May 25, 2020 • 33 mins
Kelly talks to co-host of the Bobby Bones Show and fellow podcaster, Amy Brown. The women have a little therapy session while talking openly about the emotional roller coasters of quarantine and the things Amy has learned not only about her children, but also about herself. She gives tips on some tricks that have helped her calm her fears, as well as grow in her relationships.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to at
Home on the Velvet Edge podcast. This week, my guest
is one of my favorite people and very dear friends,
Amy Brown. Amy is the co host of The Bobby
Bones Show and also has her own podcast, Four Things
with Amy Brown, where she recently had one of my
favorite interviews with the amazing Robin Roberts. I'm going to
link that in the description of this podcast so you
(00:21):
guys can check it out. Amy and I had a
little therapy session today on at Home and talked through
the emotional ups and downs that have come with quarantine
for both herself and her children. She also told me
a trick she's learned to help calm those emotions and
how she's growing through the process. Here's our conversation. Okay,
so we talked a little yesterday and you told me
that you guys have pretty much continued working regularly. It's
(00:44):
just from home now, Is this the deal? Yeah, we've
all been doing the show. Um, like Bobby's at his house,
I'm in my house. There's some people that are going
into the studio. Lunchbox still is he has a baby,
a new baby and another uh like young ones so
he he couldn't do it from there. It's hard. You
kind of have to have a quiet space to do
(01:06):
a radio show. So um, yeah, I feel I feel
like I missed my people. I feel like we've been
able to do a really good jobs still trying to
be somewhat entertaining and and distract people from some of
what's going on if they do have a normal commute, uh,
and they're still listening to the show. But it's been
(01:28):
hard because I feed off of other people's energy, so
I don't mind every once in a while working from home.
It's actually kind of fun, but I do with something
like that. It helps to be around people, right, Because so,
are you guys doing like a video thing? Yeah, Eddie
set something up. He's our video guy, and I don't
know Eddie and I hard they set up. It's like
(01:49):
v mix or something in case somebody's curious. But it's
been pretty cool. Eddie can uh tap into the cameras
on our computers and then we type in a code didn't.
He has access and whenever one of us is talking,
he'll put the camera on us from our computer. And
it's very very cool, but also really scary because I
(02:13):
often wonder if you know, they could just turn on
my computer and start watching whatever, just watching you at
home in general. Yeah, they hear me talking and they're like, oh,
let's go. So I try to log out of that
when I'm not using it. Yeah, that's probably sorry. It's
kind of like a Truman Show situation, like they're always watching.
(02:36):
One of the main things you talked about on the
show is your two children that you adopted from Haiti.
And I've been thinking about you a lot because I've
been at home homeschooling with my boyfriend and his kids.
How has that been going for you, guys, Well, you're
talking to me now when we've been a weekend two summer.
So school decided to let out a week early, which normally,
(02:57):
if they had been going normally, that would have annoyed
me because of why would I want my kids out
of school a week early? Uh, you know, it gives
them something to go do, and obviously education is amazing
and then they're out of the house and they're making
friends and life is great. Um, but with it being
distance learning at home now, I think most parents were like, sweet,
(03:19):
this is amazing. We had like an out of school party.
We were so ready. I think it's just it's something
that no parent was prepared for at the start of
this year, and I think we all grew a lot
and we were challenged. But I'm super proud of my
(03:40):
kids and how they handled it. Uh first couple of
weeks for super rough, not gonna lie, I did not
know how to manage it all. And I speak me
and my husband too, and and the kids, like they
were having to hold together a lot. I mean in Nashville,
we had just had the tornado mark early March, and
(04:02):
then a few weeks later, then there's this crazy virus
where they can't leave the house and see their friends
and go to school. And for my kids that already
have trauma in their life and getting him on a
routine is really healthy. And then to just kind of
have some crazy things happened for them in the month
of March, it was a lot, especially for our younger one.
(04:24):
So I would say there was more challenges than just
the education side for him. Like Stashiro once she figured
out and she turned thirteen amongst during all this, like
her birthday was in April, but she, you know, once
she figured out the technology, and plus she figures it
out real quick, like she's amazing at TikTok and all
(04:44):
the things. She's oh yeah, Like I'm like, how did
you learn to do that? And so once that was
probably the most challenging thing with her the first couple
of weeks is because I didn't even know how to
use zoom. I mean, of course now we're all ex
but she picked up on it so quickly that then
her classes everything became pretty self sufficient because their teachers
(05:07):
were online and super thankful for that. And then and
you know, I just have to shout out to teachers
during all of this, and not just parents, because you know,
in the beginning, we were having some conference calls with
the teachers and they wanted to be dialed in, and
one of the teachers I was talking to, she's like, yeah,
I know. She's like, I'm trying to teach my classes
virtually and distance learning. And by the way, I have
(05:29):
two kids of my own that are now right, and
so there, Yeah, we all have a job. Are a
lot of us have a job, and then we're trying
to teach. But you imagine like trying to teach kids
online and also been teach your own kids, and so
it's just a lot. I mean, teachers are super special.
I feel like goes to teachers and healthcare workers. I
(05:55):
think as parents we realize just how amazing they are. Uh,
and now we won't take them for granted ever again
because they have a gift. So yeah, there was highs
and lows, ups and downs, but I think, uh against
so sire, just kind of your own thing. And then
really in our house is dealing with some of the
(06:16):
emotional stuff that was going on with Stevenson. And then
I would see it come out in us. It's easy
for me to spot it and a little nine year old,
but then I would see things that he was doing.
And now he was reacting with his fear because of
a natural disaster and then a virus. And I thought
(06:37):
I would see kind of how I would be reacting
to my husband's or certain situations or with co workers
or friends. And I thought, oh my gosh, I'm just
like Stevenson. I'm reacting from a place to fear because
I'm scared right now too. And it was showing up
in other ways. His was showing up in defiance. Um.
(07:00):
I realized I had some a lot of rage during this,
But my therapist has since told me that's it's literally
my fear that comes out, and that's how I'm wanting
to That's how it's surfacing. Wow, that's like I want
to like throw something, something really hard, not a person
(07:24):
like um, just like something. Yeah, I actually think that
that's a super relatable emotion. I know I've talked to
a couple of our other friends and I didn't even
think about it as affecting the kids in that way either,
and just observing their behavior. But I know I've been
very short tempered and most of it is just stress
and like you said, fear, and you don't really realize
(07:46):
that it comes out in these angry ways, especially to
the people that were closest to Yeah, well, and you're
stuck in your house, right, you're together all the time.
That's getting it. Like, I'm convinced that I have sent
Stevenson uh to therapy and his adult life and that
(08:08):
the therapist will, you know, somehow they'll be talking about
what the root of some of this is and he
will be able to say, without a doubt, well, it
was there was some crazy virus and my mom went crazy.
