September 26, 2024 • 10 mins
We too can let go of things that no longer serve us. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through You know,
just as the trees outside your window will soon start
(00:23):
shedding their leaves in preparation for winter, we too can
let go of things that no longer serve us. Some
people let go of things they can't stand too many things.
They rush boxes to thrift stores or gift it to
(00:44):
their nieces or whoever they can gift it to because
they don't like things. They don't like clutter. But more
importantly than letting go of things is letting go of
character defects or character traits, or believe systems that no
longer serve us. Maybe you grew up believing you had
(01:07):
to be perfect, and now you're a little bit older
and you're going, wait a second, I can't always do
everything right.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm human.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
As the trees shed their leaves, maybe it's time to
shed some of those old expectations of yourself and let go.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
HI.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Good evening. Who's this?
Speaker 4 (01:31):
This is Brandon?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Brandon. I need to speak up just a little bit, sweetie.
What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Yeah? I was wondering if you could take a song
and play it for me. For me and my girlfriend.
We're right at the time, we're not currently together. We're
having some tough times. We've been on and off for
the past six years, and you know, we're just we're
fighting a lot over goofy little things because we're both
very jealous and we don't want to put a permanent anything.
(02:00):
So we're just you know, kind of taking a break,
you know, seeing other people realizing what we had and
what we're going to miss if you know, we keep
up with our our childish games. So I was just wondering,
you know, if you had any advice to help overcome
jealousy and try to let her know how much I
really do care about her.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, when you can look at jealousy, Brandon for what
it really is, which is an abusive way of trying
to control somebody else because you don't feel good about yourself,
then you can go ooh, I don't want that character.
I don't want that character defect. I want to work
on that, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
And there's two types of jealousy.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
There's jealousy that's created because somebody is untrustworthy or participating
in things that violate your relationship. And then there's jealousy
of where are you going, who are you going to
be with? Who are you talking to?
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Who was that?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And that's insane, controlling, manipulative, cruelty. Both kinds of jealousy
are unhealthy and will destroy you.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
That is great at changing hearts.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
If you're willing to give him your garbage, he can
turn it into two gold.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Sounds like a plan, and I will try that.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Good luck, sweetheart.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
All right, thank you very much, Gallah.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Bye bye, Lynn. Who's on your heart tonight? His name
is Jason Jason boyfriend, Jason husband, Jason's son. Who's Jason
Jason boyfriend boyfriend H the BF?
Speaker 5 (03:32):
Yes, he's the BF. We've been together for, like I said,
almost years. I think we have a pretty good relationship.
We laugh, we talk, We have a really good time
with each other. There's a good trust thing going on
with us, and I haven't had that in the past.
And I've always enjoyed that I'm nine years older than
he has. And I'm leaving going to another state, five
(03:53):
states away from where we are now, and I hate
the fact that I'm leaving him here.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
And I don't want to So you're leaving for work,
You're leaving for family responsibilities.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Why are we leaving start a new life? Why would
you start.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Into life when you have a wonderful, sweet, hot young boyfriend.
What what are you thinking?
Speaker 5 (04:11):
I've never left the place where I live. I've lived
here my whole life for thirty seven years, and I
just need a different change. I just want something new,
and I feel very positive. So while about the move,
I think it's something that's really I think it's going
to be really good for me. I really believe that
this is where God wants me to go. I've prayed
about it and prayed about it, and this is why
I think he's sending me because I am, like I said,
(04:33):
nine years older than he is. He's not ready for
anything that. He's not ready for commitment, and I understand that,
and I'm not going to force him to do that.
That's something that I respect.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So it's just hard to let go.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
It's hard to let go. It's very difficult to let
go of something that's good.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But it sounds like it's a right decision if he's
not ready for that level of commitment, and you certainly,
like you said, don't want to force him or manipulate
him into that like I did with my mind a husband,
you know, and learned the hard way that that that's
just not a good thing to do.
Speaker 5 (05:07):
And that's the good thing about us. I think that
we've respected each other. He's not trying to keep me
here and I'm not trying to make him go, and
it's very difficult to do them.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Hello, good evening. You've called Delilah, Who is this? What
can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (05:35):
A friend of mine be able with a girl from
California and things didn't work out, mainly because of my
insecurities and my anger issues.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
So so why are you so insecure?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Why are you so controlling?
Speaker 6 (05:50):
Well, it's not that I'm controlling. I did the way
I said that. If you want to drink, why can't
you buy the liquor and stay at home? You know,
if you want to go So Bay, you're looking to me.
That's saying that you want You're looking for attention from
other guys.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
So that's not about you being insecure.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
That's about you asking yourself, why are you spending time
with somebody who's emotionally unavailable? Because an alcoholic is emotionally unavailable.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
You're right, So that's not you being insecure. That's you
trying to control a situation that you can't control. So
why don't you give your heart to somebody who's healthy
and wants to be in a relationship instead of somebody
who's unhealthy and wants to have her butt parked on
a barstool.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
The thing is, I can't. I have very bad luckal women.
