March 27, 2024 • 37 mins
On this week's episode of the Slightly Messy Show Mike and Meaghan talk about how Meaghan's brother is a much better dog owner than she is, they also discuss the new charity that Mike has decided to get involved in and they tell you how you can help out!
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Have to burp. Please do thereit is You're welcome. It felt like
a tackle bell burp? Was it? No? I wish I just had
tacos that were delicious. I literallyhave not eaten in like three weeks,
and I have not lost any weight. I'm getting really mad and I usually
don't eat breakfast in this morning.I have a box of un crustables in
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my freezer. I'm like, Iknow the grape ones, the grape but
I could eat any of them.I don't care any of them. I
literally as soon as the show wasover, I came into the studio.
I was like, you can't killme, little claws. What is your
What time do you start eating duringthe day? Like, what time do
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you fast from? I eat onemeal a day, so I really eat
dinner, So I'll eat from fourto seven pm is my cutoff. So
if I don't eat dinner by seven, I won't eat. You don't eat
it all during the day. Howare you not fucking furious all day?
That's my secret? I'm alwaysy.Right, let's start. I'm believing that
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I have a problem, Michael,and I am so sorry that you faced
part of it. There is onejoy of being single with no kids,
and it's I have no real responsibilities. Go. This is the slightly messy
show with Mike and Megan. Statemeans a messy show, messy, messy
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Mike and Megan. This looks likelymessy show with Mike and Megan. Bam
bampa bam bam bampa ba. Getready for it, Get ready for it.
This is terrible. It's just it'sjust Bushley. It's just I feel
like we're at a club in Miami. Yeah, I know. I don't
know why. I don't know why. It's at one point too, I
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listened to it and I'm like,oh, I love the sound of it.
And I listened to it like fourteentimes, like oh I like it.
And now you're one hundred percent right. You're a mm mmmmmmm bottle service
with the Sparklers and the girl andBoo short Boot whose birthday is at fist
Pump. We're still fist pumping,Jim Tin launching. Yeah, have you
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watched speaking of that, have youwatched any of like on TikTok, the
situation being interviewed by I forget whothe girl is, but she was on
Caller Daddy. The other girl who'snot on Call of Daddy anymore. No,
I didn't see that. It's agood Uh. It is only because
he he reveals all these things hedid during the show about like he had
like an oxy coding coding coding addictionor whatever, and he would literally that's
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why he went tanning so much.Yeah, is because it was a code
or a ploy to go do allthese drugs off camera and then come back
on camera and like now I wantnow, I want to rewatch all those
shows. Mm hmm. It's prettyobvious he has a problem during the show
when you go back and watch itknowing that. Yeah, I don't realize
how I didn't catch it the firsttime watching it. Yeah. Yeah,
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me neither. I mean maybe itwas just it was a party persona,
but it looks bad. It soundsbad. I want a party. We
liked a party. Yeah, Ihaven't like partied a long time. I
stayed out until nine thirty last night, and I looked white Eye on a
school ning and I looked at mybrother and I was like, wow,
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look at us go And he waslike, it's nine thirty, idiot,
this is so late. Oh mygod. I'd normally be in bed by
Now is your brother staying with youright now? He is. He's been
with me, well, we've beentogether since Friday. Obviously, our plans
changed. She was supposed to comeup on Friday and then stay until today,
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but uh, with his whole eyesituation, things kind of got changed
up and we stayed in Toledo alittle bit longer than we expected. Because
if you missed it, my brotherhad a contact accident and he had not
one, but two ulcers in hiseyeball. That's absolutely is he doing He's
doing better, though, so muchbetter. Who knew that if you get
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I medication right away it helps,but you go to the doctors apparently they
give you medication and it works.Science bitch, but yeah, No,
it was really scared, like youhave. He looked at me the one
day and I was like, oh, he is pink guy. This is
bad. And then we went tothe doctor and the doctor was like,
this is absolutely not pink eye.And I was like, oh, he's
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gonna lose his eye because if that'snot pink eye and that's something else,
he's going to lose his eye.In those situations, do you do what
I do and probably inappropriately make likejokes like hey, you're gonna be a
pirate, so you know, likeand start saying, are to start saying
our to him? Because he's goingto lose an eye? Can I tell
you something terrible that I wasn't goingto say on the air, but I
will tell our slightly messy listeners whatthis is so bad? I had a
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really important hair appointment that day.You did not go to the hair appointment
first. I promise you. Ididn't go first, but I did.
I did have to take my brotherto two different doctor's offices, and then
I had to call my dad andbe like, you have to come pick
him up. I have to goto the salon. What if he said,
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no, we are you just gonnatake him to the salon? I
was gonna call my brother an uber? No, lie, the man can't
see. The man is blind,and you're like, I'm gonna put you
in a car and ship your officeand one eye. I dropped him off
at the doctor's office. He justhad to get home, and I would
have called him an uber. Itwould have been fine. You were You
were telling me this before we startedthe podcast, and now I fully understand
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why your dog is more in lovewith your brother. I get it.
Yeah, because I'm a bad person. But I think we're an episode,
like I don't know one hundred andten at this point. If you're just
now learning this, that's I you. That sounds like a you problem,
not to me, because I've beenbringing my bad baggage to the table for
quite a while. Why do youthink that you did? But in no
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seriousness, why do you think yourdog doesn't is now your brother? Yeah,
it's not a thing. It's anabsolute no. And it was so
funny. I know that I mentionedthis before. When I moved, I
had this like really long conversation withmy brother because I felt really bad about
taking the dog because sometimes you justfind your soulmate in an animal. And
that was my brother and this dog. They are conjoined at the hip.
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They are inseparable. This dog putsup with me because I am a means
to my brother. That is whatit is. But my brother did something
the other day that I was like, Oh, this dog is yours.
This is absolutely your dog, Doug, you Doug. She's New York.
She got a cool coffee. ButI have these like covers on my couch
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because I spent way too much moneyon a white couch because I knew my
dog wasn't gonna live with me.So when she comes, I have these
covers on my couch and for somereason, I just I was being lazy
and I didn't put them on theother day and my dog and my brother
were playing in my apartment and mydog is fast as she was running around
like a psychopath. And my dogalso has asthma. Because my dog has
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every medical issue you could possibly havein one dog. Did they didn't tell
you that before you bought it?Absolutely not, No, absolutely not.
They wanted to make their money andget that dog out the door, and
they did, and I've been payingfor it ever since. Okay, my
dog has kidney problems, heart problems, asthma, like she if you can
think a dog has it. Sheripped out her own micro trip. She's
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a psychopath. I love her.Yeah, she's a psychopath, clearly.
Yes. So she'll run around tothe point where she starts having like a
legitimate asthma doag and she starts coughingeverywhere, And it's kind of funny because
she's five. Now, it's notscary anymore. It's just like you,
dumb house, you knew this wasgonna have him. You were looking at
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an animal, and you're like,what were you seeing? I do that
with my kids actually on a dailybasis. I don't say it to them,
but in my head, I'm like, what were you thinking? Why
did you think climbing standing on thatcounter and grabbing coffee cups just because you
want to was a good idea?What was the reason? What's going on
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your skull? Very tiny? Anythinginside? So she starts having an asthma
attack and she's like coughing on mycouch or I'm laughing and I'm laughing and
I'm laughing, and then she hasone of those coughs where she gegs and
I feel like every human has hadthat moment, and you're like, oh,
I just coughed so hard. Ithink I'm gonna vomit. And she
looks at me. My dog issitting next to me, and she coughs
and I hear it, and shejust looks at me like, now I'm
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gonna puke on this couch. I'mgonna puke on this couch, And without
a moment of hesitation, Mike,my brother, cups his hands, reaches
forward and catches the vomit out ofmy dog's mouth. And I looked at
my brother and I said, notonly did you save my couch, you
are a miracle worker, but alsono denying this dog is yours, because
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not for a fraction of a seconddid I think I'm gonna catch this with
my bare hands. So to torelate with my kids, I wouldn't do
that my my son had we nowfigured out his neurovirus or whatever, but
it was it's so ridiculous that youit's like the same situation in any moment.
