May 11, 2023 • 30 mins
FIRST THING: Have you ever just sat and stared your partner or a friend in the eyes? You might end up trying it out after listening to this episode. Affection in a relationship with a partner or a friend (or even a pet!) might mean trying new things like the "slow blink" method to connect. It also might require conversations or research because not everyone shows affection in the same ways. We all need affection. Giving it, as well as receiving it, helps us feel good!
SECOND THING: Do you feel misunderstood on text at times? Amy had a communication mishap over text this week and she realizes that it all could have been avoided if the person could have heard her tone from the beginning. Misinterpretation is caused by perception. And because perceptions are unique to each of us, it’s inevitable that misinterpretation will happen to us all…so maybe having difficult conversations on text should be avoided?!! Amy also defines the true meaning of an emoji that she is always confused by when people send it.
THIRD THING: Do you want less stress and more flow? Less stress and better gut health? Amy shares 5 holistic ways to reduce stress from a doctor and then a 6th way with Tina Anderson, founder of Just Thrive. Amy takes (and pays for with her own money) the Just Thrive probiotic every day and has for the last 2 years (along with their Gut-4-tify). She recently added their Just Calm to the mix. Tina joins Amy to talk about Just Calm because stress is impacting our digestive system and our cognitive health. We are all about anything that can help us stay calm and clear when we feel stressed...and that's where Just Calm comes to the rescue. Tina has given ‘4 Things’ listeners a code…just enter 4THINGS when you check out HERE & you’ll save 20%!
FORTH THING: Are you okay with aging? If you’re not, you should start being okay with it. Why? Because researchers from the Yale School of Public Health discovered that thinking positively about the aging process can slow cognitive decline in older adults. They found that people who held “positive age beliefs” were more likely to recover from mild cognitive impairment than those who didn’t. Amy used to not be okay with aging, but now she’s into it and can’t wait to see what her 40s and 50s bring!! Just remember no matter your age…you are useful to society, work, family, etc…
Hope you’re having the day you need to have!!
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Cats up little food for yourself life.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Oh it's pretty bad.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, it's pretty beautiful.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Beautiful. That for a little more exciting, said he. You're
kicking with four with Amy Brown.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Happy Thursday.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Four Things Amy here, and today's episode is for totally
different things. We'll start off talking about affection, and then
for the second thing, I feel like texting can often
lead to misunderstandings. So I got a little story for
you about that something that happened to me this week.
And then just some things to consider when you're trying
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to have a conversation with someone. The third thing is
about stress. I like to talk about that lot because
I'm always looking for ways to make sure that I'm
not adding more stress to my life, but I.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Am removing it.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
And then in the fourth thing, well, I am all
about anything that's going to keep my memory and thinking
sharp as I age. And there's one thing that we
can all be doing that as we get older. It's
just going to help us out in the long run,
especially when we get really, really really old.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
First man, Right.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, here's the deal.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
If you want more affection, like with a romantic partner,
we'll start there. You may have to do things like cuddling,
holding hands, massages, kissing, hugging. Those are all ways to
form a closer bond. Maybe even some acts of kindness
or getting to know your partner's love language and being
more intentional with that. Or there's eye contact, which this
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is a big one because I'm going to tell you
in a minute how eye contact worked for me in
one of my relationships this week. But many studies show
that eye contact can help build a stronger, deeper connection
between partners. It strengthens relationships and increases intimacy. Which real quick, now,
I just have this memory that popped into my head,
so I'm going to share it of a time that
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I was at a yoga class and the instructor told
us to partner up with the person next to us
and sit across from each other and just stare into
each other's eyes. Luckily, my friend Jackie was in the class,
so I got paired up with her, and I gotta
say it was a moment of intimacy, Like I don't
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know how long we were looking into each other's eyes,
but things got so intense that I just started bawling, crying.
And I think because it was Jackie, I felt safe
with her, but I was feeling things like stuff was
coming up, so it was very interesting.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Just side note there.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
But if you want to cultivate more affection in a friendship,
well maybe you do that yoga exercise, or you send
a thoughtful note, make it handwritten because that's more personal.
You may think of a way to surprise your friend,
make an effort to be there for them. But the
real question is what if you want more affection from
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your cat? Because that was what I was googling about
this week. And I know not everyone listening right now
is a cat person, but for those of you that are,
I had a major breakthrough with my cat, Maggie, and
she's not the most affectionate cat. And that really bums
me out because I had big plans, like big when
we first got her.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
I was like, oh man, this is going to be amazing.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
She's going to cuddle, She's going to sit on my
lap all the time. Well, honestly, the only time she
gets close to me is at night when I'm sleeping.
She'll make her way into my bed and then she'll
sleep right next to me. But I feel like I
mostly miss out on it because I'm asleep. I kind
of wake up and see her next to me, But
then that's it. The other sixteen seventeen hours of the day,
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she really doesn't want anything to do with me. So
I decided to look for help on YouTube. I searched
how to have a better relationship with my cat, and
this one video suggested the slow blink. You get down
on their level and you blink slowly. Now, apparently this
is equivalent to the human kiss. And here's part of
the video.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Blink slowly and gaze lovingly into their eyes. Slowly blinking
your eyes at your cat is akin to the human kiss.
Cats show affection by looking at someone and slowly closing
their eyes and opening them again. Get to eye level
with your cat and do the same thing. Meet their
gaze and blink back. They will know you love them too.
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Animal experts use this technique to calm fearful cats.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Y'all. I tried this and it works.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I went to Maggie and I made eye contact with her,
and then I started blinking slowly and she started to
move closer to me, and then she nudged her nose
up against my nose, and it was amazing, like there
was a connection, and I feel it like that feel
the progress here, So I'm going to keep doing it
and see if it improves our relationship, and eventually she'll
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end up in my lap hopefully tbd. But maybe slow
blinking will work for you and your husband or wife too.
