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September 29, 2025 98 mins
Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby’s personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women’s retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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