Ever since I broke with my girlfriend in two thousand
and seven two thousand and eight, I've been single and
it's very hard for me to date. I don't like
to date. Basically, I want to settle down with one
woman and one woman only, but difficult to start all
(07:02):
over again.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
So what are your passions, honey? What sort of things
do you love to do?
Speaker 6 (07:08):
I love music, I love music. I love sports. You know,
I love to go out to eat, I love to travel.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Okay, so take those things that you just mentioned, music, sports,
and figure out a way that you can invest yourself
into providing music for say, inner city kids, or doing
a sports program with teenagers who are at risk, something
like that, so that you're taking your passions and turning
(07:35):
it into good for the world and When you do
that and you stop looking for love, you are going
to find the love of your life.
Speaker 6 (07:45):
Yeah, that's what they say. They say when you look
for it doesn't have so you're right about that.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
But if they say when you look for it doesn't happen,
that doesn't do you any good. What you need to
know is what to do so that it will happen.
And I'm telling you, if you will invest yourself into
making the world a better place, you are going to
find the love of your life who is a person
who is also tenderhearted and compassionate and working to make
(08:14):
the world a better place.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
So good to meet, all right, thank you, all right,
good luck.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Honey, thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Hi, good evening.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Welcome to the Delilah Shall Who is this and net?
What can I do to make your night special?
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Well, I'm going to be thirty five and I've been
a single parent for eight years and been blessed with
four wonderful children, and I wanted them to know that
they are my reasons for living. And though we've been
through hard times, you know, I pick myself up, just
myself off and keep going for them. I would also
like to thank my sister. She's my best friend and
(09:00):
I love her with all my heart.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Annette, you sound tired. You sound like you're weary tonight.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Well, sounds like you're not looking forward to this birthday.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well I'm halfway to seventy. But it's not that. It's
just I spread myself thin. I you know, I do
a lot of things with them. Three of them are teenagers.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
So you know what I'm going to give you for
your birthday? A net Yes, permission to lock the bathroom
door and soak in the tub. Okay, give yourself permission
to soak in a nice bubble bath.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Okay, that sounds great, But.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Then you're gonna go Wait a minute. That means I
have to clean the tub out first.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
But yeah, that I mean. I wouldn't trade any of
those years. My kids have been wonderful.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
But you would like just a little break tonight.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
It would be nice, I understand.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Let me play a song for your happy birthday, So
and may God bless you and your precious.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Thank you so much, and you too.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey, it's Delilah de
Lo
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through You know,
just as the trees outside your window will soon start
(00:23):
shedding their leaves in preparation for winter, we too can
let go of things that no longer serve us. Some
people let go of things they can't stand too many things.
They rush boxes to thrift stores or gift it to
(00:44):
their nieces or whoever they can gift it to because
they don't like things. They don't like clutter. But more
importantly than letting go of things is letting go of
character defects or character traits, or believe systems that no
longer serve us. Maybe you grew up believing you had
(01:07):
to be perfect, and now you're a little bit older
and you're going, wait a second, I can't always do
everything right.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm human.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
As the trees shed their leaves, maybe it's time to
shed some of those old expectations of yourself and let go.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
HI.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Good evening. Who's this?
Speaker 4 (01:31):
This is Brandon?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Brandon. I need to speak up just a little bit, sweetie.
What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Yeah? I was wondering if you could take a song
and play it for me. For me and my girlfriend.
We're right at the time, we're not currently together. We're
having some tough times. We've been on and off for
the past six years, and you know, we're just we're
fighting a lot over goofy little things because we're both
very jealous and we don't want to put a permanent anything.
(02:00):
So we're just you know, kind of taking a break,
you know, seeing other people realizing what we had and
what we're going to miss if you know, we keep
up with our our childish games. So I was just wondering,
you know, if you had any advice to help overcome
jealousy and try to let her know how much I
really do care about her.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Well, when you can look at jealousy, Brandon for what
it really is, which is an abusive way of trying
to control somebody else because you don't feel good about yourself,
then you can go ooh, I don't want that character.
I don't want that character defect. I want to work
on that, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
And there's two types of jealousy.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
There's jealousy that's created because somebody is untrustworthy or participating
in things that violate your relationship. And then there's jealousy
of where are you going, who are you going to
be with? Who are you talking to?
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Who was that?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And that's insane, controlling, manipulative, cruelty. Both kinds of jealousy
are unhealthy and will destroy you.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
That is great at changing hearts.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
If you're willing to give him your garbage, he can
turn it into two gold.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Sounds like a plan, and I will try that.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Good luck, sweetheart.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
All right, thank you very much, Gallah.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Bye bye, Lynn. Who's on your heart tonight? His name
is Jason Jason boyfriend, Jason husband, Jason's son. Who's Jason
Jason boyfriend boyfriend H the BF?
Speaker 5 (03:32):
Yes, he's the BF. We've been together for, like I said,
almost years. I think we have a pretty good relationship.
