- Haley shares why she throws parties and is a carefree host + the outdoor movie party she's been throwing for 12 years! (this is partly her overcompensating as an adult because of things from her childhood, but thanks to the enneagram she has learned to compensate the right amount!)
- Do you think if you ignore a problem enough it either goes away or ruins your life?? (this is the gist of a quote Amy shares that might make you lol a little)
- Amy shares how people express their affection through food (so many ways to show love through food + Amy talks about the amazing food spread at Haley's party last weekend + shares a yummy ham & swiss sliders recipe)
- There's a 6 word phrase that will shift your day & help you feel more joy (this comes from Mel Robbins and could be a game changing thing you can say to yourself every day!)
- Songs Amy is loving from women in country music (3 songs from 3 artists & they are all so good) + speaking of women in country music, Haley is running the @WomeniHeartCountry account, so make sure you're following that & listening to the show that Amy hosts every weekend!
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Cass up little food for yourself life. Oh it's pretty,
but hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful. That's a little
more family said. He your kicking with full with Amy Brown.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Happy Thursday, four Things, Amy Here, Amy and Haley Hello,
Haley d and Hailey threw a I guess a kickoff
to spooky season Halloween type party last weekend and it
was an outdoor movie every like all kids everywhere. I
(00:53):
think every kid from your kids school was invited, all
kinds of parents. The best food spread you've ever seen.
And we're hanging out in the kitchen and Cryocat was
with me and we're talking to you about it, and
you just say, well, here's the deal.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
I mean, kids are running around like it's may. I
stepped on a few Cheetos and I was.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Like, shoot, and You're like, don't worry about it, no
big deal, because you know, Cheetoh's into the floor is
a mess. But you shared with us that your childhood
was the exact opposite. You're working on it because before
you moved to Nashville and when you lived in Mississippi,
you would throw way more parties than this. But I
(01:35):
thought it was such an interesting topic and fascinating how
things from our childhood obviously shape.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
How we adult.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And I wanted you to just share the story for
others because I love that you're aware of it and
that you've done the work you need to do to
find some balance with it, because I feel like you
realized you were over the top and then now you
have like a happy medium. Would you agree with that?
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Oh, yeah, because I wasn't always aware of it. So
when the girls were little and I was doing the
whole postpartum part of my life, yeah, I had parties
all of the time, and I would invite everyone and
we were drinking all the time, and.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
It would just be people in and out.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And I think at that time I was over compensating
for just not wanting to deal with.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
What was going on in my life. So it was
a distraction. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
And then as my kids got older and they could
not be asleep while the parties were going on and
they would have friends over, I realized it was like, Ooh,
I'm letting my kids do all this fun stuff I
didn't get to do, and it was really really fun
for me because growing up my stepdad he wasn't in
the military, but people would think he was because he
(02:45):
was so what's the word, I'm looking Forwardricht. Yeah, yeah,
but it was just very like take your shoes off
and you can't eat anywhere but the table, and you know, orderly,
like very like I mean you knowing me. Can you
believe that never had to spend the night company and
nobody wanted to hang out at my house?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
No? No, I would assume the opposite.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, I was always at my best friend's house, who
her house was just like what mine is now. Her
house was the house everybody hung out at, which I
love that about your house. I want mine to have
more of that vibe. I love when people just walk.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
In and out of my front door that I know,
to see people that I know.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
But see, it's funny that you say that, because the
very first time I ever came over here, I loved
your vibe. Claire and Kat were here, and their kids
were here. Heck, you weren't even here yet. I walked
in and you had like you were still at the
grocery store.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Oh okay, well so yes, those friends they do have that.
I guess it's those days in particular that I really enjoy.
But I want that more often and kids feeling like
they run in and out. But in our neighborhood, we
don't necessarily have that vibe with our neighbors. There's just
honestly not that many kids. But I really want that.
(04:01):
I hope my next home is a little bit more
like that. I honestly will check if I well. Shoot,
I feel like the next time I move, my kids
might be older, so I don't really know what to
do about that, maybe grandkids. I just want that energy,
that feel because your home that night was full of
so much joy and the kids are running around. You
(04:22):
have a beautiful front yard and the movies playing, which
you played Coco, and there's blankets and lawn chairs. You
got half the people outside, half the people inside. But
for all the kids. Because it was dark, you gave
every kid that came a glowstick and it was mandatory
that they went threw h so that way you could
see where all the kids were in the yard. And
it just really thought out and really fun, but also
(04:45):
just so relaxed and chill. Like your priorities, in my opinion,
were in the right place, because you said something to
be about memories and what you wanted to look back on.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
So this was our.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Twelfth year of doing this particular party. It started out
we would carve pumpkins when John and I were dating
and would watch a movie. And then as our friends
started having babies, it was just too much.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I mean, can you imagine carving pumpkins? Would that?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I mean, it's a lot of kids, So you know,
xnade the pumpkins, and now it's just the movie. And
so I used to Okay, I told you about my
journey with the Enneagram. The enneagram was like very life
changing for me. I think that's when everything shifted for me.
(05:32):
It was like, I'm an Enneagram eight, which is very
aggressive and bold and black and white, and.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
It's the challenger. Yeah. And so my husband is a
five very rare.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah, lives are rare, yeah, yes, and very introverted and
he's the researcher and just we're polar opposites.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
And I realized it was.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Like I was doing these parties and then I was
like demanding everybody do it the way I've wanted them.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
To, and like I want you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I was getting mad at everybody for not doing everything
the way out I would do it. And then I
started to go into therapy and all of this stuff. Well,
I kind of realized that you shouldn't do things with
the expectation of Yeah. It's like, you should do things
because you want to do them, and if it makes
you happy to make other people happy, that's great, But
(06:24):
you shouldn't. You shouldn't find your happiness in forcing it
down roats.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You know that demand for a party to go this
way and be perfect and be exactly because you were
very chill and I felt that vibe when we arrived
and everyone was just having a good time.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
But I only have one party now, so one of
those a year, one a year.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
You have no because how many were you having before
you limited it to I.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Mean, it was like, it's Tuesday, let's have tacos. Everybody
come over.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
In the enneagram was a part of you finding that
balance or knowing that you needed to cut back, like
that you were doing it a little too much, and.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
You could in the reins. It's a big cocktail of things.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I think it was like just discovering all kinds of
inner things that I had to deal with.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
It was a mask.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Well, I texted you something actually that kat Defada sent
me on Instagram. It's from my therapist says that's the account,
and then therapy Cat sent it to me. She hosts
the fifth Thing with me on Tuesdays, and most of
my friends are dms is just sending other.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
People's posts like, oh, you need.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
To see this, I'm gonna send it on over and
it says something kind of neat. I found out if
you ignore a problem for long enough, it either goes
away or ruins your life. So fifty to fifty pretty
good odds. Yeah, and so I feel like that awareness,
it's like you don't have it, and then one day
after a lot of work. It's not this overnight sort
(07:49):
of like overnight success like sometimes people see people blow up,
it's like, Wow, where'd they come from. It's like, well,
they've been grinding it out for ten years or more,
and it's like to me, I have found some of
the work that I've done of like suddenly boom, there's
this change or there's this awareness, and it's like where
did that come from? And then, like you said, it's
a cocktail of things over time that have added up.
