July 14, 2025 • 19 mins
In this episode, the host reflects on the importance of taking time off to recharge and the impact of having a supportive partner. He discusses personal experiences with relationships, the challenges of balancing responsibilities, and the benefits of a healthy, non-toxic relationship. The episode also features a shoutout to the podcast sponsor, Everyday Fit Life, and emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships to reduce stress and promote happiness.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
More straightforward, the more vocal, the more you're willing to
just lay it out on the fucking on the table.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Never never never die never die never die die die
die die.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
All right, Uh it is Monday, Uh man, talk about
a good week off? No podcasting, know nothing, Uh business, family, vacation,
all that good shit.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You know what I'm saying. It's like just just handling
stuff and uh, just treating myself. You know what I'm saying,
because uh, that's what you got to do every so often.
But before getting today's podcast, I like to think my
podcast sponsors every day fit life. You're looking for a way,
a guide, a step by step way to line in
your nutrition, how to eat, what to eat, when to eat,
(00:54):
and really dial your diet around what you want. That's
the best part of this program, the best part of
the setup. It's set up for what you eat. It's
just the portions you need, you know what I'm saying.
The timing, a few little tips and tricks that are
gonna give you that insight that you just might be missing,
and you can get thirty days of help, sixty days
of help, ninety days of help. You can determine how
(01:15):
much help you need at every Day Fit Life. Use
my link at twenty percent off with your purchase at
every Day Fit Life. I appreciate it, check it out,
Thank you very much. But let's get into today's show.
You know, I took some time off. I needed a
little little breather, a little break, a little down time,
you know. And that's one of those things is when
(01:37):
you get this downtime, when you get these breaks, when
you get these opportunities to really enjoy yourself, you get
to really stay in the moment. You know, it's always
hard to stay in the moment because our minds are
constantly drifting into what our responsibilities are. There there's an
indication of like there's always something that needs to be done,
(01:57):
and it's something that's always been on the forefront of
my life. You know what I'm saying. I've never really
had an opportunity to enjoy my life. I've never really
had an opportunity to like, like, you know, just relax,
let my shoulders down, breathe, you know what I'm saying,
because like for a long time I was on my own,
or I was supporting everybody, or you know, all responsibilities
(02:20):
rely on me. And if I'm not doing my job.
If I'm not working, then nothing gets done. That's the
main thing that I'm talking about here. It's one of
those things where you know, as a father, as a man,
it's your responsibility to take care of everything, you know
what I'm saying. And nowadays it's a lot different. Those
responsibilities and those all that actions is not the same
(02:42):
as it used to be, you know what I'm saying.
And I've been in relationships and I've been in marriages
where you know, it's not one sided, but I just
didn't know how to balance it. You know what I'm saying.
I didn't have an understanding or an aspect of like
how I should be spreading out myself, you know what
I'm saying, because I was spreading myself pretty fucking thin,
(03:03):
just trying to manage you know, work, bills, money, you know, family,
fucking you know, responsibilities, obligations, stuff like that. You know
what I'm saying, as a man, for the majority of us,
were spread pretty fucking thin, very light on the mental
fucking health, you know what I'm saying. We just don't
have an opportunity to fucking breathe because it's always something,
(03:23):
it's always the next thing it's always what's going on,
you know what I'm saying. And that's one of those
things that I love, is like, I'm actually in a
relationship and I'm married to a beautiful woman who is
very thoughtful, very kind, very giving, and very understanding. And
also too is my teammate. You know what I'm saying.