We laugh, we talk, We have a really good time
with each other. There's a good trust thing going on
with us, and I haven't had that in the past.
And I've always enjoyed that I'm nine years older than
he has. And I'm leaving going to another state, five
(03:53):
states away from where we are now, and I hate
the fact that I'm leaving him here.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
And I don't want to So you're leaving for work,
You're leaving for family responsibilities.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Why are we leaving start a new life? Why would
you start.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Into life when you have a wonderful, sweet, hot young boyfriend.
What what are you thinking?
Speaker 5 (04:11):
I've never left the place where I live. I've lived
here my whole life for thirty seven years, and I
just need a different change. I just want something new,
and I feel very positive. So while about the move,
I think it's something that's really I think it's going
to be really good for me. I really believe that
this is where God wants me to go. I've prayed
about it and prayed about it, and this is why
I think he's sending me because I am, like I said,
(04:33):
nine years older than he is. He's not ready for
anything that. He's not ready for commitment, and I understand that,
and I'm not going to force him to do that.
That's something that I respect.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So it's just hard to let go.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
It's hard to let go. It's very difficult to let
go of something that's good.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But it sounds like it's a right decision if he's
not ready for that level of commitment, and you certainly,
like you said, don't want to force him or manipulate
him into that like I did with my mind a husband,
you know, and learned the hard way that that that's
just not a good thing to do.
Speaker 5 (05:07):
And that's the good thing about us. I think that
we've respected each other. He's not trying to keep me
here and I'm not trying to make him go, and
it's very difficult to do them.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Hello, good evening. You've called Delilah, Who is this? What
can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (05:35):
A friend of mine be able with a girl from
California and things didn't work out, mainly because of my
insecurities and my anger issues.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
So so why are you so insecure?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Why are you so controlling?
Speaker 6 (05:50):
Well, it's not that I'm controlling. I did the way
I said that. If you want to drink, why can't
you buy the liquor and stay at home? You know,
if you want to go So Bay, you're looking to me.
That's saying that you want You're looking for attention from
other guys.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
So that's not about you being insecure.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
That's about you asking yourself, why are you spending time
with somebody who's emotionally unavailable? Because an alcoholic is emotionally unavailable.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
You're right, So that's not you being insecure. That's you
trying to control a situation that you can't control. So
why don't you give your heart to somebody who's healthy
and wants to be in a relationship instead of somebody
who's unhealthy and wants to have her butt parked on
a barstool.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
The thing is, I can't. I have very bad luckal women.
Ever since I broke with my girlfriend in two thousand
and seven two thousand and eight, I've been single and
it's very hard for me to date. I don't like
to date. Basically, I want to settle down with one
woman and one woman only, but difficult to start all
(07:02):
over again.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
So what are your passions, honey? What sort of things
do you love to do?
Speaker 6 (07:08):
I love music, I love music. I love sports. You know,
I love to go out to eat, I love to travel.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Okay, so take those things that you just mentioned, music, sports,
and figure out a way that you can invest yourself
into providing music for say, inner city kids, or doing
a sports program with teenagers who are at risk, something
like that, so that you're taking your passions and turning
(07:35):
it into good for the world and When you do
that and you stop looking for love, you are going
to find the love of your life.
Speaker 6 (07:45):
Yeah, that's what they say. They say when you look
for it doesn't have so you're right about that.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
But if they say when you look for it doesn't happen,
that doesn't do you any good. What you need to
know is what to do so that it will happen.
And I'm telling you, if you will invest yourself into
making the world a better place, you are going to
find the love of your life who is a person
who is also tenderhearted and compassionate and working to make
(08:14):
the world a better place.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
So good to meet, all right, thank you, all right,
good luck.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Honey, thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Hi, good evening.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Welcome to the Delilah Shall Who is this and net?
What can I do to make your night special?
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Well, I'm going to be thirty five and I've been
a single parent for eight years and been blessed with
four wonderful children, and I wanted them to know that
they are my reasons for living. And though we've been
through hard times, you know, I pick myself up, just
myself off and keep going for them. I would also
like to thank my sister. She's my best friend and
(09:00):
I love her with all my heart.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Annette, you sound tired. You sound like you're weary tonight.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Well, sounds like you're not looking forward to this birthday.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well I'm halfway to seventy. But it's not that. It's
just I spread myself thin. I you know, I do
a lot of things with them. Three of them are teenagers.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
So you know what I'm going to give you for
your birthday? A net Yes, permission to lock the bathroom
door and soak in the tub. Okay, give yourself permission
to soak in a nice bubble bath.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Okay, that sounds great, But.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Then you're gonna go Wait a minute. That means I
have to clean the tub out first.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
But yeah, that I mean. I wouldn't trade any of
those years. My kids have been wonderful.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
But you would like just a little break tonight.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
It would be nice, I understand.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Let me play a song for your happy birthday, So
and may God bless you and your precious.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Thank you so much, and you too.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey, it's Delilah de
Lo
Host
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