"Marriage Takeover: The Body Of One"With Rev. Eric and Rev. Temeka Thompson

Check us out on facebook  https://www.facebook.com/marriagetakeover/ .Rev. Eric & Rev. Temeka grew up in Tallahassee, Florida and high school sweethearts who got married at the very young age of 18 and 19 years old.  When taking their vows, it was a lustationship and while they wouldn't trade in their journey, it came with a lot of trials, dips and heartaches and they never imagined being in the couple's ministry as they were going through. Nineteen years later they've been transparent through their struggles with overcoming ography, pride, depression, death, raising children and all the in between. 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Look Hope Radio.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
He's my designs.

Speaker 3 (00:21):
You're listening to when Christians speak online talk radio broadcasting
out of the Washington, DC metropolitan areas. Today's voice crying
out in the wilderness.

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Prepare ye. The way of the Lord.

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When Christians speak is.

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Dedicated to lifting up the name of Christ Jesus and
spreading the good news.

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So, my God, shall the comony don't apprecate the good nity.

Speaker 6 (00:55):
You're listening to marriage takeover with Eric and Tamika Thompson,
hoping to enrich your marriage.

Speaker 4 (01:06):
Amen.

Speaker 7 (01:07):
Praise Thenoyd, everybody, Praise the Lord. Welcome to marriage. Jakeover
the body of one the pastor Eric and Pastor Tamika Thompson.
They should be joining us soon. I'm gonna tell you
about Dave Barker. We'll be a live bacast.

Speaker 4 (01:19):
Amen.

Speaker 7 (01:20):
So I'm gonna reach I take them and play some
music in the background, just for a little bit, and
then we'll come be right back when they come on. Amen,
will be excited. Go ahead, let somebody know the man's
takeover the body of one's own as we speak.

Speaker 4 (01:37):
Amen.

Speaker 7 (01:38):
God is so good.

Speaker 4 (01:39):
Amen. Amen, Amen, It's so faithful.

Speaker 7 (02:01):
He's so good. He has brought us a mighty long way,
and I think of the goodness of Jesus and all
that he has done for us. So quile, thank you, Lord,
Thank you for saving us. God, Thank you for your
grace and your mercy. Amen, thank you for your grace

(02:24):
and your But.

Speaker 6 (02:25):
I my name, Lord, I said, but I still hear
you call him. I give it's just a too many
cigarette and acquire him.

Speaker 5 (03:18):
You like my game, but not all.

Speaker 6 (03:50):
My do? I no?

Speaker 8 (05:25):
Oh many.

Speaker 7 (05:29):
Good mh Amen, trade at the guy is still calling.

(05:54):
Reverend Tama and Pastor Tamika and past the Eric.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
Are you with me?

Speaker 7 (06:00):
Got okay?

Speaker 4 (06:02):
A man? Okay? So again we.

Speaker 7 (06:04):
Want to thank everyone for joining. I do have Pastor
Eric and Pastor Tamika with us from Marriage Chakeover by
the one, So we're gonna go ahead and turn everything
over to different this time.

Speaker 2 (06:13):
Thank you go for a man, hey man, thank you
so much. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to Marriage Takeover Podcast. This
is your girlsmka, it's your boy.

Speaker 6 (06:24):
You wrong mill.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
Listen, we keep it real, we keep it okay, we
are Marriage Takeover, so listen. We want to apologize for
starting just a tab it late, but we have a
street ready for you on today. So what we're gonna
talk about today?

Speaker 6 (06:42):
So hey, so if you're going back a couple of weeks,
we did a we did a kitchen conversation after dark
and so you know, and then everything so nice and
it's wonderful. It kept going going going, So it's like,
you know what, We're gonna have a live podcasts with

(07:03):
marriage takeover after dark. And so that's what is on
the agenda for this evening. I tell you because listen,
when you begin to talk about the when you begin
to talk about the intimacy and the roadblocks, and you know,
and just a lot of other stuff that I also

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tend to take place as well, a lot of times
we don't really have the opportunity to dig into it.
But this podcast, listening, we're talking about saying so were
talking about getting some folks, some folks free today. You
hear me, because listen, when I tell you the truth,
I tell you the truth that when I put like this,

(07:43):
I'm gonna put it just like this. I have come
to recognize that right now, marriages are literally under attack,
and a lot of times a lot of going unspoken
because of one shame to guilt, how we look in

(08:05):
the public eye or how we look around people and
stuff with that nature and understanding that marriage being that
one thing that God has created. When it doesn't even
matter if you say this or not, it boils down
to the principle. And so tonight, yo, listen, we this
is after dog I listen. My heart's desire is to

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really dig deep into this so that one we can
be free too, so that God can do what.

Speaker 9 (08:36):
He's gonna do in the or through us and in us.

Speaker 6 (08:39):
Is that alright? Is that? Is that all right? That's
all right, That's that's alright. So it so if you are,
if you are not, if you are still trying to
tune in, so you're not steps just for fight those
they want to hit it on accent. But you can
tune in, you can follow, you can We're actually going
live to the YouTube and also to the Facebook group

(09:04):
and the Facebook page, so you can also jump in
live there as well. But then also at the bottom
of the screen you will see the number if you
like to call in. If you have any questions, concerns,
or comments, you can call in at a number that
is strolling at the bottom of the screen. Listen, because
we are here for it all and that's not all right.
So we're gonna go ahead and open up with prayer.

(09:26):
Is that all right? You want me to pray in
the first So you got all right? Father him a
lott God, We thank you now, Father, We give you
all glory, honor. We thank you for your grace, glory God.
We thank you for your love. We thank you for favor. God.
We thank you for what you're doing right now in
this season on God Father, we thank you on God Father,
because of what you are already set in place. Father,

(09:46):
even though the enemy is still trying to wage war,
right now, will God Father, we come against it now
in the mighty name of Chesus. So Father, I pray
now on God, that your naughty right now follow God,
breaking every yoke of bu your God is the name
of Jesus, Oh god Father, we thank you right now God,
say that you are no longer you have no room

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in this place civil So Father, we thank you right
now on God Father, let your will be done now
in the mighty name of Jesus. Father, we thank you
for the blood of God. We thank you for the
blood of God. We thank you for the blood, O
god Father, continue to let it poor now in the
name of Jesus Father, for every couple God, every relationship, Father,

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every marriage. Right now, will God under the sound of
my voice, No, God Father, we come against everything that
is trying to hinder, O God, everything that is trying
to separate. On God in the name of Jesus or
God have your way right now, Oh God Father.

Speaker 7 (10:49):
We thank you.