I don't know, but the eye contact thing will for
sure help you. Maybe add in the blinking for fund
just to see what your partner does, see what happens,
or maybe that part is just for cats, But really
this is encouragement too that if you're looking for ways
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to have more affection or connect with a person or
with a pet, YouTube has so much information.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
It's a wealth of knowledge. There's so much there.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
I'm sure you could do some research and figure out
a way and maybe even do some self reflection and
think what would work for you, Like if you needed
affection from your partner, what's the best way for them
to give it to you or your friend? And then
y'all can have that conversation like, hey, this is what
I like, what do you like? And then that way
your affection needs are being met, which I know the
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whole cat part was only helpful for like, I don't know,
maybe the two percent of you or probably less than that,
that are having affection and connection issues with your cat.
But again, maybe there are others out there that need
a ledge of encouragement to look into ways to have
more affection and connection with people. And that's my hope,
because we all need affection. Giving affection as well as
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receiving affection helps us feel good and honestly, the benefits
of affection lower stress, which we'll talk more about stress
and the third thing, and it can build a stronger
immune system. Actually, I literally just googled the benefits lower cholesterol,
lower blood pressure, stronger immune system, lower stress hormones, boom, affection,
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get on it.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
All right.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
For this thing, let's talk about text tone or even
email tone, and how so many things can get misunderstood
when we're not actually talking with a person. A situation
happened this week with someone and what we were texting
about was sort of a big deal. It was something
that was full of differing opinions, but nothing that I
(07:13):
was really worked up about, Like I wasn't mad. I mean, yes,
I was firing off a lot of text, especially because
I was texting for my computer and it's way easier
to type a bunch of things than if I was
on my phone, but I wasn't mad. I was just
sharing my side. And then eventually I felt the need
to switch our text to voice text so that she
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could hear my tone and my true emotion and that
I wasn't upset because I really felt like my text
were coming across wrong or that she was receiving them
in a way that I wasn't meaning. So I figured
if she heard my tone, she would better understand my vibe.
And then that did work because her hearing my voice
helped Immediately she replied, thank you for sending the voice
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text anyway, just allowed her to hear my tone because
the filter that she was reading my text through on
her end was giving her a different narrative, and I
had my own filter going about the whole thing too,
And once we were able to talk, even though it
was over voice text, everything made sense and was so
much better. And the moral of this story is, maybe
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don't try to hash something out on text that can
be a quick phone call or voice texts. There's just
too much room for things to be taken the wrong way.
And then if you can't talk right away, then maybe
you just hold off the conversation if you can, because
In general, misinterpretation is caused by perception, and if the
person doesn't know where you're coming from, they may perceive
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it the wrong way, which is exactly what happened to me.
And because perceptions are unique to each of us, I mean,
it's inevitable that misinterpretations are going to happen to us,
especially over text. So I don't know, maybe there should
be like a warning label before texts are opened, like
something like, hey, attention, person reading this like the text
(09:01):
you're about to read, maybe I wrote it a little
too quickly, maybe autocorrect change something that might be confusing,
or maybe I hit sin before I was really done
with it. Do not take its content seriously until you have,
you know, confirmed or clarified the meaning and context of
this text, So that would be the warning. And then
(09:21):
after they read the disclaimer they can read your note. Which,
speaking of text, sometimes people send the upside down face emoji,
and I don't know what that one means, so I
had to look it up. And people use it for
the following reasons forty five percent sarcasm, thirty seven percent
smiling through pain, twenty three percent passive aggressive, and twelve
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percent same as a regular smiley face. Now dictionary dot
com has an actual definition for it, though the upside
down face emoji can convey sarcasm, passive aggression, or I
it's the visual opposite of the ordinary smile emoji, which
might lend to the interpretation that the meaning of the
(10:06):
text is the opposite of what it seems. And maybe
nobody cares about this emoji, but it's one that confuses me,
and sometimes people use it and I am like, I
don't know what they're trying to stay here now, I'm like, well,
are they being passive aggressive?
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Is there sarcasm? Because I'm not catching it.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
So I really wanted to understand what the emoji is
used for and how to receive it, which I definitely
feel old that I had to look that sort of
thing up. And my daughter already called me a grandma
this week because of my fashion choices for her. She
didn't really like that I wasn't okay with certain outfits
that she wanted to buy. But I stood my ground,
(10:43):
and I honestly thought that the ground I was standing on,
which was the ground I was going to die on
or the hill what's the saying the hill I was
going to die on? Which looking back, I don't think
I needed to be as firm with what I was
saying as I was, but I was holding tightly to it,
and I thought that might cause some issues with us,
but it didn't. I feel like we recovered quickly, Like
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she wasn't as hung up on the outfits as I
thought she was going to be. And I feel like
she really understood my side of things because I wasn't
just saying no. I was giving some reasons. And she
might still think I'm a grandma, but I feel like
she understood me. And if you're a parent listening right now,
just know that your kids actually do listen. And I
actually saw a survey that was published the other day
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saying that seventy five percent of kids between ages thirteen
and eighteen say that their parents are more influential than
they would think. Other kids say their friends are their
biggest influencers, and only three percent said celebrities or social
media influencers are the ones pulling their strings. But the
seventy five percent, that's what stood out to me. Seventy
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five percent of teenagers are listening to their parents, which
is not bad. It's actually higher than I thought it
would be.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Got the thing.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
All right.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
For this thing, we are talking about stress. And the
ironic part for me is my dog the last week
or so has been so stressed out. I mean, she
goes through phases where she's got anxiety's freaking out. The
vet gave me some doggy anxiety pills that she take.
She does CBD stuff. Nothing's working right now. I don't
(12:27):
know what is going on, but I took her back
to the vet. They don't seem to think anything's wrong
with her. And then I'm like, well, it is something
wrong with me. What is going on? But she is
laying calmly at my feet right now. Kara is a vibe.
Kara is goals like we're going to talk about stress
because I know a lot of you are stressed out
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and you need reminders, you need encouragement, you want different
tools to have in your toolbox. And whatever car has
going on right now, I am just so thankful and
I hope Kara, whatever vibe she has, we all get
it now. I decided to just type into Google how
many people are stressed out? Just to see what would
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come up, and according to the American Institute of Stress,
about thirty three percent of people report feeling extreme stress.