So like I I just know that that is gonna
(08:33):
happen but I think that a lot of us are
going to walk away from this year with some trauma.
But as you and I both know, if you put
in the work, uh, when we're faced with um, crazy
challenges such as this, that we can come out on
the other side, UM, stronger for it and stronger. But
(08:54):
you have to put in the work, and you actually
have to believe that and look for it. You can't
just it can actually the opposite if you want it
to be, and you can come out a hot mess,
which you know sometimes you will because yeah, me too,
I'm not. Oh yeah for sure. But it's really when
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we're really really on the other side of it, what
what do we want to take away from um, what
we've all had to experience, which is totally unprecedented. None
of us have been here before. We don't even there's
no handbook, uh, but I will say a good book
that's come in handy for us is uh. That was
(09:37):
helpful for uh some of the stuff we were going
through with Stevenson. But then even also again I would
see some of myself in it. Is UM. It's a
great behavior. Of course, now that I'm wanting to tell
you about, I can't think of it, but inside and
I'll look it up. I'm telling you inside she gives
gives us great breathing exercise and it's called the four
(10:01):
seven eight. And you I'm sure a lot of people
have breathing exercise various things. Like our friend Mary, she
has one. She has some like jaw issues, and her
chiropractors tells her she needs to breathe every day to
relax those muscles. So it really is. And I bring
that up to show that there really is relaxing that happens.
Like there's things that are tense that you don't realize
(10:22):
there tense. So obviously for someone with t MJ your
jaw issues, if they're told to breathe and that will
help relax things, then you know something's happening with the breathing,
Like we're you're able to, yes, loosen up some of
that stuff, but you're also able to calm so many
other things inside that are you know, have been manifesting.
(10:43):
And you breathe in for four, you hold, and then
you hold for seven, and then you breathe out for eight.
Why those numbers does the book tell you explain all
of that? Well, the book is called The Great Behavior
breakdown to make sure I have put it right. But
(11:04):
and the gist of the book is that Identist identifies
excuse me, of the most problematic and serious and challenge
challenging behaviors that parents face. It helps you break them
down and provide step by step guidance and insight for
transforming your family family conflict almost immediately. And I will
say some of the tools that we were given in
(11:24):
this book. And I've had this book for again adopting
my kids and knowing the trauma that they've been in.
And they've only been in America a couple of years,
so there's a lot going on because they were raised
in an orphanage before that, and when you come from
an institutionalized situation and then into a loving home, it's
(11:45):
not all roses like things are different, things are going
to come out like there's just like with a lot
of us um for all of us, everybody's things just
to look a little bit differently. But I think someone
had recommended this book for me and I ordered it
probably a year and a half ago, but didn't. And
that's one thing where I know I can walk away
(12:07):
from coronavirus. The spring of being thankful that we went
through some of the stuff. We went there because it
allowed me to finally open up that book and really
get serious with it, and it has helped us squash
some of the conflicts immediately and stuff that I was
getting so frustrated with UM in regards to him again,
(12:27):
where I was like, why is he doing this? And
why is he not understanding? And why are we having
to deal with this? And why is everything always so hard?
And once I realized like, oh my gosh, he's scared
and this is fear, I was able to have the
proper grace and compassion for him to pause and do
whatever I needed to do to help him out of it.
(12:48):
And it would maybe it's you know it, It would
maybe mean a thirty minute hour commitment to sitting down
and slowly working through that one little thing that triggered
him to go completely do a one e D on
me and change his attitude UM to have to sit
(13:08):
instead of just being like well whatever and walking away
like I can handle this. Whatever is happening right now,
I can't believe you're acting this way, and you know,
fix it or you're in trouble, or I'm going to
take away your X y Z um, because I can't
believe you're defying me like this, well instead of you know,
taking something away, which is a lot faster, but just
(13:31):
definitely wasn't more efficient, you know, because I think a
lot of times when you we're busy, we have a
lot going on, especially we're still working and trying to
get through today, being like okay, well that's it, I'm
taking away your tablet. Well okay. Once he finally decided
to be wanted his tablet back, and maybe he's gonna
like start behaving, but then it was like, oh, okay, pause,
(13:52):
I have to stop everything I'm doing and go sit
down with you for however long it takes to let
you know that I am here for you and it
is safe, and I'm not going anywhere, and I love you,
and what are you feel Let's talk through some feelings
right now. I just he just needs to know that,
(14:13):
like we're here and everything, he's safe. All this craziness
is happening around me, he's safe. And so then it
helps me bee like, oh, sometimes I need that for myself,
even if it's me sitting with myself of like I
need to step away from everything. Probably I don't know
how long it's gonna take a thirty minutes an hour,
(14:34):
and I might just need to be with myself and
remind myself that I am safe and I am loved
and everything's going to be okay, and it's okay for
me to express right now whatever it is I'm feeling.
I need to say it and be okay with it,
but then remind myself that I am safe. So it's so,
(14:57):
I know a lot of people looking right now and
they're like, well, wait, I don't really a kid, so
we're a kid with trauma. I don't know how to
supplies me. But what I was, what I learned was
what I'm using for him has in turn worked for me.
And the breathing has been so great so a lot
of times. Even my husband, now, we got into an
argument the other day and he looked at me and
(15:18):
he said, do we need to do for seven eight
real quick? And I thought, oh, okay, yeah, I think
we do. And literally, as husband and wife, we sat
there and we did four seven eight five times. You know,
we did the breathing. We did each we did five rounds,
and then I swear to you, we were just in
(15:41):
a different space and we were able to communicate more
effectively and respectfully, then if we had just continued down
that road, grown up, and then ended up super annoyed
and frustrated with each other and probably again more scared,
adding more fear um back into the picture. And so
(16:02):
I don't even remember, Kelly, honestly, what you originally asked
me that actually, you know, this is like a therapy session.
I love it. We always do this. But what I
was actually thinking while you were talking was I've wondered
what are we going to get out of this period
of time, because it's something, like you said, that we've
never been through before, nobody knows how to do. And
(16:23):
I've wondered what we're going to take from it and
actually integrate into our life once things go back to normal.
