August 28, 2025 • 15 mins
In this episode of the Angry Dad Podcast, the host delves into the uncomfortable reality of helping others who are unwilling or unable to change. The discussion includes personal anecdotes and a strong emphasis on the importance of setting boundaries to protect your own well-being. Before diving into this essential topic, the host introduces the episode's sponsor, Everyday Fit Life, and highlights the different fitness programs they offer. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with how much they should invest in trying to help others and when to prioritize their own happiness and health.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
People will always be who they are.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Love love a die go die never die go die
never die go die die.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
All right, this is the Angry Dad. Thank you guys
for tuning in. I appreciate it. And before we get in,
today's podcast, like my podcast, sponsors every Day fed Life,
a simple, fast, easy program. You know what I'm saying,
step by step one, two, three doesn't get any easier
than this to follow. I'm talking about what to eat,
how to train, when to eat, what to drink, the
(00:39):
simple tweaks that you need to make to make a
dramatic change in your weight loss goal. Here I'm talking
about if you want to put on a muscle, lose weight,
if you want to get lean and tighten up, well,
guess what you can do both with a lean body,
strong body program. And each program comes in a thirty day,
sixty day, and ninety day program. You just pick how
long you want to follow the program. Guess what you
(01:01):
not just how long to follow the program, but guess
what this is meant to set you up to continue
to do the program because it's a lifestyle change. It's
something you do on a continuous basis for the rest
of your life, and it will help set you up
for success for the goals that's trying to reach in
your health. Every Day Fit Life use code Angry Dad
at checkout and get twenty percent off with my code
(01:22):
every Day Fit Life Angry Dad Podcast. Make sure you
check it out. I appreciate it all the links in
the notes. Please check it out. Let's get it takes show.
You know, there's some things in life that we can't change.
There's people in our lives that we can't change. People
(01:43):
will always be who they are. Some people are naturally nice,
some people are naturally mean. Some people just love chaos.
It's one of those things, you know, Like we don't
have any say on how people live their lives or
treat others or treat themselves. You know, we can only
(02:05):
do so much, we can only help so much. We
can only extend ourselves to somebody for so long. You know,
I've tried to help many people in my life, and
I've tried to help a lot of friends, and you know,
sometimes things end up being what they are. You know
what I'm saying. People are comfortable with how they live
their life and how they're willing to accept their life.
(02:27):
You know, I was definitely you know in that slump myself,
you know, for a good portion of my life where
I just let shit go to hell because I just
felt there was no other way, there was no other
change that could happen in my life, you know. And
you know I grew out of it. I changed it.
And guess what, I've always tried to help others in
understanding this, you know what I'm saying. I've had a
(02:47):
lot of friends help me. I've had a lot of
family members help me. I've had a lot of people
help me get to where I'm at now. And I
always recognize it. I always acknowledge it, and I want
you guys to understand that too. You know, you can
only do so much for someone willing to do what
they're willing to do for themselves. You know, you can
run into a burning building, doesn't mean you can drag
(03:07):
somebody out. You know, there are a lot of people
who are comfortable with what's going on in their life.
The chaos, the hecticness, you know, the stress, the drama.
Some people thrive in it. It's what excites them, it's
what they want. You know, I can't tell you why
(03:29):
or or how come or any of that shit. I
just know that some people just want their lives like that,
you know, And a lot of people will be like, well,
it's you know, it's circumstance, it's you know, my environment,
it's this and this and this, and guess what, I've
come from the same environment. I've dealt with the exact
same things. I've gone through my adversities, and I've gone
through my troubles and look, they might not be as
(03:50):
bad as everybody else is, but I had a lot
holding me back and I didn't let it stop me.
I didn't let it change me. I didn't let it,
you know, fucking consume me and bring me down for
my whole entire life. It definitely held me down for
a while. But that's not what I wanted to do.
That's not how I wanted to live, and that's not
how I wanted to be. And like I said, I've
(04:11):
extended my hands, I've extended my things, and you know,
and there's a lot of us out there that do that.
Family members, best friends, you know, coworkers, fucking you know,
you know, people out there are giving their time and
their lives to help people change their own lives. You know,
sometimes people are a lost cause. And need to recognize that.
(04:35):
Do not destroy your health, do not destroy your life,
do not destroy your mindset over somebody who will not
fix themselves. All right, some people are just going to
do what they're gonna do. You know. It's hard to
let go. It's hard to not want to try, you know.
