HOW-TO MINISODE WITH KELVIN DAVIS: How to be a modern gentleman!

HOW TO be a modern gentleman with KELVIN DAVIS…GUYS this one’s for YOU!

It is NOT about how you LOOK, but how you ARE.

Know WHO you are as a man.

Know what you BELIEVE as a man.

Have EMPATHY and be OPEN.

Stay TRUE to WHO you are.

By the end of this episode, you'll know HOW TO begin stepping into the role of a modern gentleman with confidence like no other!

You can grab a copy of Kelvin’s book, “Notoriously Dapper: How to be a Modern Gentleman with Manners, Style and Body Confidence,” HERE!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I want to talk to you about this because I
think this is so awesome. Okay, how to be a
modern gentleman. Let's talk about your tips on how to
be a modern gentleman because I feel like you have
such a great perspective on this.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
Thank you so for me being a modern gentleman.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
And I had to redefine what a gentleman was whenever
I wrote this book, because there was a time where
being a gentleman just meant that you dressed well and
you were nice in the public eye.

Speaker 2 (00:35):
So there was a time in like, you know.

Speaker 3 (00:36):
The thirties and forties where people could be racist, homophoby,
they could be wife beaters, they could do serious criminal
disgusting acts, and as long as they dressed nice and
open up the door for their wife, they were considered gentlemen.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
Okay, drop the mic that just hit. I mean, yeah,
like talk about just like the veil, you know, just
like prison as a gentleman, but actually not doing anything
that a real gentleman should.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
Be doing exactly.

Speaker 3 (01:05):
Yeah, Because I mean when you look at you know,
and I mentioned this in my book, I'm like, when
you look at videos of the silver rights and stuff,
the people that are causing these physical harm to other
beings are wearing suits, right, They're wearing shirts and ties
and suspenders and nice leather dress shoes, and they're they're

(01:27):
committing crimes, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
And they're doing terrible things.

Speaker 3 (01:31):
And you know, you see these people, you know, and
some of them have even probably hit their wife, and you.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Know, they're all kind of crazy things. Right.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
So for me, I had to abolish that definition of
it because it's not about how you look. Because I
have met more gentlemen and sweatparts than I have in suits.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
It is not about how you look. It's not Yes,
it's about how you are, is exactly. I love this
so much comment, Okay, and that's wonderful.

Speaker 3 (02:03):
And for me, the modern gentleman is somebody that knows
who they are as a man.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
Right.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
And you can have your own views, right. You can
have your own political views, your own religious views, your
own views. Whether you support this person or you don't,
whether you like this person or you don't, It doesn't
make you a gentleman or not. What it does is
what you are as a man and what you believe
as a man.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Right, as long as you have the.

Speaker 3 (02:33):
Capacity inside of you to understand how somebody else can
feel opposite.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
You don't necessarily have to agree.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
You don't have to agree because everybody's not going to agree.
And I told this to everybody. You don't have to
agree with the person of the opposing side. But if
two opposing sides can look and understand how the other
person feels and not degrade to other person or have
hate in their heart towards other person because they feel
a different way, that to me is more of a

(03:03):
gentleman aspect than anything else, because you're a staying true
to who you are as a person, which is very
important as a human and as a man. But it's
very important for you to also have a side of
you that's very open to seeing another side and understanding
how that person feels right and not obviously causing hate

(03:27):
and rhetoric towards another person because they feel differently. And
I say that because so many people think that if
that they are a gentleman, if they disagree with everybody,
I'll disagree with them. DA that's not necessarily this case,
because you could be a gentleman agree with everybody, but
at the same time you could be an asshole to

(03:49):
the same people. That you agree with just because you
agreed with them to not have conflict. But then you
go on the other side and you know, say things
are homophobic and racist, and you know, anti Semitic and
anti feminism.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
That doesn't make you a gentleman exactly.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
It's not about how you look, it's about how you are,
oh man, it's.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
About how you are feel. Like men in this day
in age need to understand that.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
You know, if you are racist, if you are homophobic,
if you are anti Semitic, if you are anti feminism,
you can't call yourself a gentleman.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
You amen, Amen? Oh I love that, Oh I love that.
What a what a like a torch bearer? You are