(03:44):
They support me, they're there to help me. They're there
for me to bounce my ideas, bounce my feelings, bounce
my emotions, bounce my just my anxiety or fucking whatever
bullshit's happening with me. I can actually speak out loud
and not feel like I'm gonna be judged or feel
like I'm going to fucking like, you know, like I'm
fucking up. You see what I'm saying, you know, you know,
(04:08):
having this other aspect of not of a relationship where
it's not toxic and it's not like forced. You know
what I'm saying. There's gonna be a lot of men
out there that are listening to this, like, what do
you mean toxic and forced? Well, you know, sometimes we
just do what we gotta do. Sometimes we're just complacent,
Sometimes we just deal. Sometimes we're just fucking like, you
(04:32):
know this I can make this work, you know what
I'm saying. And I've definitely had my fair shares of
those relationships where it's just like, you know, I'll just
make do you know what I'm saying. I'm kind of happy,
I'm kind of okay, I'm you know, like whatever is
just another thing I gotta fucking work, you know what
I'm saying. You know, there's a lot of guys out
(04:53):
there that have these relationships or have these marriages where
they feel undervalued or misunderstood or not I understood at all,
And like, you know, it's not that they dread to
go home, but they just don't want to deal with
the bullshit, you know what I'm saying. And the bullshit
can mean a lot of things, an awful lot of things,
but are the One of the things that that I've
(05:14):
come to learn is a more straightforward, the more vocal,
the more you're willing to just lay it out on
the fucking on the table. It makes conversations a lot
fucking easier. It makes everything a lot fucking easier. It
can make your life a lot happy because there's a
lot less stress. But also too, it's like when you
have a partner, when you have a teammate, when you
have someone who is there that is not fucking trying
(05:39):
to fucking like you know, you know you gotta do this,
you you know, like you're being lazy or being tired.
It's like there's a lot of aspects in life where
it's like, you know, you can only do so much
in a day. You can only do so much as
a man, you can only do so much as a father,
you can only do so much as a husband, you
know what I'm saying. And it it's one of those
(06:00):
things that you don't have to do all these things.
Everything has the time, everything has a place, and you know,
you you can enjoy your life.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
You know I've I've always, you know, put all my effort,
all one hundred percent of what I can do one
hundred and ten percent into just working my ass off.
But now it's like, oh, because I have support, because
I have this team, because I have this person in
my life, because I have the ability to fucking like
(06:31):
actually step back out of the bullshit and hang out
and enjoy. You know, I've never had that very often
or very much. It's just it's a different thing, you
know what I'm saying. Like it also too. It's one
of those things that you have to like grow into,
(06:51):
you know what I'm saying. A lot of us right now,
you know, we don't know what a healthy relationship feels like.
We don't know what a healthy relationship is. We don't
you know, like if shit's not chaotic, if shit is
fucking out of control, if shit is just not you know,
popping off all the time, something's wrong. You know what
I'm saying. You could sit next to each other and
(07:12):
not fucking talking conversation, you know, or have a conversation
and just enjoy each other. But it's like there has
to be this like rub, there has to be this argument,
There has to be this underlying issue otherwise nothing is right.
And that's one of those things that I'm trying to
get across because you know, I started talking about enjoying
my life. I had to learn how to enjoy my life.
(07:33):
I had to learn how to be normal. I had
to learn how to be comfortable. I had to learn
to be in a real relationship and what I mean
a healthy relationship that's more of a better term, being
in a healthy relationship and understanding what a healthy relationship is,
you know, what I'm saying. It's like, there's no arguments,
there's no fights, there's no you need to do. You
(07:53):
need to clean the dishes, you need to pick up,
you need to fucking you know. Whoop? Did he? Whoop? What?
Insert anything that fucking ticks you off because you're too
fucking tired, because you just got off of fucking work
and now you got to come home to a fucking
a dirty house, nothing picked up, you know what I'm saying.
And then you're expected to either cook dinner, fix something,
or fucking like have to handle something, and you just
(08:16):
walk through the fucking door. You know what I'm saying.
Insert whatever fucking ex you should want to insert you
know what I'm saying. And people are like, well, you know,
it goes both ways. I was like, guess the fuck
what it absolutely fucking does, you know what I'm saying.
But then one thing that's gonna be like the factor
in this is I shouldn't have to come home to bullshit.
I should come home to being happy. I should come
(08:36):
home to fucking love. I should come home to like,
oh you're home fucking great day. Let's break it down.
Let's have this conversation. Whoop did he fucking whoop? And
then you know, enjoy, enjoy the day, you know what
I'm saying. I do also understand that, you know, there's
a time and place for laying down business what needs
to get done. But also too, you shouldn't have to
(08:56):
come home and feel anxious. You shouldn't come home and
feel drea. You shouldn't come home and feel like you know,
you know, like like I gotta deal with this fight
that's about to fucking happen. That's what I'm fucking saying,
you know what I'm saying, because there's a lot of
guys out there that are just like fed up, sick
and tired, but they just don't know how to deal.