Speaker 6 (10:49):
Right now, Lord, we give your glory and honor God.
Even for every single person that is listening, O God Father, God,
I declare your heathen because he to be a pundant,
O God Father, because he that that they continue to
walk into vicular that you have already given them on
God in the name of cheesas Father, even if there's
strum on God that I might have already been through
the through through the divorce of Gods. Father God, for

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you already said in your word that now there's no
condnation to them that are in Christ's cheesams, who walks
out after the flesh but after the spirit. So Father,
we thank you right now, on God.

Speaker 10 (11:23):
So Father, we asked that you just.

Speaker 6 (11:24):
Half your way. Hey God, we give you the glory. Now,
we give you the honor Father. You take this pray,
you know Ton Jesus name a man, a man, and
a man. Oh man, let's go, let let go, let go,
let go. So again it's is its his marriage? Takeover? Uh?
The you can call in. This is the live podcast.

(11:46):
You can call in at. The number is six four
sixty four seven eight zero six six zero. You can
also see that number scrolling down at the bottom of
the screen. And so we look forward to your call.
But we fulda go ahead and dive on in. Is
that all right?

Speaker 2 (12:01):
And and and let me make sure that we also
at this beautiful disclosure and disclaimer when you call in, y'all,
don't be calling in with foolishness.

Speaker 9 (12:10):
Come on, man, do not.

Speaker 2 (12:12):
I repeat, I repeat, do not call in with no foolishness.
If you have questions, you want to make comment, do
you want to share us a testimony, We welcome that,
but do not, I repeat, do not calling in with
no foolishness because we will disconnect in Jesus' name. I
just want to make sure we are awfully aware we
will connect in Jesus' name. Hey, then I'll watch we

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don't go ahead and get started real quick though, And
this is after dogs hits you with But this is
the thing.

Speaker 6 (12:42):
I kind of want to I kind of want to
look at what if we sit back and look at
what are some of the scenes that draws the what
are some of the things that you think draws the disconnect?
And that is the one thing that we call everything
start with a disconnect. Why would you say that, bro?

(13:04):
How reason why I would say that is because no
matter what may take place in your marriage, there's something
that's gonna be off because there's sometimes you're not gonna
always see out of eye, You're not gonna always be
on that same page. But how do you but how
do you how do you move through that? How do

(13:25):
you over how do you overcome those moments in order
to keep the connection?

Speaker 2 (13:31):
You ask two different questions, but you want us to
answer to us.

Speaker 6 (13:35):
Yeah, different questions. I mean, I'll tell you listen, I'm
just excited. I'll see I'm very excited here, right. But
it's like, how do you keep that how do you
keep the connection when there's been when there has been
an issue that has drawn a disconnect? Or how do
you keep that connection when you're not I think that

(13:55):
might be an easy way to go. How do you
keep that connection when you're not seeing out of eye.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
You have to make a decision.

Speaker 6 (14:03):
And what so how it's like, so it's making that decision?
How like how do you come about to make that decision? Like?
What decision do I have to make in order to
in order to say out or to keep that that?
How can I say our continue to be on that
same page?

Speaker 2 (14:21):
I mean, you have to make a decision. You have
to make a decision whether or not you want to
show up as your new self. You want to make
sure that I hear now can y'all hear us?

Speaker 6 (14:32):
Now?

Speaker 2 (14:34):
Can y'all hear us?

Speaker 6 (14:35):
Now?

Speaker 2 (14:35):
I can hear? So I believe we can hear each other.

Speaker 6 (14:38):
I hear it. Okay, I heard the playback. That's what
I heard.

Speaker 2 (14:42):
Okay, Yeah, we live. Y'all were alive in the full color.
So now I can hear and I'm thinking that that's
that's a good thing.

Speaker 6 (14:52):
Hey, can you hear us?

Speaker 2 (14:53):
Can you hear us?

Speaker 4 (14:55):
So?

Speaker 2 (14:55):
I saw some comments coming up on you too, but
I can't read them because they're too far away.

Speaker 6 (15:01):
Wow, Yes, I can hear Okay.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Great, So the question was ask your question again?

Speaker 6 (15:10):
Question?

Speaker 2 (15:10):
So wait, wait, wait, we gotta start our wheel over right,
can could they hear us. Oh okay, oh we just
we could just not hear ours. Okay, all right, y'all
were alive in fuller code. So the question is, you know,
how do we reconnect?

Speaker 1 (15:32):
Right?

Speaker 2 (15:32):
If there is a disconnect, you have to really make
a decision. Every single opportunity in life, whether it's in
your marriage, whether it's on your job, whether it's you
as a parent, whether you as an individual, we get
the opportunity to make a decision. Are we going to
show up and please guys? Or are we going to
show up in our selfishness? Are we going to show

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up in our bitterness? Are we going to show up
in our anger? Like, we get a decision to make
every moment of our lives, and so that doesn't change
when it comes to your marriage. So in order to
be able to keep reconnect with the disconnection, you have
to make that decision. Am I going to show up
and be the truest authentic person person of myself? Am

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I going to show up and glorify God in this moment?

Speaker 1 (16:17):
Like?

Speaker 2 (16:17):
How am I showing up? And you can still show
up and be your truest authentic self and still glorify God.
It's a decision that you have to make.

Speaker 6 (16:26):
Man, that is good. But even when you make the decision,
you know, I can make the decision to take this.
I don't want to cut my light off on not.

Speaker 11 (16:41):
Doing too much.

Speaker 6 (16:43):
But you can make the decision to take the plug
and plug it into the outlet in order to draw
because the connection. But what is that process that you
still have to deal with on the mental size Because
if you saying I'm gonna show up to in my

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authentic self, to me, I believe in order to keep
the connection, you gotta make sure that that the atmosphere
or the air is clear. And a lot of times
we gotta be able. Hey, I have so much feedback
in here's show, but a lot of times we have

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to be we have to be able to go through
the process to clear the air. Because just because you
have it, just because you give back to the connection,
but never dealt with the issue. Guess what the enemy
is gonna bring about a point that's gonna bring the
issue back up. So the question is am I just

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going with the flow or am I actually want to
have a pure connection? Because I look at it. I
look at the connection far as like with a car battery,
right a car battery can still give power to the
car even though it may have a little corrosion on it.

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But if you never clean that post, all the corrosion
is going to take over to cause another disconnect. And
so therefore you have to go through the process to clear.

