Step Dad Writes Letter To Ellen K Asking For Advice On Step Daughter’s Wedding Choices 💔

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feel cheap love it. Thank you, Dan. Yeah, I'm cheap when
it comes to stuff like this,but then I'd want to spend the money
on the family, taking them outto eat or something like that. Yeah,
for sure, Thanks Dan. Yeah, thanks guys. Post one of
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still getting calls about ricky stepfather whoraised his daughter with so much love and

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care from the age of four andnow she's getting married. And he provided
a loving family and a home.And he said he's a blue collar worker.
He doesn't make a ton of money. But her biological father is this
hot shot surgeon who's super rich,but never really gave emotionally or monetarily.
So really he was the surgeon,was the father, Yes, Ricky was

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the dad. Yeah, yeah,I mean he learned how to bright hair
for Veronica. He bonded with her, Yeah, big time. My husband
and I were talking about this.He can't stop texting me because he heard
what's going on. And he saidif nobody, like, if he doesn't
bring it up the stepdad, thendrama will enfold at the wedding, and

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that he feels, which is funny. My husband never cares about this stuff.
But he was like, stuff isgoing to go down. It's better
to air it out before the wedding. Oh see, that's that's a good
point. I don't know, Alex. I kind of agree with the wife.
Yeah. The wife said, it'sher day, let her decide,
and you cannot meddle. This islike, she's the bride, she's an
adult. She makes her own decisionsand that's just part of parenting. Still,

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I don't know. Plus we don'tknow. There is one thing that
was left out because if this surgeonthe dad, not the dad, the
father, the biological father. Ifthis is a rich guy and he offered
to pay for the wedding, andshe feels obligated. She might feel obligated
to walk down the aisle with him. This is a conversation they all need
to have. Yes, she needsto be really honest with her daddy,

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yep, and tell him what's goingon with the father? Yes. Do
you know that I have a friendwho has a boy with a man she's
no longer with, and she shecalls him the father, said the father,
not even like his father, it'sthe father. Yeah. I always

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that always stuck out in my mind. I'm like, okay, he was
to see one of our friends callshim the donor. Oh, let's go
to Orange Dane. What do youthink? Well, here's what I think.
I think that the daughter has alwayshad Ricky in her life. He's
been her constant. He's shown herthe emotional support, braiding her hair,

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taking her to the prompt. Herfather has been emotionally absent, her bio
father, and this is almost herway of forcing him into a social situation
where he has to demonstrate affection towardsher. Yes, but Ricky is her

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constant. You know, it doesn'tdiminish his impact on her life. I
mean, being a parent is thejoyous thing and sometimes the most heartbreaking thing
as well, so we always haveto be there for them, even if
we have to be in the shadow. Well, thank you so much,
Diane, have a great day.Okay, love your show. Thank you.

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Right to Ellen for advice because she'sseen a thing or two. She is
Ellen, Right, guys, Andthis one comes from Fletcher. I love
that name. Fletcher. Yeah,it's a great name. I don't know,
I know, I know, Idon'g named Fletcher. This is so
weird, you guys. But mybrother calls me Fletcher. Why. Hey,
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is a character named r. J. Fletcher. Initial My initials are RJH,
so your RJ fletch. So hestarted calling me r J. Fletcher,
which then turned into Fletcher. Oh, Fletcher, Will Fletcher. Thank
you for the letter, says dearEllen. I hope this letter finds all
of you well. I love yourshow. Thank you, Fletcher, he

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says. Recently, I experienced amoment of intimacy with my girlfriend that took
an unexpected turn. During what shouldhave been a tender moment between us,
my girlfriend suddenly expressed boredom and decidedto start doing her nails instead. Needless
to say, I was taken abackand felt hurt by this behavior. I'm
confused. I don't know how toaddress the situation. I didn't do it

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in the spot. I just lether do what she wanted to do.
Obviously at that moment. I wantto be sure that I can address any
underlying issues or concerns that may haveled to this. I also want to
reaffirm our commitment to each other andour relationship. So I love it when
you guys ask people if they've heardof this or what I should do.
I want to work through this challenge. I love her very much and I

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know she loves me. I wasjust taken aback when she would rather be
concentrating on her nails than on us. Thank you, Fletcher. Well maybe
she was just really tired, Anddo want to say it could be,
could be, but maybe you know, listen, and this is something I've
figured out as a man. It'son us a lot to make sure that

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we're doing the right things to getthat situation happening, right, And I
think a lot right time, Yes, exactly, That's what I was just
going to say. I think alot of times we assume, oh,
that's could just happen. But look, it's a two way street. Sometimes
I'll walk through the door of myhusband, come and look at this,
and like, I could be holdinggroceries and it could be four pms.
I've been out for like twelve solidhours. Yes, it could have been

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working out, you know, doingall kinds of things. It could have
been. There could have been anumber of things. I could have just
done a three hour voice. I'mwalking through the door, come and see
this? Can you come see this? And I'll be like, now,
yeah, Sometimes I think that whenwe're in a relationship, we don't engage
what the other person is doing orfeelings, just like me now, right.

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But I will say, and beforeyou weigh in on the star,
I will say, the painting ofthe nails in bed was a little I've
never done that in bed. Yeah, so that's also a thing. Oh
man, I'm like trying to coastifythis. Okay, she's probably just tired
of him. Oh right, right, Yeah, like like I've had my

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fill of you. He needs tostep it up and make her feel or
step away, yeah, or stepaway, give her some space because to
me, if you are in thissituation and then you start to do your
nails, to me, that's likea sign like I'm laying down my boundaries.

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I experienced a moment of intimacy withmy girlfriend that took an unexpected turn.
During what should have been a tenderand intimate moment to my girlfriend suddenly express
boredom and decided to start doing hernails instead. I love her, I
know she loves me. I justwant to see if there's any underlying issue.
Thank you so much for calling Juliafrom no Ho. You heard the

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letter. What do you think isgoing on? With Fletcher and his girl
for small Hi Ellen, thank youso much for having me. I think
that you know, you don't alwayshave to be ready to do that.
You can take a break sometimes,you don't need to be doing it all
the time. So I think maybeshe was just trying to find something to

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occupy herself so she didn't have todo that. But if he wants to
ask her, and she's just honest, she could just say, hey,
you know, I didn't feel likedoing it today, right, Like I
just be honest, like put itout there. But he held back and
didn't say anything in the moment becausehe was so shocked because that had never
happened before. Something else, right, And see, I saw it as

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her putting down like you're saying,kind of like putting down boundaries, like
like this is my time get out. Yeah, I see, But I
see it a different way. Ithink we're all like men and or women,
we're not we all have different needsat different times. You can schedule
this stuff, you can plan forit, you can hope, but if
one of us isn't into it,then we're not into it. Yeah,

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but right, Okay, that's true, And I don't think there needs to
be deeper meaning, but there alsodoesn't need to be a demonstration like that
or a backup plan. Oh,Julie, well, thank you so much,
Julia, thanks for having us on. Thank you The LK Morning Show

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So. Italian has been found tobe the most sexy, most romantic,
most passionate language and accent in theworld. And you, Franco are
Italiano Sala Tuesday, Gascoto, Martinoguand exactly you are. You are the

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first voice that I hear in themorning when I opened my eyes. Oh,
frank, see, this is whatItalians too. They're they're they're born
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we are passionate no matter of whatwe do, so even when we
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Uh? You know what I notonly is the probably the you know,
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what you're saying, Franco, isthat you wish you could just turn
your charm off a little bit.M hm, I can't. It's in
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I can do that.