They just don't know what to feel. They just don't
(09:18):
know how to react because it's like normal now, you
know what I'm saying. Social media promotes all this fucking
like bullshit, and fucking men are shit fucking people are
shit fucking you know, nobody, you know, good for fucking nothing.
This and this and this, and like I said, you
can throw every fucking excuse you can think of right
now into that fucking slot, and it's what's fucking promoted.
(09:42):
You know what I'm saying, it's one of those things.
The family unit, fucking you know, a relationship unit, a
fucking you know, it's it's this negative head to head
that that has to happen. But it's so fucking crazy
because like the unspoken family, the unspoken relationship, the unspoken
(10:03):
love and care that no one fucking talks about anymore,
is the healthy fucking relationship. You know what I'm saying.
How many times? How many times have people fucking been
in their relationships and be like, fuck, I'm not happy,
but don't acknowledge it, or you know, like have these
arguments in these fights and they just think it's fucking normal.
You know what I'm saying. It's always this constant back
(10:23):
and forth when it should just be fucking relaxed. It
should be fucking chill, it should be fucking happy, it
should be enjoyable, you know. And it's one of those things.
I had to learn that balance, and then I had
to learn that it's okay. I had to learn that
this is what I like, this is what I accept,
this is what I want. You know what I'm saying.
(10:44):
One of the biggest things, and I'll speak for most men,
you know what I'm saying not all men, but for
most men, we want peace. We want to come home,
we want to feel relaxed, we want to feel comfortable,
we want to feel vulnerable in our own fucking home.
But when a man has to come home and his
guard has to be fucking up because he's either being
(11:04):
de masculine or fucking you know, like, you know, treated
like fucking shit. And like I said, there's different stories
for different fucking people. But what I'm saying is is
I do acknowledge that a lot of these relationships out
there that we deal with and that we're in, we
just kind of let this fucking bullshit fucking happen. You
know what I'm saying. I have had good relationships. I
have bad relationships, But guess what, I'm on point right now,
(11:27):
my marriage is the best fucking thing that's ever happened
to me in my life because I've leveled up in
a way that I never thought I would consider ever.
You know what I'm saying, I've never had the ability
to fucking like count on somebody. I've never had the
ability to trust one hundred percent into somebody. I've never
had the ability to fucking like like have this sense
(11:52):
of trust, happiness, loyalty, fucking expectation. You know, like I said,
this is something that is not new to me because,
like I said, we've been married six fucking six fucking years.
You know what I'm saying. When I met her, it's
just like she was so cool, she was so down
to earth, she was all this stuff. But guess what
(12:13):
that was her. That's what she's about. That's like I said,
it's a whole other thing. You know what I'm saying.
In the last few years, everything that I've ever wanted
to do in my life, I was able to fucking
do and do more and I continue to do more
because of this relationship, because of this thing that we
(12:33):
have where we're not at each other's fucking throats. You
know what I'm saying. There's a lot of people out
there that understand what I'm saying because it's like, oh,
they have that, but it's not promoted, it's not talked about.
It's not fucking like one of these fucking things that
is shared more. You know what I'm saying. Social media
only shares negativity. The only share the fucking hate, the
(12:56):
only share the fucking bullshit that that fucking pops drops
and fucking you know, and and get those clicks. But
the thing is is a man and a woman are
in a positive relationship that creates something, that makes something,
you know what I'm saying. That's where you get functional
fucking people. That's where you get fucking happiness. That's where
(13:18):
you get people that are just don't give a fuck
about any other bullshit. They just want to live their
lives and be fucking happy. They don't want to be bothered.
They don't want to fucking be fucking dealing with other
people's fucking bullshit and drama. You know, I'm talking about
this because guess what, Like I said, I've you know,
not once in my life until I was married to
(13:42):
the woman that I'm married to right now, Kristin, I've
never had an opportunity to take a vacation. I never
had an opportunity to go anywhere. I've never had an
opportunity to fucking breathe, all right, I've never had an
opportunity to make my life successful. I was just grinding
and always constantly on that dig of I got to
(14:04):
pull myself out of his fucking hole, you know, I
get my head above water, I can breathe a little bit,
and then all of a sudden, boom, the fucking wave
hits me, and now I'm fucking struggling to get back
fucking up again. That's the analogy I put in my
fucking life, because that's how it always was. I just
barely treading water, just barely fucking making it, you know
what I'm saying, Just barely fucking like just you know,
(14:27):
not sure how my life's gonna fucking be, just knowing
that I'm gonna live this way and be this way
my whole fucking life. And then when you have someone
who can spark positivity, when you can have someone who
who believes in you, trust in you, and knows that
you can do something that can absolutely fucking change your
whole fucking perspective. Because a lot of us have a
(14:49):
lot of negativity in our life, you know what I'm saying,
And a lot of that negativity sparks from someone really
close to fucking us, and it's hard to acknowledge or
see it or or just fucking being like, oh my god,
this is not fucking good, you know what I'm saying.