Seventy seven percent of people experiencing stress say it affects
their physical health, and then seventy three percent say it
affects their mental health.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
And then I'm scrolling down.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
You know, when you're on Google, it'll show you what
other people have asked related to the topic and says
what age is stress the most common? And it says
according to the American Psychological Association, people eighteen to thirty
three suffer the highest levels of stress in the United States,
which I remember being stressed at eighteen, like having to
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go off to college. But I can imagine there's other
stressors if you're just out on your own and trying
to figure out life. Thankfully I had support from my
family went through college. I feel like I got a
job fairly quickly. Was a little stressed when I couldn't
find something and I was having to wake up at
five am to work the front desk at Gold's Gym,
and I would be beeping my peers in that were
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coming to work out and they were starting their careers.
And there's nothing wrong with working at Gold's gym. It's
just my twenty two year old brain or pride or
ego or whatever.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Just felt a little like we won't.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
When I'd be working the front desk and someone that
I went to high school with that graduated college or whatever,
I was starting their job would be like beep working
and they'd be like, hey, Amy, what are you doing?
And I'm like, I don't know yet. And I did
not like waking up that early, which at that time,
of course, I had no idea I was going to
get into morning radio and I was going to have
to get really used to waking up early. But I
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used to sleep in my gym clothes. Now I was
also stressed because I didn't really have a place to live.
I wasn't that stressed though, because again I had family
that support or didn't like. My sister and her husband said, Hey,
we have a shed in our backyard, and we can
put some carpet down and you can paint it whatever
color you want on the inside, and you can live
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in the shed and we'll do a little makeshift closet
and knewo'll be good to go. So I was living
in a shed in my sister's backyard. It didn't have
a bathroom, and so sometimes if I was too scared
to go in to use the bathroom in the middle. Then
I would just pee in this vase that I had.
So anyway, life was good, because I feel like for
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me at thirty three is when my life got very stressful.
That's around the time that I lost my mom to cancer,
and then I was trying to adopt two kids or
Ben and I were my dad came down with cancer
like a few years after that, then my dog of
ten years died. I mean, I could just go the
list goes on and on, and then Ben and I
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started just having some personal things and now here I
am so Ageah this last decade through a divorce process,
it's just been a lot. So for me, i'd say
this is the most stressful season of my life, but
I get for a lot of people, eighteen to thirty
three could be that. So anyway, we're all feeling stressed
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because of a lot of different reasons. So I'm just
going to go over ways we can reduce stress in
our daily lives. We all have those moments where we're overwhelmed,
we're frustrated, and I think that on those days it's
really important that we have things in place. We'll call
them strategies. Have strategies in place to reduce stress. And
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there's a psychiatrist that put out a list. Her name
is doctor Jesse Gold. She works at Washington University School
of Medicine in Saint Louis, and she describes a holistic
approach to reducing stress, which means addressing the mental, emotional, physical,
and spiritual components of health. And so I thought I
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would go over doctor Gold's top suggestions on how to
reduce stress, and then I'm going to add on a
sixth thing, a bonus way. So the first strategy from
doctor Gold is take time for yourself. Doctor Gold says,
as hard as it is to do, you got to
try to find time, even if it's just five minutes
for yourself and go do something that you like that
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can really make a huge difference. What you do for
that time is totally up to you, but some people
find things like mindfulness, exercise, journaling, those types of things
helpful for stress reduction. The second strategy is have a routine.
She emphasizes that having a routine around sleep and eating
can be very very helpful. Third strategy, create boundaries between
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work and home. Sometimes you got to do this, You
got to set some limits and just say no. And
no doesn't mean that you're a mean person. It just
means you're prioritizing yourself and your well being. So if
it is time for you to be doing your home life,
maybe you say no to the worky life and I
get it. Sometimes you may have a boss that like
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is really demanding something, But if it's something that can
wait until the next day, and you feel secure in
your position to say, Okay, I'm going to put this
away until tomorrow, then you should do that. Recognize the
signs and the symptoms of chronic stress. She says that
if you can recognize the signs and the symptoms, you
might be able to intervene earlier. Turning to someone that
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you trust in those moments, like a friend or a
family member and talking to them about what you're experiencing
can be super helpful. And now, the fifth strategy from
doctor Gold is talking to a therapist. She says that
this will definitely come in handy if the stress shows
no sign of changing or improving, and then if you
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know that your stress is coming from a particular relationship
with your significant other, then couple's therapy might be an
option as well.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
And in this therapy Vein.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
She talks about if it's work related stress, that there
might need to be some workplace focused modifications and skills
training from an occupational therapist or even a coach or
something like that. And you know, the Bobby Bone Show
were like, you know, friends, family, we've been together so long,
there have been times just because you know, when you're
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working so closely with people, that I thought it would
be so cool if we could bring in a therapist
for us on the show and have someone just you know,
talk through some things, nothing too major. It was probably
when I was watching that show Billions, and they had
that amazing life coach person that would come in and
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just get everybody in the right headspace to trade and
make a bunch of money, because if you're not in
the right headspace, you can't do your job well. And
I kept thinking, that'd be so cool if we had
someone like that on staff. But obviously it's very expensive,
but those are jobs that really exist for people. Or
maybe if the Bobby Bone Show just went on a
retreat or something for four or five days, I don't know,
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I might kick that idea around. I have no idea
if anybody else will be into it, but I would
be Now I mentioned sharing with you a sixth thing,
and I've told you all about the probiotic brand that
I take every day. It's from a company called Just Thrive.
I order it every month with my own money, along
with another product that they make called gut Fortify. And
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some of you may remember I had the founder on
Tina Anderson. She was on a while back to talk
about gut health. Well, I asked her to come back
on to talk about stress and gut health because stress
is impacting all of our systems, our immune system, our
respiratory system, cardiovascular and digestive systems. That's where the gut
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health comes in, not to mention our cognitive and mental health.
And I'm about doing anything that can help set me
up to stay calm, stay clear when I'm feeling stressed.
And that's where Tina comes to the rescue with Just Calm.
And I've got Tina on with us, and Tina, I
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would like to start with you sharing exactly what Just
Calm is.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
It's a probiotic strain that actually supports cognitive function in mood.
So it's helping support that gut brain access as well.