Speaker 2 (18:28):
And even in that process, you still have to make
a decision because I have to choose whether or not
I even want to go through this process. I have
to choose whether or not I want to continue along
with this process. I have a decision because even sometimes
in the process of so, I'm at a season in
my life where a lot of things are shifting right,

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and what I was able to tolerate before, I'm just
not I don't have the patience for it. And so
even in the shifting or even in the showing up
right thing like, you have to notice that behavior has changed.
You have to notice other things. So if the corrosion
is there, if the different things are showing up and
you're saying, oh, I got to make sure that oh,
we're having this conversation, but you're noticing that communication or conversation,

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but behaviors and actions aren't changing, then you still have
to make a decision whether or not you're going to
show up. You still have to make the decision whether
or not you're gonna say, Okay, I still choose to
make sure that I'm.

Speaker 6 (19:27):
Moving in my fullness.

Speaker 2 (19:30):
I have to make sure that I'm still moving in
my feeling. I have to make sure that I'm moving
in the way that God.

Speaker 6 (19:35):
Has like where he's shifting me.

Speaker 2 (19:37):
It's still a decision. I think that you have to
make each and every moment.

Speaker 6 (19:41):
Of course there is there is a decision that she
hasn't made, but also in the same time, in a decision,
understanding everything still comes with it on consequence and understand
that this is this is your part, because you can
only do you can own bring your part in order

(20:01):
to clear the ass of your point. Your part is, Hey, okay,
I understand that we may not be seeing eye to
eye right now, but what is why tomorrow gonna hold
or what is my next minute gonna hold? If I
continue to one not clear the air and not not

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take into consideration of what's being said with with with
the communication, because a lot of times we can make
a decision to want to clear the air but not listen.
And so again when it comes to your part, because understand,
everybody's always growing. If you're not growing, then we got
to you gotta chicking things. But everything is always growing,

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everything is always evolving. So it's how you want to evolve.
And so for me, it's like, no, let's clear the
air because the one thing I think that we don't
take into consideration is the other part. Like, okay, just
because I've made the decision, now what there's this decision

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now is gonna make because understand, you are still dealing
with your own healing. You're still dealing with your own
you know what I'm saying, things that you found that
hinders you. So you're still dealing with those things playing
And so therefore for for for me, I just I
can say for me, I've learned to separate, to separate

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when I made the decision. I've learned to one see
what what part I claim, and then too, I look
to see what mine and I don't want to say,
look to see but and I also know what my
role is. And so in order to move to move

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forward and keep the connection that there are just some
parts I got to come to Chris with, like yo,
I got to die to sell. Then it comes down
to what they ain't eat What can you do to
be better? It's not about trying to It's not about
trying to please nobody, y'all are if those you that
know me, y'all know, I ain't not trying to please man.

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I'm all about trying.

Speaker 2 (22:17):
To serve man.

Speaker 6 (22:18):
But it's about, oh what is it? Can I do better? So?
Without those things? Guess what? Without without having a communication
and that process that how can you actually be able
to move forward? So what you're saying, you got to
be willing to have the conversation when you make the decision. Right, Okay, Hey,

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so hey man, that's that thing. Get right, hey, jump
on listen. If you have any questions, because we see
the comments rolling. If you have any questions, concerns, comments,
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four six, four seven, eight zero sixty six zeros Come on,
man A So that was that was one thing man

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and and so and understanding what that disconnect is. So
you know a lot of times I I dition that
can't happen based on for our treats that haven't been
dealt with, based on for our our our hurts and pains,
our our.

Speaker 9 (23:34):
What's not the word is not in certainties in security
in security. Thank you, but again we are you willing
to look at you?

Speaker 6 (23:50):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So yeah, man, that's
that was yeah yeah, and that was that was pretty
That was pretty good.

Speaker 2 (23:59):
So we went to welcome you here. You're just tuning in.
We are this is Marriage Takeover a podcast. We are
live today and it is after dark. So if you
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make their comments or share a testimony. But I will
offer this disclaimer. Please do not call the foolishness. We
will disconnect in Jesus' name. So we just want to

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Speaker 6 (24:45):
Oh yeah, after dogs. So how do you know when
you're in your marriage or in your relationship where there
is like how how was power? Are you able to
dispoint those things?

Speaker 2 (25:04):
Some mean you're able to tell, right, you're able to
the where're you were having conversations before? Right, you aren't
having those conversations where it was more welcoming before. You
don't have that where there was more security and safety.
You don't have that anymore. Where there was once openness, Right,

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it may not be as open anymore where there seemed
to be you know, a little bit more freedom within
your relationship, whether it was in you know, your body
language communicates that, your verbal conversations, it communicates it what
you're doing. Right, there's distance. I think anybody can can
tell when things are different, right, And it's important to

(25:48):
notice the distance so that you're able to connect and
you know, reconnect that distance before. But sometimes you have
to process like, Okay, why is there a disconnect?

Speaker 9 (25:58):
That's good?

Speaker 2 (25:59):
What really happened? And why am I feeling the way
that I'm feeling it? Like what's going on? Because like
you have a right to feel what you're feeling. Right,
You process that, but you keep moving right, You process that,
but you build back the restoration right, just like a
scripture says renew your mind daily, right, in the process
of renewing your mind, that's not just renewing your mind
with the scripture, with the Word of God, renewing your

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mind with everything that is within you. So okay, renewing
your mind. Why am I processing? And why am I
holding onto this? Why is this like what is really
going on? And really processing those things because in the
process of the renewing, the renewal is supposed to be
able to get us back to the right standing with God. Right,
we want to make sure that we are right back
where God wants to Wait, we're right back where God
needs us. But we are right back posture where everything

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that God has because to renew y'all know, I like
to be able to break the words down when it
comes to just talking about the Word and breaking it
down the Hebrew. So if we just define renew right,
we're talking about renewal and renewing the connection. And I
thought we were going to go somewhere else with this conversation,
but we going with the flow. But the renew is

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to resume after interruption. That's the dictionary definition is to
after interruption. We are resuming after interruption. So when you
think about renew right and you think about what that means,
just in the dictionary definition, I mean again the dictionary
definition that is to renew after a disruption, that is,

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to refresh after a disruption, that is, to resume back
to normal or regroup after there has been some type
of interruption. So if that's interruption aside of your life interruption,
aside of your mental interruption, aside of your spiritual life,
interruption with your marriage, interruption with your intimacy, like, all
of that is an interruption. If it's not what it

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used to be, it's now an interruption. So as a
part of being able to go back to what to
get back on track, right, we have to make sure
that we know what the steps are to be able
to get back on track after the renewal. So, how
do we get back to safety, How do we get
back to the normal conversations, How do we get back
to the happiness, How do we get back to the joy?