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He could just get up and goI'm gonna throw up, but couldn't
make it to the bathroom. Soit would be like the Exorcist. And
my wife every single time would puther hand same would put her hands out,
and I went, you got it, but you got it, hold
it in, hold it in.And there were there was there was a
time where we pushed. I walkedinto the bathroom super super fast, and
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the lid was still closed, andit literally went everywhere, and I went
up. So, your brother isa hero. Your brother is a hero,
And I get why your dog likeshim better. No me too,
like I'm not like, oh,I can't believe this happened. It happened,
and I went add it to thelist just for a perfect timing situation.
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Here, my brother just sent mea picture. Now you and I
are on TikTok Live like we areevery week when we record this. This
is the picture of my brother justsent to me. Ah, so sweet
are they? Are they snuggling together? No, just on the cotch by
yourself. He made her a fullbed with a pillow and a blanket,
and she is laying in it likea child. And I want you to
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know she expects this because he providesit, and he's a much better dog
owner to her than I will ever, ever ever be. Will I buy
her everything under the sun? Yes? Yeah. Will he love her more
than anything under the sun? Yesyes. Second question, when did you
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get a burner phone? How doyou have two phones? Well, Mike,
I don't know if you know this, but I've been a drug dealer
most of my life. Okay,no, that, honest to God just
threw me for the biggest sleep.So I don't know if you have this,
And I don't even know if thisendorsement is still happening or not,
or if I just got to keepthis phone. But I have a boost
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infinite endorsement, and they set mea phone. So do I have your
real number or is that your DidI get your burner number? Do you
want to know? It's super coolboth phones use the same phone number.
Right, How in the hell didthey do? When did they start that
magic? I want to say itwas like November or December of last year.
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But like you know how Shannon alwaysgoes on TikTok live with you during
her dirties, Well it's set upon my tripod and it's on my burner
phone so that I can still dostuff during the show on my phone.
But I even the then that's agreat idea for the record. If any
cell phone companies out there want toadvertise with the slightly messy show, we
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would gladly each take another burden.Well, Megan doesn't even know, I'll
take another one, Okay, sure, three phones? All right? And
I would love because that's then Iwouldn't kill a bad And I didn't know
that you could attach one number tomore than one phone. Who knew?
Which is terrifying because like if somebodygot your phone and they started texting you,
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it would go to that number.Two. Yes, didn't I tell
you about the crazy person who hasmy phone number. No, oh,
there's a crazy person who has myphone up. I have to change my
phone number. That's not a joke, that's not being dramatic. I get
about one hundred calls a day,very serious. He leaves the creepiest voicemails,
and then he signed me because Ididn't answer him, he signed me
up for a whole bunch of onlineinsurance quotes, and so I get about
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thirty spam calls every morning and thenfifty every night trying to give me insurance
quotes. No, okay, sohow why don't you block them? You
can't block numbers that are like nocaller ID. You cannot block them.
I can make it so my phonedoesn't ring, But I cannot block a
number that does not show up.What? Oh like it's always shows up
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a unknown Yes, oh, soyou can't. You don't even know what
number it is too. One timeit showed up as a phone number,
it was a Google number, sothey were masking their own number. Do
you have an idea of who itmight be? Well, I have a
few people that I am worried aboutare going to murder me. Genuinely.
My brother. It's kind of funny. It's kind of funny my brother and
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Ellen both have a list of thedifferent ways that I'm murdered. Who's the
most likely suspect, Like, ifI'm skinned, it's absolutely one guy.
If I if just my head hasbeen severed off, it's definitely another guy,
and he's probably still talking to mespecific No, I'm We've come up
with game plans for most of mypossible murders and who they would being to.
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Okay, Yeah, it's terrifying.There's that. There's that. It's
super fun being made. Dude.It's truly not the end of the world.
It's more like I don't even getthe notifications anymore. It doesn't ring,
it doesn't anything. Every once ina while, I just have a
voicemail pops up and I'm like,what's it gonna be? What's voicemail?
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But you don't have to play it, but if you have, I'll listen
to it and I'll kind of likejust describe it to you. Okay,
But sometimes it's like important. Sometimesit's my doctor's office as being like the
other day, I totally thank goddidn't miss the appointment because I checked it
about ten minutes before I was supposedto leave here, but my doctor's office
was rescheduling because the doctor had anemergency and need to cancel his appointments.
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But it was in Toledo. Icould have driven an hour and a half
to the doctor's office and it wouldhave been closed all because I don't check
or I don't get these these callsor whatever. Uh, let's see,
this is the unknown one. Let'ssee. Let's see here. Hold on,
it goes. I'd like to hearthe voice but I don't want to
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give the person here. I'll sendit to you, right I can send
it to you, you can't,but I can't listen to it right now.
Oh well, I'll send a chiefto listen to you afterwards. Messages.
Do you know what you're saving underon my phone? Something Grand Rapids
Gran? Do you even know mylast name? I know it now.
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I did not know what the firsttwo years we worked together. But it's
like, Megan Mick, you areso beautiful, lovely woman. What's nice?
How does he say? Wait?How does he say one more time?
Meccan is beautiful, amazing and wonderfuland has a good heart. I'm
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literally doing it like he did.These are all nice things. I understand
that, but you don't think that'sa weird voicemail to get from an unknown
number. But it is, though. You are very right because like,
nobody of my life is telling methat in general, so it is nice.
They sound like daily affirmations to me. I don't what if I was
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like I wish I could now texthim back or answer it. But the
weird part was for the first coupleof days this was happening. When I
would pick up the phone, hewould breathe a couple of times and then
hang up, so like you didn'the could have talked to me, And
honestly, if he was complimenting melike that, I would have been like,
I love you, married Mike.My screens frozen. Otherwise he'd be
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slightly mercy show with Mike and Megan. Dude, I didn't even know your
computer was for and that was soaccurate. I have a favorite to ask
of you, Megan. No,you don't have to don't well, you
have to do anything. You justhave to give me some advice on this.
Okay, okay, So I hadbeen looking for something to do here
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in West Michigan that isn't so somethingthat we either a do or b that
something that's a little more personal tomyself. So I have reached out to
the Alzheimer's Walk, the Alzheimer's Association, but the people who do the Alzheimer's
Walk here in West Michigan, theWalk to end Alzheimer's Yes, yep.