(04:58):
And there's a lot of people there that will use
tactics like, oh, you don't love me, so you won't
help me, you won't be there. I'm all alone. They're
gonna play the victim as long as they can and
make you feel a certain fucking way and manipulate you.
And that's what happens, that's what they do. They're good
at it, all right. You'll get in your emotions, you'll
(05:19):
get in your feelings, and you feel guilty because you
have an abundance and they don't. The reason they don't
have an abundance is their own fucking fault. And that's
the real fucking truth, all right. A lot of people
can grow, a lot of people can change, a lot
of people can adapt. But there's always gonna be just
one or two that can't won't because they thrive and
(05:42):
where they're at, and when I say thrive, they're not
just fucking like you know, succeeding and all this stuff like, No,
they're they're getting the emotion, they're getting the attention. There
there there's something that they're getting from everyone else that
keeps them doing what they do. You know, there are men, conditions,
there are problems, there are there there are so many
(06:03):
other things that can attribute to that kind of chaos
in life, but also too you fucking hang around it enough,
it'll consume you. It'll bring you down, it'll shit on you,
and it'll ruin your fucking life. You know. I constantly
say you need to put yourself first before anybody else.
(06:26):
And the reason that is is because you can see
the downstream. You can see what's important. You know, don't
stress you, your family, your financial situation, don't put pressure
on your own life for somebody else. And the reason
you don't do that is because it'll ruin what you've built,
(06:47):
It'll ruin what you have, It'll put a divide, it'll
make people feel unvalued in your life because you're putting
someone else forward, because you're desperately trying to help this
person or whatever the situation is. I know it feels bad.
I know you feel obligated. I know this shit is
going on, but it's not worth your happiness. It's not
(07:13):
worth your life. You know, all you can do is try,
and as long as you put in the effort, as
long as you tried, no one can take that from you.
Even the person you're trying to help is trying to
make you feel guilty about not trying harder. Guess what,
you only have so much effort, you only have so
much time, You only have so much you should be
(07:33):
willing to give. You're not giving up, You're just understanding.
You're understanding what you have given, what you would give,
and how much you will give. You draw a line
in the sand and be like, look, I don't cross
this line, because this is now my life, this is
(07:53):
now my happiness, this is now my family. I will
not sacrifice this for anybody fucking else ever. Ever. All Right,
I've had to go through those trials and tribulations in
my life too. I've had I've had to pull my
hand back from those that I've tried to help. But
at the same fucking time, I did what I could,
(08:16):
I said what I needed to say, and I've always
been up front. I've always been straightforward, I've always fucking
just been straight to the point, fucking brutal about what
I fucking have to say and do. Some people like it,
some people don't. But at the same fucking time, I
know when i'll stop, and I know when i'll give.
That's just how I am, That's how I will always be.
(08:40):
You know, I've I've put pressure and and done things
in my life that have put my family a great stress,
But no more, never again. I will not hurt, I
will not starve, I will not take away. I will
not fucking put any responsibility on my family for somebody
(09:03):
else's bullshit. That's just what it is, you know what
I'm saying. Sometimes people need to hear this shit. Sometimes
people need to understand the shit. Sometimes people just need
to fucking get a fucking clue. You know, it's a
harsh reality. This is not an easy thing to talk about,
but I talk about it because, guess what, it's always
something that needs to be said. It's something that needs
to be brought up. It is something that can make
(09:26):
him break somebody. You know what I'm saying, It's about
having these kinds of conversations that fucking suck. But guess
what they suck because they do. The situation sucks. No
one wants to see anybody struggle. No one ever wants
to see anybody hurting. Nobody wants to see anybody losing
in life. But you gotta understand, there's a limit. There's
(09:47):
a limit to what you can do. There's a limit
to what you can give, There's a limit of how
much you can let somebody do something. And understand, I'm done,
I'm not doing this anymore. This is that bullshit. I'm sorry,
it is what it fucking is. You know what I'm saying,
(10:08):
and you know, and I just bring this up because,
like I said, it's just, uh, sometimes I think back
of like past, you know, memories of things that I've
tried to do, things that I fucking you know, really
expected to turn out better that haven't. And the reason
they haven't is because I let it happen. And the
(10:30):
reason it happened is because I really wanted to fucking help.
I really wanted to make a difference. I really wanted
to make a change, and that change never fucking came.