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How do we get back to the openness? Right? How
do we get back to that? And so in our
community we have services and resources and support to where
we hold each other, we hold you accountable, right, we
give you the baby steps to get back to that connection,
but it first starts with you making that decision, because
it's not always going to be an easy decision. Right

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when people like this, you know, there's the saying, you know,
when they go hide, when they go no, I go hide?
Well normally, right, there's always one spouse that's always the
one that has to regroup. There's always the one spouse
that's always making the first step, always the one spouses
always swim back to apologize, always to one's spouses coming back,
and sometimes you just get hired of that. And so

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the reality is is what steps are required and what
decision are you looking to make to be able to
go back to that restoration place, to get back to
that renewal place.

Speaker 6 (29:03):
That's good, that's good. Oh yeah, the the what of
the stealth? Are you looking to get back to that place?
You know, because a lot of times when you sit
back and just look at what love, what unconditional love is,

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it covers that that's a peece that we don't really
look at you know what I'm saying, Oh no, it's
just rainbows and sunshine. No, it's not look look at christ.

Speaker 2 (29:38):
Love putting on the cross.

Speaker 6 (29:40):
So when you sit back and look at it, especially
when you're talking about when you're talking about marriage, because understand,
it's when you are, when you have that connection and
when you are unified. The as far as impostality understanding,
there was only two plays in biblical times where you

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saw the power of God move. Where you see that
one at the tower at the power of Babble, then
you saw it again and act two in the Upper Room.
They were all on one core just what that same
thing works in marriage. When you are connected in totality,

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the same power of God will move. So this is
one that we have to We have to be willing
to do the thing that we need to do in
order to keep the connection. If you need to humble yourself,
then humble yourself. Don't let God have to humble you.

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Trust me, you don't want that, but humble yourself just
because everything may steam on right, but down the one
thing you can't do that I've come to ract. You
can't make somebody do something they don't want to do.

Speaker 2 (31:10):
Right, that's true. And then the Hebrew word for renew
means new, So I just wanted to so when it's
it's new, So when it comes to renewing, it's making
it new and the Hebrew. So if you go back
and look at let me just say, if I can
find that scription.

Speaker 6 (31:27):
We're gonna find. We've got time. We got time, right,
So while she's looking for that, I was gonna have
do a commercial commercial break, but I'm a host because.

Speaker 12 (31:37):
I didn't get the commercials down in time, So.

Speaker 6 (31:41):
We're gonna keep rolling.

Speaker 13 (31:43):
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take a look. And like I said, we're gonna send
We're gonna send up session gifts.

Speaker 6 (32:32):
Not surprised but they call the such gifts right, We're
gonna as you send you a special gift if you're here.
If you are here, so understand, if you are here
within the special gift, and we only we have a
limited to fly. Oh just let you know that right
down you probably.

Speaker 2 (32:53):
Verse yeah, Roman's twelve and two.

Speaker 11 (32:56):
So oh on a second, such a time, such a time,
my my, my mind, are you right?

Speaker 2 (33:21):
I don't know why it mind must have a different translation.

Speaker 4 (33:24):
So like that, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (33:26):
But Romans twelve and two it says, do not conform
to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by
the renewing of your mind. So being transformed, right, be
changed by the renewing of your mind with a new mind.

Speaker 5 (33:41):
Right.

Speaker 2 (33:41):
If we're looking back at the Hebrew word and then
in Psalm fifty one intent, it says, creating me a
clean heart of gud, and renew a right spirit within me.
So when again that renew make a new spirit in me,
like create in me a new thing gud. So when
you are renewing, it's recognizing that something in you, within you,

(34:02):
needs to change. So we're talking about the renewing. It's
about making sure that you understand what inside of you
needs to change, and oftentimes it needs to change in
you first before it can change inside of your marriage. Right,
you have to start that change first. And you've got
to do that work first before it can actually start
inside of your marriage. We miss that point. We want

(34:23):
the marriage to be restored and renewed, but then we
still show up with some of those same behaviors, some
of those same you know conversations, some of those same
you know, those same behaviors. Is the thing that I
keep saying, but other things there was something else, not activity,
the same mindset, same action, same same everything right and

(34:48):
so in order. But then we're looking for the marriage
to change, right. It doesn't work that way. We got
to change first because what people don't understand when they
come to marriage take over right. One of the first
things we said with one of the very first things
we tell them, and it it takes about three months
to really get it. I ain't lying in my line,
but those are membership and my line. It takes people

(35:08):
about three months to get it. But I say, and
when we first start doing it, we both say, like
we say, all right, stop thinking about your fouse, stop
trying to change your fouse, stop trying to know this
right now is between you and God. One of the
first things we do is try to make sure that
you understand. Listen, you like, we know that you love
your mouse. We know that you want all of these

(35:29):
things to change. We want all of these things to
work out overnight.

Speaker 1 (35:33):
I know this.

Speaker 2 (35:34):
But in order for this to take place, you have
to make sure that you are stepping into your fullness
of your change. You got to make sure that you
are transformed first. You have to make sure that you
are doing the work and what's necessary for you first.
Before it even changes and ships, the trajectory of your
marriage does what.

Speaker 10 (35:55):
J Yeah, I'm like, what.

Speaker 6 (35:59):
It for before is still the trajectory of your marriage.
Listen that Joe got that right there by himself. And
it's heavy enough because it's like, listen, a lot of
times we always look at I'm I'm gonna be one hundred.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
All right, all the way, we are all the way
somebody so so buddy cout but just joining us for
the podcast, and I think he just got she is
doing what you're supposed to do though.

Speaker 10 (36:34):
She got in the house.

Speaker 2 (36:34):
You heard something that she's going She's.

Speaker 6 (36:36):
Going to go get it now, sail dad and wash
the door.

Speaker 2 (36:39):
Good old Bundy cot.

Speaker 6 (36:42):
But you know what I'm saying. But that's but that's
the thing though, because we're coming. We come into her
trying to like, no, my spout is this? My spout
is that? My spouse is that?

Speaker 4 (36:52):
No?

Speaker 6 (36:53):
No, because it takes two of the tangle. So what
is the what's the what's the part that you bringing? Right,
that's the that's the thing. What is the part that
you are bring Because it's like, well, hey, well we
did x y X y Z, but where were you
in this? That's the part I gotta look at. Well,

(37:16):
you find out what he he triggered she, she triggered
me okay, and I called you to do what because
a lot of times, a lot of times, it's a
lot easier to blame the other person versus accepting the responsibility.
We're just talking about keeping the connections.