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And I again, I'm still verynew. I haven't even created a team
yet, but I want to inWest Michigan create a team. I want
to do the walk in Holland,which is in September. And the reason
being is in two thousand and fourteen, which was six days before my daughter
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was born, in May, mygrandmother had passed away from Alzheimer's and I
went there earlier in that year.Went there, went to Florida earlier in
the year to visit her, andwe knew she was kind of declining in
that moment, and so I gotto experience two sides of her. The
first time I went to visit her, it had we had just got the
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diagnosis, was little scare, butwe didn't really talk about it. That
wasn't the type of person she was. And then the second time I went
there, she didn't know who Iwas and she there was just so much
in the house. I don't knowhow she was surviving. There was toilet
paper in the microwave, there wasthere was I don't think the toilet had
been cleaned in months. Again,she would recognize me, and then it
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would go away, and then we'dgo. She'd live there for years and
years and years and years and years, and we would She was taking us
to like the beach or something,and she was trying to give us directions
and literally went into a panic attackbecause she's like, I don't know where
I'm going. I have no idea. And so I got to witness the
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decline. And then when my daughter, who's nine now, was born,
she never had a chance to actuallymeet her, but we kind of used
that moment to kind of full circleit like we lost my grandmother, but
we brought this beautiful life into theworld. And so because there was a
few days you know, separate,we kind of I've always said that they
got to meet each other really quickbefore, you know, before she was
born. So that being said,I don't know what I'm doing with all
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this. I don't know where tostart. I don't know. I know
that I've I've talked to the association, and I want to get a team
going. I don't know how tostart building a team. I don't know
how to how much I should be, Like, what's a good goal to
raise? What are your thoughts onthis? So, first of all,
very sorry to hear that, Mike, Thank you. Alzheimer's runs very rampantly
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on my dad's side of the family, and it's very, very scary,
and I think that Alzheimer's should bea fear for every single human being on
the planet because as of right now, we don't really know the rhyme or
reasons, lots of theories, noreal like solid information yet And as somebody
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like my dad's side of the familyhas so many cases of Alzheimer's it's not
even funny, but I want tosay every single one of them, as
women, so like it scares theliving daylights out of me on a literal
daily basis, so much so thatI will take any slight kind of theory
about Alzheimer's and change my entire lifearound it. Entire life. And I
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think it's very surprising to me howmany people don't care about Alzheimer's until it
personally affects them. I eat arelative, a close relative, and then
as soon as it affects a closerelative, everybody is like, oh spit,
Like we have got to figure thisout now, because because if it
is genetics, it's like a tickingtime bomb to you, and it's something
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you then have to live with yourwhole life, and it's a mystery,
which is so terrifying. But Iwill say, like, this is so
funny that you bring this up,because I heard there was a study about
how if you only drink spring water, it might reduce your chances of getting
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Alzheimer's. And ever since, I'veonly drank bottled spring water. Now in
my home, I usually have likethe giant jugs of it so it's not
super wasteful, or I'll like fillup like a Stanley cup or reusable cup
whatever. But on days where I'mrunning late, I literally have a case
of water bottles in my car thatI can either hand out to people who
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might need them or grab them formyself in a last case scenario or whatever.
But it's truly a life encompassing diagnosisfor not only the person who is
diagnosed, but all of their lovedones. It is insane, absolutely insane.
So I will warn you this isactually the first year I've been doing
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the Walk to end Alzheimer's with ateam for jeez, god, at minimum
five years now, I'm guessing it'slonger than that. But this is actually
the first year I'm not going tobe doing the walk, So I'm like,
really glad that you're doing it,only because unfortunately I have a wedding
to go to that weekend in Chicago, so so I can't be there.
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But I will tell you this isabout to be an eye opening experience and
trying to get people to help,and it can be a bit frustrating,
especially when the walk itself is free, and I don't know what your walk
is like there, because every cityis kind of different with the amount of
participation. But I don't think peoplerealize if you can just get an hour
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of your day, and I mean, obviously it's a giant fundraiser, but
like if you just show up andhelp spread the word to help it grow
year over year, even if thatmeans I know people are struggling right now,
I am not aloof to the financialsituation of many people in twenty twenty
four, but like just spreading awarenessand participating and joining and walking and posting
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about it on social media is sucha benefit. But I think what we
did for mine, and I don'tknow if this is the case for you,
if you're doing this on your ownor not. Is I actually made
imaging that played on ninety two fivebecause if I'm Intulido and it was like,
Hey, it's Megan, I ampersonally affected by Alzheimer's or runs of
my family, and I would loveyou to come out and join me and
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walk with me on said date atsaid time that I was lucky enough that
the walk kicked off right near theiHeart station in Toledo, so I was
like, come meet me at thestation and let's let's go walk and let's
go do something good together. SoI would definitely recommend that. I would
definitely recommend social media posts. ButI think the big part for me is
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you don't really talk about Alzheimer's untilyou find a person who has also been
affected by it, because tell meif you agree with this or not.
Mike, Okay, Alzheimer's is areally weird thing that is almost kept secret
for the benefit of the person goingthrough it. But it's one of the
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hardest things to go through as acaregiver or a loved one, And that's
in the support around them because youare trying to protect their privacy and their
medical journey and at a certain pointthey can't consent to what you talk about
or stories that you tell or whatever. But there is a sort of this
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sounds bad, and I don't meanit to sound this way, but there
is a sort of like trauma bondingof loved ones and care givers that go
through this, that like once youmeet other people who have been through it
and you can share the really frustratingmoments, or if you don't laugh about
Alzheimer's, you're never gonna make itthrough it. And I remember one time
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I told a story about like acrazy situation my grandmother was in. It's
my favorite story to tell about herAlzheimer's journey. It's so ludicrous, it's
so funny, and people are like, I think it's super disrespectful that you're
laughing about it, and I'm like, I was crying through the moment.
But if you don't laugh about howridiculous it is, you're never gonna make
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it because even the and I'm notsaying what you're doing is ridiculous. What
I'm saying is this is how howscary it is. But also you have
to laugh at it. The factthat you're drinking specific water because you think
it might like it's not funny,but at the same time, it's crazy.
It's crazy, yeah, because itcould be real. It could not
be really, you don't know,but that's the scariness of it all.
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I remember that I was telling somebodythat I wanted to do this, and
I was like, do you knowthe contact for this? And we're talking
about Alzheimer's and they said I forgotand I laughed at that. I'm like,
how that's funny, and they're like, they kind of gave me that
look like you can't, you can't, And I'm like, but yes,
yeah, yeah, I think youhave to. I think my grandmother would
have done the same thing. Shewould have, you know, when you
mentioned that it's a tough thing forthem to talk about when they first get
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the diagnosis. I don't know whenmy grandmother actually got the diagnosis, because
I think she tried to do that. She was very stubborn in her ways,
and I don't know that she evenknew what was happening. And then
I think one of my relatives wentto visit her and like, there is
something off, she's she's she's notacting like herself, and she would it
would just be lips of like whatis she doing right now? Is what
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is going? So I think Idon't know that anything would have changed had
she knew right in the beginning orif because I don't think there's no way
to slow it down right, there'sno it's once it's it happens, it
happens right. There's a lot oftrials on drugs being done to try to
slow the progress, but like it'sit. I think it just depends on
your body and how aggressive it reallyis for me, uh or for my
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grandmother. She was fully diagnosed,but it was because it was so rampant
in the family that it was genuinelyher biggest fear. And I think one
of the best things that's come fromthis disease being in our family is that
we talk so openly about it andwe all have a plan, Like I
know what my aunt wants, Iknow what my dad wants. I know
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that everybody knows what I want.And it's so scary if you have somebody
or if it's not common in yourfamily, or maybe this is the first
time and you didn't catch it tilllater, because the brain is really good
at hiding its own issues, soa lot of people don't catch it in
their loved ones until it's gotten toa very progressive form, and it's really
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really scary then to be like,is this what they wanted? Now I'm
making decisions for you. And wenever had this conversation, so I will
say we all knew from the getgo. It was my grandmother's biggest fear.
She kind of always thought it wouldbe how she would go, and
she had experienced lots of relatives thatwent through it and knew that this was
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a possibility. But we were ableto go. We know she doesn't want
to be in a care home,so we were so blessed and so fortunate
that we are an Irish Catholic familywith eight thousand members and we were taking
shifts in rotations so that she couldstay home and for as long as possible.
There was a few weeks where shewas but for years she was at
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home taken care of. And Ithink it's really nice, and that's a
weird way of looking at it,but you do have to find the positives
with this disease. It's like,I feel like we've had a lot of
pretty severe conversations that a lot ofpeople don't have, and I feel prepared
for any sort of life threatening situationfor my loved ones. So that's amazing
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to hear, and it gives likesomebody who's just getting into this and kind
of I mean, it's been awhile, it's been a few years,
nine years since she passed, butI've always wanted to do something and didn't
really know what to do, andit kind of been hesitant and kind of
suppress some of those feelings, Ithink because I didn't want to, you
know, I didn't want to notonce it was done. I didn't want
to acknowledge it. I tryed totried to live my life or whatever,
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and kind of suppress it a lot. And I just think that there's this
this could be the start of something. I've watched you do it for years
now, and I'm like, that'ssomething I really want to do. And
I think if we are closer,we'd probably do it together. And maybe
there's a time where we team upand I go there even and I would
still come do the walk with you. But if you're listening to this right
now and you want to join,you are going to be in Holland or
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in the area in September. It'sSeptember twenty first. I am going to
start a team. I am goingto get this going. I'm not really
sure what's okay. So there's there'sa it looks like there's a goal that
raise a certain amount. What isit? What is a like a an
attainable goal to start that off?Ooh, that's a great question. So
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it's funny because it was always supposedto be my team, and my dad
got very gung ho about it,and he really became the driving force of
harassing everybody in his life to helpus out smart. We love it.
