Jesus Christ Show | Hour 1 [12/10]

Jesus Christ Show | Hour 1 [12/10]

Episode Transcript

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You're listening to KFI AM six fortyon demand. The holidays are here and
everything's changing with this season, rightsee music changing goodness. Many radio stations
started playing Christmas music the moment Thanksgivingstopped, so music started to change.

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Decorations changing coming out, people puttingup lights, doing all kinds of things
on their home. The stores,whether it be a grocery store, department
store, decorations are changing, andeven people's attitudes tend to change. Have
you noticed that interactions with each othertend to be a little more pleasant,
little more seasonally happy? And thisis what seems to happen around this time

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of the year, every single year. And just like that famous Christmas song,
and we all know it, there'sbeauty in these these small moments of
comfort and joy. But what isthe true meaning of joy and where does

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it come from? It seems thatbecause it tends to be a part of
this season, that the assumption isthat comfort and joy or joy itself lies
in material things. Because this timeis associated with gift giving and those types

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of things, that it seems thatthe overall attitude is that joy is somehow
attached to that. Does it reallycome from material gifts. That would be
sad if that was the case.It must come from the things of God.

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See. To the believer, joyis much more than a feeling.
You can't just wrap it up ina box, put a bow on it,
and hand it to someone. It'snot just wow, I'm in a
really good mood today, or Ireally feel happy today. Joy is much
bigger than that. Joy is muchgrander and much more pure than something that

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can be stuffed in a box ora bag or handed out to everyone.
Joy has to be bigger than that. It has to be It has to
be from God for it to bereal. People confuse joy with happiness,

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which is really not a good thing. We've said this over and over on
the show, because really happiness iskind of this this flash feeling of joy
due to a happening, something thathappened. So you have this happiness.
Somebody gives you a gift, somebodysays something nice, whatever it is,

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you have this happiness because of thathappening. But joy is altogether different.
It's pure, and it's in anintense concentration. It doesn't have the ebb
and flow of happiness. It certainlycan't be given to you because of a

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pill you're taking, or because ofa gift you've been given, or because
of a movie you just saw.If anything, these things that you call
happiness are just a little bit ofthat curtain that keeps you from that joy,
the joy that's there all the time. It's just a little bit of

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that curtain being pulled back and injust glimpsing that joy that's always with you.
Believe it or not. They saythat if you're looking and looking and
looking for something and can't find it, chances are you already have it.
And so so many people search forjoy thinking they're going to lift up a

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rock, or they're going to opena door or come around a corner,
and there joy is seeking that going, well, where is this joy?
I keep hearing about? But it'swith you always. It comes from God,
and it can only be realized,It only be seen and appreciated and
really understood when you're in God's presencehere on earth, not the same way

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you'll be in God's presence in heaven, but in a state of having a
relationship with God, in a stateof a prayer and connection with God,
that's when you'll know joy, realjoy, that concentrated joy, and not
just the glance or the glimpse orthe little peace or the taste of joy

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that you get during happenings, thingsthat just make you happy. And during
this time of year, it seemsthat there's this shift, this shift where
even the non believer starts experience experiencingjust a little bit of what the Christian

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does all year round. Because joyis not attached to a day, whether
it's the celebration of my birth ornot. Joy is always there. Joy
is inside. It lasts and lastsand lasts. It's not moved or changed

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by circumstance, and it's incredibly powerful. It's what keeps you stable in times
of great chaos and turmoil. Havingjoy doesn't mean you understand everything going on
around you, or that your circumstancesare always pleasant or funfilled. That's a

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misrepresentation of joy. Joy comes fromunderstanding your life is in God's hand,
and that's where your comfort lies aswell. The song comfort and joy.
There is a wonderful marriage there,but it's not because of circumstances. It's
not because well, things seem tobe going my way, and therefore I

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have joy and I have comfort.The comfort is knowing that God has you.
You've heard it before, right,It's not what the future holds,
but it's who holds your future thatmatters. Well, if God is holding
your future, if God is holdingyou, your heart, your faith,

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then you won't be swayed and caughtup in the things of every day.
Doesn't mean that you won't it downfrom time to time, but being up
or down due to circumstances is normal. But joy can exist simultaneously even when
you're not in the best of moods, because it's not just that feeling.