And the stuff that you're talking about is stuff that
I hope that we do take with us because I
think when we get so busy in our lives so
often it is just easier to medicate your fears away,
your anger away, whatever it is, not to really take
(16:44):
the time like you're saying and sit with each other
in an intimate moment and say, hey, like, what do
you need? How can I help you? And really getting
to the root of those things, which I think is
such a person. I mean, it's such an important thing
for all humans to varience. Oh yeah, for sure. Um
(17:04):
And sometimes it takes something like this or insert any
other crazy life event for pause and realize it. But
what's been the beauty of this? Well, sometimes it's been
a blessing and a curse. Is we've been stuck at
our homes with our thoughts, with our feelings, with our families,
um or maybe not some people. And I feel for that,
(17:27):
Like sometimes when I've been frustrated with just people around
or like the same people and not really being able
to go somewhere an escape or frustrated with that, I
then remind myself just so I have perspective that some
people are have been quarantined alan and they would give
(17:48):
anything to be around and they maybe I don't know,
if it's like if you're listening right now and you
know anything about the Instagram, they maybe a seven and
they thrive off of interaction and fun and activities and
peace ful and all the things. And they could be
a seven stuck at home and and and you know,
someone that is a little more introverted might be like
(18:11):
at home thinking this is the best gift. How could
people not enjoy this? Like I'm loving this, like I
need I'm recharging right now. I don't have to be
around anybody. That's amazing, But everybody's personalities are so different.
So I also just want to be respectful of that
and that while I I'm saying I want to use
(18:31):
this time to connect with the people that I'm with,
but also it was frustrated with them, But I would
use that perspective like, oh wait, some people literally can't
even be around anybody else right now and their personality
needs that. I need to be thankful for this, but
also recognize that I do need my space because I'm
I'm someone that needs time alone to recover sure, and
(18:53):
I think it's one of the people me too. And
I think it's one of those situations where whatever your
situation is, there's pluses and minusist to both. So it's
kind of more about actually stopping and looking at what
you need and like what you were saying, like you're
learning a lot from your son and it's actually helping
you with what you need yourself. And so I think
we can all do that regardless of our situations. What
(19:16):
are some of the things you guys do for fun. Well,
good question, Um, what have we been doing? Like our
been has an old land roper and he just got
that back up and running, and so we've been and
we were thinking, like would we do this if we
weren't in coronavirus and we can maybe go to a restaurant,
(19:38):
but like we've gotten in that a few times and
taking food and a blanket and gone to the park
that down and right, which again that's something you can
do any time of the year, virus or not. We
were not, I don't know that that would have been
our go to and it was so perfect or we've
done it a couple of times. And even with the
(19:59):
kids just um getting outside more with them, uh, and
now that the weather is getting better, um, doing some
of that. But honestly, their school day was taking up
so much time. Again we've all experienced the first day
of summer because again English is their second language. So
(20:19):
some of the kids would get done around maybe noon
or one o'clock and Stashiara was still going until four
trying to get everything done because just going at a
slower pace. Um. And then my husband and I started
through this another thing I'm thankful for because I don't
think I ever would have gone back to it is
we had jump ship on Helmland. I know, I know,
(20:43):
and I don't even know why we just quit watching
it after season five, But thank you for Quarantine because
I thought what happened to Homeland, like we should go
give that a try. And we watched uh season six
and it took a minute to get back into it,
but about halfway through we were totally sold back in.
(21:04):
Couldn't wait for season seven. Then we got to watch
the final season and now I'm so sad over but
I just wanted to run remind people if they did
what I did and forgot about Homeland, you need to
get back in and commit and go all the way
because you won't regret it. Because that is something we
definitely did for fun and I loved it me too.
(21:26):
We just finished two. Did you like the ending? Because
I loved it. I'm gonna say anything else other than that,
but yeah, it's worth it. I feel like it's because
they didn't. They had too much space in between seasons
sometimes that you forget about it and you'd start a
new show, and then who has time to really have
more than one show? Right? Now totally like I think, oh, yeah,
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it just I don't know. I'm like, how did we now?
I want to tell everybody from the rooftops. So I
know that that's like not necessarily like fun fun, But
if I love a good binge watch, I actually think
it's great, and especially if you're doing it with like
your significant other, it's such a good activity to do together. Yeah,
(22:08):
we we would do an episode tonight because we didn't
want it to go too fast. We were ginging binging
like on the all weekend. But we would do one
episode a night and it would be are thaying, like
we couldn't wait to put the kids to bed, and
we would go crawl in bed and we would put
on our our glasses that block the blue lights. We
looked real hot and sexty, and then we'd like watch
Homeland and fall asleep and it was amazing perfect. That
(22:30):
sounds like the perfect night. Well, the last thing I
want to hear about is your dad, because I think
this is probably something that a lot of people can
relate to you. But he's in a nursing home, right,
and so you haven't been able to see him at all. Yeah,
he is technically he would want me to tell you
it's an assistance living. Okay, sorry, that's not your fault.
We don't even We kind of just for his, uh
(22:53):
the psychology of it in his brain. We just were like, oh, yeah,
you're a partner. It's a one assisted living and uh,
he it's been really hard. Uh. We went and visited
him today and it's great, but to be able to
see him, but we're seeing him through the glass and
we have to make an appointment for him to go
(23:14):
down to the glass because he lives on the third
floor and otherwise we couldn't see him. And so it's
about once a week that we get more of an
intimate time. I mean, I'll go by there during the
week and drop stuff off and he kind of will
just wave at me, and it's weird. And there was
a point in this that he ripped his feeding He
has a feeding tube and he ripped it out in
(23:35):
his sleep, which has happened once before since he moved
to Nashville. But I was able to go to the
hospital right away and like help him, and you it
has to be handled at the hospital. You can't handle
it anywhere else. And so then I was terrified. He
was like three in the morning, we get a phone call.
Your dad's going in an ambulance, going the hospital, and
(23:56):
coronavirus is like at the height of it. And there
was so much where I thought, Oh, my gosh, if
he's gonna go to the hospital, And it was a
narrative I had created my head, which I don't advise
going negatives through narratives, but in my mind, I thought, oh, great,
he just went to the hospital. Now he's going to
contract forronavirus and that and I know that's like really
dramatic and extreme, but that's what I was doing to
(24:16):
myself and obviously not healthy, so I would I reeled
that in. But it was once he returned from the hospital,
they quarantined him to his room. He couldn't even go
in the hallway for fourteen days, and so I didn't
see him for fourteen days. I mean, we have on
video which I will recommend if anybody has this situation,
(24:37):
the Amazon Echo show. The video thing is so great. Um,
why is that or something? Oh? When I face time
with my dad, first of all, he just whole. I can't.
He holds the phone and all I see is the feeling.