And so the strain that is used in our product
Just Calm is called Biffitobacterium long. I'm seventeen fourteen, and
this is considered a psychobiotic, So putting us more into
that flow state that we're all trying to get into.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Yeah, that flow state is what I want more of,
less stress, more flow. And I've been playing around with
the best time to take Just Calm, Like I've used
it at night to relax from the day, and I
feel like with the title just Calm, that's where it
makes the most sense for me. But then I switched
it up and started doing it first thing, and I
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feel like cognitively, at least for me and how my
brain is, morning might be more ideal.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
We recommend taking it in the morning because of the fact,
for exactly what you said, it's helping improve our cognitive
function and being able putting us more in that flow
state where we could get things done. There are some
customers who like to take it at night because it's
like they just need to chill out before bed and
just calm themselves down. It certainly isn't going to help
like get in the way of sleep or anything like that,
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but we recommend taking it during the day because we
start out really you know, with high cortisol. We want
high cortisol when we start out in the morning, but
not too high. And so just be getting us more
into that flow state and being able to handle the
stressors that the day brings us is really really beneficial
to us.
Speaker 4 (22:36):
Well, since we're talking about when to take things, I
also want to make sure I'm taking my probiotic and
my gut fortify at the right time.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
The time isn't as important with the probiotic or gut fortify.
It's just better that you take especially the probiotic in
the presence of food. So one of your largest meals
of the day, so I intermittent fast, so I'll take
it like after my first meal of the day. It
wouldn't be any problem to take it on empty stomachs,
just better to take it in the presence of food.
Speaker 4 (23:01):
Let's just say that I could only take one of
your products ever again, or let's switch it to you.
Since this is your body, I want to know what
you would take. So you could only take one of
your products, which would it be.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
That's actually an easy question for me to answer, and
and I think when you asked me for the second
product that would be harder, but the first one is
it's always the probiotic. The Just Thrive probiotic is just
foundational to your overall health. I mean, any other type
of therapies or nutrients that we're trying to absorb, whatever
we're trying to do to support our health, will work
that much better when our gut is absorbing all of
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those nutrients. So I always say it's just it's ground
zero for health. We want to focus on our gut
health and by doing that with the probiotic and this
four based probiotic because of all the research behind it
as well.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
So you would say start with the probiotic before starting
just calm.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Now, a lot of people won't even listen to me,
and they're just going to go straight to the just
calm because people are unfortunately it's an epidemic right now.
I mean people are stressed at epidemic levels and we
are seeing that in children too. I would just say
start with the probatic and then maybe three weeks later,
start with just calm, just to take the other part
of the edge off, you know, the external stressors that
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we're dealing with, the tweets and the you know, text
messages and things like that.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Sometimes I don't know if my stress is coming from
an outside source or within me because I'm perimenopausal right now.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
And I think as women too, it's also important to
remember our hormones are being produced in our gut. I mean,
it's the healthier our gut is, we're better able to
balance our hormones. So that's a really big point right now.
I mean we're all as women, I think we're starting
to really understand our hormones are dictating a lot of
our health as well, and we need to be focused
in our gut health when we're talking about hormone health,
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and I mean for pregnant moms, for perimenopausal perimenopause is starting.
It's so much earlier than we used to think it was.
You know, we just thought we were going crazy as women,
and then all of a sudden, we're like, oh, this
is what's going on. Is our hormones are out of balance,
and it's probably because our gut is out out of balance.
So really important to be focusing on our gut health
when we're supporting our hormone health as well.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Yeah, so stress is coming at us externally and internally
and not just the hormones. I mean I think of
inside my brain fear that causes me stress at times.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
I mean we honestly, we can't avoid it.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
That's why I like to share a lot of different
ways that we can be proactive so that people can
see what works for them. And I like that we
can add just calm to our toolbox.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Stress is going to happen to us every day. I mean,
we're going to be faced with it all the time.
It's about getting our body to function and to be
able to handle.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
That stress better.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
And you know that's that's really the key. And we
know that more of having more of that biffital Bacterium
longum seventeen fourteen strain in our gut is actually helping
us not only support our gut health, but our mood.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Health as well.
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Speaker 3 (26:30):
Tana, that's so awesome.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
I appreciate all that you do and what you put
out into the world and forgiving me things that are
healthy for I got my body taking care of myself,
So thank you, Bye bye.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Bye Full things.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
With Amy.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
All right, back in the second thing, I mentioned that
Sashira had called me a grandma, and you know, maybe
I need to be okay with that. I turned forty
too recently, and I'm definitely okay with that. I honestly
feel like my forties and my fifties are going to
be awesome. Like I'm looking forward to aging and seeing
what life has in store. I wouldn't say that I've
always had this outlook, but I hope to stay this way,
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like okay with aging, but then also just feeling young.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
That's my aging motto.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I'm okay with aging, but I'm gonna feel young and
think I'm young, But mostly I just want to maintain
a positive feeling about getting older throughout my life. And
I say this because researchers from the Yale School of
Public Health discovered that thinking positively about the aging process
can slow cognitive decline in older adults. They found that
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people who held positive age beliefs were more likely to
recover from mild cognitive impairment than those who didn't, and
they studied more than seventeen thousand participants. They were given
prompts such as the older I get, the more useless
I fe feel, and then they were asked if they
agreed or disagreed to determine their attitudes towards aging. As expected,
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those who maintained positive age beliefs were more than thirty
percent more likely to recover from mild cognitive impairment and
recover more quickly than those who held negative age beliefs.
So what I gather from this is that if I
want the best shot at maintaining things like my cognitive health,
my memory, my thinking as I age, I should stay
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positive about aging and believe that the older I get,
the more useful I am. Not useless and may you
remember that too. The older you get, the more useful
you are. May we always remember that there's value in
having voices and perspectives in the world. All kinds, no
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matter our age, we have something to offer. Right, let's
a wrap on the things for today. I hope you're
having the day that you need to have. On Saturday,
there will be an Outweigh episode guest hosted by my
friend Lianne Ellington, and she's going to be talking about
trusting yourself. The title the episode on Saturday is going
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to be why you stop trusting yourself and how to
earn your own trust back.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
Now.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Leanne is all about breaking yourself out of food and
body prison, like that's her thing, and she's really good
at it because she's an expert when it comes to
the brain and self image and why we do what
we do, and she's got great advice. So I'm very,
very very thankful to have her on board as a
guest host for the next few weeks. So I'm going
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to be in Austin this weekend for iHeart Country Festival.