(08:10):
And I just was so impressed with a party, Like,
first of all, I wanted to give people the idea
of doing an outdoor movie night with your neighbors, your neighborhood,
your you know, mom and dad, friends, your kids, whatever.
Maybe it's even an adult party, but just something about
setting up a big screen outside and watching it in
its fall, like.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
It could feel good.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Maybe you could even like have a little fire off
to the side with s'mores and whatnot. But I will
say your food spread inside was so good. I will
say your food spread inside was so good. I don't
(08:52):
know who brought this, maybe one of your friends, but
it was some feta concoction like smushed out. I maybe
cream cheese was involved, some hot honey pistachios I remember,
and you ate it with a cracker.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
It's Caitlin's recipe. We'll get it and we'll post it. Okay, Yeah,
she'll be proud because it's she said. It's her like
deathbed food, like she wants it the day she dies.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Oh do you have a deathbed food? Yeah? What is it?
Don't laugh? It's cheese sticks from Sonic.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Well, I wouldn't laugh at that. Do you dip it
in rancher mozzarella?
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Both? Okay, I'm like a like a I like to
mix it.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
But the reason why is because I can't eat them
anymore because of Celiac.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
They're gluten, you know, but if you're on your deathbed,
you're good.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm going Yeah, I'm going out Celiac, you know, full gluten.
But I love those things and it's been like five
years since I've had them.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Why, I'm a sauce mixer at Chick fil A. I
do the Chick fil A sauce with ketchup and I
just mix it equal parts, and to me, that is perfection.
I wish they would just somehow bottle that up.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Well, you know, that's how they came up with Chick
fil A sauce. Was an employee mixed a bunch of sauces.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
And boila, it was born. Yeah. Oh does that employee
get they should? I raise? They should?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Like?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Do they work in the corporate office now? Probably?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
But it's like barbecue sauce and honey mustard and something else.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Maybe something like there is something creamier, like I feel
like I've looked it up before to try to mimic
it or make it. There was something on the food
spread that was the King's Hawaiian rolls. This was a
cold version of something that I like. And I'm going
to tell peoplebout because if you've never made this, you
need to. But whoever made this at your party, it
was just like a cold sandwich, meet with a cold
(10:37):
cheese and like mayonnaise, mayonnaise or whatever.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
But there's these.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hawaiian ham and Swiss sliders. My mom used to make
them all the time my family in Alabama. And if
you just go to Kingsowaiian dot com, it's their recipe
for their roles, so you know they know what they're
doing and so simple, so easy to make. Like, if
you're having any football parties this fall, decide to have
an outdoor movie night, whip these up. I'm gonna say, well, shoot,
(11:04):
you can't eat at Celiac. But see, preparing food is
great for me. It's like a love language.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
But you want to know.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Something really cool about the outdoor party and growth. I
used to wouldn't let people bring things.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Oh you wanted to do it all?
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah, it's a big sign of growth for me, the
fact that I say, y'all bring something, I'm just gonna
order pizza and I just set it all on the
table like I did. I used to would have these
over the top table skates and perfect dinnerware and.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
How much time would you spend working all day long?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And I would label it out like little post its
like roles, we're gonna go here, and I would do it.
Ask John, my husband, pregame it pre gaming, like a
week before literally okay literally, I would have notes and
I would just like everything was gonna be so perrect.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
What is that from? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
I'm sure my therapist could unpack this a little bit,
but now it's just I think I learned to enjoy it.
It was like, well, what's the point of doing all
this if I It was like I was so worried
about everybody else having this perfect time control.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I wasn't even enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I figured out how to enjoy it, and now everybody
enjoys it.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Well, trust me, this was my first time ever attending
your party, and the vibe was fun. I didn't feel
an ounce of control. It felt very laid back and
like everybody was just genuinely there to have a good time.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Yeah, so it's all good. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Well, I saw this whole survey about how people express
their affection through food, and that was totally my dad,
about half show their loved ones they care by regularly
surprising them with their favorite foods. So now I know
for you the deathbed would be the cheese sticks from Sonic.
But what would it be now? Like a food you
(12:48):
can consume without your stomach hurting.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Probably steak and potatoes. I love a good man meal.
You know. It was like girl dinner, but like and
dinner and dinner.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Those looking to express their affection through food can't go
wrong by preparing a homemade meal, most people say. Some
like to create a favorite snack tray. Ooh, I would
love a good cheeseboard.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
I make a good win.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Some buy their favorite candy to show that they're thinking
about them. I used to do that for my boyfriend
in college, but secretly it's because, like I wanted it,
but I didn't allow myself to have it, and now
I would, but back then I didn't, so I would
buy it for him.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
It made you feel better, I guess, as.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
A way for me to buy it and then maybe
I could have some. But he never seemed to really
appreciate it, but probably because he didn't want them.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yeah, you were buying for you, but hauling it for him. Yeah, no, awareness,
I didn't have it then at all.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
The survey also revealed that people have bought or cooked
a meal for someone to say I love you to
console them to express thanks. Lunchbox has COVID this week,
and I sent him some food just via door dash.
I didn't take it myself or I didn't do a
home cooked meal because I didn't have the bandwidth for
that at all. So I was like, you know what,
I'm just gonna get on an app. I'm gonna order it.
So I send him a note and I say, Hey,
(14:09):
what would you like ask your wife because she has
COVID two I've got three kids. One of the kids
has COVID. I imagine the house is just in disarray
and dinner would be nice to just show up at the.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
Door typical lunchbox fashion.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
He sends me multiple entrees, more entrees than people in
the home, especially because kids are small, and I think, God,
this guy never passes up an opportunity to get free food.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
He definitely has dinner for the next few nights and.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
True foods right, like, can you even freeze stuff from there?
Speaker 3 (14:40):
I guess you could.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Maybe some of it was soup, a butternut squash soup.
That was probably the only thing that wasn't an entree,
the butternut squash soup, and I think that's what his
wife wanted.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
I know, the rest of.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
The Not Your Mama's meat loaf and the gluten free
burrito bowl and some pasta linguini thing, all of that
all on trays for him. So and you know, it's nutritious,
kind of funny. A lot of people bond with their
kids over a shared love of food. The top meal
to cook for a lasting impression is pizza, like a
(15:11):
homemade version.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
And then guess what.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Cheese, mazzarella sticks, and meat balls were tied for the
most impressive snacks or appetizers to make.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
I'm telling you, boom.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
And if you want to indulge just someone's sweet tooth,
you can't go wrong with homemade ice cream or cupcakes.
Those are the top things. I remember my parents making
homemade ice cream when I was a kid. I remember
exactly what the ice cream maker.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
It was.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Wood on the outside, like these almost look like a fence,
but wrapped around you're trying to the salt.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
You put the salt in. I don't know what happened
to that thing.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I wish And nowadays they're so fancy you don't have
to do all that do.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
You make it at home.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
So we got one for when we got married. John
and I did like you registered for it. Yeah, that's
all we had, like William's and Noma Registry and it
was like we just clicked everything because it was so
much fun.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
That gun same we should Poppy on the show.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
He got me this clock from Pottery Barn and he
was so excited to give me the clock, and I
honestly didn't remember. I mean, I don't need a clock.