And then and also it's then you can't be on
(24:57):
your phone doing anything else because you're on FaceTime. I
guess you could on your computer, but again, if your
other person doesn't really know technology, like I think most
of my friends, their parents like FaceTime see them and you,
it's a struggle. So what I like about this is
it's plugs in. It sits on the counter and he
can't touch it. Like if as long as he sits
(25:19):
a chair or stands right in front of it, you
can see his whole body. It's just more of a
more of a connection. And then you can have yours
on and you can just keep it on and he's
right there in your living room with you. And if
you need to make a phone call or you need
to be texting or doing something, he can still feel
in the room because then he can see the whole
(25:42):
room and people walking by and talking and being like hey, couple. Yeah,
So it's like he's there more than just actually doing
a phone call. Yes, And that's what when I was
researching what to get because once I didn't get this
until coronavirus hit and I realized that we're not gonna
be able to see him. So I did my research
and I even told people, and that's the one they recommended.
(26:04):
So that's what I went with. And I would say,
I'm happy I sent my sister one. Um, my husband's
parents and his sister got one. Like now we all
have them and it just sits in the kitchen and
you just say, you know, I don't want to say
it because it might set people's off, but you just
tell her to call himmever and then boom they pop
up on the video and it's like, um, like you
(26:24):
can fit like if you have your family in the
living room. I think that's another great thing about it.
Like Ben and the kids and me, we can fit
all in the screen and talk to my dad. Were FaceTime,
you kind of have to be like, oh, hey, here's
so and so and here's right and so. That I
think is another plus. But anyway, my point is he
(26:45):
that is when when we're back to my dad. Not
my point. I don't really know if I had at
that point, but I just back to the fear that
I was speaking to in the beginning. Like I realized
when I was so worried about my dad was when
I was a lot of stuff was really coming out,
and it was because I was so scared for him,
(27:06):
and and we still don't know, like if anyone else
is in a situation like this, we don't know when
is the next time we're gonna be able to hug
them or touch them, or they're going to be able
to leave and come over to our houses and be
with us. It's Um, it's just a weird time. And
I my my thoughts are with anybody that's in a
(27:27):
situation like that, because I know it's not easy, because
I just worry about him and his well being. And
I think of all the people that live at his
place because some of them they I don't know if
they have family that can maybe they're quarantined in another
state or another city and they can't come and give
them thirty minutes at the window visit time. And I'm like,
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who are they talking to? Because they eliminated all meal
time there. Everybody's basically confined to their room. Um, which
is different than when my dad was like literally quarantined
to his room after the hospital. But praise Jesus, he
went fourteen days had no symptoms, So Um, that narrative
that I made in my brain was totally false. He
went to the hospital, did not contract coronavirus and he's
(28:10):
alive and well, so um yeah, it's just you know,
think of ways. That's why I think when I hear
of like feel good stories in the news of like
little kids and people and I even just kids, some
adults that are doing care packages for assisted living places
or nursing homes, um with like big puzzles and adult
coloring books, and or just sending cards like one of
(28:34):
Stashira's little friends, Mackenzie Um. Once this first started, she
knew where my dad lived and decided she wanted to
write a bunch of cards and drop them off there.
So her mom texted me for the address and she
did just that, and my dad and some of the
people have written her back. Isn't I mean, isn't that
the sweetest? And that, like they people, we are meant
(28:56):
to connect as people, and some of some people during
all of this again back to some people that are alone.
Some people don't have anybody to connect with, and we
need to make sure that we you know, if we
can do something about that that we try. I love that.
I think that's a super important thing that I hope
we take away too, is kind of getting out of
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ourselves for a second and thinking, you know this, I
have this going on. What can I give back to
other people because some people don't, like you said, have
anyone to connect with. I do believe the same that
as humans we are made to connect. So I love
the idea of just anything you can do, especially for
the elderly and this time, because I think they're pretty isolated. Yeah,
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and it may be it may be somebody else in
your life, sure, whoever it is right now, whoever it is,
but yeah, that is definitely They're kind of at the
top of the list right now with what they're going through.
Anyone that's got a compromise immune system, they could be younger,
but they're just allowed to socialize, right whatsoever. Yeah, Yeah, Well,
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I am so grateful for you for being here and
sharing these tips with everybody because I think I think
a lot of these things are things that people can
relate to. So um, hopefully you listeners got some things
out of this. And I can't wait until we can
actually like see each other. I know, and I hug you, like,
what is that going to be? Like? I don't even
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remember what hugs feel like. This is gonna be so fun,
I know. I feel like for a while. People will
start to get together, but it's going to be like, hey,
you want to come over, but everything and make sure
you six feet away from me at all times. We
only give elbows if we do any sort of touching. Yeah, whatever, whatever,
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There's gonna be a new normal for a little bit.
And I think so really one day we'll be back
to normal. And yeah, I just I you know, I
love you and I love you. Just appreciate your friendship
so much, and uh just would encourage others to make
sure that people that are important to them in their
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lives that they yeah, tell them because I think two
we've learned through all of this, life is so crazy,
and especially here in Nashville again, going from the tornado
to the virus, it was like whoa, what the heck?
And I know that there's been other tragedies around the
country too. I'm just we both live here since it
was something that I can we can connect to, but
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just some predictable to make sure people know, um I
feel and then um yeah breathe for seven four seven eight.
I mean, definitely, all of this has definitely put into
perspective all of the things that are actually very important
to me. So um my friendships are definitely top of
the list. I'm gonna start that breathing exercise. I'm sending
it to I'm gonna give it to my boyfriend, maybe
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his kids. We'll do it once you tell him about it.
Then if y'all are ever in a heated exchange or
of sorts, or maybe even but that you're on the
verge of something, you can be like, hey, let's take
a four seven. All right, Well, thank you for being here.
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You guys can check out Amy every morning on the
Bobby Bones Show. All social media's are at radio Amy, right,
y okay, Well thank you, Amy. Let me clarify, are
you on TikTok? Well? Stuf is okay? But she's undermine.
But I have done. I want to start doing it
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more because she really wants me to do some with her,
and I think it's a great way for moms and
daughters to bond, for sure. I see a lot of
stars doing that with their kids, Like Jessica Alba has
a really good one. Don't if you follow her, She's
really cute. You don't even have to post them. It's
just fun. I would say we've done a couple that
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we don't even post, because it's like, that's not really
the point. The point is it's something she loves to
do and we're learning something together her and then we
do it and she smiles so big when we get
it right. Yeah. And so anyway, Radio Amy seven think
there's six other Radio Amies on TikTok know what? When
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they suggested for me, honestly, i'm I'm I don't even know.
I think that. I thought they gave me Radio Amy
and I was telling people that's what my TikTok was,
and then they were like, no, there's just seven. At
the end of that, I was like, oh, oh, okay,
well on everything else, it's at Radio Amy on TikTok
Radio Amy seven. I can't forget that now though actually
(33:36):
I know, but I don't now. I wasted like two
minutes talking about TikTok and I don't even really use it.