Speaker 2 (37:37):
And the reality is, y'all when y'all get to Heaven's doors,
like God ain't gonna ask.

Speaker 6 (37:41):
You or what did your husband do?

Speaker 2 (37:42):
Or what did your wife do? Right, you have to
hold accountability for yourself, your actions, how you showed up,
how you treated your sopuse, how you talk to your souse,
how you interacted like, you have to show up and
hold account for your own actions, not for your spouses.
So remember that that's another reason why again we like it. Again,

(38:04):
we do the separation part first, like, listen, you gotta
make sure that you are understanding what God is doing
inside because your marriage is bigger than you, right, your
assignment on your marriage is bigger than you. And so
that means that yes, us as an individually, yeah, we
gotta die to self. We gotta because we gotta die daily.
We have to pick up our own cross and die

(38:26):
daily with God. And it shows up in every aspect
of our lives, every aspect of our lives. Yes, indeed,
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Speaker 6 (39:49):
Okay, cool, Hey, so listen, don't not read the No.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
The comments are good, I mean the comments, the interaction
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Speaker 6 (40:01):
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Speaker 2 (40:05):
Say, don't Yeah, you have questions there, you have comments.
But again the nay share that you don't call it
with no foolishness because we will disconnect in Jesus, nay amen.
We love y'all. Don't y'all call it no foolishness. And
I also want to say too. I know the podcast,
but I'm also praying for TD Jakes and his family

(40:26):
excuse me, Bishop td Jakes in his family today he
had a medical emergency. I was watching online and it
was really hard to watch, and so just praying for
him and his family, and which is praying God not
like this right, just allowing him the dignity and the
honor and respect that he has served God's people. And
so really want to make sure the Potter's House did

(40:47):
put out a message and said that he's stable, He's
in under medical care. It was a flight, a minor
medical injury or medical situation, and so I just want
to just make sure that I'm glad he's stable and
just praying for him and his family and for his
health and for all the staff that is caring for him. Everything.
I just wanted to put that little plug in is weel,

(41:10):
just because I know that there were a lot of
people that saw a lot of people experience it are
trying to figure out what happened. But I am praying
for that, praying for him, praying for his health, praying
for the medical staff, his family. Everybody.

Speaker 6 (41:22):
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is six four six, four seven eight sez wrong, hey man,
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Speaker 2 (41:37):
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Speaker 6 (41:40):
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Speaker 2 (41:41):
Right, hey, how are you? I'm blessed you blessed. That
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Speaker 4 (41:54):
Oh't know.

Speaker 8 (41:55):
I was just saying, you know that I was listener,
and I'm just thankful and blessed by it. In the
Holy Spirit that you know spoke to me that you know,
while the earth remained, see time harvest, you know, sowing
and reaping will never cease. And I'm just so thankful
that all I have to do is just plant seeds
in the heart and just keep water, and it would

(42:17):
love every day and it will grow. And what I
want to see, all I have to do is plant
that seat. I want to see it in my heart
or in my wife's heart, and we'll see the fruit
of that. And I was thankful that.

Speaker 2 (42:31):
I love that. Thank you so much, Thank you so
much for calling in and Sandy so for those people
to hear. So he was basically saying that, you know,
he's what God had showed him right, and he continues
to plant the seeds right, and that there will be
a harvest that sown in the heart of his wife,
and so we continue to do that. Thank you so

(42:52):
much for that, want you so much for calling in
the city, so so for those of you who may
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Speaker 9 (42:58):
So he was basically that, you know, listening.

Speaker 2 (43:03):
Sorry, I'm sorry about that. No, thank you so much,
Thank you so much for calling in. And I guess
we should have asked what were you calling in from?
But I think that was Navo.

Speaker 8 (43:15):
You're welcome, You're welcome, You're welcome.

Speaker 2 (43:17):
Yeah, where are you calling it from?

Speaker 12 (43:19):
Behind?

Speaker 8 (43:22):
Oh yeah, definitely.

Speaker 6 (43:27):
Of course from But I said, but I know, thank you,
that's what it was.

Speaker 7 (43:38):
Its Las Vegas, Nevada.

Speaker 2 (43:42):
Loved good job. Listen, let's listen. Okay, okay, so when
you're calling in, make sure that you mute your mice
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I don't want to I don't want to put all

(44:04):
out on the internet, but okay, okay, but I love it.
Thanks for calling in.

Speaker 6 (44:15):
That is so key on what he was saying, that
you gotta plant and because then there will be seed
time and heart there will be the guy plant the seed.
And I think a lot of times they an we
trying to keep us hung up on our differences to
where we don't want to plant the sea hot, thank
you Lord. We'll rather plant a seed of discore versus

(44:37):
a seed of peace.

Speaker 4 (44:39):
Oh, come on now, so.

Speaker 2 (44:43):
The next color that comes in, can you plug that?

Speaker 4 (44:46):
Joda?

Speaker 2 (44:48):
How can you plug it up? Can you connect this? Knoway,
my ab just gave me the side.

Speaker 6 (44:56):
I let's see. Let me yeah, heavy one of those
wireless mike so we can just put that up that way.
But yeah, because man, when you sit back and when
you sit back and just look at that's a lot

(45:17):
of times when we when we're praying, and and and
because because I think you had mentioned it earlier, you
got to get tired of being that one that's always
coming to apologize for Man, that is awesome what you
were saying. Because if you keep your heart right and
you keep your heart partial before God, listen, I've seen

(45:38):
God moves in my time of waiting, in my time
of patiently wait, I've seen God move because I continue you.

Speaker 2 (45:48):
To play it to see.

Speaker 6 (45:50):
Yeah, yeah, man, that was good. That was good. We
appreciate that comment.

Speaker 15 (45:55):
Thank you for comment.

Speaker 2 (45:57):
Yeah, for coming in Las Vegas. Appreciate you so much.

Speaker 6 (46:03):
Because I tell y'all, man, it's it's just as what
you were saying. Oh, it's just as what wife was
saying earlier. Like yo, it's like three months before you
see that difference. This is why because of the mandate
that God has put on our lives and through marriage takeover.
This is why we was like you know what, God,
we hear you Listen. I'm gonna tell you right now

(46:26):
that Black Pride is special. This is the only time
you are going to see this. I'm telling you unless
the Lord move and say from otherwise. But as of
right now, this is the only time you're going to
see this. So go ahead on and check this out.
Check out the Black Pride Express specials. That's yeah.

Speaker 2 (46:49):
Yeah, So this is Merics Takeover podcast, The Merits take
Up a podcast show after dark And so what are
the questions that you have?

