SUNDAY SPECIAL: Introducing 'I Never Told You This': Mary & Martha Kalifatidis

Outlouders, today we're introducing you to a new podcast we're releasing at Mamamia called I Never Told You This. Two People. One big reveal. A simple card deck with questions. Some are light-hearted, some deeper…and one that says ‘I Never Told You This’ - the chance for one person to share something they’ve never told the other before.

In the first episode of 'I Never Told You This', Mary and Martha Kalifatidis chat about their all-too-relatable experience of protectiveness and anxiety as parents. If you want to continue to enjoy this series, it will be dropping every Thursday over at the But Are You Happy podcast.

Head to Medibank to learn more about the Family Roast card game that sparked the conversation.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:13):
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Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hello out Louders, It is Jesse here for your Sunday special.
Just a little trait for your Sunday. We are bringing
you a taste of a new podcast we are releasing.
It is called I Never Told You This. It's about connection,
It's about brave conversations and how to have more honest relationships.
We really hope you enjoy this episode and if you

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Speaker 4 (00:55):
I have anxiety myself. I don't even know what to
do with it. Do you know how to deal with it?
I feel like we don't really know how to deal
with it. We just kind of get up and just
seize the day. It doesn't matter how you're feeling. Soldier
on Two People, One big reveal.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
I Never Told You This A simple card game where
one question could change everything.

Speaker 5 (01:11):
It starts like, what's more things.

Speaker 6 (01:13):
I'm not going to answer.

Speaker 2 (01:15):
That then comes the moment that could shift a relationship forever.
As they finished this sentence, I never told you this.

Speaker 6 (01:21):
I've never told you. They never told you this.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
Today Reality TV influences mother and daughter duo Mary and
Martha Calipadidas will be sitting down together quite nervous.

Speaker 6 (01:34):
But I'm always nervous.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Mary has something big to reveal to her daughter.

Speaker 7 (01:38):
I don't think she's expecting me to say what I'm
going to say.

Speaker 6 (01:42):
Welcome, Martha.

Speaker 5 (01:43):
Oh, thanks for having me Mary. This is a bit
new for.

Speaker 6 (01:46):
Us, I know. Welcome.

Speaker 7 (01:48):
So today we're going to play a little game with
the Medibank family roast cards.

Speaker 6 (01:53):
Are you ready to play?

Speaker 5 (01:54):
Yes, let's get into this game. I think we need
a little game.

Speaker 6 (01:57):
So who picks?

Speaker 1 (01:58):
There?

Speaker 5 (01:59):
You go for it?

Speaker 6 (01:59):
Oh? Are you ready? Oh?

Speaker 7 (02:03):
What is the most ridiculous fashion trend you ever followed?

Speaker 4 (02:07):
Those thick faust belts that were like a boob troop
and we'd wear them over the jeans. That has to
be one of the ugliest things I ever did. I'm
five foot two and that made me four foot two.

Speaker 7 (02:17):
I probably told you, but you wouldn't probably listen here
we go.

Speaker 5 (02:21):
She had to throw that one in my face.

Speaker 6 (02:22):
Just saying kid, just saying.

Speaker 4 (02:24):
All right, so I'll pick a card. Oh, what is
something I do that grosses you out? I don't think
you do anything they do not.

Speaker 5 (02:32):
No, that's right, good answer, Mary.

Speaker 6 (02:35):
What about me?

Speaker 5 (02:36):
I don't because I can say so many things.

Speaker 6 (02:39):
I bring it to the table.

Speaker 5 (02:40):
Cutting your cuticles, well.

Speaker 6 (02:42):
That's just like meditation.

Speaker 4 (02:43):
If you go and get that done and then you
like to do more and just keep cutting the cuticles,
it must be a nervous It's definitely a nervous habit.

Speaker 6 (02:50):
Okay, I'll take that, all.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
Right, go next?

Speaker 6 (02:54):
Oh is that me?

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Oh?

Speaker 6 (02:56):
What do you think your most useless talent is? You've
got plenty of those.

Speaker 4 (03:01):
I don't think I've got any. I just there's no
timeless for uselessness in our family.

Speaker 6 (03:05):
I agree.

Speaker 5 (03:06):
What about how you.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
Can you start singing every single commercial song that's ever
come on since like nineteen eighty fifties from the Earth.

Speaker 6 (03:16):
I'm going to pick the next card. I never told
you this.

Speaker 7 (03:26):
When you went on reality TV, all these comments would
come in on social media.

Speaker 6 (03:34):
It actually affected me, but I didn't want to show
you that it.