So well, now you don't have to. Here's your inspiration, okay,
uh Well, I love you. I can't wait to see you.
Thank you for being here, and thank you guys for listening. Bye.
Thank Kelly By
This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to at
Home on the Velvet Edge podcast. This week, my guest
is one of my favorite people and very dear friends,
Amy Brown. Amy is the co host of The Bobby
Bones Show and also has her own podcast, Four Things
with Amy Brown, where she recently had one of my
favorite interviews with the amazing Robin Roberts. I'm going to
link that in the description of this podcast so you
(00:21):
guys can check it out. Amy and I had a
little therapy session today on at Home and talked through
the emotional ups and downs that have come with quarantine
for both herself and her children. She also told me
a trick she's learned to help calm those emotions and
how she's growing through the process. Here's our conversation. Okay,
so we talked a little yesterday and you told me
that you guys have pretty much continued working regularly. It's
(00:44):
just from home now, Is this the deal? Yeah, we've
all been doing the show. Um, like Bobby's at his house,
I'm in my house. There's some people that are going
into the studio. Lunchbox still is he has a baby,
a new baby and another uh like young ones so
he he couldn't do it from there. It's hard. You
kind of have to have a quiet space to do
(01:06):
a radio show. So um, yeah, I feel I feel
like I missed my people. I feel like we've been
able to do a really good jobs still trying to
be somewhat entertaining and and distract people from some of
what's going on if they do have a normal commute, uh,
and they're still listening to the show. But it's been
(01:28):
hard because I feed off of other people's energy, so
I don't mind every once in a while working from home.
It's actually kind of fun, but I do with something
like that. It helps to be around people, right, Because so,
are you guys doing like a video thing? Yeah, Eddie
set something up. He's our video guy, and I don't
know Eddie and I hard they set up. It's like
(01:49):
v mix or something in case somebody's curious. But it's
been pretty cool. Eddie can uh tap into the cameras
on our computers and then we type in a code didn't.
He has access and whenever one of us is talking,
he'll put the camera on us from our computer. And
it's very very cool, but also really scary because I
(02:13):
often wonder if you know, they could just turn on
my computer and start watching whatever, just watching you at
home in general. Yeah, they hear me talking and they're like, oh,
let's go. So I try to log out of that
when I'm not using it. Yeah, that's probably sorry. It's
kind of like a Truman Show situation, like they're always watching.
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One of the main things you talked about on the
show is your two children that you adopted from Haiti.
And I've been thinking about you a lot because I've
been at home homeschooling with my boyfriend and his kids.
How has that been going for you, guys, Well, you're
talking to me now when we've been a weekend two summer.
So school decided to let out a week early, which normally,
(02:57):
if they had been going normally, that would have annoyed
me because of why would I want my kids out
of school a week early? Uh, you know, it gives
them something to go do, and obviously education is amazing
and then they're out of the house and they're making
friends and life is great. Um, but with it being
distance learning at home now, I think most parents were like, sweet,
(03:19):
this is amazing. We had like an out of school party.
We were so ready. I think it's just it's something
that no parent was prepared for at the start of
this year, and I think we all grew a lot
and we were challenged. But I'm super proud of my
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kids and how they handled it. Uh first couple of
weeks for super rough, not gonna lie, I did not
know how to manage it all. And I speak me
and my husband too, and and the kids, like they
were having to hold together a lot. I mean in Nashville,
we had just had the tornado mark early March, and
(04:02):
then a few weeks later, then there's this crazy virus
where they can't leave the house and see their friends
and go to school. And for my kids that already
have trauma in their life and getting him on a
routine is really healthy. And then to just kind of
have some crazy things happened for them in the month
of March, it was a lot, especially for our younger one.
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So I would say there was more challenges than just
the education side for him. Like Stashiro once she figured
out and she turned thirteen amongst during all this, like
her birthday was in April, but she, you know, once
she figured out the technology, and plus she figures it
out real quick, like she's amazing at TikTok and all
(04:44):
the things. She's oh yeah, Like I'm like, how did
you learn to do that? And so once that was
probably the most challenging thing with her the first couple
of weeks is because I didn't even know how to
use zoom. I mean, of course now we're all ex
but she picked up on it so quickly that then
her classes everything became pretty self sufficient because their teachers
(05:07):
were online and super thankful for that. And then and
you know, I just have to shout out to teachers
during all of this, and not just parents, because you know,
in the beginning, we were having some conference calls with
the teachers and they wanted to be dialed in, and
one of the teachers I was talking to, she's like, yeah,
I know. She's like, I'm trying to teach my classes
virtually and distance learning. And by the way, I have
(05:29):
two kids of my own that are now right, and
so there, Yeah, we all have a job. Are a
lot of us have a job, and then we're trying
to teach. But you imagine like trying to teach kids
online and also been teach your own kids, and so
it's just a lot. I mean, teachers are super special.
I feel like goes to teachers and healthcare workers. I
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think as parents we realize just how amazing they are. Uh,
and now we won't take them for granted ever again
because they have a gift. So yeah, there was highs
and lows, ups and downs, but I think, uh against
so sire, just kind of your own thing. And then
really in our house is dealing with some of the
(06:16):
emotional stuff that was going on with Stevenson. And then
I would see it come out in us. It's easy
for me to spot it and a little nine year old,
but then I would see things that he was doing.
And now he was reacting with his fear because of
a natural disaster and then a virus. And I thought
(06:37):
I would see kind of how I would be reacting
to my husband's or certain situations or with co workers
or friends. And I thought, oh my gosh, I'm just
like Stevenson. I'm reacting from a place to fear because
I'm scared right now too. And it was showing up
in other ways. His was showing up in defiance. Um.
(07:00):
I realized I had some a lot of rage during this,
But my therapist has since told me that's it's literally
my fear that comes out, and that's how I'm wanting
to That's how it's surfacing. Wow, that's like I want
to like throw something, something really hard, not a person
(07:24):
like um, just like something. Yeah, I actually think that
that's a super relatable emotion. I know I've talked to
a couple of our other friends and I didn't even
think about it as affecting the kids in that way either,
and just observing their behavior. But I know I've been
very short tempered and most of it is just stress
and like you said, fear, and you don't really realize
(07:46):
that it comes out in these angry ways, especially to
the people that were closest to Yeah, well, and you're
stuck in your house, right, you're together all the time.
That's getting it. Like, I'm convinced that I have sent
Stevenson uh to therapy and his adult life and that
(08:08):
the therapist will, you know, somehow they'll be talking about
what the root of some of this is and he
will be able to say, without a doubt, well, it
was there was some crazy virus and my mom went crazy.
So like I I just know that that is gonna
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happen but I think that a lot of us are
going to walk away from this year with some trauma.