If you're going to be there, maybe I'll get to
see you. You can listen to it on iHeartRadio stations,
very excited for all of the artists, and there's a
surprise guest.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
It's going to be amazing.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
So whatever you're doing this weekend, may it be filled
with positive thoughts, with kind people and happy moments.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
Bye.
Cats up little food for yourself life.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Oh it's pretty bad.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, it's pretty beautiful.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Beautiful. That for a little more exciting, said he. You're
kicking with four with Amy Brown.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Happy Thursday.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Four Things Amy here, and today's episode is for totally
different things. We'll start off talking about affection, and then
for the second thing, I feel like texting can often
lead to misunderstandings. So I got a little story for
you about that something that happened to me this week.
And then just some things to consider when you're trying
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to have a conversation with someone. The third thing is
about stress. I like to talk about that lot because
I'm always looking for ways to make sure that I'm
not adding more stress to my life, but I.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Am removing it.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
And then in the fourth thing, well, I am all
about anything that's going to keep my memory and thinking
sharp as I age. And there's one thing that we
can all be doing that as we get older. It's
just going to help us out in the long run,
especially when we get really, really really old.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
First man, Right.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, here's the deal.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
If you want more affection, like with a romantic partner,
we'll start there. You may have to do things like cuddling,
holding hands, massages, kissing, hugging. Those are all ways to
form a closer bond. Maybe even some acts of kindness
or getting to know your partner's love language and being
more intentional with that. Or there's eye contact, which this
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is a big one because I'm going to tell you
in a minute how eye contact worked for me in
one of my relationships this week. But many studies show
that eye contact can help build a stronger, deeper connection
between partners. It strengthens relationships and increases intimacy. Which real quick, now,
I just have this memory that popped into my head,
so I'm going to share it of a time that
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I was at a yoga class and the instructor told
us to partner up with the person next to us
and sit across from each other and just stare into
each other's eyes. Luckily, my friend Jackie was in the class,
so I got paired up with her, and I gotta
say it was a moment of intimacy, Like I don't
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know how long we were looking into each other's eyes,
but things got so intense that I just started bawling, crying.
And I think because it was Jackie, I felt safe
with her, but I was feeling things like stuff was
coming up, so it was very interesting.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Just side note there.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
But if you want to cultivate more affection in a friendship,
well maybe you do that yoga exercise, or you send
a thoughtful note, make it handwritten because that's more personal.
You may think of a way to surprise your friend,
make an effort to be there for them. But the
real question is what if you want more affection from
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your cat? Because that was what I was googling about
this week. And I know not everyone listening right now
is a cat person, but for those of you that are,
I had a major breakthrough with my cat, Maggie, and
she's not the most affectionate cat. And that really bums
me out because I had big plans, like big when
we first got her.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
I was like, oh man, this is going to be amazing.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
She's going to cuddle, She's going to sit on my
lap all the time. Well, honestly, the only time she
gets close to me is at night when I'm sleeping.
She'll make her way into my bed and then she'll
sleep right next to me. But I feel like I
mostly miss out on it because I'm asleep. I kind
of wake up and see her next to me, But
then that's it. The other sixteen seventeen hours of the day,
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she really doesn't want anything to do with me. So
I decided to look for help on YouTube. I searched
how to have a better relationship with my cat, and
this one video suggested the slow blink. You get down
on their level and you blink slowly. Now, apparently this
is equivalent to the human kiss. And here's part of
the video.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Blink slowly and gaze lovingly into their eyes. Slowly blinking
your eyes at your cat is akin to the human kiss.
Cats show affection by looking at someone and slowly closing
their eyes and opening them again. Get to eye level
with your cat and do the same thing. Meet their
gaze and blink back. They will know you love them too.
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Animal experts use this technique to calm fearful cats.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Y'all. I tried this and it works.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
I went to Maggie and I made eye contact with her,
and then I started blinking slowly and she started to
move closer to me, and then she nudged her nose
up against my nose, and it was amazing, like there
was a connection, and I feel it like that feel
the progress here, So I'm going to keep doing it
and see if it improves our relationship, and eventually she'll
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end up in my lap hopefully tbd. But maybe slow
blinking will work for you and your husband or wife too.
I don't know, but the eye contact thing will for
sure help you. Maybe add in the blinking for fund
just to see what your partner does, see what happens,
or maybe that part is just for cats, But really
this is encouragement too that if you're looking for ways
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to have more affection or connect with a person or
with a pet, YouTube has so much information.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
It's a wealth of knowledge. There's so much there.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
I'm sure you could do some research and figure out
a way and maybe even do some self reflection and
think what would work for you, Like if you needed
affection from your partner, what's the best way for them
to give it to you or your friend? And then
y'all can have that conversation like, hey, this is what
I like, what do you like? And then that way
your affection needs are being met, which I know the
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whole cat part was only helpful for like, I don't know,
maybe the two percent of you or probably less than that,
that are having affection and connection issues with your cat.
But again, maybe there are others out there that need
a ledge of encouragement to look into ways to have
more affection and connection with people. And that's my hope,
because we all need affection. Giving affection as well as
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receiving affection helps us feel good and honestly, the benefits
of affection lower stress, which we'll talk more about stress
and the third thing, and it can build a stronger
immune system. Actually, I literally just googled the benefits lower cholesterol,
lower blood pressure, stronger immune system, lower stress hormones, boom, affection,
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get on it.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
All right.