I didn't even remember scanning it. And he still sort
of holds it against me to this day because I
sort of was like, oh my gosh, you got me
this clock. Like I was just beating things. It was
a cool clock. But anyway, carry on.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
You just freeze a bowl and you put it in
a thing and plug it in and it spins around.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
But you don't have to put salt in it.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You have to wind it yourself or anything. It is automatic,
just does it for you. Is that's something you'll do.
You still have when you do it with the kids.
We still have it, but we don't really make it
that much anymore. But the thing that John does a
lot with ice cream is.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
John's great grandfather owned a drug store that had like
a diner, you know that old house drustka.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
A pharmacy. They always had like Hamburger's and milkshakes.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Yeah, he has the original milkshake maker from his granddad's
great granddad's pharmacy door or whatever, and it still works.
And so John's favorite thing to do is to make
milkshakes in that thing. You'll have to come have one
one day.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
I want to.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yeah. I mean, he swears it makes it better than
the blender would.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But he's probably not wrong.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
I mean, it's just I mean, it's just even the
nostalgia of it.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
He's even got the same the cup it came in,
the little metal cup the pharmacy.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
I don't know if that's where this restaurant in East
Nashville got its name. But if you ever had a
pharmacy Burger, oh you oh Celiac Okay, but I could
have like a bundless one, Yeah, you could Pharmacy Burger.
If you're ever visiting Nashville, it's it's a good Hamburger
place to go to. Although South Hall and Leaper's Fork,
which is south of Nashville, it has the best burger
(17:44):
I've had in my life there where you just went
and think I keep yep. I went with my cousin Amanda.
We went for like a little getaway. But you don't
have to be staying at the I don't know whether
at the inn.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
It's like a farm and inn.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You don't have to stay there to eat there, like
you can just go sit at the bar and get
the burger. It's not the cheapest burger in all the land,
but it's not crazy, but it is a it's a
fancy burger.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
So I highly.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Recommend that if you're ever in town. I had a
burger last night from Burger Up. They just added smash
Burgers to it. Smash Burgers are the way to go. Yeah,
but then like smash down that is where it's at.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Burger Up has a good gluten free burger, and I
think Shakeshag is the best gluten free burger in all
of the land.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Okay, and that's that's franchise, right, So that's all around.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
I mean not everywhere has one, though. Have you had
in and Out? Yeah? I have. I had it and
I wasn't like people were like freaking out, you have
to have it.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
I had it when I could eat it, when I
could eat gluten. Yeah, I did it when I did
an American idol, and I like did it because everybody said
you had to do it, and I like took the
picture and I.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Was like, oh, this is not great.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
When you went to Hollywood, Yeah, was that your first
time to California? What age did you first get on
like an airplane or do you remember.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
When I was at like ever in my life? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Oh well sometimes it's it's interesting to me because some
people are like, oh, yeah, I started flying as a baby,
and then some people it's like, oh, I never flew
anywhere till I was an adult, or some people like
I'm terrified I won't get on an airplane, or some
people just I mean I prefer to travel.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I hate flying, but I flew. I mean I've flown
in my whole life. I was probably five or six.
I had an aunt that her husband my uncle. He
was in the Air Force. So until they stayed put
in Arizona, they lived in El Paso. They lived all
over the place, and so we would go visit them.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
When the kids came over from Haiti. That was obviously
the first time they had ever gotten on an airplane.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Oh wow, I think about that.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Really interesting to sit next to them and even just
watch them get on the plane and just look out
the window and sort of be in odd that they're
physically sitting on this thing that they had previously only
seen when they're at the orphanage looking up in the
sky and maybe seeing an airplane flying high above them.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
That would be a fun conversation to have with you.
Just I wish they.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Remember more. I would want to ask them. I don't know,
honestly if they remember that day. Stevenson for sure wouldn't.
He was seven, but Stashira might she was about ten
and a half. I'll have to ask her if she
remembers what she felt getting on an airplane for the
very first time. If we talked about it then, I
don't remember her exact reaction, but it'd be interesting to
see what she thinks of it now five and a half,
(20:22):
Oh my gosh, in December will be six years. Yeah,
because their life is significantly different, very different, and I
would love to take them back to Haiti. We just
can't write now, but I hope to one day. You know,
I did see something that mel Robbins put out you know,
(20:48):
I did see something that Mel Robbins put out, which
you know I'm a big Mel fan.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
Do you like her? I love her?
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Do you follow her on Instagram? She's so good at
Mel Robins if you're not already following her. But she
was talking about how everyone feels self doubt and has
negative thoughts, but there's an easy way to flip those
feelings around. And I just thought this might be a
good way to wrap things up.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
But it's really simple.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
It's a six word phrase and it goes like this,
I deserve to feel good today. I like that I
deserve to feel good today, And there's such power in that.
It's sort of like, I love how simple her stuff is.
Like there's two other things that come to mind when
I think of her, and simple things that you say
to yourself that can be game changing. And so that
one is I deserve to feel good today. I deserve
(21:36):
to feel good today. You have to interrupt yourself though,
like say you're having a negative thought or you're having
one of those days. You pause, interrupt and remind yourself,
I deserve to feel good today. So she has her
five second rule, which is maybe you don't want to
do something. Getting out of bed is a good example
of your alarm is going and you want to press
snows you just five four three two one hop out
(21:57):
of bed. And she originally thought of it. I think
she was watching NASA send a rocket up somewhere.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
I don't know if she had the TV was on.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
A rocket was going up and it was like five
four and then it three two went blast off, and
she thought that's it. She was at a time where
she was just not her best in life, not feeling
very motivated. A lot of things were going negatively for
her and her family, and.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
She thought, Okay, that's it.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Five four three two one, like, I don't know what
my exact next move is, but I'm going to count
down to five and I'm just going to start doing stuff.
And that's how the five second role was born. And
she has a whole book about it. And then the
other one is something that I saw her post this year.
I don't know if she learned of it this year.
It seemed as though she was acting like she had
just heard someone say it.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
But it's to let them oh, I love this mm h.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
And so we've talked about it here on the podcast before,
but It's just like if someone wants to think a
certain way about.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
You, let them.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
They don't want to invite you, let them if they're
going to treat you that, okay, I mean I don't
think it means like soone treat you a certain way,
but don't let it consume your thoughts, because you know
why you deserve to feel good today. I have a
real that I was making before I came here in
my drafts, and it's I'll post it later, but it's
(23:14):
let them cringe.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Let them cringe, like, just do whatever it is. Don't
let other people stop you from I have this big
theory on cringe culture, like when did cringe become such
a word in our vocabulary? Like when did your cringe
start affecting what I do or don't do?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So, just to give an example, like social media, a
big social media talking about it's like you may want
to post something, but you have second thoughts about it,
and maybe don't post it because you're worried someone's going
to see it and cringe.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Correct. I mean I don't anymore. I'm just saying you
loosely like you as anyone out there, but it had
a huge hot on me.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Forever, and that her saying that is a huge thing.
And now I feel like it's my duty almost tell people.