Speaker 7 (03:38):
Was affecting me, all these comments that were coming in,
and I'd be staying up till three four in the morning,
and I didn't realize how toxic social media can be.
I didn't know as a parent how I can comfort you.

Speaker 4 (03:53):
No, I can totally understand how that would have affected you.
With the trolls on the internet, they think they know me,
but you really know me, and so you were reading
things that weren't true, and then that would be just
endless cycle.

Speaker 6 (04:05):
Now you're a parent, and I'm sure you would probably
do the.

Speaker 4 (04:08):
Same now that I'm a parent, I just want to
protect him from everything.

Speaker 6 (04:13):
I could only imagine.

Speaker 7 (04:14):
And that's why I didn't want to burden you with
I've got anxiety, I can't sleep, I was I had
shortness of breath, like I was.

Speaker 6 (04:21):
Thinking a mom, don't yeah, but that's how it was.

Speaker 4 (04:26):
I think to some degree, I did have some idea,
because you did start acting really strange. I definitely think
I know you were staying up really late looking at comments,
and I remember just being too like, don't worry about it, man,
like it's fine. But I think at the time I
didn't want to show you either that it was affecting me,
so I would just say oh to you, like it

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doesn't matter, but really, like I would be in my
room staying up breathing the comments as well. So I
have anxiety myself. I don't even know what to do
with it. Do you know how to deal with it?
I feel like we don't really know how to deal
with it. We just kind of move on with the
day and just keep the day going. But it doesn't
mean that the anxiety.

Speaker 5 (05:01):
Goes away.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
The rest of this episode of I never told you
this right after the break.

Speaker 7 (05:14):
Thinking back, I should have just been more open and
told you, like, you know what, it's normal to feel
this way because I'm feeling this way.

Speaker 6 (05:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (05:22):
I think if this had done that, we probably would
have been able to, you know, commune and cack it
and then just deal with it in the open instead
of dealing with it separately in.

Speaker 6 (05:30):
Our different rooms.

Speaker 4 (05:31):
Yeah, but that's very That's very much what our family does,
though we're not very good at revealing, which is strange
because we're so open, that's about everything, about movements and everything,
because we've brought up to be like quite hard and
like strong and tarody.

Speaker 6 (05:48):
No, you can't get over it, get up.

Speaker 5 (05:49):
And just seize the day. It doesn't matter how you're feeling.

Speaker 6 (05:52):
Soldier on.

Speaker 7 (05:54):
When I was growing up, our parents were very strict.
They never showed emotion. They never you know, I.

Speaker 5 (05:59):
Just find that hard to believe.

Speaker 4 (06:00):
Yeah, yeah, it is like the most softest, sweetest, gentlest, emotional,
loving caring.

Speaker 6 (06:06):
It wasn't when we were growing up.

Speaker 5 (06:07):
I just find it hard to believe.

Speaker 6 (06:10):
She was strict.

Speaker 5 (06:11):
Get up old age, it really softens you.

Speaker 6 (06:16):
It breaks you down.

Speaker 7 (06:20):
With like searching and being like my own little detective.
I noticed that a lot of these comments weren't coming
from young kids that were just being mean.

Speaker 6 (06:30):
These were from parents that had kids.

Speaker 7 (06:32):
How could you try and destroy someone else's child. People
want kids to be kind, but they don't teach them
the tools to be kind and not to bring other
people down, you know, like kids are mean today.

Speaker 5 (06:46):
I hate that I was even that from somewhere.

Speaker 7 (06:48):
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. The parents are the
ones that need to actually change.

Speaker 4 (06:53):
I kind of feel a bit sad for you in
a way that you kind of dealt with that on
your own.

Speaker 6 (06:58):
That's what parents do, you know.

Speaker 7 (07:01):
They try to protect I think their kids as much
as they can. You know, so if your son was
dealing with anxiety, how would you help him?

Speaker 5 (07:12):
Growing up?

Speaker 4 (07:13):
You always said those that matter don't mind, and those
that mind don't matter. It doesn't really matter because who
are these people to you? As long as like you know, you,
your friends, your family, the people that you care about,
the opinions of others don't really matter.

Speaker 6 (07:28):
That's good. At least you've got something something from all
those years. Yeah, it's not easy being a parent.

Speaker 4 (07:36):
It's so not It's the hardest thing ever. It's so
not easy being a parent. I appreciate it.

Speaker 5 (07:42):
Oh, thank you, Mary, no worries any time. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (07:48):
And it's nice to know that you're human under all that. Yeah,
it's nice to know that under all there there is
actually some flesh and blood.

Speaker 5 (07:56):
Well done, fish pump.

Speaker 6 (07:57):
Oh is that something we do still?

Speaker 1 (08:06):
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