Speaker 4 (06:51):
For this thing, let's talk about text tone or even
email tone, and how so many things can get misunderstood
when we're not actually talking with a person. A situation
happened this week with someone and what we were texting
about was sort of a big deal. It was something
that was full of differing opinions, but nothing that I
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was really worked up about, Like I wasn't mad. I mean, yes,
I was firing off a lot of text, especially because
I was texting for my computer and it's way easier
to type a bunch of things than if I was
on my phone, but I wasn't mad. I was just
sharing my side. And then eventually I felt the need
to switch our text to voice text so that she
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could hear my tone and my true emotion and that
I wasn't upset because I really felt like my text
were coming across wrong or that she was receiving them
in a way that I wasn't meaning. So I figured
if she heard my tone, she would better understand my vibe.
And then that did work because her hearing my voice
helped Immediately she replied, thank you for sending the voice
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text anyway, just allowed her to hear my tone because
the filter that she was reading my text through on
her end was giving her a different narrative, and I
had my own filter going about the whole thing too,
And once we were able to talk, even though it
was over voice text, everything made sense and was so
much better. And the moral of this story is, maybe
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don't try to hash something out on text that can
be a quick phone call or voice texts. There's just
too much room for things to be taken the wrong way.
And then if you can't talk right away, then maybe
you just hold off the conversation if you can, because
In general, misinterpretation is caused by perception, and if the
person doesn't know where you're coming from, they may perceive
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it the wrong way, which is exactly what happened to me.
And because perceptions are unique to each of us, I mean,
it's inevitable that misinterpretations are going to happen to us,
especially over text. So I don't know, maybe there should
be like a warning label before texts are opened, like
something like, hey, attention, person reading this like the text
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you're about to read, maybe I wrote it a little
too quickly, maybe autocorrect change something that might be confusing,
or maybe I hit sin before I was really done
with it. Do not take its content seriously until you have,
you know, confirmed or clarified the meaning and context of
this text, So that would be the warning. And then
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after they read the disclaimer they can read your note. Which,
speaking of text, sometimes people send the upside down face emoji,
and I don't know what that one means, so I
had to look it up. And people use it for
the following reasons forty five percent sarcasm, thirty seven percent
smiling through pain, twenty three percent passive aggressive, and twelve
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percent same as a regular smiley face. Now dictionary dot
com has an actual definition for it, though the upside
down face emoji can convey sarcasm, passive aggression, or I
it's the visual opposite of the ordinary smile emoji, which
might lend to the interpretation that the meaning of the
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text is the opposite of what it seems. And maybe
nobody cares about this emoji, but it's one that confuses me,
and sometimes people use it and I am like, I
don't know what they're trying to stay here now, I'm like, well,
are they being passive aggressive?
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Is there sarcasm? Because I'm not catching it.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
So I really wanted to understand what the emoji is
used for and how to receive it, which I definitely
feel old that I had to look that sort of
thing up. And my daughter already called me a grandma
this week because of my fashion choices for her. She
didn't really like that I wasn't okay with certain outfits
that she wanted to buy. But I stood my ground,
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and I honestly thought that the ground I was standing on,
which was the ground I was going to die on
or the hill what's the saying the hill I was
going to die on? Which looking back, I don't think
I needed to be as firm with what I was
saying as I was, but I was holding tightly to it,
and I thought that might cause some issues with us,
but it didn't. I feel like we recovered quickly, Like
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she wasn't as hung up on the outfits as I
thought she was going to be. And I feel like
she really understood my side of things because I wasn't
just saying no. I was giving some reasons. And she
might still think I'm a grandma, but I feel like
she understood me. And if you're a parent listening right now,
just know that your kids actually do listen. And I
actually saw a survey that was published the other day
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saying that seventy five percent of kids between ages thirteen
and eighteen say that their parents are more influential than
they would think. Other kids say their friends are their
biggest influencers, and only three percent said celebrities or social
media influencers are the ones pulling their strings. But the
seventy five percent, that's what stood out to me. Seventy
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five percent of teenagers are listening to their parents, which
is not bad. It's actually higher than I thought it
would be.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Got the thing.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
All right.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
For this thing, we are talking about stress. And the
ironic part for me is my dog the last week
or so has been so stressed out. I mean, she
goes through phases where she's got anxiety's freaking out. The
vet gave me some doggy anxiety pills that she take.
She does CBD stuff. Nothing's working right now. I don't
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know what is going on, but I took her back
to the vet. They don't seem to think anything's wrong
with her. And then I'm like, well, it is something
wrong with me. What is going on? But she is
laying calmly at my feet right now. Kara is a vibe.
Kara is goals like we're going to talk about stress
because I know a lot of you are stressed out
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and you need reminders, you need encouragement, you want different
tools to have in your toolbox. And whatever car has
going on right now, I am just so thankful and
I hope Kara, whatever vibe she has, we all get
it now. I decided to just type into Google how
many people are stressed out? Just to see what would
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come up, and according to the American Institute of Stress,
about thirty three percent of people report feeling extreme stress.
Seventy seven percent of people experiencing stress say it affects
their physical health, and then seventy three percent say it
affects their mental health.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
And then I'm scrolling down.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
You know, when you're on Google, it'll show you what
other people have asked related to the topic and says
what age is stress the most common? And it says
according to the American Psychological Association, people eighteen to thirty
three suffer the highest levels of stress in the United States,
which I remember being stressed at eighteen, like having to
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go off to college. But I can imagine there's other
stressors if you're just out on your own and trying
to figure out life. Thankfully I had support from my
family went through college. I feel like I got a
job fairly quickly. Was a little stressed when I couldn't
find something and I was having to wake up at
five am to work the front desk at Gold's Gym,
and I would be beeping my peers in that were
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coming to work out and they were starting their careers.
And there's nothing wrong with working at Gold's gym. It's
just my twenty two year old brain or pride or
ego or whatever.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Just felt a little like we won't.
Speaker 4 (14:28):
When I'd be working the front desk and someone that
I went to high school with that graduated college or whatever,
I was starting their job would be like beep working
and they'd be like, hey, Amy, what are you doing?
And I'm like, I don't know yet. And I did
not like waking up that early, which at that time,
of course, I had no idea I was going to
get into morning radio and I was going to have
to get really used to waking up early. But I
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used to sleep in my gym clothes. Now I was
also stressed because I didn't really have a place to live.