Because there's a lot of people out there that are
like that, there's a lot of people out there that
are just fucking like, oh my God. And like I said,
(15:09):
I'm not sitting here fucking saying, you know, fucking break up,
do all this fuck. It's like No, it's understanding it,
it's seeing it. It's recognizing and then doing something positive
to fucking fix it. You know what I'm saying, Because
a lot of times we don't acknowledge it, we don't
understand it, but we just continue to fucking do it.
You can never correct anything if you don't fucking acknowledge it.
(15:32):
You can never fix something if you don't stand up
to it. You can never change your life if you
just let it fucking happen. You know what I'm saying,
You've got to put in the time and the fucking
effort to correct everything. You know what I'm saying. I
put in my time, I put in my fucking effort,
and I'm I'm at this part of my life where
(15:52):
I'm just fucking happy and I want people to fucking
understand that. You know what I'm saying. I could be
absolutely just fucking blabbing on and no one fucking understands
fucking gets it, or fucking here's what I'm fucking saying,
But that's what I'm trying to get across. You know,
once you really fucking build that standard of understanding that
this is what I want, this is what I want
(16:12):
to do, and this is what's gonna get me my happiness.
You know, Like I said, there's a lot of crazy
shit that happens out in this fucking world, you know
what I'm saying, And a lot of us are trained
to fucking just deal with it. Just let it fucking
happen out of sight, out of mind, don't talk about it,
keep it to your fucking self, and it'll go away.
(16:33):
But it never goes away. It will never go away.
You sit in it, you fucking and it just stews,
and it only gets worse, and it only gets worse.
And you build this fucking all these emotions, of these feelings,
and once you build these emotions these feelings, you don't
know what to do with them. You don't know how
to fucking handle them. A lot of us were never
(16:54):
fucking trained how to or taught what emotions or feelings
are really how to fucking deal with thosetions or feelings,
you know what I'm saying. Having that anxiety being overstimulated.
You know, it's just one of those things. It's like
those weren't terms, those weren't informations there or this, this
wasn't a thing when I was growing up. It was
just like, oh, he's mad all the time, you know
(17:16):
what I'm saying, Or he's just not happy, you know
what I'm saying. And like, there's all these things now,
and my life is so much fucking clear now, and
I have an appreciation for it, you know what I'm saying.
And that vacation I was just on was an appreciation
that that I have now. You know what I'm saying,
It's it's a much higher appreciation because like, you know,
(17:38):
my kids are all older, and I can go do things,
Me and my wife can go do things. We can,
you know, enjoy our fucking day, enjoy our fucking time.
And that's exactly what we fucking did. And that's the
fucking best part of it, you know what I'm saying.
I'm just barely stepping back into fucking you know, my week,
getting back getting my feet on the fucking ground, trying
(17:58):
to fucking get my shit off, fucking you know, put together.
But that's what I'm fucking saying. You know what I'm saying,
It's like, you know, when you have these breaks, when
you have these times off, when you have the ability
to fucking just breathe and fucking relax and appreciate your
fucking life, it definitely gives you a better a better
fucking perspective on things. You know what I'm saying. And
(18:19):
I'm and I might be fucking just you know, I'm
not trying to brag or any of that fucking bullshit,
you know, I'm just It's one of those things I
want people to understand. I want people to really fucking
get it, Like you have to put time and effort
in your life to fucking enjoy you know what I'm saying.
You need to understand your environment. You need to understand
who's around you. You need to understand the energy waves
(18:39):
that are flowing around you. And that might sound hippy
fucking dippy, but gets the fuck what. It's a real
fucking thing. Negative people drag you down. Positive people bring
you up. Always remember that fucking shit, you know what
I'm saying, And someone's always fucking just dragging ass and
that's gonna drag you fucking down. So it makes you
understand that, So guess the fuck what is danger? Motherfuck dad?
