angle.
Well, before we go into this.
And what I was just sharing that I
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haven't shared from this angle, my story.
So I really appreciate that I could also
reach from this connections.
Yeah, I love that.
Before we go too deep in how you
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serve the world, could you please tell everybody
who you are and how you serve the
world now that you've unlearned your craft and
you're leveling up?
Yeah, thank you.
So as I just mentioned in my healing
journey, I spent the last 21 years on
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finding this worthiness and also my uniqueness and
my gems and helping women to find their
own source of pleasures, healing their traumas transgenerational
patterns.
And also all of these limited beliefs, what
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holds us back to fully connect with our
precious, beautiful, magical body and really feel and
experience more pleasure, not just in a sexual
way, but even with our sensuality, with our
senses and every single moment and more moments
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than before to come back home, to connect
with this beautiful temple of our soul and
enjoy this femininity and finding, and this is
recently, I'm also working, finding the harmony inside
of us between the feminine and the masculine.
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Stop war, stop fight with others, stop finding
responsibilities or responsible persons or blaming others or
ourselves, but really coming back to the present
moment, more moments than before and release the
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heaviness of the past, the heaviness of our
history and worrying about the future.
And being in the present moment is so
magical.
This is so whole.
And this is the moment when we can,
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through our body, we can connect with an
infinite source, who we are.
Yes.
And also pleasure is our birthright.
And also the shame, the guilt, the pain,
the traumas, the abuses are disconnected us from
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really enjoying and feeling that we are loved,
we are seen, we are heard, we are
accepted, we are respected.
And it's safe to be here.
So this is the main, and I'm working
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holistically.
I created an Empress All method and I'm
working mainly with women who already have any
kind of feminine issues, feminine organ issues like
cyst, myoma, endometriosis, one poly infertility issues or
orgasmic issues or vulvodynia vaginis and cancer.
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And also recently, I have a big success
with sclerosis multiplex as well.
Wow.
Let's start with what is happening in our
world right now.
I believe that we are in a massive
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paradigm shift.
We have had for thousands of years, a
patriarchy society where everything has been based on
the 1% having control of money and
power.
And that included having control and power over
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women.
And I believe that the reason women specifically
have been suppressed and oppressed is because we
are so powerful.
And we are the opposite of the masculine.
The feminine is chaotic.
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It is creative.
It is magical.
It is orgasmic.
It is powerful pleasure.
All of the things that you stand for.
Are you seeing the place of diseases that
you help people with because they are not
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in their pleasure?
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
And we always find a way and always
find a source when happened first time, even
in this lifetime, even in the past generations,
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even from history.
Because, and it's so incredible that you started
with my nationality.
Because Hungary is a huge and massive suffering
nation.
We suffered so much from Turks, from Austria,
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from Russia.
So we were always like in a servant
and we had so many fights, so many
fights, wars and revolutions.
And so we were fighting for our freedom.
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We were fighting for our life.
We had so many abuse and different ways.
And it's very interesting now, recently, a few
weeks ago, just started a brand new series
around the Turks era in Hungarian.
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And I'm just watching.
And through when I'm watching the series, then
I'm also feeling this is something different and
this is how I can also do the
healing work with ancestral, with our history.
Because it's very interesting that when we are
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seeing, even just let's say simple movie, a
lot of terrorism and war and fight and
this kind of violence.
But since this movie is on and this
series is on, Hungary somehow it's bubbling.
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And a lot of things are happening because
we had films about this era a long
time ago.
So it's from a kind of like new
point of views and with new and fresh
energy.
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And I'm so grateful for this because from
our perspective, from this new kind of like
we are in a new age in a
good sense that it's a new, as you
said, a paradigm.
Because the previous films were around 60s or
something.
So a long time ago and now this
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movie could show different angles and different aspects
we couldn't see before.
And a lot of violence and especially against
women and how manipulating each other, how misled
with power as you just mentioned.
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And what I can see our history could
be really, really healed these days.
Because what we are carrying is not just
our current life.
It's not just our kind of like seven
lifetime lineage.
It's much more.
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We have this massive opening to really heal.