We love to see it. Welove a man who helps everybody else who
finally goes pay it back, bitch. We love to see it. I
(29:52):
wonder will you have on air support? Yes, yeah, yeah, I
want. I'm gonna yeah, I'vebeen. I've been given the go to
be able to talk about it onthe air and kind of get it roll,
and I haven't. I haven't discussedthe imaging side of it, which
I love. I love that idea. MM hmmm, oh my god,
I see. I immediately went toinappropriate things like you should have your voice
(30:14):
guy like start to talk about yourteam, and be like, well,
that's fad, that's fad. That'stoo far, that's too far. You
have to have dark humor. Okay, you have to have dark humor.
Line and I crossed it, bute. But but I was going to jump
over it, and I realized itwas a cliff and then I just kind
of skirted my foot over it.And I still shared, but that was
like, but that's a bad idea, and I walked backwards. Okay,
(30:37):
it's like a cartoon. You justkind of tiptoed stepped out. Okay,
okay, okay, even for metoo far. I don't know. I
think it would be interesting too,And I don't know how that's done.
Maybe it would be smart for youto like send up a venmoka that goes
to it. I know sometimes peopledon't necessarily trust this, so maybe setting
one up for like a five onone seed three No, I don't know,
(31:00):
maybe doing that, but it's inSeptember, you're starting now. I
think five hundred and one thousand,okays is like a good I mean I'm
still in the process of putting ittogether, but I don't think it's from
the looks of the website. Ijust spoke with somebody yesterday the day before
about even like partnering with them andyou know, maybe even having them come
(31:21):
in or whatever. So I stillhave to build the team or whatever.
So I think we're going to startwithin the next month or so. Do
you think five hundred thousandthing? Whenwhen should you start? Like, because
I don't want to be the personthat's always bugging people for like fundraising,
you know what I mean. Idon't want to be that person that starts
way too early and then I'm askingfor money all the time. So do
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I wait till it's closer to it? This is what I did. I
actually invited a lot of my clientsout to come join me and walk.
I would be like, Hey,I don't know if this effects you or
not, but this is something that'slike really important to me. So if
you have the stay available, I'mgonna be walking at the lockdown in Alzheimer's.
If you want to join me,Musy, you still send them the
link to your team and then youwipe them bray that they send money,
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and that's like business money, soit's real money. First off, you
could do the whole podcast like thatand I would literally not say two words.
That was the most relaxed I've beenin a very long time. Uh,
that's a great idea. I loveit. I love it. I
love it. I love it.I love it. I love it.
And so what are you doing onSeptember twenty first? Uh, today is
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literally the one day I didn't bringmy planner and Ellen was like, how
does this weekend look to you?I'm like, oh, and then you're
like, so what do you knowhow to September twenty firs. I'm like,
this is the one time, theone time I go I don't know.
I truly don't know, but I'lltell you what. I will tell
you what if my day is freebecause September is weird. You know this
because you know what I'm worried about. Is that the same weekend? Uh?
(32:49):
Yes, it probably is close toit. Yeah, Yeah, that's
the only thing I'm worried about.Yeah, but I guess that's not happening.
Yeah, ween no, because Igenuinely don't know. I actually just
asked our boss about the other day. Brandon Boutakho's been an Ieheart listener for
a long time. Are you puttingthe puzzle pieces together? You know?
If that's not happening, I willabsolutely come. Are you kidding me?
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This stuff is so important to me? Absolutely I will. I know that
we have to dip here in asecond, But can I tell you my
favorite story about my grandmother? Iwould love to hear her. Okay,
so I there's two of them,because you have to find the funny and
everything. The first thing I thoughtwas so interesting was my grandmother very common
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for people born in god, Idon't even know when she was born the
forties. She wasn't born in theforties. Yeah. She was a smoker
when she was younger, and thenwhen she started having kids, quit smoking
right, like, didn't smoke forfifty years, let's say, didn't touch
a cigarette, got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. When she was starting to deteriorate.
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She would grab my father, whowas her youngest son, grab him by
the collar and go give me acigaret. And he was like, excuse
me, no, absolutely not,and she would be like, go get
me a cigarette. You are mychild, and you will do as I
tell you. And my dad drovehis ass to the gas station and bought
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her cigarettes and came back. Mygrandfather, who was still alive at the
time, was like, don't youdare give her a cigarette? Don't you
dare? Andie goes Dad. Mymom is at the end of her life.
It was a cigarette. I amnot telling her no. And the
woman who did not smoke for fiftyyears started smoking like a chimney, like
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an absolute chimney all the time.But she would lose cigarette boxes everywhere.
Obviously, they just constantly misplacing hercigarettes, and she would get so angry,
and so my dad went out andso did his brother. They would
go out and buy curtains of cigarettesand just hide packs everywhere that she would
be normally in the house. Shewould find them, and my grandmother was
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like, I'm not pand for ohgod, damn cigarette, and you better
be putting this bill for as longas it left. As my dad,
for like a good year, wasbuying cigarettes very regularly because they would just
get lost constantly, and would behiding them all over her house, like
in drawers, in the couches,in next to the bed, like wherever.
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There were cigarettes everywhere. But Ilove this about her. She still
had to wear with all that.She never smoked in the house. That's
gross. And so she would walkherself outside, smoke a cigarette, come
inside for ten minutes, walk herselfoutside a cigarette. I bet you know
what too. I bet uh,And we do, guys, get here
in a minute. But I betthat a lot of people have stories with
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somebody that has had Alzheimer's in theirfamily of the thing that they hid or
the thing that they lost. Mymy grandmother's was you know, those those
lotto cars, the Bingo ones.I don't know if they're called Bingo still
or whatever, but the scratch offsor whatever. Yeah, there would be
hundreds of them. All that washer thing. She used to buy them,
So she kind of knew still whatshe was doing because she would buy
(36:00):
them for us. It was likeour thing. We would do with her
that in little ticktacs, like theorange tiktacs. And you would find these
Bengo cards in the scratch offs everywhere, every single like under the mattress in
her in the bathroom. It was. But I think I bet everybody has
the thing that they're somebody with Alzheimer'swould would do that. They maybe didn't
(36:21):
do before, or that's that's funnyas Yeah, my favorite thirty second story
is that my aunt was her primarycaregiver and at a certain point she started
forgetting my aunt and she was likeputting her hair and rollers at night and
like feeding her and doing stuff,and my grandmother hated her in the funniest
way possible, where she would runaway to go down to the hall to
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grab the house phone to call myaunt's cell phone and be like, please
come and hang out with me andget me away from the scary woman.
And the scary woman was still myaunt. Oh. Why terracle. It's
terracle. Could you imagine caring foryour parents and them saying, save me
from the scary person. That isyou, that is you that what would
she say when she walked in?Would she be like uh oh h oh,
(37:04):
or would she know who it wasat that point? No, not
a clip a clip fo follow mefollow the Slightly Messy Show on i g
at Slightly Messy Show
Have to burp. Please do thereit is You're welcome. It felt like
a tackle bell burp? Was it? No? I wish I just had
tacos that were delicious. I literallyhave not eaten in like three weeks,
and I have not lost any weight. I'm getting really mad and I usually
don't eat breakfast in this morning.I have a box of un crustables in
(00:21):
my freezer. I'm like, Iknow the grape ones, the grape but
I could eat any of them.I don't care any of them. I
literally as soon as the show wasover, I came into the studio.