I wasn't that stressed though, because again I had family
that support or didn't like. My sister and her husband said, Hey,
we have a shed in our backyard, and we can
put some carpet down and you can paint it whatever
color you want on the inside, and you can live
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in the shed and we'll do a little makeshift closet
and knewo'll be good to go. So I was living
in a shed in my sister's backyard. It didn't have
a bathroom, and so sometimes if I was too scared
to go in to use the bathroom in the middle. Then
I would just pee in this vase that I had.
So anyway, life was good, because I feel like for
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me at thirty three is when my life got very stressful.
That's around the time that I lost my mom to cancer,
and then I was trying to adopt two kids or
Ben and I were my dad came down with cancer
like a few years after that, then my dog of
ten years died. I mean, I could just go the
list goes on and on, and then Ben and I
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started just having some personal things and now here I
am so Ageah this last decade through a divorce process,
it's just been a lot. So for me, i'd say
this is the most stressful season of my life, but
I get for a lot of people, eighteen to thirty
three could be that. So anyway, we're all feeling stressed
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because of a lot of different reasons. So I'm just
going to go over ways we can reduce stress in
our daily lives. We all have those moments where we're overwhelmed,
we're frustrated, and I think that on those days it's
really important that we have things in place. We'll call
them strategies. Have strategies in place to reduce stress. And
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there's a psychiatrist that put out a list. Her name
is doctor Jesse Gold. She works at Washington University School
of Medicine in Saint Louis, and she describes a holistic
approach to reducing stress, which means addressing the mental, emotional, physical,
and spiritual components of health. And so I thought I
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would go over doctor Gold's top suggestions on how to
reduce stress, and then I'm going to add on a
sixth thing, a bonus way. So the first strategy from
doctor Gold is take time for yourself. Doctor Gold says,
as hard as it is to do, you got to
try to find time, even if it's just five minutes
for yourself and go do something that you like that
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can really make a huge difference. What you do for
that time is totally up to you, but some people
find things like mindfulness, exercise, journaling, those types of things
helpful for stress reduction. The second strategy is have a routine.
She emphasizes that having a routine around sleep and eating
can be very very helpful. Third strategy, create boundaries between
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work and home. Sometimes you got to do this, You
got to set some limits and just say no. And
no doesn't mean that you're a mean person. It just
means you're prioritizing yourself and your well being. So if
it is time for you to be doing your home life,
maybe you say no to the worky life and I
get it. Sometimes you may have a boss that like
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is really demanding something, But if it's something that can
wait until the next day, and you feel secure in
your position to say, Okay, I'm going to put this
away until tomorrow, then you should do that. Recognize the
signs and the symptoms of chronic stress. She says that
if you can recognize the signs and the symptoms, you
might be able to intervene earlier. Turning to someone that
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you trust in those moments, like a friend or a
family member and talking to them about what you're experiencing
can be super helpful. And now, the fifth strategy from
doctor Gold is talking to a therapist. She says that
this will definitely come in handy if the stress shows
no sign of changing or improving, and then if you
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know that your stress is coming from a particular relationship
with your significant other, then couple's therapy might be an
option as well.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
And in this therapy Vein.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
She talks about if it's work related stress, that there
might need to be some workplace focused modifications and skills
training from an occupational therapist or even a coach or
something like that. And you know, the Bobby Bone Show
were like, you know, friends, family, we've been together so long,
there have been times just because you know, when you're
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working so closely with people, that I thought it would
be so cool if we could bring in a therapist
for us on the show and have someone just you know,
talk through some things, nothing too major. It was probably
when I was watching that show Billions, and they had
that amazing life coach person that would come in and
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just get everybody in the right headspace to trade and
make a bunch of money, because if you're not in
the right headspace, you can't do your job well. And
I kept thinking, that'd be so cool if we had
someone like that on staff. But obviously it's very expensive,
but those are jobs that really exist for people. Or
maybe if the Bobby Bone Show just went on a
retreat or something for four or five days, I don't know,
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I might kick that idea around. I have no idea
if anybody else will be into it, but I would
be Now I mentioned sharing with you a sixth thing,
and I've told you all about the probiotic brand that
I take every day. It's from a company called Just Thrive.
I order it every month with my own money, along
with another product that they make called gut Fortify. And
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some of you may remember I had the founder on
Tina Anderson. She was on a while back to talk
about gut health. Well, I asked her to come back
on to talk about stress and gut health because stress
is impacting all of our systems, our immune system, our
respiratory system, cardiovascular and digestive systems. That's where the gut
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health comes in, not to mention our cognitive and mental health.
And I'm about doing anything that can help set me
up to stay calm, stay clear when I'm feeling stressed.
And that's where Tina comes to the rescue with Just Calm.
And I've got Tina on with us, and Tina, I
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would like to start with you sharing exactly what Just
Calm is.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
It's a probiotic strain that actually supports cognitive function in mood.
So it's helping support that gut brain access as well.
And so the strain that is used in our product
Just Calm is called Biffitobacterium long. I'm seventeen fourteen, and
this is considered a psychobiotic, So putting us more into
that flow state that we're all trying to get into.
Speaker 4 (21:29):
Yeah, that flow state is what I want more of,
less stress, more flow. And I've been playing around with
the best time to take Just Calm, Like I've used
it at night to relax from the day, and I
feel like with the title just Calm, that's where it
makes the most sense for me. But then I switched
it up and started doing it first thing, and I
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feel like cognitively, at least for me and how my
brain is, morning might be more ideal.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
We recommend taking it in the morning because of the fact,
for exactly what you said, it's helping improve our cognitive
function and being able putting us more in that flow
state where we could get things done. There are some
customers who like to take it at night because it's
like they just need to chill out before bed and
just calm themselves down. It certainly isn't going to help
like get in the way of sleep or anything like that,
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but we recommend taking it during the day because we
start out really you know, with high cortisol. We want
high cortisol when we start out in the morning, but
not too high. And so just be getting us more
into that flow state and being able to handle the
stressors that the day brings us is really really beneficial
to us.
Speaker 4 (22:36):
Well, since we're talking about when to take things, I
also want to make sure I'm taking my probiotic and
my gut fortify at the right time.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
The time isn't as important with the probiotic or gut fortify.