Yes.
Heal that part of what I just mentioned
and I'm working so much in the harmony
between feminine and masculine because long, long way
time ago, this fight started.
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And when it was matriarchy, there was a
kind of like peaceful world.
When there was equality between feminine and masculine.
And somehow that with this unsatisfaction, this fight
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for power, for money, for different kind of
material things started.
And what I realized until I'm fighting, until
I'm pointing out to others, until I'm blaming
the men, they have violated us.
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I cannot find peace inside of me.
And this war could continue inside of me.
And we cannot fight for peace.
No, we have to become.
Yeah, yeah.
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Because what's happening, if I start to fight,
there will be a fight against.
And then there's a kind of like fire
onto the fire.
Yeah, yes.
And that's why coming to our peace, our
pleasure, our joy, that is what we radiate
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out into the world.
There's a parable about somebody who spills a
cup of coffee on somebody.
And the parable talks about that it is
what was in the cup, that what spilled
out.
And so we have to be really careful
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about what is in our cup, because it
will spill out into the world.
And so coming to peace and pleasure and
passion and prosperity, these are the fundamentals of
what unlearning the crap is all about.
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I love the fact that both of us
are from, I'm not personally, my grandmother was
born and raised in Estonia, which is the
Western part of Europe, which was also inhabited
and taken over by Russia.
And they were very oppressed.
And so I know for myself, the traumas
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that my grandmother experienced, both from inheriting from
her mother and growing up in a very
poor rural area, being under the World War
II and the oppression, it carried through.
And so what I found in my body
were cysts and fibroids I had to have
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a full hysterectomy.
There were so many things that were being
kept in my organs that were traumas that
were carried over for generations.
And you're helping women to release those traumas
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so they don't have to have the surgery
and have parts of their bodies removed.
Exactly.
And I'm so sorry that you had to
go through all of this.
And you know, my mother and she has
a younger sister and also my grandmother went
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through all of this.
And also it's very interesting, my grandmother, hysterectomy
for three of them and started with crampy
menstruation.
And my mother's sister, she didn't give birth.
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And my grandmother passed away in a vaginal
cancer.
And it was the second time.
And just recently learned that my mom's sister,
my aunt also had the first one.
So once.
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And last year, my mother was also diagnosed
with this.
And- Right in the organs of our
body.
Yes, exactly.
And as I started my inner journey 21
years ago, I had no issue with all
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of these organ problems also with the liver,
with thyroid, with the kidneys.
So all kinds of things, as I did
my inner work, somehow I stopped this inheritance.
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And it was very interesting that I also
had two times, a miscarriages two times.
And I was also, I would love to
have a baby.
And I'm 51 and I'm still in my
cycles.
And I'm still believing that there is something
magical could happen through my body.
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And I can give a life to a
human being.
And the beauty of this, that when my
mom started the treatment I got in the
understanding and this insight that if I could
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give birth to a baby, I would inherited
this cancer pattern.
And it was so beautiful to understand that
my mom, so my mom's commitment was to
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close the cycle and not inherited to me
or to the future generation.
And if I could give birth, then I'm
naturally inheriting this pattern.
So somehow this was a kind of like
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agreement between us that until she's not closing
this cycle that I'm not giving birth.
And to look at this, it was such
a huge relief that and I was supported
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her on her healing journey.
And she's cancer free by now.
So we got the results few weeks ago.
And I think this is the first time
I'm talking in public.
So it's very, yeah, just sharing this because
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if we are ready and if we are
enough brave to feel safe to face with
our crap, as you said, our inheritances, which
are not allowing us to fully shine to
fully step into our power, then the magic
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can happen.
And we got all kinds of support.
And even though it was really hard, but
we have all the tools and support and
everything that my mom did this healing process
so beautifully.
Of course, it was very overwhelming for me,
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but the most important thing that, because most
of the time the diagnosis is an extra
trauma.
So if she's not going to the doctors,
this could, because if the cancer is happening
in the body, it's absolutely a shows that
the healing process started.
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So when something is arise in the body
physically, so when there is a symptom, even
we don't have any very painful symptoms, if
there is a diagnosis, which means that your
body started the healing process of something.