If I let people's cringe hold me back, I would
not be sitting in this chair right now. Really, you
know what I'm saying like that, I would not I
would have never met you.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
I would have never even moved to.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Nashville or maybe through Jackie, but no, I mean I
would I wouldn't have moved to Nashville. Okay, I mean
there's so it's a series and it is it's a
whole domino effect of like and every step you take
you get a little bit more confidence and a little
bit more knowledge about the next thing that prepares you
for the next thing.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
And it's like, dude, their cringe is not paying your bills.
Let them. Let them. I know what you're saying, let them,
let them. You hear it, We're saying it again. Let them.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Those are three big ones that just yeah, I see
that I deserve to feel good today. And the five
second roll and let them sticks in my head. I
love the simple stuff. Same thing with the Donald Miller
question that we've had ever since he came on the podcast,
which what does this make possible. I love the good
ones that I can just remember that are can be
game changing for your mind if you practice them and
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you use them. It doesn't mean every time you do
the five second role you're gonna get up.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
And do it.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
But the more you start to tell your brain that
when you get to one, it's time to go, I mean,
that's what that's doing. And I think not, I think,
I know. I just don't know the exact research, but
I know she did. The science behind are what happens
in our brains when we have a countdown. There is
something that is motivating behind that and what we associate
with a countdown and blast off?
Speaker 3 (25:28):
No, I like that. I'll I'll draw that you've never
done the five second role.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
I've never I mean when I drop food on the floor, true, yeah, true,
But no, like the other day I didn't want to go,
I love it.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Did you eat my crushed Cheetos that I said at
your house?
Speaker 3 (25:48):
Ruma?
Speaker 1 (25:49):
Did? No?
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I Uh?
Speaker 1 (25:51):
The other day I didn't want to go for a walk,
but I knew I would feel better if I did so.
I dropped something off at ubs, and instead of going home,
I drove myself to a completely different new trail and
forced myself to go because I knew I didn't know
the trail, so if I got halfway through it, I
didn't know how else to go, but to finish it.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Well, that's another thing that is good for our brains
is switching up directions of things, like not going the
same exact way to work every single day, not hiking
the same trail every single day, switching up the routine.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
Yeah, but Meld uses.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
The five second rule she says all the time, like
for yoga, if she doesn't want to go, she's like,
okay five four three two one, because I know that
mentally for my mental health, I am going to feel better.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
You'll never regret it, right, You'll never regret going for
a walk. Un what have I regretted? Like CrossFit? I regret,
hot box same, I regret that's the worst hour of
my life. Don't like spin class either. Oh I don't
mind spind I mean it's not my favorite, but no,
(27:01):
hot boxing. I don't mind doing that with air conditioning.
But I don't ever want to do anything in that
environment ever.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Again, that's sweaty and hot.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah. My friend Hannahs loves it, like loves it, and
I did it that once, you know, and now like
every two days they send me a text message like
when are you coming back?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
I'm like, I Am not coming back. Can you unsubscribe?
Speaker 1 (27:22):
I tried.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
They're just like, she's not that into you. I know.
I ordered a wig for Sashira.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
She shaved her head at the beginning of the school
year because she wanted a fresh start and actually.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
Think it looks really cool, so cool.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
At the orphanage, she had to shave her head once
because there was some skin irritation or rash on her
scalp and they wanted to get to the root of it,
so they shaved her head, and she looked stunning, like
she's just got a face for she pulled it off.
I guarantee you that would not happen if I shave
my head. I have no idea what's under here. But
I reminded her of that, and I showed her some
(27:57):
pictures and she was like, Okay, here we go. I'm
going to do it, and she got her dad's clippers
and shaved it.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
She was supposed to wait for us.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Ben was going to do it, and he was going
to come over and we were going to have this
whole thing in this moment, and she just walked downstairs
and it was already shaved, and I.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Thought, okay, good to know. What was that about her?
Speaker 2 (28:16):
I love it about her too. We've been doing a
lot of wigs and she earned a wig. She's been
working towards one saving up and so I went to
this new wig website to order it.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I kid you not, I had to.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Well.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
First of all, I wanted to get a coupon.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
So when I went to the website, it said if
I give them my email my phone number, I get
a discount.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
And I was like, I want the discount on the wig.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
So I sign up for everything and I have one
million texts and emails from.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
This wig place. She get a burn her.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Phone for They also told me that if any of
my friends want to sign up to get wigs, I
can earn commission on the wigs. I was like, okay,
now I want to know is the wig really going
to show up?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
The only thing that makes me feel confident in is
they had Apple Pay. And now it was like, but
if you want a wig, I can hook you up
with a wig.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Because they're bombarding me.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Now, I mean if I were to show you my
text and my emails from this wig place. It's hilarious
all that to say, yeah, if you need a wit,
call me. Okay, Hailey, where can people find you at
Hailey Dollar Hide and and my House?
Speaker 3 (29:31):
No, you run at Women of Her Country.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I was like, what, Well, actually the handle is at
women I Heart Country. There is no of which is
that because there was too many characters or that one
was taken.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
I didn't create the page, but I know I think
it's probably because it's too many characters.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
I like the way it looks. It's esthetically pleasing the
way it looks now.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Women I Heart Country, which Haley took it over recently.
It's one of the reasons that got us working together
is I do a weekend show.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I host it.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
Depending on where you live, it airs on Saturday night
or sometimes Sunday night, like here in Nashville it's Sunday Night.
And it's a one hour show where we play women
music only, and there is an Instagram account associated with it,
and Haley has built it up and you're continuing to
build it and it's so good. I love being able
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to support all of these women and you're getting me
aware and making sure I'm taking pictures and getting content
with all the female artists. Like Laney Wilson was in
today and I took a picture because I've been with
Laney multiple times.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
I'll text Amy and I'll be like, hey, do you
have a picture of you and lady? And she's like no,
but I was with her like yesterday, So now I'm
really proud of my.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Little baby growing up.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
She sent me a text today of her and Laney
and I'm like, but, like, you know that jiff of
the girl like doing this, I wanted to send it.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
To you, pomping her fists up.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yes, Okay, so I'm trying to be more intentional, but
that's because Haley is being super intentional with the Instagram,
and I feel like that's cool just for the whole brand,
but then also the artists. And speaking of women, I
know it's going to wrap this up a minute ago,
but I forgot I had written down three songs that
I'm loving right now from women. The first one is
(31:15):
Kylie Morgan if he wanted to, he would, The second
one is Miranda Lambert if I was a cowboy, And
the third one is Megan Maroney I'm not Pretty.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Love it so good.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Those are all really good songs. If you're wanting to
stream and support women. There's so many other amazing songs
out there right now, which Laney Wilson, She's going to
be number one with Watermelon Moonshine. She so close, it's happening.
Just at this moment that we're recording hasn't happened. But
I already did the Country Top thirty, and I'm pretty sure.
(31:46):
Sometimes though, we'll do the Country Top thirty for the
weekend and something will change last minute and the song
doesn't hit number one and we have to go back
in and fix it.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
I wondered if y'all would have to go back. We
just base it on pretty accurate information.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Mackinsey Carpenter. You know the girl went to her music video? Yes, yeah,
she co wrote I'm not pretty. Oh she did love that.
