#26: Sorry, Not Sorry: How Apologies Can Be a 'Get Out of Jail Free Card' for Students (and What to Do Instead)

In this episode of The Unteachables Podcast, I talk apologies, and the conundrum of forcing them. It feels like a knee-jerk reaction when a student has done something harmful... "What do you say?" or "Say sorry."

It makes sense why we do this. As the teacher we want to get to a resolution. We want to make things better! However simply forcing a student to say sorry is definitely not a solution to challenging behaviour and conflict... in fact, it's a big 'out' the allows accountability to go down the drain. 

Toady I cover:

• The missed opportunities of forced apologies: What we really need to be doing when things go wrong.
• The role of dialogue and reflection: Explore how engaging in meaningful conversations can repair relationships and nurture vital social and emotional skills.
• Practical quick swaps that you can make right now to foster greater reflection and accountability during these challenging conflicts
• The key components of Transformative Talks: The crucial piece of the puzzle with authentic resolution.

 

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