But as you and I both know, if you put
in the work, uh, when we're faced with um, crazy
challenges such as this, that we can come out on
the other side, UM, stronger for it and stronger. But
(08:54):
you have to put in the work, and you actually
have to believe that and look for it. You can't
just it can actually the opposite if you want it
to be, and you can come out a hot mess,
which you know sometimes you will because yeah, me too,
I'm not. Oh yeah for sure. But it's really when
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we're really really on the other side of it, what
what do we want to take away from um, what
we've all had to experience, which is totally unprecedented. None
of us have been here before. We don't even there's
no handbook, uh, but I will say a good book
that's come in handy for us is uh. That was
(09:37):
helpful for uh some of the stuff we were going
through with Stevenson. But then even also again I would
see some of myself in it. Is UM. It's a
great behavior. Of course, now that I'm wanting to tell
you about, I can't think of it, but inside and
I'll look it up. I'm telling you inside she gives
gives us great breathing exercise and it's called the four
(10:01):
seven eight. And you I'm sure a lot of people
have breathing exercise various things. Like our friend Mary, she
has one. She has some like jaw issues, and her
chiropractors tells her she needs to breathe every day to
relax those muscles. So it really is. And I bring
that up to show that there really is relaxing that happens.
Like there's things that are tense that you don't realize
(10:22):
there tense. So obviously for someone with t MJ your
jaw issues, if they're told to breathe and that will
help relax things, then you know something's happening with the breathing,
Like we're you're able to, yes, loosen up some of
that stuff, but you're also able to calm so many
other things inside that are you know, have been manifesting.
(10:43):
And you breathe in for four, you hold, and then
you hold for seven, and then you breathe out for eight.
Why those numbers does the book tell you explain all
of that? Well, the book is called The Great Behavior
breakdown to make sure I have put it right. But
(11:04):
and the gist of the book is that Identist identifies
excuse me, of the most problematic and serious and challenge
challenging behaviors that parents face. It helps you break them
down and provide step by step guidance and insight for
transforming your family family conflict almost immediately. And I will
say some of the tools that we were given in
(11:24):
this book. And I've had this book for again adopting
my kids and knowing the trauma that they've been in.
And they've only been in America a couple of years,
so there's a lot going on because they were raised
in an orphanage before that, and when you come from
an institutionalized situation and then into a loving home, it's
(11:45):
not all roses like things are different, things are going
to come out like there's just like with a lot
of us um for all of us, everybody's things just
to look a little bit differently. But I think someone
had recommended this book for me and I ordered it
probably a year and a half ago, but didn't. And
that's one thing where I know I can walk away
(12:07):
from coronavirus. The spring of being thankful that we went
through some of the stuff. We went there because it
allowed me to finally open up that book and really
get serious with it, and it has helped us squash
some of the conflicts immediately and stuff that I was
getting so frustrated with UM in regards to him again,
(12:27):
where I was like, why is he doing this? And
why is he not understanding? And why are we having
to deal with this? And why is everything always so hard?
And once I realized like, oh my gosh, he's scared
and this is fear, I was able to have the
proper grace and compassion for him to pause and do
whatever I needed to do to help him out of it.
(12:48):
And it would maybe it's you know it, It would
maybe mean a thirty minute hour commitment to sitting down
and slowly working through that one little thing that triggered
him to go completely do a one e D on
me and change his attitude UM to have to sit
(13:08):
instead of just being like well whatever and walking away
like I can handle this. Whatever is happening right now,
I can't believe you're acting this way, and you know,
fix it or you're in trouble, or I'm going to
take away your X y Z um, because I can't
believe you're defying me like this, well instead of you know,
taking something away, which is a lot faster, but just
(13:31):
definitely wasn't more efficient, you know, because I think a
lot of times when you we're busy, we have a
lot going on, especially we're still working and trying to
get through today, being like okay, well that's it, I'm
taking away your tablet. Well okay. Once he finally decided
to be wanted his tablet back, and maybe he's gonna
like start behaving, but then it was like, oh, okay, pause,
(13:52):
I have to stop everything I'm doing and go sit
down with you for however long it takes to let
you know that I am here for you and it
is safe, and I'm not going anywhere, and I love you,
and what are you feel Let's talk through some feelings
right now. I just he just needs to know that,
(14:13):
like we're here and everything, he's safe. All this craziness
is happening around me, he's safe. And so then it
helps me bee like, oh, sometimes I need that for myself,
even if it's me sitting with myself of like I
need to step away from everything. Probably I don't know
how long it's gonna take a thirty minutes an hour,
(14:34):
and I might just need to be with myself and
remind myself that I am safe and I am loved
and everything's going to be okay, and it's okay for
me to express right now whatever it is I'm feeling.
I need to say it and be okay with it,
but then remind myself that I am safe. So it's so,
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I know a lot of people looking right now and
they're like, well, wait, I don't really a kid, so
we're a kid with trauma. I don't know how to
supplies me. But what I was, what I learned was
what I'm using for him has in turn worked for me.
And the breathing has been so great so a lot
of times. Even my husband, now, we got into an
argument the other day and he looked at me and
(15:18):
he said, do we need to do for seven eight
real quick? And I thought, oh, okay, yeah, I think
we do. And literally, as husband and wife, we sat
there and we did four seven eight five times. You know,
we did the breathing. We did each we did five rounds,
and then I swear to you, we were just in
(15:41):
a different space and we were able to communicate more
effectively and respectfully, then if we had just continued down
that road, grown up, and then ended up super annoyed
and frustrated with each other and probably again more scared,
adding more fear um back into the picture. And so
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I don't even remember, Kelly, honestly, what you originally asked
me that actually, you know, this is like a therapy session.
I love it. We always do this. But what I
was actually thinking while you were talking was I've wondered
what are we going to get out of this period
of time, because it's something, like you said, that we've
never been through before, nobody knows how to do. And
(16:23):
I've wondered what we're going to take from it and
actually integrate into our life once things go back to normal.
And the stuff that you're talking about is stuff that
I hope that we do take with us because I
think when we get so busy in our lives so
often it is just easier to medicate your fears away,
your anger away, whatever it is, not to really take
(16:44):
the time like you're saying and sit with each other
in an intimate moment and say, hey, like, what do
you need? How can I help you? And really getting
to the root of those things, which I think is
such a person. I mean, it's such an important thing
for all humans to varience. Oh yeah, for sure. Um
(17:04):
And sometimes it takes something like this or insert any
other crazy life event for pause and realize it. But
what's been the beauty of this? Well, sometimes it's been
a blessing and a curse. Is we've been stuck at
our homes with our thoughts, with our feelings, with our families,
um or maybe not some people. And I feel for that,
(17:27):
Like sometimes when I've been frustrated with just people around
or like the same people and not really being able
to go somewhere an escape or frustrated with that, I
then remind myself just so I have perspective that some
people are have been quarantined alan and they would give
(17:48):
anything to be around and they maybe I don't know,
if it's like if you're listening right now and you
know anything about the Instagram, they maybe a seven and
they thrive off of interaction and fun and activities and
peace ful and all the things. And they could be
a seven stuck at home and and and you know,
someone that is a little more introverted might be like
(18:11):
at home thinking this is the best gift. How could
people not enjoy this? Like I'm loving this, like I
need I'm recharging right now. I don't have to be
around anybody. That's amazing, But everybody's personalities are so different.