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The joy is there in the simplicityof life itself, enjoying mere existence.
This is the day that the Lordhas made. Let us rejoice in it,
rejoice feeling that joy just in thesimplicity of this is a day that
God made. And once you findthat, once you understand that it's not

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something you're searching for, it's notsomething you're looking for, you look to
know God. And with knowing Godcomes that joy comes, that that altogether
concentrate of the things of God,not some swaying, ever changing, always

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in this state of flux kind offeeling. Thing. The world wants to
wants you to think that that's whatjoy is. Their comfort is in knowing
what's going to happen to you.Comfort is knowing every step that's ahead of
you. That's not comfort, that'snot joy. The real comfort and joy

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that's talked about in scripture deals withbeing comforted knowing that God is with you,
that God has a plan for yourlife, that you have a purpose,
and that God loves you. Thereinlies the comfort. Therein lies the
joy. God is that source ofjoy. And during the holidays, as

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you see people going throughout shopping andbuying gifts and receiving gifts and eating fun
snacks and fun foods and everything thatcomes with the holidays, the automatic place
you go is that that's what bringsjoy. And I want to reset that

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for you. I want you tosee it differently, that, yes,
you may be in a circumstance whereyou might not be with family this year,
you may be in a circumstance whereyou've lost some family and whatever it
might be, that if you haveGod with you throughout the any circumstance,

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including sometimes the sadness that comes withthe holidays as well, that that is
where your joy lies. That iswhere your comfort lies. The holidays are
here, of course, and withChristmas, it's every movie cliche. Every

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movie that you see dealing with Christmasalways surrounds about the magic spirit of Christmas,
the attitude of people, and aseverything goes and changes during this time
of the year, this season,you start thinking about things like joy.
You hear songs that talk about comfortand joy, but to the Christian that

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means something altogether different. It's notjust something because someone's giving you a gift,
just some wonderful feeling. Comfort andjoy is very real. It's very
constant, and it's pure. Whenyou're a person of faith, it's inside.
It lasts forever and good and badcircumstances, and it keeps you stable

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and a float during times of chaos. So don't get caught up thinking that
joy is this thing that just comesonce a year, or comes when gifts
are present or people tend to justbe in a better mood. That's not
what it is, because things willfade away. True joy must be sturdier,

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much more solid than material things orever changing situations that come and go.
Joy is not attached to you gettingsomething, and it's not attached to
this world at all. God isthe only true source of joy and the
comfort that comes with it. That'sit. Tewod Corinthians one three said,

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blessed be the God and Father ofour Lord, Jesus Christ, the father
of mercies and of God and ofall comfort. God brings the fullness of
joy, not part pieces, alittle bit here, a little bit there.

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Psalm sixteen eleven says, in Thypresence is fullness of joy. The
fullness of joy being in the presenceof the Maker. That is joy.
That is where I want you tobe, not cut up in gifts or
this or that, but being inthe relationship with God, your joy filled

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by God's purpose. That's joy,not just by what life brings you.
It's okay to enjoy things. It'sokay to enjoy life. It's okay to
be happy the things that you havein life. But the fullness of life
and true joy can only come fromGod. Rebecca, welcome to the Jesus

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Christia. Hi, Rebecca, andI know you love me, and I
truly love myself. But how canI feel joy, comfort and joy during
the holiday season when everything around aroundme reminds me that I'm single, I'm
alone, and I feel like Ihave no one to love me and maybe

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no one will ever love me.Well, that doesn't really seem plausible.
There's no evidence that God makes peoplethirsty and then doesn't create water. Just
doesn't happen. People don't run aroundlooking for something to quench their thirst unless

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there is something to quench their thirst. I will question a couple of your
statements. If you are with someoneand they love you, you seem to
think that that then you'll be fulfilledin that you won't go looking for another
mate, right, true? Okay, so the hope is that there will
be a hole there of some kindand that you'll be fulfilled. Yet you

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tell me you love me, done, check, I love you too,
yes. And you say that youlove yourself. Yes, But yet you
feel the need to look for someoneelse in a way that is looking for
fulfillment. And I will tell youthis, when you truly love attracts love.
It's just the way it works whenAnd I don't mean in that like

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the secret and the law of attractioneverything. I mean that it is it
is bound together. It's materially boundtogether. And when you are comfortable with
who you are and you are ina nice, healthy, wonderful place,
is when you will attract those thatare in the same place. You don't

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need anybody, you know, there'snot a need in that sense. There
is a want and a desire andyou're built for it. But if you
have those desires, there's no reasonfor you to feel that you wouldn't have
it. Now, what is inyour mind? In total honesty, because
if you're not honest, it's notgoing to do us any good. But
Rebecca, in total honesty, whatdo you think is the reason that you

