BONUS - Texting Mistakes That Are Killing Your Dating Game

Are your texting habits secretly sabotaging your love life? A new study reveals how response timing, punctuation, and even short bursts of text can make or break your dating success. From why “hey” is a conversation killer to the surprising power of the M-dash, we break down the science of sexy texting and how to keep your messages irresistible. Tune in to level up your texting game and boost your chances in the dating world!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
What kind of text? Or are you it's the Duel Show.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
Are you the type of person who responds right away
to someone and then if they don't hit you back
right away, you freak out and then start peppering them
with text after text after text demanding that they respond
to you. Or are you one of those people who
wait six weeks to respond to a text and says sorry,
just saw this. Then remember that you have red receipts
on and whoever you're texting knows that you're lying. Yep, Well,

(00:23):
there's a new study out that says that how you
text may be the reason you have trouble in the
dating world. Go over and next so you can make
your texting game as sexy as your made updating profile with.

Speaker 1 (00:33):
The fixature on it.

Speaker 2 (00:34):
Yeah, it's the Dual Show. The dating world is a
tough place. It's the Jewel Show. You have all the
different dating apps and all the different things that they offer,
like bumble, the ladies hit you up first, Tender, a
free for all of dudes trying to convince you that
they read books in hopes of getting a hook up.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
Plenty of fish.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
If you're looking across a new std off of her
I've had this one punched card. And if that's not enough,
the way that you text can also affec your dating life.
And I know that because a new study is out
that says how you text maybe the reason you have
trouble in the dating world.

Speaker 3 (01:06):
I believe that.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
So we'll go over it right now so you can
learn how to text better. If you want to get dates,
they say that you should respond as soon as you
can to any potential dates.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
No, why, Victoria, you're saying, no.

Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah, immediately.

Speaker 4 (01:19):
No.

Speaker 3 (01:19):
It's such a turn off when you wait too long.

Speaker 4 (01:21):
Yeah, but when you're texting me too fast, it's telling
me that you don't have anything else to do, or
that they like you and respect your time. No, like
you have like nothing else to do but text me
right now. And I have a lot of things going on,
and I have a lot of things to do right now.
So you're texting me so fast, it's going to get
pressure thinking I have to text that real quick.

Speaker 5 (01:36):
But I'm not going to.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
I'm going to.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Why would I ever want to date you? You're not
booked and busy. Yeah, he's what you're saying, Victoria, see
very much.

Speaker 6 (01:42):
I really feel like it's an age thing sometimes because
at this point, I'm like, I'm not trying to play around, Like,
if you're texting me, you text me.

Speaker 3 (01:48):
If you're not getting out of here, I'm not going
to chase you.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
According to this study, it says that you should never
wait more than fifteen minutes to respond to somebody that
you want to date.

Speaker 5 (01:58):
Fifteen eighteen. That's it.

Speaker 6 (02:01):
If you're available and you're looking at your phone and
you're available and you don't text. Now you're playing games
and you're wasting my time. What do you mean by available?

Speaker 4 (02:09):
Like if I'm working, but I saw you message me,
and so like in my mind, I'll wait till later.

Speaker 6 (02:15):
Yeah, well that's fine, Like I will No, No, you
wait hours later. I don't think you need to drop
everything you're doing to text the person back. But let's
be honest, within an hour, if your phone is right
next to you can find two seconds to text somebody back.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
We're going over a new survey that says that the
way you text can directly affect your dating life and
these are the ways to text in order to be
sexier in the dating world. It says, when it comes
to applying fast, don't reply before they finish their text.
That's a little too fast, so you kind of have
to find out of me, and that's fair. It also

(02:46):
says never, just text the word hey, never or hi never, I.

Speaker 5 (02:51):
Like high and then what then I'll say him back?

Speaker 3 (02:55):
But is that not like the most ridiculous conversation ever.

Speaker 5 (02:58):
I don't mean it's a combination.

Speaker 3 (02:59):
It's a starter.

Speaker 4 (03:00):
So then I can say hi, and then it makes
you feel better because I can text that back.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Past and then where do conversation go? Wherever he wants
it to go.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (03:11):
Also says that don't use ellipses. What ellipses. Ellipses are
the mullets of punctuation is what they're saying, mysterious in
the front breakdown in coming in the back?

Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yo us an ellipses?

Speaker 3 (03:25):
Is that the semi colon thing?

Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh that's the dot dot Oh ellipses.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
I like the dot dot dot though I do.

Speaker 5 (03:33):
It gives like a It gives you a pause if
you're telling a joke.

