March 11, 2025 • 16 mins
James shares a story on how he learned to forgive. Maybe it can help you! alottofhelp.com is the place to go if you'd like him to help you!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
So recently, I put out a short from a show
that I did about four years ago. Four years ago,
I was a guest on Real B New Notes. He
was my former boss ATV and friend.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
She's my friend.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
She asked me to join her show, and she had
another special guests, ed my lett, who was He was
a thought leader and he's got businesses, he's he's he's
a big guy in many circles.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
A lot of folks follow his philosophies and his thoughts, and.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I had heard of him before, but I got to
meet him on the show and he and talk a
little bit after the show and stuff. He was super nice.
My experience with him was super sweet, super nice, great listener,
very complimentary to me. He was all the things I
kind of heard about him as so I was very
(00:54):
happy about that. I'm trying to think. I thought, I
want to do a little justice. Let me see if
I can. I want to because I feel like I
don't want I want to do better justice than that
by this video, and uh, there he is. Okay, there's
(01:15):
an entrepreneur and author, right number one speaker in the world.
He has to add my LED show. I just want
to kind of only yeah, I want to give him
more than just it's some guy, but he's a thought
leaders offaly just he's people.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Love him, follow him. Sorry I have.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I had the pleasure of being near him and we
had a great time. So I posted one of the
I have several clips on my publics, but I posted
one clip about forgiveness and he actually gave me pray.
He just to watch that clip. But he says something
they said the thirty years he's been doing this, I
taught him something, which of course is wonderful education. Never thought.
I was very flattered by that. I couldn't believe it. So,
(01:55):
but the thing was about forgiveness. The clip is about
It's a smaller I had. We had a huge conversation.
I was explaining how I forgave my father and just
by childhood and all that. And for some people they
were just like they were responding to the cliper like
how do you how do you forgive? Like how do
you really forgive? And especially when you can't forget that
(02:18):
got stuff. So I thought, let me do a video.
This is what I'm a certified life because what I
do you just with to show a lot of help
is for It's about mental health also, and so I'm
gonna tell you little bit about just kind of myout
if I've told my story out on certain things, but
I thought, let me share it out here with you.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
So it was kind of like a follow up video
to that short.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I heard a phrase of Oprah from a name Brown
that changed my life, and I have a video on
here about that to you somewhere.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
So I'm sorry about that too. It was right and
it did really well for you.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
But it was about the definition of forgiveness is giving
up the hope that path could be any different. When
I heard that, it's all you change my life. Just
forgiveness is giving up the hope the past can be
a different. What that said to me was that what
(03:09):
happened happened. No matter what goes forward, it's already happened.
You can't go back and change it. You can't erase it. Whatever,
You're never gonna forget it. That person did it or
or that situation happened, it's already it's done. So even
(03:32):
if somebody who did something to you says I'm sorry
or does it say they're sorry, that thing still happened.
So you look at that two ways that things still happen.
Screw you. I'm never gonna forgive you, or you can
go I forgive you because that happened. It's done, can't
(03:55):
go back, can't take it away, can't change it. And
so why am I holding onto the residual anger from that?
That's what that thing said to me. Now I'm telling you,
I'm not a saint. It took me twenty years to
get to where I got to. That was with therapists,
therapists am I and faith and God and you know reading.
(04:20):
They said, we took a while and time. I think
what's so interesting is that time actually does give you distance.
They say time heals all wounds. I don't know if
you really that, but it does give you distance from
the wounds. And once you recognize, okay, yes that happened,
it's part of you. You find a way. I find
(04:42):
a way to put it as part of my life.
It's some of this. There's several of many things that
happened in my life that was not good. And life's
about up to downs.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
It just is. It's all man made. Whatever we do,
it just it happens. Right. We live in the world.
There are things that happen. There's none of our But
if one of people who wrote to.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Is like, but it's hard for me to let go
because they get to walk around having done what they'd.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Done did And I get that. I get that.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
What is that it's a saying out there, it's a
saying out there that it's a revenge is like point
(05:37):
trying to put like you're poisoning yourself waiting for them
to die or something. That's what it's. It's I'm butchering
against But I totally get it. People do what they
do for what they do. And I've been learning this
in business and personal. You have to let go. You
(06:00):
just do it, just it, just you know, I'll never
forget the stuff that to do. I'll never I've an elephant.