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Fuck always always living, always always living, always always living
More straightforward, the more vocal, the more you're willing to
just lay it out on the fucking on the table.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Never never never die never die never die die die
die die.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
All right, Uh it is Monday, Uh man, talk about
a good week off? No podcasting, know nothing, Uh business, family, vacation,
all that good shit.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You know what I'm saying. It's like just just handling
stuff and uh, just treating myself. You know what I'm saying,
because uh, that's what you got to do every so often.
But before getting today's podcast, I like to think my
podcast sponsors every day fit life. You're looking for a way,
a guide, a step by step way to line in
your nutrition, how to eat, what to eat, when to eat,
(00:54):
and really dial your diet around what you want. That's
the best part of this program, the best part of
the setup. It's set up for what you eat. It's
just the portions you need, you know what I'm saying.
The timing, a few little tips and tricks that are
gonna give you that insight that you just might be missing,
and you can get thirty days of help, sixty days
of help, ninety days of help. You can determine how
(01:15):
much help you need at every Day Fit Life. Use
my link at twenty percent off with your purchase at
every Day Fit Life. I appreciate it, check it out,
Thank you very much. But let's get into today's show.
You know, I took some time off. I needed a
little little breather, a little break, a little down time,
you know. And that's one of those things is when
(01:37):
you get this downtime, when you get these breaks, when
you get these opportunities to really enjoy yourself, you get
to really stay in the moment. You know, it's always
hard to stay in the moment because our minds are
constantly drifting into what our responsibilities are. There there's an
indication of like there's always something that needs to be done,
(01:57):
and it's something that's always been on the forefront of
my life. You know what I'm saying. I've never really
had an opportunity to enjoy my life. I've never really
had an opportunity to like, like, you know, just relax,
let my shoulders down, breathe, you know what I'm saying,
because like for a long time I was on my own,
or I was supporting everybody, or you know, all responsibilities
(02:20):
rely on me. And if I'm not doing my job.
If I'm not working, then nothing gets done. That's the
main thing that I'm talking about here. It's one of
those things where you know, as a father, as a man,
it's your responsibility to take care of everything, you know
what I'm saying. And nowadays it's a lot different. Those
responsibilities and those all that actions is not the same
(02:42):
as it used to be, you know what I'm saying.
And I've been in relationships and I've been in marriages
where you know, it's not one sided, but I just
didn't know how to balance it. You know what I'm saying.
I didn't have an understanding or an aspect of like
how I should be spreading out myself, you know what
I'm saying, because I was spreading myself pretty fucking thin,
(03:03):
just trying to manage you know, work, bills, money, you know, family,
fucking you know, responsibilities, obligations, stuff like that. You know
what I'm saying, as a man, for the majority of us,
were spread pretty fucking thin, very light on the mental
fucking health, you know what I'm saying. We just don't
have an opportunity to fucking breathe because it's always something,
(03:23):
it's always the next thing it's always what's going on,
you know what I'm saying. And that's one of those
things that I love, is like, I'm actually in a
relationship and I'm married to a beautiful woman who is
very thoughtful, very kind, very giving, and very understanding. And
also too is my teammate. You know what I'm saying.
(03:44):
They support me, they're there to help me. They're there
for me to bounce my ideas, bounce my feelings, bounce
my emotions, bounce my just my anxiety or fucking whatever
bullshit's happening with me. I can actually speak out loud
and not feel like I'm gonna be judged or feel
like I'm going to fucking like, you know, like I'm
fucking up. You see what I'm saying, you know, you know,
(04:08):
having this other aspect of not of a relationship where
it's not toxic and it's not like forced. You know
what I'm saying. There's gonna be a lot of men
out there that are listening to this, like, what do
you mean toxic and forced? Well, you know, sometimes we
just do what we gotta do. Sometimes we're just complacent,
Sometimes we just deal. Sometimes we're just fucking like, you
(04:32):
know this I can make this work, you know what
I'm saying. And I've definitely had my fair shares of
those relationships where it's just like, you know, I'll just
make do you know what I'm saying. I'm kind of happy,
I'm kind of okay, I'm you know, like whatever is
just another thing I gotta fucking work, you know what
I'm saying. You know, there's a lot of guys out
(04:53):
there that have these relationships or have these marriages where
they feel undervalued or misunderstood or not I understood at all,
And like, you know, it's not that they dread to
go home, but they just don't want to deal with
the bullshit, you know what I'm saying. And the bullshit
can mean a lot of things, an awful lot of things,
but are the One of the things that that I've
(05:14):
come to learn is a more straightforward, the more vocal,
the more you're willing to just lay it out on
the fucking on the table. It makes conversations a lot
fucking easier. It makes everything a lot fucking easier. It
can make your life a lot happy because there's a
lot less stress. But also too, it's like when you
have a partner, when you have a teammate, when you
have someone who is there that is not fucking trying
(05:39):
to fucking like you know, you know you gotta do this,
you you know, like you're being lazy or being tired.