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haven't found that right person? BecauseI'm assuming you've dated before, you've met
people. Yes, okay, sowhat is what is the what's the reason?
I've been in relationships and I've beenengaged a couple of times in the
past, you know, six years, and I was married before, and
you know, I really don't know. I feel that the men that I

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am initially attracted to, and they'revery attracted to me, I feel that
it's just it's purely physical. There'slike there's nothing there, there's no substance
there. Well, everything's going tobe physical at first, I mean,
that's how you see people. That'sthe the very first thing you're going to
connect with with somebody. Is goingto be physical. I like the way
you look, or you're pleasing tome, or something that's it's superficial for

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a reason, because that's what you'regoing to experience first. But you say
it never goes past that. Itreally doesn't seem to. It's just you
know, and maybe you know I'vebeen told, but I'm I'm too picky
about certain things, like for example, you know, maybe a data man
who smokes cigarette. I don't smoke. And then in the beginning, okay,

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well, I can handle it,and then after the relationships goes on,
it's like, I'm a cigarette smokeis just I can't stand it anymore.
Well, smoke casually smoked marijuana,Okay, well I'm fine with it.
I'm you know, but after youknow, six months of you know
him, you know, sitting standingthere, you know, at a bond
you know, bigger than he is, you know, I just can't.

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It's like a deal breaker. Ican't do it anymore. And then I
find myself again just I'm back inthe same place. I'm by myself,
and I'm I'm alone. And somaybe there's something in me that is attracting
dysfunctional men in some capacity. Becausemaybe there's something that's functional in myself and
I'm you know, I don't know. Maybe it's work. I mean I
pour when I go to when Iwork, I pour myself into it.

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So maybe, you know, maybethat's what it is. It could be
many things. First of all,you're choosing, choosing horribly. One of
the best things to do is tofind people in places that you share experiences.
You don't want a carbon copy ofyourself. Trust me that that's not
what you're looking for. But ifyou don't like smoking, there's no reason

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to spend the time with somebody whosmokes at all. There's no reason to
invest in that at all. Andthe same with marijuana. There's just it's
not worth it if you if itdoesn't work out like that, or these
are not things that you want inyour life, then don't even start going
down that path. But each timeyou do, you're wasting time in one

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sense by not having the experience ofmeeting someone else because you're now in this
relationship with someone that you knew atthe very beginning does things that you're not
that great with. But everyone's goingto have something and I'm wondering if they're
is either a your your sense ofwhat you're looking for is too great.

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And this happens. The longer thatyou're single, more people tend to create
and even more kind of exclusive andperfect image in their head as to what
their partner is going to be,and it ends up becoming more difficult to
find someone. So the real thatcould be happening too. I believe that

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could be happening. And work andeverything like that that plays a part with
everybody's life. But you can manageall that. First and foremost, do
you have any hobbies or anything thatyou like doing? Well? I,
you know, I like cycling,I love traveling, I'm into sight seeing.
You know that there's really guilty pleasuresthat I'm wonderful. Then that's where

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that's that's a good place for youto meet people now because you're you're going
to connect with things that you like. However, you don't want to be
going on those You don't want tobe doing those things to meet someone.
You want to go and do thosethings to better yourself and be you know,
become a continue to become a fullperson as you explore and learn and

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be curious and all of those things. But once when you're spending time,
more time with yourself, and youreally get to a place where you enjoy
your own company. Only then canyou have a relationship that's worth anything,
because now it's always about adding somethingto your life and you're not going to
that way. And I agree,I enjoy my own company. I mean

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I can spend hours and hours,you know, just finding things for myself
to do, even taking you know, road trips by myself, which people
find really pretty scary, you know, for a single woman to go out
there and take a road trip,which I've done before and it had a
wonderful time. You've met wonderful people. What I what I'm seeking in my
life is a companion, you know, a true friend. And it just

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I feel that the guides that Idate, as I explained before, they
were smokers, that they were addictedto alcohol or drugs or you know,
it's just they want sex and it'slike there's no substance, there's just nothing,
you know, there's nothing for themto stay with it. I don't
know, I just I really don'tknow how to explain it. It's a

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specific I see, well, peopledon't. People don't. It's the best
way to say this. I willsay it this way. People don't redecorate
motels they go. They may beunpacked when they stay at them, because
there's something about that structure that says, this is not your home. It's

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just where you stay for a littlewhile. And you don't ever want to
give out that energy to anybody,and you want to make sure that everything
that you're doing points to a longterm relationship, that that's what you're looking
for for one for Secondly, whenit comes to relationships, if if you're