I was like, you can't killme, little claws. What is your
What time do you start eating duringthe day? Like, what time do
(00:44):
you fast from? I eat onemeal a day, so I really eat
dinner, So I'll eat from fourto seven pm is my cutoff. So
if I don't eat dinner by seven, I won't eat. You don't eat
it all during the day. Howare you not fucking furious all day?
That's my secret? I'm alwaysy.Right, let's start. I'm believing that
(01:08):
I have a problem, Michael,and I am so sorry that you faced
part of it. There is onejoy of being single with no kids,
and it's I have no real responsibilities. Go. This is the slightly messy
show with Mike and Megan. Statemeans a messy show, messy, messy
(01:30):
Mike and Megan. This looks likelymessy show with Mike and Megan. Bam
bampa bam bam bampa ba. Getready for it, Get ready for it.
This is terrible. It's just it'sjust Bushley. It's just I feel
like we're at a club in Miami. Yeah, I know. I don't
know why. I don't know why. It's at one point too, I
(01:52):
listened to it and I'm like,oh, I love the sound of it.
And I listened to it like fourteentimes, like oh I like it.
And now you're one hundred percent right. You're a mm mmmmmmm bottle service
with the Sparklers and the girl andBoo short Boot whose birthday is at fist
Pump. We're still fist pumping,Jim Tin launching. Yeah, have you
(02:12):
watched speaking of that, have youwatched any of like on TikTok, the
situation being interviewed by I forget whothe girl is, but she was on
Caller Daddy. The other girl who'snot on Call of Daddy anymore. No,
I didn't see that. It's agood Uh. It is only because
he he reveals all these things hedid during the show about like he had
like an oxy coding coding coding addictionor whatever, and he would literally that's
(02:36):
why he went tanning so much.Yeah, is because it was a code
or a ploy to go do allthese drugs off camera and then come back
on camera and like now I wantnow, I want to rewatch all those
shows. Mm hmm. It's prettyobvious he has a problem during the show
when you go back and watch itknowing that. Yeah, I don't realize
how I didn't catch it the firsttime watching it. Yeah. Yeah,
(02:57):
me neither. I mean maybe itwas just it was a party persona,
but it looks bad. It soundsbad. I want a party. We
liked a party. Yeah, Ihaven't like partied a long time. I
stayed out until nine thirty last night, and I looked white Eye on a
school ning and I looked at mybrother and I was like, wow,
(03:20):
look at us go And he waslike, it's nine thirty, idiot,
this is so late. Oh mygod. I'd normally be in bed by
Now is your brother staying with youright now? He is. He's been
with me, well, we've beentogether since Friday. Obviously, our plans
changed. She was supposed to comeup on Friday and then stay until today,
(03:42):
but uh, with his whole eyesituation, things kind of got changed
up and we stayed in Toledo alittle bit longer than we expected. Because
if you missed it, my brotherhad a contact accident and he had not
one, but two ulcers in hiseyeball. That's absolutely is he doing He's
doing better, though, so muchbetter. Who knew that if you get
(04:02):
I medication right away it helps,but you go to the doctors apparently they
give you medication and it works.Science bitch, but yeah, No,
it was really scared, like youhave. He looked at me the one
day and I was like, oh, he is pink guy. This is
bad. And then we went tothe doctor and the doctor was like,
this is absolutely not pink eye.And I was like, oh, he's
(04:24):
gonna lose his eye because if that'snot pink eye and that's something else,
he's going to lose his eye.In those situations, do you do what
I do and probably inappropriately make likejokes like hey, you're gonna be a
pirate, so you know, likeand start saying, are to start saying
our to him? Because he's goingto lose an eye? Can I tell
you something terrible that I wasn't goingto say on the air, but I
will tell our slightly messy listeners whatthis is so bad? I had a
(04:50):
really important hair appointment that day.You did not go to the hair appointment
first. I promise you. Ididn't go first, but I did.
I did have to take my brotherto two different doctor's offices, and then
I had to call my dad andbe like, you have to come pick
him up. I have to goto the salon. What if he said,
(05:12):
no, we are you just gonnatake him to the salon? I
was gonna call my brother an uber? No, lie, the man can't
see. The man is blind,and you're like, I'm gonna put you
in a car and ship your officeand one eye. I dropped him off
at the doctor's office. He justhad to get home, and I would
have called him an uber. Itwould have been fine. You were You
were telling me this before we startedthe podcast, and now I fully understand
(05:33):
why your dog is more in lovewith your brother. I get it.
Yeah, because I'm a bad person. But I think we're an episode,
like I don't know one hundred andten at this point. If you're just
now learning this, that's I you. That sounds like a you problem,
not to me, because I've beenbringing my bad baggage to the table for
quite a while. Why do youthink that you did? But in no
(05:55):
seriousness, why do you think yourdog doesn't is now your brother? Yeah,
it's not a thing. It's anabsolute no. And it was so
funny. I know that I mentionedthis before. When I moved, I
had this like really long conversation withmy brother because I felt really bad about
taking the dog because sometimes you justfind your soulmate in an animal. And
that was my brother and this dog. They are conjoined at the hip.
(06:16):
They are inseparable. This dog putsup with me because I am a means
to my brother. That is whatit is. But my brother did something
the other day that I was like, Oh, this dog is yours.
This is absolutely your dog, Doug, you Doug. She's New York.
She got a cool coffee. ButI have these like covers on my couch
(06:38):
because I spent way too much moneyon a white couch because I knew my
dog wasn't gonna live with me.So when she comes, I have these
covers on my couch and for somereason, I just I was being lazy
and I didn't put them on theother day and my dog and my brother
were playing in my apartment and mydog is fast as she was running around
like a psychopath. And my dogalso has asthma. Because my dog has
(07:00):
every medical issue you could possibly havein one dog. Did they didn't tell
you that before you bought it?Absolutely not, No, absolutely not.
They wanted to make their money andget that dog out the door, and
they did, and I've been payingfor it ever since. Okay, my
dog has kidney problems, heart problems, asthma, like she if you can
think a dog has it. Sheripped out her own micro trip. She's
(07:24):
a psychopath. I love her.Yeah, she's a psychopath, clearly.
Yes. So she'll run around tothe point where she starts having like a
legitimate asthma doag and she starts coughingeverywhere, And it's kind of funny because
she's five. Now, it's notscary anymore. It's just like you,
dumb house, you knew this wasgonna have him. You were looking at
(07:44):
an animal, and you're like,what were you seeing? I do that
with my kids actually on a dailybasis. I don't say it to them,
but in my head, I'm like, what were you thinking? Why
did you think climbing standing on thatcounter and grabbing coffee cups just because you
want to was a good idea?What was the reason? What's going on
(08:05):
your skull? Very tiny? Anythinginside? So she starts having an asthma
attack and she's like coughing on mycouch or I'm laughing and I'm laughing and
I'm laughing, and then she hasone of those coughs where she gegs and
I feel like every human has hadthat moment, and you're like, oh,
I just coughed so hard. Ithink I'm gonna vomit. And she
looks at me. My dog issitting next to me, and she coughs
and I hear it, and shejust looks at me like, now I'm
(08:26):
gonna puke on this couch. I'mgonna puke on this couch, And without
a moment of hesitation, Mike,my brother, cups his hands, reaches
forward and catches the vomit out ofmy dog's mouth. And I looked at
my brother and I said, notonly did you save my couch, you
are a miracle worker, but alsono denying this dog is yours, because
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not for a fraction of a seconddid I think I'm gonna catch this with
my bare hands. So to torelate with my kids, I wouldn't do
that my my son had we nowfigured out his neurovirus or whatever, but
it was it's so ridiculous that youit's like the same situation in any moment.