I never forget. But you just find a place for it.
And you it's it's actually I found for me as
you have better turned into a lesson, make it constructive.
Kind of Okay, Well, that person I had, somebody who
did communicate with me, we must be working in business together,
(06:24):
just disappeared. I'm sending emails, no responses and all, and
after a while I decided to send a text and
it was just kind of like I've been busy. Okay,
So that's for two months you've been super busy, okay,
when you wanted me to help you. You know, either way,
I had to instantly forgive.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Them just go.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
You know what, what we have going on is not
important to them.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
So what is the lesson? James? Don't focus on them?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Why are you focusing They came to you and said
they wanted to be a part of what your success is,
and you're willing to do whatever that you need do
to help them get there. If they don't meet you
halfway or at all, they're funny. You got other things
you gotta do. So while I focus on the people
who do want, who do communicate really well, and you
are right there and you got turn it. It's I
(07:14):
got turn it another direction. That's five folks over here.
You have have a good time and good life. But
James Augenia is gonna go over here. Focus on these
four people who really do communicate. They're taking my advice,
they're doing what they're doing. They're having success. If you
want success, you'll come back to me or you'll do
what you just do. But I remember, I didn't comment,
(07:35):
I didn't go off. This is those growth I ain't
go off. I was like, okay, they they heard by okay,
but when it's a damage control which happens too, so
to me, damage control is the same as being being.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Earnest.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
It's more like, well, other things, and I get this
long email can answering these things and for my last email,
and I was just like I didn't have I didn't respond.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I just didn't. I haven't responded.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I was like, but I've sent them other emails since
then about other different topics, but on this thing, I
was just like, either you want to do this or
you can't. If you are super busy and you have
not found a way or don't have the push to
(08:22):
find a way to include me in our collaborations, that's
on you. That's all on me. And why and why
be mad at you? And like why like this is
your life? Like if you're doing this to yourself, why
am I being mad at you? Yeah, I'm hurt that
you didn't communicate with me and stuff, but like get
over it, James, get over it and someway. It's like
(08:45):
literally just like you'll get over it. Your feelings are valid.
You did blah blah blah all that, but like at
some point, you gotta let it go, just go okay.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Well, now I know.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
You're not a communicator right now, you're not You're not
said I don't think you're serious. So again, I'm not
gonna focus on you and that stuff. I'm going to
leave you alone now. If you come back to me
and bring stuff up, whatever, then that's their story. But
for right now, why do I Why should I keep hounding?
Why am I hounding you on something that's not on
your list of important things?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
For whatever is a matter?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
If it's about me or not about me, it doesn't
matter the part about forgiveness. It's about you. The forgiveness
is for you, not for them, not for anything else.
It's for you because we're the ones you feel the feelings. Right,
Let's let's just be real. We get hurt, you feel
the feelings, and when you get hurt, you want somebody
else to hurt. You want to hurt back. That's just natural.
(09:35):
I'm petty as fuck in my brain. There are times
I'm just like I want to be petty. I want
to just die, But I mean, in reality, I don't
do it because I have to look out for myself.
And it's go okay, Well, the ones that are answering
back and the ones that can do it, and then
I sell the partnerships are just fell apart a PARTI
(09:56):
ships that are wonderful and great and they have success
that that people are like. But James, how is this
happening that I'm like, you're not You're not You're not
participating at the level that I that that I could
get help that if you did, I would help you
be there too. Possibly had another collaborators same thing. It's like,
you did include me in a bunch of stuff. I
(10:17):
thought we were collaborators. I guess you caught you again
damage because you caught yourself later because of my reactions.
And again, I don't go out for anybody anymore. I
don't go out for anybody. I'm just like, okay, I don't.
I literally did not go to a premiere. I literally
didn't participate in and answering. I'm like, you didn't include me,
So while am I gonna waste my time and energy
(10:39):
on you? This collaboration stuff needs to be together family members,
and you have you have nothing to go use for
me forever forever. Reason, He's like to be anything bad,
You're not used for me. I felt left out before.