It's just better that you take especially the probiotic in
the presence of food. So one of your largest meals
of the day, so I intermittent fast, so I'll take
it like after my first meal of the day. It
wouldn't be any problem to take it on empty stomachs,
just better to take it in the presence of food.
Speaker 4 (23:01):
Let's just say that I could only take one of
your products ever again, or let's switch it to you.
Since this is your body, I want to know what
you would take. So you could only take one of
your products, which would it be.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
That's actually an easy question for me to answer, and
and I think when you asked me for the second
product that would be harder, but the first one is
it's always the probiotic. The Just Thrive probiotic is just
foundational to your overall health. I mean, any other type
of therapies or nutrients that we're trying to absorb, whatever
we're trying to do to support our health, will work
that much better when our gut is absorbing all of
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those nutrients. So I always say it's just it's ground
zero for health. We want to focus on our gut
health and by doing that with the probiotic and this
four based probiotic because of all the research behind it
as well.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
So you would say start with the probiotic before starting
just calm.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Now, a lot of people won't even listen to me,
and they're just going to go straight to the just
calm because people are unfortunately it's an epidemic right now.
I mean people are stressed at epidemic levels and we
are seeing that in children too. I would just say
start with the probatic and then maybe three weeks later,
start with just calm, just to take the other part
of the edge off, you know, the external stressors that
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we're dealing with, the tweets and the you know, text
messages and things like that.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Sometimes I don't know if my stress is coming from
an outside source or within me because I'm perimenopausal right now.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
And I think as women too, it's also important to
remember our hormones are being produced in our gut. I mean,
it's the healthier our gut is, we're better able to
balance our hormones. So that's a really big point right now.
I mean we're all as women, I think we're starting
to really understand our hormones are dictating a lot of
our health as well, and we need to be focused
in our gut health when we're talking about hormone health,
(24:43):
and I mean for pregnant moms, for perimenopausal perimenopause is starting.
It's so much earlier than we used to think it was.
You know, we just thought we were going crazy as women,
and then all of a sudden, we're like, oh, this
is what's going on. Is our hormones are out of balance,
and it's probably because our gut is out out of balance.
So really important to be focusing on our gut health
when we're supporting our hormone health as well.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Yeah, so stress is coming at us externally and internally
and not just the hormones. I mean I think of
inside my brain fear that causes me stress at times.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
I mean we honestly, we can't avoid it.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
That's why I like to share a lot of different
ways that we can be proactive so that people can
see what works for them. And I like that we
can add just calm to our toolbox.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
Stress is going to happen to us every day. I mean,
we're going to be faced with it all the time.
It's about getting our body to function and to be
able to handle.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
That stress better.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
And you know that's that's really the key. And we
know that more of having more of that biffital Bacterium
longum seventeen fourteen strain in our gut is actually helping
us not only support our gut health, but our mood.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Health as well.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
People are going to ask me for the website, so
I'll link it in the show notes, but will you
share it and the special deal that you have us
So if.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
You go to just Thrive health dot com and you
put four things in just for the number four and things,
we'll give a twenty percent off coupon for the ninety
day supply of the probiotic as well as just calm.
And the reason we're doing the ninety day. I normally
just do fifteen percent off, but I'm doing the twenty
percent off for the ninety day because it's really important
(26:22):
for people to stay on it to see the differences.
So we have a coupon code at just thrivehealth dot
com four things for twenty percent off.
Speaker 3 (26:30):
Tana, that's so awesome.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
I appreciate all that you do and what you put
out into the world and forgiving me things that are
healthy for I got my body taking care of myself,
So thank you, Bye bye.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Bye Full things.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
With Amy.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
All right, back in the second thing, I mentioned that
Sashira had called me a grandma, and you know, maybe
I need to be okay with that. I turned forty
too recently, and I'm definitely okay with that. I honestly
feel like my forties and my fifties are going to
be awesome. Like I'm looking forward to aging and seeing
what life has in store. I wouldn't say that I've
always had this outlook, but I hope to stay this way,
(27:15):
like okay with aging, but then also just feeling young.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
That's my aging motto.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I'm okay with aging, but I'm gonna feel young and
think I'm young, But mostly I just want to maintain
a positive feeling about getting older throughout my life. And
I say this because researchers from the Yale School of
Public Health discovered that thinking positively about the aging process
can slow cognitive decline in older adults. They found that
(27:43):
people who held positive age beliefs were more likely to
recover from mild cognitive impairment than those who didn't, and
they studied more than seventeen thousand participants. They were given
prompts such as the older I get, the more useless
I fe feel, and then they were asked if they
agreed or disagreed to determine their attitudes towards aging. As expected,
(28:07):
those who maintained positive age beliefs were more than thirty
percent more likely to recover from mild cognitive impairment and
recover more quickly than those who held negative age beliefs.
So what I gather from this is that if I
want the best shot at maintaining things like my cognitive health,
my memory, my thinking as I age, I should stay
(28:32):
positive about aging and believe that the older I get,
the more useful I am. Not useless and may you
remember that too. The older you get, the more useful
you are. May we always remember that there's value in
having voices and perspectives in the world. All kinds, no
(28:55):
matter our age, we have something to offer. Right, let's
a wrap on the things for today. I hope you're
having the day that you need to have. On Saturday,
there will be an Outweigh episode guest hosted by my
friend Lianne Ellington, and she's going to be talking about
trusting yourself. The title the episode on Saturday is going
(29:15):
to be why you stop trusting yourself and how to
earn your own trust back.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
Now.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Leanne is all about breaking yourself out of food and
body prison, like that's her thing, and she's really good
at it because she's an expert when it comes to
the brain and self image and why we do what
we do, and she's got great advice. So I'm very,
very very thankful to have her on board as a
guest host for the next few weeks. So I'm going
(29:42):
to be in Austin this weekend for iHeart Country Festival.
If you're going to be there, maybe I'll get to
see you. You can listen to it on iHeartRadio stations,
very excited for all of the artists, and there's a
surprise guest.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
It's going to be amazing.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
So whatever you're doing this weekend, may it be filled
with positive thoughts, with kind people and happy moments.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
Bye.
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