But guess what, all the fucking pain and anguish of
the effort that I put in to other people fucked me,
and I'll never let it fuck me again ever, you
(10:51):
know what I'm saying. So, like, like I said it,
it it's not the it's not the fun part, it's
not the best part. But it's also a part that
needs to be said. It's also a part and that
needs to be thought out. And it's also a part
that you know, like having communication in your family of
understanding like IM will only do this this as far
as I'm willing to fucking go and setting that fucking boundary,
you know what I'm saying, Always set that fucking boundary.
(11:15):
You know, people don't fucking like people in a situation
that are not making it. They'll step on a boundary.
They'll make you feel uncomfortable. They they do whatever they can,
not to manipulate you, but to make you feel a
certain fucking way. And when you start feeling that certain
fucking way, they fucking got you. But it's understanding and
(11:36):
recognizing like, nope, that's fucking it. I might be coldhearted,
might be fucking fucked up, but at the same fucking time,
not my time, not my effort, not my fucking peace.
No one can fuck with my life. I will only
do what I can when I can because I can,
not because someone else wants me to, not because you
(11:56):
need me to, not because of any other fucking stupid,
fucking reason that anybody can fucking make up. It's like, no,
it's my fucking choice what I do, when I fucking do,
whether I choose to help or fucking not, That's the
fucking reality of this situation. I'm just saying, you know,
it fucking sucks to have these conversations. It sucks to
talk about the shit like this, But at the same
fucking time, realize what's worth it one person that you're
(12:21):
trying to help, or your fucking family, your happiness, your sanctity,
your home. You know what I'm saying that there's a
lot of things that need to come first before somebody
fucking else. So make sure you realize that shit. Makesure
you understand that shit, Make sure you fucking get that shit,
(12:42):
And guess the fuck what this that your motherfucking dad?
You want to watch my shit? Youtwo want us to
a speaker, soundclass, Ditch or Spotify, Google Play, Apple Podcast,
pot Being, sound Cloud, Deezer, iHeartRadio. This motherfucker's every week.
Can easually fucking find it, rate review like subscribe all
that fucking bullshit. It really helps me to fuck out.
I'm also part of the Inner Circle podcast Network group
powerful podcasts out there sharing that is in a circle
pn dot com take it to everyone in our websites,
(13:03):
everyone our shows, so makesure you checking the fuck out.
We have shows as The Plunge, Failing Hollywood Simmons, the
more the untrained eye, the hood diner. Shit happens when
you party naked, So make sure you checking the fuck
out and I'll see all motherfuckers on the next one.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Fuck always living, always living, always living, Living
People will always be who they are.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Love love a die go die never die go die
never die go die die.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
All right, this is the Angry Dad. Thank you guys
for tuning in. I appreciate it. And before we get in,
today's podcast, like my podcast, sponsors every Day fed Life,
a simple, fast, easy program. You know what I'm saying,
step by step one, two, three doesn't get any easier
than this to follow. I'm talking about what to eat,
how to train, when to eat, what to drink, the
(00:39):
simple tweaks that you need to make to make a
dramatic change in your weight loss goal. Here I'm talking
about if you want to put on a muscle, lose weight,
if you want to get lean and tighten up, well,
guess what you can do both with a lean body,
strong body program. And each program comes in a thirty day,
sixty day, and ninety day program. You just pick how
long you want to follow the program. Guess what you
(01:01):
not just how long to follow the program, but guess
what this is meant to set you up to continue
to do the program because it's a lifestyle change. It's
something you do on a continuous basis for the rest
of your life, and it will help set you up
for success for the goals that's trying to reach in
your health. Every Day Fit Life use code Angry Dad
at checkout and get twenty percent off with my code
(01:22):
every Day Fit Life Angry Dad Podcast. Make sure you
check it out. I appreciate it all the links in
the notes. Please check it out. Let's get it takes show.
You know, there's some things in life that we can't change.
There's people in our lives that we can't change. People
(01:43):
will always be who they are. Some people are naturally nice,
some people are naturally mean. Some people just love chaos.
It's one of those things, you know, Like we don't
have any say on how people live their lives or
treat others or treat themselves. You know, we can only
(02:05):
do so much, we can only help so much. We
can only extend ourselves to somebody for so long. You know,
I've tried to help many people in my life, and
I've tried to help a lot of friends, and you know,
sometimes things end up being what they are. You know
what I'm saying. People are comfortable with how they live
their life and how they're willing to accept their life.
(02:27):
You know, I was definitely you know in that slump myself,
you know, for a good portion of my life where
I just let shit go to hell because I just
felt there was no other way, there was no other
change that could happen in my life, you know. And
you know I grew out of it. I changed it.
