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on Sunday, and you know,normally I do a little Father's Day,
you know, podcast. I kindof felt beside because that, you know,
some stuff happened on Monday, andit just is what it is,
and I just didn't really want totouch on it. But I'll touch on
it now, you know, father, being a father and being a dad,

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you know, it's it's a jobthat a lot of us take and
it's a job that that is it'shard to put into words, but I'm
gonna do my best I fucking can, because being a father is being the
person that that stands behind and standsabove. All right, there's a higher

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family and mom's dad kids, butdad stands above. But dad stands behind
Mom's nurture. Moms make feel kidsfeel good. Moms make kids feel you
know, just cared for. Buta father's job is to toughen up their

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kids. And what I mean toughingup their kids is, you know,
and we're an example of what ourkids are going to act like in the
world. All Right, they're gonnasee us. We stand tall, we're
proud, and you know, wedon't show emotion, we don't show feeling.
You know, it's just it's justsomething how dads are. But the

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thing is, we want to bethe new dad's. I always try to
be the best dad I can fuckingbe, but I always try. I
love you, I care for you, I'm here for you, and I
have the advice for you. Dadsfix things. Dad change things. Dads
make problems go away. That's whata dad does, all right. You
want to build a bike, Webuild a bike. Want to build a
house, We want to build ahouse. You want to work on a
car, We're gonna work on yourcar. You know what I'm saying,

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Uh, Dad, I need lifeadvice, all right. A lot of
us have been there, done that, so we know how to steer our
kids in the direction of what needsto be done. But a lot of
times we have to let our kidslearn the hard fucking way. I've I've
learned every lesson in my life thehard fucking way, you know. And
it's walking a fine line of notbeing an overbearing father, an overbearing dad

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and controlling. But you've got tojust kind of steer them in a way
plant the seed and let that seedfucking grow, and you water it with
conversation, with talk, with lifeadvice, because there's a lot of times
when I've had moments and times wheremy kids where you know, they're confused
on what they should do, they'reconfused on what needs to happen, or
just in general of like what doI do with myself? And the thing

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is is you gotta water that plantand let it grow because it'll go in
the direction it wants to go in. And that's how always teach my kids.
I always ask them, what doyou want to do with your life?
What do you want to be inyour life? What's going on right
now? You know what makes sense? You know? I never tell them
what to do, how to doit, or when to do it.

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I always just guide, all right, make things feel possible, because fathers
make things, make the impossible possible. All Right. We're stronger than any
other person that they'll ever know ontheir fucking life. You know, we're
those We're those heroes. Good fathersare those people in their kids' eyes that

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are just like, can't do nowrong. That's the strongest person I know.
He's the best person I know.He does everything and anything for me.
And so, you know, wehave this high standard that we have
to live up to. But thething is is that's just how they see
us. We're humans, We're normalfucking people. But the thing is is,
you know, we want to helpour kids to grow, and the

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way we help them grow is byguiding them, all right, And that's
the things who was like, I'vehad those moments in times where I've tried
to force my kids to do whatI want them to do and force them
to do things that I that Ifeel that would be best for them.
But at the same fucking time,I'm like, no, I learned the
hard way. They got to learnthe hard way. You got to go

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through the motions, you got togo through the steps. You gotta you
know what I'm saying, Like Isaid, it's just a little nudge.
You should think about this, youshould try this. This is what I
think. I never say what todo, I never say how to do
it, you know, unless theyget down to the nay degree, like
I need some help on how todo something, I guess what I'm gonna
of course I'm gonna help them,But for the majority of the time,

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you got to speak in a waywhere it's just like, you know,
they made the decision, because helpingthem make solid decisions in their lives is
what's gonna help them be confident inwhat they fucking do. Because if you
don't help them make healthy, strongdecisions in their fucking life, they're gonna

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fall apart because they're not going tohold themselves to a fucking standard. One
of those things that I've always doneis if I say something, I do
something, I hold myself to thatfucking standard. And the reason I hold
myself to that fucking standard is becauseI want my kids to hold themselves to
their standards. I want them tohold themselves to what they need to do
in their life, and when theywant to do something, they're going to
fucking do it. They're going tofollow through. I know a lot of

