Description:
Today’s conversation might have you clutching your pearls and purity rings. Jen and Amy sit down with Dr. Celeste Holbrook—sexologist, educator, and author of Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture—for the candid, hilarious, and healing “sex talk” you never had but always deserved.
From busting purity culture myths to unpacking women’s complicated relationship with pleasure, Dr. Holbrook shares the four “inner missionaries” that shape our approach to sex, why sexual shame runs so deep, and how to reclaim intimacy as the joyful gift it was always meant to be.
Highlights include:
Unpacking women' s complicated relationship with pleasure
Dr. Holbrook prescribes the best sexy-time soundtrack
Review of the four inner missionaries (the Analyst, the Assassin, the Healer, and the Explorer) – the archetypes that define our individual approach to sex
Celeste reveals a surprising fact that both golf carts and ejaculate have in common
How the combination of purity culture, patriarchy and capitalism are the oppression cocktail for sex
And the conversation veers off course when the trio discusses an exercise that uses Jason Mamoa to evaluate their sexual ethics
Thought-provoking Quotes:
“When I say sex education saved my relationship, I am not being bombastic. It really did help me find myself.” – Dr. Celeste Holbrook
“We view sex through a patriarchal lens. Media tells us how to feel about sex and what is sexy. So what is sexy has been historically white, thin, able-bodied, young… And the way that we view ourselves then says, well, what if I'm not all of those things? Am I still sexy? Is my body still OK?” – Dr. Celeste Holbrook
“The work for us, especially as women, is to anchor into our body to experience sensuality in order to experience sex instead of perform sex.” – Dr. Celeste Holbrook
“We need to be inside the system in order to take down the system.” – Dr. Celeste Holbrook
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Jen Hatmake’s Sex MeCourse: SexEd For the Rest of Us - https://shop.jenhatmaker.com/products/sex-101
Pantsuit Politics - https://www.instagram.com/pantsuitpolitics/
Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex after Purity Culture by Dr. Celeste Holbrook - https://amzn.to/46StjOa
For the Love of Men by Liz Plank – https://amzn.to/41JtRSS
Say Yes to Pleasure: How to Talk About Sex and Rekindle Intimacy in Midlife with Vanessa Marin – https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-64/say-yes-to-pleasure-how-to-talk-about-sex-and-rekindle-intimacy-in-midlife-with-vanessa-marin/
A Tribe Called Quest – https://atribecalledquest.com/blogs/discography
The Pleasure Club - https://www.drcelesteholbrook.com/https/thepleasureclub
Guest’s Links:
Website - https://www.drcelesteholbrook.com/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drcelesteholbrook/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrCelesteHolbrook/
Connect with Jen!Jen’s Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/
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