(09:15):
He could just get up and goI'm gonna throw up, but couldn't
make it to the bathroom. Soit would be like the Exorcist. And
my wife every single time would puther hand same would put her hands out,
and I went, you got it, but you got it, hold
it in, hold it in.And there were there was there was a
time where we pushed. I walkedinto the bathroom super super fast, and
(09:35):
the lid was still closed, andit literally went everywhere, and I went
up. So, your brother isa hero. Your brother is a hero,
And I get why your dog likeshim better. No me too,
like I'm not like, oh,I can't believe this happened. It happened,
and I went add it to thelist just for a perfect timing situation.
(10:03):
Here, my brother just sent mea picture. Now you and I
are on TikTok Live like we areevery week when we record this. This
is the picture of my brother justsent to me. Ah, so sweet
are they? Are they snuggling together? No, just on the cotch by
yourself. He made her a fullbed with a pillow and a blanket,
and she is laying in it likea child. And I want you to
(10:24):
know she expects this because he providesit, and he's a much better dog
owner to her than I will ever, ever ever be. Will I buy
her everything under the sun? Yes? Yeah. Will he love her more
than anything under the sun? Yesyes. Second question, when did you
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get a burner phone? How doyou have two phones? Well, Mike,
I don't know if you know this, but I've been a drug dealer
most of my life. Okay,no, that, honest to God just
threw me for the biggest sleep.So I don't know if you have this,
And I don't even know if thisendorsement is still happening or not,
or if I just got to keepthis phone. But I have a boost
(11:05):
infinite endorsement, and they set mea phone. So do I have your
real number or is that your DidI get your burner number? Do you
want to know? It's super coolboth phones use the same phone number.
Right, How in the hell didthey do? When did they start that
magic? I want to say itwas like November or December of last year.
(11:28):
But like you know how Shannon alwaysgoes on TikTok live with you during
her dirties, Well it's set upon my tripod and it's on my burner
phone so that I can still dostuff during the show on my phone.
But I even the then that's agreat idea for the record. If any
cell phone companies out there want toadvertise with the slightly messy show, we
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would gladly each take another burden.Well, Megan doesn't even know, I'll
take another one, Okay, sure, three phones? All right? And
I would love because that's then Iwouldn't kill a bad And I didn't know
that you could attach one number tomore than one phone. Who knew?
Which is terrifying because like if somebodygot your phone and they started texting you,
(12:11):
it would go to that number.Two. Yes, didn't I tell
you about the crazy person who hasmy phone number. No, oh,
there's a crazy person who has myphone up. I have to change my
phone number. That's not a joke, that's not being dramatic. I get
about one hundred calls a day,very serious. He leaves the creepiest voicemails,
and then he signed me because Ididn't answer him, he signed me
up for a whole bunch of onlineinsurance quotes, and so I get about
(12:35):
thirty spam calls every morning and thenfifty every night trying to give me insurance
quotes. No, okay, sohow why don't you block them? You
can't block numbers that are like nocaller ID. You cannot block them.
I can make it so my phonedoesn't ring, But I cannot block a
number that does not show up.What? Oh like it's always shows up
(12:58):
a unknown Yes, oh, soyou can't. You don't even know what
number it is too. One timeit showed up as a phone number,
it was a Google number, sothey were masking their own number. Do
you have an idea of who itmight be? Well, I have a
few people that I am worried aboutare going to murder me. Genuinely.
My brother. It's kind of funny. It's kind of funny my brother and
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Ellen both have a list of thedifferent ways that I'm murdered. Who's the
most likely suspect, Like, ifI'm skinned, it's absolutely one guy.
If I if just my head hasbeen severed off, it's definitely another guy,
and he's probably still talking to mespecific No, I'm We've come up
with game plans for most of mypossible murders and who they would being to.
(13:50):
Okay, Yeah, it's terrifying.There's that. There's that. It's
super fun being made. Dude.It's truly not the end of the world.
It's more like I don't even getthe notifications anymore. It doesn't ring,
it doesn't anything. Every once ina while, I just have a
voicemail pops up and I'm like,what's it gonna be? What's voicemail?
(14:11):
But you don't have to play it, but if you have, I'll listen
to it and I'll kind of likejust describe it to you. Okay,
But sometimes it's like important. Sometimesit's my doctor's office as being like the
other day, I totally thank goddidn't miss the appointment because I checked it
about ten minutes before I was supposedto leave here, but my doctor's office
was rescheduling because the doctor had anemergency and need to cancel his appointments.
(14:33):
But it was in Toledo. Icould have driven an hour and a half
to the doctor's office and it wouldhave been closed all because I don't check
or I don't get these these callsor whatever. Uh, let's see,
this is the unknown one. Let'ssee. Let's see here. Hold on,
it goes. I'd like to hearthe voice but I don't want to
(14:54):
give the person here. I'll sendit to you, right I can send
it to you, you can't,but I can't listen to it right now.
Oh well, I'll send a chiefto listen to you afterwards. Messages.
Do you know what you're saving underon my phone? Something Grand Rapids
Gran? Do you even know mylast name? I know it now.
(15:16):
I did not know what the firsttwo years we worked together. But it's
like, Megan Mick, you areso beautiful, lovely woman. What's nice?
How does he say? Wait?How does he say one more time?
Meccan is beautiful, amazing and wonderfuland has a good heart. I'm
(15:43):
literally doing it like he did.These are all nice things. I understand
that, but you don't think that'sa weird voicemail to get from an unknown
number. But it is, though. You are very right because like,
nobody of my life is telling methat in general, so it is nice.
They sound like daily affirmations to me. I don't what if I was
(16:03):
like I wish I could now texthim back or answer it. But the
weird part was for the first coupleof days this was happening. When I
would pick up the phone, hewould breathe a couple of times and then
hang up, so like you didn'the could have talked to me, And
honestly, if he was complimenting melike that, I would have been like,
I love you, married Mike.My screens frozen. Otherwise he'd be
(16:32):
slightly mercy show with Mike and Megan. Dude, I didn't even know your
computer was for and that was soaccurate. I have a favorite to ask
of you, Megan. No,you don't have to don't well, you
have to do anything. You justhave to give me some advice on this.
Okay, okay, So I hadbeen looking for something to do here
(16:56):
in West Michigan that isn't so somethingthat we either a do or b that
something that's a little more personal tomyself. So I have reached out to
the Alzheimer's Walk, the Alzheimer's Association, but the people who do the Alzheimer's
Walk here in West Michigan, theWalk to end Alzheimer's Yes, yep.