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And if you are finding the source and
the core of the diagnosis, the sickness, then
you can immediately do the healing work.
Yes, yes, yes.
One of the things that I learned on
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my healing journey was that everything is physical
as well as energetic and emotional.
And so I became an energy healer of
the body code and the emotion code by
Dr. Bradley Nelson.
And what I learned was that when we
release the trauma and the pain and the
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energetic connection within us, it goes back generations
and it goes forward generations.
We are the cycle breakers.
And so your mother's journey through cancer and
healing and becoming the cycle breaker is changing
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everything within all of that energetic connection because
we are all interconnected.
Exactly, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
So that's the magic also, our body is
storing everything and only in conscious mind, we
can bring up seven, maximum seven, so kind
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of like five to seven percentage.
Can we imagine how much more is in
our body and our body is so magical
and wise?
So therefore, I'm also doing in person a
very special trigger points massage, trauma massage, when
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we are looking for the different points in
the body, when these traumas, the abuses, even
historical are blueprinted.
And it's so beautiful that there is a
brand new, a kind of like reborn, reverse
process and everything which is ready to heal,
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to be healed, it happens and the cycle
is closed.
And therefore, this is what I'm experiencing.
It's really scary because I cannot go back
to my loops, just kind of like self
-pitying myself or kind of like asking for
help, for kind of like spending time with
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me, just feeling sorry for me or feeling,
just worrying about me.
No, it's completely gone because we are born
to really enjoy being here in this infinite
abundance.
And as you just mentioned, first, it's coming
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energetically and also in our emotional body.
And then at the end, in our physical
body.
And before that, we always got signs.
Hello, hi, that this is the sign you
need to take account.
And usually I'm saying that, when there is
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unpleasant emotion or feeling or sensation in my
body, it's always a sign.
Or there is a person who hurts me.
There is a sign that there is a
sign, there is a new opportunity to close
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the cycle.
And not just, oh my God, the same
happened with me again.
No.
Yes, yes, yes.
Yes.
So let's go back to pleasure.
Okay.
We've talked about the trauma and the effects
of not being in alignment and not living
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within our pleasure bodies, not bringing joy and
passion into the world.
And one of the first things that you
had said was that we needed to be
able to bring pleasure to every area of
our life.
So I'm assuming you're talking about when we're
doing things like cooking or bathing or driving,
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we bring in music, we bring in all
of our senses.
Is that what you're talking about?
Yes.
Bringing pleasure to every aspect?
Yes, because when I'm not in my mind,
I'm not in, because when I'm in my
mind, I'm in the past or in the
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future.
And then the only way how I can
be in the present moment when I'm fully
connecting to my body, when I'm fully embodying
my body, usually what we are doing, focusing
on the breath, right?
This is the simplest way.
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But if I'm focusing on my breath, of
course my mind is going everywhere.
And if I don't know how to feel
safe, because I'm traumatized, I was abused several
times, I'm scared, I'm worrying about everything, then
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I'm disconnected from my body.
When, and this is the main thing, and
that finding the source of safety in my
body.
And I just mentioned my massage that I'm
always teaching and all of my clients I'm
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teaching first to reconnect with their body in
a way how you can create safety anytime.
Because usually safety, what gives us safety?
If I'm asking this question, usually what we
are saying, money, friends, family, home, work, right?
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These are the main things.
All the foundation.
These are outside things.
If I have it, I feel okay.
If I don't have it or I'm losing
or I'm lacking of something, then I'm scared.
I'm frightened.
I'm worrying.
Which means you can't experience pleasure.
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Of course not.
That's why it's very important.
So the first kind of like zero point
is how I can create safety in my
body.
Because pleasure is not what we are doing.
We cannot do pleasure.
We are just receiving and enjoying, we are
saying enjoying pleasure, right?
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Oh, you gave me goosebumps with that one.
That is a mic drop moment.
You are right.
We can't do it.
We can only experience it.
We can only accept it.
We can only receive it.
Exactly.
And what we are doing all the time?
Do, do, do, do.