I'm like, well, James, let it go. Don't look for
(11:01):
them for anything. That's the whole point. If a cousin
comes around and it's something positive, take it.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
But I also hold onto the past. Thing.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Just my thing is it's like, okay, I know how
you're acting, so I won't buy into anything. And so
then if we do talk later and you're trying to
tell me something, I might say to you just say
you're like, are you sure because I know in the
past blah blah blah. I will people accountable to stuff.
But I would say I'm not mad. I might even
hold I'm not really mad to say that I these
(11:34):
are the facts of things that happen, and now you're
trying to say you're different. So and people do change,
people people go. That's the other thing forgive us to
skid because sometimes people are going through stuff we don't
know about, we have no idea about. They're going through something,
and you're just like, well, I had no idea to
(11:54):
tell you. I had one friend who was like that.
I thought, I mean, I was like okay, but because
I wasn't angry when I was invited back over after
several years or not begin invited. They laid it out
for me, told me everything was going on. I was like, God,
bless America. The thing is the follow over. Sorry, it
(12:19):
was serious. They I mean, they had a lot going on. Okay,
got it, I got it. I actually I was like, okay,
I get it. That was so you had some stuff
going on. It was serious and it was it.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Was a lot. So that happens nice too.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
We go through things I don't personally now have gone
through a chronic illness, hair giving blocks where your life
is exactly what just that is, and you just say,
you say you hope, you hope you will forgive you
because you're just like, well, I'm in the middle of
right now. My life is this. That's it. It's not
(12:59):
it's not anything else. I know it's crazy. So I'm
just like, it's so it's I'm I'm That's how I
kind of It took me years to get there, but
that's how I came to it. Forgivenesses for me, it's
(13:23):
not for anybody else, And it's I don't want to
hold a lot of stuff. I just don't, and so
I really don't. It's it's I feel lighter when I
know when I look at the facts and kind of
go okay, not saying I don't ever have feelings. I
feel them and I kind of cuss it out or whatever.
(13:46):
But at some point that I start to road of
I gotta just like let it go because it does
feel better not to be because I have friends who
are just they're allays angry and mad about something, and
I just feel bad for them because I'm like, that's
just that's because now that's helping you any That's I mean,
(14:08):
it's not helping any it's not comp it's not help
isn't helping you know? Is it moving forward now? So
it's kind of like you're just holding into it and
it can't make you sick too. There's all the things
I'm making me sick. So I don't know, I just
I So for me, the answer kind of is it
(14:30):
took me twenty years adult years, so three forty years
to get to that spot where I was on a
road of free, and it's got another five or six
when I had to put it into practice since. And
in that's sure, I talk about not having my father
is the biggest person I've had to learn forgiveness for
my father and my mother and my father especially, and
(14:54):
I said I was the father my kids didn't have.
So I was able to actually forgive my father in
many ways.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
I know I'm hard.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Being a parent one the hardest thing it is to
be a parent, To parent somebody, to raise them, to
co raise them, whatever. It's a lot of work. I
learned a lot about myself and about my father through that,
and I was able to forgive me him the all situation. Now,
I followed, rejected my my forgiveness. I've actually told him
I had a chance actually to tell him this. He's
rejected it. So I still walked away and go, okay,
(15:22):
you rejected. That's why, and that's hard too, I'll trust me.
I wanted to cuss them out, but I didn't. I
was like, okay, you know, you know you don't forgive,
you know, like my.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Okay, got it. Life will go on.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
It has because again, a lot of these folks aren't
even in your life anymore.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Now. I will say this on okay, I'm human.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I want so much to very clear, there are some
folks where it takes longer to forgive than others. So
there's times where you're like you may see them. I've
seen you on line. I have a petty thought that's okay,
but still keep trying to stay on the road of
trying to keep forgiving them and moving on. But there's
(16:05):
a few of that petty thoughts to you that I'm like,
there are others I really have finally went through the
whole forgiving process and I'm okay with them, so it
can't happen. A lot of help dot com. You need
some help, I can. I'm a certified life coach. A
lot of help dot com. You can start there. Contact
you underneath this. We don't contact me. We get set
up a session. I tell you pricing and I can
(16:25):
help you get started on forgiveness. But that's what you
need to do. A lot of help on Facebook, James Engineer,
everywhere else.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
I'll talk to you next time.