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fulfilled, if you are totally happywith who you are, then there's no
they don't have any any cachet.They're not coming saying, oh, well,
she's obviously she'd needs somebody or sheneeds companionship or whatever, and I'm
bringing that. So then therefore I'mgoing to take something from her. When

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I say I want you to becomfortable with yourself, I really mean it.
I want you to get to aplace where you are so comfortable with
yourself that you that if somebody washitting on you, you wouldn't even recognize
it because you're just so comfortable withwhere you are. And maybe that sounds
like an annoyance. Oh, they'regoing to interrupt my day or where I'm

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at, and your happiness and looktowards really fulfilling yourself and being in that
mode. And I think once youget to that place, once you get
to a place where you feel supercomfortable with who you are and you're enjoying
yourself and you're exploring and you're goingout and you're traveling and you're doing whatever,
it'll come. So to break itdown, it's have legitimate expectation.

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Manage your expectation as to what youwant, what you're looking for. Don't
go down a path that begins withsomething you're not looking for. You don't
want to date a smoker, andI would suggest not dating a smoker,
then don't start with that. Don'teven bother having that. If somebody see

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someone smoke, then move on.If there are things that show themselves early
on, there's no reason to digdeeper for you if that's going to be
a deal breaker down the line,because then it's just going to be a
deal breaker with someone that you've sortof connected with. And chemistry is a
wonderful thing and should be a partof it both physically. There should be

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some initial chemistry, but there shouldalso be some intellectual chemistry. And if
guys constantly want to take you tobed, it's because they're not seeing that
there's something else there. And that'spartly on them, but it's partly on
you too. You have to showthem that there's something more to the picture

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and that there's something more to thepackage of who you are, and they'll
want to explore talking with you andgoing to other places and hearing what's on
your mind and learning about the wayyou think and what you think and why
you think it, and all thosethings come together, But really it starts
with you. You have to bein a place. The assumption is that

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when you're single, you're available,and that's not the truth. That's never
the truth. Single is a stateof physicality, whether you've met somebody or
have somebody in your life. Butbeing available is really a state of mental
and emotional state. It's about beinghealthy. It's about being ready and primed

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and comfortable with who you are.And it's almost like when you're comfortable being
alone and not needing anybody is whensomebody will come along. Relationships, Really,
the entirety of the Bible is setupon the foundation of relationships. Even
the Ten Commandments are really about roughlyhalf deal with your relationship with God and

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half deal with your relationship with Man, Adam and Eve. From the beginning,
really dealing with relationship not only betweeneach other, but also between the
animals, the earth, the naturalresources, and they're very important. But
everything goes back to that peak relationshipon this planet, and that is going

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to be interpersonal relations with each other. Of course, God is always above
all of that. God is yourfirst and your foremost love. But as
you look for a partner, agood partner in life, you have to
be prepared mentally and emotionally as towhere you're going to be, and above

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all, really enjoying who you areand having your life right with God.
I know that it's a cliche togo through a breakup or go through something
rough in life and then go runningto the church, but I will tell
you that that's no different than goingthrough a car wash after mudwomping in your

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truck. It's just a matter ofgetting all of that off of your person
emotionally and physically, and taking thetime to reconnect with your God and prepare
yourself for another relationship, just anotheranother, another another, but really being
in that mindset of no, Iwant to be prepared for this. The

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assumption is just because you're single oryou don't have somebody in your life that
makes you prepared. That's not beingprepared for anything. The absence of something
is not the preparation for something else. Ever, that's just the beginning.
It's like saying, well, Idon't have a car, therefore I'm prepared

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to get one. No, haveyou saved up money for the car?
No, so you don't have thedawn payment? No? Okay, do
you have any money in the bank. No? Do you have a home
where you could park the car?No, don't have a home. Don't
have money. Then, just becauseyou don't have a car doesn't mean you're
prepared for one. Likewise, prepareyourself for a relationship. Put away experiences

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in your emotional bank, things thatyou've enjoyed doing, have hobbies and interests,
and things that aren't going to makeyou just a barnacle on someone else's
life. You don't want somebody likethat in your life either. You don't
want somebody to come in and goeh and latch on. You want somebody

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who has depth and interest, andyou need to prepare yourself for that as
well. So being single doesn't meanyou're available and you're ready. Prepare yourself,
and the way you prepare yourself isto really enjoy your own company,
the things around you. Explore life, Enjoy life, have hobbies, love

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yourself, love your God, andlove will come. KFI AM six on demand