Speaker 1 (03:36):
Yeah, I use them a lot.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
It's like, hey, look at the end of these three periods,
there's gonna be something hilarious. Yeah, yeah, Or apparently they say,
don't use that. That's not a sexy way of texting. Well,
I'm in on that not sexy move. I like it too, really,
I like it.

Speaker 6 (03:51):
The best is when you're like, guess what dot dot dot,
and then you wait a few minutes and then you
text them something and now you're like, see, I had
you on that book.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
I hate that.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
No, Yeah, I'm terrible to text that way because I
put my phone down and then I forget that I
even have a phone, So I'd be like, guess what
do do dot? And then I wouldn't respond for hours,
and then whoever is sitting there with their punchline loaded
and they're not gonna be able to deliver it for
a very long time.

Speaker 4 (04:13):
You're like, what is it?

Speaker 5 (04:14):
What do you?

Speaker 2 (04:14):
By the time I responded like, never mind, don't worry
about it. What is the sexiest punctuation? According to this survey,
and M dash is the sexiest punctuation you can use
in a text, says I know grammar and also probably
own linen sheets.

Speaker 3 (04:29):
According to this circle, what is an M dash?

Speaker 1 (04:32):
That's a good question.

Speaker 2 (04:33):
I don't think any of us would be sexy when
texting because AI right now, okay?

Speaker 3 (04:38):
Is an M dash in writing? Yeah? That's interesting? I
don't get it.

Speaker 5 (04:43):
Is it just the dash like the like when to
use it?

Speaker 2 (04:46):
And m dash is a long dash used in writing
to create a strong break or interruption innocence. So it's
like it's like taking the time to actually put a
long dash in there. Now, it's time to do that,
No One.

Speaker 5 (04:57):
And also what's it in between that?

Speaker 3 (04:59):
And a dot?

Speaker 5 (05:00):
Dot is funnier and it tells you it's a pause.

Speaker 3 (05:03):
I agree.

Speaker 5 (05:03):
The dash is just as they.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Also say, if you want to be sexier when you're
texting somebody, break your text into short bursts old suspense
and also stimulates the nervous system.

Speaker 5 (05:15):
Who am I a sexy text?

Speaker 3 (05:17):
Or guys, oh you're irritating.

Speaker 6 (05:20):
You'll text me two words and then another text three words,
another text four words, and back to two words, and
it's like this whole line.

Speaker 5 (05:27):
They're a different thought.

Speaker 3 (05:28):
And then I'm sitting there and I'm doing something and
I just get bybee bebep, beep beep.

Speaker 6 (05:32):
I'm like, oh again, But you know what, honey, to
somebody that is really sexy.

Speaker 2 (05:39):
We're going over and new studies out that says the
way you text can directly directly affect how you date
and if you be successful in the dating world.

Speaker 1 (05:48):
They also say, of course, make sure you pay attention
to autocorrect.

Speaker 2 (05:52):
Oh, if you say you want to meet up with
somebody and it's me E T and you say me
E A T, that could be very confusing.

Speaker 4 (05:59):
I had a guy that it tikes me, but he
could I don't I don't know what it was. But
he kept using like a lot of different like they're
there and there's all the wrong ones. He swelled a
lot of things wrong, and I couldn't tell if he
was texting me or if he was getting like AI
to text me and would just like really messing things up.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
You're giving him a lot of credit for saying that
it was AI.

Speaker 6 (06:17):
There's a really good chance he doesn't know how to
use this theirs.

Speaker 2 (06:21):
It also says avoid sending voice notes.

Speaker 4 (06:25):
Why that I take a personal punch to what's wrong
with voice notes?

Speaker 6 (06:30):
Just think about it. Put yourself in the situation. It's
the early stages of dating. Somebody knew Victoria, okay, and
they send you a voice note giving you an update
on their day.

Speaker 3 (06:37):
Okay. You like that?

Speaker 4 (06:39):
Well, yeah, because then I can I know their tone
you text message, you can't tell someone's tone.

Speaker 5 (06:43):
Okay, So you can't tell someone's being nice.

Speaker 3 (06:45):
To you, mean, do you rude?

Speaker 5 (06:46):
Do you money to you?

Speaker 3 (06:47):
If their voice note is hi, okay, no, give me more.

Speaker 1 (06:52):
Like Victoria likes the hey text, but if you just
got a text.

Speaker 2 (06:54):
From dude to some dude that was just hey, okay.

Speaker 3 (06:57):
When that's when you hear

Speaker 2 (06:59):
Them them fumbling to turn it off, it's not sexing,
no fumble,