So recently, I put out a short from a show
that I did about four years ago. Four years ago,
I was a guest on Real B New Notes. He
was my former boss ATV and friend.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
She's my friend.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
She asked me to join her show, and she had
another special guests, ed my lett, who was He was
a thought leader and he's got businesses, he's he's he's
a big guy in many circles.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
A lot of folks follow his philosophies and his thoughts, and.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I had heard of him before, but I got to
meet him on the show and he and talk a
little bit after the show and stuff. He was super nice.
My experience with him was super sweet, super nice, great listener,
very complimentary to me. He was all the things I
kind of heard about him as so I was very
(00:54):
happy about that. I'm trying to think. I thought, I
want to do a little justice. Let me see if
I can. I want to because I feel like I
don't want I want to do better justice than that
by this video, and uh, there he is. Okay, there's
(01:15):
an entrepreneur and author, right number one speaker in the world.
He has to add my LED show. I just want
to kind of only yeah, I want to give him
more than just it's some guy, but he's a thought
leaders offaly just he's people.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Love him, follow him. Sorry I have.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I had the pleasure of being near him and we
had a great time. So I posted one of the
I have several clips on my publics, but I posted
one clip about forgiveness and he actually gave me pray.
He just to watch that clip. But he says something
they said the thirty years he's been doing this, I
taught him something, which of course is wonderful education. Never thought.
I was very flattered by that. I couldn't believe it. So,
(01:55):
but the thing was about forgiveness. The clip is about
It's a smaller I had. We had a huge conversation.
I was explaining how I forgave my father and just
by childhood and all that. And for some people they
were just like they were responding to the cliper like
how do you how do you forgive? Like how do
you really forgive? And especially when you can't forget that
(02:18):
got stuff. So I thought, let me do a video.
This is what I'm a certified life because what I
do you just with to show a lot of help
is for It's about mental health also, and so I'm
gonna tell you little bit about just kind of myout
if I've told my story out on certain things, but
I thought, let me share it out here with you.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
So it was kind of like a follow up video
to that short.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I heard a phrase of Oprah from a name Brown
that changed my life, and I have a video on
here about that to you somewhere.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
So I'm sorry about that too. It was right and
it did really well for you.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
But it was about the definition of forgiveness is giving
up the hope that path could be any different. When
I heard that, it's all you change my life. Just
forgiveness is giving up the hope the past can be
a different. What that said to me was that what
(03:09):
happened happened. No matter what goes forward, it's already happened.
You can't go back and change it. You can't erase it. Whatever,
You're never gonna forget it. That person did it or
or that situation happened, it's already it's done. So even
(03:32):
if somebody who did something to you says I'm sorry
or does it say they're sorry, that thing still happened.
So you look at that two ways that things still happen.
Screw you. I'm never gonna forgive you, or you can
go I forgive you because that happened. It's done, can't
(03:55):
go back, can't take it away, can't change it. And
so why am I holding onto the residual anger from that?
That's what that thing said to me. Now I'm telling you,
I'm not a saint. It took me twenty years to
get to where I got to. That was with therapists,
therapists am I and faith and God and you know reading.
(04:20):
They said, we took a while and time. I think
what's so interesting is that time actually does give you distance.
They say time heals all wounds. I don't know if
you really that, but it does give you distance from
the wounds. And once you recognize, okay, yes that happened,
it's part of you. You find a way. I find
(04:42):
a way to put it as part of my life.
It's some of this. There's several of many things that
happened in my life that was not good. And life's
about up to downs.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
It just is. It's all man made. Whatever we do,
it just it happens. Right. We live in the world.
There are things that happen. There's none of our But
if one of people who wrote to.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Is like, but it's hard for me to let go
because they get to walk around having done what they'd.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Done did And I get that. I get that.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
What is that it's a saying out there, it's a
saying out there that it's a revenge is like point
(05:37):
trying to put like you're poisoning yourself waiting for them
to die or something. That's what it's. It's I'm butchering
against But I totally get it. People do what they
do for what they do. And I've been learning this
in business and personal. You have to let go. You
(06:00):
just do it, just it, just you know, I'll never
forget the stuff that to do. I'll never I've an elephant.