So I also just want to be respectful of that
and that while I I'm saying I want to use
(18:31):
this time to connect with the people that I'm with,
but also it was frustrated with them, But I would
use that perspective like, oh wait, some people literally can't
even be around anybody else right now and their personality
needs that. I need to be thankful for this, but
also recognize that I do need my space because I'm
I'm someone that needs time alone to recover sure, and
(18:53):
I think it's one of the people me too. And
I think it's one of those situations where whatever your
situation is, there's pluses and minusist to both. So it's
kind of more about actually stopping and looking at what
you need and like what you were saying, like you're
learning a lot from your son and it's actually helping
you with what you need yourself. And so I think
we can all do that regardless of our situations. What
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are some of the things you guys do for fun. Well,
good question, Um, what have we been doing? Like our
been has an old land roper and he just got
that back up and running, and so we've been and
we were thinking, like would we do this if we
weren't in coronavirus and we can maybe go to a restaurant,
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but like we've gotten in that a few times and
taking food and a blanket and gone to the park
that down and right, which again that's something you can
do any time of the year, virus or not. We
were not, I don't know that that would have been
our go to and it was so perfect or we've
done it a couple of times. And even with the
(19:59):
kids just um getting outside more with them, uh, and
now that the weather is getting better, um, doing some
of that. But honestly, their school day was taking up
so much time. Again we've all experienced the first day
of summer because again English is their second language. So
(20:19):
some of the kids would get done around maybe noon
or one o'clock and Stashiara was still going until four
trying to get everything done because just going at a
slower pace. Um. And then my husband and I started
through this another thing I'm thankful for because I don't
think I ever would have gone back to it is
we had jump ship on Helmland. I know, I know,
(20:43):
and I don't even know why we just quit watching
it after season five, But thank you for Quarantine because
I thought what happened to Homeland, like we should go
give that a try. And we watched uh season six
and it took a minute to get back into it,
but about halfway through we were totally sold back in.
(21:04):
Couldn't wait for season seven. Then we got to watch
the final season and now I'm so sad over but
I just wanted to run remind people if they did
what I did and forgot about Homeland, you need to
get back in and commit and go all the way
because you won't regret it. Because that is something we
definitely did for fun and I loved it me too.
(21:26):
We just finished two. Did you like the ending? Because
I loved it. I'm gonna say anything else other than that,
but yeah, it's worth it. I feel like it's because
they didn't. They had too much space in between seasons
sometimes that you forget about it and you'd start a
new show, and then who has time to really have
more than one show? Right? Now totally like I think, oh, yeah,
(21:48):
it just I don't know. I'm like, how did we now?
I want to tell everybody from the rooftops. So I
know that that's like not necessarily like fun fun, But
if I love a good binge watch, I actually think
it's great, and especially if you're doing it with like
your significant other, it's such a good activity to do together. Yeah,
(22:08):
we we would do an episode tonight because we didn't
want it to go too fast. We were ginging binging
like on the all weekend. But we would do one
episode a night and it would be are thaying, like
we couldn't wait to put the kids to bed, and
we would go crawl in bed and we would put
on our our glasses that block the blue lights. We
looked real hot and sexty, and then we'd like watch
Homeland and fall asleep and it was amazing perfect. That
(22:30):
sounds like the perfect night. Well, the last thing I
want to hear about is your dad, because I think
this is probably something that a lot of people can
relate to you. But he's in a nursing home, right,
and so you haven't been able to see him at all. Yeah,
he is technically he would want me to tell you
it's an assistance living. Okay, sorry, that's not your fault.
We don't even We kind of just for his, uh
(22:53):
the psychology of it in his brain. We just were like, oh, yeah,
you're a partner. It's a one assisted living and uh,
he it's been really hard. Uh. We went and visited
him today and it's great, but to be able to
see him, but we're seeing him through the glass and
we have to make an appointment for him to go
(23:14):
down to the glass because he lives on the third
floor and otherwise we couldn't see him. And so it's
about once a week that we get more of an
intimate time. I mean, I'll go by there during the
week and drop stuff off and he kind of will
just wave at me, and it's weird. And there was
a point in this that he ripped his feeding He
has a feeding tube and he ripped it out in
(23:35):
his sleep, which has happened once before since he moved
to Nashville. But I was able to go to the
hospital right away and like help him, and you it
has to be handled at the hospital. You can't handle
it anywhere else. And so then I was terrified. He
was like three in the morning, we get a phone call.
Your dad's going in an ambulance, going the hospital, and
(23:56):
coronavirus is like at the height of it. And there
was so much where I thought, Oh, my gosh, if
he's gonna go to the hospital, And it was a
narrative I had created my head, which I don't advise
going negatives through narratives, but in my mind, I thought, oh, great,
he just went to the hospital. Now he's going to
contract forronavirus and that and I know that's like really
dramatic and extreme, but that's what I was doing to
(24:16):
myself and obviously not healthy, so I would I reeled
that in. But it was once he returned from the hospital,
they quarantined him to his room. He couldn't even go
in the hallway for fourteen days, and so I didn't
see him for fourteen days. I mean, we have on
video which I will recommend if anybody has this situation,
(24:37):
the Amazon Echo show. The video thing is so great. Um,
why is that or something? Oh? When I face time
with my dad, first of all, he just whole. I can't.
He holds the phone and all I see is the feeling.
And then and also it's then you can't be on
(24:57):
your phone doing anything else because you're on FaceTime. I
guess you could on your computer, but again, if your
other person doesn't really know technology, like I think most
of my friends, their parents like FaceTime see them and you,
it's a struggle. So what I like about this is
it's plugs in. It sits on the counter and he
can't touch it. Like if as long as he sits
(25:19):
a chair or stands right in front of it, you
can see his whole body. It's just more of a
more of a connection. And then you can have yours
on and you can just keep it on and he's
right there in your living room with you. And if
you need to make a phone call or you need
to be texting or doing something, he can still feel
in the room because then he can see the whole
(25:42):
room and people walking by and talking and being like hey, couple. Yeah,
So it's like he's there more than just actually doing
a phone call. Yes, And that's what when I was
researching what to get because once I didn't get this
until coronavirus hit and I realized that we're not gonna
be able to see him. So I did my research
and I even told people, and that's the one they recommended.