Speaker 6 (46:58):
Oh, that was the only one of that as far
as with the connection and whatnot. Now there are some
others when it comes down to intimacy. Yeah, there's there's
some most of them coming down the intimacy. But I
got to pull up pulling the notes back up there would.

Speaker 2 (47:16):
Go all right, and before you go into like the
questions with the intimacy, right, I think one of the
things that prompted us that's I was trying to think, y'all,
I'm thinking about the collar greens that I got upstairs
in the skillet that I'm praying I'm not burning and
running out of water for dinner. And so I now

(47:37):
that I'm I'm sitting here thinking, I was like, wait
a minute. We were so to talk about something else,
but one of the conversations far it was a an
instagram that we saw with Kem on stage had you
know community, he put something out there and there was
an older lady like this was back in the day,
Back in the day. This older lady had come on
and she was like, if you going down on a man,

(47:57):
you going to hell. And the man go down on you,
you go into hell. And I think that prompted the conversation.
And I just seeing all the different comments that were
in the in the inside of the inside of the queue,
I was like, wait a minute, like and I think
that the church does not communicate enough about like intimacy,
about sexual intimacy, and I don't know why. And so

(48:20):
because God made sex right, he made us, he made
our bodies, He made sex. Song of Solomon, the Book
of the Song of Solomon talks about the intimacy. He
talks about all the different parts of the woman's body
and all. So we're gonna bring that up in scripture
and we're gonna talk about it because sometimes it's not
communicated right, and sometimes it's not talked about. And I
really do believe that we miss the mark on that

(48:41):
because when people go, especially when they're in the church, right,
I don't know why we feel like when we get
saved and sanctified that we ain't like freakation no more.
So like, I don't know, I can't do that no more.
But you was doing it before you came to the church,
like you were doing you were doing all.

Speaker 15 (48:58):
That stuff before.

Speaker 2 (48:59):
And now that you hold you're now that you had
a husband, you're like, now, baby, I can't do that
no more. But you gave the best parts of you
to somebody else before you got married. You come cross
that you gave the best parts of you to somebody
who probably didn't even deserve it. Oh oh, and now
your husband is sitting there like baby, like I just
got some needs and it's just like whoa wait a minute, yeah,

(49:20):
So that was I thought the conversation we were gonna
be having today.

Speaker 6 (49:24):
But at the same time, a lot of times we
don't recognize that when we come into when we come
into marriage, we don't do those certain things because of
the issue that we have, because of the shame, because
of the guilt, which is because because of the disconnect.

Speaker 10 (49:42):
So when you sit back here, when you sit back
and look.

Speaker 16 (49:44):
At it, it's like, what dame, Like, why now because
I said I do now, I can't do what of
what I have done before?

Speaker 2 (49:56):
But sometimes it wasn't even because I got Like, it
wasn't even because I got married. Sometimes like though there
are couples, right, one of you might have gotten saved
while you were married. So before you got married, well,
before you got saved, y'all was good. And then all
of a sudden and it was like you got married
and you was like, oh, wait a minute, I'm wearing

(50:18):
the mock what what is it called? The not the
monck loups them, you know the ones that can't nobody
to get inside up to with your bonnet and everything else,
all like listen, and it was just like, no, don't.

Speaker 10 (50:37):
Touch I can't do that.

Speaker 2 (50:39):
And it's just like, wait a minute, let's talk about
like what what song of Solomon was talking about? Because
if your bivalry like my biblery, it's a stuffing.

Speaker 13 (50:51):
Here that made you be like, why you're supposed to
take the chance done when you're getting barried? Not bell,
that's the bell that you put on that that keeps
you from it.

Speaker 15 (51:08):
Prevent Yeah, how you know my dad Helloa in the world, Esus, Jesus,
let's listen.

Speaker 2 (51:28):
She got a little boyfriend now. So I'm like, how
do you know? I really want to I need to
know how.

Speaker 4 (51:33):
You know that?

Speaker 2 (51:34):
I didn't know that what is really going on?

Speaker 6 (51:44):
But that's what that's the thing though, he thinking about it.
Don't get me wrong, I do understand because a lot
of times we don't talk. We don't have the sex.
So I might get on time my best not to
be censer, but we don't have those if intimacy compa
conversation on what I like and what I don't like.

Speaker 10 (52:09):
Yeah, right, So when it comes to.

Speaker 6 (52:12):
Understand your your bedroom is undefiled.

Speaker 10 (52:16):
So what you are when you both agree, right, and
what you all agree on that. Hey, let's rock and
roll if you like to have a lot of pop.

Speaker 6 (52:30):
Amen, Amen, I said die.

Speaker 2 (52:33):
So if that's where it's not, they just one and
it doesn't make you not save, it doesn't make you
like Let's say, listen.

Speaker 6 (52:42):
You with the Resolved the Songs of Solomon. You will
see what we're talking about.

Speaker 17 (52:46):
If he if he's saying the scriptures saying, if he's saying,
I love how your breast is looking, I'm paraphrasing it.

Speaker 6 (52:57):
What is what just he saying?

Speaker 13 (52:59):
What she is?

Speaker 10 (53:00):
I love how the water.

Speaker 6 (53:03):
Is glittering ore fraser is glistening off of your body.

Speaker 2 (53:08):
What do you think she is saying.

Speaker 6 (53:11):
Saying? But I'm just saying, yeah, so and this is
why that understand because we know that how they eny
bey try to get us.

Speaker 2 (53:25):
He tried to be so in area. Yeah, it's not great.

Speaker 6 (53:31):
We know that it's more to marriage than making law.
We understand that. But when you begin to really understand
your love making farts. When the Lord touch.

Speaker 10 (53:43):
You with your with the with his fringer of love,
and you able to see a new day.

Speaker 6 (53:48):
This is why he's saying, this is the day that
the Lord has made let us rejoice and be glad
in it. My love making starts from the time I
put my feet on the ground. Listen, let me tell
y'all a well understanding. It's two things that happen when

(54:13):
you get up. One love making starts, and two the
enemy runs my my, my mind, don't get don't get
don't don't get me started. Why why why be called?
When you understand who you are in God and you

(54:35):
understand your roles in your marriage, hear me, there's there's
a reason you gotta understand those things. Why Because the
moment out my feet hit the flow, guess what the
enemy has already been flatten. But when you stand up
that morning, guess what things can change? Oh my god, listen,

(55:01):
it's one times. It's one time, y'all.

Speaker 13 (55:03):
I'll try to.

Speaker 18 (55:03):
Get at my white sick come back and I came back?
Why that be called something happens? Come on here, Jesus,
I tell you.