It's like there's a lot of aspects in life where
it's like, you know, you can only do so much
in a day. You can only do so much as
a man, you can only do so much as a father,
you can only do so much as a husband, you
know what I'm saying. And it it's one of those
(06:00):
things that you don't have to do all these things.
Everything has the time, everything has a place, and you know,
you you can enjoy your life.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You know.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
You know I've I've always, you know, put all my effort,
all one hundred percent of what I can do one
hundred and ten percent into just working my ass off.
But now it's like, oh, because I have support, because
I have this team, because I have this person in
my life, because I have the ability to fucking like
(06:31):
actually step back out of the bullshit and hang out
and enjoy. You know, I've never had that very often
or very much. It's just it's a different thing, you
know what I'm saying. Like it also too. It's one
of those things that you have to like grow into,
(06:51):
you know what I'm saying. A lot of us right now,
you know, we don't know what a healthy relationship feels like.
We don't know what a healthy relationship is. We don't
you know, like if shit's not chaotic, if shit is
fucking out of control, if shit is just not you know,
popping off all the time, something's wrong. You know what
I'm saying. You could sit next to each other and
(07:12):
not fucking talking conversation, you know, or have a conversation
and just enjoy each other. But it's like there has
to be this like rub, there has to be this argument,
There has to be this underlying issue otherwise nothing is right.
And that's one of those things that I'm trying to
get across because you know, I started talking about enjoying
my life. I had to learn how to enjoy my life.
(07:33):
I had to learn how to be normal. I had
to learn how to be comfortable. I had to learn
to be in a real relationship and what I mean
a healthy relationship that's more of a better term, being
in a healthy relationship and understanding what a healthy relationship is,
you know, what I'm saying. It's like, there's no arguments,
there's no fights, there's no you need to do. You
(07:53):
need to clean the dishes, you need to pick up,
you need to fucking you know. Whoop? Did he? Whoop? What?
Insert anything that fucking ticks you off because you're too
fucking tired, because you just got off of fucking work
and now you got to come home to a fucking
a dirty house, nothing picked up, you know what I'm saying.
And then you're expected to either cook dinner, fix something,
or fucking like have to handle something, and you just
(08:16):
walk through the fucking door. You know what I'm saying.
Insert whatever fucking ex you should want to insert you
know what I'm saying. And people are like, well, you know,
it goes both ways. I was like, guess the fuck
what it absolutely fucking does, you know what I'm saying.
But then one thing that's gonna be like the factor
in this is I shouldn't have to come home to bullshit.
I should come home to being happy. I should come
(08:36):
home to fucking love. I should come home to like,
oh you're home fucking great day. Let's break it down.
Let's have this conversation. Whoop did he fucking whoop? And
then you know, enjoy, enjoy the day, you know what
I'm saying. I do also understand that, you know, there's
a time and place for laying down business what needs
to get done. But also too, you shouldn't have to
(08:56):
come home and feel anxious. You shouldn't come home and
feel drea. You shouldn't come home and feel like you know,
you know, like like I gotta deal with this fight
that's about to fucking happen. That's what I'm fucking saying,
you know what I'm saying, because there's a lot of
guys out there that are just like fed up, sick
and tired, but they just don't know how to deal.
They just don't know what to feel. They just don't
(09:18):
know how to react because it's like normal now, you
know what I'm saying. Social media promotes all this fucking
like bullshit, and fucking men are shit fucking people are
shit fucking you know, nobody, you know, good for fucking nothing.