And guess what, I've always tried to help others in
understanding this, you know what I'm saying. I've had a
(02:47):
lot of friends help me. I've had a lot of
family members help me. I've had a lot of people
help me get to where I'm at now. And I
always recognize it. I always acknowledge it, and I want
you guys to understand that too. You know, you can
only do so much for someone willing to do what
they're willing to do for themselves. You know, you can
run into a burning building, doesn't mean you can drag
(03:07):
somebody out. You know, there are a lot of people
who are comfortable with what's going on in their life.
The chaos, the hecticness, you know, the stress, the drama.
Some people thrive in it. It's what excites them, it's
what they want. You know, I can't tell you why
(03:29):
or or how come or any of that shit. I
just know that some people just want their lives like that,
you know, And a lot of people will be like, well,
it's you know, it's circumstance, it's you know, my environment,
it's this and this and this, and guess what, I've
come from the same environment. I've dealt with the exact
same things. I've gone through my adversities, and I've gone
through my troubles and look, they might not be as
(03:50):
bad as everybody else is, but I had a lot
holding me back and I didn't let it stop me.
I didn't let it change me. I didn't let it,
you know, fucking consume me and bring me down for
my whole entire life. It definitely held me down for
a while. But that's not what I wanted to do.
That's not how I wanted to live, and that's not
how I wanted to be. And like I said, I've
(04:11):
extended my hands, I've extended my things, and you know,
and there's a lot of us out there that do that.
Family members, best friends, you know, coworkers, fucking you know,
you know, people out there are giving their time and
their lives to help people change their own lives. You know,
sometimes people are a lost cause. And need to recognize that.
(04:35):
Do not destroy your health, do not destroy your life,
do not destroy your mindset over somebody who will not
fix themselves. All right, some people are just going to
do what they're gonna do. You know. It's hard to
let go. It's hard to not want to try, you know.
(04:58):
And there's a lot of people there that will use
tactics like, oh, you don't love me, so you won't
help me, you won't be there. I'm all alone. They're
gonna play the victim as long as they can and
make you feel a certain fucking way and manipulate you.
And that's what happens, that's what they do. They're good
at it, all right. You'll get in your emotions, you'll
(05:19):
get in your feelings, and you feel guilty because you
have an abundance and they don't. The reason they don't
have an abundance is their own fucking fault. And that's
the real fucking truth, all right. A lot of people
can grow, a lot of people can change, a lot
of people can adapt. But there's always gonna be just
one or two that can't won't because they thrive and
(05:42):
where they're at, and when I say thrive, they're not
just fucking like you know, succeeding and all this stuff like, No,
they're they're getting the emotion, they're getting the attention. There
there there's something that they're getting from everyone else that
keeps them doing what they do. You know, there are men, conditions,
there are problems, there are there there are so many
(06:03):
other things that can attribute to that kind of chaos
in life, but also too you fucking hang around it enough,
it'll consume you. It'll bring you down, it'll shit on you,
and it'll ruin your fucking life. You know. I constantly
say you need to put yourself first before anybody else.
(06:26):
And the reason that is is because you can see
the downstream. You can see what's important. You know, don't
stress you, your family, your financial situation, don't put pressure
on your own life for somebody else. And the reason
you don't do that is because it'll ruin what you've built,
(06:47):
It'll ruin what you have, It'll put a divide, it'll
make people feel unvalued in your life because you're putting
someone else forward, because you're desperately trying to help this
person or whatever the situation is. I know it feels bad.
I know you feel obligated. I know this shit is
going on, but it's not worth your happiness. It's not
(07:13):
worth your life. You know, all you can do is try,
and as long as you put in the effort, as
long as you tried, no one can take that from you.
Even the person you're trying to help is trying to
make you feel guilty about not trying harder. Guess what,
you only have so much effort, you only have so
much time, You only have so much you should be
(07:33):
willing to give. You're not giving up, You're just understanding.
You're understanding what you have given, what you would give,
and how much you will give. You draw a line
in the sand and be like, look, I don't cross
this line, because this is now my life, this is
(07:53):
now my happiness, this is now my family. I will
not sacrifice this for anybody fucking else ever. Ever. All Right,
I've had to go through those trials and tribulations in
my life too. I've had I've had to pull my
hand back from those that I've tried to help. But
at the same fucking time, I did what I could,
(08:16):
I said what I needed to say, and I've always
been up front. I've always been straightforward, I've always fucking
just been straight to the point, fucking brutal about what
I fucking have to say and do. Some people like it,
some people don't. But at the same fucking time, I
know when i'll stop, and I know when i'll give.