Speaker 6 (55:14):
What I led that morning. Oh my, I'll I'm getting I.

Speaker 2 (55:20):
Just wanted to share with trying to find some of
the scriptures, because right I want to make sure that
we are offering scriptures. And y'all ain't just out here
like my y'ag just songing all outside, y'all, y'all head
listen to Song of Solomon, chapter four, verse twelve. And
this is a new living translation. I'm gonna try to
say if I can find another translation as well. But
it says you are my private garden, my treasure, my bride,
and secluded spring, a hidden fountain, your size shelter or

(55:42):
paradise of pomegrants. Hm, your size shelter come on. That
means your size are sheltering when you shelter. And that's
the outside right, watching or whatever it is on the
inside right, that's a paradise of pomegrants. So it's rare
spices Hannah with dars narting saffron, fragrant and cut klamas,

(56:03):
klamas and cinnamon, with all the trees of Frankinsons merton
Alos are every other loveliest and every other LOVELI spie,
you are a garden fountain, a well of fresh water
come on streaming down from Lebanon's mountains, from bool fountains lived.

Speaker 6 (56:22):
Listen, then, y'all listen what I want you to do,
y'all say, I'm playing so we can draw some correlations.
This go grab you a palm of grain and cut
it open. Your thighs are the shelter of the palma grin.

Speaker 10 (56:37):
Come on, now, whose guard?

Speaker 6 (56:42):
Who's garden? This my guard?

Speaker 2 (56:46):
And then again that's the secret springs, So nobody else
could have it but your sala.

Speaker 6 (56:51):
Right.

Speaker 2 (56:51):
So again that's that's the secret. You are only for
your southm he that dwells in the secret place. So
I just wanted to offer that because I know we
got some people that's on here, that's Mary. We might
have some singles on here, we might have different type
of situations, and I don't want nobody to, you know,

(57:12):
to leave out here, you know, and and right put
you in a space that you might not be able
to regroup from. But I'm telling you right, this is biblical. Right,
So when you say that, oh I can't do this
or oh I can't go there, then let's really evaluate, well,
why can't you?

Speaker 6 (57:29):
Why is there trauma there?

Speaker 2 (57:32):
And if there's trauma there, let's talk about the trauma
that's there. Let's make sure that you're going through the
full healing process. But don't let it be because oh
God's not gonna be pleased on listen, he created it, right,
that's what he's there to do. Like he created you
to be able to do that. And in your union
as you come together as one in sexual intimacy, then

(57:53):
guess what that's meaning. That that is saying that you
are being created to do one of the things, one
of the purposes that he's creative for you to be
able to do is come come together in union in one.
You are coming together in one embody, mind, and spirit.
That's why people talk about so much when you aren't
married or when you try to, you know, tiptoe out

(58:15):
that it's the soul tide. When you in the danger
of that with the soul tides, if you're being connected
with so many other people, MM, come on making sure
that you understand what that means when you are that
you are coming together mind, body.

Speaker 6 (58:28):
Soul, spirit, right.

Speaker 2 (58:32):
Girl, And when you're doing that, making sure that you
understand what that means. Yes, So for you that's single,
that's out there, don't you just be going up laying
with nobody right right? And you that's out there that's married,
thinking about tiptoe on out there, you better rethink that

(58:54):
you are connecting with the mind, body, soul and spirit.

Speaker 12 (58:58):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, And The one thing that a lot
of times we we fail to recognize understand.

Speaker 6 (59:06):
Is just what what Las Vegas said when it came on.
He said, God, he gave seeds to the soul. There's
always gonna be seed time and harvest. Understand. Understand, you
have feet, whether whether you are the the egg or
you are the swimmer, whatever you want, how you want

(59:29):
to put it, you you have feed.

Speaker 10 (59:33):
It's all a lot of.

Speaker 6 (59:34):
Times we we throw out our seeds not in its
best place. Come on, we we want to throw our
sieves because of selfish reasons? Are we want to hold
back our gates from our our secret place, from the
one that has access because of marriage, because of.

Speaker 10 (59:58):
How we're feeling.

Speaker 15 (01:00:00):
Yeah, but you wait a minute, you can't be having.

Speaker 6 (01:00:04):
A headache every day. If you're having a headache every day,
this is a medica issue.

Speaker 2 (01:00:09):
Yes, now we got to go and see why you
keep as a headache.

Speaker 6 (01:00:13):
But if you're using it as an excuge, right, what
does that what does it begin to use that to
do to draw the visious?

Speaker 2 (01:00:25):
Yeah, and if there is something that is going on medical, right,
being able to talk to your daughter, like not being
ashamed about where you are, there are situations where if
it's medically induced and you are unable to just do intercourse, right,
it's okay, right, But there are other options from intimacy

(01:00:46):
than just intercourse, right, And I just want to make sure.
I think sometimes we forget that and even in that space, right,
even if you don't under like, there are so many
other ways that you can have intemy with your spouse.
Intimacy with your spouse, but even in sanmacy is not
just in a course.

Speaker 6 (01:01:01):
It's god right.

Speaker 2 (01:01:02):
Being able to bring them into that process of where
you are going through that medical chapital, that's.

Speaker 9 (01:01:07):
Intimacy right right.

Speaker 2 (01:01:08):
Being able to have them along that journey, that's intimacy.
Be able to find other avenues of how there are
I think it's twenty two. I could be getting this wrong.
Let me let me search it first. I want to
say it's at least twenty two, Uh, sensual areas that
we have in our body where we can we can,

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excuse me, have a sensual experience of intimacy in our body,
on our body, So it's not just with intercourse. Let
me see if I can find it, because I want
to make sure.

Speaker 6 (01:01:42):
Listen, we are y'all, no, we ain't sex therapist. Were
just having a conversation just about a couple after dogs. Now,
don't get this Withted. Now we can bring all or
a sex therapist as need be. I'm just saying. I'm
just saying we.

Speaker 8 (01:01:58):
Could do that.

Speaker 6 (01:01:59):
What as your having just that just that regular communication?
Are just having this dialogue?

Speaker 8 (01:02:05):
Is right?

Speaker 6 (01:02:06):
Listen, it's it's more than one but how we always
say is more than one way. It's gonna gas. Yes,
it's more than one way to be intimate when your spouse.
It's more than one way. You know what I'm saying.
But I know, like sometimes when medical issues causes the

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how you said, causes the sword not to cause the
soldier not to salute a lot of us it it
hits the man who's not being able to salute.

Speaker 10 (01:02:39):
But don't get me wrong, ladies, I understand you hard
and bother and.