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Think, think, think, think.
And focusing on outside.
Oh, I have goosebumps over this one.
Yeah, and even this could be pleasureful, right?
Yes, because the basic thing about being in
our feminine is the receiving aspect.
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And we can't receive if we're not feeling
safe.
If our stress has set off, if we're
in a fear flight or fight, if our
central nervous system is on high alert, we
can't experience passion and pleasure and peace.
(34:38):
Exactly.
Yeah.
And so we need to create that safety.
Exactly.
How do we as women create that safe
environment that says, yes, you can experience pleasure.
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You can feel it.
It is safe for you to allow.
Yeah, the first, I think what, how you
can do this, that sit in a space
physically where you can feel safe.
Even you can just close your, the door.
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Just create around you safety and then start
to, to feel with all of your senses.
You know that I feel safe in this
room.
I feel that the chair is holding me.
And so I also feel, I feel that
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I'm held by the chair, by the floor,
by the bed.
And then look around, you know, with your
physical eyes, what you can see and focus
on the further and the closer thing, pieces,
you know, that's what is around you.
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And after that, you can either just smell
in the air or you can also either,
you can use essential oil or something, you
know, just breathe in.
Okay, this is the safety smell for me.
Or you can also imagine, you know, what
gives you safety as a smell.
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And also you can touch or you can
hold, you can hug yourself.
Okay, now I feel safe around here.
And- Can I interrupt you for just
one moment?
Sure.
Because what you just described was connecting consciously
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with our senses.
Yes.
You went to smell, touch, sight.
I'm sure even taste, all of these.
Now we have 122 senses that scientists have
discovered.
What you're talking about is conscious engagement with
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the connecting of our energy with our physical
senses.
Am I correct?
Absolutely, yes, 100%.
Yes, yes, yes.
So first kind of like feel in the
air and then I started to just feel
the taste in my mouth.
So even you start to consciously, and maybe
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if you are alone, you can also speak
it out loud because it gives you more
coming into the present moment.
Even though you are carrying so much shame,
pain, guilt, you know, traumas in your body,
you can start to anchor, you know, that
in the space around you, that you are
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feeling safe.
Yeah.
And after that, you know, it started when
I started to hug myself and I started
to feel, yes, I'm here in my body.
And the next step could be for you
that, you know, around you, you feel safe
in the room where you are.
So I suggest first time in the closed
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room, not in the nature.
But we can do this anywhere, at any
point in our lives.
In a boardroom meeting, driving in our car.
If at any point we feel that we
are disconnecting or stressing out, we can use
this to immediately come back and create the
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environment to allow us to receive pleasure at
any time.
Exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yes, absolutely, absolutely.
And then as you started to switch on
and focus on and be aware of your
senses, then you start to also kind of
like feel that it's touching your body and
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feeling the physical boundaries of your body.
And just think about that.
How many times we are scared to touch
our body?
We are just kind of like very quickly
and unconsciously, unrespectfully touching our body.
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So kind of like slowly touching.
Well, we were touching.
We were touching.
Yeah, absolutely, absolutely.
And how many times we are judging by
our thoughts or our words our body, right?
So let me ask you this.
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There's almost not one woman that I've ever
had this conversation with who is unable to
touch their belly or allow anyone else to
touch their belly.
That is the area of our body that
is the sacral center.
It is right where our sexual organs are
(40:11):
held.
It is where we carry our shame.
It is where inflammation hides when we have
stress and we create this poach.
It is where our belly grows when we
have babies.
How do you help people remove the shame
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of this part of their body?
Yeah, thank you for the question.
And before that, I would like to just
add that in our womb, this is a
sacred wisdom of our ancestral feminine.
This is our creative center.
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This is our manifestation center.
So this is where we can manifest from
our feminine with our feminine energy.
If we are just thinking, we were also
talking about giving birth.
How magical is our womb, right?
So I've learned hundreds of different types of
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methods and in my holistic method, in Empress
All method, I combine all of this.
So I'm also working energetically, emotionally, mentally, physically,
and also not just this lifetime, but the
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transgenerational and also historical and the collective, because
in the collective group belief systems, there are
so much we are connected.