Their buddies.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Well, y'all check these women out.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Follow Haley Women of iHeart Country or Women iHeart Country
on Instagram. I'm at Radio Amy, and I hope y'all
are having the day that you need to have and
we'll see you later.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
Bye.
Cass up little food for yourself life. Oh it's pretty,
but hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful. That's a little
more family said. He your kicking with full with Amy Brown.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Happy Thursday, four Things, Amy Here, Amy and Haley Hello,
Haley d and Hailey threw a I guess a kickoff
to spooky season Halloween type party last weekend and it
was an outdoor movie every like all kids everywhere. I
(00:53):
think every kid from your kids school was invited, all
kinds of parents. The best food spread you've ever seen.
And we're hanging out in the kitchen and Cryocat was
with me and we're talking to you about it, and
you just say, well, here's the deal.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
I mean, kids are running around like it's may. I
stepped on a few Cheetos and I was.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Like, shoot, and You're like, don't worry about it, no
big deal, because you know, Cheetoh's into the floor is
a mess. But you shared with us that your childhood
was the exact opposite. You're working on it because before
you moved to Nashville and when you lived in Mississippi,
you would throw way more parties than this. But I
(01:35):
thought it was such an interesting topic and fascinating how
things from our childhood obviously shape.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
How we adult.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And I wanted you to just share the story for
others because I love that you're aware of it and
that you've done the work you need to do to
find some balance with it, because I feel like you
realized you were over the top and then now you
have like a happy medium. Would you agree with that?
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Oh, yeah, because I wasn't always aware of it. So
when the girls were little and I was doing the
whole postpartum part of my life, yeah, I had parties
all of the time, and I would invite everyone and
we were drinking all the time, and.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
It would just be people in and out.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
And I think at that time I was over compensating
for just not wanting to deal with.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
What was going on in my life. So it was
a distraction. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
And then as my kids got older and they could
not be asleep while the parties were going on and
they would have friends over, I realized it was like, Ooh,
I'm letting my kids do all this fun stuff I
didn't get to do, and it was really really fun
for me because growing up my stepdad he wasn't in
the military, but people would think he was because he
(02:45):
was so what's the word, I'm looking Forwardricht. Yeah, yeah,
but it was just very like take your shoes off
and you can't eat anywhere but the table, and you know, orderly,
like very like I mean you knowing me. Can you
believe that never had to spend the night company and
nobody wanted to hang out at my house?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
No? No, I would assume the opposite.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah, I was always at my best friend's house, who
her house was just like what mine is now. Her
house was the house everybody hung out at, which I
love that about your house. I want mine to have
more of that vibe. I love when people just walk.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
In and out of my front door that I know,
to see people that I know.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
But see, it's funny that you say that, because the
very first time I ever came over here, I loved
your vibe. Claire and Kat were here, and their kids
were here. Heck, you weren't even here yet. I walked
in and you had like you were still at the
grocery store.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Oh okay, well so yes, those friends they do have that.
I guess it's those days in particular that I really enjoy.
But I want that more often and kids feeling like
they run in and out. But in our neighborhood, we
don't necessarily have that vibe with our neighbors. There's just
honestly not that many kids. But I really want that.
(04:01):
I hope my next home is a little bit more
like that. I honestly will check if I well. Shoot,
I feel like the next time I move, my kids
might be older, so I don't really know what to
do about that, maybe grandkids. I just want that energy,
that feel because your home that night was full of
so much joy and the kids are running around. You
(04:22):
have a beautiful front yard and the movies playing, which
you played Coco, and there's blankets and lawn chairs. You
got half the people outside, half the people inside. But
for all the kids. Because it was dark, you gave
every kid that came a glowstick and it was mandatory
that they went threw h so that way you could
see where all the kids were in the yard. And
it just really thought out and really fun, but also
(04:45):
just so relaxed and chill. Like your priorities, in my opinion,
were in the right place, because you said something to
be about memories and what you wanted to look back on.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
So this was our.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Twelfth year of doing this particular party. It started out
we would carve pumpkins when John and I were dating
and would watch a movie. And then as our friends
started having babies, it was just too much.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I mean, can you imagine carving pumpkins? Would that?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
I mean, it's a lot of kids, So you know,
xnade the pumpkins, and now it's just the movie. And
so I used to Okay, I told you about my
journey with the Enneagram. The enneagram was like very life
changing for me. I think that's when everything shifted for me.
(05:32):
It was like, I'm an Enneagram eight, which is very
aggressive and bold and black and white, and.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
It's the challenger. Yeah. And so my husband is a
five very rare.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yeah, lives are rare, yeah, yes, and very introverted and
he's the researcher and just we're polar opposites.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
And I realized it was.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Like I was doing these parties and then I was
like demanding everybody do it the way I've wanted them.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
To, and like I want you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I was getting mad at everybody for not doing everything
the way out I would do it. And then I
started to go into therapy and all of this stuff. Well,
I kind of realized that you shouldn't do things with
the expectation of Yeah. It's like, you should do things
because you want to do them, and if it makes
you happy to make other people happy, that's great, But
(06:24):
you shouldn't. You shouldn't find your happiness in forcing it
down roats.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
You know that demand for a party to go this
way and be perfect and be exactly because you were
very chill and I felt that vibe when we arrived
and everyone was just having a good time.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
But I only have one party now, so one of
those a year, one a year.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
You have no because how many were you having before
you limited it to I.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Mean, it was like, it's Tuesday, let's have tacos. Everybody
come over.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
In the enneagram was a part of you finding that
balance or knowing that you needed to cut back, like
that you were doing it a little too much, and.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
You could in the reins. It's a big cocktail of things.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I think it was like just discovering all kinds of
inner things that I had to deal with.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
It was a mask.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Well, I texted you something actually that kat Defada sent
me on Instagram. It's from my therapist says that's the account,
and then therapy Cat sent it to me. She hosts
the fifth Thing with me on Tuesdays, and most of
my friends are dms is just sending other.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
People's posts like, oh, you need.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
To see this, I'm gonna send it on over and
it says something kind of neat. I found out if
you ignore a problem for long enough, it either goes
away or ruins your life. So fifty to fifty pretty
good odds. Yeah, and so I feel like that awareness,
it's like you don't have it, and then one day
after a lot of work. It's not this overnight sort
(07:49):
of like overnight success like sometimes people see people blow up,
it's like, Wow, where'd they come from. It's like, well,
they've been grinding it out for ten years or more,
and it's like to me, I have found some of
the work that I've done of like suddenly boom, there's
this change or there's this awareness, and it's like where
did that come from? And then, like you said, it's
a cocktail of things over time that have added up.
(08:10):
And I just was so impressed with a party, Like,
first of all, I wanted to give people the idea
of doing an outdoor movie night with your neighbors, your neighborhood,
your you know, mom and dad, friends, your kids, whatever.