Speaker 6 (01:02:45):
Now yo, because of whatever reason, not able to salute.
So now guess what now?

Speaker 18 (01:02:53):
What can what else can we explore?

Speaker 6 (01:02:56):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (01:02:57):
Twenty four different types of orgasma? You've got?

Speaker 6 (01:03:02):
You got to be keptul with our words.

Speaker 2 (01:03:04):
Okay, yeah, but it's twenty four different types.

Speaker 6 (01:03:10):
I knew it was something.

Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
Twenty four different types so I just wanted to make
sure that you are fully aware that it's not again,
not just one area. So it's really about the education,
because sometimes we don't educate ourselves and it's really and
it's not anything to be embarrassed about, right, So it's
really about making sure that we really are doing the
due diligence and coming outside of our comfort zone because

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sometimes culture will teach us man, your salute, man, I
don't know what something wrong with you? You don't you
can't salute, you can't listen. Not making sure that we
are being again conformed to the world, but making sure
that we really are doing our due diligence as people,
as human beings, as children of the king. To explore,
like you're having a conversation with your doctor, talk to

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your doctor. Hey listen, doc, something is something at right
and I just need to understand this. And then hey, listen, well,
what other areas or what other ways or what other
things can I do to make sure that I'm pleasing
my spouse or pleasing my wife, Because I will tell
you that in our line of work that it's not
always that the whites got are heavy. Sometimes is that
you know, because of medication or because of whatever reason,

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sometimes the men are not able to get into a
place where they're able to serve their wife in that capacity.
So understanding, well, what is going on? What is taking place?

Speaker 6 (01:04:25):
How was that going? Like?

Speaker 7 (01:04:26):
What is what is what.

Speaker 2 (01:04:28):
Conversations do I need to have with my doctor? Right,
not being afraid to not being ashamed, What conversations do
I need to have to make sure that I am
I am showing up and my body is fully operating
like it needs to operate. And if it's not understanding
why it's not right? That really is that? That's the scenario, right,

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So I'm saying that our.

Speaker 6 (01:04:55):
Time is false spent, So that's only our line may
not be working.

Speaker 2 (01:05:04):
Oh it's not working.

Speaker 6 (01:05:05):
No, I'm sitting.

Speaker 2 (01:05:11):
So but we did Yeah it's only an hour so yeah,
so do we have anybody in the queue. Let me
just make sure I reach out to the producer first
if we have anybody in the queue before, and then
check on the time. I got a question supposed to okay.

Speaker 6 (01:05:28):
Call, but it's the phone line wasn't working, so I
have a question.

Speaker 2 (01:05:32):
Okay, okay, check with the producer quick. There's nobody in
the queue, Okay, I want to make sure you get
that number again. That's number is six two six four
six four seven eight zero six six.

Speaker 6 (01:05:45):
Zero is the Is the phone line still working?

Speaker 2 (01:05:51):
Let's find out, yeah, because we also streaming live. Okay,
it is not the phone line is not still working. Okay,
all right, but we're we're grateful for uh, for when
Christians talk radio, because we're on I know, we partner
with them and and there they've been such a blessing

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to us listening.

Speaker 6 (01:06:14):
I would tell you if it wasn't for them, we
would not be here. So, yeah, would not have would
not be here.

Speaker 2 (01:06:22):
So you thank Red Roads for when Christian Speaks blog
talk radio, and so we partnered to go live and
do different things. So the phone line is disconnected so
we can stop showing that number. That would be amazing.
And I guess we will take this last question and
then we'll answer that and then we will be off
to the races for this podcast for tonight.

Speaker 6 (01:06:42):
So we have uh, we have one from coming from YouTube.

Speaker 2 (01:06:48):
The question is.

Speaker 12 (01:06:51):
How can you talked about how such is a form
of worship in marriage and how that and how that
can be repaired after trust has been broken. That is
such a good real good question.

Speaker 6 (01:07:07):
And.

Speaker 2 (01:07:09):
It is absolutely an act of worship. So when God
created us, right, he created us, and he created us,
you know to worse. Right, we were created to worship.

Speaker 6 (01:07:16):
We were created to honor God.

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
And our marriage is to be a replication of who God,
the image of God, who God is. Right.

Speaker 10 (01:07:24):
So in that like, there were three.

Speaker 2 (01:07:26):
Different purposes that God created for us to be able
to do in marriage.

Speaker 7 (01:07:29):
Right.

Speaker 2 (01:07:29):
One was to make sure that we were having unity.

Speaker 6 (01:07:32):
One was for.

Speaker 2 (01:07:34):
For intimacy.

Speaker 6 (01:07:35):
One was also for us to reproduce, right to.

Speaker 2 (01:07:40):
What is it called, oh my gosh, A portion.

Speaker 6 (01:07:44):
Of description is just leaving my head.

Speaker 2 (01:07:46):
But to to create, basically to have kids, right, to
be able to reproduce, thank you, dames.

Speaker 6 (01:07:54):
To reproduce, you said.

Speaker 2 (01:07:55):
Going and oh my god, why can I not remember
that's cripture right now? He's a and multiply, multiply and
all crupual and multiply in all the land.

Speaker 3 (01:08:06):
Right.

Speaker 2 (01:08:07):
So those are the things that we were that we
were created to be able to do inside of the
holy matrimony. So as we are coming together right in unity,
the closest that we will ever be able to come
is when when we are the intimacy when our spouse
is inside of us. That is because that is the
that is the core, the nucleus, right, Nobody else can

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get that closer without having like, without doing surgery.

Speaker 6 (01:08:33):
Nobody else can get like.

Speaker 2 (01:08:34):
That is the intimacy, the and it to create and
it's a form of worship. And so as you are
enjoying each other together, right, and the climax of that,
to be able to climax together, that is the highest
form of worship that we can give back to God
because he created us, he created the marriage, He ordained

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a marriage, and he also created sex for us to
be able.

Speaker 17 (01:08:57):
To do that.

Speaker 2 (01:08:58):
So that is a form of worship. Ship when we
are coming together and within each other, and when we
are climaxing together with one another, that is I think
the highest form of being able to give God a
worship when we are doing that in the purity of
who He has created us to be inside of a
holy matrimony.

Speaker 6 (01:09:17):
Come on, man, come on man, now understand it. Because
even if I give you, even if I give the scripture,
I'm gonna give you a few scriptures real quick. That's
gonna kind of help show you that that you making
love with your spouse how how that is an actual worship,

(01:09:37):
was just like well why she said

Speaker 2 (01:09:40):
Where