I never forget. But you just find a place for it.
And you it's it's actually I found for me as
you have better turned into a lesson, make it constructive.
Kind of Okay, Well, that person I had, somebody who
did communicate with me, we must be working in business together,
(06:24):
just disappeared. I'm sending emails, no responses and all, and
after a while I decided to send a text and
it was just kind of like I've been busy. Okay,
So that's for two months you've been super busy, okay,
when you wanted me to help you. You know, either way,
I had to instantly forgive.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Them just go.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
You know what, what we have going on is not
important to them.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
So what is the lesson? James? Don't focus on them?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Why are you focusing They came to you and said
they wanted to be a part of what your success is,
and you're willing to do whatever that you need do
to help them get there. If they don't meet you
halfway or at all, they're funny. You got other things
you gotta do. So while I focus on the people
who do want, who do communicate really well, and you
are right there and you got turn it. It's I
(07:14):
got turn it another direction. That's five folks over here.
You have have a good time and good life. But
James Augenia is gonna go over here. Focus on these
four people who really do communicate. They're taking my advice,
they're doing what they're doing. They're having success. If you
want success, you'll come back to me or you'll do
what you just do. But I remember, I didn't comment,
(07:35):
I didn't go off. This is those growth I ain't
go off. I was like, okay, they they heard by okay,
but when it's a damage control which happens too, so
to me, damage control is the same as being being.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Earnest.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
It's more like, well, other things, and I get this
long email can answering these things and for my last email,
and I was just like I didn't have I didn't respond.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
I just didn't. I haven't responded.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I was like, but I've sent them other emails since
then about other different topics, but on this thing, I
was just like, either you want to do this or
you can't. If you are super busy and you have
not found a way or don't have the push to
(08:22):
find a way to include me in our collaborations, that's
on you. That's all on me. And why and why
be mad at you? And like why like this is
your life? Like if you're doing this to yourself, why
am I being mad at you? Yeah, I'm hurt that
you didn't communicate with me and stuff, but like get
over it, James, get over it and someway. It's like
(08:45):
literally just like you'll get over it. Your feelings are valid.
You did blah blah blah all that, but like at
some point, you gotta let it go, just go okay.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Well, now I know.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
You're not a communicator right now, you're not You're not
said I don't think you're serious. So again, I'm not
gonna focus on you and that stuff. I'm going to
leave you alone now. If you come back to me
and bring stuff up, whatever, then that's their story. But
for right now, why do I Why should I keep hounding?
Why am I hounding you on something that's not on
your list of important things?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
For whatever is a matter?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
If it's about me or not about me, it doesn't
matter the part about forgiveness. It's about you. The forgiveness
is for you, not for them, not for anything else.
It's for you because we're the ones you feel the feelings. Right,
Let's let's just be real. We get hurt, you feel
the feelings, and when you get hurt, you want somebody
else to hurt. You want to hurt back. That's just natural.
(09:35):
I'm petty as fuck in my brain. There are times
I'm just like I want to be petty. I want
to just die, But I mean, in reality, I don't
do it because I have to look out for myself.
And it's go okay, Well, the ones that are answering
back and the ones that can do it, and then
I sell the partnerships are just fell apart a PARTI
(09:56):
ships that are wonderful and great and they have success
that that people are like. But James, how is this
happening that I'm like, you're not You're not You're not
participating at the level that I that that I could
get help that if you did, I would help you
be there too. Possibly had another collaborators same thing. It's like,
you did include me in a bunch of stuff. I
(10:17):
thought we were collaborators. I guess you caught you again
damage because you caught yourself later because of my reactions.
And again, I don't go out for anybody anymore. I
don't go out for anybody. I'm just like, okay, I don't.
I literally did not go to a premiere. I literally
didn't participate in and answering. I'm like, you didn't include me,
So while am I gonna waste my time and energy
(10:39):
on you? This collaboration stuff needs to be together family members,
and you have you have nothing to go use for
me forever forever. Reason, He's like to be anything bad,
You're not used for me. I felt left out before.