This and this and this, and like I said, you
can throw every fucking excuse you can think of right
now into that fucking slot, and it's what's fucking promoted.
(09:42):
You know what I'm saying, it's one of those things.
The family unit, fucking you know, a relationship unit, a
fucking you know, it's it's this negative head to head
that that has to happen. But it's so fucking crazy
because like the unspoken family, the unspoken relationship, the unspoken
(10:03):
love and care that no one fucking talks about anymore,
is the healthy fucking relationship. You know what I'm saying.
How many times? How many times have people fucking been
in their relationships and be like, fuck, I'm not happy,
but don't acknowledge it, or you know, like have these
arguments in these fights and they just think it's fucking normal.
You know what I'm saying. It's always this constant back
(10:23):
and forth when it should just be fucking relaxed. It
should be fucking chill, it should be fucking happy, it
should be enjoyable, you know. And it's one of those things.
I had to learn that balance, and then I had
to learn that it's okay. I had to learn that
this is what I like, this is what I accept,
this is what I want. You know what I'm saying.
(10:44):
One of the biggest things, and I'll speak for most men,
you know what I'm saying not all men, but for
most men, we want peace. We want to come home,
we want to feel relaxed, we want to feel comfortable,
we want to feel vulnerable in our own fucking home.
But when a man has to come home and his
guard has to be fucking up because he's either being
(11:04):
de masculine or fucking you know, like, you know, treated
like fucking shit. And like I said, there's different stories
for different fucking people. But what I'm saying is is
I do acknowledge that a lot of these relationships out
there that we deal with and that we're in, we
just kind of let this fucking bullshit fucking happen. You
know what I'm saying. I have had good relationships. I
have bad relationships, But guess what, I'm on point right now,
(11:27):
my marriage is the best fucking thing that's ever happened
to me in my life because I've leveled up in
a way that I never thought I would consider ever.
You know what I'm saying, I've never had the ability
to fucking like count on somebody. I've never had the
ability to trust one hundred percent into somebody. I've never
had the ability to fucking like like have this sense
(11:52):
of trust, happiness, loyalty, fucking expectation. You know, like I said,
this is something that is not new to me because,
like I said, we've been married six fucking six fucking years.
You know what I'm saying. When I met her, it's
just like she was so cool, she was so down
to earth, she was all this stuff. But guess what
(12:13):
that was her. That's what she's about. That's like I said,
it's a whole other thing. You know what I'm saying.
In the last few years, everything that I've ever wanted
to do in my life, I was able to fucking
do and do more and I continue to do more
because of this relationship, because of this thing that we
(12:33):
have where we're not at each other's fucking throats. You
know what I'm saying. There's a lot of people out
there that understand what I'm saying because it's like, oh,
they have that, but it's not promoted, it's not talked about.
It's not fucking like one of these fucking things that
is shared more. You know what I'm saying. Social media
only shares negativity. The only share the fucking hate, the
(12:56):
only share the fucking bullshit that that fucking pops drops
and fucking you know, and and get those clicks. But
the thing is is a man and a woman are
in a positive relationship that creates something, that makes something,
you know what I'm saying. That's where you get functional
fucking people. That's where you get fucking happiness. That's where
(13:18):
you get people that are just don't give a fuck
about any other bullshit. They just want to live their
lives and be fucking happy. They don't want to be bothered.
They don't want to fucking be fucking dealing with other
people's fucking bullshit and drama. You know, I'm talking about
this because guess what, Like I said, I've you know,
not once in my life until I was married to
(13:42):
the woman that I'm married to right now, Kristin, I've
never had an opportunity to take a vacation. I never
had an opportunity to go anywhere. I've never had an
opportunity to fucking breathe, all right, I've never had an
opportunity to make my life successful. I was just grinding
and always constantly on that dig of I got to
(14:04):
pull myself out of his fucking hole, you know, I
get my head above water, I can breathe a little bit,
and then all of a sudden, boom, the fucking wave
hits me, and now I'm fucking struggling to get back
fucking up again. That's the analogy I put in my
fucking life, because that's how it always was. I just
barely treading water, just barely fucking making it, you know
what I'm saying, Just barely fucking like just you know,
(14:27):
not sure how my life's gonna fucking be, just knowing
that I'm gonna live this way and be this way
my whole fucking life. And then when you have someone
who can spark positivity, when you can have someone who
who believes in you, trust in you, and knows that
you can do something that can absolutely fucking change your
whole fucking perspective. Because a lot of us have a
(14:49):
lot of negativity in our life, you know what I'm saying,
And a lot of that negativity sparks from someone really
close to fucking us, and it's hard to acknowledge or
see it or or just fucking being like, oh my god,
this is not fucking good, you know what I'm saying.