So we can also disconnect from there.
And my method is somehow like a ball.
(42:01):
And most of the time while we are
just in the loop, we are keep still
in the loop that we are looking down
from here and there on there.
And then our mind, which is a supercomputer,
can find a way how to jump out.
And my method is that, and I'm also
using individually what is needed at the present
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moment, because somehow I can give a very
special presence, be present with my clients and
finding the way and then absolutely closing, and
when these completely close the ball from all
angles, then we can find the roots of
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the issues.
And most of the time, so for example,
for a cyst, it's very, I can say
it's simple to find one or two reason
or cause of the cyst.
In endometriosis, in infertility, there are so many,
(43:09):
in so many kind of like different ways.
And, but this is somehow, this is my
magic, this is my gem that we are
finding the last pieces, last missing pieces, how
we can close the cycles.
Oh, this is so, so exciting and so
(43:33):
powerful.
I want us to talk about the ultimate
pleasure.
Okay.
We're almost out of time and I cannot
let you go.
Yeah, sure.
Unless we talk about the big O, the
orgasm.
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And how so many women can't feel that
pleasure and that there are so many layers
that are in the way.
What I'm hearing you say is that our
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pleasure is not only a right, but when
we allow ourselves to receive and experience pleasure,
we are affecting the whole collective.
Absolutely, yeah, yeah, I love it, I love
(44:42):
it.
And also that there are so many misconceptions
around pleasure.
So now I kind of like, I feel
that I could bring one, so the pleasure
is not just sexual.
And we can create so many ways in
any kind of ways what you feel, I
(45:02):
can usually say that what makes you smile,
what makes you joy and happy, this could
bring pleasure and you can also use another
words, but which is filling you up, filling
your cup up.
And also that orgasm, we are thinking, or
(45:24):
so many women first is that I don't
have it, I'm not able to do that.
And if someone told me that, okay, just
have a look at that.
And it's always that because of the shame,
the trauma, the abuse, we disconnected from our
body, our organs are working incredibly perfectly.
(45:49):
Just we have this lack of wall that
I don't sense it, I don't feel it,
I don't know whether it's there.
And as I'm also doing- Which is
our consciousness, not our reality, right?
Exactly, exactly, exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah.
(46:11):
So somehow there is like what I can
say, there is a kind of like bubble
around that or a wall, so I'm here
and my pleasure is here, so therefore there
is, maybe I can show like this.
So here is the pleasure, here is the
pleasure and there is a wall, so I'm
outside of the wall, so therefore I have
(46:33):
no connection.
But it's still there.
I have the pleasure in my body, I
have some reactions, but somehow maybe because of
I was frozen, maybe because I was silenced,
maybe because I was completely in my head,
therefore I don't have connection.
And just a quick story, how I realized
(46:54):
this that a long time ago I had
a partner and I was so much busy
with my work and he was pleasing me
all kinds of ways he could.
He did his best and more.
And I was like, oh, oh, almost, oh,
(47:14):
no.
I'm sure that you know what, oh, oh,
and what I, and then at the end
I said, and then I was like, okay,
I was not aware that I was completely
disconnected, I was completely in my mind.
And then once he just looked at me
and he asked me that, are you with
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me?
And I said, oh my goodness.
It was like hitting these words, this kind
of like very kind, but really to the
point question.
And I realized that this was the moment
when I started to realize that something is
not okay with me in a sense that
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I need to find a way how I
can feel safe in my body, how I
can allow pleasure in my body.
And so if you feel right now that
you don't know how to have an orgasm
or if you feel that you can have
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orgasm only one way, for example, the clitoral
orgasm and maybe by just yourself, so kind
of like with self-pleasuring and with partner,
it doesn't work, there is no problem with
you.
You just need to find a way how
you can release all of these layers around
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your pleasure source.
And the other way, the other thing around
orgasm, what I usually, very often I'm hearing
that I just have one types of orgasm
and I want, let's say, I have only
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one clitoral orgasm, but I don't have any
vaginal orgasm.
And most of the women are thinking that
there are these two types of orgasm.