(17:17):
And I again, I'm still verynew. I haven't even created a team
yet, but I want to inWest Michigan create a team. I want
to do the walk in Holland,which is in September. And the reason
being is in two thousand and fourteen, which was six days before my daughter
(17:37):
was born, in May, mygrandmother had passed away from Alzheimer's and I
went there earlier in that year.Went there, went to Florida earlier in
the year to visit her, andwe knew she was kind of declining in
that moment, and so I gotto experience two sides of her. The
first time I went to visit her, it had we had just got the
(17:59):
diagnosis, was little scare, butwe didn't really talk about it. That
wasn't the type of person she was. And then the second time I went
there, she didn't know who Iwas and she there was just so much
in the house. I don't knowhow she was surviving. There was toilet
paper in the microwave, there wasthere was I don't think the toilet had
been cleaned in months. Again,she would recognize me, and then it
(18:22):
would go away, and then we'dgo. She'd live there for years and
years and years and years and years, and we would She was taking us
to like the beach or something,and she was trying to give us directions
and literally went into a panic attackbecause she's like, I don't know where
I'm going. I have no idea. And so I got to witness the
(18:44):
decline. And then when my daughter, who's nine now, was born,
she never had a chance to actuallymeet her, but we kind of used
that moment to kind of full circleit like we lost my grandmother, but
we brought this beautiful life into theworld. And so because there was a
few days you know, separate,we kind of I've always said that they
got to meet each other really quickbefore, you know, before she was
born. So that being said,I don't know what I'm doing with all
(19:06):
this. I don't know where tostart. I don't know. I know
that I've I've talked to the association, and I want to get a team
going. I don't know how tostart building a team. I don't know
how to how much I should be, Like, what's a good goal to
raise? What are your thoughts onthis? So, first of all,
very sorry to hear that, Mike, Thank you. Alzheimer's runs very rampantly
(19:27):
on my dad's side of the family, and it's very, very scary,
and I think that Alzheimer's should bea fear for every single human being on
the planet because as of right now, we don't really know the rhyme or
reasons, lots of theories, noreal like solid information yet And as somebody
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like my dad's side of the familyhas so many cases of Alzheimer's it's not
even funny, but I want tosay every single one of them, as
women, so like it scares theliving daylights out of me on a literal
daily basis, so much so thatI will take any slight kind of theory
about Alzheimer's and change my entire lifearound it. Entire life. And I
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think it's very surprising to me howmany people don't care about Alzheimer's until it
personally affects them. I eat arelative, a close relative, and then
as soon as it affects a closerelative, everybody is like, oh spit,
Like we have got to figure thisout now, because because if it
is genetics, it's like a tickingtime bomb to you, and it's something
(20:36):
you then have to live with yourwhole life, and it's a mystery,
which is so terrifying. But Iwill say, like, this is so
funny that you bring this up,because I heard there was a study about
how if you only drink spring water, it might reduce your chances of getting
(20:56):
Alzheimer's. And ever since, I'veonly drank bottled spring water. Now in
my home, I usually have likethe giant jugs of it so it's not
super wasteful, or I'll like fillup like a Stanley cup or reusable cup
whatever. But on days where I'mrunning late, I literally have a case
of water bottles in my car thatI can either hand out to people who
(21:17):
might need them or grab them formyself in a last case scenario or whatever.
But it's truly a life encompassing diagnosisfor not only the person who is
diagnosed, but all of their lovedones. It is insane, absolutely insane.
So I will warn you this isactually the first year I've been doing
(21:41):
the Walk to end Alzheimer's with ateam for jeez, god, at minimum
five years now, I'm guessing it'slonger than that. But this is actually
the first year I'm not going tobe doing the walk, So I'm like,
really glad that you're doing it,only because unfortunately I have a wedding
to go to that weekend in Chicago, so so I can't be there.
(22:02):
But I will tell you this isabout to be an eye opening experience and
trying to get people to help,and it can be a bit frustrating,
especially when the walk itself is free, and I don't know what your walk
is like there, because every cityis kind of different with the amount of
participation. But I don't think peoplerealize if you can just get an hour
(22:25):
of your day, and I mean, obviously it's a giant fundraiser, but
like if you just show up andhelp spread the word to help it grow
year over year, even if thatmeans I know people are struggling right now,
I am not aloof to the financialsituation of many people in twenty twenty
four, but like just spreading awarenessand participating and joining and walking and posting
(22:48):
about it on social media is sucha benefit. But I think what we
did for mine, and I don'tknow if this is the case for you,
if you're doing this on your ownor not. Is I actually made
imaging that played on ninety two fivebecause if I'm Intulido and it was like,
Hey, it's Megan, I ampersonally affected by Alzheimer's or runs of
my family, and I would loveyou to come out and join me and
(23:11):
walk with me on said date atsaid time that I was lucky enough that
the walk kicked off right near theiHeart station in Toledo, so I was
like, come meet me at thestation and let's let's go walk and let's
go do something good together. SoI would definitely recommend that. I would
definitely recommend social media posts. ButI think the big part for me is
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you don't really talk about Alzheimer's untilyou find a person who has also been
affected by it, because tell meif you agree with this or not.
Mike, Okay, Alzheimer's is areally weird thing that is almost kept secret
for the benefit of the person goingthrough it. But it's one of the
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hardest things to go through as acaregiver or a loved one, And that's
in the support around them because youare trying to protect their privacy and their
medical journey and at a certain pointthey can't consent to what you talk about
or stories that you tell or whatever. But there is a sort of this
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sounds bad, and I don't meanit to sound this way, but there
is a sort of like trauma bondingof loved ones and care givers that go
through this, that like once youmeet other people who have been through it
and you can share the really frustratingmoments, or if you don't laugh about
Alzheimer's, you're never gonna make itthrough it. And I remember one time
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I told a story about like acrazy situation my grandmother was in. It's
my favorite story to tell about herAlzheimer's journey. It's so ludicrous, it's
so funny, and people are like, I think it's super disrespectful that you're
laughing about it, and I'm like, I was crying through the moment.
But if you don't laugh about howridiculous it is, you're never gonna make
(24:59):
it because even the and I'm notsaying what you're doing is ridiculous. What
I'm saying is this is how howscary it is. But also you have
to laugh at it. The factthat you're drinking specific water because you think
it might like it's not funny,but at the same time, it's crazy.
It's crazy, yeah, because itcould be real. It could not
be really, you don't know,but that's the scariness of it all.
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I remember that I was telling somebodythat I wanted to do this, and
I was like, do you knowthe contact for this? And we're talking
about Alzheimer's and they said I forgotand I laughed at that. I'm like,
how that's funny, and they're like, they kind of gave me that
look like you can't, you can't, And I'm like, but yes,
yeah, yeah, I think youhave to. I think my grandmother would
have done the same thing. Shewould have, you know, when you
mentioned that it's a tough thing forthem to talk about when they first get
(25:45):
the diagnosis. I don't know whenmy grandmother actually got the diagnosis, because
I think she tried to do that. She was very stubborn in her ways,
and I don't know that she evenknew what was happening. And then
I think one of my relatives wentto visit her and like, there is
something off, she's she's she's notacting like herself, and she would it
would just be lips of like whatis she doing right now? Is what
(26:07):
is going? So I think Idon't know that anything would have changed had
she knew right in the beginning orif because I don't think there's no way
to slow it down right, there'sno it's once it's it happens, it
happens right. There's a lot oftrials on drugs being done to try to
slow the progress, but like it'sit. I think it just depends on
your body and how aggressive it reallyis for me, uh or for my
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grandmother. She was fully diagnosed,but it was because it was so rampant
in the family that it was genuinelyher biggest fear. And I think one
of the best things that's come fromthis disease being in our family is that
we talk so openly about it andwe all have a plan, Like I
know what my aunt wants, Iknow what my dad wants. I know
(26:52):
that everybody knows what I want.And it's so scary if you have somebody
or if it's not common in yourfamily, or maybe this is the first
time and you didn't catch it tilllater, because the brain is really good
at hiding its own issues, soa lot of people don't catch it in
their loved ones until it's gotten toa very progressive form, and it's really
(27:18):
really scary then to be like,is this what they wanted? Now I'm
making decisions for you. And wenever had this conversation, so I will
say we all knew from the getgo. It was my grandmother's biggest fear.
She kind of always thought it wouldbe how she would go, and
she had experienced lots of relatives thatwent through it and knew that this was
(27:41):
a possibility. But we were ableto go. We know she doesn't want
to be in a care home,so we were so blessed and so fortunate
that we are an Irish Catholic familywith eight thousand members and we were taking
shifts in rotations so that she couldstay home and for as long as possible.