Maybe it's even an adult party, but just something about
setting up a big screen outside and watching it in
its fall, like.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
It could feel good.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Maybe you could even like have a little fire off
to the side with s'mores and whatnot. But I will
say your food spread inside was so good. I will
say your food spread inside was so good. I don't
(08:52):
know who brought this, maybe one of your friends, but
it was some feta concoction like smushed out. I maybe
cream cheese was involved, some hot honey pistachios I remember,
and you ate it with a cracker.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
It's Caitlin's recipe. We'll get it and we'll post it. Okay, Yeah,
she'll be proud because it's she said. It's her like
deathbed food, like she wants it the day she dies.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Oh do you have a deathbed food? Yeah? What is it?
Don't laugh? It's cheese sticks from Sonic.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Well, I wouldn't laugh at that. Do you dip it
in rancher mozzarella?
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Both? Okay, I'm like a like a I like to
mix it.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
But the reason why is because I can't eat them
anymore because of Celiac.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
They're gluten, you know, but if you're on your deathbed,
you're good.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
I'm going Yeah, I'm going out Celiac, you know, full gluten.
But I love those things and it's been like five
years since I've had them.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Why, I'm a sauce mixer at Chick fil A. I
do the Chick fil A sauce with ketchup and I
just mix it equal parts, and to me, that is perfection.
I wish they would just somehow bottle that up.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Well, you know, that's how they came up with Chick
fil A sauce. Was an employee mixed a bunch of sauces.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
And boila, it was born. Yeah. Oh does that employee
get they should? I raise? They should?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Like?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Do they work in the corporate office now? Probably?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
But it's like barbecue sauce and honey mustard and something else.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Maybe something like there is something creamier, like I feel
like I've looked it up before to try to mimic
it or make it. There was something on the food
spread that was the King's Hawaiian rolls. This was a
cold version of something that I like. And I'm going
to tell peoplebout because if you've never made this, you
need to. But whoever made this at your party, it
was just like a cold sandwich, meet with a cold
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cheese and like mayonnaise, mayonnaise or whatever.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
But there's these.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hawaiian ham and Swiss sliders. My mom used to make
them all the time my family in Alabama. And if
you just go to Kingsowaiian dot com, it's their recipe
for their roles, so you know they know what they're
doing and so simple, so easy to make. Like, if
you're having any football parties this fall, decide to have
an outdoor movie night, whip these up. I'm gonna say, well, shoot,
(11:04):
you can't eat at Celiac. But see, preparing food is
great for me. It's like a love language.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
But you want to know.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Something really cool about the outdoor party and growth. I
used to wouldn't let people bring things.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
Oh you wanted to do it all?
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah, it's a big sign of growth for me, the
fact that I say, y'all bring something, I'm just gonna
order pizza and I just set it all on the
table like I did. I used to would have these
over the top table skates and perfect dinnerware and.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
How much time would you spend working all day long?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And I would label it out like little post its
like roles, we're gonna go here, and I would do it.
Ask John, my husband, pregame it pre gaming, like a
week before literally okay literally, I would have notes and
I would just like everything was gonna be so perrect.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
What is that from? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
I'm sure my therapist could unpack this a little bit,
but now it's just I think I learned to enjoy it.
It was like, well, what's the point of doing all
this if I It was like I was so worried
about everybody else having this perfect time control.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I wasn't even enjoying it.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I figured out how to enjoy it, and now everybody
enjoys it.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Well, trust me, this was my first time ever attending
your party, and the vibe was fun. I didn't feel
an ounce of control. It felt very laid back and
like everybody was just genuinely there to have a good time.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Yeah, so it's all good. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Well, I saw this whole survey about how people express
their affection through food, and that was totally my dad,
about half show their loved ones they care by regularly
surprising them with their favorite foods. So now I know
for you the deathbed would be the cheese sticks from Sonic.
But what would it be now? Like a food you
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can consume without your stomach hurting.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Probably steak and potatoes. I love a good man meal.
You know. It was like girl dinner, but like and
dinner and dinner.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Those looking to express their affection through food can't go
wrong by preparing a homemade meal, most people say. Some
like to create a favorite snack tray. Ooh, I would
love a good cheeseboard.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
I make a good win.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Some buy their favorite candy to show that they're thinking
about them. I used to do that for my boyfriend
in college, but secretly it's because, like I wanted it,
but I didn't allow myself to have it, and now
I would, but back then I didn't, so I would
buy it for him.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
It made you feel better, I guess, as.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
A way for me to buy it and then maybe
I could have some. But he never seemed to really
appreciate it, but probably because he didn't want them.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Yeah, you were buying for you, but hauling it for him. Yeah, no, awareness,
I didn't have it then at all.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
The survey also revealed that people have bought or cooked
a meal for someone to say I love you to
console them to express thanks. Lunchbox has COVID this week,
and I sent him some food just via door dash.
I didn't take it myself or I didn't do a
home cooked meal because I didn't have the bandwidth for
that at all. So I was like, you know what,
I'm just gonna get on an app. I'm gonna order it.
So I send him a note and I say, Hey,
(14:09):
what would you like ask your wife because she has
COVID two I've got three kids. One of the kids
has COVID. I imagine the house is just in disarray
and dinner would be nice to just show up at the.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
Door typical lunchbox fashion.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
He sends me multiple entrees, more entrees than people in
the home, especially because kids are small, and I think, God,
this guy never passes up an opportunity to get free food.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
He definitely has dinner for the next few nights and.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
True foods right, like, can you even freeze stuff from there?
Speaker 3 (14:40):
I guess you could.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Maybe some of it was soup, a butternut squash soup.
That was probably the only thing that wasn't an entree,
the butternut squash soup, and I think that's what his
wife wanted.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
I know, the rest of.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
The Not Your Mama's meat loaf and the gluten free
burrito bowl and some pasta linguini thing, all of that
all on trays for him. So and you know, it's nutritious,
kind of funny. A lot of people bond with their
kids over a shared love of food. The top meal
to cook for a lasting impression is pizza, like a
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homemade version.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
And then guess what.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Cheese, mazzarella sticks, and meat balls were tied for the
most impressive snacks or appetizers to make.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
I'm telling you, boom.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
And if you want to indulge just someone's sweet tooth,
you can't go wrong with homemade ice cream or cupcakes.
Those are the top things. I remember my parents making
homemade ice cream when I was a kid. I remember
exactly what the ice cream maker.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
It was.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Wood on the outside, like these almost look like a fence,
but wrapped around you're trying to the salt.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
You put the salt in. I don't know what happened
to that thing.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I wish And nowadays they're so fancy you don't have
to do all that do.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
You make it at home.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
So we got one for when we got married. John
and I did like you registered for it. Yeah, that's
all we had, like William's and Noma Registry and it
was like we just clicked everything because it was so
much fun.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
That gun same we should Poppy on the show.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
He got me this clock from Pottery Barn and he
was so excited to give me the clock, and I
honestly didn't remember. I mean, I don't need a clock.
I didn't even remember scanning it. And he still sort
of holds it against me to this day because I
sort of was like, oh my gosh, you got me
this clock. Like I was just beating things. It was
a cool clock. But anyway, carry on.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
You just freeze a bowl and you put it in
a thing and plug it in and it spins around.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
But you don't have to put salt in it.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You have to wind it yourself or anything. It is automatic,
just does it for you. Is that's something you'll do.
You still have when you do it with the kids.
