Ep 9. | Why Do We Still Get Married

Is marriage still the goal—or has the goal changed?

In this thought-provoking episode of Selective Igonorance, Mandii B sits down with seasoned dating and relationship coach Alison (Align With Alison) to unpack how modern views on marriage are shifting, especially for successful women. Kicking things off at [00:00 – The Evolution of Marriage], they explore the roots of the institution and how its purpose has transformed over time. By [03:15 – Challenging Traditional Views on Marriage], the conversation starts pushing back on long-held beliefs, asking if tying the knot still holds the same weight in today’s world. As the discussion deepens, they reflect on [07:41 – The Value of Commitment in Relationships], highlighting what it really means to choose someone—and how that commitment can show up in different ways. At [10:20 – Vetting Partners: The Key to Successful Relationships], the guest breaks down why being intentional about who you allow into your life is crucial. That leads to a candid look at [13:58 – Understanding the Risks of Marriage] and the realities people often overlook when love and legal contracts mix. They don’t stop there. By [20:34 – Preparing for the Reality of Relationships], they’re talking about the emotional, financial, and personal groundwork that needs to happen before anyone says “I do.” That naturally flows into [24:52 – Navigating Business Relationships and Personal Vetting], where they touch on how similar principles apply in both love and entrepreneurship. The conversation returns to romantic partnerships at [28:40 – Understanding Risks in Relationships and Marriage], and then zooms in on actionable steps during [30:36 – Financial Protection for Successful Women], where they break down how to be smart and secure without guilt or shame. At [32:24 – Societal Pressures on Women Regarding Marriage and Motherhood], the discussion turns personal, unpacking the weight women carry to “have it all” and what happens when they choose a different path. By [36:03 – Setting Boundaries and Defining Personal Value], they offer empowering advice on how to stand firm in your worth—no ring required. And finally, at [40:30 – Redefining Lasting Love Beyond Traditional Norms], they close the loop by asking: What does lasting love really look like when you write the rules yourself? Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode invites you to think beyond tradition—and lean into what’s true for you.

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