There was a few weeks where shewas but for years she was at
(28:02):
home taken care of. And Ithink it's really nice, and that's a
weird way of looking at it,but you do have to find the positives
with this disease. It's like,I feel like we've had a lot of
pretty severe conversations that a lot ofpeople don't have, and I feel prepared
for any sort of life threatening situationfor my loved ones. So that's amazing
(28:25):
to hear, and it gives likesomebody who's just getting into this and kind
of I mean, it's been awhile, it's been a few years,
nine years since she passed, butI've always wanted to do something and didn't
really know what to do, andit kind of been hesitant and kind of
suppress some of those feelings, Ithink because I didn't want to, you
know, I didn't want to notonce it was done. I didn't want
to acknowledge it. I tryed totried to live my life or whatever,
(28:48):
and kind of suppress it a lot. And I just think that there's this
this could be the start of something. I've watched you do it for years
now, and I'm like, that'ssomething I really want to do. And
I think if we are closer,we'd probably do it together. And maybe
there's a time where we team upand I go there even and I would
still come do the walk with you. But if you're listening to this right
now and you want to join,you are going to be in Holland or
(29:08):
in the area in September. It'sSeptember twenty first. I am going to
start a team. I am goingto get this going. I'm not really
sure what's okay. So there's there'sa it looks like there's a goal that
raise a certain amount. What isit? What is a like a an
attainable goal to start that off?Ooh, that's a great question. So
(29:30):
it's funny because it was always supposedto be my team, and my dad
got very gung ho about it,and he really became the driving force of
harassing everybody in his life to helpus out smart. We love it.
We love to see it. Welove a man who helps everybody else who
finally goes pay it back, bitch. We love to see it. I
(29:52):
wonder will you have on air support? Yes, yeah, yeah, I
want. I'm gonna yeah, I'vebeen. I've been given the go to
be able to talk about it onthe air and kind of get it roll,
and I haven't. I haven't discussedthe imaging side of it, which
I love. I love that idea. MM hmmm, oh my god,
I see. I immediately went toinappropriate things like you should have your voice
(30:14):
guy like start to talk about yourteam, and be like, well,
that's fad, that's fad. That'stoo far, that's too far. You
have to have dark humor. Okay, you have to have dark humor.
Line and I crossed it, bute. But but I was going to jump
over it, and I realized itwas a cliff and then I just kind
of skirted my foot over it.And I still shared, but that was
like, but that's a bad idea, and I walked backwards. Okay,
(30:37):
it's like a cartoon. You justkind of tiptoed stepped out. Okay,
okay, okay, even for metoo far. I don't know. I
think it would be interesting too,And I don't know how that's done.
Maybe it would be smart for youto like send up a venmoka that goes
to it. I know sometimes peopledon't necessarily trust this, so maybe setting
one up for like a five onone seed three No, I don't know,
(31:00):
maybe doing that, but it's inSeptember, you're starting now. I
think five hundred and one thousand,okays is like a good I mean I'm
still in the process of putting ittogether, but I don't think it's from
the looks of the website. Ijust spoke with somebody yesterday the day before
about even like partnering with them andyou know, maybe even having them come
(31:21):
in or whatever. So I stillhave to build the team or whatever.
So I think we're going to startwithin the next month or so. Do
you think five hundred thousandthing? Whenwhen should you start? Like, because
I don't want to be the personthat's always bugging people for like fundraising,
you know what I mean. Idon't want to be that person that starts
way too early and then I'm askingfor money all the time. So do
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I wait till it's closer to it? This is what I did. I
actually invited a lot of my clientsout to come join me and walk.
I would be like, Hey,I don't know if this effects you or
not, but this is something that'slike really important to me. So if
you have the stay available, I'mgonna be walking at the lockdown in Alzheimer's.
If you want to join me,Musy, you still send them the
link to your team and then youwipe them bray that they send money,
(32:06):
and that's like business money, soit's real money. First off, you
could do the whole podcast like thatand I would literally not say two words.
That was the most relaxed I've beenin a very long time. Uh,
that's a great idea. I loveit. I love it. I
love it. I love it.I love it. I love it.
And so what are you doing onSeptember twenty first? Uh, today is
(32:27):
literally the one day I didn't bringmy planner and Ellen was like, how
does this weekend look to you?I'm like, oh, and then you're
like, so what do you knowhow to September twenty firs. I'm like,
this is the one time, theone time I go I don't know.
I truly don't know, but I'lltell you what. I will tell
you what if my day is freebecause September is weird. You know this
because you know what I'm worried about. Is that the same weekend? Uh?
(32:49):
Yes, it probably is close toit. Yeah, Yeah, that's
the only thing I'm worried about.Yeah, but I guess that's not happening.
Yeah, ween no, because Igenuinely don't know. I actually just
asked our boss about the other day. Brandon Boutakho's been an Ieheart listener for
a long time. Are you puttingthe puzzle pieces together? You know?
If that's not happening, I willabsolutely come. Are you kidding me?
(33:10):
This stuff is so important to me? Absolutely I will. I know that
we have to dip here in asecond, But can I tell you my
favorite story about my grandmother? Iwould love to hear her. Okay,
so I there's two of them,because you have to find the funny and
everything. The first thing I thoughtwas so interesting was my grandmother very common
(33:30):
for people born in god, Idon't even know when she was born the
forties. She wasn't born in theforties. Yeah. She was a smoker
when she was younger, and thenwhen she started having kids, quit smoking
right, like, didn't smoke forfifty years, let's say, didn't touch
a cigarette, got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. When she was starting to deteriorate.
(33:52):
She would grab my father, whowas her youngest son, grab him by
the collar and go give me acigaret. And he was like, excuse
me, no, absolutely not,and she would be like, go get
me a cigarette. You are mychild, and you will do as I
tell you. And my dad drovehis ass to the gas station and bought
(34:15):
her cigarettes and came back. Mygrandfather, who was still alive at the
time, was like, don't youdare give her a cigarette? Don't you
dare? Andie goes Dad. Mymom is at the end of her life.
It was a cigarette. I amnot telling her no. And the
woman who did not smoke for fiftyyears started smoking like a chimney, like
(34:35):
an absolute chimney all the time.But she would lose cigarette boxes everywhere.
Obviously, they just constantly misplacing hercigarettes, and she would get so angry,
and so my dad went out andso did his brother. They would
go out and buy curtains of cigarettesand just hide packs everywhere that she would
be normally in the house. Shewould find them, and my grandmother was
(34:58):
like, I'm not pand for ohgod, damn cigarette, and you better
be putting this bill for as longas it left. As my dad,
for like a good year, wasbuying cigarettes very regularly because they would just
get lost constantly, and would behiding them all over her house, like
in drawers, in the couches,in next to the bed, like wherever.
(35:19):
There were cigarettes everywhere. But Ilove this about her. She still
had to wear with all that.She never smoked in the house. That's
gross. And so she would walkherself outside, smoke a cigarette, come
inside for ten minutes, walk herselfoutside a cigarette. I bet you know
what too. I bet uh,And we do, guys, get here
in a minute. But I betthat a lot of people have stories with
(35:39):
somebody that has had Alzheimer's in theirfamily of the thing that they hid or
the thing that they lost. Mymy grandmother's was you know, those those
lotto cars, the Bingo ones.I don't know if they're called Bingo still
or whatever, but the scratch offsor whatever. Yeah, there would be
hundreds of them. All that washer thing. She used to buy them,
So she kind of knew still whatshe was doing because she would buy
(36:00):
them for us. It was likeour thing. We would do with her
that in little ticktacs, like theorange tiktacs. And you would find these
Bengo cards in the scratch offs everywhere, every single like under the mattress in
her in the bathroom. It was. But I think I bet everybody has
the thing that they're somebody with Alzheimer'swould would do that. They maybe didn't
(36:21):
do before, or that's that's funnyas Yeah, my favorite thirty second story
is that my aunt was her primarycaregiver and at a certain point she started
forgetting my aunt and she was likeputting her hair and rollers at night and
like feeding her and doing stuff,and my grandmother hated her in the funniest
way possible, where she would runaway to go down to the hall to
(36:43):
grab the house phone to call myaunt's cell phone and be like, please
come and hang out with me andget me away from the scary woman.
And the scary woman was still myaunt. Oh. Why terracle. It's
terracle. Could you imagine caring foryour parents and them saying, save me
from the scary person. That isyou, that is you that what would
she say when she walked in?Would she be like uh oh h oh,
(37:04):
or would she know who it wasat that point? No, not
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