(26:04):
So that's what I went with. And I would say,
I'm happy I sent my sister one. Um, my husband's
parents and his sister got one. Like now we all
have them and it just sits in the kitchen and
you just say, you know, I don't want to say
it because it might set people's off, but you just
tell her to call himmever and then boom they pop
up on the video and it's like, um, like you
(26:24):
can fit like if you have your family in the
living room. I think that's another great thing about it.
Like Ben and the kids and me, we can fit
all in the screen and talk to my dad. Were FaceTime,
you kind of have to be like, oh, hey, here's
so and so and here's right and so. That I
think is another plus. But anyway, my point is he
(26:45):
that is when when we're back to my dad. Not
my point. I don't really know if I had at
that point, but I just back to the fear that
I was speaking to in the beginning. Like I realized
when I was so worried about my dad was when
I was a lot of stuff was really coming out,
and it was because I was so scared for him,
(27:06):
and and we still don't know, like if anyone else
is in a situation like this, we don't know when
is the next time we're gonna be able to hug
them or touch them, or they're going to be able
to leave and come over to our houses and be
with us. It's Um, it's just a weird time. And
I my my thoughts are with anybody that's in a
(27:27):
situation like that, because I know it's not easy, because
I just worry about him and his well being. And
I think of all the people that live at his
place because some of them they I don't know if
they have family that can maybe they're quarantined in another
state or another city and they can't come and give
them thirty minutes at the window visit time. And I'm like,
(27:47):
who are they talking to? Because they eliminated all meal
time there. Everybody's basically confined to their room. Um, which
is different than when my dad was like literally quarantined
to his room after the hospital. But praise Jesus, he
went fourteen days had no symptoms, So Um, that narrative
that I made in my brain was totally false. He
went to the hospital, did not contract coronavirus and he's
(28:10):
alive and well, so um yeah, it's just you know,
think of ways. That's why I think when I hear
of like feel good stories in the news of like
little kids and people and I even just kids, some
adults that are doing care packages for assisted living places
or nursing homes, um with like big puzzles and adult
coloring books, and or just sending cards like one of
(28:34):
Stashira's little friends, Mackenzie Um. Once this first started, she
knew where my dad lived and decided she wanted to
write a bunch of cards and drop them off there.
So her mom texted me for the address and she
did just that, and my dad and some of the
people have written her back. Isn't I mean, isn't that
the sweetest? And that, like they people, we are meant
(28:56):
to connect as people, and some of some people during
all of this again back to some people that are alone.
Some people don't have anybody to connect with, and we
need to make sure that we you know, if we
can do something about that that we try. I love that.
I think that's a super important thing that I hope
we take away too, is kind of getting out of
(29:17):
ourselves for a second and thinking, you know this, I
have this going on. What can I give back to
other people because some people don't, like you said, have
anyone to connect with. I do believe the same that
as humans we are made to connect. So I love
the idea of just anything you can do, especially for
the elderly and this time, because I think they're pretty isolated. Yeah,
(29:40):
and it may be it may be somebody else in
your life, sure, whoever it is right now, whoever it is,
but yeah, that is definitely They're kind of at the
top of the list right now with what they're going through.
Anyone that's got a compromise immune system, they could be younger,
but they're just allowed to socialize, right whatsoever. Yeah, Yeah, Well,
(30:02):
I am so grateful for you for being here and
sharing these tips with everybody because I think I think
a lot of these things are things that people can
relate to. So um, hopefully you listeners got some things
out of this. And I can't wait until we can
actually like see each other. I know, and I hug you, like,
what is that going to be? Like? I don't even
(30:23):
remember what hugs feel like. This is gonna be so fun,
I know. I feel like for a while. People will
start to get together, but it's going to be like, hey,
you want to come over, but everything and make sure
you six feet away from me at all times. We
only give elbows if we do any sort of touching. Yeah, whatever, whatever,
(30:46):
There's gonna be a new normal for a little bit.
And I think so really one day we'll be back
to normal. And yeah, I just I you know, I
love you and I love you. Just appreciate your friendship
so much, and uh just would encourage others to make
sure that people that are important to them in their
(31:06):
lives that they yeah, tell them because I think two
we've learned through all of this, life is so crazy,
and especially here in Nashville again, going from the tornado
to the virus, it was like whoa, what the heck?
And I know that there's been other tragedies around the
country too. I'm just we both live here since it
was something that I can we can connect to, but
(31:29):
just some predictable to make sure people know, um I
feel and then um yeah breathe for seven four seven eight.
I mean, definitely, all of this has definitely put into
perspective all of the things that are actually very important
to me. So um my friendships are definitely top of
the list. I'm gonna start that breathing exercise. I'm sending
it to I'm gonna give it to my boyfriend, maybe
(31:51):
his kids. We'll do it once you tell him about it.
Then if y'all are ever in a heated exchange or
of sorts, or maybe even but that you're on the
verge of something, you can be like, hey, let's take
a four seven. All right, Well, thank you for being here.
(32:12):
You guys can check out Amy every morning on the
Bobby Bones Show. All social media's are at radio Amy, right,
y okay, Well thank you, Amy. Let me clarify, are
you on TikTok? Well? Stuf is okay? But she's undermine.
But I have done. I want to start doing it
(32:32):
more because she really wants me to do some with her,
and I think it's a great way for moms and
daughters to bond, for sure. I see a lot of
stars doing that with their kids, Like Jessica Alba has
a really good one. Don't if you follow her, She's
really cute. You don't even have to post them. It's
just fun. I would say we've done a couple that
(32:52):
we don't even post, because it's like, that's not really
the point. The point is it's something she loves to
do and we're learning something together her and then we
do it and she smiles so big when we get
it right. Yeah. And so anyway, Radio Amy seven think
there's six other Radio Amies on TikTok know what? When
(33:13):
they suggested for me, honestly, i'm I'm I don't even know.
I think that. I thought they gave me Radio Amy
and I was telling people that's what my TikTok was,
and then they were like, no, there's just seven. At
the end of that, I was like, oh, oh, okay,
well on everything else, it's at Radio Amy on TikTok
Radio Amy seven. I can't forget that now though actually
(33:36):
I know, but I don't now. I wasted like two
minutes talking about TikTok and I don't even really use it.
So well, now you don't have to. Here's your inspiration, okay,
uh Well, I love you. I can't wait to see you.
Thank you for being here, and thank you guys for listening. Bye.
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