December 13, 2025 • 100 mins
In this episode, Chris Do and Jule Kim dive deep into the meaning of true friendship and the different tiers that define closeness and trust. They explore how people move in and out of our inner circles over time, based on shared values and behavior.
Chris shares his philosophy of offering friendship freely as a way to reveal true character. Jule reflects on her people-pleasing tendencies and how boundaries have evolved throughout her life. Together, they unpack how friendships form not just through proximity but through intentional choice.
Timestamps
(00:00) — Intro
(07:45) — Four tiers of friends
(13:52) — Reading people’s behavior
(19:30) — Hidden intentions in relationships
(25:42) — People-pleasing consequences
(32:58) — Values shaping connection
(39:44) — Judgment versus grace
(47:10) — Navigating social hierarchies
(54:55) — When friendships shift
(01:02:12) — Boundaries and self-respect
(01:09:49) — Avoiding harmful influences
(01:16:33) — Friendship tests explained
(01:23:25) — Giving versus being used
(01:31:18) — Trust earned over time
(01:38:10) — Acceptance and belonging
Check out today's guest, Jule Kim:
Jule's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julekim/
Jule's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsjulekim
Executive Coach Jule Kim : https://adviceactually.com/
Jule Kim's Podcasts:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Wy7NzSjPBFU42tGS0jUeB?si=27adaa65f448473c
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-is-how-you-think-a-personal-growth-and/id1821606552
Check out The Futur:
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Check out Chris Do:
LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/thechrisdo/
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