We still have it, but we don't really make it
that much anymore. But the thing that John does a
lot with ice cream is.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
John's great grandfather owned a drug store that had like
a diner, you know that old house drustka.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
A pharmacy. They always had like Hamburger's and milkshakes.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Yeah, he has the original milkshake maker from his granddad's
great granddad's pharmacy door or whatever, and it still works.
And so John's favorite thing to do is to make
milkshakes in that thing. You'll have to come have one
one day.
Speaker 3 (17:07):
I want to.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yeah. I mean, he swears it makes it better than
the blender would.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But he's probably not wrong.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
I mean, it's just I mean, it's just even the
nostalgia of it.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
He's even got the same the cup it came in,
the little metal cup the pharmacy.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
I don't know if that's where this restaurant in East
Nashville got its name. But if you ever had a
pharmacy Burger, oh you oh Celiac Okay, but I could
have like a bundless one, Yeah, you could Pharmacy Burger.
If you're ever visiting Nashville, it's it's a good Hamburger
place to go to. Although South Hall and Leaper's Fork,
which is south of Nashville, it has the best burger
(17:44):
I've had in my life there where you just went
and think I keep yep. I went with my cousin Amanda.
We went for like a little getaway. But you don't
have to be staying at the I don't know whether
at the inn.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
It's like a farm and inn.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You don't have to stay there to eat there, like
you can just go sit at the bar and get
the burger. It's not the cheapest burger in all the land,
but it's not crazy, but it is a it's a
fancy burger.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
So I highly.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Recommend that if you're ever in town. I had a
burger last night from Burger Up. They just added smash
Burgers to it. Smash Burgers are the way to go. Yeah,
but then like smash down that is where it's at.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Burger Up has a good gluten free burger, and I
think Shakeshag is the best gluten free burger in all
of the land.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Okay, and that's that's franchise, right, So that's all around.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
I mean not everywhere has one, though. Have you had
in and Out? Yeah? I have. I had it and
I wasn't like people were like freaking out, you have
to have it.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
I had it when I could eat it, when I
could eat gluten. Yeah, I did it when I did
an American idol, and I like did it because everybody said
you had to do it, and I like took the
picture and I.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Was like, oh, this is not great.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
When you went to Hollywood, Yeah, was that your first
time to California? What age did you first get on
like an airplane or do you remember.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
When I was at like ever in my life? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Oh well sometimes it's it's interesting to me because some
people are like, oh, yeah, I started flying as a baby,
and then some people it's like, oh, I never flew
anywhere till I was an adult, or some people like
I'm terrified I won't get on an airplane, or some
people just I mean I prefer to travel.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I hate flying, but I flew. I mean I've flown
in my whole life. I was probably five or six.
I had an aunt that her husband my uncle. He
was in the Air Force. So until they stayed put
in Arizona, they lived in El Paso. They lived all
over the place, and so we would go visit them.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
When the kids came over from Haiti. That was obviously
the first time they had ever gotten on an airplane.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Oh wow, I think about that.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Really interesting to sit next to them and even just
watch them get on the plane and just look out
the window and sort of be in odd that they're
physically sitting on this thing that they had previously only
seen when they're at the orphanage looking up in the
sky and maybe seeing an airplane flying high above them.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
That would be a fun conversation to have with you.
Just I wish they.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Remember more. I would want to ask them. I don't know,
honestly if they remember that day. Stevenson for sure wouldn't.
He was seven, but Stashira might she was about ten
and a half. I'll have to ask her if she
remembers what she felt getting on an airplane for the
very first time. If we talked about it then, I
don't remember her exact reaction, but it'd be interesting to
see what she thinks of it now five and a half,
(20:22):
Oh my gosh, in December will be six years. Yeah,
because their life is significantly different, very different, and I
would love to take them back to Haiti. We just
can't write now, but I hope to one day. You know,
I did see something that mel Robbins put out you know,
(20:48):
I did see something that Mel Robbins put out, which
you know I'm a big Mel fan.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
Do you like her? I love her?
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Do you follow her on Instagram? She's so good at
Mel Robins if you're not already following her. But she
was talking about how everyone feels self doubt and has
negative thoughts, but there's an easy way to flip those
feelings around. And I just thought this might be a
good way to wrap things up.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
But it's really simple.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
It's a six word phrase and it goes like this,
I deserve to feel good today. I like that I
deserve to feel good today, And there's such power in that.
It's sort of like, I love how simple her stuff is.
Like there's two other things that come to mind when
I think of her, and simple things that you say
to yourself that can be game changing. And so that
one is I deserve to feel good today. I deserve
(21:36):
to feel good today. You have to interrupt yourself though,
like say you're having a negative thought or you're having
one of those days. You pause, interrupt and remind yourself,
I deserve to feel good today. So she has her
five second rule, which is maybe you don't want to
do something. Getting out of bed is a good example
of your alarm is going and you want to press
snows you just five four three two one hop out
(21:57):
of bed. And she originally thought of it. I think
she was watching NASA send a rocket up somewhere.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
I don't know if she had the TV was on.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
A rocket was going up and it was like five
four and then it three two went blast off, and
she thought that's it. She was at a time where
she was just not her best in life, not feeling
very motivated. A lot of things were going negatively for
her and her family, and.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
She thought, Okay, that's it.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Five four three two one, like, I don't know what
my exact next move is, but I'm going to count
down to five and I'm just going to start doing stuff.
And that's how the five second role was born. And
she has a whole book about it. And then the
other one is something that I saw her post this year.
I don't know if she learned of it this year.
It seemed as though she was acting like she had
just heard someone say it.
Speaker 3 (22:43):
But it's to let them oh, I love this mm h.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
And so we've talked about it here on the podcast before,
but It's just like if someone wants to think a
certain way about.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
You, let them.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
They don't want to invite you, let them if they're
going to treat you that, okay, I mean I don't
think it means like soone treat you a certain way,
but don't let it consume your thoughts, because you know
why you deserve to feel good today. I have a
real that I was making before I came here in
my drafts, and it's I'll post it later, but it's
(23:14):
let them cringe.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Let them cringe, like, just do whatever it is. Don't
let other people stop you from I have this big
theory on cringe culture, like when did cringe become such
a word in our vocabulary? Like when did your cringe
start affecting what I do or don't do?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
So, just to give an example, like social media, a
big social media talking about it's like you may want
to post something, but you have second thoughts about it,
and maybe don't post it because you're worried someone's going
to see it and cringe.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Correct. I mean I don't anymore. I'm just saying you
loosely like you as anyone out there, but it had
a huge hot on me.
Speaker 1 (23:52):
Forever, and that her saying that is a huge thing.
And now I feel like it's my duty almost tell people.
If I let people's cringe hold me back, I would
not be sitting in this chair right now. Really, you
know what I'm saying like that, I would not I
would have never met you.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
I would have never even moved to.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
Nashville or maybe through Jackie, but no, I mean I
would I wouldn't have moved to Nashville. Okay, I mean
there's so it's a series and it is it's a
whole domino effect of like and every step you take
you get a little bit more confidence and a little
bit more knowledge about the next thing that prepares you
for the next thing.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
And it's like, dude, their cringe is not paying your bills.