And Mantak Chia is one of the main
Taoist teachers.
His book in the multi-orgasmic couples or
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multi-orgasmic feminine, a woman, he mentioned, it
was written a long time ago, he mentioned
four types of orgasm.
And personally, I can tell you that there
are infinite types of orgasm because every single
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moment is different.
And even though I'm doing most of the
time, for example, the same, how I'm pleasuring
myself or how I'm doing with my partner,
I cannot experience the same because that moment
is totally different than the previous one.
And also the other misconception that I want
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to feel the same as I did it,
I felt it last time.
You can never, never, because if you are
kind of like setting that goal, I want
to feel the same, then you are stuck
in your head and you are not allowing
your body to really unfold new types of
pleasure and new types of orgasm.
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And there are so many ways.
And then it is not just what you
can see in the movies or in any
kind of tutorials, because every single feminine body
and even masculine body are completely different and
unique.
And what you can see even with your
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partner, you can see something you have never
known or you have never imagined what was
happening inside.
Because if we are seeing something from outside,
we can just imagine somehow and translate into
our experiences or knowledges or something.
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But as our body is completely different, even
our organs are more or less at the
same spot, but we are experiencing every single
moment something different.
So I'm inviting everyone to open up and
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with curiosity, with kind of like the joyful
curiosity, open yourself to experience something brand new,
which is unknown and we can scare from
that.
But definitely if you can jump over of
it, then you can experience something unique, something
(52:08):
magical and something brand new.
And we can do that in every area
of our life, not just sexual.
We can experience moments of pleasure, looking at
the sunshine, feeling the breeze.
As you have been talking, I have been
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consciously connecting with my own body and feeling
the cells of my body come alive.
And I have felt even in this conversation,
changes of pleasure and joy coming alive in
me.
You have brought the concept of pleasure to
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a place of joy rather than as a
destination.
Yes.
Because so many times we think we need
to get there and it isn't getting there.
It is opening up to receive what we
already have.
Thank you so very much.
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We could continue talking for hours because there's
so many more things that I would love
to be able to talk about, but we're
running out of time.
So before we run out of time, could
you please tell everyone who's listening how they
can reach you if they want your help?
(53:38):
Your information, your guidance to help them heal
whatever is physically in their way and experience
a beautiful life of pleasure and passion.
Yeah, thank you very much.
And yeah, I can also feel that we
can continue for hours and days, definitely.
(54:01):
And I hope that we will have another
opportunity to talk from different angles.
Yeah, you can find me on Girish Andrea,
all kinds of social media, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube,
LinkedIn, and TikTok.
And I would love to also offer a
(54:24):
gift as an ebook which is an unapologetic
pleasure guidebook where you can also explore a
little bit more what we were just talking
about.
We're just tapping into how you can create
more pleasure for moments in your everyday life.
And then how you can also build in
your everyday habits, your everyday routine, just focusing
(54:50):
on a little bit differently in even in
your morning routine or the evening or while
you are eating, while you are driving, while
you are just watching a movie or listening
to music or how you can fully embody
this beautiful, magical being who you really are.
(55:13):
Oh, yes, yes, yes.
Where can they find that gift?
Yeah, I can also share you if it's
possible then a link where they can get
it.
Yes, I will make sure that in the
show notes, the link is there that everybody
can go and get their own copy.
(55:36):
Because if you have experienced even a small
moment of pleasure in this conversation, imagine what
is possible if you can access all that
is available to you.
Thank you so very much for this conversation.
Thank you for your openness and your vulnerability.
And I absolutely have enjoyed every single second
(56:01):
of this.
Thank you so much.
Thank you very much.
Thank you for holding space for me to
really go deep and share all of this.
Thank you very much.
And thank you for our listeners and watchers.
And I hope that you can get the
most out of it.
Thank you.
(56:22):
Absolutely.
Don't forget that you can unlearn your crap
and level up because your soul is calling
and you can live with peace, passion, purpose,
and prosperity.
You can have it all because you are
worth it.
You matter.
And the world is waiting for you to
(56:43):
level up.
Until next time.
Thank you.
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