That's just how I am, That's how I will always be.
(08:40):
You know, I've I've put pressure and and done things
in my life that have put my family a great stress,
But no more, never again. I will not hurt, I
will not starve, I will not take away. I will
not fucking put any responsibility on my family for somebody
(09:03):
else's bullshit. That's just what it is, you know what
I'm saying. Sometimes people need to hear this shit. Sometimes
people need to understand the shit. Sometimes people just need
to fucking get a fucking clue. You know, it's a
harsh reality. This is not an easy thing to talk about,
but I talk about it because, guess what, it's always
something that needs to be said. It's something that needs
to be brought up. It is something that can make
(09:26):
him break somebody. You know what I'm saying, It's about
having these kinds of conversations that fucking suck. But guess
what they suck because they do. The situation sucks. No
one wants to see anybody struggle. No one ever wants
to see anybody hurting. Nobody wants to see anybody losing
in life. But you gotta understand, there's a limit. There's
(09:47):
a limit to what you can do. There's a limit
to what you can give, There's a limit of how
much you can let somebody do something. And understand, I'm done,
I'm not doing this anymore. This is that bullshit. I'm sorry,
it is what it fucking is. You know what I'm saying,
(10:08):
and you know, and I just bring this up because,
like I said, it's just, uh, sometimes I think back
of like past, you know, memories of things that I've
tried to do, things that I fucking you know, really
expected to turn out better that haven't. And the reason
they haven't is because I let it happen. And the
(10:30):
reason it happened is because I really wanted to fucking help.
I really wanted to make a difference. I really wanted
to make a change, and that change never fucking came.
But guess what, all the fucking pain and anguish of
the effort that I put in to other people fucked me,
and I'll never let it fuck me again ever, you
(10:51):
know what I'm saying. So, like, like I said it,
it it's not the it's not the fun part, it's
not the best part. But it's also a part that
needs to be said. It's also a part and that
needs to be thought out. And it's also a part
that you know, like having communication in your family of
understanding like IM will only do this this as far
as I'm willing to fucking go and setting that fucking boundary,
you know what I'm saying, Always set that fucking boundary.
(11:15):
You know, people don't fucking like people in a situation
that are not making it. They'll step on a boundary.
They'll make you feel uncomfortable. They they do whatever they can,
not to manipulate you, but to make you feel a
certain fucking way. And when you start feeling that certain
fucking way, they fucking got you. But it's understanding and
(11:36):
recognizing like, nope, that's fucking it. I might be coldhearted,
might be fucking fucked up, but at the same fucking time,
not my time, not my effort, not my fucking peace.
No one can fuck with my life. I will only
do what I can when I can because I can,
not because someone else wants me to, not because you
(11:56):
need me to, not because of any other fucking stupid,
fucking reason that anybody can fucking make up. It's like, no,
it's my fucking choice what I do, when I fucking do,
whether I choose to help or fucking not, That's the
fucking reality of this situation. I'm just saying, you know,
it fucking sucks to have these conversations. It sucks to
talk about the shit like this, But at the same
fucking time, realize what's worth it one person that you're
(12:21):
trying to help, or your fucking family, your happiness, your sanctity,
your home. You know what I'm saying that there's a
lot of things that need to come first before somebody
fucking else. So make sure you realize that shit. Makesure
you understand that shit, Make sure you fucking get that shit,
(12:42):
And guess the fuck what this that your motherfucking dad?
You want to watch my shit? Youtwo want us to
a speaker, soundclass, Ditch or Spotify, Google Play, Apple Podcast,
pot Being, sound Cloud, Deezer, iHeartRadio. This motherfucker's every week.
Can easually fucking find it, rate review like subscribe all
that fucking bullshit. It really helps me to fuck out.
I'm also part of the Inner Circle podcast Network group
powerful podcasts out there sharing that is in a circle
pn dot com take it to everyone in our websites,
(13:03):
everyone our shows, so makesure you checking the fuck out.
We have shows as The Plunge, Failing Hollywood Simmons, the
more the untrained eye, the hood diner. Shit happens when
you party naked, So make sure you checking the fuck
out and I'll see all motherfuckers on the next one.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Fuck always living, always living, always living, Living
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.