Let them. Let them. I know what you're saying, let them,
let them. You hear it, We're saying it again. Let them.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Those are three big ones that just yeah, I see
that I deserve to feel good today. And the five
second roll and let them sticks in my head. I
love the simple stuff. Same thing with the Donald Miller
question that we've had ever since he came on the podcast,
which what does this make possible. I love the good
ones that I can just remember that are can be
game changing for your mind if you practice them and
(25:01):
you use them. It doesn't mean every time you do
the five second role you're gonna get up.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
And do it.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
But the more you start to tell your brain that
when you get to one, it's time to go, I mean,
that's what that's doing. And I think not, I think,
I know. I just don't know the exact research, but
I know she did. The science behind are what happens
in our brains when we have a countdown. There is
something that is motivating behind that and what we associate
with a countdown and blast off?
Speaker 3 (25:28):
No, I like that. I'll I'll draw that you've never
done the five second role.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
I've never I mean when I drop food on the floor, true, yeah, true,
But no, like the other day I didn't want to go,
I love it.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Did you eat my crushed Cheetos that I said at
your house?
Speaker 3 (25:48):
Ruma?
Speaker 1 (25:49):
Did? No?
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I Uh?
Speaker 1 (25:51):
The other day I didn't want to go for a walk,
but I knew I would feel better if I did so.
I dropped something off at ubs, and instead of going home,
I drove myself to a completely different new trail and
forced myself to go because I knew I didn't know
the trail, so if I got halfway through it, I
didn't know how else to go, but to finish it.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Well, that's another thing that is good for our brains
is switching up directions of things, like not going the
same exact way to work every single day, not hiking
the same trail every single day, switching up the routine.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
Yeah, but Meld uses.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
The five second rule she says all the time, like
for yoga, if she doesn't want to go, she's like,
okay five four three two one, because I know that
mentally for my mental health, I am going to feel better.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
You'll never regret it, right, You'll never regret going for
a walk. Un what have I regretted? Like CrossFit? I regret,
hot box same, I regret that's the worst hour of
my life. Don't like spin class either. Oh I don't
mind spind I mean it's not my favorite, but no,
(27:01):
hot boxing. I don't mind doing that with air conditioning.
But I don't ever want to do anything in that
environment ever.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Again, that's sweaty and hot.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah. My friend Hannahs loves it, like loves it, and
I did it that once, you know, and now like
every two days they send me a text message like
when are you coming back?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
I'm like, I Am not coming back. Can you unsubscribe?
Speaker 1 (27:22):
I tried.
Speaker 3 (27:24):
They're just like, she's not that into you. I know.
I ordered a wig for Sashira.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
She shaved her head at the beginning of the school
year because she wanted a fresh start and actually.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
Think it looks really cool, so cool.
Speaker 2 (27:36):
At the orphanage, she had to shave her head once
because there was some skin irritation or rash on her
scalp and they wanted to get to the root of it,
so they shaved her head, and she looked stunning, like
she's just got a face for she pulled it off.
I guarantee you that would not happen if I shave
my head. I have no idea what's under here. But
I reminded her of that, and I showed her some
(27:57):
pictures and she was like, Okay, here we go. I'm
going to do it, and she got her dad's clippers
and shaved it.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
She was supposed to wait for us.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Ben was going to do it, and he was going
to come over and we were going to have this
whole thing in this moment, and she just walked downstairs
and it was already shaved, and I.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Thought, okay, good to know. What was that about her?
Speaker 2 (28:16):
I love it about her too. We've been doing a
lot of wigs and she earned a wig. She's been
working towards one saving up and so I went to
this new wig website to order it.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I kid you not, I had to.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Well.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
First of all, I wanted to get a coupon.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
So when I went to the website, it said if
I give them my email my phone number, I get
a discount.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
And I was like, I want the discount on the wig.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
So I sign up for everything and I have one
million texts and emails from.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
This wig place. She get a burn her.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Phone for They also told me that if any of
my friends want to sign up to get wigs, I
can earn commission on the wigs. I was like, okay,
now I want to know is the wig really going
to show up?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
The only thing that makes me feel confident in is
they had Apple Pay. And now it was like, but
if you want a wig, I can hook you up
with a wig.
Speaker 3 (29:12):
Because they're bombarding me.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Now, I mean if I were to show you my
text and my emails from this wig place. It's hilarious
all that to say, yeah, if you need a wit,
call me. Okay, Hailey, where can people find you at
Hailey Dollar Hide and and my House?
Speaker 3 (29:31):
No, you run at Women of Her Country.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I was like, what, Well, actually the handle is at
women I Heart Country. There is no of which is
that because there was too many characters or that one
was taken.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
I didn't create the page, but I know I think
it's probably because it's too many characters.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
I like the way it looks. It's esthetically pleasing the
way it looks now.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Women I Heart Country, which Haley took it over recently.
It's one of the reasons that got us working together
is I do a weekend show.
Speaker 3 (30:01):
I host it.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
Depending on where you live, it airs on Saturday night
or sometimes Sunday night, like here in Nashville it's Sunday Night.
And it's a one hour show where we play women
music only, and there is an Instagram account associated with it,
and Haley has built it up and you're continuing to
build it and it's so good. I love being able
(30:22):
to support all of these women and you're getting me
aware and making sure I'm taking pictures and getting content
with all the female artists. Like Laney Wilson was in
today and I took a picture because I've been with
Laney multiple times.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
I'll text Amy and I'll be like, hey, do you
have a picture of you and lady? And she's like no,
but I was with her like yesterday, So now I'm
really proud of my.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Little baby growing up.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
She sent me a text today of her and Laney
and I'm like, but, like, you know that jiff of
the girl like doing this, I wanted to send it.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
To you, pomping her fists up.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yes, Okay, so I'm trying to be more intentional, but
that's because Haley is being super intentional with the Instagram,
and I feel like that's cool just for the whole brand,
but then also the artists. And speaking of women, I
know it's going to wrap this up a minute ago,
but I forgot I had written down three songs that
I'm loving right now from women. The first one is
(31:15):
Kylie Morgan if he wanted to, he would, The second
one is Miranda Lambert if I was a cowboy, And
the third one is Megan Maroney I'm not Pretty.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Love it so good.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Those are all really good songs. If you're wanting to
stream and support women. There's so many other amazing songs
out there right now, which Laney Wilson, She's going to
be number one with Watermelon Moonshine. She so close, it's happening.
Just at this moment that we're recording hasn't happened. But
I already did the Country Top thirty, and I'm pretty sure.
(31:46):
Sometimes though, we'll do the Country Top thirty for the
weekend and something will change last minute and the song
doesn't hit number one and we have to go back
in and fix it.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
I wondered if y'all would have to go back. We
just base it on pretty accurate information.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
Mackinsey Carpenter. You know the girl went to her music video? Yes, yeah,
she co wrote I'm not pretty. Oh she did love that.
Their buddies.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Well, y'all check these women out.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Follow Haley Women of iHeart Country or Women iHeart Country
on Instagram. I'm at Radio Amy, and I hope y'all
are having the day that you need to have and
we'll see you later.
Speaker 3 (32:21):
Bye.
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