Because there's a lot of people out there that are
like that, there's a lot of people out there that
are just fucking like, oh my God. And like I said,
(15:09):
I'm not sitting here fucking saying, you know, fucking break up,
do all this fuck. It's like No, it's understanding it,
it's seeing it. It's recognizing and then doing something positive
to fucking fix it. You know what I'm saying, Because
a lot of times we don't acknowledge it, we don't
understand it, but we just continue to fucking do it.
You can never correct anything if you don't fucking acknowledge it.
(15:32):
You can never fix something if you don't stand up
to it. You can never change your life if you
just let it fucking happen. You know what I'm saying,
You've got to put in the time and the fucking
effort to correct everything. You know what I'm saying. I
put in my time, I put in my fucking effort,
and I'm I'm at this part of my life where
(15:52):
I'm just fucking happy and I want people to fucking
understand that. You know what I'm saying. I could be
absolutely just fucking blabbing on and no one fucking understands
fucking gets it, or fucking here's what I'm fucking saying,
But that's what I'm trying to get across. You know,
once you really fucking build that standard of understanding that
this is what I want, this is what I want
(16:12):
to do, and this is what's gonna get me my happiness.
You know, Like I said, there's a lot of crazy
shit that happens out in this fucking world, you know
what I'm saying, And a lot of us are trained
to fucking just deal with it. Just let it fucking
happen out of sight, out of mind, don't talk about it,
keep it to your fucking self, and it'll go away.
(16:33):
But it never goes away. It will never go away.
You sit in it, you fucking and it just stews,
and it only gets worse, and it only gets worse.
And you build this fucking all these emotions, of these feelings,
and once you build these emotions these feelings, you don't
know what to do with them. You don't know how
to fucking handle them. A lot of us were never
(16:54):
fucking trained how to or taught what emotions or feelings
are really how to fucking deal with thosetions or feelings,
you know what I'm saying. Having that anxiety being overstimulated.
You know, it's just one of those things. It's like
those weren't terms, those weren't informations there or this, this
wasn't a thing when I was growing up. It was
just like, oh, he's mad all the time, you know
(17:16):
what I'm saying, Or he's just not happy, you know
what I'm saying. And like, there's all these things now,
and my life is so much fucking clear now, and
I have an appreciation for it, you know what I'm saying.
And that vacation I was just on was an appreciation
that that I have now. You know what I'm saying,
It's it's a much higher appreciation because like, you know,
(17:38):
my kids are all older, and I can go do things,
Me and my wife can go do things. We can,
you know, enjoy our fucking day, enjoy our fucking time.
And that's exactly what we fucking did. And that's the
fucking best part of it, you know what I'm saying.
I'm just barely stepping back into fucking you know, my week,
getting back getting my feet on the fucking ground, trying
(17:58):
to fucking get my shit off, fucking you know, put together.
But that's what I'm fucking saying. You know what I'm saying,
It's like, you know, when you have these breaks, when
you have these times off, when you have the ability
to fucking just breathe and fucking relax and appreciate your
fucking life, it definitely gives you a better a better
fucking perspective on things. You know what I'm saying. And
(18:19):
I'm and I might be fucking just you know, I'm
not trying to brag or any of that fucking bullshit,
you know, I'm just It's one of those things I
want people to understand. I want people to really fucking
get it, Like you have to put time and effort
in your life to fucking enjoy you know what I'm saying.
You need to understand your environment. You need to understand
who's around you. You need to understand the energy waves
(18:39):
that are flowing around you. And that might sound hippy
fucking dippy, but gets the fuck what. It's a real
fucking thing. Negative people drag you down. Positive people bring
you up. Always remember that fucking shit, you know what
I'm saying, And someone's always fucking just dragging ass and
that's gonna drag you fucking down. So it makes you
understand that, So guess the fuck what is danger? Motherfuck dad?
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