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people in this fucking world who justdaydream and fucking you know, like one
day this and one day that I'mlike, no, this is my fucking
goal. This is what I fuckingdo and this is what I'm gonna do
to get there, and you haveto live like that as an example to
them, as an example to yourkids. My kids know me to get

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up, go to work, getshit fucking done, and handle fucking business.
There's no mincing words, there's nofucking tiptoeing around bullshit, there's no
I'm very direct, I'm very onpoint. And that's how all my kids
are. Straight to the fucking point, very direct, and get shit fucking
done. Because if the didn't seethat, then that's not what they'd be

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doing. All right. Your kidsare a reflection of you, all right,
and they're gonna be the reflection ofyour attitude towards fucking life. Because
if you're miserable, not fucking happy, and fucking just doing random fucking bullshit
for no goddamn fucking reason, we'llguess the fuck what. That's how they're
gonna fucking be. I grew upwithout a father. I grew up my

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mom, my grandma, and awhole bunch of other family members, but
my mom, my grandmother, theones who raised me took care of me.
My mom worked hard, so Isaw that, so I know how
to do that. But that's theonly thing that she really taught me,
you know what I'm saying. Shewas she had to work three jobs to
take care of three of three kids, four kids, and you know it's

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hard to have that. You know. I got a good sense of family
from my grandma because she was theglued to our family. She was a
glued to her fucking life, allright. But the thing is is I
didn't have the an emotional understanding ofwhat it takes to be a man and
the version of a man that Ifeel. All right, I just saw
TV, I saw movies, andthat's how I basically immolated my fucking my

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life or my thought process of aman. I went off something that wasn't
real. But as I grew upand as I got older, I realized
where I was lacking and what Ididn't have. And I always told myself,
I'd never let my kids go withoutme. I'd never not take care
of my kids. I would nevernever let them struggle like that. But

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what I did is I told myself, this is how I'm gonna be,
this is how I'm gonna act,and this is how they're gonna fucking see
me, all right. And therewas a long time it was just us
and them, you know, meand them. I woke my fucking ass
off, barely fucking slept, buttook care fucking business, all right.
I had my sister, I hadmy mom. I had a lot of

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people helping me too. But alsounderstand, at the end of the day,
you know, it took me along time to get my fucking life
under control. Because when you gothrough all the bullshit of divorce and fucking
being alone and fucking dealing with youremotions and feelings, especially if you know,
like not being raised with them,you don't know how to control them.
It took me a long time toget my perspective into what I needed

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to be, but I did.I figured it to fuck out. You
know. I knew how to workhard, but I didn't know how to
add in emotions or feelings or anyof the other fucking stuff. So I
try to make sure that my kidsunderstood that they can talk to me,
that they can say what they needto say, do what they need to

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fucking do, ask me fucking anything, and understand, no matter what the
situation, no matter what the fuckis going on, that I will always
be here. I'm their father.I will always be behind them, I
will always protect them, I willalways help them. I will always be

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there. They never have to worryabout not having support or someone to fucking
talk to or someone to fucking call, because I am a phone call away,
I'm a drive away. I amalways fucking there, always in the
background, always waiting for them toneed me. All right, I will

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drop everything and anything in my lifeto take care of my kids, to
be there for my kids. Andthat's what I'm trying to fucking say.
You know, as a father,that's what we do as a father.
That's how we're supposed to be asa father. You know, it's our
job to love our kids, butto never expect anything in return. They
do love us, they do carefor us. But the thing is is

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they should never have to feel likethey need to do something for us.
They never need to feel like obligated, like they owe me. They don't
owe me jack fuck and ship.My kids don't owe me nothing. Kids
don't owe nobody nothing. We owethem everything. And the reason we owe
it because we brought them in.My job is to teach them to be
there. My job is to alwaysbe there, So guess the fuck what

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