I'm like, well, James, let it go. Don't look for
(11:01):
them for anything. That's the whole point. If a cousin
comes around and it's something positive, take it.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
But I also hold onto the past. Thing.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Just my thing is it's like, okay, I know how
you're acting, so I won't buy into anything. And so
then if we do talk later and you're trying to
tell me something, I might say to you just say
you're like, are you sure because I know in the
past blah blah blah. I will people accountable to stuff.
But I would say I'm not mad. I might even
hold I'm not really mad to say that I these
(11:34):
are the facts of things that happen, and now you're
trying to say you're different. So and people do change,
people people go. That's the other thing forgive us to
skid because sometimes people are going through stuff we don't
know about, we have no idea about. They're going through something,
and you're just like, well, I had no idea to
(11:54):
tell you. I had one friend who was like that.
I thought, I mean, I was like okay, but because
I wasn't angry when I was invited back over after
several years or not begin invited. They laid it out
for me, told me everything was going on. I was like, God,
bless America. The thing is the follow over. Sorry, it
(12:19):
was serious. They I mean, they had a lot going on. Okay,
got it, I got it. I actually I was like, okay,
I get it. That was so you had some stuff
going on. It was serious and it was it.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Was a lot. So that happens nice too.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
We go through things I don't personally now have gone
through a chronic illness, hair giving blocks where your life
is exactly what just that is, and you just say,
you say you hope, you hope you will forgive you
because you're just like, well, I'm in the middle of
right now. My life is this. That's it. It's not
(12:59):
it's not anything else. I know it's crazy. So I'm
just like, it's so it's I'm I'm That's how I
kind of It took me years to get there, but
that's how I came to it. Forgivenesses for me, it's
(13:23):
not for anybody else, And it's I don't want to
hold a lot of stuff. I just don't, and so
I really don't. It's it's I feel lighter when I
know when I look at the facts and kind of
go okay, not saying I don't ever have feelings. I
feel them and I kind of cuss it out or whatever.
(13:46):
But at some point that I start to road of
I gotta just like let it go because it does
feel better not to be because I have friends who
are just they're allays angry and mad about something, and
I just feel bad for them because I'm like, that's
just that's because now that's helping you any That's I mean,
(14:08):
it's not helping any it's not comp it's not help
isn't helping you know? Is it moving forward now? So
it's kind of like you're just holding into it and
it can't make you sick too. There's all the things
I'm making me sick. So I don't know, I just
I So for me, the answer kind of is it
(14:30):
took me twenty years adult years, so three forty years
to get to that spot where I was on a
road of free, and it's got another five or six
when I had to put it into practice since. And
in that's sure, I talk about not having my father
is the biggest person I've had to learn forgiveness for
my father and my mother and my father especially, and
(14:54):
I said I was the father my kids didn't have.
So I was able to actually forgive my father in
many ways.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
I know I'm hard.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Being a parent one the hardest thing it is to
be a parent, To parent somebody, to raise them, to
co raise them, whatever. It's a lot of work. I
learned a lot about myself and about my father through that,
and I was able to forgive me him the all situation. Now,
I followed, rejected my my forgiveness. I've actually told him
I had a chance actually to tell him this. He's
rejected it. So I still walked away and go, okay,
(15:22):
you rejected. That's why, and that's hard too, I'll trust me.
I wanted to cuss them out, but I didn't. I
was like, okay, you know, you know you don't forgive,
you know, like my.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Okay, got it. Life will go on.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
It has because again, a lot of these folks aren't
even in your life anymore.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Now. I will say this on okay, I'm human.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
I want so much to very clear, there are some
folks where it takes longer to forgive than others. So
there's times where you're like you may see them. I've
seen you on line. I have a petty thought that's okay,
but still keep trying to stay on the road of
trying to keep forgiving them and moving on. But there's
(16:05):
a few of that petty thoughts to you that I'm like,
there are others I really have finally went through the
whole forgiving process and I'm okay with them, so it
can't happen. A lot of help dot com. You need
some help, I can. I'm a certified life coach. A
lot of help dot com. You can start there. Contact
you underneath this. We don't contact me. We get set
up a session. I tell you pricing and I can
(16:25):
help you get started on forgiveness. But that's what you
need to do. A lot of help on Facebook, James Engineer,
everywhere else.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
I'll talk to you next time.
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